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174. Connections · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: My friends from all across the globe and welcome to
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  Speaker 1: we get into this week's episode, if you know you know,
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  Speaker 1: one of the things we do on this podcast is
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  Speaker 1: I make a deposit in the bank of you, and
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  Speaker 1: I do that by way of affirms. Affirmations are a
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  Speaker 1: great way to start your day and to command your mourning.
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  Speaker 1: And this week's affirmation is I am blessed to have
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  Speaker 1: meaningful connections with people in my life. I am blessed
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  Speaker 1: to have meaningful connections with people in my life. I
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  Speaker 1: am blessed to have meaningful connections with people in my life.
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  Speaker 1: Now let's get ready for this week's episode of the
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  Speaker 1: Your Enriched Self podcast. People can be great life connectors.
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  Speaker 1: You can leverage your relationships to open up doors, to
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  Speaker 1: get information, to get insight, to have experiences that you
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  Speaker 1: would normally not have if you kind of work in
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  Speaker 1: your normal bubble, in the normal construct of how you
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  Speaker 1: do things. I guess what I'm saying is this year,
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  Speaker 1: I've come to appreciate people, and I know that sometimes
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  Speaker 1: people are out here peopling and not doing it in
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  Speaker 1: a great or gracious way. But I think that's why
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  Speaker 1: it's important to nurture the relationships you have, and if
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  Speaker 1: you don't have the relationships you want, this is a
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  Speaker 1: time to build that network, because that network is going
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  Speaker 1: to help you expand your insight, expand your interests, get
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  Speaker 1: valuable connections and valuable information to help you move about
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  Speaker 1: in your life. Personally, I found myself this year. I
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  Speaker 1: connected with a friend and every time we connect it
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  Speaker 1: was really timely. It was almost like a divine intervention,
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  Speaker 1: a divine interaction that reminded me of something that I
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  Speaker 1: had talked to her about or something we had encouraged
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  Speaker 1: each other on. And recently I had a conversation and
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  Speaker 1: she checked me and I didn't feel offended by that.
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  Speaker 1: I felt empowered because we had made some decisions and
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  Speaker 1: we had stated some things very boldly to each other
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  Speaker 1: about how we wanted to end the year and life.
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  Speaker 1: I'll be honest. For me, things kind of got away
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  Speaker 1: and I got busy and I lost sight, lost track,
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  Speaker 1: and she just picked up the phone and made that
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  Speaker 1: connection with me. And because we had these great active engagement,
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  Speaker 1: these great conversations in the past, it was easy for
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  Speaker 1: her to call me to the front and check me
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  Speaker 1: and remind me and tell me. It made me feel
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  Speaker 1: good to know that I had that type of friendship,
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  Speaker 1: that I had invested and nurtured a relationship and I
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  Speaker 1: could get a return on investment in that kind of way.
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  Speaker 1: And I know for some of you that may seem
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  Speaker 1: intimidating to have somebody call you to the table or
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  Speaker 1: call you to the front of the room. But for me,
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  Speaker 1: it was refreshing to know that I have that type
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  Speaker 1: of relationship, an active relationship to receive that type of
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  Speaker 1: correction to get me back in the direction that I
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  Speaker 1: said I would go. I think the other thing about
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  Speaker 1: this type of relationship, and she reminded me. She said, listen,
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  Speaker 1: there are times in life where you might not have
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  Speaker 1: what you need to push yourself to the next level,
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  Speaker 1: but you can borrow off of somebody else's passion and
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  Speaker 1: fire and faith. And that was a good reminder because
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  Speaker 1: she said, listen, there're gonna be times where you're gonna
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  Speaker 1: have the thing I need and I'm gonna have to
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  Speaker 1: rely on you to get it. And I think that's
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  Speaker 1: the beautiful thing about these types of relationships is not
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  Speaker 1: only are you connecting through a person, but that you
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  Speaker 1: are also a connector because you are also helping that person,
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  Speaker 1: introducing that person to be in a certain space to
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  Speaker 1: do a certain thing. And it's really a network with
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  Speaker 1: benefits in boat directions. And that made me feel even
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  Speaker 1: better to know that she knew from our past experiences
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  Speaker 1: that I had been there in a way for her
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  Speaker 1: that she could easily be in this place for me
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  Speaker 1: to remind me of who I am and what we
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  Speaker 1: said and our goals and our dreams and the things
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  Speaker 1: that we were convicted to get to finish before the
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  Speaker 1: year's out. We call it a return on finish, like
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  Speaker 1: a return on your investment, a return on finish the
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  Speaker 1: things that we said we were going to do, that
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  Speaker 1: we make sure we get that return on finish. And
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  Speaker 1: I am deeply grateful to have that kind of friendship,
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  Speaker 1: to have built a network like that so that I
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  Speaker 1: can have this return on finished. And here's what I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to say about all of this. This may not
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  Speaker 1: be your experience in twenty twenty four, or it may
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  Speaker 1: not have been your experience in the past, but I
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  Speaker 1: will say that you can create these potential benefits and
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  Speaker 1: have people as connectors in your future, so as you
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  Speaker 1: think about the year ahead and the things that you
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  Speaker 1: want to pursue. Maybe is a career opportunity. Maybe you're
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  Speaker 1: just trying to build your personal growth portfolio, or you're
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  Speaker 1: trying to work on your problem solving. I don't know
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  Speaker 1: what it is that you're trying to do as you
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  Speaker 1: move into this next year, but consider the benefits of
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  Speaker 1: having people as connectors, not just to have conversation, not
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  Speaker 1: just to chitchat, but to really use and leverage that
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  Speaker 1: person that connection, which is what they are, as a
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  Speaker 1: lead into a job, or a lead into new learnings,
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  Speaker 1: or getting valuable career advice, or getting valuable interactive network
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  Speaker 1: within your circle. It may be an opportunity for you
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  Speaker 1: to grow in a new space. Exposure changes everything for
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  Speaker 1: you the minute you start getting into a new space.
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  Speaker 1: It gives you new perspectives, it gives you new insights
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  Speaker 1: and ultimately new outcomes. And so using people as a
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  Speaker 1: connector gives you access to those experiences and connecting with
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  Speaker 1: people from different backgrounds again helps you in that growth
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  Speaker 1: environment because it takes you out of your comfort zone,
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  Speaker 1: it takes you out of the things you know, and
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  Speaker 1: it brings you in new spaces with a lot of
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  Speaker 1: unknowns and that is in fact, where growth happens. It
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  Speaker 1: happens outside of the comfort zone. And then finally, listen,
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  Speaker 1: life is going to bring challenges and those challenges often
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  Speaker 1: require us to problem solve. And when you have new insights,
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  Speaker 1: when you are put in front of a new thing
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  Speaker 1: and that new thing is challenging you, it is challenging
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  Speaker 1: you to tap into a new network of knowledge, a
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  Speaker 1: new network of understanding, and that's where your people connection
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  Speaker 1: will come in. It's fascinating to allow yourself to open
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  Speaker 1: up this way. And I know some people have been
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  Speaker 1: burnt in friendship, some people have felt a little bewildered
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  Speaker 1: by people in general. But it's time for us to
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  Speaker 1: grow past what the thought process was, grow past how
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  Speaker 1: we think about this and get to a space where
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  Speaker 1: we are going and growing to new levels and new heights.
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  Speaker 1: And you can do that on your own. Don't get
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  Speaker 1: me wrong. I know that we have been given and
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  Speaker 1: served the platter of you can do bad all by yourself.
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  Speaker 1: But I challenge you, and this is something I heard
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  Speaker 1: from my coach a while ago. You can go further
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  Speaker 1: faster with people. And I'm not saying hang on to
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  Speaker 1: just anybody and bring anybody on your journey. I do
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  Speaker 1: believe in discernment. I do believe in being not picky,
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  Speaker 1: but being intentional about the conversations and the environment that
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  Speaker 1: you're in. And when you are intentional about that, you
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  Speaker 1: will intentionally find the right people to bring in and
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  Speaker 1: to draw yourself into that. And that is in fact
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  Speaker 1: what you need for you to get to the next level.
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  Speaker 1: So this is not just about having conversation with anyone
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  Speaker 1: and allowing anyone to help you connect, because for some
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  Speaker 1: of us we've done that and that has not given
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  Speaker 1: us the return on finish that we need. And again
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  Speaker 1: it's a two way street. You're gonna win and they're
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  Speaker 1: gonna win. Both parties are going to in the end
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  Speaker 1: have gains from this. By far or for certain you're
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  Speaker 1: going to have lessons from this. But it's time to
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  Speaker 1: stop trying to do things by yourself, stop trying to
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  Speaker 1: do things on your own, and find the right companion
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  Speaker 1: or companions right to help you on that journey. We
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  Speaker 1: have to do a better job. If you haven't been,
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  Speaker 1: you must be intentional about doing a better job connecting.
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  Speaker 1: As you go into this next year, as you go
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  Speaker 1: into this next season. As you go into the next project,
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  Speaker 1: whatever your next thing is, think about using people as connectors.
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  Speaker 1: You will get to your destination faster and further by
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  Speaker 1: having these opportunities, these relationships that you can leverage into
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  Speaker 1: the opportunities and into these new experiences. I'm grateful for it.
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  Speaker 1: I'm grateful for it because I watching this happen live,
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  Speaker 1: like I said, with my friend being very intentional about
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  Speaker 1: picking up the phone and calling me and reminding me
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  Speaker 1: first of all checking in with me to see where
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  Speaker 1: I am on the journey, but then also reminding me
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  Speaker 1: of what we said we would do. And again, this
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  Speaker 1: is not just a one way street. I remind you
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  Speaker 1: that you too can be a connector for someone else.
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  Speaker 1: So I talk about life as givers and takers. Don't
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  Speaker 1: just be a taker, be someone who can give, Be
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  Speaker 1: someone who can offer a benefit to another person. I'm
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  Speaker 1: excited for what you are going to do and the
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  Speaker 1: relationships that you are going to nurture, because again, people,
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  Speaker 1: we were brought here on purpose for a purpose, but
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  Speaker 1: we need each other. We need each other to make
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  Speaker 1: this thing happened. We need each other because we're gonna
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  Speaker 1: need a shoulder, not just to cry on, but to
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  Speaker 1: rely on, We're gonna need each other's faith. There's gonna
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  Speaker 1: be times where you have to borrow faith from this
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  Speaker 1: individual or an individual in your life. And I know
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  Speaker 1: you've been there, and I know that you are looking
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  Speaker 1: at the areas in your life where you feel like
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  Speaker 1: you've had friendship laws or you've been burnt. But I
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  Speaker 1: promise you on the other side, there are good, healthy friendships,
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  Speaker 1: good healthy people that you can benefit from and you
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  Speaker 1: can offer a benefit too. And that's how we bless
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  Speaker 1: the world. That's how we pay it forward is by
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  Speaker 1: being that person for someone else, allowing someone else to
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  Speaker 1: be that person for you. I hope you enjoyed this
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