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132. 40 pounds · Your Enriched Self

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  It's time for a gratitude check. I don't know if you spent time making
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  time for gratitude, but I'm encouraging you in this time to find something to
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  be grateful for. I know it's the start of the year. I know
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  we're all anxious and excited to move forward in this year and accomplish the things
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  that we set forward on our vision boards, we set forward as our goals
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  and the achievements that we want as we go forward. It can feel overwhelming
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  to not be exactly where you want to be, But I'm encouraging you to
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  be in the now, right now and find something to be grateful for.
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  I'm sure if you look around in your life, in your world, in
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  your space, you can find something to be grateful for. And that's so
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  important because nothing new comes into your life until you are grateful for what you
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  have now. Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and welcome
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  to the Your New Self Podcast. I am your host, Mylene Noir.
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  I am the mindset Coach and your mindset advocate. And all that means in
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  this world and in your world, is that I have been intentional each and
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  every week to create a space, curate a space where you can become more
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  of your enriched self. That's going to mean us doing some work together,
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  walking it out and talking it out. Here on this podcast we talk about
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  mindset fusion topics from self care to soul care, everything in between that starts
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  in your mind, because we know that everything starts in the mind, and
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  those thoughts in your mind then lead to the words you use, and those
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  words become the actions and the activity, and that's how you are able to
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  show up in this world as your best self. The goal is to become
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  your in rich self, and so it starts with these conversations. So if
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  you are new to this podcast, I want to thank you for being here,
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  and I believe you are brought here on purpose for a purpose. And
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  if you are a repeat listener, I want to thank you, thank you,
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  thank you. Because of you, we have continued this exciting journey of
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  becoming your enrich self and I could not have done it without you. Now,
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  before we get into this week's episode, if you know you know that
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  each week I make a deposit in the bank of you, and I do
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  that by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great way to start your day
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  and to command your mourning, and this week's affirmation is I am not in
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  control of my past. I am in control of the now. I am
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  not in control of my past. I'm in control of the now. I'm
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  not in control of my past. I'm in control of the now. Now.
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  Let's get ready for this week's episode of the Your Enriched Self Podcast,
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  Year two thousand, R and B Soul Neo soul singer Erica Badou on her
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  Mama's Gun album said the following, bag, lady, you gonna hurt your
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  back dragging all them bags like that. I guess nobody ever told you all
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  you must hold onto is you? Is you? Is you? One day
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  all them bags get in your way. One day, all them bags gonna
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  get in your way, I said, one day, all them bags gonna
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  get in your way. One day, all them bags gonna get in your
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  way. So pack light, pack light, pack light pack light. Ooh,
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  bag lady, you're gonna miss your buss because you can't hurry up because
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  you got too much stuff. I don't know where you were when you first
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  heard that, or maybe you never heard that, or maybe you heard it
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  but you didn't get the lyrics. But I encourage you to check out the
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  lyrics I'm included in the show notes. Listen, there is a lesson in
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  this music. There is a lesson in this song because so many of us
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  carry bags, we carry past relationship, we carry so many things into our
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  life. And so that's what I want to talk to you about this week.
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  Now I have to go back and dig those lyrics up because I was
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  inspired or I was reminded of those lyrics after having gone through my own situation.
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  So recently, I was traveling and I did a new thing on my
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  travel journey. I decided to book with Spirit. Now there are many reasons
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  why. Part of it is the economics of the whole thing that I was
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  getting ready to encounter. But I traveled on Spirit. It was a new
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  process for me because Spirit. If you haven't traveled on Spirit airlines, I'm
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  normally a Delta girl. But Spirit has some travel rules, and honestly,
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  it was quite different from what I'm used to. So, for one thing,
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  they have something called the rule of forty, and the rule of forty
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  only allows you to carry a check bag that would not exceed forty pounds.
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  Of course, most other airlines, if you are a traveler and I know
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  a lot of you out there are allow you to have up to fifty pounds
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  for your check bag. Well, Spirit is built different. Now your alternatives
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  would be A you can pay for another bag, B you can add a
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  carry on which is a paid four bag, or C you might have to
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  leave some things behind. My bag weighed forty six pounds. Now again,
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  for a normal airline that would be okay, But for Spirit, I had
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  to on the airport make some live changes decide what should go in what bag.
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  Now, naturally I went for the shoes, because you know, the
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  shoes probably weigh a little bit more. Started making some educated decision and educated
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  guesses about what goes where, and so I moved the shoes over and that
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  helped about three pounds of the situation. But I was still over, and
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  so then I had to go back in and make some other decisions about what
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  would need to go from my checked bag to my carry on, which I
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  was already paying for. All that to say, as I'm making these life
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  changes on the airport and putting my bag back on the scale to weigh,
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  it hit me in that moment that so many of us have destinations that we
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  aspire to go to. We have places and spaces in life that we want
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  to get to. But in order to get to my destination, I had
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  to make some decisions to let some things go. I watched people on the
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  airport leave things behind, and sometimes that's what it takes to get where you're
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  going to go because I promise you, Because I promise you, you holding
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  on to something may cost you. And in my case, I already have
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  I had a paid carry on, but had I not have a paid carry
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  on, I would have had to purchase a bag at the airport or find
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  some way to carry those items with me. And that made me think about
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  the many times in life that we spend not making or taking inventory of the
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  things we need to let go. It would take some sort of event,
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  some sort of major life occurrence that would force us to make new decisions,
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  think new thoughts, and start to choose differently in the now. See what
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  we get used to each and every day. What you get used to is
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  postponing those moments, postponing the inventory that you need to take of. What
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  should I what do I need to let go? Well, I'm here to
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  tell you maybe it's time, just maybe right now is the time for you
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  to let go, and maybe it's time to incorporate the forty pound rule that
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  spirit has into your life. It's questioning what needs to go and what can't
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  afford to stay, because if it stays, it's probably likely going to cost
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  you, and is it worth it. Your choices are to let go off
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  the right things, the right things, meaning those things that are right for
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  you to let go. Now while you have put some thought and you have
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  put some process around these things. The worst thing is to keep paying to
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  keep the wrong thing, keeping those same things. And you have bagged and
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  you have put away, and now these things carrying all these bags like that,
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  as Erica would say, they may even hurt you. They get in
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  your way. She said that they crowd your space. She said that,
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  I say they hurt your view. If you have mounds of bags, mounds
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  of things, it hurts your view to even see above that. Think about
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  all the mental bags and baggage you have kept in your space, in your
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  mental space, your physical space. It's hard to have a view, it's
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  hard to have a vision. And guess what bags do? It slows you
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  down. You got too much stuff, She said, you better hurry up.
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  You have to constantly be running through your life the moments of rest and
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  recovery and restoration is hard to do when you're bogged down with bags. It's
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  hard to run. Have you ever tried running with your bags? As a
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  kid that grew up taking the bus to school, I remember some of those
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  mornings with a big old backpack on my back, myself, my sister,
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  some of our friends running to that bus so we don't miss it. It's
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  hard to do that. You get on that bus and here we are panting,
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  sweating, and we are just disheveled by this experience. And how many
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  of you are walking through your life disheveled because you are rushing. And not
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  only are you rushing, but you're rushing with the weights of life, the
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  weights of your life. Erica reminds us that the only thing you should be
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  holding on to is you. Is you, is you, And it's hard
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  to even see yourself when you can't even see yourself. I'm gonna repeat that,
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  it's hard to see yourself when you can't even see yourself. You can't
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  see yourself because you're feeling right now, you're in your feeling about whatever it
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  is that you have decided, because it is a decision. And no,
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  it's hard for you to think about it like that, but it is a
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  decision to carry the weight that you're carrying. At some point in your journey
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  of life. I hope that you can put this weight to rest and let
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  the weight be over. But what are you holding onto? Because so many
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  of you are holding onto things that now become the things that define you,
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  the last mistake you made, the last relationship you were in. You start
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  to let those things define you, and you hold on to those identities.
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  It's bad enough that the world, the people you've encountered, your teachers,
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  your clergy people, the people in politics, the people that you work with,
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  the work for, and so on and so forth, friends and circles
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  of friends that give you one identity that tell you who they think you are.
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  And now you are also giving yourself an identity based on your last mistake.
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  And so these are the things you decide to hold onto. It is
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  hurting how you see yourself. I promise you, if you have a negative
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  thought about yourself right now, it is likely because you are holding some negative
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  bags about yourself. And I challenge you right now to stretch your arms out
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  and let those bags do the virtual drop. So I want to challenge you
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  right now to do a bit of a let go exercise. I want you
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  to close your eyes and trust yourself. I want you to open your arms,
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  almost as if you're in a worship pose. And I want you to
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  feel the bags on either side of your hands. Your hands are lifted above
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  you, and so you know when your hands are up, whether they're empty
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  or with some item in them, they start to get weighty. Right and
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  right now, the host of bags you've been holding onto old relationships, the
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  last bad conversation, a bad job, a bad experience, a mistake.
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  I don't know what you've been holding onto, but I want you right now
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  to do yourself a justice, give yourself some grace, allow yourself new space.
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  And as your fists are clenched with your hands lifted up, I want
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  you to open your palm of your hands and let the bags drop. Then
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  I want you to let your arms drop to your side. I hope you
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  felt the weight coming off of you, recognize that you don't need those bags.
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  Forty pounds of mess. That's what you just let go. Broken things,
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  the things that no longer function. They're not functioning for you, they're
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  actually working against you. I don't know what was inside of your forty pounds
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  of mess, but I promise you it was a chaotic collection. The broken
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  things, These are the things that you find yourself sorting through over time,
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  broken items. They have met an unfortunate demise, an unfortunate you were in
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  that, your feelings were in that, your finances were in that. There
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  was a part of you that was in that that you haven't been able to
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  let go these broken pieces. They would inevitably have wear and tear on you,
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  and today you let it go. Have you ever had a kitchen sink
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  full of dishes, pots, pants, plates, cups, the whole nine
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  yards piled up and you're like, oh my gosh, I don't even know
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  where to begin. That's what the miscellaneous clutter is. It's a mess of
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  assortment. It is miscellaneous, and it defies even beginning how to categorize.
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  That's the one that takes the longest to overcome, because there's so many apartments
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  that need to be addressed in one bag, and then when you multiply that
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  by multiple bags, you can be doing this forever. And that's why you
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  must go through this exercise of letting go. And you know the important part,
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  the most important part of letting go, is that you lose sight of
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  the treasures you have, so many forgotten treasures amidst all the clutter. There
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  is something in there that, in fact, you should have access to,
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  you should be holding onto, reminding you of you. Is you? Is
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  you? Is you? As you explore the contents of your bag today tomorrow,
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  I want you to recognize that this is a glimpse into your world.
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  This is where some of the chaotic collection began. But it also is the
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  opportunity for you to end this chaotic collection. It's a reminder that we need
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  to spend time maintaining these bags, taking inventory, being organized in our thoughts,
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  so we can declutter our lives and create an environment that's more manageable,
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  that's more balanced, that's more harmonious. Here's the thing. If you don't
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  let go of the old thing, how do you get access to the new?
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  And if we think back to the exercise where I had you close your
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  eyes, holding up those bags, holding up that weight, struggling to keep
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  yourself up, not able to see ahead or get a vision, but just
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  in the pain and in the hurt of it all and when you finally let
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  go, you had some breathing room. And what that would all suggest is,
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  now that you have finally let go of these things, you have now
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  opened yourself up to allow the receipt of new things. I hope you enjoyed
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  In the show notes, we have the Affirmation of the Way, the quote
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  eight hours so that you can become more of your enriched self until we meet again.