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How YOU Control SOCIAL ANXIETY | (5 EPIC HACKS) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  Hey guys, in this video. I'm going to teach you how you
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  can control social anxiety. So you can just ace your days
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  more coming up. Hey guys, welcome back to the
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  So in this video, I really want to talk to you about some
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  strategies that I am going to teach you that you can use to
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  help overcome. Social anxiety so so it gets you
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  from being a very socially anxious person to be way more
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  relaxed. I've never seen anybody do these
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  before actually before we get into it guys.
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  I know it's been a long one and I'm back now with some more
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  videos and I'm awesomely glad to be here, but I wanted to do this
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  specifically for you guys because I know that you know,
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  there's been a lot of issues with social anxiety people get a
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  lot of issues or social anxiety and I'm no exception to the rule
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  actually have had loads of social anxiety issues myself, so
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  I really To share with you some epic acts that I use when I have
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  like feel overwhelmed or social anxiety and anxiety in general.
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  Dio so the first and foremost most important pack when we're
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  dealing with social anxiety is exercise because what happened
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  is exercise is good for this reason when you exercise it
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  helps reduce just generalized anxiety, but when you're in when
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  you're reducing generalized anxiety, it helps reduce social
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  anxiety because social anxiety is a byproduct of generalized
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  anxiety disorder, obviously a GED your aim in life when you
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  have a social anxiety condition. Is to try to reduce the anxiety
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  that you come across when you're dealing with anxiety.
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  So if you have generalized anxiety and you have social
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  anxiety because of that you want to just reduce that completely
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  exercise is a great way to do that long walks gym workout
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  running, you know, yoga Fitness cross-training Tai Chi martial
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  arts and of these things riding a bike, you know, they could be
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  great sources for you to kind of get your body in line because
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  your body and mind work very very closely and they They want
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  to work together. So you want to kind of get your
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  body in line with your mind and that will definitely help reduce
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  anxiety. It works wonders for me and I
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  love running even at the moment. I can't run because I have
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  Planters fasciatus. I think it's called because I've
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  hurt my foot, but hopefully I'm on the mend and it should be
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  back to normal very soon. Okay, guys.
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  Number two is planning ahead what I mean by this is if you're
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  planning to go to social situations, like social events
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  social Gatherings parties family dinners Christmas.
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  You know all these things are coming up.
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  So why don't you plan ahead and what I mean by this is know what
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  your goals are. When you go to, you know, when
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  you go to an event or a certain situation, then you're presented
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  with something that's imminently like, oh what I do.
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  I don't know what the plan is to go to the bar and talk to these
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  people and it becomes really anxious and then you don't want
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  people going to say and he becomes an issue right and
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  social anxiety can just run rampant all over you in that
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  situation. If you plan ahead know what your
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  goals are going to go there. I'm going to speak my friend
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  Jenny. I'm going to go to the bar get a
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  drink then I'm going to go. Sit down, we're going to get
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  some food. Then.
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  I'm going to leave by about nine o'clock and my latest my cap
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  from like I want to arrive home by like 9:00.
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  So, you know, it's planning ahead helps reduce this kind of
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  stress because the stress will cause anxiety the stress of it
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  will start you getting your lunches because you don't know
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  you're doing but if you have a plan to stick to if you have
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  like an outline planning ahead for events, I find this very
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  very useful because especially with like parties or Christmas
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  Gatherings and stuff because you can go so and say, okay.
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  I know that I'm going to you know, excuse myself on the table
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  and use the The the restroom if I need to just chill out and go
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  my phone so I can just collect myself and then come back to it
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  because that was very very helpful.
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  And it wants that I was in my girlfriend's parent house when
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  they had a big Christmas dinner and her sisters kids were kind
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  of like being quite noisy because it's just kids another
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  just doing whatever and then I got really upset by this because
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  it was like too overwhelming for me at that moment.
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  So I had to remove myself and I put myself in the bathroom just
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  to calm down and really just chill and that really worked an
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  absolute treat because it got me back to Grounded level came back
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  to table everything was fine. So yeah, definitely definitely
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  definitely plan ahead. Okay number three.
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  This is quite exciting. I'm going to be showing five of
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  these with you right now. And if you want to look back on
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  any of these you can always come back to this video because I
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  have written it all out in the description as well.
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  So this is a very interesting one is called progressive muscle
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  relaxation and what this is is where you kind of like you tend
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  to certain part of your body like you tend to and I'm not
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  going to tent and then let go and what this does is it kind of
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  gets you focusing on that that movement that the what I feel
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  Like what the tension feels like, I'm focusing on the
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  situation if you actually squeezing to tense up what this
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  does is it gets your mind focusing on that and not on the
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  anxiety that's about to happen to occur or is happening.
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  So if you're in an anxious situation, if you're socially
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  anxious situation try squeezing your fist and then releasing in
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  a squeezing fast as you can and then releasing I'm focusing on
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  doing that. It's going to greatly reduce all
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  that anxiety. I swear I swear I swear this is
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  so so useful. So beneficial.
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  It's kind of like diverting the attention of the Anxious part of
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  your brain to something that's less destructive and just quite
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  an interesting experience, I guess and it's very very useful.
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  I find that any kind of exercise on muscle work is going to
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  reduce anxiety. And this is like a tiny micro
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  squeeze workout, which is definitely going to help you in
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  the long run. I I just try it right now you
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  honestly pause this video. Try it then leave me a comment
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  down below saying dude, I did it work so well on done you lying.
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  It didn't work because I know I'm not lying.
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  I'm just saying it's just a joke.
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  Okay, number four this one of my favorite ones to do and I have
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  been doing Ever since I worked in offices, I don't work in
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  offices anymore because their work on YouTube and stuff, but
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  when I did work in offices, this is one of the main things I used
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  to do. It's called a thought vacation
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  and you know, your brain never gets a rest and it because of
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  that not getting a rest it helped tends to help towards
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  anxiety and then social anxiety. So what we're trying to do is
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  give your brain a rest to reduce anxiety a thought vacation is
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  where you just send your mind a little bit of location.
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  You just kind of close your eyes or you just stare into the
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  distance away from the situation of hand.
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  And just think about yourself going on holiday are having a
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  vacation or going to the beach and put the towel down and
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  sitting down and getting that ice cream out and then, you know
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  all the things that you can Compass doing a really relaxing
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  time at the beach and when your mind goes to those steps of
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  doing those things what happens is you have the same effect as
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  if you were actually they're doing it because your mind is
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  thinking or well, I'm doing these things.
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  I mean I'm being fed. This this information is what
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  I'm doing right now on the beach.
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  I'm chilling out relaxing and having an ice cream or even a
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  nice cold glass of water. And so if you do these little
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  things It will also reduce your anxiety actually on the moment
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  as well. I've tried this so if I'm in an
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  anxious situation, I just think to myself about going.
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  Okay. I'm going to think about, you
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  know, just going to the beach and you know having a fun time
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  and my anxiety just drops and dramatically reduces around that
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  time when I'm actually doing it's like on the spot.
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  It's amazing it works. So well definitely.
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  Thank you. Number five.
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  This one is the age-old on okay, it's mindfulness.
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  I was like, oh, yeah, okay, but check it out mindfulness is a
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  very interesting thing. It's the one that everyone
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  always tells, you know, Anyway, I feel like general anxiety
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  disorder. Every doctor in practitioner
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  will say you need to get into mindfulness.
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  You need to get into this that neither mindfulness is a it's
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  good but what they don't tell you is the way to actually do
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  mindfulness and it's very simple mindfulness.
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  All it needs to do is divert the attention every day get yourself
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  used to divert attention away from the the things that are
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  consuming your mind to everything else that's around
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  you. So this is how I would say to do
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  it. Why don't you think about your
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  feet touching the floor when you're walking to work?
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  Or when you're in your car driving to work feel about the
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  steering wheel heart feels on your hands.
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  So when you're walking to school, which is the are feel
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  like when you breathe in what's that?
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  Like think about the sensation your clothes touching your body?
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  What's that feel like these Sensations these things that
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  you're focusing on mind on how to reset your mind and it helps
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  distress like almost immediately.
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  It's an amazing thing and it's not easy to remember to be
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  mindful when you're doing things but I kind of try to set myself
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  tasks like when I'm washing the dishes or sorting out my clothes
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  or or getting my day ready, I think about the feeling of stuff
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  like hounds Desk feel how does the the laptop feel how does a
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  close feel my hands or what's the washing feel?
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  Like what does it feel like when I'm moving the dishes into the
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  cupboard? What's that feel like what
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  ceramic nurse like what that squeaky kind of like clean
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  feeling it. It's interesting when it change
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  your brain to think in that way and that's an epically good
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  thing. It really really is so I highly
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  recommend trying it just try a bit of focus try to focus on the
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  things that you touch and you feel and you see a new
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  experience every day when you're doing your daily daily tasks
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