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Mojo Monday - How to Have a Good Bad Day with Carly Taylor · Hardiness with Dr Paul Taylor

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  Speaker 1: Hey, everyone, welcome to Mojo Monday. It's Carli here, and
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  Speaker 1: today I want to talk about something we all have
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  Speaker 1: to deal with, and that is bad days. So right now,
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  Speaker 1: some of you might be going through a rough patch life,
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  Speaker 1: maybe throwing you curve balls. Maybe it's stress at work
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  Speaker 1: or tight deadlines, a heavy workload, maybe issues with colleagues,
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  Speaker 1: or perhaps there's something more personal like family challenges, a
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  Speaker 1: relationship breakdown, difficult diagnosis, or maybe feeling overwhelmed by all
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  Speaker 1: the demands of life from maybe your sleep hasn't been
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  Speaker 1: that great. That can be a huge one and it's
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  Speaker 1: having a knock on effect on your mood. So whatever
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  Speaker 1: it is, I can assure you you are not alone.
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  Speaker 1: There's a spectrum of what makes a bad day, and
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  Speaker 1: of course some of you having worse days than others.
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  Speaker 1: But here's the thing. A bad day doesn't have to
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  Speaker 1: be all bad, even if it feels like it. You
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  Speaker 1: can actually have a good bad day, or at least
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  Speaker 1: make it the best bad day that you could possibly have.
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  Speaker 1: And to make a bad day a good bad day,
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  Speaker 1: you need to kind of take off the metaphorical blinkers.
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  Speaker 1: So take a moment to acknowledge where you're at, So
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  Speaker 1: what is the reality of your situation, whether you like
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  Speaker 1: it or not. What do you have to accept because
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  Speaker 1: so often we focus on how we would like things
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  Speaker 1: to be different to what they actually are or how
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  Speaker 1: we would like to feel. And unless that's a motivating
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  Speaker 1: thing for you to take action, it can create this
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  Speaker 1: gap between the reality of what is happening and kind
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  Speaker 1: of this ideal or this idealism of how you would
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  Speaker 1: like it to be. If you can't accept what is
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  Speaker 1: right now, both externally with your situation and internally with
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  Speaker 1: how you're feeling, you will struggle because you're not facing
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  Speaker 1: the truth. And that's where that gap can become really wide.
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  Speaker 1: It's okay to feel stressed or sad or frustrated, and
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  Speaker 1: you can accept how you're feeling without getting too caught
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  Speaker 1: up in it. Allow it to be there. Accepting your
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  Speaker 1: internal and your external reality. That is the first step.
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  Speaker 1: Then I want you to go outside and look up,
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  Speaker 1: so seriously, look up. Look at the birds, Listen to
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  Speaker 1: their song, watch the clouds drift by, Feel the air
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  Speaker 1: on your skin. So can the sun if the sun's shining.
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  Speaker 1: Life is tough. Life is tough, but even in the
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  Speaker 1: hardest times there's still joy to experience. So shifting your
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  Speaker 1: attention to these small moments of joy can make a
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  Speaker 1: huge difference to your well being because what it does
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  Speaker 1: is widens your perspective of life right now. So of
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  Speaker 1: course it's not going to solve your problems. It's not
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  Speaker 1: going to cure anyone. It won't make the hurt go
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  Speaker 1: away or make deadlines disappear, but it can give you
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  Speaker 1: a little break, a moment of reprieve, this moment of
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  Speaker 1: stillness and peace, and it can help you bring your
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  Speaker 1: awareness to what is beyond how you're feeling, because it's
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  Speaker 1: so easy to have those blinkers on and this is
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  Speaker 1: something that our minds and our body craves. So when
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  Speaker 1: you're having one of those days, remember to pause, take
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  Speaker 1: a deep breath, and accept your reality. Step outside, take
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  Speaker 1: in your surroundings. Notice how it shifts your mood, even
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  Speaker 1: if it's just a little. So seek out those small
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  Speaker 1: moments and let them remind you that there's more to
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  Speaker 1: life than the challenges that you're facing. And it's okay
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  Speaker 1: to have a bad day or have bad days, but
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  Speaker 1: it doesn't have to define you, and it certainly doesn't
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  Speaker 1: take away the fact that life can be difficult and
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  Speaker 1: life can be a struggle, but it's about finding those
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  Speaker 1: little pockets of goodness and holding onto them. So thank
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  Speaker 1: you for listening today. I hope this helps you next
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  Speaker 1: time you're having a tough day, and remember it's okay
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  Speaker 1: to feel what you're feeling, but don't forget to look
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  Speaker 1: for the good too, so you can find these moments
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  Speaker 1: of peace even when you feel like you're in the
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  Speaker 1: middle of a storm. So take care and keep finding
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  Speaker 1: the joy in the little things, and I will see
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  Speaker 1: you next week.