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- 0:00Speaker 1: Hello, my name's Santasha Nabananga Bamblet. I'm a proud yr
- 0:04Speaker 1: the Order Kerney Whoalbury and a waddery woman. And before
- 0:08Speaker 1: we get started on She's on the Money podcast, I
- 0:11Speaker 1: would like to acknowledge the traditional custodians of the land
- 0:14Speaker 1: of which this podcast is recorded on a wondery country,
- 0:18Speaker 1: acknowledging the elders, the ancestors and the next generation coming
- 0:22Speaker 1: through as this podcast is about connecting, empowering, knowledge sharing
- 0:27Speaker 1: and the storytelling of you to make a difference for
- 0:30Speaker 1: today and lasting impact for tomorrow.
- 0:33Speaker 2: Let's get into it.
- 0:34Speaker 3: She's on the Money. She's on the Money.
- 0:57Speaker 2: Hello, and welcome to She's on the Money, the book
- 1:00Speaker 2: for millennials who want financial freedom. Now, my friends, it
- 1:04Speaker 2: is just me Victoria hanging out solo today to introduce
- 1:08Speaker 2: a little bonus episode to you. And the reason I'm
- 1:11Speaker 2: doing that is because everybody's got this new year you
- 1:13Speaker 2: me vibe going about them, and from the feedback I
- 1:16Speaker 2: got about my first book, I felt like it would
- 1:18Speaker 2: be a really good New Year's gift for everybody to
- 1:21Speaker 2: give you the first chapter of my very first book,
- 1:24Speaker 2: She's on the Money. So I'm hoping that this gives
- 1:26Speaker 2: you the motivation that you absolutely deserve to kick start
- 1:30Speaker 2: this year. Twenty twenty three is going to be a
- 1:32Speaker 2: massive one for all of us. I have so many
- 1:34Speaker 2: plans for She's on the Money, and I just want
- 1:37Speaker 2: our community to be on exactly the same page. So
- 1:40Speaker 2: as a little gift, little bonus episode, I'm dropping this
- 1:43Speaker 2: in here so that hopefully you can find the motivation
- 1:46Speaker 2: and if you haven't found it yet, hopefully this helps.
- 1:49Speaker 2: So Happy New Year, my loves, I hope you enjoy it.
- 1:56Speaker 2: Chapter one, Everybody's Got a story. Money stories are the
- 2:01Speaker 2: subconscious and conscious beliefs and values about money and prosperity
- 2:04Speaker 2: that we develop early in our lives, whether we like
- 2:07Speaker 2: it or not. They contribute to what we feel is
- 2:09Speaker 2: financially possible, and they dictate our behavior. They form the
- 2:13Speaker 2: foundation of how we think and communicate or react to money.
- 2:17Speaker 2: If conflict around money was a central theme in your upbringing,
- 2:20Speaker 2: any conversation about money might start with a stomach ache.
- 2:23Speaker 2: If money was in abundance, conversations about money might allow
- 2:27Speaker 2: you to feel invincible or sometimes even a little bit reckless.
- 2:31Speaker 2: If money was something your parents took care of and
- 2:33Speaker 2: didn't speak about. Any conversation about money might make you
- 2:36Speaker 2: feel unqualified, lost, or uninterested. In my mind, the most
- 2:41Speaker 2: empowering use of money is as a way to transform
- 2:44Speaker 2: our lives and the lives of others. Money, after all,
- 2:47Speaker 2: is the tool we need to live a comfortable life,
- 2:49Speaker 2: both in the present and the future. Money is intended
- 2:53Speaker 2: for spending, sharing, and investing, nothing more. For something with
- 2:57Speaker 2: such a simple and pure purpose, the reality is that
- 3:00Speaker 2: money can feel wildly complicated and cause an enormous amount
- 3:03Speaker 2: of stress. The term money anxiety has been coined non
- 3:06Speaker 2: money intended for a reason. Worrying about where your next
- 3:10Speaker 2: meal is coming from, how you're going to pay off
- 3:12Speaker 2: your credit card debt, or if you can make a
- 3:14Speaker 2: quarter of a tank of fuel last until payday can
- 3:17Speaker 2: and will keep you up at night. When it comes
- 3:20Speaker 2: to even bigger things like trying to imagine how you're
- 3:23Speaker 2: supposed to survive after retirement, the task can seem so
- 3:26Speaker 2: herculean that you avoid the thought of it altogether and
- 3:29Speaker 2: shove it so far into the back of your mind
- 3:32Speaker 2: it doesn't even get acknowledged. Whatever your money story, positive
- 3:36Speaker 2: or negative, dealing with the mysteries of money as an
- 3:39Speaker 2: adult can be a struggle, especially if you're a woman. Today,
- 3:43Speaker 2: women are increasingly out earning men, but in many cases
- 3:46Speaker 2: we still don't have the resources and tools available to
- 3:49Speaker 2: avoid being disadvantaged. I see it, I feel it, and
- 3:53Speaker 2: I hear it all the time. Young women feeling disempowered
- 3:56Speaker 2: around money conversations because finance isn't a topic we've been
- 3:59Speaker 2: taught to focus on. We don't learn about it in school,
- 4:03Speaker 2: and most of the time, we don't learn about it
- 4:05Speaker 2: from our families. Gender stereotypes are still wreaking havoc on
- 4:09Speaker 2: our ability to be financially secure and contributing to negative
- 4:12Speaker 2: money stories. It's something I'm here to change. Young women
- 4:16Speaker 2: need to know how to be financially free. The impact
- 4:19Speaker 2: of this will be felt thirty, forty, even fifty years
- 4:22Speaker 2: down the track. If you start now, creating a secure
- 4:26Speaker 2: financial future will involve tiny baby steps instead of unrealistic leaps.
- 4:31Speaker 2: If you can set good money habits up front, you
- 4:34Speaker 2: can look at your finances holistically and increase your savings
- 4:37Speaker 2: as you increase your earnings, instead of experiencing the dreaded
- 4:40Speaker 2: lifestyle creep. What do I mean by lifestyle creep? I
- 4:44Speaker 2: mean that more often than not. The more razors and
- 4:47Speaker 2: bonuses you earn, the more you will spend. It could
- 4:51Speaker 2: be brunching with friends, booking a holiday, buying a luxury car,
- 4:55Speaker 2: getting every streaming service under the sun, or simply treating
- 4:58Speaker 2: yourself to a good coffee every morning. All of these
- 5:01Speaker 2: things are fine if they're what you truly value, but
- 5:05Speaker 2: they're not going to help you build an investment portfolio
- 5:07Speaker 2: that will provide you with financial freedom. The fact of
- 5:10Speaker 2: the matter is you cannot save without sacrifice. Something is
- 5:14Speaker 2: going to have to give an understanding just how beneficial
- 5:17Speaker 2: choosing to go without can be is the first step
- 5:20Speaker 2: to having a healthy relationship with money. Have you previously
- 5:23Speaker 2: tried setting goals to create more abundance but didn't make
- 5:26Speaker 2: any progress. I strongly believe that your money story can
- 5:29Speaker 2: sabotage your plans for prosperity. Now, you can't change your
- 5:33Speaker 2: money story, but you can reinvent it. Together, we are
- 5:37Speaker 2: going to map out how you can free yourself to
- 5:39Speaker 2: create a more balanced, enlightened, and positive outlook on money.
- 5:43Speaker 2: The truth is personal finance is just that personal. And
- 5:47Speaker 2: remember this is a no judgment zone. I'm here to
- 5:50Speaker 2: work with you on your own story. And values. We
- 5:53Speaker 2: all have a money story, and it's not the product
- 5:56Speaker 2: of our own doing. It's important to say this is
- 5:59Speaker 2: my starting position. Now, where can I go from here?
- 6:02Speaker 2: Understanding exactly where you are right now with your money
- 6:05Speaker 2: and knowing where it is that you want to be
- 6:07Speaker 2: will give you the clarity and confidence to make wise
- 6:09Speaker 2: choices that will set you up for life, both personally
- 6:12Speaker 2: and professionally. Let's get started, shall we connecting with your
- 6:17Speaker 2: money story? What's the first thing that came to mind
- 6:21Speaker 2: when the topic of money stories came up? How were
- 6:23Speaker 2: finances handled in your family when you were growing up.
- 6:26Speaker 2: Were financial expectations different from men and women? If so,
- 6:30Speaker 2: what were those differences. What is your earliest memory about money?
- 6:35Speaker 2: Was money spoken about as a family? If so, do
- 6:38Speaker 2: you think those conversations impacted you in a positive way?
- 6:41Speaker 2: Did anyone influence your money story in a positive way?
- 6:45Speaker 2: What are your money beliefs? Beliefs are assumptions we hold
- 6:49Speaker 2: to be true when we use our beliefs to make decisions.
- 6:52Speaker 2: Were you're assuming that the causal relationships of the past
- 6:55Speaker 2: which led to those beliefs being formed will also apply
- 6:59Speaker 2: in the future. In a rapidly changing world, where complexity
- 7:02Speaker 2: is increasing day by day. Using information from the past
- 7:05Speaker 2: to make decisions about the future may not be the
- 7:08Speaker 2: best approach. Beliefs are contextual. They arise from learned experiences
- 7:13Speaker 2: resulting from the cultural and environmental situations we're faced. I
- 7:17Speaker 2: want you to start thinking about your money beliefs and
- 7:19Speaker 2: answer the following questions. Do you believe money is good
- 7:22Speaker 2: or bad? Or is it just an evil necessity? Do
- 7:26Speaker 2: you think money should be spent or saved? What would
- 7:29Speaker 2: you consider a luxury purchase? Do you think money is
- 7:32Speaker 2: hard or easy to obtain? Do you think money should
- 7:36Speaker 2: be your responsibility, your partners or both. Do you think
- 7:40Speaker 2: both parties in a relationship should be empowered to make
- 7:43Speaker 2: financial decisions. Do you think money in a marriage should
- 7:46Speaker 2: be separate or shared? Where do you think these beliefs
- 7:49Speaker 2: came from. What are your money values? Your money values
- 7:54Speaker 2: are different from your money beliefs. Values are not based
- 7:57Speaker 2: on any information from the past, and they're not contextual.
- 8:01Speaker 2: Values are intimately related to our needs, whatever we need,
- 8:04Speaker 2: whatever is important to us, or whenever we are missing
- 8:07Speaker 2: from our lives. That's what we value. A good way
- 8:10Speaker 2: to check what your values are is to check your
- 8:12Speaker 2: bank statement and highlight what you spend most of your
- 8:15Speaker 2: disposable income on. It's basically a bank account audit, which
- 8:18Speaker 2: we're going to do together in the next chapter. While
- 8:20Speaker 2: you may think you value paying off your mortgage, your
- 8:23Speaker 2: spending habits might reveal that you actually value nights out
- 8:26Speaker 2: with your friends more, and that's why you have so
- 8:28Speaker 2: many pub and wine bar charges. As our life conditions
- 8:31Speaker 2: change and we mature and grow, our values change. When
- 8:35Speaker 2: we use our values to make decisions, we focus on
- 8:37Speaker 2: what is important to us or what we need in
- 8:40Speaker 2: order to feel a sense of well being. What do
- 8:42Speaker 2: you currently think you value and would you be willing
- 8:45Speaker 2: to cut back on any of those activities or purchases?
- 8:48Speaker 2: If yes, why, and if no, why not? Beliefs versus values.
- 8:55Speaker 2: Being able to differentiate between your beliefs and your values
- 8:59Speaker 2: will help you get your head in the right space
- 9:01Speaker 2: to adjust your behavior with money. Neuroplasticity refers to the
- 9:05Speaker 2: ability to retrain your brain and change your habits. As
- 9:08Speaker 2: much as your money story is defining your habits right now,
- 9:11Speaker 2: you can absolutely change your trajectory. To do this. You
- 9:15Speaker 2: can ask yourself the following questions reflecting on your values.
- 9:19Speaker 2: And beliefs. How do they make you feel? Are they
- 9:21Speaker 2: aligned with creating the life you want for your future?
- 9:25Speaker 2: Are your beliefs getting in the way of your goals?
- 9:29Speaker 2: Reframe your thoughts. Most purchases are a motive. Have you
- 9:34Speaker 2: ever had a really crappy day and thought, I deserve
- 9:36Speaker 2: my favorite gelato right now? Or if I go and
- 9:39Speaker 2: get that facial, I'll feel much more confident at my
- 9:41Speaker 2: work Christmas party, which will then help me network better
- 9:44Speaker 2: and ultimately get me that new account. This is called
- 9:47Speaker 2: retail therapy. It's your mind literally trying to soothe itself
- 9:51Speaker 2: through shopping, and while it may hit the spot in
- 9:54Speaker 2: that moment, it is detrimental to your bank account in
- 9:56Speaker 2: the long run. Another major cause of money anxiety is
- 10:00Speaker 2: the unintentional practice of comparing yourself to others. When you
- 10:03Speaker 2: talk to colleagues, friends, or family members about salaries, savings, holidays,
- 10:08Speaker 2: homes and the latest smart watch your phone, you can
- 10:11Speaker 2: often end up feeling like you're not where you're supposed
- 10:13Speaker 2: to be in life, which damages your sense of self worth.
- 10:16Speaker 2: It's important to know that the world is not a
- 10:19Speaker 2: level playing field and that we did not all start
- 10:21Speaker 2: at the same point. Don't compare your start to somebody
- 10:24Speaker 2: else's middle. Our minds are constantly giving us chatter and feedback,
- 10:29Speaker 2: but sometimes these voices in our heads can be negative
- 10:32Speaker 2: and unhelpful. By learning to tune into this chatter and
- 10:35Speaker 2: reframe the messaging, you can consciously shift the tone to
- 10:39Speaker 2: neutral or even to positive, which can lead to better
- 10:42Speaker 2: decision making in every area of your life. Over the years,
- 10:45Speaker 2: I've learned that people have excuses for everything. When people
- 10:49Speaker 2: say I can't, they usually mean I won't make that
- 10:53Speaker 2: a priority right now. It doesn't matter what salary you're on.
- 10:56Speaker 2: When you say you can't save you would if it
- 10:58Speaker 2: meant a lot to you. You're choosing not to achieve it,
- 11:02Speaker 2: even if you don't realize it. Financial independence is about
- 11:06Speaker 2: mindset and approach. Since your emotions are guiding your purchasing decisions,
- 11:10Speaker 2: you need to be able to reframe your reactions to
- 11:12Speaker 2: your thoughts so that they can align with your values.
- 11:16Speaker 2: Take one of the money beliefs you came up with
- 11:18Speaker 2: earlier that has an associated negative emotion for you. It
- 11:21Speaker 2: might be a belief that makes you feel mad, sad, frustrated, stressed, trapped,
- 11:26Speaker 2: or even worried in your pdf workbook. Write down the
- 11:29Speaker 2: thought that created this feeling and how you usually act
- 11:32Speaker 2: upon this belief. How can you reframe this event in
- 11:36Speaker 2: a way that will bring more positive emotions and less
- 11:39Speaker 2: negative ones. I am here to help you build a bigger,
- 11:42Speaker 2: better version of yourself. Money is really important, but it's
- 11:46Speaker 2: not what matters the most in life. Not making a
- 11:49Speaker 2: choice is actually still making a choice. If you're not
- 11:52Speaker 2: ready to face your money story, that's fine, but be
- 11:55Speaker 2: aware that it's also a choice that you are making.
- 11:58Speaker 2: I know changes on comfortable, but your thoughts, behaviors, and
- 12:02Speaker 2: beliefs are guided by your money story, and it's up
- 12:05Speaker 2: to you to change yours. Stephanie's money story. She's twenty
- 12:10Speaker 2: four from South Australia. My parents immigrated to Australia from
- 12:14Speaker 2: Poland when I was four. Growing up, my siblings and
- 12:17Speaker 2: I could sense that money was tight. We shared a bedroom,
- 12:20Speaker 2: ate the same things for dinner every week, didn't go
- 12:23Speaker 2: on holidays, and always had hammy down clothing. My parents
- 12:26Speaker 2: often talked about the importance of saving, so even when
- 12:30Speaker 2: they wanted to treat us to an ice cream at
- 12:31Speaker 2: the pool or offered to take us to the movies,
- 12:34Speaker 2: would say no, because we wanted to be on their
- 12:36Speaker 2: savings team. Fast forward to today, I'm twenty four and
- 12:40Speaker 2: in my first year of working as a vet nurse.
- 12:42Speaker 2: While most of my friends don't have much in their
- 12:44Speaker 2: savings account, I have nineteen thousand dollars because I grew
- 12:48Speaker 2: up always thinking I needed a safety blanket. Watching my
- 12:51Speaker 2: parents struggle made me hyper aware of not spending money
- 12:54Speaker 2: on unnecessary things. While I know this is an amazing
- 12:57Speaker 2: position to be in, I feel like my money's story
- 13:00Speaker 2: is holding me back from investing and making my money
- 13:02Speaker 2: really work for me. This year, my goal is to
- 13:05Speaker 2: loosen my grip on my savings account balance so that
- 13:08Speaker 2: I can allocate more to investments. Kathy's money story. She's
- 13:13Speaker 2: thirty three from New South Wales. I struggled through my parents'
- 13:17Speaker 2: messy divorce where my mom had terrible money handling skills.
- 13:21Speaker 2: I ended up working after school to help support us
- 13:24Speaker 2: and was paying bills in rent at fifteen. In the
- 13:26Speaker 2: early years, I followed my mom's lead and went into
- 13:29Speaker 2: debt overspend and didn't value saving. I've now turned things
- 13:33Speaker 2: around with my husband's help. We've bought our own home,
- 13:36Speaker 2: done a bit of traveling, and saved for our first
- 13:38Speaker 2: baby so that I can take maternity leave. Still not
- 13:41Speaker 2: as set up as I'd like, but proud of my change.
- 13:45Speaker 2: Aaron's money story. She's twenty five from Victoria. Growing up,
- 13:50Speaker 2: I had divorced parents. My single mom was never poor,
- 13:53Speaker 2: but I remember as a teenager always being conscious of
- 13:55Speaker 2: how much things cost. For example, my sister and I
- 13:58Speaker 2: knew to try and pick the ch heapest things or
- 14:00Speaker 2: opt for the less expensive recreational sport or hobby. It
- 14:04Speaker 2: sucked not for us, but I could sense that Mum
- 14:06Speaker 2: almost felt embarrassed about it, which made me sad to see.
- 14:10Speaker 2: Years later, she is remarried and earning a higher end,
- 14:13Speaker 2: middle bracket salary. However, she is a spender under stress.
- 14:16Speaker 2: Whenever she is stressed, usually about money, she buys a
- 14:20Speaker 2: new plan to or the most random things on eBay,
- 14:23Speaker 2: which then sit in a cupboard. My mom and stepdad
- 14:25Speaker 2: pretty much live paycheck to paycheck. They've dipped into their
- 14:29Speaker 2: super funds. My stepdad was seriously ill a few years
- 14:32Speaker 2: ago and needed slash still need some time off work.
- 14:35Speaker 2: They still owe about four hundred thousand dollars on their
- 14:37Speaker 2: mortgage and are both in their mid to late fifties.
- 14:40Speaker 2: I honestly worried that they will never be able to
- 14:42Speaker 2: retire early or comfortably, which is stressful. My dad passed
- 14:46Speaker 2: away when I was seventeen. He lived into State and
- 14:49Speaker 2: we would fly over in the school holidays at his expense.
- 14:53Speaker 2: We knew he earned well. We later found out he
- 14:55Speaker 2: earned in the six figures. However, we never knew much
- 14:58Speaker 2: about the details, except that he could afford to send
- 15:00Speaker 2: us to a private school for VC and would fly
- 15:03Speaker 2: to holiday destinations without much worry. He lived in a
- 15:06Speaker 2: nice townhouse and had investment properties, but when he died
- 15:10Speaker 2: we found out that he was also in a lot
- 15:12Speaker 2: of debt. My sister and I ended up inheriting quite
- 15:15Speaker 2: a small amount, under three hundred thousand dollars, despite the
- 15:18Speaker 2: combined millions tied up in housing and shares, the risky types.
- 15:23Speaker 2: Of course, we didn't care about the money because we
- 15:25Speaker 2: were so grief stricken. Nonetheless, I wondered to this day
- 15:28Speaker 2: how he got himself in this situation. Obviously he was
- 15:32Speaker 2: not overly responsible with money. Finally, my granddad, who also
- 15:36Speaker 2: used to earn in the six figures back when he
- 15:38Speaker 2: was working in the financial industry, ironically now lives at
- 15:41Speaker 2: home with my mum and stepdad because he became unable
- 15:44Speaker 2: to pay his rent after my grandmother passed away. My
- 15:47Speaker 2: granddad lost a lot of money on the stock market
- 15:49Speaker 2: multiple times over his lifetime. After my grandmother died, he
- 15:53Speaker 2: said that he got depressed and so he spent the
- 15:55Speaker 2: rest of his money because nothing mattered anymore. This was,
- 15:58Speaker 2: of course very sad Here, however, he has more than
- 16:01Speaker 2: once told me that even when he earned all that money,
- 16:04Speaker 2: he never saved because he didn't really think he needed to.
- 16:08Speaker 2: So here, he is approaching ninety years old having to
- 16:11Speaker 2: be so mindful with how he spends his small government pension.
- 16:14Speaker 2: My family supports him, but I still see how much
- 16:17Speaker 2: his life is affected by this. The fact that he
- 16:19Speaker 2: feels embarrassed that we pay most of the time when
- 16:21Speaker 2: we take him out for lunch is upsetting. We have
- 16:24Speaker 2: tried to tell him it doesn't matter, but it has
- 16:26Speaker 2: impacted him greatly that he feels he can't leave an inheritance.
- 16:29Speaker 2: The worst part is if he had saved back then,
- 16:32Speaker 2: he could have set himself up for such a care
- 16:34Speaker 2: free retirement. I've been influenced by all of these stories.
- 16:38Speaker 2: I'm also a big stress spender working on it. I
- 16:41Speaker 2: started my first real job, part time salary last year,
- 16:44Speaker 2: moved out of home into a sharehouse, and spent way
- 16:46Speaker 2: too much on disposable items, boths to celebrate my newfound
- 16:50Speaker 2: independence and also to cheer myself up during a very
- 16:53Speaker 2: hard graduate year. I remember having about ten dollars collectively
- 16:56Speaker 2: across all my bank accounts as twenty twenty yearrolled in
- 16:59Speaker 2: and act having to borrow money from my mum to
- 17:02Speaker 2: get me through to my next paycheck. Since then, I've
- 17:04Speaker 2: made it my goal to use this year to get
- 17:06Speaker 2: my emergency savings into action, and I've cut back and
- 17:09Speaker 2: budgeted so much that I've saved my first thousand dollars
- 17:13Speaker 2: basically ever in just over a month because I was
- 17:16Speaker 2: sick of being broke. I find that my family's money
- 17:19Speaker 2: stories have motivated me. I don't want to have to
- 17:21Speaker 2: rely on anyone else, especially as I get older. I
- 17:24Speaker 2: also know I need to be in a good financial
- 17:26Speaker 2: position because it is likely my sister and I will
- 17:29Speaker 2: one day need to step in and help my parents financially.
- 17:33Speaker 2: Take note one, money stories are the subconscious and conscious
- 17:37Speaker 2: beliefs and values about money and prosperity that we develop
- 17:40Speaker 2: early in our lives.
- 17:43Speaker 1: Two.
- 17:43Speaker 2: As much as your money story is defining your habits
- 17:46Speaker 2: right now, you absolutely have the capacity to change your trajectory. Three.
- 17:51Speaker 2: When we use our values to make decisions, we focus
- 17:54Speaker 2: on what is important to us or what we need
- 17:57Speaker 2: to feel a sense of well being. The advice shared
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