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Starving the Parasite of Low Self Worth · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And in this hypnosis session,
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  you're going to be listening to a metaphorical session designed
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  to tackle a behaviour that would be linked to low self worth.
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  And I see this a lot in the clients that I work with that
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  are addicted to something. And normally the addiction comes
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  about because there was a time in their life where whatever
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  that thing was made them feel. Better.
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  And maybe that. Was a substance or alcohol or
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  food? Or a behaviour.
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  But there was a time that actually it was helpful, it was
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  useful, but now it's become ingrained to the point that when
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  they feel certain things could be.
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  Stress, anxiety, boredom, loneliness.
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  It leads to replaying of that particular behaviour.
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  And in. Doing so that can lead to
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  feelings of low self worth, and the low self worth comes from
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  the knowledge that one, this isn't really helping, it's just
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  a substitute, and secondly, that they are capable of living up to
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  a higher standard. So if you're feeling low self
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  worth linked to a behavior, maybe there's shame connected to
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  it, maybe there's frustration or irritation.
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  Connected to it. It's a clue that you're falling
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  below your standards, and this session uses a metaphor of a
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  parasite. And parasites are normally
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  creatures that live inside or on a host.
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  So sometimes you get parasites on the, on the outside.
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  So if you think of a flea on a dog, it's on the outside of the,
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  of the animal. But sometimes you have parasites
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  on the inside, like intestinal worms.
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  And they, they feed on whatever the host consumes.
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  They kind of feed on that. And sometimes, you know,
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  internal organs and, and horrible things like that.
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  The reason it works as a metaphor is because it's linked
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  to disgust. It's something perceived as
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  very. Undesirable and that.
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  Unlocks the motivation to think I will do whatever it takes to
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  remove this parasite. This is not a physical parasite,
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  it's an emotional parasite and it's a parasite that is aiming
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  to do something positive, but in doing so creates something awful
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  for the individual, particularly if it erodes self esteem and
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  confidence and, and all of those kind of things.
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  And sometimes there can be a financial or an emotional or a
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  time penalty for whatever the behaviour is.
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  So in this hypnosis session, I encourage the client that it was
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  created for to consider how they meet the underlying need in a
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  more elegant way. The underlying need for this was
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  connection stimulation and real experiences.
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  You know, stimulation mainly so by them seeking out real
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  stimulation that could be physical stimulation like
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  exercise, intellectual stimulation like learning
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  something new, sensory stimulation like a cold shower
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  or being out in nature. These are kind of things that
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  would enable them to meet the same need without needing to go
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  back to this addiction or behavior.
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  I think if you really want to create a change that is doing
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  something to your confidence levels and self worth, you'll
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  get some value from this. It was created for an individual
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  though, so therefore not all of the suggestions are going to
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  make sense for you. The metaphor might not map
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  across entirely, so if you do like the idea of working with me
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  directly, there will be a link in the description where you can
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  schedule a completely free consultation call to explore
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  working with me. For now though.
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  Find a quiet, comfortable place where you won't be.
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  Disturbed, relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  resourceful and relaxation. And as you exhale, feel a
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  wonderful sense of release, the tension, stress and worries can
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  start to leave your body in that outward breath.
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  That's it. Breathing in relaxation,
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  exhaling tension, enabling you to drift to that place.
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  A wonderful place where you get to go deeper and deeper into a
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  part of your subconscious where powerful, profound changes.
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  Can take place. Naturally and permanently.
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  So as you. Breathe in and breathe out.
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  Allow your body to feel like it's getting more and the more
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  relaxed and the deeper relaxed you
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  become, the deeper you breathe. And because you're breathing
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  deeper, you can feel even more relaxed, breathing in that
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  resourceful relaxation and continuing to exhale that
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  tension, stress, and worries. Breathing in and breathing out,
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  each breath taking you deeper and deeper into a place of
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  safety, clarity and empowerment. Letting go with each exhale.
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  Just feel your body relaxing around your jaw, your neck, and
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  your shoulders, just releasing echoes of tension, as though old
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  habits are drifting away like leaves on a stream or clouds in
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  the sky. And I'd like you to imagine
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  place in beautiful nature, maybe a forest, a lake, a beach, or a
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  mountain. Feel the freshness, sense of
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  clarity that you're breathing in that fresh air.
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  But I want you to imagine something odd.
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  Imagine an old door just hovering there, not connected to
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  a building, just a door and a frame there in nature.
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  I'm going to countdown from 5:00 to 1:00 and you will imagine
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  walking through the door and on the other side of the door will
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  be an impressive spiral staircase that you're standing
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  at the top of, but that's on the other side of the door.
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  For now, let's walk through the door from nature to the
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  staircase Five. Imagine putting your hand on the
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  handle, 4 turning the handle, 3 opening the door, 2 walking
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  through the door, and one closing the door behind you.
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  And now you're no longer in nature.
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  You're at the top of a descending, winding spiral
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  staircase. Each step down the staircase is
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  taking you deeper and deeper into your subconscious mind, the
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  very place where change happens, where old patterns dissolve and
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  a new identity emerges. That's it.
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  Imagine walking down, deep down, and each step down the staircase
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  takes you deeper and deeper. Relaxed breathing deeper,
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  exhaling for longer. Muscles relax in your forehead,
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  your jaw, your neck, and your shoulders.
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  Keep walking down that staircase, arms feeling limp,
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  loose and heavy. So heavy.
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  That's in breathing from your diaphragm.
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  Now keep walking down the staircase, deeper and deeper
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  down, legs feeling limp, loose heavy internal organs starting
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  to relax, and you become aware of a sensation in your gut.
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  Your intestines ignore that sensation and can carry on
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  walking down the staircase. Until you get.
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  Right to the bottom. Imagine the basement of your
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  subconscious mind. And deep in the shadows of your
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  subconscious, I'd like you to imagine a creature, a parasite,
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  something that slithered in long ago.
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  Many parasites. Are hidden.
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  Away in something desirable, hidden in delicious food.
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  And maybe this parasite, an emotional parasite, found its
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  way in in something that seemed fascinating, desirable,
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  alluring, something from your childhood.
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  Imagine it found its way in to the very gut of your sense of
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  self worth and use the power of your imagination to imagine a
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  disgusting, bloated, long, slimy intestinal worm.
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  But this worm does not feed on your food or your body, but on
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  your value, your integrity, your own standards and self respect.
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  And every now and then it whispers to you through your
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  intuition, encouraging you to seek out fabricated connection,
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  synthetic pleasure, cheap pixelated illusions of intimacy.
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  And maybe it hijacks real emotions like stress and
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  overwhelm. Maybe you hear it as an inner
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  dialogue voice. Maybe it says go on.
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  It encourages you to look on a device.
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  And we know it erodes and feeds on yourself worth.
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  Because there is secrecy, something you hide.
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  There is shame connected. Maybe it toys with your
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  emotions, saying that you deserve it, telling you that no
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  one will know, urging you to do it just one more time.
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  But each time you listen, it grows stronger.
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  And that version of you that is full of pride, self esteem and
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  self respect grows dimmer. And when you allow the parasite
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  to persuade you, to manipulate you, the clue is the irritation
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  and the low self worth that follows echoes of shame, a sense
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  that you've slipped below your own standards.
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  But that's not weakness, that's your true self trying to scream
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  through the noise. The irritation is not with other
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  people, it's with you. Your unconscious knows you're
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  capable of better, more, that you deserve real stimulation or
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  real connection. There is a battle within you, a
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  part of you that knows yourself worth and the parasite that
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  tries to lower it. And the part that knows your
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  worth is trying to wake you up, to fight back.
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  Because this parasite, this disgusting worm like creature
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  only survives on fake stimulation, endless scrolling,
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  mindless urges, disconnected screens.
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  There. Is a way.
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  To kill this parasite, everything has an Achilles heel.
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  What this? Parasite can't stand is high
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  standards and real stimulation. It can't digest that.
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  It's a poison to it. What it chokes on and suffocates
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  on is real life. I want you to imagine starving
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  that parasite of low self worth. No matter how hard it tries, you
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  simply stop feeding it unlike anything that feels like it's
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  very existence is threatened. Maybe it tries harder, but the
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  harder it tries, the more you're determined and resolute in your
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  desire to remove it. And there's many ways that you
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  can poison or starve this parasite.
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  You could go for a run or a jog, a long hike.
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  When you feel the oxygen in your lungs, the muscles firing, that
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  parasite recoils. When you hug someone you care
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  about, when you feel that warmth connection, it burns the
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  parasite. And when you learn something
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  new, when you feed your mind, that intellectual fire scorches
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  it from the inside, and when you sit with someone eye to eye, not
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  for validation but mindful connection, the parasite gets
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  weaker. And each time, each time you
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  ignore the whisper, you starve it.
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  You are reclaiming yourself worth.
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  You're reclaiming your time, your energy, your value.
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  All along you've craved something real.
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  And this parasite, it's just an echo from your childhood, at a
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  time when a poor quality substitute felt somehow
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  valuable, but it was only meant to be a stepping stone to real
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  experiences. Not a fortress you retreat to,
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  but a stepping stone you never need to return to.
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  So from this moment forward, every urge, it's not a command,
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  it's a test, a challenge. In fact, you want it to be
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  tenacious, to try it's hardest to get you to fall back into an
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  old habit, because this is where you get to defeat the parasite.
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  In every good story, the hero goes on a journey and the old
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  version of them has to die for the new version of them to
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  exist. But that change is always tested
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  by facing their nemesis. This parasite is your nemesis,
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  and you will defeat it in battle.
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  At a time when things are stressful or overwhelming, or
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  you feel lonely or bored, that's when this parasite will try and
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  take its opportunity, and that is your best opportunity to
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  defeat it. When you are at your most
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  vulnerable. If you can win that battle, you
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  can win any battle. And in doing so, you become the
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  version of yourself that values yourself, the version of you
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  that honours your energy. The version of you that takes
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  pride in being discerning with your time, your focus, your
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  attention. The kind of person who doesn't
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  need scraps of digital debris to feel alive.
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  You don't need to scavenge for connection or stimulation
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  because you can seek and discover and experience so much
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  of what's fully real. And what if each time that urge
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  appeals, you smile, you recognise you're being tested
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  once again and you choose to feed them ideal version of you
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  rather than feed the parasite? Stimulation can come in many
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  forms. Freezing cold shower, a workout,
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  a walk in nature, a phone call, a book, deep breathing, learning
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  something new. You can stimulate yourself with
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  real things so you don't need echoes of the past.
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  Because you're not just killing a parasite.
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  You are reclaiming and resurrecting your power.
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  I want you to imagine it's two months from now, see yourself
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  waking up with energy, focus and clarity, and you can tell from
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  your expression that you're proud of yourself.
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  High self esteem, high confidence.
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  Other people notice the difference in your eyes, in your
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  posture, in your presence. Imagine two months from now,
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  that old voice, that manipulative parasite tries just
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  one more time, but now it's a faint echo and you laugh because
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  you've already won. And that version you are in two
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  months time will not succumb to something synthetic and fake and
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  processed because you're not starving.
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  You have so much fulfilment for what's real.
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  You don't need that poor quality substitute anymore.
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  And that future version of you, I want you to see someone trying
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  to provoke you, annoy you, irritate you.
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  But that version of you has such high confidence and self esteem
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  aligned with what you truly value.
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  You don't need to play the game of anyone else.
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  See yourself confident, self assured, aligned with wonderful
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  resources that move you forward. It's time to leave that place
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  with a glimpse of the future that reassures you that starving
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  the parasite is exactly what's required to lead you to the
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  future that you deserve and desire.
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  So imagine walking up that spiral staircase and walking
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  through a door, finding yourself back out in nature.
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  But it's this new version of you that returns.
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  Not the old version. The version of you utterly
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  convinced. Not that you can starve the
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  parasite, but that you will. So take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Just wiggle your fingers, wiggle your toes, connect and calibrate
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  into the here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to
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  awaken you. Starting to count 123, waking up
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  456, more alert. 7-8. Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes 910 Wide awake, Wide awake.
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