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Episode 628: Losing Hope That You'll Ever Get Your Ex Back? · The Art of Love With Lucia

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Hi, this is Lucia with The Art of Love.
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I'm a dating and relationship expert specializing in helping
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you get your ex back or to get over your ex.
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This week I want to talk about if you're losing hope about ever
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getting your ex back. Well, if you are, don't.
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I have two inspiring stories if you're about to give up and move
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on. One of them is from my client
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and one of them is from me. So stay tuned.
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But first I want to welcome back my beautiful no contact army.
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If you're having problems staying in no contact, be sure
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to download my app Silencio. A review from IT today was that
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download it and the link is underneath every single video
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and podcast. And if you too would like to
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join our No Contact army, all you have to do is hit the
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And to read our manual, go to nocontactsecrets.com to read 2
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free chapters before purchasing the book.
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And of course, the link is underneath every single video
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and podcast. So you've been in No contact for
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months and months. You're ready to give up.
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You think you should move on. But before you do that, consider
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what I have to say in this video.
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So my client has been in no contact for seven months and
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finally after seven months the X pops up finally.
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And she had not thrown him any bread crumbs.
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Nothing. And I actually had just told him
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a few weeks before he heard from her that she must still be
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interested, because otherwise after seven months she probably
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probably would have been over it and she would have at least
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reached out, even just out of curiosity, just to say hello,
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see what's up with him, whatever an excuse.
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Oh, I just saw this and reminded me of you.
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But she didn't, which meant to me that she was probably still
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interested. And in fact, I was right.
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And she did say that she had been afraid to reach out,
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thinking that he didn't want to hear from her.
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And that's probably true. But I believe the bigger reason
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is that she kept thinking that he was going to reach out at
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some point. But of course she didn't know
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that he had hired me and there was no way in hell he was going
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to reach out. And so she finally realized she
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better do something real quick before he was gone for good.
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So we'll see what happens there. And for those of you who were
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were rejected and you think, oh, there's something wrong with me,
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you're feeling not worthy. Let me tell you this, my client
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is very, very, very high value. Any woman would be more than
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happy to date him. So the problem lies not with him
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but with the ex. So don't let it mess with your
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head when someone breaks up with you, especially if you were a
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great partner and you're high value.
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Sometimes people have mental health issues that you may not
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even know about, and sometimes they're just messed up and they
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wouldn't know a high value person if they ran over them.
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OK, so don't take it too personally.
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I know it's easier said than done.
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And before I tell you my story, please do me a favor.
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And if this is not the first video of mine that you've heard
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and you're not subscribed, then please hit the subscribe button.
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It's free to do it and it really helps the channel grow.
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Thank you so much. OK, so As for my story, I had
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been seeing someone casually earlier this year and then there
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was an issue and out of the blue he unfriended me.
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And of course I did what I tell all of y'all to do all the time.
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And that is nothing. Did absolutely nothing.
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I didn't block him and unblock him.
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I didn't watch his stories. I just carried on with my
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fabulous life and my thought was, well, if he contacts me
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again, great. If not, no problem.
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There's other options. Because the way I look at
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dating, it's like if you're interested, I'm interested.
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If you're not, I'm not either. And so after four months of
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complete silence, again, no bread crumbs, nothing.
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He didn't look at my stories that I know of.
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Well, what do you know who pops up and said that he wanted to
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try again? So if you haven't heard anything
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for months and months, not even a breadcrumb, that may actually
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be good news. It could go one of two ways.
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Either obviously, they're totally done and they want
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nothing more to do with you. However, if the breakup wasn't
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that bad and you were actually a good partner, then the more
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likely scenario is that actually they are still very much
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interested. But they have their reasons for
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not reaching out at the moment. But it doesn't mean they won't.
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OK, so hang in there because you never know when they're going to
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pop up. So now I want to hear from you,
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How long have you been in No Contact and how long will you be
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hanging in there before giving up?
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And you know what? If you do want to give up, I
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have a theme song for you. So check out Giving Up, Giving
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in by the three degrees and if you're into disco, you will
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really like this song. OK And in the meantime, if you
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would like me to help you get your ex back, you can contact me
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at theartoflove.net. The direct link is below every
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single video and podcast. We will send you the rates.
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If you don't hear from us within 24 hours, please check your
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spam. If it's not in there, then
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e-mail us again. And if you found this video
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And finally, remember that love inspires, empowers, uplifts and
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enlightens.