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What If Rejection Is Not About You | S5 EP151 (FLASHBACK) · Around the Kinky Kampfire Podcast

• 0:58
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back, everybody.
• 1:00
  SPEAKER_00: This is the bonfire that is fantastic.
• 1:05
  SPEAKER_00: The mini episode that is the greatest.
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  SPEAKER_00: AKA Round the Kinky Campfire, the Pillow Fourth Sessions.
• 1:15
  SPEAKER_00: And you know who this is, making this always interesting every time you come along.
• 1:20
  SPEAKER_00: Always got a different intro every single time.
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_00: Hopefully.
• 1:23
  SPEAKER_00: I keep trying to change the name up, but it doesn't always work out.
• 1:26
  SPEAKER_00: Uh giving you an episode to fill in the little break here because we didn't have time, um, or we got busy putting out uh an episode this month on the second Thursday, a little group thing.
• 1:40
  SPEAKER_00: So you know these Pillow Fort sessions come infrequently.
• 1:44
  SPEAKER_00: Uh hopefully we can get some more consistency with the regular episodes, but there will be one next week, so just look forward to that.
• 1:52
  SPEAKER_00: In the meantime, uh I had a topic I wanted to talk about, so I'm gonna get into that after we do the formal introduction.
• 1:59
  SPEAKER_00: Once again, around the King Campfire, Pillow Fort Sessions.
• 2:03
  SPEAKER_00: This is your hostess with the Mostis uh El Come Done, the cuddled giggelo, and sometimes called Master of Uranus.
• 2:14
  SPEAKER_00: Julius here.
• 2:15
  SPEAKER_00: Uh keep it simple so everybody doesn't get confused.
• 2:19
  SPEAKER_00: You can call me mini names, I'll answer to them all, and you'll y'all will hear soon that yeah, call me motherfucker, that asshole over there, all those different things, because they're true.
• 2:31
  SPEAKER_00: Not uh not all the way true, but there's some truth to that, so that's fine.
• 2:34
  SPEAKER_00: I fuck mothers, that's what I do on a regular basis.
• 2:37
  SPEAKER_00: Apparently I do it well because I keep coming back.
• 2:41
  SPEAKER_00: But now, for all seriousness, the real question is, what am I drinking today?
• 2:47
  SPEAKER_00: And the answer is uh sparkling ice plus caffeine.
• 2:53
  SPEAKER_00: Love these drinks.
• 2:54
  SPEAKER_00: You will hear me talk about these often.
• 2:56
  SPEAKER_00: Still not sponsored by sparkling ice, which I would be because I drink all their stuff.
• 2:59
  SPEAKER_00: I will gladly whore myself out to promote the sparkling ice brand.
• 3:04
  SPEAKER_00: Love all the stuff they do, love all the different flavors, love their energy drinks because they have caffeine, uh, low calorie, antioxidants, no juice, but also no sugar.
• 3:16
  SPEAKER_00: So uh you know what time it is.
• 3:18
  SPEAKER_00: 32nd ASMR.
• 3:20
  SPEAKER_00: Here we go.
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  SPEAKER_00: So cold.
• 3:29
  SPEAKER_00: Oh delicious.
• 3:36
  SPEAKER_00: It's the middle of the day, not nighttime when I'm usually recording the these episodes and the group podcast episodes.
• 3:43
  SPEAKER_00: Uh so just doing a little energy drink for right now, keeping the adult beverages on hold until later on at night.
• 3:50
  SPEAKER_00: It is a school night, so try to keep the adult beverages a little bit less.
• 3:54
  SPEAKER_00: Not so much uh during a regular podcast session, but in general, that's what I try to do.
• 4:00
  SPEAKER_00: Reserve my drinking for the weekend.
• 4:02
  SPEAKER_00: And also, I'm old and hangovers are a thing.
• 4:04
  SPEAKER_00: Make sure you hydrate people.
• 4:05
  SPEAKER_00: I know everybody has their different remedies, just a little side tangent here, but hydration.
• 4:10
  SPEAKER_00: That's why you get the headache.
• 4:11
  SPEAKER_00: Alcohol absorbs water.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're sucking the water from your brain.
• 4:17
  SPEAKER_00: Your brain needs water.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
• 4:20
  SPEAKER_00: So when you suck the water out of your brain, you get a headache.
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  SPEAKER_00: So remember to hydrate.
• 4:24
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, for us old folks out there, yes, I'm gonna say I'll call myself old, you know what I'm saying?
• 4:28
  SPEAKER_00: It depends on whatever your definition is.
• 4:30
  SPEAKER_00: But I'm old, man.
• 4:32
  SPEAKER_00: Hydration is a thing.
• 4:33
  SPEAKER_00: You get one fluid ounce of alcohol and get one cup of water.
• 4:38
  SPEAKER_00: That's the ratio.
• 4:39
  SPEAKER_00: One fluid ounce, one cup of water.
• 4:41
  SPEAKER_00: Two shots is half an ounce.
• 4:45
  SPEAKER_00: So drink at least half a cup of water with that.
• 4:48
  SPEAKER_00: Full cup, you know what I'm saying?
• 4:49
  SPEAKER_00: If you pee, you pee.
• 4:50
  SPEAKER_00: That's all there is to it.
• 4:50
  SPEAKER_00: But you know, breaking the seal, some people believe in that.
• 4:53
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, you know, that could be a thing.
• 4:55
  SPEAKER_00: For me, it's always the food I intake.
• 4:57
  SPEAKER_00: So the less food I have, the drunker I get.
• 4:59
  SPEAKER_00: I'm an easy I'm a cheat date.
• 5:00
  SPEAKER_00: So remember to drink uh water with that.
• 5:04
  SPEAKER_00: So here we go.
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  SPEAKER_00: Back into the podcast now.
• 5:06
  SPEAKER_00: We've done with that tangent.
• 5:08
  SPEAKER_00: We're going back into it.
• 5:09
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, if you have not heard the Pillow Fort Sessions before, these are like quickie filler type things, things that Julius here just likes to uh rant about.
• 5:16
  SPEAKER_00: Uh and then, you know, specific topics I wanted to dive into because we cover broad range of stuff in the regular podcast.
• 5:24
  SPEAKER_00: So these are just like fillers in between those, just to get more content out there and to get more topics.
• 5:30
  SPEAKER_00: I will just basically like to practice uh this is this is like a class practice for me.
• 5:36
  SPEAKER_00: So I picked topics that I would uh eventually like to do a class about yada yada yada.
• 5:40
  SPEAKER_00: So it's a little bit more uh uh factual than it is entertaining for these type of things, just because I want to get the information out there and eventually start teaching it in IRL or N R L, I should say.
• 5:53
  SPEAKER_00: The I stands for in, so in real life.
• 5:56
  SPEAKER_00: Uh so yeah, those are those are what I want to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, I'll do zoom too, whatever.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I said, a little whore for that kind of thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh, but today let's get down into it.
• 6:05
  SPEAKER_00: Because I've rambled on long enough.
• 6:07
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, I try to keep these a little bit shorter.
• 6:09
  SPEAKER_00: So about 30 35 minutes or so.
• 6:11
  SPEAKER_00: Uh sometimes I go over, sometimes I go under.
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  SPEAKER_00: But yeah, that's that's the goal right there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Practice for classes in about 30 minutes.
• 6:18
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so I want to get to the topic because I've rambled on long enough.
• 6:21
  SPEAKER_00: As I said, today's topic is rejection sensitivity.
• 6:27
  SPEAKER_00: So there are different types of rejection um disorders.
• 6:32
  SPEAKER_00: This one I'm going to keep very big because I am not a doctor, I'm not licensed, I'm not certified, any of that stuff.
• 6:38
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just somebody that does re Google university research and likes to put the information out there.
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  SPEAKER_00: If y'all don't know, I like to preach education through awareness.
• 6:48
  SPEAKER_00: So I want it to be known that this is a thing.
• 6:51
  SPEAKER_00: Rejection sensitivity is a thing out there, but there are the big D's, the disorders and stuff that you know, and the sore dysphoria that people have, and those are have to be diagnosed and worked on with a certified professional.
• 7:04
  SPEAKER_00: I am not that.
• 7:05
  SPEAKER_00: So, purpose of this podcast is to talk about rejection sensitivity as a very broad term because uh people like to complain, and you know, I'm not gonna generalize, but people in the world, okay, they're single.
• 7:22
  SPEAKER_00: They're single people or people just looking in general.
• 7:24
  SPEAKER_00: You could not be single, you could be monogamous or any form of non-monogamous.
• 7:28
  SPEAKER_00: If they're looking for a partner, you have to try to talk to people, and sometimes you get rejected.
• 7:34
  SPEAKER_00: And guess what?
• 7:35
  SPEAKER_00: That hurts.
• 7:36
  SPEAKER_00: I know for myself, I've I've gotten rejected plenty of times, and I will get rejected plenty more times, because I'm not a pro, I'm not an I'm not a playa or like whatever professional expert, pickup artist, whatever you want to call yourself.
• 7:48
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm gonna get rejected.
• 7:49
  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna happen.
• 7:50
  SPEAKER_00: We are all gonna get rejected if you're out there pursuing people, and if you don't, good more power to you, because then you save yourself a lot of strife and and hassle.
• 7:58
  SPEAKER_00: I am going to be polyamorous for the rest of my life.
• 8:01
  SPEAKER_00: So I like these kind of dating topics because I will always be in the dating game.
• 8:06
  SPEAKER_00: I'm never gonna retire from it.
• 8:07
  SPEAKER_00: I might take long breaks, but I will always enjoy the whole dating process.
• 8:12
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, a little inside information for me.
• 8:14
  SPEAKER_00: So a lot of my topics are gonna be dating uh related, not specifically on the dating subject, but everything surrounding it up in the troposphere, out in outer space, but it's gonna some have some tie to dating and or relationships, because that's what I like to talk about.
• 8:29
  SPEAKER_00: And rejection sensitivity is a thing.
• 8:32
  SPEAKER_00: Have you ever been in the situation either a pursuer or being pursued, and you reject somebody or you get rejected and it hurts?
• 10:00
  SPEAKER_00: We've all been there.
• 10:01
  SPEAKER_00: It's very painful.
• 10:03
  SPEAKER_00: And some people get really butthurt about it, and like the definition to me of butthurt is hey, you dumb whatever, you can't reject me.
• 10:10
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna call you names and be angry about it.
• 10:13
  SPEAKER_00: So, yeah, guess what?
• 10:15
  SPEAKER_00: We all get rejected.
• 10:16
  SPEAKER_00: Doesn't mean you need to lash out at people.
• 10:17
  SPEAKER_00: That's the that's not a thing, you know.
• 10:19
  SPEAKER_00: I'm saying that you have a choice as a grown adult to like something or not like something, and let your uh opinion be known.
• 10:28
  SPEAKER_00: So, you know, that happens.
• 10:30
  SPEAKER_00: We all have those feelings of pain, and it happens, so we need to learn how to deal with that in a constructive way.
• 10:37
  SPEAKER_00: Lashing out of people is not very constructive.
• 10:39
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, in all in all, it's just words, but still, you know, it makes no sense.
• 10:45
  SPEAKER_00: It just makes you look even worse, however you are, if you don't uh react in a way that's you know constructive.
• 10:50
  SPEAKER_00: So, I mean, don't listen to me, feel free to do whatever you want.
• 10:53
  SPEAKER_00: But I'm trying to help those people that uh don't understand it.
• 10:56
  SPEAKER_00: Also, those people that get pursued and they don't understand why when they turn somebody down that they get lashed out at, they were just having, you know, I'm saying, whether they're online or IRL, you were just doing your own business.
• 11:06
  SPEAKER_00: Nobody, nobody, you, you know, I'm saying you weren't that wasn't your purpose in the day to be getting talked to, reject them, and that was not your goal when you woke up.
• 11:16
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 11:17
  SPEAKER_00: So interacting with people is is a choice for everybody, and that's you know, some people choose not to do that today.
• 11:22
  SPEAKER_00: Some people just want to go to the grocery store or go to work or something and not be pursued.
• 11:27
  SPEAKER_00: They just want to work or do their chores or whatever, and not have this new stuff happen.
• 11:31
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm I'm focusing this on uh people that don't know to handle their rejection um and and realize that's a thing.
• 11:39
  SPEAKER_00: You don't have uh privilege to you know go talk to people, nobody has to be nice to you or and whatever.
• 11:44
  SPEAKER_00: That that's not a thing, okay?
• 11:45
  SPEAKER_00: So I want to explain rejection seven sensitivity for the people that don't know that this is the reason why those people lash out.
• 11:52
  SPEAKER_00: Or one of the main reasons, I don't know.
• 11:54
  SPEAKER_00: Let me know.
• 11:55
  SPEAKER_00: You know what I'm saying?
• 11:55
  SPEAKER_00: We do have an Instagram, can't fire kinksters with double K's.
• 11:59
  SPEAKER_00: Uh let me know if I'm out of place here, because what other reason would there be?
• 12:03
  SPEAKER_00: You're just having a bad day or whatever, but you get butthurt, and you know that that that's nobody's fault but your own.
• 12:10
  SPEAKER_00: Alright, so let's start at the beginning.
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  SPEAKER_00: The definition of rejection sensitivity is uh well, I guess rejection.
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  SPEAKER_00: Rejection.
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  SPEAKER_00: The act of refusing to accept, use, or believe someone or something.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um the feeling a person expresses when disappointed about not achieving something desired.
• 12:31
  SPEAKER_00: So this is where the rejection part kind of sort of more specifically rejection the sensitivity part of it happens.
• 12:37
  SPEAKER_00: It's very emotional.
• 12:38
  SPEAKER_00: That's that's what it is.
• 12:39
  SPEAKER_00: You have a feeling, you're a person, and you are disappointed, and you wanted something.
• 12:44
  SPEAKER_00: You maybe had an expectation.
• 12:46
  SPEAKER_00: I think I talked about that earlier.
• 12:48
  SPEAKER_00: You know, sometimes you have an expectation, it doesn't go the way you want.
• 12:51
  SPEAKER_00: So you get butthurt about it.
• 12:52
  SPEAKER_00: We all have feelings, but we don't need to lash out at people.
• 12:56
  SPEAKER_00: Now the real question is, why does it hurt?
• 12:59
  SPEAKER_00: Let's see.
• 13:00
  SPEAKER_00: Feelings of rejection trigger the same neural circuits that process physical injury and translate into the experience called pain.
• 13:10
  SPEAKER_00: So some people, at least to them, feel physical pain because it's the same neural network as actual pain.
• 13:22
  SPEAKER_00: Like you stubbed your toe or something.
• 13:24
  SPEAKER_00: That's literally what it feels like.
• 13:25
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes for me, I don't know, I get panicky and stressed out and everything, and I almost feel like I'm having a heart attack.
• 13:31
  SPEAKER_00: My arm gets numb and all that other stuff, my chest actually hurts.
• 13:34
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so it's just yeah, some sometimes that that happens.
• 13:38
  SPEAKER_00: So we've all been there.
• 13:40
  SPEAKER_00: It it really, really hurts.
• 13:42
  SPEAKER_00: So, you know, we gotta realize that that's a thing.
• 13:45
  SPEAKER_00: And the uh the yogis and the spiritual people like to profess that we need to recognize that we have pain.
• 13:54
  SPEAKER_00: We are grown adults, we recognize we have pain, and then we deal with those constructively.
• 13:58
  SPEAKER_00: So lashing out is not constructive, okay?
• 14:01
  SPEAKER_00: No, that person, whoever you're trying to talk to, do not ask to be talked to in general, okay?
• 14:06
  SPEAKER_00: Unless they specifically said it consensually, hey, come talk to me.
• 14:09
  SPEAKER_00: That you know, how often does that happen?
• 14:11
  SPEAKER_00: Like really, re in reality, how often does that happen?
• 14:14
  SPEAKER_00: Come hither.
• 14:15
  SPEAKER_00: Um, nobody's just sitting there putting their butts out there and letting you grab it and smack it, unless you're at a sex club or something, and that's just how the the rules are.
• 14:26
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but yeah, in general, I'm speaking in general, and it does not happen.
• 14:30
  SPEAKER_00: Nobody asks you to come talk to them.
• 14:32
  SPEAKER_00: So I know it actually hurts.
• 14:34
  SPEAKER_00: It feels physical, but you know what I'm saying?
• 14:36
  SPEAKER_00: Don't don't lash out at people when you just gave them unsolicited um approach is a thing.
• 14:43
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so why why else does it hurt?
• 14:45
  SPEAKER_00: If you feel put down, criticized, or abandoned, especially to a degree disproportionate to the facts of the situation, might be rejection sensitivity.
• 14:55
  SPEAKER_00: So sometimes in society, some people get bullied and made fun of.
• 15:00
  SPEAKER_00: So when you get rejected and other people see that and make fun of you, that just makes the situation even worse.
• 15:07
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it's not actually happening, and you think it's happening in your head.
• 15:11
  SPEAKER_00: Uh people are rejecting you because you did a dumb thing or you made a fool of yourself to in your opinion, and they are rejecting you in that way.
• 15:22
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, you can go only back to the like lizard days where if you got rejected by the village, they kicked you out and you went out by yourself, and you probably ended up starving because no no person in back in the the caveman days could survive everything.
• 15:35
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, you had predators and all kinds of stuff trying to eat you and poison you and bite you and and you know, just kind of deny you.
• 15:42
  SPEAKER_00: And it was hard to catch stuff by yourself.
• 15:45
  SPEAKER_00: That's why people grouped up together, made communities and all that stuff.
• 15:47
  SPEAKER_00: And back then, if you got rejected, you you died.
• 15:50
  SPEAKER_00: So I believe, in my personal belief, that we had that generational like trauma uh from all the way back, millions, well, depending on who you what you believe in, thousands of years ago, millions of years ago, in my opinion.
• 16:03
  SPEAKER_00: Uh so even from back then, rejection meant death.
• 16:07
  SPEAKER_00: So physically, it kind of feels that way when you get rejected, you poor thing.
• 16:12
  SPEAKER_00: Um, right there with you.
• 16:13
  SPEAKER_00: So it it is kind of rough.
• 16:16
  SPEAKER_00: Uh and some people say that um and the more general origin of rejection sensitivity comes from when you experience severe emotional pain because of a failure of being rejected.
• 16:26
  SPEAKER_00: It's a type of emotional response.
• 16:29
  SPEAKER_00: So I mean, we all grew up, we were all kids at some point, and you know, when you failed at something, um a lot of us got made fun of because of it.
• 16:38
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, and then you know, sometimes we got punished by our parents because of it.
• 16:42
  SPEAKER_00: So uh that's kind of where where the feelings of rejection and the higher the increase of re in rejection sensitivity came from was from all those times, especially if you were one of those gifted kids, and not gonna brag, but yeah, I was one of those gifted kids um just saying that factually, and you know, even when I got like a B, heaven forbid I got a C and I got punished for it, it's like damn, I fucked up.
• 17:06
  SPEAKER_00: And I I don't remember if I actually got spanked for that.
• 17:09
  SPEAKER_00: I I know I got in trouble, stuff got taken away, and that was painful as a kid.
• 17:13
  SPEAKER_00: Don't take away the PlayStation Nintendo uh before Xbox, so that was one of the thing.
• 17:18
  SPEAKER_00: Um that's how old I am.
• 17:20
  SPEAKER_00: Definitely Nintendo though.
• 17:21
  SPEAKER_00: Don't take away my Nintendo because I gotta see.
• 17:24
  SPEAKER_00: Oh no, it's horrible.
• 17:25
  SPEAKER_00: So, you know, I in my is my belief, this is why I'm doing this, and you you can choose not to listen to me or believe me or whatever.
• 17:33
  SPEAKER_00: Form your own opinion, do your own research.
• 17:35
  SPEAKER_00: Um, it is my belief that the rejection uh now, specifically in relationships or pursuing other people, comes from all that rejection from a kid.
• 17:43
  SPEAKER_00: And that's one of the sources because when you did something bad, you got punished.
• 17:48
  SPEAKER_00: Even if it was something you weren't good at, you still got punished.
• 17:51
  SPEAKER_00: So if you got bad grades, maybe you had neurodivergence or something.
• 17:55
  SPEAKER_00: ADHD, you were just a slow learner, not average averagely intelligent, and you had trouble.
• 18:01
  SPEAKER_00: Dicksia was a thing too.
• 18:02
  SPEAKER_00: People didn't know how to spell some of those people still don't know how to spell it.
• 18:07
  SPEAKER_00: But uh that was not a thing when I when I was I can only speak to my uh um um age when I was a kid.
• 18:13
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, stuff like that was went undiagnosed, and then you just got called dumb, and you know, and you got punished for it.
• 18:19
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, oh god.
• 18:20
  SPEAKER_00: So even now, it nobody is an expert at at dating.
• 18:24
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, there's pickup artists, quote unquote, but what is their goal?
• 18:27
  SPEAKER_00: You know what I'm saying?
• 18:28
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not trying to hook up with random people and take them home and I don't even know their name or whatever.
• 18:32
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, that's kind of a generalization that the society likes to make, but uh a lot of people like to do the hookup culture.
• 18:38
  SPEAKER_00: That's not me.
• 18:39
  SPEAKER_00: So I am not an expert uh even with this stuff.
• 18:43
  SPEAKER_00: I just read stuff and then I put it out there for y'all to listen to if you so choose to, uh, whatever.
• 18:48
  SPEAKER_00: So you can debate it all you want and have agree or disagree.
• 18:51
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just saying this is information that I've gleaned from my own experiences and the research that I've done.
• 18:57
  SPEAKER_00: Um it's a thing.
• 18:59
  SPEAKER_00: So a lot of even a lot of society, the smart people, the people that went to school and got degrees and certified for this stuff, say that a lot of the rejection and the punishment that we got as a child, aka trauma, leads into our regular life.
• 19:12
  SPEAKER_00: So people have emotions, and uh in my culture and the way I was brought, especially, and I know other people had this too, where you were not taught how to deal with your emotions.
• 19:22
  SPEAKER_00: So you lash out and have um outbursts that are you know butthurt, aka, uh, and you don't know how to deal with that.
• 19:29
  SPEAKER_00: And the rejection part of it is it, you know, like I just said, it's almost like a physical pain.
• 19:34
  SPEAKER_00: It's the same neural pathways, so you don't know what to do with that person.
• 19:37
  SPEAKER_00: So you lash out at somebody, make try to make yourself feel better.
• 19:40
  SPEAKER_00: Well, buddy, you still got rejected.
• 19:42
  SPEAKER_00: It's still a thing.
• 19:43
  SPEAKER_00: So you lashed out for nothing.
• 19:45
  SPEAKER_00: Hopefully that made you feel better, take your ball and go home, and and that's all there is to it.
• 19:50
  SPEAKER_00: It's just, you know, it's it's it's rough out there, but you know, um it wasn't their fault that you know you didn't bring the right thing.
• 19:59
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe they were just having a bad day.
• 20:00
  SPEAKER_00: How about you?
• 20:01
  SPEAKER_00: How about you ask that?
• 20:02
  SPEAKER_00: How about you think on that?
• 20:03
  SPEAKER_00: Ask yourself that.
• 20:04
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it wasn't me, maybe it was just them having a bad day.
• 20:07
  SPEAKER_00: They put the shoe on the wrong foot, they uh flipped the bed when they got out of it, I don't know, stubbed their toe or something.
• 20:13
  SPEAKER_00: Um and also I just want to reiterate reiterate once again, I'm not a trained professional.
• 20:19
  SPEAKER_00: I have information and I'm putting it out there.
• 20:21
  SPEAKER_00: That's the only difference between you and me right now, if you're just listening to this.
• 20:26
  SPEAKER_00: I did the research and put it out there.
• 20:29
  SPEAKER_00: That's all.
• 20:30
  SPEAKER_00: That's it.
• 20:30
  SPEAKER_00: That's all I'm doing.
• 20:31
  SPEAKER_00: I literally turned the mic on, hit the record button, and put it on a website.
• 20:34
  SPEAKER_01: That's it.
• 20:35
  SPEAKER_00: That's the only difference between you and me.
• 20:37
  SPEAKER_00: So my purpose here is to help cope and reduce the symptoms, but I can't resolve them.
• 20:42
  SPEAKER_00: You should see a professional for that.
• 20:43
  SPEAKER_00: Uh so this is definitely a uh uh therapy versus therapeutic.
• 20:48
  SPEAKER_00: I will give you tools um and make you aware of it.
• 20:51
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if anybody else agrees with me out there, but I feel better about myself.
• 20:56
  SPEAKER_00: Then doesn't really resolve the issues, but I feel better when I know why something is.
• 21:02
  SPEAKER_00: When somebody's like, oh man, why did that person do that?
• 21:05
  SPEAKER_00: Or why do they feel they need to do they felt they need to do that?
• 21:08
  SPEAKER_00: Well, this is why.
• 21:09
  SPEAKER_00: They lash out because they got butthurt, and it's be due in part to rejection sensitivity.
• 21:15
  SPEAKER_00: As a child, they were not taught how to deal with these emotions, so they lash out and do it non-constructively.
• 21:22
  SPEAKER_00: Um, terrible, terrible, terrible, but it is a thing.
• 21:25
  SPEAKER_00: So for the people that don't know, that's part of the reason why.
• 21:29
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so how do we work on it?
• 21:32
  SPEAKER_00: First, I'm gonna go into the bad habits, and then I'm going to go into the good habits.
• 21:36
  SPEAKER_00: Some of them.
• 21:36
  SPEAKER_00: There's a lot of different things that you can do, um, but uh yeah, for the bad the bad things, this this is the stuff that kind of perpetuates the bad behavior and the lashing out uh from uh from the rejection.
• 21:49
  SPEAKER_00: Um so let's go over those first.
• 21:53
  SPEAKER_00: Uh let's see.
• 21:54
  SPEAKER_00: First of all, arguing about rejection sensitivity is not effective.
• 21:59
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so if you have a situation where you had rejection sensitivity and you want to argue about why your point was correct, oh yeah, they should have said yes to me because I'm so-and-so.
• 22:12
  SPEAKER_00: Hey, buddy, you have a huge ego, and they don't nobody has to talk to you.
• 22:16
  SPEAKER_00: I don't care if you uh the the the damn Leonardo DiCaprio or some person, they get I'll just tell you that the world's sexiest man or woman, they get rejected too, and and or cheated on.
• 22:29
  SPEAKER_00: That's a normal thing.
• 22:30
  SPEAKER_00: You hear about it all the time in the news rags if you that type of person that likes to listen to that stuff.
• 22:35
  SPEAKER_00: The hot person get cheated on.
• 22:36
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, it happens.
• 22:37
  SPEAKER_00: That's that's a form of rejection as well.
• 22:39
  SPEAKER_00: Uh multiple reasons why it could happen.
• 22:42
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe the sex was just bad.
• 22:43
  SPEAKER_00: Uh that's making it very simple.
• 22:45
  SPEAKER_00: But uh arguing your point, it's not gonna do anything.
• 22:48
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, it's it's uh sports analogy.
• 22:51
  SPEAKER_00: You're arguing with a ref after they made a bad call, it's like they're not gonna turn on overturn their call.
• 22:55
  SPEAKER_00: How often does that rarely happen?
• 22:56
  SPEAKER_00: And now they had to do instant replays just to get the thing their point across.
• 23:01
  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes even then it doesn't get uh um reach uh overturned.
• 23:06
  SPEAKER_00: So they may anybody, any football people, there's there's a challenge flag.
• 23:10
  SPEAKER_00: You can throw the challenge flag out there, and sometimes that shit don't work out.
• 23:13
  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna cost you a timeout.
• 23:15
  SPEAKER_00: Now, I'll just say for the people that don't know anything about sports ball, losing a timeout in a sport is critical to the game.
• 23:21
  SPEAKER_00: It could end up making you lose the game.
• 23:23
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, do your research all you want, but that is a factual thing from the people that know the sports stuff.
• 23:29
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, even in even in sports, an official thing, you can't get the call rejected.
• 23:35
  SPEAKER_00: So arguing your point when you've been rejected, then that's not helpful.
• 23:39
  SPEAKER_00: That's a terrible habit.
• 23:40
  SPEAKER_00: Just take it and go, okay?
• 23:42
  SPEAKER_00: Just take it and go.
• 23:43
  SPEAKER_00: Um, all right, let's see here.
• 23:45
  SPEAKER_00: Uh next bad habit we're gonna talk about is logic versus emotion.
• 23:50
  SPEAKER_00: Usually feelings wins.
• 23:52
  SPEAKER_00: So even if you are a very logical quote unquote person, you think you are, yeah, this bullshit.
• 23:58
  SPEAKER_00: Um, emotions are you uh 90% of the time, I say 99% of the time, or go are going to win out.
• 24:05
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, logically, every Somebody can look perfect on perfect on paper and things just don't work out.
• 24:12
  SPEAKER_00: Guess what?
• 24:14
  SPEAKER_00: You move on, okay?
• 24:16
  SPEAKER_00: I don't uh see.
• 24:17
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not the type of person to believe that you know true love is a thing.
• 24:21
  SPEAKER_00: It's just love.
• 24:22
  SPEAKER_00: You run into people, your perfect person may that thing might not, yeah.
• 24:27
  SPEAKER_00: Soulmates, oh that's just a gross word.
• 24:30
  SPEAKER_00: I understand if you believe that stuff, more power to you, but yeah, that just grosses me out when people say that.
• 24:35
  SPEAKER_00: It's just you come in contact with people.
• 24:37
  SPEAKER_00: You are who you are at that time, and you come in contact, and if that person can put up with your mess and you can put up with their mess all right, I'm joking a little bit about that, but you know what I'm trying to say.
• 24:49
  SPEAKER_00: They put up with your stuff, you know what I'm saying, and then you make it work, and then you grow from there.
• 24:54
  SPEAKER_00: You try to evolve and work on your stuff until you decide not to, or you decide to keep going.
• 24:59
  SPEAKER_00: That's just how it is.
• 25:01
  SPEAKER_00: So, in general, emotions are illogical, they make no sense, but we are of the society where that is going to win out most of the time.
• 25:11
  SPEAKER_00: Unfortunately, I'm sorry to break it to you.
• 25:13
  SPEAKER_00: Logic doesn't always win, emotions usually do.
• 25:17
  SPEAKER_00: That's just how it is out there.
• 25:18
  SPEAKER_00: So uh just realize that feelings are a thing.
• 25:22
  SPEAKER_00: Uh yeah, I don't know what to tell y'all if you don't know that.
• 25:26
  SPEAKER_00: You can try to be the most logical person.
• 25:28
  SPEAKER_00: It's not, it's you're just gonna you you're gonna you're gonna end up hitting your head against a uh a wall there because you're not gonna be able to get past that.
• 25:35
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, everybody has to realize that emotions are a thing.
• 25:37
  SPEAKER_00: You have emotions and you can deal with them constructively.
• 25:40
  SPEAKER_00: You're welcome.
• 25:41
  SPEAKER_00: That's my PSA for this episode right there.
• 25:44
  SPEAKER_00: Uh all right.
• 25:45
  SPEAKER_00: Last thing for bad habits dismissing worries makes fear flare up, okay?
• 25:50
  SPEAKER_00: So if you have a worry, if you're worried about something, you're anxious about something, it's making you stressed out, recognize that that's what it is happening, and figure out why.
• 26:01
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, if you keep pushing that stuff down, it's just gonna make you feel uh your fear or your emotions in general flare up.
• 26:09
  SPEAKER_00: It's not good to force that emotion down.
• 26:11
  SPEAKER_00: There's a strong emotion, worry is a strong emotion, anxious anxiety is a strong emotion, all that stuff.
• 27:11
  SPEAKER_00: Stress is a thing.
• 27:12
  SPEAKER_00: You should try to work on de-stressing yourself and all that.
• 27:16
  SPEAKER_00: Anxiety actually warps your reality sometimes.
• 27:18
  SPEAKER_00: That's you know, there's there's ways where you think something's real and it's not even completely made up in your head just because of how anxious you are.
• 27:27
  SPEAKER_00: So that's not good.
• 27:29
  SPEAKER_00: We need to we gotta we gotta learn how to process those emotions.
• 27:32
  SPEAKER_00: Um recognize that you have them first and then learn how to constructively process them.
• 27:36
  SPEAKER_00: Figuring out why.
• 27:37
  SPEAKER_00: Always ask why.
• 27:38
  SPEAKER_00: Why am I angry right now?
• 27:39
  SPEAKER_00: Why am I butthurt?
• 27:41
  SPEAKER_00: I got rejected.
• 27:43
  SPEAKER_00: What why did this person reject me?
• 27:45
  SPEAKER_00: How about maybe they're just having a bad day and it's not about me?
• 27:48
  SPEAKER_00: Hmm, let's think about that, capsters.
• 27:51
  SPEAKER_00: Is it about you?
• 27:52
  SPEAKER_00: Do you even know?
• 27:53
  SPEAKER_00: Do you even do they do you even know for sure they're actually rejecting you?
• 27:58
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you're just some person in them that they just did not want to talk to.
• 28:02
  SPEAKER_00: How about they came out their house, wanted to do their laundry, at a laundry band, I don't know, in the creek, the river, whatever, and they just didn't want to talk to anybody.
• 28:10
  SPEAKER_00: How about that?
• 28:11
  SPEAKER_00: Do you know that?
• 28:12
  SPEAKER_00: Do you know that when you went up and talked to them?
• 28:14
  SPEAKER_01: Did they say they wanted you to talk to them?
• 28:16
  SPEAKER_01: How about that?
• 28:17
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe they didn't want to talk to anybody, they just want to get their shit done.
• 28:20
  SPEAKER_00: Have you considered that?
• 28:21
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's not about you.
• 28:23
  SPEAKER_00: How about that?
• 28:24
  SPEAKER_00: Hmm.
• 28:25
  SPEAKER_00: Interesting.
• 28:26
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so let's move on for bad habits, because I'm getting triggered from the bad habits, just thinking about all these past stuff and shit I've read, doing trying to come up with this information, and we will move on to good habits.
• 28:38
  SPEAKER_00: Good habits.
• 28:39
  SPEAKER_00: Let's see here.
• 28:40
  SPEAKER_00: Number one, good habits, which is great.
• 28:42
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, such a good thing.
• 28:43
  SPEAKER_00: Even when it doesn't have to do rejection, it helps with the rejection and a bunch of other things, but you should treat yourself with compassion.
• 28:51
  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
• 28:51
  SPEAKER_00: Realize, hey, I'm a human, I make mistakes.
• 28:55
  SPEAKER_00: How about you went up to talk to that person?
• 28:58
  SPEAKER_00: You didn't realize they didn't want to talk to anybody.
• 29:00
  SPEAKER_00: It is not about you.
• 29:01
  SPEAKER_00: How about you take yourself with compassion, be like, you know what?
• 29:05
  SPEAKER_00: I went out there and I talked to somebody.
• 29:06
  SPEAKER_00: I was trying to find a partner, I just ended up talking to the wrong person.
• 29:09
  SPEAKER_01: And then you move on.
• 29:11
  SPEAKER_01: No need to get butthurt.
• 29:13
  SPEAKER_01: You don't even know they were rejecting you.
• 29:15
  SPEAKER_01: They could have just, you know, had a bad day.
• 29:17
  SPEAKER_01: That's it.
• 29:18
  SPEAKER_00: Just give them, you know, like apologize for wasting their time, give them a little compliment, and walk away about your business.
• 29:23
  SPEAKER_00: That's it.
• 29:24
  SPEAKER_00: How about that?
• 29:26
  SPEAKER_00: Most people enjoy compliments.
• 29:27
  SPEAKER_00: Not everybody enjoys compliments, but so most people do.
• 29:30
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, so uh you can try to make their day a little bit better just to give them a little compliment.
• 29:36
  SPEAKER_00: You know, that might not even work either, but you know, you go with the probability and just realize it's probably not about you.
• 29:42
  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
• 29:43
  SPEAKER_00: Keep it moving.
• 29:44
  SPEAKER_00: Treat yourself with compassion, you know, saying you did a good job, you said something, and guess what?
• 29:48
  SPEAKER_00: You didn't get butthurt about it.
• 29:49
  SPEAKER_00: You kept on moving.
• 29:51
  SPEAKER_00: There you go, good job, buddy.
• 29:53
  SPEAKER_00: High five yourself.
• 29:54
  SPEAKER_00: All right, pat yourself on the back.
• 29:55
  SPEAKER_00: All right.
• 29:56
  SPEAKER_00: And the next thing, I kind of touched on this before.
• 29:59
  SPEAKER_00: Another good habit, acceptance and validation of emotions.
• 30:03
  SPEAKER_00: We are humans once again.
• 30:05
  SPEAKER_00: We have emotions.
• 30:07
  SPEAKER_00: Should just accept that you have emotions, they're not always good, they're not always bad, and then validate yourself.
• 30:13
  SPEAKER_00: Be like, I have these emotions, and you know what?
• 30:15
  SPEAKER_00: I'm human, I can have these emotions.
• 30:17
  SPEAKER_00: And guess what?
• 30:18
  SPEAKER_00: Nobody else has to do anything about them except for me.
• 30:23
  SPEAKER_00: I can control my reactions, I cannot control my emotions.
• 30:27
  SPEAKER_00: You have emotions, there's no way to stop those emotions.
• 30:31
  SPEAKER_00: The only thing you can do is recognize them and then react accordingly.
• 30:34
  SPEAKER_00: That's it.
• 30:35
  SPEAKER_00: It could be a bad reaction, it could be a good reaction, but guess what?
• 30:38
  SPEAKER_00: That's what we're here for.
• 30:40
  SPEAKER_00: Reacting accordingly with those emotions.
• 30:43
  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
• 30:44
  SPEAKER_00: You're human, you have emotions.
• 30:47
  SPEAKER_00: You cannot control these emotions, but you can control your reactions to those emotions.
• 30:52
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome.
• 30:53
  SPEAKER_00: If you want to control emotions, I don't know.
• 30:55
  SPEAKER_00: You gotta talk to a professional.
• 30:56
  SPEAKER_00: I don't even know if that's even possible.
• 30:58
  SPEAKER_00: Um, as far as I've seen, I have not seen it possible.
• 31:00
  SPEAKER_00: But once again, I am not a professional, I am not educated professionally, I've not been licensed, accredited, uh, certified certified, all that business.
• 31:11
  SPEAKER_00: I got no degrees.
• 31:12
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, except for Google University, gives me gives me some learning.
• 31:16
  SPEAKER_00: That's about it.
• 31:17
  SPEAKER_00: But I know for a fact we're all humans and we have we all have emotions.
• 31:21
  SPEAKER_00: And as far as I know, AI is not uh 100% there yet.
• 31:24
  SPEAKER_00: I don't think it is work.
• 31:26
  SPEAKER_00: There's no robots walking around, at least.
• 31:27
  SPEAKER_00: Not that I've heard.
• 31:29
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I feel I feel like, you know, another tangent.
• 31:31
  SPEAKER_00: AI is gonna be a thing.
• 31:32
  SPEAKER_00: There's gonna be robots around, we're just not gonna hear about it until like decades later.
• 31:35
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, by the way, we had robots 10 years ago.
• 31:37
  SPEAKER_00: As far as I know, though, they're not walking around here.
• 31:39
  SPEAKER_00: So as far as as far as I know, you're human and you have emotions.
• 31:44
  SPEAKER_00: So welcome.
• 31:45
  SPEAKER_00: Uh all right.
• 31:47
  SPEAKER_00: Next good habits, honor your emotions, even in a disagreement.
• 31:52
  SPEAKER_00: Now, we are also human, and we do not need to agree on everything.
• 31:56
  SPEAKER_00: You probably disagreed with a lot of stuff I've said.
• 31:58
  SPEAKER_00: You probably disagreed with a lot of stuff we've said on the podcast.
• 32:03
  SPEAKER_00: And guess what?
• 32:04
  SPEAKER_00: You can be emotional about it, whether you agree with it or don't agree with it.
• 32:08
  SPEAKER_00: And you know what?
• 32:09
  SPEAKER_00: You you are entitled to your emotions.
• 32:12
  SPEAKER_00: There you go.
• 32:13
  SPEAKER_00: I don't really care about your opinions too much most of the time, but you can have emotions.
• 32:18
  SPEAKER_00: I'll let you have emotions.
• 32:20
  SPEAKER_00: There you go.
• 32:20
  SPEAKER_00: You're welcome.
• 32:21
  SPEAKER_00: I officialist Julius said you can have emotions.
• 32:23
  SPEAKER_00: So feel free to have those.
• 32:25
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, once again, I am not here to agree, win, um, disagree, lose, whatever.
• 32:30
  SPEAKER_00: It's not about that.
• 32:31
  SPEAKER_00: I just have facts.
• 32:32
  SPEAKER_00: I've done my research and I'm putting it out there.
• 32:34
  SPEAKER_00: That's literally it.
• 32:36
  SPEAKER_00: That's all the point of this podcast is, at least for me.
• 32:38
  SPEAKER_00: And then I'm gonna slap some entertainment on there because I am funny.
• 32:41
  SPEAKER_00: You can agree or disagree with that as well.
• 32:44
  SPEAKER_00: But hopefully you got a little chuckle at some point, and then you learned something new.
• 32:48
  SPEAKER_00: And then um, hopefully got inspired uh to do your own research and listen to other stuff uh related to the topics we've talked about.
• 32:55
  SPEAKER_00: Hopefully, you went out and experienced it for yourself.
• 32:58
  SPEAKER_00: Got a little rejection up your butthole and took it and um kept on going.
• 33:02
  SPEAKER_00: Hey, guess what?
• 33:04
  SPEAKER_00: You've been rejected before and you're still alive.
• 33:06
  SPEAKER_00: That's literally it.
• 33:07
  SPEAKER_00: So if you get rejected, what's the worst thing that can happen?
• 33:10
  SPEAKER_00: Somebody laughs at you?
• 33:11
  SPEAKER_00: Who is this person?
• 33:12
  SPEAKER_00: Who why you why the fuck you give a care about them?
• 33:14
  SPEAKER_00: Even if they're your friends, does it really matter?
• 33:17
  SPEAKER_00: They're gonna stop being your friend because you got rejected?
• 33:19
  SPEAKER_00: No.
• 33:19
  SPEAKER_00: Alright, so that's just how it is.
• 33:21
  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
• 33:22
  SPEAKER_00: Alright, let's see here.
• 33:23
  SPEAKER_00: We got a couple more good habits.
• 33:25
  SPEAKER_00: Let's do uh another one here.
• 33:26
  SPEAKER_00: Uh acknowledged by naming them and associating them with body sensation.
• 33:33
  SPEAKER_00: So this is the part here where we get where we get all uh spiritual and eastern medicine-y for the most part.
• 33:44
  SPEAKER_00: And I guess uh Western medicine has started to adopt this too.
• 33:48
  SPEAKER_00: So how do we deal with emotions?
• 33:49
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I'll probably do a deep dive in this too in a uh later episodes.
• 33:52
  SPEAKER_00: There's a little bit of a tease.
• 33:54
  SPEAKER_00: So, best way to cope with emotions is find out you having an emotion, figure out what that emotion is, and then relate that to a real world experience or like a body sensation.
• 34:07
  SPEAKER_00: Why so basically I'm ha what emotion am I having?
• 34:11
  SPEAKER_00: Why am I having it?
• 34:13
  SPEAKER_00: And how is it affecting me exactly?
• 34:17
  SPEAKER_00: So now, for example, somebody's annoying you, you realize you're annoying, and then um why are they doing it?
• 34:24
  SPEAKER_00: Because they're saying something stupid, and how is it affecting me?
• 34:27
  SPEAKER_00: It's wasting my time.
• 34:28
  SPEAKER_00: So at that point, we've done all the steps, the three steps, and then we go into okay, so what am I gonna do now?
• 34:35
  SPEAKER_00: Am I going to keep experiencing this annoyance or am I going to avoid this person or thing, whatever it may have you?
• 34:42
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so there we go.
• 34:44
  SPEAKER_00: That is a quick way, quick example of how we uh learn to acknowledge those feelings that we have and then um react accordingly.
• 34:53
  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
• 34:53
  SPEAKER_00: Don't get butthurt.
• 34:54
  SPEAKER_00: Don't be like, oh my God, I'm angry, I'm annoyed, this person uh rejected me, so I'm gonna lash out at them.
• 35:01
  SPEAKER_00: No, no, that's not how that works.
• 35:03
  SPEAKER_00: That's not how that works.
• 35:04
  SPEAKER_00: Be a good human.
• 35:06
  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
• 35:06
  SPEAKER_00: Don't lash out at people because they rejected you.
• 35:08
  SPEAKER_00: That's no.
• 35:09
  SPEAKER_00: Need to recognize you have a feeling, I feel rejected, and you need to recognize why because I talked to them and they rejected me.
• 35:16
  SPEAKER_00: Don't even yeah, you have you don't know what their per reason was for rejecting you, but you know why you had those emotions.
• 35:22
  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
• 35:23
  SPEAKER_00: And then what are you gonna do now?
• 35:24
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna stop talking to people?
• 35:25
  SPEAKER_00: You gotta realize, hey, I'm trying to pursue a partner.
• 35:28
  SPEAKER_00: Uh so I need to talk to people.
• 35:30
  SPEAKER_00: That's how it is.
• 35:31
  SPEAKER_00: So you're gonna keep doing it because you want you want a partner.
• 35:34
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, so guess what?
• 35:36
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna get rejected again.
• 35:37
  SPEAKER_00: What are you gonna do about it?
• 35:39
  SPEAKER_00: How about you just take it and um do be angry about it, and you know, and then keep on walking.
• 35:46
  SPEAKER_00: Because, like I said, it's probably not about you.
• 35:49
  SPEAKER_00: So, yeah, we need to recognize those feelings.
• 35:51
  SPEAKER_00: And then, of course, um, lastly, you can meditate to reduce intensity and increase awareness.
• 35:56
  SPEAKER_00: That's basically the whole point of meditation, whether you believe in it or not.
• 36:01
  SPEAKER_00: It is um the main reason, uh uh, at least uh from what I found is meditation is to increase self-awareness and reduce the intensity of emotions.
• 36:14
  SPEAKER_00: So that is the why and the how again.
• 36:17
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, why and what, maybe?
• 36:19
  SPEAKER_00: Why do we have these emotions and how do we decrease them?
• 36:23
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm going into a highly um stressful situation.
• 36:27
  SPEAKER_00: I feel anxious about it.
• 36:30
  SPEAKER_00: Why do I feel anxious and recognize that I do feel anxious, and then hopefully that will uh reduce the intensity of it.
• 36:37
  SPEAKER_00: It's like I know I'm going to be triggered here and I'm going into this situation.
• 36:41
  SPEAKER_00: Why am I doing this?
• 36:42
  SPEAKER_00: Because it's for work or whatever, and I need to do this for work to be paid and you know, buy groceries and entertainment and go on trips, yada yada yada.
• 36:49
  SPEAKER_00: Whatever you use your money for, but you have to go through it.
• 36:53
  SPEAKER_00: That's how it is.
• 36:54
  SPEAKER_00: So you have these emotions because of it.
• 36:57
  SPEAKER_00: We we all have emotions, we are humans, so we're going through this thing, and we know why, and that is why.
• 37:03
  SPEAKER_00: Uh whatever, whatever your reason is.
• 37:06
  SPEAKER_00: So that's that's how it is, and meditation will help with that.
• 37:09
  SPEAKER_00: That's a very uh convoluted way to speak about meditation.
• 37:13
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, there's plenty of meditation podcasts, uh you know, other vi videos and teachings on how to do that.
• 37:19
  SPEAKER_00: You can come up with your own um uh opinion about meditation in general.
• 37:24
  SPEAKER_00: I'm firmly a believer in meditation.
• 37:26
  SPEAKER_00: I try to meditate even lightly on a regular basis just because I have emotions.
• 37:31
  SPEAKER_00: I realize I'm human and I need to know why I have these emotions and when I have these emotions, and you know, relate them uh into however I gotta cope with them, body sensations, yada yada yada.
• 37:43
  SPEAKER_00: And yeah, so I yeah, there's plenty meditation.
• 37:47
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just saying that's the whole point of meditation.
• 37:49
  SPEAKER_00: If you don't know what meditation is, there are plenty of resources uh to learn about meditation and different practices of meditation, so you can do your own research at that point.
• 37:57
  SPEAKER_00: I'm saying that it helps.
• 37:58
  SPEAKER_00: It is a good habit to have in reducing the rejection sensitivity, at least the intensity of it, and then becoming more self-aware also helps with that.
• 38:06
  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
• 38:07
  SPEAKER_00: Uh all right, so that's all I have today about rejection sensitivity.
• 38:12
  SPEAKER_00: This is probably gonna be one of my favorite topics just because uh everybody gets butthurt at some point, so it just happens.
• 38:17
  SPEAKER_00: Um I just want to make you aware of it, you know.
• 38:20
  SPEAKER_00: People get people get rejected, people, camsters.
• 38:23
  SPEAKER_00: It happens, okay?
• 38:24
  SPEAKER_00: And we all have emotions.
• 38:26
  SPEAKER_00: Hope you guys are uh realizing that now that you're human and you have emotions.
• 38:31
  SPEAKER_00: That's a thing, okay?
• 38:33
  SPEAKER_00: Alright.
• 38:34
  SPEAKER_00: Uh alright.
• 38:36
  SPEAKER_00: This is El Comidone, aka uh what do I have here?
• 38:42
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, Master of Uranus, the cuddle gigolo.
• 38:44
  SPEAKER_00: Still want to get that title official.
• 38:46
  SPEAKER_00: I don't want to be any of the uh titles would be that's definitely my number one.
• 38:50
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna be a cuddle giggle.
• 38:52
  SPEAKER_00: That's it.
• 38:52
  SPEAKER_00: You pay me to cuddle.
• 38:54
  SPEAKER_00: I'm a whore.
• 38:55
  SPEAKER_00: I'll go out there and cuddle you.
• 38:56
  SPEAKER_00: I'll also cuddle or uh be a whore for sponsors as well.
• 39:00
  SPEAKER_00: Put it out there.
• 39:01
  SPEAKER_00: Sparkling ice, mmm, plus caffeine.
• 39:04
  SPEAKER_00: Yum yum.
• 39:05
  SPEAKER_00: Alright, so that's all I have for now.
• 39:07
  SPEAKER_00: You can call me just Julius.
• 39:09
  SPEAKER_00: This is Around the Kinky Campfire.
• 39:12
  SPEAKER_00: We have group episodes uh every second and fourth Thursday of most months.
• 39:18
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• 39:23
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• 39:26
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• 39:28
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• 39:32
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• 39:39
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• 39:42
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• 39:45
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• 39:51
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• 39:52
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• 39:54
  SPEAKER_00: So we got some myths that we talked about before.
• 39:56
  SPEAKER_00: We got some more myths coming up, and maybe some random episodes in there, reaction episodes, I should say.
• 40:01
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know how everybody is everybody burnt out on reaction stuff.
• 40:04
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like I have an opinion on different things, and I want to react to somebody's reaction of a reaction.
• 40:09
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if y'all would enjoy that, but I find that very entertaining.
• 40:11
  SPEAKER_00: So I might just do it anyway.
• 40:13
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• 40:17
  SPEAKER_00: That's it for now.
• 40:18
  SPEAKER_00: This is Julius.
• 40:20
  SPEAKER_00: Hello!