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Self-Love That Actually Holds You | Why Building a Foundation Matters More Than “Trying Everything” | EP 271 · Confident and Empowered Women

• 0:05
  If
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  you've
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  reached
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  the
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  point
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  where
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  you're
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  thinking,
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  I've
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  tried
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  everything,
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  I
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  wanna
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  ask
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  you
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  something
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  softly.
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  Have
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  you
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  tried
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  loving
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  yourself
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  in
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  a
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  way
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  that
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  actually
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  holds
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  you,
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  not
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  performs,
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  not
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  soothes.
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  Holds,
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  and
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  if
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  you've
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  been
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  practicing
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  self-love
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  and
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  still
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  wondering
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  why
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  your
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  life
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  doesn't
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  quite
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  feel
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  stable,
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  or
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  why
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  you
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  feel
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  like
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  you're
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  starting
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  over
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  even
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  though
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  you're
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  doing
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  the
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  work.
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  This
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  episode
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  is
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  for
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  the
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  woman
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  who
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  is
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  tired
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  of
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  performing
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  self-love
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  and
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  ready
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  to
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  build
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  a
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  life
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  that
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  actually
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  holds
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  her.
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  Because
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  real
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  self-love
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  doesn't
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  just
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  make
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  you
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  feel
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  better,
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  it
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  makes
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  you
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  steadier.
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  And
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  today
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  we're
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  talking
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  about
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  the
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  kind
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  of
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  self-love
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  that
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  produces
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  results,
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  the
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  kind
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  that
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  you
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  actually
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  want.
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  So
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  let
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  this
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  episode
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  be
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  an
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  invitation
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  to
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  build
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  from
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  the
• 1:01
  ground
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  up.
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  If
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  this
• 1:07
  is
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  the
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  kind
• 1:08
  of
• 1:08
  conversation
• 1:09
  you've
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  been
• 1:09
  craving,
• 1:10
  go
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  ahead
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  and
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  subscribe.
• 1:11
  This
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  podcast
• 1:12
  is
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  for
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  women
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  who
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  take
• 1:13
  themselves
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  seriously,
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  not
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  rigidly,
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  but
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  intentionally.
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  And
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  the
• 1:19
  women
• 1:19
  who
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  get
• 1:19
  the
• 1:19
  most
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  out
• 1:20
  of
• 1:20
  this
• 1:20
  space
• 1:21
  are
• 1:21
  the
• 1:21
  ones
• 1:22
  who
• 1:22
  stay
• 1:22
  in
• 1:22
  it.
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  Okay,
• 1:23
  so
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  let's
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  get
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  into
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  it.
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  Hey,
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  hey,
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  hey,
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  my
• 1:28
  beautiful
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  friend.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  the
• 1:30
  podcast.
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  I'm
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  so
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  glad
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  you
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  are
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  here.
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  Not
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  in
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  a,
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  you
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  should
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  be
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  here
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  kind
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  of
• 1:35
  way,
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  but
• 1:36
  in
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  a,
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  your
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  nervous
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  system
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  knew
• 1:38
  where
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  to
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  land
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  today
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  kinda
• 1:41
  way.
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  So
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  take
• 1:43
  a
• 1:43
  breath,
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  let
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  your
• 1:44
  shoulders
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  drop.
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  Nothing
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  is
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  wrong
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  with
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  you.
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  We're
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  just
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  getting
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  more
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  rooted
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  today.
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  Whatever
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  led
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  you
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  here
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  today,
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  maybe
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  it's
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  because
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  you've
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  reached
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  that
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  quiet
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  moment
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  where
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  you
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  realize
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  you
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  have
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  tried
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  everything
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  and
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  if
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  one
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  of
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  my
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  favorite
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  coaches
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  was
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  here,
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  Brendan
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  Burchard
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  would
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  say,
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  whip
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  out
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  the
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  spreadsheet
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  and
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  show
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  me
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  everything
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  that
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  you
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  tried,
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  because
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  we
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  must
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  have
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  some
• 2:09
  data
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  to
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  back
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  up
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  this,
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  everything
• 2:11
  that
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  we
• 2:11
  done
• 2:11
  tried
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  so
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  we
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  can
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  cross
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  reference
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  and
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  make
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  sure
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  that
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  we
• 2:14
  tried
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  everything.
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  But
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  you
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  know
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  that
• 2:18
  feeling
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  when
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  you've
• 2:20
  tried
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  so
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  many
• 2:21
  different
• 2:22
  things,
• 2:22
  the
• 2:22
  plans,
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  the
• 2:23
  routines,
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  the
• 2:24
  healing,
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  the
• 2:25
  rest,
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  and
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  maybe
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  what's
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  missing
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  isn't
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  another
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  strategy,
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  but
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  the
• 2:29
  foundation
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  you've
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  been
• 2:31
  building
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  on.
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  If
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  you
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  feel
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  like
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  you've
• 2:33
  tried
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  everything,
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  the
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  question
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  might
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  not
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  be,
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  what
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  are
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  you
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  missing?
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  But
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  what
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  you're
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  rooted
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  in
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  this
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  space
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  is
• 2:42
  for
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  women
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  who
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  are
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  deeply
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  self-aware
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  and
• 2:44
  deeply
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  ready
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  to
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  stop
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  circling
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  the
• 2:47
  same
• 2:47
  patterns.
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  So.
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  Let's
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  pause
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  for
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  a
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  second
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  because
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  be
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  clear
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  about
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  what
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  I
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  mean
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  when
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  I
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  say
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  self-love.
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  Self-love
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  isn't
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  a
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  vibe,
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  it's
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  not
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  a
• 2:58
  mindset,
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  and
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  it's
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  not
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  something
• 3:00
  you
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  get
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  better
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  at
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  by
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  performing.
• 3:02
  Self-love
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  is
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  the
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  relationship
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  you
• 3:05
  build
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  with
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  yourself.
• 3:07
  It's
• 3:07
  how
• 3:08
  you
• 3:08
  treat
• 3:08
  yourself
• 3:09
  when
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  no
• 3:09
  one
• 3:09
  is
• 3:09
  watching.
• 3:10
  It's
• 3:11
  what
• 3:11
  you
• 3:11
  prioritize
• 3:12
  when
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  your
• 3:12
  emotions
• 3:13
  are
• 3:13
  loud.
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  It's
• 3:14
  the
• 3:14
  choices
• 3:15
  you
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  make
• 3:15
  on
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  ordinary
• 3:16
  days,
• 3:17
  and
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  here's
• 3:18
  the
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  part
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  that
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  really
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  matters.
• 3:21
  Self-love
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  is
• 3:22
  not
• 3:22
  the
• 3:22
  reward
• 3:23
  at
• 3:23
  the
• 3:23
  end
• 3:24
  of
• 3:24
  healing.
• 3:25
  It's
• 3:25
  the
• 3:26
  foundation.
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  Everything
• 3:28
  else
• 3:28
  grows
• 3:29
  from.
• 3:29
  Just
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  like
• 3:30
  a
• 3:30
  home
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  doesn't
• 3:31
  start
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  with
• 3:32
  decor.
• 3:33
  It
• 3:33
  starts
• 3:33
  with
• 3:34
  the
• 3:34
  ground.
• 3:34
  It's
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  built
• 3:35
  on
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  Just
• 3:36
  like
• 3:36
  a
• 3:36
  garden
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  doesn't
• 3:37
  start
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  with
• 3:38
  blooms,
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  it
• 3:39
  starts
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  with
• 3:40
  soil.
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  You
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  don't
• 3:41
  ask
• 3:41
  the
• 3:41
  soil
• 3:42
  to
• 3:42
  prove
• 3:42
  itself.
• 3:43
  You
• 3:43
  tend
• 3:44
  to
• 3:44
  it.
• 3:44
  You
• 3:45
  nurture
• 3:45
  it,
• 3:45
  you
• 3:45
  protect
• 3:46
  it
• 3:46
  because
• 3:47
  without
• 3:47
  healthy
• 3:48
  soil,
• 3:49
  nothing
• 3:49
  thrives.
• 3:50
  No
• 3:51
  matter
• 3:51
  how
• 3:51
  hard
• 3:51
  you
• 3:52
  try.
• 3:52
  Self-love
• 3:53
  is
• 3:54
  the
• 3:54
  foundation
• 3:55
  that
• 3:55
  allows
• 3:55
  you
• 3:56
  to
• 3:56
  keep
• 3:56
  promises
• 3:57
  to
• 3:57
  yourself,
• 3:58
  build
• 3:58
  consistency
• 3:59
  without
• 4:00
  force,
• 4:01
  respond
• 4:01
  instead
• 4:02
  of
• 4:02
  react.
• 4:03
  Trust
• 4:03
  yourself
• 4:04
  even
• 4:05
  with
• 4:05
  your
• 4:05
  bigger
• 4:05
  dreams
• 4:06
  and
• 4:06
  stay
• 4:07
  grounded
• 4:07
  when
• 4:07
  life
• 4:08
  applies.
• 4:09
  Pressure
• 4:09
  friend.
• 4:10
  Without
• 4:11
  it,
• 4:11
  every
• 4:12
  goal
• 4:12
  feels
• 4:13
  heavier,
• 4:14
  every
• 4:14
  habit
• 4:14
  feels
• 4:15
  harder.
• 4:16
  Every
• 4:16
  relationship
• 4:17
  feels
• 4:17
  more.
• 4:18
  Fragile.
• 4:19
  Not
• 4:20
  because
• 4:20
  you're
• 4:20
  failing,
• 4:21
  but
• 4:21
  because
• 4:21
  you
• 4:22
  are
• 4:22
  trying
• 4:22
  to
• 4:23
  build
• 4:23
  on
• 4:23
  shaky
• 4:24
  ground.
• 4:25
  Self-love
• 4:25
  is
• 4:26
  what
• 4:26
  makes
• 4:26
  effort
• 4:27
  sustainable.
• 4:28
  It's
• 4:29
  what
• 4:29
  makes
• 4:29
  growth
• 4:30
  safe,
• 4:31
  and
• 4:31
  here's
• 4:32
  what
• 4:32
  we
• 4:33
  have
• 4:33
  to
• 4:33
  stop
• 4:34
  romanticizing.
• 4:35
  Self-love
• 4:36
  isn't
• 4:36
  dramatic.
• 4:37
  It's
• 4:38
  daily.
• 4:39
  It's
• 4:40
  in
• 4:40
  the
• 4:40
  quiet
• 4:41
  tending,
• 4:42
  choosing
• 4:42
  structure
• 4:43
  over
• 4:43
  chaos.
• 4:44
  Choosing
• 4:45
  devotion
• 4:45
  over
• 4:46
  comfort.
• 4:47
  Choosing
• 4:47
  steadiness
• 4:48
  over
• 4:48
  emotional
• 4:49
  whiplash.
• 4:50
  Ooh,
• 4:50
  friend.
• 4:51
  Mm,
• 4:52
  that
• 4:52
  emotional
• 4:53
  whiplash,
• 4:53
  honey,
• 4:53
  that's
• 4:54
  a
• 4:54
  whole
• 4:54
  episode
• 4:54
  for
• 4:54
  a
• 4:54
  whole
• 4:55
  nother
• 4:55
  day.
• 4:58
  And
• 4:58
  it's
• 4:59
  not
• 4:59
  about
• 5:00
  being
• 5:00
  perfect,
• 5:01
  it's
• 5:01
  about
• 5:02
  being
• 5:02
  present.
• 5:03
  When
• 5:03
  self-love
• 5:04
  becomes
• 5:05
  the
• 5:05
  ground
• 5:05
  you
• 5:05
  stand
• 5:06
  on
• 5:07
  everything
• 5:08
  else.
• 5:08
  From
• 5:09
  work
• 5:09
  to
• 5:09
  dreams,
• 5:10
  to
• 5:10
  relationships
• 5:12
  has
• 5:12
  something
• 5:12
  solid
• 5:13
  to
• 5:13
  grow
• 5:13
  from.
• 5:14
  That's
• 5:15
  why
• 5:15
  I'm
• 5:15
  talking
• 5:15
  to
• 5:15
  you
• 5:16
  about
• 5:16
  stability,
• 5:17
  devotion,
• 5:18
  and
• 5:18
  we're
• 5:19
  even
• 5:19
  gonna
• 5:19
  talk
• 5:20
  about
• 5:20
  planned
• 5:20
  plot
• 5:21
  twist
• 5:22
  because
• 5:22
  self-love
• 5:23
  isn't
• 5:23
  what
• 5:23
  you
• 5:23
  add
• 5:24
  to
• 5:24
  your
• 5:24
  life.
• 5:25
  It's
• 5:25
  what
• 5:25
  your
• 5:25
  life
• 5:26
  is
• 5:26
  built
• 5:26
  on.
• 5:27
  Uh,
• 5:27
  let's
• 5:28
  name
• 5:28
  this
• 5:28
  one
• 5:29
  gently.
• 5:30
  A
• 5:30
  lot
• 5:30
  of
• 5:30
  what
• 5:30
  we
• 5:31
  call
• 5:31
  self-love
• 5:31
  right
• 5:32
  now
• 5:32
  is
• 5:32
  actually
• 5:33
  self-soothing.
• 5:34
  And
• 5:34
  listen,
• 5:35
  there
• 5:35
  are
• 5:36
  seasons
• 5:37
  when
• 5:37
  that
• 5:37
  is
• 5:37
  exactly
• 5:39
  what
• 5:39
  you
• 5:39
  need,
• 5:40
  but
• 5:40
  softness
• 5:41
  without
• 5:41
  roots
• 5:43
  doesn't
• 5:43
  stabilize
• 5:43
  your
• 5:43
  life.
• 5:44
  It
• 5:44
  just
• 5:45
  helps
• 5:45
  you
• 5:45
  survive
• 5:46
  it,
• 5:46
  and
• 5:46
  so
• 5:47
  many
• 5:47
  women
• 5:47
  are
• 5:48
  exhausted,
• 5:49
  not
• 5:50
  because
• 5:51
  they
• 5:51
  aren't
• 5:51
  loving
• 5:52
  themselves,
• 5:53
  but
• 5:53
  because
• 5:53
  their
• 5:54
  version
• 5:54
  of
• 5:54
  self-love
• 5:55
  keeps
• 5:56
  asking
• 5:56
  their
• 5:56
  nervous
• 5:57
  system
• 5:58
  to
• 5:58
  improvise
• 5:59
  every
• 5:59
  single
• 6:00
  day.
• 6:00
  Real
• 6:01
  self-love
• 6:01
  isn't
• 6:02
  something
• 6:02
  you
• 6:03
  reach
• 6:03
  for
• 6:04
  when
• 6:04
  things
• 6:04
  fall
• 6:05
  apart.
• 6:06
  It's
• 6:06
  something
• 6:06
  you've
• 6:07
  already
• 6:07
  built.
• 6:08
  A
• 6:08
  rooted
• 6:09
  self-Love
• 6:10
  is
• 6:10
  infrastructure.
• 6:11
  It
• 6:11
  looks
• 6:12
  like
• 6:12
  rhythms
• 6:13
  you
• 6:13
  return
• 6:13
  to,
• 6:14
  like
• 6:14
  when
• 6:14
  you
• 6:14
  get
• 6:15
  stressed,
• 6:15
  is
• 6:16
  there
• 6:16
  an
• 6:16
  album
• 6:16
  or
• 6:16
  a
• 6:17
  playlist
• 6:17
  you
• 6:17
  put
• 6:18
  on?
• 6:18
  And
• 6:18
  when
• 6:19
  you
• 6:19
  take
• 6:19
  a
• 6:19
  drive
• 6:20
  just
• 6:20
  to
• 6:20
  calm
• 6:21
  yourself
• 6:21
  down
• 6:22
  and
• 6:22
  clear
• 6:22
  your
• 6:22
  head,
• 6:23
  it's
• 6:23
  in
• 6:23
  the
• 6:24
  agreements
• 6:24
  you
• 6:24
  keep
• 6:25
  to
• 6:25
  yourself
• 6:26
  when
• 6:26
  you
• 6:26
  honor
• 6:26
  your
• 6:27
  word
• 6:27
  to
• 6:27
  yourself
• 6:28
  and
• 6:28
  maintain
• 6:29
  healthy
• 6:29
  boundaries.
• 6:30
  It's
• 6:30
  in
• 6:30
  the
• 6:30
  standards
• 6:31
  that
• 6:31
  don't
• 6:32
  disappear
• 6:33
  when
• 6:33
  emotions.
• 6:34
  Rise.
• 6:35
  The
• 6:35
  woman
• 6:35
  who
• 6:36
  loves
• 6:36
  herself
• 6:36
  doesn't
• 6:37
  ask
• 6:37
  every
• 6:38
  day,
• 6:39
  what
• 6:39
  do
• 6:39
  I
• 6:39
  feel
• 6:39
  like
• 6:39
  doing?
• 6:40
  She
• 6:41
  has
• 6:41
  already
• 6:41
  decided
• 6:42
  on
• 6:42
  some
• 6:43
  things
• 6:44
  because
• 6:44
  she
• 6:44
  cares
• 6:45
  about
• 6:45
  her
• 6:46
  future.
• 6:47
  Here's
• 6:47
  a
• 6:47
  distinction
• 6:48
  that
• 6:48
  changes
• 6:49
  everything.
• 6:50
  Performative
• 6:51
  self-love.
• 6:52
  Ask,
• 6:52
  how
• 6:52
  do
• 6:53
  I
• 6:53
  feel
• 6:53
  right
• 6:53
  now?
• 6:55
  And
• 6:55
  let's
• 6:56
  not
• 6:56
  get
• 6:56
  it
• 6:56
  twisted.
• 6:57
  Friend.
• 6:57
  That
• 6:58
  question
• 6:58
  matters
• 6:59
  because
• 6:59
  your
• 7:00
  feelings
• 7:00
  are
• 7:01
  information.
• 7:02
  They
• 7:02
  deserve
• 7:03
  to
• 7:03
  be
• 7:03
  heard,
• 7:04
  but
• 7:04
  rooted
• 7:05
  self
• 7:05
  love,
• 7:06
  it
• 7:06
  asks
• 7:06
  a
• 7:07
  different
• 7:07
  question,
• 7:08
  what
• 7:09
  supports
• 7:09
  me
• 7:10
  in
• 7:10
  the
• 7:10
  long
• 7:11
  term?
• 7:11
  Because
• 7:12
  if
• 7:12
  your
• 7:12
  mood
• 7:13
  gets
• 7:13
  to
• 7:13
  decide
• 7:14
  what
• 7:14
  happens
• 7:15
  every
• 7:15
  day.
• 7:16
  Friend,
• 7:16
  your
• 7:17
  life
• 7:17
  stays
• 7:18
  at
• 7:18
  the
• 7:18
  mercy
• 7:19
  of
• 7:19
  whatever
• 7:20
  emotion
• 7:21
  shows
• 7:22
  up
• 7:22
  first.
• 7:23
  And
• 7:23
  that's
• 7:23
  not
• 7:24
  freedom.
• 7:24
  That's
• 7:25
  gonna
• 7:25
  lead
• 7:25
  straight
• 7:26
  to
• 7:26
  exhaustion
• 7:27
  and
• 7:27
  burnout.
• 7:28
  So
• 7:28
  think
• 7:29
  about
• 7:29
  it
• 7:29
  like
• 7:29
  this.
• 7:31
  Your
• 7:31
  emotions
• 7:32
  are
• 7:32
  like
• 7:32
  the
• 7:33
  weather.
• 7:33
  Some
• 7:34
  days
• 7:34
  it's
• 7:34
  sunny,
• 7:35
  stormy.
• 7:36
  Some
• 7:36
  days
• 7:37
  it
• 7:37
  changes
• 7:38
  by
• 7:38
  the
• 7:39
  hour.
• 7:39
  You
• 7:39
  don't
• 7:40
  cancel
• 7:40
  your
• 7:40
  entire
• 7:41
  life.
• 7:42
  Every
• 7:42
  time
• 7:42
  it
• 7:42
  rains,
• 7:43
  you
• 7:43
  just
• 7:44
  grab
• 7:44
  an
• 7:44
  umbrella
• 7:45
  and
• 7:46
  adjust.
• 7:47
  You
• 7:47
  keep
• 7:47
  moving
• 7:48
  rooted.
• 7:48
  Self
• 7:49
  love
• 7:49
  doesn't
• 7:50
  ask
• 7:50
  for
• 7:50
  the
• 7:51
  weather
• 7:51
  to
• 7:51
  be
• 7:51
  perfect.
• 7:52
  It
• 7:52
  builds
• 7:53
  a
• 7:53
  house
• 7:54
  anyway.
• 7:55
  A
• 7:55
  house
• 7:55
  with
• 7:56
  walls
• 7:56
  Heat,
• 7:57
  a
• 7:57
  house
• 7:58
  with
• 7:58
  a
• 7:58
  roof
• 7:58
  that
• 7:59
  doesn't
• 7:59
  cave
• 7:59
  in
• 8:00
  every
• 8:00
  time
• 8:01
  a
• 8:01
  feeling
• 8:02
  passes
• 8:02
  through
• 8:02
  it.
• 8:03
  That's
• 8:03
  what
• 8:04
  structure
• 8:04
  is.
• 8:05
  Not
• 8:05
  punishment
• 8:07
  or
• 8:07
  perfection.
• 8:08
  Another
• 8:08
  way
• 8:09
  that
• 8:09
  I
• 8:09
  really
• 8:09
  love
• 8:10
  to
• 8:10
  see
• 8:10
  it
• 8:10
  is
• 8:11
  your
• 8:11
  feelings
• 8:12
  are
• 8:12
  like
• 8:12
  passengers,
• 8:13
  not
• 8:14
  the
• 8:14
  driver.
• 8:15
  Okay?
• 8:15
  They
• 8:15
  get
• 8:16
  a
• 8:16
  seat,
• 8:16
  they
• 8:17
  get
• 8:17
  a
• 8:17
  voice,
• 8:18
  but
• 8:18
  they
• 8:18
  don't
• 8:18
  get
• 8:19
  the
• 8:19
  steering
• 8:19
  wheel
• 8:20
  because
• 8:21
  when
• 8:21
  they
• 8:21
  do,
• 8:22
  that's
• 8:22
  when
• 8:22
  we
• 8:22
  find
• 8:23
  ourselves
• 8:23
  later
• 8:24
  asking
• 8:24
  Jesus
• 8:25
  to
• 8:25
  take
• 8:26
  the
• 8:26
  wheel.
• 8:33
  Because
• 8:33
  when
• 8:33
  those
• 8:34
  emotions
• 8:34
  drive,
• 8:35
  you
• 8:36
  end
• 8:36
  up
• 8:37
  starting
• 8:38
  and
• 8:38
  stopping
• 8:39
  your
• 8:39
  life
• 8:39
  over
• 8:40
  and
• 8:40
  over
• 8:40
  again.
• 8:41
  Only
• 8:41
  moving
• 8:42
  forward
• 8:42
  on
• 8:43
  days
• 8:43
  when
• 8:43
  you
• 8:43
  feel
• 8:44
  motivated,
• 8:44
  inspired,
• 8:45
  or
• 8:45
  even
• 8:45
  calm.
• 8:46
  And
• 8:47
  that's
• 8:47
  not
• 8:48
  a
• 8:48
  loving,
• 8:49
  that's
• 8:49
  unstable.
• 8:50
  Self-love
• 8:51
  that
• 8:51
  actually
• 8:52
  holds
• 8:52
  you,
• 8:53
  says,
• 8:54
  I
• 8:54
  see
• 8:54
  how
• 8:54
  you
• 8:55
  feel,
• 8:55
  and
• 8:56
  we
• 8:56
  are
• 8:56
  still
• 8:57
  doing
• 8:57
  what
• 8:58
  supports
• 8:58
  us.
• 8:59
  That's
• 8:59
  not
• 8:59
  control,
• 9:00
  that's
• 9:01
  safety.
• 9:02
  It's
• 9:02
  the
• 9:02
  difference
• 9:03
  between
• 9:03
  a
• 9:04
  life
• 9:04
  you
• 9:04
  constantly
• 9:05
  have
• 9:05
  to
• 9:05
  recover
• 9:06
  from
• 9:06
  and
• 9:07
  a
• 9:07
  life
• 9:07
  that
• 9:08
  supports
• 9:08
  you
• 9:09
  even
• 9:09
  on
• 9:09
  the
• 9:10
  hard
• 9:10
  days.
• 9:11
  This
• 9:11
  is
• 9:11
  not
• 9:12
  you
• 9:12
  ignoring
• 9:12
  your
• 9:13
  feelings.
• 9:14
  This
• 9:14
  is
• 9:14
  you
• 9:15
  leading
• 9:15
  them,
• 9:16
  and
• 9:16
  here's
• 9:17
  the
• 9:17
  shift
• 9:17
  that
• 9:18
  we
• 9:18
  don't
• 9:18
  talk
• 9:18
  about
• 9:18
  enough.
• 9:19
  Loving
• 9:20
  yourself
• 9:20
  means
• 9:21
  you
• 9:21
  stop
• 9:22
  building
• 9:22
  your
• 9:22
  life
• 9:23
  around
• 9:23
  your
• 9:24
  moods
• 9:24
  and
• 9:25
  start
• 9:25
  building
• 9:26
  it
• 9:26
  around
• 9:26
  the
• 9:26
  kind
• 9:27
  of
• 9:27
  days
• 9:28
  you
• 9:28
  want
• 9:28
  to
• 9:29
  live
• 9:29
  and
• 9:30
  love
• 9:30
  living
• 9:31
  days
• 9:32
  with
• 9:32
  rhythm.
• 9:33
  Follow
• 9:34
  through
• 9:34
  days
• 9:35
  that
• 9:35
  feel
• 9:35
  steady,
• 9:36
  not
• 9:36
  dramatic,
• 9:37
  because
• 9:37
  when
• 9:38
  your
• 9:38
  days
• 9:38
  feel
• 9:38
  good,
• 9:39
  your
• 9:39
  life
• 9:40
  follows.
• 9:41
  That's
• 9:42
  what
• 9:42
  rooted
• 9:42
  self-love
• 9:43
  creates
• 9:44
  not
• 9:45
  emotional
• 9:45
  suppression,
• 9:46
  not
• 9:47
  hustle,
• 9:48
  just
• 9:48
  a
• 9:48
  solid
• 9:49
  ground
• 9:49
  beneath
• 9:50
  you,
• 9:50
  so
• 9:51
  you
• 9:51
  are
• 9:51
  not
• 9:51
  starting
• 9:52
  from
• 9:52
  zero
• 9:53
  every
• 9:53
  single
• 9:54
  morning.
• 9:55
  But
• 9:55
  let's
• 9:55
  keep
• 9:56
  it
• 9:56
  all
• 9:56
  the
• 9:56
  way
• 9:56
  real
• 9:57
  because
• 9:57
  comfort
• 9:58
  is
• 9:59
  wonderful.
• 10:00
  Rest
• 10:00
  matters
• 10:02
  and
• 10:02
  ease
• 10:03
  has
• 10:03
  a
• 10:03
  very
• 10:03
  important
• 10:04
  place
• 10:04
  in
• 10:05
  your
• 10:05
  life.
• 10:06
  But
• 10:06
  comfort
• 10:07
  is
• 10:07
  not
• 10:07
  what
• 10:08
  builds
• 10:08
  the
• 10:08
  life
• 10:09
  you
• 10:09
  desire.
• 10:10
  Devotion
• 10:11
  is,
• 10:12
  devotion
• 10:12
  isn't
• 10:13
  harsh,
• 10:13
  it's
• 10:14
  not
• 10:14
  punishment,
• 10:15
  it's
• 10:15
  tending.
• 10:16
  Think
• 10:17
  about
• 10:17
  roots
• 10:17
  again.
• 10:18
  Roots
• 10:19
  aren't
• 10:19
  glamorous.
• 10:20
  They
• 10:20
  are
• 10:20
  quiet.
• 10:21
  Repetitive
• 10:22
  and
• 10:23
  unseen.
• 10:24
  No
• 10:24
  one
• 10:24
  applause
• 10:25
  for
• 10:25
  them.
• 10:26
  No
• 10:26
  one
• 10:26
  comments
• 10:27
  on
• 10:27
  them.
• 10:27
  When
• 10:27
  the
• 10:28
  flowers
• 10:28
  bloom,
• 10:29
  no
• 10:29
  one
• 10:29
  says,
• 10:29
  oh
• 10:30
  my
• 10:30
  gosh,
• 10:30
  but
• 10:30
  look
• 10:31
  at
• 10:31
  your
• 10:31
  roots.
• 10:33
  And
• 10:33
  yet,
• 10:33
  without
• 10:34
  those
• 10:34
  roots,
• 10:35
  nothing
• 10:36
  grows.
• 10:36
  You
• 10:37
  don't
• 10:37
  water
• 10:37
  roots
• 10:38
  for
• 10:38
  applause.
• 10:39
  You
• 10:39
  water
• 10:40
  them
• 10:40
  because
• 10:40
  they
• 10:40
  are
• 10:41
  committed
• 10:42
  to
• 10:42
  what
• 10:42
  you
• 10:42
  are
• 10:43
  building.
• 10:44
  In
• 10:44
  your
• 10:44
  work.
• 10:45
  Comfort
• 10:45
  says,
• 10:46
  I'll
• 10:46
  do
• 10:47
  it
• 10:47
  when
• 10:47
  I
• 10:47
  feel
• 10:47
  inspired,
• 10:48
  but
• 10:49
  devotion
• 10:49
  says,
• 10:50
  I'll
• 10:50
  show
• 10:51
  up
• 10:51
  even
• 10:52
  when
• 10:52
  it's
• 10:52
  ordinary.
• 10:53
  Not
• 10:53
  because
• 10:54
  you're
• 10:54
  forcing
• 10:54
  yourself,
• 10:55
  but
• 10:55
  because
• 10:56
  the
• 10:56
  version
• 10:57
  of
• 10:57
  you
• 10:57
  that
• 10:58
  you
• 10:58
  are
• 10:58
  building
• 10:59
  requires
• 11:00
  consistency,
• 11:01
  not
• 11:02
  just
• 11:02
  rare
• 11:02
  burst
• 11:03
  of
• 11:03
  energy.
• 11:04
  Devotion
• 11:04
  is
• 11:05
  opening
• 11:05
  the
• 11:05
  laptop
• 11:06
  on
• 11:06
  the
• 11:06
  days
• 11:07
  when
• 11:07
  no
• 11:07
  one
• 11:07
  is
• 11:07
  watching.
• 11:08
  It's
• 11:09
  refining
• 11:09
  your
• 11:09
  craft
• 11:10
  when
• 11:10
  it's
• 11:11
  not
• 11:11
  exciting
• 11:11
  anymore.
• 11:12
  It's
• 11:13
  choosing
• 11:13
  integrity
• 11:14
  over
• 11:15
  intensity
• 11:16
  in
• 11:16
  your
• 11:16
  dreams.
• 11:17
  Comfort
• 11:18
  says,
• 11:18
  I'll
• 11:19
  wait
• 11:19
  until
• 11:19
  I
• 11:19
  feel
• 11:20
  more
• 11:20
  confident
• 11:21
  while
• 11:21
  devotion
• 11:22
  says,
• 11:23
  I'll
• 11:23
  take
• 11:23
  the
• 11:23
  step
• 11:24
  I
• 11:24
  can
• 11:24
  take
• 11:25
  today,
• 11:26
  even
• 11:26
  if
• 11:26
  it's
• 11:26
  small.
• 11:28
  Even
• 11:28
  if
• 11:28
  it's
• 11:28
  imperfect,
• 11:29
  even
• 11:30
  if
• 11:30
  it
• 11:30
  doesn't
• 11:31
  feel
• 11:31
  magical
• 11:32
  yet,
• 11:33
  because
• 11:33
  dreams
• 11:33
  don't
• 11:34
  respond
• 11:34
  to
• 11:35
  wishing
• 11:36
  they
• 11:36
  respond
• 11:37
  to
• 11:37
  steady
• 11:38
  care
• 11:39
  Devotion
• 11:39
  is
• 11:39
  tending
• 11:40
  the
• 11:40
  dream
• 11:41
  when
• 11:41
  it's
• 11:41
  still
• 11:42
  underground,
• 11:43
  before
• 11:43
  there's
• 11:44
  ever
• 11:44
  proof
• 11:45
  it's
• 11:45
  even
• 11:46
  working.
• 11:46
  And
• 11:47
  even
• 11:47
  in
• 11:47
  your
• 11:47
  relationships,
• 11:49
  comfort,
• 11:50
  it
• 11:50
  avoids
• 11:50
  conversation,
• 11:52
  but
• 11:52
  devotion
• 11:53
  chooses
• 11:54
  honesty
• 11:55
  with
• 11:55
  care.
• 11:56
  Comfort
• 11:57
  stays
• 11:57
  quiet
• 11:58
  to
• 11:58
  keep
• 11:58
  the
• 11:58
  peace
• 11:59
  while
• 11:59
  devotion
• 12:00
  speaks
• 12:00
  up
• 12:01
  to
• 12:01
  build
• 12:02
  something
• 12:03
  real.
• 12:04
  Now,
• 12:04
  let's
• 12:04
  be
• 12:05
  clear.
• 12:05
  That
• 12:06
  does
• 12:06
  not
• 12:06
  mean
• 12:07
  this
• 12:07
  is
• 12:07
  your
• 12:07
  green
• 12:08
  light
• 12:08
  to
• 12:08
  be
• 12:08
  confrontational,
• 12:12
  it
• 12:12
  means
• 12:12
  being
• 12:13
  present.
• 12:14
  Repairing,
• 12:16
  it
• 12:16
  means
• 12:16
  staying
• 12:17
  engaged
• 12:18
  instead
• 12:18
  of
• 12:18
  emotionally
• 12:19
  checking
• 12:20
  out.
• 12:20
  Devotion
• 12:21
  is
• 12:21
  choosing
• 12:22
  the
• 12:22
  long-term
• 12:23
  health
• 12:23
  of
• 12:23
  the
• 12:24
  relationship
• 12:25
  Over
• 12:25
  short
• 12:26
  term
• 12:26
  ease,
• 12:27
  but
• 12:27
  let's
• 12:27
  really
• 12:28
  get
• 12:28
  deep
• 12:28
  with
• 12:28
  it
• 12:29
  because
• 12:29
  comfort,
• 12:30
  ask
• 12:31
  what
• 12:31
  feels
• 12:31
  easiest
• 12:32
  right
• 12:32
  now,
• 12:33
  and
• 12:33
  devotion
• 12:34
  ask,
• 12:35
  what
• 12:35
  am
• 12:35
  I
• 12:35
  committed
• 12:36
  to
• 12:36
  becoming?
• 12:37
  And
• 12:37
  here's
• 12:38
  a
• 12:38
  part
• 12:39
  that
• 12:39
  is
• 12:39
  so
• 12:40
  important
• 12:40
  and
• 12:40
  matters
• 12:41
  so
• 12:41
  much.
• 12:42
  Devotion
• 12:42
  doesn't
• 12:43
  mean
• 12:43
  you
• 12:44
  never
• 12:44
  rest.
• 12:45
  It
• 12:45
  means
• 12:46
  rest
• 12:47
  supports
• 12:48
  the
• 12:48
  life
• 12:48
  you're
• 12:49
  building
• 12:49
  instead
• 12:50
  of
• 12:50
  replacing
• 12:51
  it.
• 12:52
  Self-love
• 12:52
  that
• 12:53
  produces
• 12:53
  stability,
• 12:54
  chooses
• 12:55
  devotion.
• 12:56
  Not
• 12:56
  because
• 12:56
  it's
• 12:57
  harder,
• 12:57
  but
• 12:57
  because
• 12:59
  it's
• 12:59
  truer
• 13:00
  because
• 13:00
  what
• 13:01
  we're
• 13:01
  building
• 13:02
  deserves
• 13:02
  care.
• 13:03
  And
• 13:03
  so
• 13:04
  do
• 13:04
  you.
• 13:05
  To
• 13:06
  know
• 13:06
  me
• 13:06
  is
• 13:06
  to
• 13:06
  know
• 13:07
  I
• 13:07
  love
• 13:08
  me,
• 13:08
  a
• 13:08
  good
• 13:08
  plot
• 13:09
  twist.
• 13:09
  And
• 13:10
  most
• 13:10
  of
• 13:10
  us
• 13:10
  think
• 13:11
  that
• 13:11
  a
• 13:11
  plot
• 13:11
  twist.
• 13:12
  are
• 13:12
  only
• 13:13
  things
• 13:13
  that
• 13:13
  happened
• 13:13
  to
• 13:14
  us,
• 13:14
  a
• 13:15
  fight
• 13:15
  we
• 13:15
  didn't
• 13:15
  expect,
• 13:16
  a
• 13:17
  season
• 13:17
  we
• 13:18
  didn't
• 13:18
  choose,
• 13:19
  or
• 13:19
  a
• 13:19
  change
• 13:20
  we
• 13:20
  did
• 13:20
  not
• 13:21
  see
• 13:21
  coming.
• 13:22
  Somehow
• 13:22
  it
• 13:23
  was
• 13:23
  not
• 13:23
  on
• 13:23
  your
• 13:23
  bingo
• 13:24
  card
• 13:24
  for
• 13:24
  this
• 13:24
  year.
• 13:25
  And
• 13:25
  yes,
• 13:27
  life
• 13:27
  will
• 13:28
  always
• 13:28
  have
• 13:29
  those,
• 13:29
  but
• 13:30
  self-love
• 13:31
  that
• 13:31
  actually
• 13:31
  holds
• 13:32
  you
• 13:32
  invites
• 13:33
  a
• 13:33
  different
• 13:34
  question.
• 13:35
  What
• 13:36
  if
• 13:36
  some
• 13:37
  of
• 13:37
  the
• 13:37
  plot
• 13:37
  twists
• 13:38
  were
• 13:38
  planned?
• 13:39
  Not
• 13:39
  dramatic,
• 13:40
  not
• 13:41
  chaotic.
• 13:42
  Intentional
• 13:43
  rooted
• 13:43
  self-love
• 13:44
  says,
• 13:45
  I
• 13:45
  don't
• 13:45
  wait
• 13:46
  for
• 13:46
  life
• 13:47
  to
• 13:47
  force
• 13:47
  change
• 13:48
  upon
• 13:49
  me.
• 13:50
  I'm
• 13:50
  allowed
• 13:50
  to
• 13:51
  choose
• 13:51
  it
• 13:53
  at
• 13:53
  work
• 13:53
  or
• 13:53
  in
• 13:54
  your
• 13:54
  career.
• 13:54
  A
• 13:55
  plan
• 13:55
  plot
• 13:55
  twist
• 13:56
  might
• 13:56
  be
• 13:57
  deciding
• 13:58
  this
• 13:58
  is
• 13:58
  the
• 13:58
  year
• 13:59
  that
• 13:59
  you
• 13:59
  stop
• 13:59
  over
• 14:00
  functioning.
• 14:01
  Changing
• 14:01
  how
• 14:01
  you
• 14:02
  structure
• 14:02
  your
• 14:02
  days
• 14:03
  because
• 14:03
  burnout
• 14:04
  chooses
• 14:04
  for
• 14:04
  you
• 14:05
  or
• 14:05
  committing
• 14:06
  to
• 14:06
  your
• 14:06
  craft
• 14:07
  before
• 14:07
  it's
• 14:08
  validated.
• 14:09
  It's
• 14:09
  not
• 14:09
  impulsive.
• 14:10
  It's
• 14:10
  devoted
• 14:11
  in
• 14:12
  your
• 14:12
  dreams.
• 14:13
  A
• 14:13
  plot
• 14:14
  twist
• 14:14
  might
• 14:14
  be
• 14:15
  saying
• 14:15
  yes
• 14:16
  to
• 14:16
  the
• 14:16
  thing
• 14:16
  you've
• 14:17
  been
• 14:17
  circling
• 14:18
  for
• 14:18
  years.
• 14:19
  Or
• 14:20
  letting
• 14:20
  go
• 14:20
  of
• 14:20
  a
• 14:20
  version
• 14:21
  of
• 14:21
  success
• 14:22
  that
• 14:22
  never
• 14:23
  really
• 14:23
  felt
• 14:23
  like
• 14:23
  yours.
• 14:24
  Or
• 14:24
  choosing
• 14:25
  consistency
• 14:26
  over
• 14:26
  waiting
• 14:27
  for
• 14:27
  clarity,
• 14:28
  because
• 14:28
  clarity
• 14:29
  often
• 14:29
  comes
• 14:30
  after
• 14:31
  movement
• 14:32
  in
• 14:32
  your
• 14:33
  relationships.
• 14:34
  A
• 14:34
  plot
• 14:34
  twist
• 14:35
  might
• 14:35
  be
• 14:36
  choosing
• 14:36
  honesty
• 14:37
  before
• 14:38
  resentment
• 14:38
  builds.
• 14:39
  Setting
• 14:40
  a
• 14:40
  boundary
• 14:40
  you
• 14:41
  wish
• 14:41
  you
• 14:42
  would've
• 14:42
  set
• 14:42
  sooner.
• 14:43
  Deciding
• 14:43
  to
• 14:44
  show
• 14:44
  up
• 14:44
  differently
• 14:45
  instead
• 14:45
  of
• 14:45
  repeating
• 14:46
  the
• 14:46
  same
• 14:47
  dynamics.
• 14:48
  Not
• 14:49
  because
• 14:49
  something
• 14:50
  is
• 14:50
  wrong,
• 14:50
  but
• 14:50
  because
• 14:51
  you
• 14:51
  are
• 14:51
  committed
• 14:52
  to
• 14:52
  what
• 14:53
  you
• 14:53
  are
• 14:53
  building
• 14:54
  together.
• 14:55
  Plot
• 14:55
  twists
• 14:56
  do
• 14:56
  not
• 14:56
  have
• 14:56
  to
• 14:57
  be
• 14:57
  this
• 14:57
  big
• 14:57
  production
• 14:58
  of
• 14:58
  explosions.
• 15:00
  Some
• 15:00
  of
• 15:00
  the
• 15:00
  most
• 15:00
  powerful
• 15:01
  ones
• 15:01
  are
• 15:01
  quiet
• 15:02
  decision.
• 15:03
  I'm
• 15:03
  going
• 15:04
  to
• 15:04
  take
• 15:04
  myself
• 15:04
  seriously.
• 15:05
  I'm
• 15:06
  gonna
• 15:06
  stop
• 15:06
  abandoning
• 15:07
  myself.
• 15:08
  I'm
• 15:08
  going
• 15:08
  to
• 15:08
  build
• 15:09
  a
• 15:09
  life.
• 15:10
  I
• 15:10
  don't
• 15:10
  want
• 15:11
  to
• 15:11
  escape
• 15:12
  from
• 15:13
  friend.
• 15:13
  That
• 15:14
  is
• 15:14
  devotion
• 15:15
  and
• 15:15
  self-love
• 15:16
  isn't
• 15:16
  about
• 15:16
  waiting
• 15:17
  for
• 15:17
  life
• 15:17
  to
• 15:18
  shake
• 15:18
  you
• 15:18
  awake.
• 15:19
  It's
• 15:20
  about
• 15:20
  lovingly
• 15:21
  choosing
• 15:21
  change
• 15:21
  before
• 15:23
  chaos
• 15:24
  becomes
• 15:24
  the
• 15:25
  catalyst.
• 15:27
  You
• 15:27
  are
• 15:27
  allowed
• 15:28
  to
• 15:29
  author
• 15:29
  your
• 15:30
  next
• 15:30
  chapter.
• 15:31
  You
• 15:31
  don't
• 15:31
  have
• 15:32
  to
• 15:32
  wait
• 15:33
  for
• 15:33
  discomfort
• 15:34
  to
• 15:34
  justify
• 15:35
  your
• 15:35
  growth.
• 15:36
  You
• 15:36
  don't
• 15:36
  have
• 15:36
  to
• 15:37
  wait
• 15:37
  to
• 15:37
  be
• 15:38
  laid
• 15:38
  off
• 15:39
  or
• 15:39
  wait
• 15:40
  for
• 15:40
  somebody
• 15:41
  to
• 15:41
  break
• 15:41
  up
• 15:41
  with
• 15:42
  you.
• 15:42
  You
• 15:42
  don't
• 15:43
  have
• 15:43
  to
• 15:43
  wait
• 15:43
  for
• 15:44
  a
• 15:44
  breakdown
• 15:45
  to
• 15:45
  make
• 15:46
  a
• 15:46
  change.
• 15:47
  Self-love
• 15:48
  that
• 15:48
  actually
• 15:48
  holds
• 15:49
  you.
• 15:49
  Says,
• 15:50
  I'm
• 15:50
  choosing
• 15:51
  this
• 15:51
  on
• 15:52
  purpose
• 15:53
  and
• 15:53
  that
• 15:54
  choice,
• 15:55
  that's
• 15:55
  a
• 15:55
  plot
• 15:55
  twist
• 15:56
  worth
• 15:57
  planning.
• 15:59
  Ooh,
• 16:00
  friend.
• 16:01
  If
• 16:01
  you
• 16:01
  are
• 16:01
  listening
• 16:02
  and
• 16:02
  realizing
• 16:03
  a
• 16:04
  lot
• 16:04
  of
• 16:04
  your
• 16:04
  energy
• 16:05
  goes
• 16:05
  into
• 16:05
  second
• 16:06
  guessing
• 16:06
  yourself,
• 16:07
  replaying
• 16:08
  conversations,
• 16:09
  questioning
• 16:10
  decisions,
• 16:11
  wondering
• 16:12
  if
• 16:12
  you
• 16:12
  handled
• 16:13
  something
• 16:13
  the
• 16:13
  right
• 16:13
  way,
• 16:14
  you
• 16:14
  are
• 16:14
  not
• 16:15
  alone
• 16:15
  and
• 16:15
  you
• 16:15
  are
• 16:16
  not
• 16:16
  broken.
• 16:17
  What
• 16:17
  usually
• 16:18
  gets
• 16:18
  labeled
• 16:18
  as
• 16:19
  a
• 16:19
  confidence
• 16:19
  issue
• 16:20
  is
• 16:20
  really
• 16:21
  just
• 16:21
  living
• 16:21
  in
• 16:22
  your
• 16:22
  head
• 16:22
  far
• 16:22
  too
• 16:23
  long.
• 16:23
  Without
• 16:24
  support
• 16:25
  and
• 16:25
  it's
• 16:25
  exhausting.
• 16:26
  If
• 16:27
  you
• 16:27
  are
• 16:27
  ready
• 16:27
  to
• 16:28
  step
• 16:28
  out
• 16:28
  of
• 16:28
  the
• 16:28
  loop
• 16:29
  and
• 16:29
  start
• 16:29
  choosing
• 16:30
  from
• 16:30
  self-love
• 16:31
  instead
• 16:31
  of
• 16:31
  fear,
• 16:32
  the
• 16:32
  Main
• 16:33
  Character
• 16:33
  Momentum
• 16:34
  Builder
• 16:35
  supports
• 16:35
  that
• 16:36
  exact
• 16:36
  shift.
• 16:37
  It
• 16:37
  helps
• 16:38
  you
• 16:38
  slow
• 16:39
  things
• 16:39
  down,
• 16:40
  reconnect
• 16:40
  with
• 16:41
  yourself,
• 16:41
  and
• 16:42
  move
• 16:42
  forward
• 16:42
  with
• 16:43
  clarity
• 16:43
  instead
• 16:44
  of
• 16:44
  constant
• 16:45
  self-doubt.
• 16:46
  It
• 16:46
  is
• 16:46
  there
• 16:46
  for
• 16:47
  you.
• 16:47
  The
• 16:47
  moments
• 16:48
  when
• 16:48
  you
• 16:48
  are
• 16:48
  done
• 16:49
  spiraling
• 16:50
  and
• 16:50
  ready
• 16:51
  for
• 16:51
  steadiness.
• 16:52
  You
• 16:52
  can
• 16:52
  find
• 16:53
  it
• 16:53
  linked
• 16:53
  in
• 16:53
  the
• 16:54
  show
• 16:54
  notes.
• 16:57
  Everything
• 16:57
  we've
• 16:58
  been
• 16:58
  talking
• 16:58
  about
• 16:59
  from
• 16:59
  foundation
• 17:00
  devotion,
• 17:01
  the
• 17:01
  plan
• 17:01
  plot
• 17:01
  twist
• 17:02
  only
• 17:03
  works
• 17:04
  if
• 17:04
  it
• 17:05
  actually
• 17:05
  meets
• 17:05
  you
• 17:06
  In
• 17:06
  your
• 17:07
  real
• 17:07
  everyday
• 17:08
  life,
• 17:08
  not
• 17:09
  in
• 17:09
  theory,
• 17:10
  not
• 17:10
  just
• 17:11
  a
• 17:11
  journal
• 17:11
  entry
• 17:11
  you
• 17:12
  forget
• 17:12
  about.
• 17:13
  So
• 17:13
  before
• 17:13
  we
• 17:13
  move
• 17:14
  on,
• 17:14
  I
• 17:14
  wanna
• 17:14
  just
• 17:15
  slow
• 17:15
  this
• 17:16
  down
• 17:16
  a
• 17:16
  bit.
• 17:17
  Remember,
• 17:17
  we're
• 17:18
  not
• 17:18
  fixing
• 17:19
  anything
• 17:20
  just
• 17:20
  to
• 17:20
  give
• 17:20
  you
• 17:21
  something
• 17:21
  steady
• 17:22
  to
• 17:22
  stand
• 17:22
  on
• 17:23
  Because
• 17:23
  rooted
• 17:24
  self-love
• 17:25
  isn't
• 17:25
  proven
• 17:26
  by
• 17:26
  how
• 17:26
  much
• 17:27
  you
• 17:27
  understand.
• 17:28
  It's
• 17:29
  built
• 17:29
  through
• 17:30
  what
• 17:30
  you
• 17:30
  gently
• 17:31
  repeat.
• 17:32
  So
• 17:32
  let's
• 17:33
  make
• 17:33
  this
• 17:33
  practical.
• 17:34
  Our
• 17:34
  self-love
• 17:35
  two
• 17:35
  step
• 17:36
  is
• 17:36
  the
• 17:36
  steady
• 17:37
  ground
• 17:38
  practice.
• 17:39
  It's
• 17:39
  not
• 17:39
  to
• 17:40
  fix
• 17:40
  you
• 17:40
  just
• 17:41
  to
• 17:41
  ground
• 17:42
  you.
• 17:42
  So
• 17:42
  step
• 17:43
  one.
• 17:43
  Name
• 17:44
  the
• 17:44
  weather.
• 17:45
  Notice
• 17:45
  whether
• 17:46
  you've
• 17:46
  been
• 17:46
  asking
• 17:47
  your
• 17:47
  emotions
• 17:48
  to
• 17:48
  lead
• 17:48
  your
• 17:49
  life,
• 17:49
  where
• 17:50
  a
• 17:50
  feeling
• 17:51
  decides
• 17:52
  whether
• 17:52
  you
• 17:52
  show
• 17:53
  up,
• 17:53
  whether
• 17:53
  you
• 17:54
  follow
• 17:54
  through,
• 17:55
  or
• 17:55
  keep
• 17:55
  a
• 17:55
  promise
• 17:56
  to
• 17:56
  yourself.
• 17:57
  Remember,
• 17:57
  friend,
• 17:58
  no
• 17:58
  shade,
• 17:59
  no
• 17:59
  judgment,
• 18:00
  and
• 18:00
  no
• 18:00
  correcting.
• 18:01
  Just
• 18:02
  noticing
• 18:03
  the
• 18:03
  weather
• 18:04
  without
• 18:04
  rearranging
• 18:05
  your
• 18:05
  entire
• 18:06
  life
• 18:07
  around
• 18:07
  it.
• 18:08
  Step
• 18:08
  two,
• 18:09
  choose
• 18:09
  the
• 18:10
  root.
• 18:10
  Now
• 18:11
  choose
• 18:12
  one
• 18:12
  small,
• 18:13
  steady
• 18:13
  action
• 18:14
  that
• 18:15
  supports
• 18:15
  who
• 18:16
  you
• 18:16
  are
• 18:17
  becoming,
• 18:17
  even
• 18:18
  if
• 18:18
  it's
• 18:18
  not
• 18:19
  emotionally
• 18:19
  exciting.
• 18:20
  Okay?
• 18:21
  Because
• 18:21
  sometimes.
• 18:22
  The
• 18:22
  simple
• 18:23
  things
• 18:23
  feel
• 18:24
  so
• 18:25
  a
• 18:25
  lackluster,
• 18:26
  but
• 18:26
  even
• 18:27
  if
• 18:27
  it
• 18:27
  feels
• 18:27
  simple,
• 18:28
  and
• 18:28
  even
• 18:28
  if
• 18:28
  no
• 18:29
  one
• 18:29
  sees
• 18:29
  it,
• 18:30
  it
• 18:30
  still
• 18:31
  makes
• 18:32
  a
• 18:32
  difference
• 18:33
  because
• 18:33
  consistency
• 18:34
  is
• 18:34
  love
• 18:35
  repeated,
• 18:36
  not
• 18:36
  forced,
• 18:37
  but
• 18:37
  repeated.
• 18:38
  So
• 18:39
  let
• 18:39
  this
• 18:39
  be
• 18:40
  something
• 18:40
  that
• 18:40
  you
• 18:40
  keep,
• 18:41
  not
• 18:42
  something
• 18:42
  you
• 18:42
  perform.
• 18:43
  That's
• 18:43
  it.
• 18:44
  No
• 18:44
  transformational
• 18:45
  montage
• 18:46
  required.
• 18:48
  Just
• 18:49
  steady
• 18:49
  ground.
• 18:50
  Beneath
• 18:51
  your
• 18:51
  feet.
• 18:51
  All
• 18:52
  right,
• 18:52
  friend.
• 18:52
  Now
• 18:52
  let
• 18:53
  me
• 18:53
  pour
• 18:53
  into
• 18:53
  you
• 18:54
  real
• 18:54
  quick.
• 18:54
  Let
• 18:55
  me
• 18:55
  just
• 18:55
  speak
• 18:56
  directly
• 18:56
  to
• 18:56
  you
• 18:57
  for
• 18:57
  a
• 18:57
  moment
• 18:58
  because
• 18:58
  you
• 18:59
  don't
• 18:59
  need
• 18:59
  more
• 18:59
  motivation
• 19:00
  You
• 19:00
  don't
• 19:01
  need
• 19:01
  to
• 19:01
  be
• 19:02
  harder
• 19:02
  on
• 19:03
  yourself,
• 19:04
  heavy
• 19:04
  on
• 19:05
  that
• 19:05
  friend
• 19:06
  heavy,
• 19:06
  heavy
• 19:06
  on
• 19:07
  you
• 19:07
  don't
• 19:08
  need
• 19:08
  to
• 19:08
  be
• 19:09
  harder
• 19:09
  on
• 19:10
  yourself.
• 19:11
  So
• 19:12
  many
• 19:12
  times
• 19:12
  we
• 19:13
  think
• 19:13
  that
• 19:13
  if
• 19:13
  we're
• 19:14
  harder
• 19:14
  on
• 19:14
  ourselves,
• 19:15
  that
• 19:15
  we're
• 19:16
  giving
• 19:16
  ourselves
• 19:16
  accountability,
• 19:18
  and
• 19:18
  that's
• 19:18
  what
• 19:18
  really
• 19:19
  makes
• 19:19
  us
• 19:19
  move.
• 19:20
  Friend.
• 19:20
  There
• 19:21
  is
• 19:21
  another
• 19:21
  way
• 19:22
  you
• 19:23
  can
• 19:23
  love
• 19:24
  yourself.
• 19:25
  Into
• 19:25
  your
• 19:25
  next
• 19:26
  level.
• 19:26
  You
• 19:27
  need
• 19:27
  a
• 19:27
  version
• 19:27
  of
• 19:28
  self-love
• 19:28
  that
• 19:29
  holds
• 19:29
  you
• 19:30
  on
• 19:30
  good
• 19:30
  days
• 19:31
  and
• 19:31
  the
• 19:31
  hard
• 19:32
  ones
• 19:32
  you
• 19:32
  are
• 19:33
  not
• 19:33
  behind,
• 19:34
  you
• 19:34
  are
• 19:34
  not
• 19:34
  failing.
• 19:35
  You
• 19:35
  are
• 19:35
  learning
• 19:36
  how
• 19:37
  to
• 19:37
  love
• 19:37
  yourself
• 19:38
  in
• 19:38
  a
• 19:39
  way
• 19:39
  that
• 19:40
  actually
• 19:41
  last
• 19:42
  and
• 19:42
  that
• 19:42
  kind
• 19:43
  of
• 19:43
  love.
• 19:44
  It's
• 19:44
  quiet,
• 19:45
  it's
• 19:45
  steady,
• 19:46
  and
• 19:47
  it's
• 19:47
  powerful.
• 19:49
  Your
• 19:49
  self
• 19:49
  love,
• 19:50
  the
• 19:50
  way
• 19:51
  that
• 19:51
  you
• 19:52
  decide
• 19:52
  to
• 19:53
  love
• 19:53
  yourself,
• 19:54
  the
• 19:55
  way
• 19:55
  that
• 19:55
  you
• 19:55
  decide
• 19:56
  to
• 19:56
  honor
• 19:56
  your
• 19:56
  word
• 19:57
  to
• 19:57
  yourself,
• 19:57
  and
• 19:58
  keeping
• 19:58
  those
• 19:59
  promises
• 19:59
  to
• 19:59
  yourself,
• 20:00
  the
• 20:01
  way
• 20:01
  that
• 20:01
  you
• 20:01
  decide
• 20:03
  to
• 20:03
  love
• 20:03
  yourself
• 20:04
  matters
• 20:04
  so
• 20:05
  much
• 20:06
  because
• 20:06
  that
• 20:07
  is
• 20:07
  the
• 20:07
  mirror
• 20:08
  that
• 20:08
  your
• 20:08
  life
• 20:09
  is
• 20:09
  reflecting
• 20:10
  back
• 20:10
  to
• 20:10
  you
• 20:11
  You
• 20:11
  deserve
• 20:11
  all
• 20:12
  the
• 20:12
  love
• 20:12
  your
• 20:13
  heart
• 20:13
  can
• 20:13
  hold,
• 20:15
  and
• 20:15
  it
• 20:15
  starts
• 20:16
  with
• 20:16
  your
• 20:16
  self-love.
• 20:18
  Remember,
• 20:18
  self-love
• 20:19
  isn't
• 20:19
  the
• 20:19
  performance.
• 20:21
  It's
• 20:21
  the
• 20:21
  soil
• 20:22
  and
• 20:23
  everything
• 20:23
  you
• 20:24
  want.
• 20:24
  Clarity,
• 20:25
  confidence,
• 20:26
  consistency,
• 20:27
  peace,
• 20:28
  even
• 20:28
  your
• 20:29
  career,
• 20:30
  your
• 20:30
  relationships,
• 20:31
  your
• 20:31
  dreams
• 20:32
  all
• 20:33
  grow
• 20:33
  from
• 20:33
  there.
• 20:34
  Your
• 20:34
  relationships,
• 20:36
  all
• 20:36
  of
• 20:36
  the
• 20:36
  lovely
• 20:37
  layers
• 20:37
  you
• 20:38
  wanna
• 20:38
  experience
• 20:39
  in
• 20:39
  your
• 20:39
  life,
• 20:40
  it
• 20:40
  all
• 20:41
  grows
• 20:41
  from
• 20:42
  there.
• 20:44
  So
• 20:45
  let
• 20:45
  yourself
• 20:45
  love
• 20:46
  be
• 20:46
  your
• 20:47
  foundation.
• 20:48
  Ooh.
• 20:49
  Ooh,
• 20:49
  that
• 20:49
  was
• 20:49
  good.
• 20:50
  If
• 20:50
  this
• 20:51
  episode
• 20:52
  met
• 20:52
  you
• 20:53
  where
• 20:53
  you
• 20:53
  are
• 20:54
  and
• 20:54
  moved
• 20:54
  you
• 20:55
  forward,
• 20:56
  take
• 20:56
  a
• 20:56
  moment
• 20:56
  and
• 20:57
  leave
• 20:57
  a
• 20:57
  five
• 20:58
  star
• 20:58
  review.
• 20:58
  It's
• 20:59
  one
• 20:59
  of
• 20:59
  the
• 20:59
  simplest
• 21:00
  ways
• 21:01
  to
• 21:01
  support
• 21:01
  work
• 21:02
  that
• 21:02
  actually
• 21:03
  supports
• 21:04
  you.
• 21:04
  Okay,
• 21:05
  I'll
• 21:05
  talk
• 21:05
  to
• 21:05
  you
• 21:06
  soon,
• 21:06
  my
• 21:06
  beautiful
• 21:06
  friend
• 21:07
  sending
• 21:07
  you
• 21:08
  big
• 21:08
  virtual
• 21:09
  hugs.