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EP 15: This Is the Abundant Life and Finding Satisfaction (And It’s Not What You Think) · Healthy Boundaries for Moms| Christian Life Coach

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  I remember thinking it must be nice Kathy to be you she could just say no no
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  guilt no over explaining she just said no and then sometimes she'd say yes yes
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  to the things that she actually wanted if I'm being honest I wasn't really
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  jealous of Kathy I was jealous of the Kathy's in the world and what she
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  represented do you know a Kathy these are women who could just say no without
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  guilt without second-guessing women who just seemed grounded when they made
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  their choices and they weren't constantly wondering did I do the right
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  thing did I upset someone they just looked clear if so I think you're gonna
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  really enjoy this episode today if you're tired of people pleasing caring
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  too much and wondering why peace still feel so hard to hold on to you're in the
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  right place hi I'm Lori mom one more people pleaser
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  and your boundaries coach here we talk about how to protect your peace set
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  healthier boundaries and get clear on what actually matters so that you can
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  build a life that feels lighter calmer and more satisfying so let's stop the
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  chaos for a minute moms catch our breath and get in to this next episode
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  welcome back friend this is healthy boundaries for moms so before we get in
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  today's episode I want to share something with you this is a review that
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  someone recently left for the podcast Katrina says healthy boundaries for moms
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  is such a powerful and refreshing find this podcast speaks directly to the
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  heart of motherhood in a way that feels both honest and uplifting Lori has a
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  beautiful way of blending practical advice with faith-based encouragement
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  making each episode feel grounding and inspiring her perspective on boundaries
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  is especially impactful it is not about guilt or perfection but about creating
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  peace balance and a life that aligns with your values what stands out most is
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  how relatable and genuine she is she clearly understands the challenges mom's
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  face and speak directly with compassion wisdom and clarity every episode leaves
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  me feeling more equipped more confident and reminded that taking care of myself
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  is not selfish it is necessary I just want to thank you Katrina for leaving
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  that amazing review and if you've been listening to this podcast and it's
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  helping you I would love for you to leave a review like this one on Apple
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  podcasts and I read every single one guys and I may even share yours on here
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  on the podcast just like this one and when I read that review I just thought
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  yes this is exactly the life we are trying to build here at healthy
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  boundaries for moms and I think this episode is gonna be really good to
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  unpack because we have seen these Kathy's in our lives and we could really
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  learn some things about how to say no without the guilt without the
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  over-explaining and just say no and then we can also learn about how to say yes
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  to the things that we actually want and I really wanted to be able to say no
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  without the guilt without the second-guessing and I wanted to be a
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  woman that was grounded in her choices and weren't actually always asking did I
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  do the right thing did I upset someone so this is what we're gonna be unpacking
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  in this episode we're really going to be talking about the abundant life because I
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  think we've been getting it completely wrong like what the abundant life
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  actually is and this is where I started to think what does the Bible actually
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  say about the abundant life so in John 10 10 Jesus says the thief cometh not
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  but for to steal and to kill and to destroy I come that they may have life
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  and that they may have it more abundantly so did you hear that more
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  abundantly and I think that we've been misdefining abundance because we hear
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  the word abundance right and we immediately think that must mean more
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  more options more freedom more yes but what if that is not what it means at all
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  what if it just means we are aligned so let's go back to the story about Kathy
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  because I really think there's something important there that we really need to
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  unpack because at the root of it my thought was so she just gets to do
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  whatever she wants but what I see now on the other side of it is she was choosing
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  what mattered to her and then she was just letting the rest go she wasn't
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  saying yes to everything she was just saying yes to the right things for her
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  and in 1st Corinthians 1433 it says for God is not an author of confusion but of
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  peace as in all churches of the Saints so guys if your life is feeling
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  overwhelming chaotic it's really confusing that for sure is not the
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  abundant life so in my own life I've always been a more is more person so
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  what I mean by that is more food was always better more clothes more options
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  and I thought that that's what was gonna make me feel full and satisfied
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  but here's what I'm learning now and I have been learning less done
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  intentionally actually feels so much better so what that look like in our in
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  our lives so not more food but food that I actually enjoy and that supports my
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  health and my goals or how about not a closet full of clothes but a few pieces
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  that I love to wear and bring me joy and not more items in my home or things I
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  can bring home from Target but things that really reflect who I am and when it
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  comes to my schedule I don't need a packed schedule from Sunday to Saturday
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  but I need one that I chose that I chose what was listed on that schedule
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  and not saying yes to everything but saying yes to what actually really
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  matters and not constant noise but making space to think and not rushing
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  through my day but actually experience it and enjoying it that's the
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  difference guys it's not more is better so I've also been thinking about this
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  idea of living a curated life and I don't know if you've heard that term
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  before but it's just kind of a fancy way of saying a life that you've chose each
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  item like kind of a crafted put-together life that was like intentionally
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  choosing what stays and here's a quote from Henry David Thoreau and I think it
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  really goes along with this topic it says a man is rich in proportion to the
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  number of things he can afford to let alone I just think that we really need
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  to think about that like that's rich what not picking up what not adding that
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  is the rich life that's the abundant life so I was reading this book present
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  over perfect it's written by Shana Nyquist and I don't know if I'm saying
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  her name right but y'all I have read this book over and over again it's got
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  coffee stains on it dog ears I've highlighted I've underlined it it is so
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  good so if you haven't read it go out and get it I'll put it in the show notes
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  the information to grab one but there was a line that really stuck with me
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  that I thought went really well with the topic we're talking about she says the
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  real problem of life is never lack of time it's lack of attention so that
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  means I don't need more life I just need to actually experience the one I
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  already have so how do we make this real real in our lives so when you picture an
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  abundant life what is the first thing that comes to mind do you think okay I
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  just need more money I just need more time or more options or do you picture
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  calmness being intentional or having space or enjoying what you have what do
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  you wish you could choose without feeling guilty because friends whatever
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  that is that's where your boundaries need to be and what actually feels
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  indulgent to you what's not excessive but what's genuinely good what feels
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  indulgent to you because you don't get that kind of life by accident you get it
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  by choosing it so in Galatians 5 22 to 23 it says but the fruit of the Spirit
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  is love joy peace long-suffering gentleness goodness faith meekness
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  temperance against such there is no law so self-control isn't restriction then
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  it's what creates a life that actually works and we've got to remember that
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  discipline isn't punishment it is what is removing the chaos and again more is
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  not a but abundance alignment is because if we're honest there is nothing
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  luxurious about chaos right and there is nothing indulgent about us burning
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  ourselves out a high quality life is built on what you don't allow in and so
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  in Luke 16 10 it says he that is faithful and that which is least is
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  faithful also in much and he that is unjust in the least is unjust also in
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  much so that means this life you have right now that's what you're being asked
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  to steward not a future life but what you are doing right here in the present
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  so those women I used to look at the Cathy's they were not special they
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  weren't guys they didn't have a special power they were just choosing
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  differently and God isn't asking you or I to live a small sad little life okay
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  he is actually asking you to live well and to choose well so this is what I
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  want you to ask yourself while you're going through the week where are you
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  choosing more instead of what actually matters most to you and what have you
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  never actually chosen you just kept it around because it was there and what
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  would your life look like if you started living it on purpose so guys I just want
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  to close out by saying you don't need a different life you just need to start
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  choosing the one you already have hey friend I hope this episode helped you if
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  so come join us in the healthy boundaries for moms Facebook group
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  that's where we go deeper share what's working and support each other in real
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  podcast it helps more moms find this message now friend go say no to what's
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  stealing your peace and say yes to something that you really need and I'll
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  meet you back here in the next episode