Latest / Just For Today / 156. Radical Belief
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- Cindy Marler: Good morning, listeners. Today's episode is for my parents that are listening. Thank you so much for listening, parents. You have a very, very hard job. It's harder than any of the other jobs I've had. And I dressed up as Corilla DeVille at Party City for an entire month straight with full hair, wig, makeup, and everything. Parenting, harder than that. So this is one of the hardest jobs you have. And we all say we believe in our kids. We love them. We love them. What we often don't show though is radical belief in our children. Do you radically believe in your children? Because if you radically believe in your children, it will show in your actions. Often we say we believe in you, but we're not radically showing it. Because when we step in and take over for them, that's showing that we didn't believe you could do it. When we're too quick to help, or when we take over and explain for them, when we speak on their behalf, that's showing them we don't radically believe in them. What about when we get impatient? And we're like, hurry, hurry, hurry. We're not radically believing that they can accomplish the task in a time that works for them. What about when we overreact to common things? Are we radically believing in them when we overreact to a common thing? What if we believed in them with the same conviction that it was guaranteed, beyond a shadow of a doubt that they could do it, that they could become it? Here's an exercise to help with that. I want you to visualize your child at 25. The brain is now fully developed because it's not until then. And I want you to visualize who you think you're raising and what they're capable of. Are they going to pay their own bills? Are they going to know how to discern looking for a spouse in that process? Or are they going to choose a single life honoring and serving God? Picture that person. And when the person in front of you, at whatever age they are, is acting a fool. I want you to ignore that present person and think about that 25-year-old version of them. And that helps you build this radical belief because God takes time with all of us. He takes time with all of us. But as parents, we're so in it, right? We see it so much that often our actions are showing that we don't radically believe in our children. And the problem with that is it's sending mixed messages, but the message they believe the loudest is our actions, not our words. So let's make sure that our actions show that we radically believe in them being able to become who God created them to be. Let's just do that just for today.