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Love Your Love Muscle - Money, Worry & the Feeling of Having Enough · Transformational Meditation Podcast

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Hello everyone, Seb here from the Transformational Meditation Group.
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Good to have you back on our biweekly podcast,
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and as you can see, we are not in nature, and I
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don't have a guest even today.
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We're back to basics.
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We had a long run of practically quite
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special episodes, but now we're back to basics,
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what we used to do, a little talk, and then some self-regulation and
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meditation techniques.
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The theme for today though is pretty interesting, I guess.
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Or I think, and it's something that many
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people are interested in
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recently because of current events in the world.
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And it's about money.
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And you might think, well, money is always an issue, and yeah, it's
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the way you look at things.
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Because even billionaires, They
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worry about money, like normally you would think I have a lack of
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money, but even billionaires, that have a lot of money,
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they even have, yeah,
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a negative relationship with it.
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An example is a billionaire with a private jet, maybe
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several private jets, and due to recent circumstances,
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the jet fuel prices going up.
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I know it's a luxury problem, but for them, they are
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in a whole different world, right?
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For them, it stresses them out.
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Uh, Normal advice would be,
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uh, let your jets, sell your jets,
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or keep it on the ground, or fly less.
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So, but yeah, it's actually the same as with people that own a car.
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After a while.
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You see the gasoline prices go up, and
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then you have, essentially, a
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similar problem as the billionaire, like maybe you have to
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drive your car less.
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Um, maybe you can exchange it with a bus,
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or other public transport, maybe you take the bike, if you have one.
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Uh, so yeah, uh, but so
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you see billionaire or not billionaire.
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People worry about money.
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Nevertheless.
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So, it's the same reaction our body has.
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It's the same thoughts we have.
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It's the same stress situation, whether you have enough money or not.
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What does help is the way you look at things.
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and your other situations, because often
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people say, um, money is a
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problem for me, but it's not actually the money, that's the problem.
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Maybe it's the other things around it.
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Maybe you're insecure.
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Maybe your relationships, uh, your
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family and friends aren't that good.
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So what means that if I lose a lot of money, I can't get
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by it anymore.
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I have nothing to lean on.
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Maybe the state, maybe you live in a country, the
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state, doesn't help you, or you have to, uh,
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maybe sell things or stop using things
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buy other things that are cheaper.
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Uh, those are maybe the very,
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the worrying parts, not the money in itself.
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So, in South America, especially, we
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can learn a lot for those people there, because they,
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even though they have not a lot of money, they have
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social security, they have a social network, they have their
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family and friends, and
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loved ones, that are always there to support them.
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They have a different way of being social with each other.
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In the in the west, in North America,
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and in Europe, we often see that people are more lonely.
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Right?
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They, they have money, they can get by, but
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they don't have anyone to fall back on in case of
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trouble, so that security isn't there,
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unless, uh, you get money
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from social security, from the state, for example, but
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even that might give insecurities as well for you.
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Maybe you're not sure if you, um,
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if you uh, can apply for such uh,
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such things.
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And then again, it's nice to have friends and family that
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can help you out that you know, okay, those people,
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they will always support me, uh, no matter what.
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So, maybe, Instead
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of worrying about money.
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We should worry about our social situation.
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The security I have.
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And Also, do you trust yourself?
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Do you trust yourself in making the right decisions when it comes to money?
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Do I have the skills, the experience, the ability to ask
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for help because that's also important in the situation?
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Can I ask for help?
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Because many people do want to help?
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Because they feel good about it, but some many
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people also feel ashamed for asking for help.
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And that's also a different thing with people in the West, in Europe,
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and in North America, in comparison to people in the
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South Americans, and Asia, and in Africa,
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where people are used to ask for help.
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They don't feel it as a shameful thing to do.
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And they generally need some help and they gladly
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ask others to help them out.
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So you shouldn't be ashamed for that.
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Also recognize that you might have just enough, right?
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Uh, how you how you're living right now?
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Do you feel comfortable?
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And even if you, uh, in
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an unforeseeable future, notice
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that you might have less money.
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Are there things that you can get rid of things that
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you don't have to buy and still live comfortable?
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Maybe you should realize that, am
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I comfortable without a car, for example, if the
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expenses for a car rise through the roof?
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What can I do?
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So you have to also accept.
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certain things and take a look at yourself.
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Do you appreciate what you have?
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And then we get to our heart brain coherence and exercise
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often, like feel the appreciation,
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feel the comfort, even if you
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might think you don't have it.
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There's a lot to be appreciative about and
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thankful about.
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Notice what already supports your life while allowing yourself
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to improve your circumstances, right?
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So, if you get in that negative
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spiral of, oh, I don't have enough, I don't have enough.
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I lack this, and everything is bad.
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You get in a negative spiral, there you only will experience
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things that, um, that, uh,
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that fit with that view you
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have with those feelings you have, right?
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You get the confirmation that, oh, yeah, it
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is bad, and then you experience things and see things happening
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that will confirm, confirm that feeling.
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Well, when we treat to appreciations and say, hey,
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I'm doing good, despite the circumstances,
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and when I am
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able to buy something in the grocery store, or
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some product, and say, hey, I
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appreciate that I'm able to do this, switch to
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switch that feeling mode, to the appreciation
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and gratitude mode.
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Um, it will help.
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And of course, knowledge, do you know your basics about money?
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Do you understand money?
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And do you understand your own reactions to it as well?
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Because you might have been taught
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to think a certain way about money because of the
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way we grew up, how did
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our parents work with money, what did they do?
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How did they complain or not complain about money,
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and we inherit that?
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So, uh, maybe you want to look at that too.
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But what can I do about my own view about money?
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And the current view I have now might come
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from society, family, and friends, or family.
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Um,
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Also, instead of worrying about the future, which
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we often do, and then reflecting
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about past happenings as well.
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Recognize that you don't have control.
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You don't have feel control.
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We can, we always think what is the worst thing that can happen, right?
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And we start to worry about it.
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And then we can get into that negative spiral that everything is bad.
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And you don't have enough and you lack everything.
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Um, But when you
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go into yourself and think about, okay, what do I have now?
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What do I need now?
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Are all my needs met?
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And if not, what can I do about certain
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things here and now?
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Take it one step, one thing at a time, and
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then you will notice your growth.
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You notice you're getting out of it, even if it sucks right now, right?
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You know, that you are getting out of it.
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Maybe you do need to ask for help.
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Don't feel ashamed for it.
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Ask a friend, a family member for help, uh,
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to get started by growing.
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And then of course, you can always help them back.
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So it doesn't say that financial hardship isn't real, right?
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People, uh, some people are in a very bad shape
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financially, uh, don't have to downplay
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that, and we don't have to be judgmental about it either.
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Say, hey, you know, it's your own fault, for example.
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There are situations where it's not people's fault.
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And they have been so unlucky to
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get into that bad situation.
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And instead of judging it, maybe you should be the one helping out.
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Um, on social media.
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You know, I'm on Vero, true social, actually, I
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would say that's the only social media platform that still exists.
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Um, But there
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are people sometimes asking for help.
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And when I see that, and I think, hey, you know,
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you're following me, and you're asking everybody
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for help, and you're explaining the situation, you are, and
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even you have like a,
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not a patreon page for a PayPal account or,
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you are on a other service that,
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where you can send money, which is, which then gets, given to you.
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I'm not sure how it called anymore.
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There are several websites, services online.
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where people can ask for help for donations, and those are
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official organizations and companies.
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So you know that your money is safe,
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that you're not spending it on some scammer or hacker, right?
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So be careful about that.
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Be careful who you trust your money too.
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But, uh, knowing that on very true
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social, most people are 99% of
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the people there are real people, and when they ask for help and even
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come with a PayPal account, you can donate on,
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or they have a, uh, a donation,
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uh, webpage on an official donation site,
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uh, it's pretty safe to give money.
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And, um, I haven't even
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have experienced that I got some money back because those organizations
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found out that it was a scam, nevertheless.
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So be careful when giving
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money away, but don't stop
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helping people.
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So just be mindful of what you do.
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And if you have many to spend, money
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to spend, if you have money, uh, do it,
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help people out that need it.
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Uh, if you've been following me and the transformational
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meditation group for a couple of years, you know that
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at least 2 to 3 times a year, uh,
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we as an organization or I
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wouldn't say business because we don't really make money,
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but sometimes we, we, we get uh,
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money in that we can't spend anything
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useful for and say, okay, let's
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spend it on our followers.
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Right?
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Let's spend it on the people we know.
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And the last donation we made
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was to Way To Yourself,
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the German organization, that helps people in Uganda,
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setting up schools, education, that sort of things.
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So we send some money there.
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And because they need help to people there, need some
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help and they're not afraid to ask either.
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So, do it.
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It doesn't have to be much money eater, just
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the act of giving something,
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helping somebody out, uh, is helps a lot.
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And, um, like I heard saying as
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well, like if you have 30 friends,
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and they all chime in $10, right?
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You get a lot of money, you get a lot of help.
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And every friend just gives a little, right?
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So, it helps a lot, those donation
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sites and, and yeah,
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I really are able to help people out.
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So those are good causes.
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And if you have enough, You
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will also notice that even, even when
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you give, you always get a lot back in return as well.
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It's my experience at least.
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And I think it was the late Wayne Dyer, uh,
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pretty well-known author, um,
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psychologist, I'm not mistaken.
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Uh, he was, he always tells the story, he
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used to tell the story about him being a bad financial situation.
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He didn't have much, but he still was able to give
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money or services to other people.
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And because he was, he didn't have much, and he still gave it away.
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He actually got a lot of goodwill in return
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and actually became a pretty successful author
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and public speaker too.
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So, the act of giving, the act of being grateful,
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appreciation, those kind of
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feelings, those kind of frequencies that you can
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adjust to, that you can self regulate, are
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pretty awesome, and are great to get
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through even the hardest times.
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So, yeah.
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I would say let's practice this, right?
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Let's look at our own financial situation
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and think over all those things
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one more time.
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So sit up straight.
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Find a comfortable position, make sure you have good enough support,
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and it's to assure self-regulation session,
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to get a nervous system or being in the
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right shape, to uh, to cope
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with worries about money or even decide
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to take some action, uh, recording our situation.
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Which could be asking people for help or even if you
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have enough, you realize you have enough, give some money away
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to help other people out.
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Okay.
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Sit up straight, take a nice deep email through your nose.
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And exhale through your mouth.
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Lower your shoulders, loosen your jaw, close your eyes.
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One more time, take a nice deep inhale through your nose.
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Exhale through your mouth.
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Feel yourself getting centered, letting the day go.
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Just be there with yourself in your comfort zone, settle
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down, breathe calmly and deeply.
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Nice, calm, deep breath.
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And relax with every out breath even further.
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Getting more and more comfortable.
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More and more with yourself.
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And only just by breathing like this, you
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already tell your body that it is in a safe place.
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Notice where you feel your breath the most.
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Do you feel your breath most in your nostrils, or
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the back of your throat, or maybe you feel your
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breath most in your chest or your tummy?
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Just focus for a moment on that spot where
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you feel your breath the most.
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Notice the quality of the breath, Maybe
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you feel colder air flowing in, you breathe in.
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And warm air flowing out as you exhale.
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Nice, calm, deep breathes.
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Continue with that.
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And now move that focus point into your heart space, and
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you can put your hand on your chest right there where your heart is.
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Just to keep that focus into your heart space.
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Now imagine that you are breathing through your heart, that
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the air goes in and out of your chest area, through your heart.
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Calm, slow, deep breaths through your heart, and
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it really gets that heart rate, variability, very
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balanced and coherent.
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Which, in turn, balances our nervous system, gives optimal
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flow of information throughout our body,
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between all our organs and especially between the brain and the heart.
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This is so important if you want to change your
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state of being, To calm
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down your nervous system, to get your system, your organs,
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your information flowing balance and optimized.
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Then really changing your state of being has a lot of effect.
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So you breathe through your heart
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If you take a look at your current financial situation,
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Are you getting by?
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Do you have enough?
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And even if you have enough, or maybe if you not have enough,
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Can you appreciate what you have?
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Think about some things that you.
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Appreciate what you have right now.
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Notice what already support your life.
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Even if you know that you want some things to improve.
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Notice that there are always things that already things you
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appreciate, that you have, that you can appreciate.
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And even the opportunity you have to
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improve your situation.
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You can be appreciative of that, and thankful for that.
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Think about your ability to ask for help.
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Or think about your ability to provide help to others.
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Imagine that you are able to provide for others and
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imagine how it feels, to ask
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for help, without feeling ashamed, and people even appreciate
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you for asking help.
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Feel that relief.
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Of asking help.
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I feel that relief and gratitude to be able to help others.
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Continue breathing to your heart as you create that situation inside of you.
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Now think about your past.
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How did you grow up, or did you learn at school about money?
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How did your parents, your family, treat money?
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What were their views on money, and do
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you recognize maybe something you inherited from
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them, from those views?
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And are those beneficial or should you let them go?
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And finally, Think about what needs
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your attention right now.
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What needs your attention, money wise,
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in your financial situation?
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This could be nothing, it could be several things, but 1st and foremost.
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Pick one thing that you want to focus on.
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What do you want to focus on from today off?
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What are you anticipating and what useful steps can you take?
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Then I should breathe through your heart, see yourself, succeed with those steps.
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As if it is happening right now, if you're succeeding right now.
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Feel the appreciation, the gratitude.
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The relieve, the joy.
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Maybe you feel proud of yourself.
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Taking steps, taking action.
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All right.
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Good, uh, breathe normally, get back.
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Get back to the room you are in.
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Maybe wiggle your fingers and toes, move your body.
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Hang on to those, that new state of being of gratitude, appreciation.
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Wonderful, open your eyes if you had them closed, welcome back, welcome back.
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Good.
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So here you have it, right?
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And notice that even billionaires, they worry
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about money, though.
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They have more flexibility, of course, to deal with those
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situations, but nevertheless, worry is a worry.
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And it affects them in the same way as
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it affects people who aren't billionaires.
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So they still have to think, do I actually have enough,
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which, of course, will realize they have.
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But they will also hopefully think about, hey,
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maybe I can spend some money and help others.
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Right?
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But yeah, we can discuss a lot about that.
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It's about you right now and I don't think many
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billionaires are watching this podcast
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and listening to this podcast.
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So, I guess many people are just
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like you and me.
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Uh, they come by uh, and realize they
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have enough, and if they don't have enough, they now
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realize that, hey, I can do something about it.
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And I would say the most important 2
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things are your social network.
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Can you get help?
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you have to sort people that back you, right?
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Um, and, um, If
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you don't have that, don't be afraid.
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At least don't be afraid to ask for help.
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Uh, it should be, if it's your neighbors,
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If you go to a sort of donation,
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website, and do something there, don't be ashamed to do that.
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And, uh, there are always people that are willing to help you out.
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Uh, like, transformation meditation group does as well.
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Uh, like I said, in start, we don't
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make money, uh, because we are,
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I would almost say, for non-profit, but
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we do sometimes have some money on
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the bank that we can, uh, can, uh, can spend on
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helping people out and uh, other organizations that
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have the same view as we have.
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And like Wayne Dyer said, even if you don't
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have much, the act of giving something,
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uh, gives you so much back, and it really is true.
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I can attest to that.
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including with transformational meditation group, as
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an organization as well.
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So, yeah.
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I hope this podcast episode
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inspired you.
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And was for help.
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And if not, that it was informative, and
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yeah, I hope to see you back soon again for the next episode.
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Take good care.
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Be safe and Namaste, everyone.