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Hypnosis to Feel Calm and Stoic in the Face of Triggering Events · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And in this episode of The
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  Hypnotist, you're going to be listening to a hypnosis session
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  created for a client that was going through a very difficult
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  time where they were receiving fairly aggressive emails and
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  difficult things that would quite often make them feel very
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  reactive, feel emotionally overwhelmed, and that would lead
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  to what they considered sometimes self-destructive
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  behavior. What you're going to hear in
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  this session is an element of disassociation from
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  unresourceful States and then association into resourceful
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  states. And the client didn't want to
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  feel triggered and overwhelmed and stressed.
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  They did want to feel prepared. They wanted to feel resilient.
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  They wanted to feel calm and they wanted to feel stoic and
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  pragmatic and that's what you're going to hear in this session.
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  It was created for an individual.
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  Some of the references won't relate to you or your situation,
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  but I would encourage you when you listen to this, to think of
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  where in your life do you feel triggered?
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  And that might be triggered into anger or triggered into
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  frustration or sadness even. And then when I go through these
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  moments of thinking of a memory in the past where you were
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  highly triggered, you get to think of your memory and then
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  update it the way you would want it to be.
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  The other thing is to think of someone in your life that if
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  they were handling the same situation that triggers you,
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  they wouldn't be triggered in the same way that you are.
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  They would deal with it in a much more empowered way, and by
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  thinking of that before the session starts again, you're
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  going to get more out of this session.
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  And if you do like the idea of working with me directly to have
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  a session built for you, that's also possible.
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  There is a link in the show notes where you can schedule a
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  free consultation call over Zoom with me to explore if I'm the
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  right hypnotherapist for you. For now though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in that relaxation, and as you exhale,
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  allow your eyelids to close. Bounce in, breathing in, a
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  feeling of calm, relaxation and releasing tension in the outward
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  breath. That's it.
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  I want you to create the idea of a resourceful energy, like it's
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  a bright light, perhaps a white light or a colourful light like
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  yellow or orange. And as you breathe in, just
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  imagine breathing in that bright light of resourcefulness.
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  But as you exhale, just imagine you're releasing a grey or dark
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  colour and allow this darkness to represent any emotions you've
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  been holding onto. Annoyance, frustration, stress.
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  Feel it leave your body in your outward breath, and you can
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  think of just breathing in and breathing out like a
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  transfusion. Imagine that bright, vibrant
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  light going in through your nose into your lungs.
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  And then imagine your heart distributing those powerful
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  distilled resources to every cell in your body.
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  And imagine anything that's not serving you leaving your body in
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  the same way that you don't think about breathing in oxygen
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  or exhaling carbon dioxide. It just happens.
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  But the more of this resourceful relaxation you breathe in, the
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  more relaxed you become. And the more relaxed you become,
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  the deeper you breathe. So release any tension in your
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  forehead, your jaw, your neck and shoulders, just releasing
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  and relaxing, breathing in what you need, exhaling what you
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  don't. But as your body relaxes, your
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  imagination awakens. And I want you to imagine a
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  nearby park with lots of open spaces, green fields, ancient
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  trees. But in particular, I want you to
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  think of bathing ponds. And I wonder if you could
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  imagine these bathing ponds on a summer's day with no one else
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  around. Imagine wearing whatever
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  clothing is suitable to just enjoy these bathing ponds.
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  I wonder if you could imagine starting to swim, perhaps
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  breaststroke, in the water. The water isn't warm, but it's
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  not cold. Perhaps it feels refreshing,
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  invigorating, as you feel the rhythmic movement of your body
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  gliding through the water. Notice your breathing also finds
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  a rhythm that's in and notice there is no one else around.
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  These bathing ponds out in nature feels grounding, taking
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  away any negative energy and stress and giving you a
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  wonderful feeling of vitality, energy and resourcefulness.
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  That's it. I want you to feel that somehow
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  the water is absorbing anything that is holding you back.
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  Feelings of frustration, stress, even anger.
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  Just feeling, leaving your body and just dissipating there into
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  the water. But I want you to imagine these
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  are no ordinary bathing ponds. Give them magical powers.
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  Whatever resources would be most useful for you right now.
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  Imagine somehow these resources are in the water.
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  That may be resilience. Feel your body soaking up the
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  resilience from within the water and absorbing it into you.
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  Perhaps it's amplifying already inherent stoic ways of thinking
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  to control all that you can and accept all that you can't.
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  Feel yourself becoming more resilient, more stoic, more
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  objective. Your eye is on your prize, and
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  that is a desirable future. I want you to get a sense then.
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  Right now, you may be in a dark tunnel, but you can see the
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  light at the end and it may be the case that someone is hoping
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  that you never see the end of that tunnel.
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  But as you feel this determination, perspective,
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  resilience but also optimism with every fibre of your being,
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  you know it's just a matter of time until you have the quality
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  of life perhaps you've been craving for months, if not
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  years, Want you to use the power of your imagination to imagine a
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  floating island there on these bathing ponds.
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  Perhaps it's made of wood or something else.
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  Imagine climbing up on this floating island and seeing the
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  most comfortable reclining chair possible.
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  Think of the material, think of the softness.
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  Dry yourself down and place yourself in this comfortable
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  chair on this floating island and to your surprise, you start
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  to see a giant screen appear floating over the water.
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  I want you to get a sense that this screen enables you to see
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  the past and the future. But let's go to the past first.
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  I want you to see on that screen the moment where you were highly
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  triggered. Perhaps you had uncovered
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  certain information, but I want you to be the observer.
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  You're not in the memory. You're floating on a pond, on a
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  comfy chair, looking up at a giant screen.
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  You're just seeing the memory, not reliving the memory, and I
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  want you to see it as it did happen, almost like it was
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  filmed by a documentary film crew and you're just seeing what
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  was filmed. You're in the memory, but you're
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  observing the memory. And like any good movie or TV
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  show, time isn't linear. You can jump forward, took place
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  over days or weeks, can take place in minutes on a screen,
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  but see yourself as you were, as it actually happened.
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  See how you uncovered the information.
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  See how you were emotionally affected, perhaps shaking or
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  furious. See your emotional coping
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  strategies after maybe drinking, maybe having to share this
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  information with someone you trusted.
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  See it all as it happened. But I want you to get the sense
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  that just as you used to watch old movies on Avhs recorder, you
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  could hit the rewind button when it gets to the end.
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  Just imagine you've got that remote control in your hand and
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  you hit the rewind button, so you see everything happening
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  backwards and this almost seems to take the emotion out of the
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  memory. And then when it gets to the
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  beginning, I want you to see a different version of you.
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  I want you to see the point where that version of you
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  uncovers the same information, but see that version of you
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  smiling almost with a knowing look on your face.
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  Like, of course, see that version of you, unfazed,
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  unbothered, not reacting, but equally knowing that they will
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  do something with this information.
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  And we used to see what then happens, how they communicate or
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  what they do. But this is a version of you
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  that is in control, decisive and responsive, but not reactive.
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  I want you to see that version of you not getting angry or
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  stressed or furious or anything other than pragmatic.
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  You are seeing you relive that memory in a stoic, pragmatic
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  way, dealing with it the way you would have loved to deal with it
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  if you could. Go back in time and do it,
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  knowing what you now know. And notice how a chain reaction
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  takes a different course. No need for drinking alcohol, no
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  need for intrusive thoughts or low self worth.
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  Because that version of you makes the evaluation, Then This
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  is about the decisions of someone else, that your value is
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  not linked to the standards, behaviour or choices of someone
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  else. And when you've seen that memory
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  the way you would like it to be, let me know about nodding your
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  head. Get a sense that a seed has been
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  planted deep in your subconscious mind, that a
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  crisis, a betrayal, an attempt to trigger you doesn't mean that
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  it will. I want you to go forwards in
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  time and locate a recent memory where perhaps an e-mail calls
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  used to do something that you now consider to be
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  self-destructive. Don't relive the memory.
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  Remember, you're in a comfy chair on a floating island, on a
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  bathing pond where no one else is but you.
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  So see yourself opening up a laptop, reading an e-mail, see
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  yourself smiling. You can almost read your inner
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  dialogue. Maybe it says something like
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  nice try, of course, maybe it's even a little giggle and you're
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  in a dialogue and you can just imagine hearing that even though
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  you're observing it. I want you to see that version
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  of you close the laptop and go off and do exactly what you were
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  going to do anyway, knowing that your resources exceeds any of
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  these demands. They want to trigger you, and
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  therefore to be triggered is playing their game.
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  But see a version of you that is playing your game.
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  Maybe that's a game of ambivalence, of empowerment.
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  But if it's an attempt to the war of attrition, see yourself
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  as being unbreakable, that you can play this game as long as
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  you need to, even if you don't want to, that's it.
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  And maybe see yourself handling lots of situations like that.
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  It almost feels like if the cable from a light switch to the
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  light is cut, someone can attempt to press that button,
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  but the light will never switch on and we need to get a sense
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  then this version of you has cut the link between information and
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  frustration or annoyance or stress or anger.
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  It seems to be rewired to a level of pragmatic empowerment,
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  a stoic level of I'll deal with this on my terms.
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  In fact, the more they attempt to trigger you, the more stoic,
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  empowered, perhaps even playful you become, knowing that it wins
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  in two different ways. You feel better about what's
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  happening and they feel more frustrated.
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  That their attempt to coerce you to break you is simply building
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  you up. Perhaps you have a flashback of
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  an old children's movie. There's always that one scene
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  where the energy attempting to destroy ends up charging up the
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  hero or the villain to make them even stronger.
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  What if their attempt to break you emboldens you, increases
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  your mental fortitude, makes you more resilient?
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  I want you to get a sense. Then there is a different path.
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  Find yourself there, back on that chair and and feeling
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  comfortable and then see someone you admire in a crisis and
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  perhaps you can see them at a point where they were dealing
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  with something complex, difficult, something that would
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  really challenge and trigger the average person.
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  But see them dealing with it in a way.
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  But they seem to be objective. They evaluated all the
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  information, but almost like an exceptional general, perhaps had
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  a feeling that running into battle would be the worst thing
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  to do. Instead, they evaluated all of
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  their options, incubated those ideas, and then were decisive
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  when they wanted to be decisive. I want you to see that version
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  of them that you admire, and then imagine stepping into the
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  screen feeling resourceful in the way that they are
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  resourceful. Harness that objectivity, that
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  perspective, the ability not to be triggered or reactive, but to
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  be able to gather the information and respond in your
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  terms. I want you to feel that resource
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  in your body somewhere. Maybe it's in your heart, your
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  head, or somewhere else, and just point to where you feel
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  that. Yeah.
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  And then imagine a three-dimensional object in that
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  place, could be a cube, a pyramid or something else.
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  Give it a colour, notice if it moves, and if it does, make it
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  move faster in that same direction.
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  Maybe it's pulsating or spinning.
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  Whatever colour you give it, amplify that colour until it
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  grows, grows and glows until you feel that feeling of
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  resourcefulness even more intently.
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  Consider this a superpower. Many people find themselves in
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  awful predicaments because they are triggered and react.
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  I want you to get a sense that this is the ability to respond
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  on your terms, and your terms could be your time frames in
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  your way. I want you to get a sense that
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  this is linked to feelings of infinite resourcefulness,
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  powerful resilience. This version of you doesn't need
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  anything to cope. This version of you almost has a
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  bring it on attitude. Is this the best you can do?
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  It almost feels like it's too easy for you to handle these
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  things. So take that feeling, return
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  back to the chair and then imagine seeing yourself on that
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  large screen floating over the pond a day from now, a week from
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  now, where you get perhaps a very aggressive or unfair e-mail
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  to see yourself on the screen with that glowing colour there
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  in that location. This time it feels like you're
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  harnessing the power of you at your most resourceful.
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  Maybe see yourself knowing that this is the future, receiving
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  some information. It could be a long letter by
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  e-mail that could be hearing information that's been said
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  about you that just isn't true. But instead of seeing yourself
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  triggered or bothered or annoyed, see yourself calm,
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  perhaps even smiling. See yourself with skin so thick
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  you feel more resilient than a rhinoceros.
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  You are impenetrable to be triggered.
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  I want you to get a sense that you're observing the future
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  version of you, handling whatever the event is in a
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  responsive, elegant, calm way. When you see the future version
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  of you dealing with it in the way you would like to deal with
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  it, let me know by nodding your head, rewind it, and then step
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  into the screen. Now imagine whatever's happening
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  is happening to you like it's happening in the present.
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  Maybe you're reading an e-mail, Maybe you're hearing something.
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  But now feel how you would feel if the same thing happened and
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  you were unfazed. Unflappable.
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  The very opposite of being triggered.
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  Maybe you feel I can handle this.
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  You get a sense that each of these events still means you're
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  getting closer to the light at the end of that tunnel.
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  If it's a war of attrition they want and you feel unbreakable,
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  then it can only go the way you want it to go.
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  If it feels like you can really handle this with no desire to do
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  anything destructive, anything linked to self pity, this is a
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  confident, calm, stoic version of you.
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  If it feels that your resources exceed this demand, let me know
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  by nodding your head that's in and get a sense then this is now
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  your default. The more they try and trigger
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  you, the more resourceful you become.
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  And if there are any moments that catch you off guard, that
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  would just be like boot camp, like training.
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  Your brain will learn how to handle the same situation in a
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  more empowered way. The next time something similar
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  happens. You either win or you learn.
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  There is no going backwards. Allow yourself to be back there
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  on that chair on the floating pond and just decide it's time
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  to swim back to those open spaces.
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  But you feel a reinvigorated, refreshed version of you has
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  returned. Something with more left in the
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  tank that you can handle whatever life throws at you as
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  you return. Feel like you're returning to
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  the here and now, taking all of these resources, strategies, and
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  ideas back with you. Feeling like you have an edge.
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  That if the same things that bothered you before now happen,
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  you can handle it in the way you decide.
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  So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose. Just wiggle your fingers and
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  wiggle your toes. Start to calibrate the here and
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  now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 Waking up 456.
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  More alert 7-8 Open your eyes. Open your eyes 910.
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  Wide awake, Wide awake. Wide awake.
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