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Turn Off the Reruns: Creating Your Own Story After Divorce · Bent Not Broken: Starting Over After Divorce | Post Divorce Life

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to another episode of Bent Not Broken.
• 0:04
  SPEAKER_00: Heartbreak and trauma may feel like the end of your story, but here it's the beginning of a bold new chapter.
• 0:14
  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Coach Deborah Griffiths, and this is the space where women rise, rebuild, and rediscover their purpose.
• 0:23
  SPEAKER_00: Remember this truth.
• 0:25
  SPEAKER_00: You are bent not broken.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to this bent not broken bonus episode.
• 0:37
  SPEAKER_00: I'm Coach Deborah, and today I want to dive deeper into the conversation I had with my dear friend, Media Maven, and all-around powerhouse Julie Logan.
• 0:49
  SPEAKER_00: We unpacked how television has shaped our understanding of family, marriage, and divorce.
• 0:57
  SPEAKER_00: Often in ways we didn't even realize.
• 1:00
  SPEAKER_00: From I love Lucy to the Brady Bunch, and from Roseanne to the Kardashians, media has not only reflected our lives, but rewritten what normal looks like.
• 1:13
  SPEAKER_00: But here's the truth.
• 1:15
  SPEAKER_00: You get to write your own script now.
• 1:18
  SPEAKER_00: So I want to offer you some coaching tips.
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_00: Tip number one, recognize the highlight reel effect.
• 1:27
  SPEAKER_00: What we see on TV and even on social media is rarely real life.
• 1:34
  SPEAKER_00: It's a highlight reel, edited for entertainment.
• 1:38
  SPEAKER_00: In the same way, many of us carry internal scripts about what a family should look like.
• 1:45
  SPEAKER_00: The perfect homes, happy kids, flawless relationships.
• 1:50
  SPEAKER_00: But life doesn't come with a script.
• 1:54
  SPEAKER_00: It's messy, unpredictable, and beautifully unscripted.
• 2:00
  SPEAKER_00: Ask yourself, what outdated script am I still trying to live by?
• 2:06
  SPEAKER_00: Is it the perfect family ideal?
• 2:09
  SPEAKER_00: Or the belief that I failed because my family looks different now?
• 2:15
  SPEAKER_00: Let's start rewriting those lines.
• 2:18
  SPEAKER_00: You haven't failed, you've evolved.
• 2:22
  SPEAKER_00: Tip number two, detach from comparison culture.
• 2:27
  SPEAKER_00: Shows like Modern Family and Sister Wives make us believe chaos can still be funny, but comparison can be cruel.
• 2:36
  SPEAKER_00: If you find yourself comparing your healing journey, your parenting, or even your happiness to what others portray online, pause.
• 2:46
  SPEAKER_00: Shift your focus.
• 2:48
  SPEAKER_00: Instead of asking, why isn't my life like theirs?
• 2:52
  SPEAKER_00: Ask, what's one thing I can be grateful for in my own story today?
• 2:58
  SPEAKER_00: Gratitude grounds you in your truth, not someone else's illusion.
• 3:04
  SPEAKER_00: Tip number three, redefine what family means to you.
• 3:10
  SPEAKER_00: Family isn't always defined by blood or marriage.
• 3:13
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it's your circle of friends, your community, your children, or even your accountability partner.
• 3:22
  SPEAKER_00: Try this exercise.
• 3:25
  SPEAKER_00: Write down your own definition of family in one sentence.
• 3:29
  SPEAKER_00: Who shows up for you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who brings you peace, not pressure?
• 3:34
  SPEAKER_00: That's your true family.
• 3:37
  SPEAKER_00: Tip number four, give yourself permission to change the story.
• 3:42
  SPEAKER_00: Television evolves, and so do we.
• 3:45
  SPEAKER_00: The great divorce trend we discussed with Julie shows that people over 50 are choosing purpose over pretense.
• 3:54
  SPEAKER_00: Ask yourself, if I were the main character of my story, what chapter would I write next?
• 4:01
  SPEAKER_00: Would it be about freedom, peace, or rediscovery?
• 4:04
  SPEAKER_00: Remember, you don't need a network's approval to rewrite your story.
• 4:09
  SPEAKER_00: You just need courage and maybe a little popcorn along the way.
• 4:13
  SPEAKER_00: So here's your bent not broken challenge this week.
• 4:17
  SPEAKER_00: Turn off the reruns in your living room and in your mind.
• 4:22
  SPEAKER_00: Don't replay the story of what went wrong.
• 4:25
  SPEAKER_00: Start scripting what comes next.
• 4:28
  SPEAKER_00: Because healing isn't about pretending your old story didn't exist.
• 4:33
  SPEAKER_00: It's about reclaiming the pen and choosing what happens now.
• 4:39
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for joining me for this bonus episode.
• 4:42
  SPEAKER_00: Until next time, remember, you may be bent, but you are never broken.
• 4:50
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for listening to today's episode of Bent Not Broken.
• 4:54
  SPEAKER_00: I hope that this episode reminded you that even through life's toughest moments, you are bent, not broken.
• 5:03
  SPEAKER_00: If this message inspired you, please share, rate, review, and subscribe, as it helps us reach more women who are ready to rise and rebuild.
• 5:14
  SPEAKER_00: And until next time, keep living bold and walking in your purpose.