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91. Pain Relief · Your Enriched Self

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  I ran my first half marathon several years ago now, and I remember the
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  process of training for a marathon. It was the early Saturday mornings. I'm
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  talking four or five in the morning and running for four hours, five hours
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  at a time. Sometimes I had done that for several saturdays, and in
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  between that I would do the required runs in a week to keep the body
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  trained and moving. Course, race day came along, and on race day
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  everything was going great. I started off pacing myself, which is a very
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  important technique in running. You don't want to just come out the gate and
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  have nothing left at the end, or even in the middle for that matter.
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  And I had done such a great job of pacing myself and staying in
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  my lane. And what I mean by that, it's just a mentality you
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  have to adopt out there in life, but definitely while running or racing is
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  it's your race, your pace. And so I kept that mentality going.
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  And when I got to mile nine, I will never forget this. My
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  body, my physical body just froze up on me. It was all the
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  pain. My calves and my shins were screaming at me, and I felt
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  trapped because I'm thinking, you still have four miles left to finish this race,
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  right, It's a thirteen point one mile race, a half marathon.
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  So with that said, I thought, well, what can I do.
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  I can walk this thing out till the end, or I can push past
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  the pain. And I was able to do it till about mile eleven.
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  And when mile eleven came, I thought, man, you just got a
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  couple more miles to go, and I could see the finish line right,
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  I could see myself crossing the finish line, and in that moment, I
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  promise you, I found a stress. I needed to push past the pain.
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  I had to go from pain to progression because I decided that I wanted
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  to finish and that I would get to that finish line. And when I
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  pushed myself to get past that finish line, it was as though I felt
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  no more pain. The shin pains, the calf pains, all the pains
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  had went away, and I just felt amazing. I felt great that I
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  was able to get to my finish line. Hello, my friends from all
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  across the globe, and welcome to the Your and Ritzel Podcast. I am
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  your host, Myley Noir. I am a mindset coach, and your mindset
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  advocate and what that means is I am out here looking out for you.
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  I am out here each and every week to make a deposit in the bank
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  of you, but also to help you navigate all of the things that you
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  need to do to stay on task to become more of your in rid self.
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  But while you're doing that, accomplish the goals you set out. Listen,
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  we are in second quarter and we are finishing the month of April,
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  so there's a lot at stake here. There's a lot that you still need
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  to accomplish, and I'm here to help you walk it out and talk it
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  out. So each and every week what we do here I bring some mindset
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  fusion topics to the table and we just unpack those things because I want you
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  to go out in the world and be the best version of yourself. So,
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  if you are new, welcome to the your in rid Self community.
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  We are happy to have you, and we invite you to stay. And
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  if you are a repeat listener, we are on episode ninety one, ninety
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  one episodes. I'm so excited that we are almost an episode one hundred.
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  But you guys have been rocking with me. You have been here from the
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  beginning, some of you jumped in in the middle and got caught up,
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  and you are here now. I want you to stay on for this ride
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  because we do this each and every week, and I'm really grateful to be
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  part of your journey to become more of your and rid self. And so
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  if you know you know, each and every week, I make a deposit
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  in the bank of you, and I do so by way of affirmations.
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  Affirmations are a great way to start your day and to command your morning.
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  And this week's affirmation is I will not let the pain of the past keep
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  me from moving forward. I will not let the pain of the past keep
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  me from moving forward. I will not let the pain of the past keep
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  me from moving moving forward. Now, let's get ready for this week's episode
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  of the Your Enriched Self podcast. The finish line for April is coming very
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  quickly. We are moments away of wrapping up this month and moving into a
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  new month. So I know that you are out there with your eyes on
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  the prize. You have your eyes on the finish line and you are ready
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  to cross. But in order to do that, you're going to have to
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  push past the madness, the mayhem, all the noise out there in the
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  world. And most importantly, you're gonna have to push past the pain.
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  And there is pain to your purpose, there is pain to your promise,
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  and it is just one of those things that's inevitable. Whatever you are walking
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  through right now, and you know I'm talking to you, you are experiencing
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  a level of pain. And when you're in a position of pain, there
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  are times where you're just going to have to psych yourself out of it.
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  You are going to have to push past the pain. I remember reading a
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  book a few years back by David Goggins, Can't Hurt Me, And he
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  talks about his life journey, his experience in the army and he became an
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  ultra runner out there in these streets. And one of the things that he
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  did to psych himself, and you got to read this book. It is
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  a phenomenal book, Can't Hurt Me. I believe it's the name of the
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  book. I'll put it in the show notes. But one of the things
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  he does or did, or one of the things he does or one of
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  the practices that he shared on his journey is this mental palous. He calls
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  it a mental callous, and this mental callous is something that encompasses his mindset.
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  In this mindset as a runner and doing these ultra runs, and I'm
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  talking some of the craziest run stories I've ever heard. Was in this book.
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  If you have a chance to read it, I'm going to caution you
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  he does drop a lot of f bombs, but it's well worth to read,
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  so take a listen to it. But he talked about this sixty forty
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  principle, and what he says is that when he was out there, he
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  would always remind himself the level of effort that he was exerting was only forty
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  percent and he still had another sixty percent left in the tank to give it
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  one hundred percent. And I have to say that mentality, that mental callous
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  was the thing that helped me on some of my tough not just runs,
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  but workouts and everything like that, reminding myself that what I'm exerting right now
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  is not even fifty percent of where I could be and what I could do.
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  So that is an example of how we need to think about psyching ourselves
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  out because there is that pain that is part of the journey of whatever it
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  is that you're doing today. I want to have you think about that.
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  But I also want to go a little bit deeper to talk about the severity
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  of pain. Because pain comes at levels. Everything comes at levels. You
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  hear it all the time. There are levels to this. There are levels
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  on ground zero, there are levels at the highest level, and there's something
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  in the middle. And so we want I want to talk about all of
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  the things that encompass the pain that you might be feeling right now. So
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  first let's talk about the mild pain. And this is an example of pain
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  that you are aware of. Like, you know you have this pain in
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  your life right now. You know you have a pain point, but you
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  only feel it when you give it attention. You only feel it when you
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  give attention. Think about it like this. There may be something that you
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  are avoiding right now, a conversation, a hard conversation, some task or
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  duty that you need to do, and I promise you you know you got
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  to do it, but you're not thinking about it. Until you do,
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  then you feel the anxiety lifting, you feel the deadline looming, and you
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  start to feel that pain. So that's your mild pain. Yeah, that's
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  the mild one. The other kind of pain or level to pain that you
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  might be dealing with. Is the pain that's what I call distracting pain,
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  And it's a kind of pain that when you think about it, you can't
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  even move. So think about this. How many of you have gotten up
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  in the morning. Maybe you went to bed last night, you were excited
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  about the next day, you had plans, you even use your journal and
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  you wrote it down. You woke up the next day and you start thinking
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  about the many, many things that you had to do. You got overwhelmed,
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  and then you just couldn't move, and you're thinking, how am I
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  still here on my phone, scrolling through social media, laying in my bed
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  watching TV, or doing absolutely nothing at all, and I have all these
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  things to do, How is it even possible you are in what we call
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  a pain that is distracting. It is so distracting that there's so many other
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  things that will take your attention away from the pain so that you can live
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  a little bit. And in this area of pain, the distractions take your
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  attention more so than the activity or the actions that you need to take to
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  get through that moment of pain. And then the last level of pain is
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  the severe pain. The severe pain is the pain when you get up in
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  the morning, and it's not that you start thinking about the pain right like
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  the distraction pain. You literally go to bed thinking about it, you wake
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  up thinking about it, You're thinking about it all throughout the day. It
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  is severe pain. It is debilitating pain. You are not moving, you
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  are floating, and you have no direction. And I'm telling you if you
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  are here, if you are at any of those levels, you cannot afford
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  to stay here. We just talked about how we are in the second quarter
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  and we are almost wrapped up with a month of April. You cannot afford
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  to stay in this place of pain. And so that's why you need pain
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  relief. You need to get some relief so you can push past the pain
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  and transform whatever pain you're dealing with right now into something you can use.
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  In other words, don't waste the space that you're in. You are here,
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  and you might not like that you're here, you might not like the
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  reason that you got here, but don't waste it. Don't let what you
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  experienced to get here, to be here, to experience this here go to
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  waste. The thing about our pains, right is that we suppress our pains.
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  That's why we get distracted about it. That's why we try to stop
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  thinking about it. But then we get to a point where all we do
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  is think about it, but in the end we're still suppressing the pain.
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  I want you to recognize these levels of pains that I want you to stop
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  denying yourself, the pain that you're feeling, the pain that you're experiencing.
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  It is valid because some of the deepest pain that you will experience in this
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  life is when you deny yourself your own feelings so that you can make someone
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  else comfortable. So if someone else can be free of pain while you suffer
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  in silence, that can no longer be your m That can no longer be
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  why you are here now in this pain position. That's not paying you to
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  be in this position. You can no longer afford that. Your life,
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  your legacy, and the things that you are doing to make meaningful impact in
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  your world in this world can no longer afford for you to be in this
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  position. So how do we push past the pain? Everybody talks about?
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  You gotta push past the pain, You gotta push pasts. How do you
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  do it well? It is a mindset shift. We talk about mindset here.
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  Each and every week. It is what I do, and I know
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  that it is not the tangible thing, right. I'm not telling you to
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  go to CBS or long rings and pick this up and handle your pain.
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  I'm not telling you to throw it over the fence, as many people do,
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  only to find that your trash is on somebody else's side and they're just
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  going to send it back. You gotta deal with this thing, and it's
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  gonna start with your mindset. And it's not a tangible thing, but you
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  have to make conscious efforts in order to manage the pain that you're feeling,
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  in order to get your pain relief. We talked about some of the mental
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  techniques before. We talked about mister David Goggins and what he had to do
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  to create that mindset or that mental callous to cover and to shield the pain
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  that he was experiencing in those moments. But I want you to go from
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  a place of anxiety and avoidance to acceptance. The first thing I want you
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  to do is cry. Yes, I said it. I want you to
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  give yourself permission to cry. You are allowed to cry. You should cry.
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  Crying is a form of release and it's a way to get the pain
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  out of your body. I do believe that. I do believe it is
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  a form of release. And more importantly, I see crying as a language.
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  Crying is a language, an unspoken language that your body is speaking to
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  release. Over the years, I've cried, I've cried out to God.
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  I've cried in moments where I needed to release. And I believe in those
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  moments, especially those moments when I cry out to God, I believe those
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  are my prayers. And I believe these silent prayers are the tears. I
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  believe you should allow yourself to let it go. It is another way to
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  let it go, and it's a great conversation to have with yourself. The
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  other thing I want you to think about when you think of getting pain relief
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  is to list your options. List your options. Here's the thing in life.
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  You have options. It may not be your ideal option, it may
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  not be your dream option, but and sometimes it might be. But you
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  do have options, and I want you to list them out. I remember
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  when I was having my first child. Of course, I had never embarked
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  upon motherhood before or having a child, and I had planned on having a
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  natural birth, and so I got to the hospital, I already had my
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  birth in plan how I wanted to do it. I was gonna do natural.
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  I wasn't going to do any drugs. Well, when the pain started
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  coming, my mind started shifting a little bit, so the options where I
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  could do a needle or I can do an oral pain. Men, you
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  need to list your option. You need to know what's out there for you
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  in the end, guys, if you really want to know, I ended
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  up having a natural birth, and that's because I waited too long to exercise
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  my options. So definitely list out your options so that you can take advantage
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  of them. Because by the time the pain started coming, they had no
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  time to administer any kind of pain medication. I was out of luck and
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  it was time for me to have this baby. So make sure whatever season
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  you're in, whether you're in a birthing season, a waiting season, a
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  running season, a walking season, a sitting season, you need to know
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  what your options are in that season. And it's going to be different each
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  time you do it. It's going to vary from person to person. That's
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  why you don't want to be looking across and getting all distracted by what you
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  see others doing because you don't know what season they're in. They may be
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  having birth, they may be waiting while you're running. Stay in your lane.
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  Okay, but list your options. That's going to be a very important
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  part for you to get to your pain relief. The next one, and
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  this is one I will constantly remind. I think I talk about this every
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  week, and I probably will because you need a reminder. Yep, you
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  you're listening. You need a reminder. Ask for help. If I know
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  you, you're not asking for help, and if you're doing it, you're
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  you know, doing it in a way where you really don't want to ask
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  for it. I need you to be bold. I'm just gonna say this.
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  You need to be bold about asking for help. There is no shyness,
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  there is no quiet when you ask for help. You have to almost
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  scream to the top of your lungs that you need help because so many of
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  you are out there suffering in silence, because you're not asking for help,
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  because you still feel like you got to wear a superhero cape. You still
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  got to be super mom and super friend and super why and super everything.
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  But I'm here to tell you that if you don't ask for help, I'm
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  here to tell you if you keep that mentality up, there will be no
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  super with anything that you do. You're just not going to get to where
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  you need to go. And you're gonna do that while suffering while in pain.
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  So no more are we going to suffer in silence. I'm going to
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  remind you to ask for help, and I'm going to mind you that asking
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  for help is a sign of strength. That's where your superpower comes from.
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  And the last one is to listen to what you need. Listen to what
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  you need. We spend a lot of time talking. You spend a lot
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  of time talking, and you might even be a great listener to other people,
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  But are you listening to your own needs? That's another language, another
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  important language that you need to start speaking to your being. It is a
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  conversation you have with self when you listen to what you need. And oftentimes
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  you're experiencing pairing because you stopped listening to your needs. You started putting the
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  needs of others above yourself. And you know what I say about that.
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  You can't pour not just from an empty cup, But why would you pour
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  from a cup that's half full? What's left for you when you pour that
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  out? Nothing? Right? So I want you to pour from excess.
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  I want you to pour from a place of abundance. And you're not going
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  to get to a place of abundance if you're not willing to listen to yourself,
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  if you're not allowing yourself to have that love language with yourself, which
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  is getting your needs out there. It's time for you to stop neglecting your
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  needs. It is up to you, because you are the common denominator of
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  your life. You have to decide how you want to live. Are you
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  going to continue to allow the pain of your past to suppress your future or
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  are you going to press past the pain to finish your race. I hope
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  you enjoyed this week's episode of that You're in Ridself podcast. And the only
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  way I'm gonna know this is if you leave me feedback. Feedback. It's
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  a gift, it's free to give, and I'm accepting gifts all twenty twenty
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  to five people that you communicated with. And I know there's somebody you know
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  that needs some pain relief, So go ahead and send this episode out.
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  I also want you to share this on socials. I know a lot of
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  you are out there in the social streets. I am too Instagram as my
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  jam it's where I am. You can find me at my in rid self
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  that's M Y E N R, I, C H E, D S
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  E l F and tag me, tag this episode pain relief and let the
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  people out there in the social streets know what this episode is all about and
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  share the goodness of this podcast. As I mentioned, you can find all
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  the details of this week's episode in the show notes, including the affirmation of
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  the week. I am also going to tag the book by David Goggins Can't
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  Hurt Me in the show notes. I believe those are all the announcements.
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  So what I would like you to do is to take all that you can
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  from this episode and do what you can in the next one hundred and sixty
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  eight hours to become more of your enriched until we meet again.