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Inner Child Hypnosis to Release an Inner Critic and Unworthiness · The Hypnotist

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Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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genuine. Issues.
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Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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Do you have an inner voice that is quite critical, quite harsh,
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telling you that you can't do stuff, can't learn stuff, that
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you're not as good as other people?
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If so, you might get some value from this session.
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It's Adam here, and I was working with a client that grew
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up with quite a critical mother. It seemed quite harsh, and their
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own mother had gone through a lot of trauma, and there's a
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cliche in therapy that hurt people, hurt people.
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And that was certainly true in that case.
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Some of her early memories almost created this feeling of
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not being good enough, not feeling capable enough.
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And that was taking its toll even as an adult.
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This hypnosis session does element of regression,
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disassociated regression, some inner child work where it's
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actually working with that part that learn to kind of doubt
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themselves rather than trust themselves to release guilt.
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But also turning that critical or judgmental voice into an
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encouraging coaching type of voice so that they could still
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get the value from the positive intention, which was to avoid
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mistakes and prepare and grow and increase standards, but
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without feeling belittled and sabotage by what they were
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doing. So if you could relate to any of
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these things, you might get a lot of value from this session.
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It was created for an individual.
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It's unlikely that there was a harsh memory between you and
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your mother at 7 years old, and that's featured in this
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particular hypnosis session. So you can just ignore any
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suggestions that don't quite fit and enable your imagination to
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fill in the gaps with what would be suitable or relevant for you.
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But if you do like the idea of a bespoke session, me working with
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you as your hypnotherapist, then there will be a link in the
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description where you can schedule that completely free
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consultation call. We'll have a chat and who knows,
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we might end up working together.
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For now though, find a quiet, comfortable place where you
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won't be disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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Take a deep breath in and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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feeling of pure relaxation. And as you exhale, just release
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any tension around your eyelids. And as you breathe out, feel a
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sense of release of any guilt, any shame, any feelings of
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inferiority, gradually, each breath releasing in.
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And as you breathe in, breathe in.
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Not just relaxation, but a sense of worthiness and capability.
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In fact, I want you to imagine 3 colours.
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A color that represents relaxation, like a glowing
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color. A color that represents
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worthiness as a different color. Add a color that represents
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capability. And just imagine a fusion of
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those three colors. And as you breathe in, breathe
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in those colors. Imagine going in through your
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nose, down your windpipe, into your lungs.
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And imagine your heart in the same way that it takes oxygen to
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every cell, taking that feeling of relaxation, worthiness and
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capability to every cell in your body, and in doing so, releases
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the opposite. Any tension, any feeling of
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being incapable, unworthy, is being released.
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You can't have an ice cube in a sauna, and you can't have
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tension in a place of relaxation.
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You can't have unworthiness where worthiness exists.
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Breathe in that fusion of colors, and as you exhale,
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imagine a dark grey shadowy colour leaving your body in your
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outward breath, representing any tension and capability
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unworthiness. Imagine it leaving your body
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almost like an emotional transfusion, breathing in the
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resources you need and releasing any blocks, any barriers, any
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old beliefs or coping strategies that have been holding you back.
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That's it. Each breath takes you deeper and
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deeper, relaxed. As your body relaxes, your
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imagination awakens. And I want you to imagine a
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photo album, one of those big leather bound books, each Page 3
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or 4 photos. And I want you to imagine
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flicking through pictures from your childhood, not just
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pictures that were actually taken, but representations of
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significant memories from your past.
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But I want you to look at these pictures with new eyes, wise of
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empathy, understanding. And I want you to imagine seeing
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a photo that almost starts to glow.
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Perhaps it's when you were seven years old in a bathroom.
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Perhaps there was a hair dryer and someone was drying their
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hair, but I want you to see it as a picture, not back in your
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body. And I want you to turn that
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picture into a movie, seeing the picture turn into a video and
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just observe what happened like you're looking at it there in
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the photo album. And I want you to get a sense of
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new clues you didn't realize at the time, a question being asked
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from a place of curiosity and connection and a response that
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was just a narrative programming that was said without thinking.
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And sometimes people play the victim because what they really
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want is sympathy, understanding, connection.
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And I want you to see that memory with new eyes, but I want
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you to imagine. Imagine going back in time one
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hour before that memory. Imagine seeing yourself in your
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own bedroom and floating back to that memory.
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You at your current age and that version of you at just seven
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years old. And I want you to tell that 7
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year old version of you that you are them from the future.
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And maybe there's a look of disbelief, skepticism.
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I want you to imagine telling that younger version of you a
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secret that only they would know, to prove that you are them
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from the future. Maybe it was a memory they have
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and no one else knew about it. And once you've convinced them
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that you are them from the future, let me know by nodding
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your head. I want you to tell that 7 year
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old version of you, all of the things that that version of you
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really needed to hear. You are loved, you are capable,
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you are special. Maybe some of the things you
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didn't hear so much from your mother.
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Imagine saying that to that 7 year old version of you.
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And then I want you to listen. Some of the challenges, the
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frustrations, even sadness they're going through, just
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listen. Make them feel heard,
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understood. Give them a hug if it helps.
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And I want you to feel, feel, feel that you're helping that
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younger version of you. And tell them.
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Tell them that in an hour's time, they'll ask a question
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about what it felt like to be inside your mother while they
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were pregnant. But tell them in advance that
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their response will be a trigger, a reaction, nothing
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personal. And tell them that their
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response will be because they've gone through a lot in life and
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feel that they don't have the understanding and sympathy that
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they deserve, so they try and create it from situations that
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don't justify it. Tell them exactly what they will
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ask and what they will respond. And tell them that it means
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nothing other than their mother really craves for understanding.
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I want you to imagine now going forwards in time, one hour,
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observing how that 7 year old version of you ask the questions
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and the mother says exactly what they said.
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But notice that 7 year old version of you feels no guilt,
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feels no shame, feels no sadness.
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Instead hugs their mother and says something like I know
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you've gone through a lot, maybe they express their love,
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understanding, even sympathy. But there is no guilt in that
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child because the guilt was never true and was never theirs.
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And when you've seen that and it feels like a bonding connection
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rather than a traumatic memory, let me know by nodding your
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head. That's it.
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Rewinding before the conversation was even asked,
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step into that 7 year old and ask the same question that she
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asked. What did it feel like when I was
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inside you, there in your belly? Hear your mother saying exactly
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what they said. This time it feels different,
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like a cry for help, a cry for connection.
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Maybe you respond with I'm glad you did, I'm glad you're here,
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I'm glad you didn't die. And then give them a hug and
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just feel that connection, even briefly as you leave that room.
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Notice there is no guilt, no shame, no sadness, just a sense
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of wisdom. Nobody's perfect.
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Everyone's carrying their own pain, their own burdens.
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And then imagine, imagine floating back and seeing that
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photo album and then flicking to a different page, A page when
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you were slightly older, maybe a teenager, young adult, at a time
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when you were on a holiday, maybe near a beach.
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Step into that beach and find yourself there.
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You need to imagine seeing that version of you as a young adult.
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They remember you from when they were seven and just listen.
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Listen to what they're going through.
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Any anger, any pain, any frustrations, any confusion,
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Just listen. But I want you to tell them all
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the things that you would have wanted to have heard and been
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reassured of back then because that version of you didn't know
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what you would achieve later. So tell them.
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Tell them all the things you've accomplished and look at their
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face in amazement because that younger version of you didn't
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believe it was possible. And yet there you are as
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evidence that it is. And certain things must be true
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for you to have done what you've done.
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You must be smart. You must be able to learn
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things. You must be capable.
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You have the ability to make a mistake and learn from it.
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All of that must be true in order for you to do what you've
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done. And when that younger version of
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you believes in, let me know by nodding your head.
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That's it. And I want you to imagine
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somewhere on that beach looks like a door.
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A door to an elevator, not connected to a building, just
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there on the beach. Press the button and imagine it
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takes you down as you walk into the elevator, down into a
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basement that is the control room of your mind.
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When the elevator opens, walk into the control room and see
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lots of dials and switches and a big screen there in the middle.
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And I want you to imagine seeing a dial that says self criticism,
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and maybe it's on A7 or an 8, but I want you to imagine
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dialing it down to A5 or A4, setting new criteria.
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Then you are eager to learn from anything that could be improved
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on. But I want you to imagine that
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the way in which you learn from experience is through
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encouragement, inspiration, and experimentation, trying
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different things. And as you dial that switch, I
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want you to imagine that voice, that critical voice is still
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there, but with a new tone. You've got this.
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You can do this. We can make this even better.
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When the tonality shifts, your emotions shift too.
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I want you to unlock a desire to try new things in the spirit of
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constant improvement. Not because you're getting it
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wrong, but simply because everything can be enhanced,
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improved, evolved. And if that old voice, that
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harsh, critical voice comes back, you will feel empowered to
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handle that voice as you would with a real person.
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Enough. No more.
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You do not talk to me like that. You only respond if they are
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encouraging, inspiring, but critical, shameful.
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No, no more. And imagine there is a version
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of you that represents yourself worth.
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And I want you to dial up your worthiness but also recalibrate
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your level of consideration. You can be considerate without
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being apologetic. You can be thoughtful and kind
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without being a people pleaser. On that big screen, I want you
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to imagine that as you increase your worthiness and decrease the
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need to people please and apologize for things that don't
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need to be apologized, I want you to see on that screen
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memories. Memories of when you were too
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apologetic. People please too much but other
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needs before your own and recalibrate it so you start to
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see yourself exactly as you would have been if these changes
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were applied to your past. And when you see the changes,
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see yourself more confident, more direct, encouraging rather
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than apologetic, supportive but not needy.
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And see yourself in social situations, curious, seeking
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inspiration like reconnaissance, like you're a secret spy, not
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because you are unworthy, but simply because you have an
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eagerness to improve. And once you've seen those
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changes, let me know by nodding your head.
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And the final thing is about your capability.
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See a dial that represents your current level of capability and
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notice there is two different dials, your actual capability
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and then a bug in the system of second guessing.
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Your actual capability is incredibly high.
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A9 or A10. You believe that you can learn
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anything you need to, but also see that second guessing, the
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part of you that tries to sabotage your progress by
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telling you that you don't know how.
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And I want you to imagine the second guessing as a good
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intention of protection, but you're giving that part a new
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responsibility. They are now your internal life
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coach. If you don't know how, it is
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their responsibility to help you figure out how to learn it.
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They don't get to be the critic on the sidelines pointing out
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the faults. They are now responsible.
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They're helping you organize your thoughts, figure out what
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you can learn and how you can learn it, and encourage you to
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try new things until that knowledge becomes a skill and
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the skill becomes an experience. And then on that screen, see
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yourself one year from now doing the kind of work which would be
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deeply fulfilling, that would encourage that version of you to
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make a difference to the lives of other people.
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And in doing so, be deeply fulfilling for you.
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And that future version of you would have needed to have
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learned lots of things to see yourself.
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Almost like a montage of those different ways of learning.
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Mentorship courses, experience books, podcasts or videos.
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I want you to get a sense that there are infinite ways of
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learning. The question isn't can you learn
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or even do you know how? The better question is what is
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most useful for you to learn right now that enhances your
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life the most? The way to eat an elephant is 1
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bite at a time, so you reject the idea of needing to know
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everything and instead willing to lay the tracks while the
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train is in motion to learn as you go and see that future
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version of you smiling. See yourself confident in the
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company of friends that used to intimidate or make you feel
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unworthy. When you can see that future
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that seems appealing, desirable, and wonderful.
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Let me know about nodding your head and just float into that
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screen briefly. Feel how good it would feel a
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year from now. With all of these wonderful
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changes, that inner critic is now a voice of encouragement.
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The part that would second guess is now your internal life coach
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guiding you and notice how you feel worthy, grateful,
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confident, no matter who is around you or what the
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circumstances are. But also with enough humility
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that if you do make a mistake, you take ownership and learn
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from it. And if you do upset someone
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based on something you've done wrong, you don't mind
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apologizing because it's the right thing to do.
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Float back into that control room.
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Walk to the elevator. Press the number that represents
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the top. Find yourself walking out on
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that beach. Imagine going backwards through
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a photograph of a beach. And then imagine very close to
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being back to the here and now. But as you return, you will take
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all of these wonderful changes with you, understanding that
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this has been a journey within your imagination, A journey of
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thoughts within thoughts, ideas within ideas, and dreams within
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dreams. Starting to count from 1:00 to
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10:00 to awaken you 123 Waking up 456 More alert 7-8 Open your
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eyes. Open your eyes, 910.
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Wide awake, wide awake, wide awake.
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