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Born of Love, Built on a Lie: The Danger of Seeing Your Wife as Fragile · Doing Marriage Well

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  Doing Marriage Well for June 17, 2026 Born out of love, built on a lie The danger
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  of seeing your wife as fragile,
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  How our heart sees our spouse incorrectly is not always about seeing them as
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  bad or evil We can project onto them weakness or brokenness that we've seen in others,
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  We might even be doing that out of love not wanting to hurt them or push them
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  too hard But a false image is false even if it's born out of love,
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  When I was a lad in the 60s and 70s women were considered mentally weak and emotionally frail.
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  A good man who believed that would make accommodations for it in how he treated
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  his wife and what he expected of her.
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  Despite any evidence to the contrary, his heart saw his wife as fragile.
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  A false view of our spouse cheats them and limits our marriage,
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  no matter why we believe the lie.
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  Seeing your wife as fragile means you treat her that way. You worry she can't
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  deal with difficult things.
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  This can lead to hiding the fact that you are struggling financially or you are feeling depressed.
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  Your wife is not a partner, she is a broken person you care for,
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  and you end up carrying more than you should, and you may eventually blame your wife for that.
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  We may also use a wrong view of our spouse to justify our sin or not confess our sins.
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  So, for example, a man uses porn and masturbates because he thinks his wife
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  is too delicate to deal with his full sex drive, or he chooses not to confess
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  the affair he had because it would destroy her.
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  Lies and half-truths are seen as a necessary evil because of our false image.
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  Does how you see your wife and your heart agree with what you see and hear from
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  her? Have you given in to a cultural lie or had your vision skewed by your past?
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  It seems like a good thing to pray about. This is Paul, and seeing your wife
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  as fragile is not doing marriage well.
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