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95. Why New Year's Goals Usually Fail · Burning Brightly

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  a
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  lot
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  of
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  the
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  times
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  when
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  we
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  set
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  goals,
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  we
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  are
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  chasing
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  emotions.
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  I
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  wanna
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  feel
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  successful,
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  I
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  wanna
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  feel
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  like
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  I'm
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  making
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  a
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  difference.
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  Here's
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  the
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  kicker,
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  any
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  of
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  those
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  emotions
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  are
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  available
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  to
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  us
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  right
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  now.
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  Why
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  would
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  we
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  wanna
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  do
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  that?
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  Wouldn't
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  that
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  just
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  make
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  us
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  wanna
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  give
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  up
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  on
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  our
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  goals?
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  Actually
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  it's
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  the
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  opposite.
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  When
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  we
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  stop
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  waiting
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  to
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  hit
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  a
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  goal,
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  before
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  we
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  feel
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  better,
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  we
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  chase
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  the
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  goal
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  just
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  for
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  fun.
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  We
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  give
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  ourselves
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  permission
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  to
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  do
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  it
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  just
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  because
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  it
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  could
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  be
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  exciting.
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  So
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  we
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  don't
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  become
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  worthy
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  of
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  love
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  after
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  we
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  achieve
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  a
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  goal.
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  That's
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  not
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  the
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  point.
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  But
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  we
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  do
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  achieve
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  more
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  once
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  we
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  start
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  loving
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  ourselves
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  more.
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  This
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  is
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  Burning
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  Brightly,
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  a
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  podcast
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  for
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  Christian
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  moms
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  who
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  are
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  feeling
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  called
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  to
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  build
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  a
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  business
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  and
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  share
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  their
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  light
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  with
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  the
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  world.
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  I'm
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  Bonnie
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  Wescomb,
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  a
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  life
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  coach,
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  mom
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  and
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  entrepreneur,
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  and
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  I'm
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  honored
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  to
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  be
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  your
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  guide
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  as
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  you
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  face
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  this
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  business
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  building
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  adventure
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  full
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  of
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  highs,
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  lows.
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  And
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  everything
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  in
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  between.
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  This
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  is
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  where
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  we
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  help
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  each
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  other
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  find
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  the
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  courage
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  to
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  shine.
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  Hello
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  my
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  friends.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  Burning
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  Brightly
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  and
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  happy
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  2026.
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  Who
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  doesn't
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  love
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  a
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  fresh
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  start
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  in
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  a
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  new
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  year?
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  I
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  most
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  definitely
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  do,
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  even
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  though
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  I
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  have
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  been
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  known
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  to
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  overcommit
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  and
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  overemphasize
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  goals
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  and
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  changing
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  myself.
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  So
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  today
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  we're
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  gonna
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  talk
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  about
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  why
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  New
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  Year's
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  resolutions
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  or
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  goals
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  specifically.
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  Ones
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  that
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  we
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  like
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  to
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  create
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  at
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  the
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  new
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  year
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  typically
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  fail,
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  and
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  what
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  to
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  do
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  instead.
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  How
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  to
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  embrace
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  who
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  we
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  are
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  and
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  make
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  slight
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  course
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  corrections
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  to
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  become
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  a
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  better
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  version
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  of
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  us
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  and
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  not
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  someone
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  we
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  don't
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  actually
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  love.
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  I
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  am
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  gonna
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  teach
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  you
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  how
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  to
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  embrace
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  goals
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  because
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  they
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  are
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  wonderful
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  tools
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  and
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  how
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  to
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  embrace
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  growth,
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  but
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  to
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  do
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  it
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  maybe
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  a
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  little
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  bit
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  differently
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  than
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  you
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  have
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  done
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  before
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  and
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  to
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  stop
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  maybe
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  repeating
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  the
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  same
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  cycle
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  where
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  you
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  give
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  yourself
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  a
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  laundry
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  list
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  of
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  things
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  to
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  change
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  about
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  yourself,
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  and
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  then
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  you
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  make
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  a
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  little
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  progress
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  and
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  you
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  fail
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  a
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  lot,
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  and
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  then
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  you
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  just
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  feel
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  bad
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  at
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  the
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  end
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  of
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  the
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  year.
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  We're
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  not
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  gonna
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  do
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  any
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  of
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  that.
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  Okay?
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  This
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  episode
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  is
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  not
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  about
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  how
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  to
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  hustle
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  harder,
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  how
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  to
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  get
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  more
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  done,
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  how
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  to
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  make
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  more
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  money.
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  It's
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  about
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  building
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  a
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  healthier,
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  more
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  well-rounded
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  foundation
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  for
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  who
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  you
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  want
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  to
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  become.
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  Remember,
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  life
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  is
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  not
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  about
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  accumulating
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  accomplishments.
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  It's
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  about
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  becoming
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  and
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  becoming
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  this.
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  Beautiful,
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  spiritual,
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  well-rounded
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  person
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  that
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  you
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  like
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  to
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  live
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  with.
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  Okay,
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  are
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  you
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  ready?
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  All
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  right.
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  The
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  first
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  thing
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  you
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  need
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  to
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  know,
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  there
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  is
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  nothing
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  magical
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  about
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  January
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  1st.
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  Some
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  Romans
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  somewhere
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  made
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  a
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  calendar
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  and
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  decided
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  that
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  January
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  1st
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  was
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  the
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  first.
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  Was
• 2:18
  it
• 2:18
  the
• 2:18
  Romans?
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  I
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  don't
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  know.
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  I
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  can't
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  remember.
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  There's
• 2:20
  nothing
• 2:21
  magical
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  about
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  this
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  date,
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  but
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  because
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  we
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  are
• 2:23
  human,
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  we
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  like
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  seasons,
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  we
• 2:24
  like.
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  Fresh
• 2:25
  starts.
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  That's
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  all
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  great.
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  In
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  fact,
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  I
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  really
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  believe
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  that
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  God
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  designed
• 2:28
  us
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  in
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  a
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  way
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  where
• 2:29
  we
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  need
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  fresh
• 2:30
  starts.
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  That's
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  why
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  the
• 2:31
  new
• 2:31
  year
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  feels
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  so
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  good.
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  It's
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  like,
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  all
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  right,
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  let's
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  leave
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  behind
• 2:33
  some
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  of
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  the
• 2:34
  things
• 2:34
  we
• 2:34
  didn't
• 2:34
  like
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  about
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  the
• 2:35
  old
• 2:35
  year
• 2:35
  and
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  about
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  who
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  we
• 2:36
  were
• 2:36
  before
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  and
• 2:37
  change
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  a
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  little
• 2:38
  bit,
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  become
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  new
• 2:39
  people.
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  That's
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  fantastic.
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  But
• 2:41
  where
• 2:41
  we
• 2:41
  get
• 2:42
  into
• 2:42
  trouble
• 2:42
  sometimes
• 2:42
  is
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  when
• 2:43
  we
• 2:43
  think.
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  Well,
• 2:43
  I
• 2:43
  have
• 2:44
  to
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  start
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  all
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  over.
• 2:45
  I
• 2:45
  have
• 2:45
  to
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  count
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  my
• 2:46
  finances
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  all
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  over.
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  I'm
• 2:47
  starting
• 2:47
  fresh
• 2:47
  everything
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  resets
• 2:49
  that
• 2:49
  I
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  think
• 2:50
  can
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  be
• 2:50
  dangerous.
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  Let
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  me
• 2:51
  give
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  you
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  an
• 2:51
  example.
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  Right
• 2:52
  before
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  the
• 2:53
  end
• 2:53
  of
• 2:53
  the
• 2:53
  year,
• 2:53
  I
• 2:53
  had
• 2:54
  two
• 2:54
  new
• 2:54
  clients
• 2:54
  sign
• 2:55
  up,
• 2:55
  so
• 2:55
  at
• 2:55
  the
• 2:55
  end
• 2:55
  of
• 2:56
  the
• 2:56
  year
• 2:56
  when
• 2:56
  I
• 2:56
  was
• 2:56
  tracking
• 2:57
  my
• 2:57
  clients
• 2:57
  and
• 2:57
  my
• 2:57
  income
• 2:58
  goals,
• 2:58
  I
• 2:58
  counted
• 2:59
  them
• 2:59
  as
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  part
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  of
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  2025.
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  Here's
• 3:01
  the
• 3:01
  thing,
• 3:02
  we
• 3:02
  didn't
• 3:02
  even
• 3:02
  start
• 3:03
  coaching
• 3:03
  together
• 3:03
  until
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  this
• 3:04
  week,
• 3:05
  so
• 3:05
  it
• 3:05
  kind
• 3:06
  of
• 3:06
  seems
• 3:06
  a
• 3:06
  little
• 3:06
  unfair
• 3:07
  to
• 3:07
  count
• 3:07
  that
• 3:07
  as
• 3:07
  work
• 3:08
  that
• 3:08
  I
• 3:08
  did
• 3:08
  last
• 3:09
  year
• 3:09
  and
• 3:09
  give
• 3:09
  myself
• 3:10
  quote
• 3:10
  unquote
• 3:10
  credit
• 3:10
  for
• 3:11
  it
• 3:11
  in
• 3:11
  one
• 3:11
  year
• 3:11
  and
• 3:12
  not
• 3:12
  the
• 3:12
  next
• 3:12
  year.
• 3:14
  Now,
• 3:14
  obviously
• 3:14
  I
• 3:14
  could
• 3:15
  count
• 3:15
  my
• 3:15
  clients
• 3:16
  differently.
• 3:16
  I
• 3:16
  could
• 3:16
  count
• 3:16
  my
• 3:16
  income
• 3:17
  differently,
• 3:17
  and
• 3:17
  obviously
• 3:18
  we
• 3:18
  need
• 3:18
  some
• 3:18
  sort
• 3:18
  of
• 3:19
  organizational
• 3:19
  system
• 3:20
  by
• 3:20
  year,
• 3:20
  by
• 3:20
  month,
• 3:20
  by
• 3:20
  quarter,
• 3:21
  whatever,
• 3:22
  but
• 3:22
  we
• 3:22
  just
• 3:23
  wanna
• 3:23
  be
• 3:23
  cautious
• 3:23
  that
• 3:24
  we're
• 3:24
  not
• 3:24
  throwing
• 3:24
  away
• 3:25
  everything
• 3:25
  we've
• 3:25
  done
• 3:26
  at
• 3:26
  the
• 3:26
  start
• 3:26
  of
• 3:26
  the
• 3:26
  new
• 3:26
  year.
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  I
• 3:27
  don't
• 3:27
  want
• 3:27
  this
• 3:28
  to
• 3:28
  feel
• 3:28
  like
• 3:28
  a
• 3:28
  fresh
• 3:28
  start
• 3:29
  because
• 3:29
  I'm
• 3:29
  really
• 3:29
  proud
• 3:29
  of
• 3:29
  what
• 3:30
  I
• 3:30
  was
• 3:30
  just
• 3:30
  doing
• 3:30
  last
• 3:30
  month.
• 3:31
  Does
• 3:31
  that
• 3:31
  make
• 3:31
  sense?
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  So
• 3:33
  if
• 3:33
  you
• 3:33
  tend
• 3:33
  to
• 3:33
  feel
• 3:34
  that
• 3:34
  way,
• 3:34
  if
• 3:34
  you
• 3:34
  tend
• 3:34
  to
• 3:34
  think
• 3:34
  that,
• 3:35
  well,
• 3:35
  everything
• 3:35
  before
• 3:35
  this
• 3:35
  doesn't
• 3:36
  really
• 3:36
  count.
• 3:36
  Stop.
• 3:37
  I
• 3:37
  recently
• 3:38
  read
• 3:38
  a
• 3:38
  post
• 3:38
  by
• 3:39
  a
• 3:39
  pretty
• 3:39
  successful
• 3:40
  life
• 3:40
  coach
• 3:40
  who
• 3:40
  said
• 3:41
  that
• 3:41
  years
• 3:41
  ago
• 3:41
  she
• 3:42
  was
• 3:42
  trying
• 3:42
  to
• 3:42
  meet
• 3:42
  an
• 3:43
  income
• 3:43
  goal
• 3:43
  for
• 3:43
  a
• 3:43
  specific
• 3:44
  year,
• 3:44
  and
• 3:44
  she
• 3:44
  was
• 3:45
  short
• 3:45
  at
• 3:45
  the
• 3:45
  end
• 3:45
  of
• 3:45
  the
• 3:45
  year,
• 3:46
  and
• 3:46
  she
• 3:46
  started
• 3:47
  beating
• 3:47
  herself
• 3:47
  up
• 3:47
  until
• 3:48
  she
• 3:48
  realized,
• 3:48
  wait
• 3:48
  a
• 3:48
  minute,
• 3:49
  if
• 3:49
  things
• 3:49
  continued
• 3:50
  the
• 3:50
  way
• 3:50
  they
• 3:50
  were,
• 3:50
  she
• 3:50
  was
• 3:50
  gonna
• 3:50
  meet
• 3:51
  that
• 3:51
  goal
• 3:51
  in
• 3:52
  February
• 3:52
  or
• 3:52
  March
• 3:53
  based
• 3:53
  on
• 3:53
  the
• 3:53
  rolling
• 3:54
  year.
• 3:54
  So
• 3:55
  from
• 3:55
  February,
• 3:55
  the
• 3:55
  year
• 3:56
  before
• 3:56
  to
• 3:56
  February
• 3:56
  of
• 3:57
  the
• 3:57
  current
• 3:57
  year,
• 3:57
  she
• 3:57
  was
• 3:57
  gonna
• 3:58
  meet
• 3:58
  that
• 3:58
  goal.
• 3:58
  Who
• 3:59
  says
• 3:59
  you
• 3:59
  have
• 3:59
  to
• 3:59
  meet
• 3:59
  it
• 3:59
  from
• 4:00
  January
• 4:00
  to
• 4:00
  December.
• 4:01
  That's
• 4:01
  kind
• 4:02
  of
• 4:02
  silly
• 4:02
  actually,
• 4:02
  right?
• 4:03
  So
• 4:03
  just
• 4:03
  kind
• 4:03
  of
• 4:03
  pay
• 4:03
  attention
• 4:04
  to
• 4:04
  that.
• 4:04
  Zoom
• 4:04
  out
• 4:04
  a
• 4:05
  little
• 4:05
  bit
• 4:05
  and
• 4:05
  make
• 4:05
  sure
• 4:05
  you're
• 4:05
  not
• 4:05
  making
• 4:06
  January
• 4:06
  mean
• 4:07
  way
• 4:07
  more
• 4:07
  than
• 4:07
  it
• 4:07
  should.
• 4:08
  This
• 4:08
  is
• 4:08
  just
• 4:09
  a
• 4:09
  continuation
• 4:10
  of
• 4:10
  what
• 4:10
  you've
• 4:10
  already
• 4:11
  been
• 4:11
  doing.
• 4:11
  So
• 4:11
  we're
• 4:12
  gonna
• 4:12
  continue
• 4:12
  on
• 4:13
  with
• 4:13
  the
• 4:13
  lessons
• 4:14
  and
• 4:14
  the
• 4:14
  habits,
• 4:15
  and
• 4:15
  especially
• 4:15
  the
• 4:15
  momentum
• 4:16
  that
• 4:16
  we've
• 4:17
  had.
• 4:17
  Coming
• 4:17
  up
• 4:18
  to
• 4:18
  now
• 4:18
  the
• 4:19
  systems,
• 4:19
  the
• 4:19
  growth
• 4:20
  that
• 4:20
  we've
• 4:20
  been
• 4:20
  experiencing,
• 4:21
  and
• 4:22
  maybe
• 4:22
  leave
• 4:22
  behind
• 4:22
  some
• 4:23
  of
• 4:23
  the
• 4:23
  things
• 4:23
  that
• 4:23
  aren't
• 4:23
  working.
• 4:24
  We
• 4:24
  don't
• 4:24
  want
• 4:25
  to
• 4:25
  self-sabotage
• 4:25
  ourself
• 4:26
  by
• 4:27
  saying,
• 4:28
  nothing's
• 4:28
  working.
• 4:28
  I'm
• 4:28
  starting
• 4:29
  all
• 4:29
  over
• 4:29
  from
• 4:29
  scratch.
• 4:30
  Okay?
• 4:30
  So
• 4:30
  just
• 4:30
  be
• 4:30
  aware
• 4:31
  of
• 4:31
  that.
• 4:31
  That
• 4:31
  doesn't
• 4:31
  happen
• 4:32
  to
• 4:32
  everyone,
• 4:32
  but
• 4:32
  some
• 4:32
  of
• 4:32
  us
• 4:32
  kind
• 4:33
  of
• 4:33
  fall
• 4:33
  prey
• 4:33
  to
• 4:33
  that.
• 4:34
  Ask
• 4:35
  yourself,
• 4:35
  what
• 4:35
  from
• 4:35
  last
• 4:36
  year
• 4:36
  actually
• 4:36
  worked
• 4:37
  that
• 4:37
  I
• 4:37
  don't
• 4:37
  want
• 4:37
  to
• 4:37
  abandon
• 4:38
  just
• 4:38
  because
• 4:38
  it's
• 4:38
  January
• 4:39
  now.
• 4:39
  What
• 4:39
  do
• 4:39
  I
• 4:39
  wanna
• 4:40
  keep
• 4:40
  doing?
• 4:40
  And.
• 4:41
  Continue
• 4:42
  the
• 4:42
  momentum
• 4:42
  with,
• 4:43
  so
• 4:43
  that's
• 4:43
  the
• 4:44
  first
• 4:44
  thing
• 4:44
  we
• 4:44
  need
• 4:44
  to
• 4:44
  remember
• 4:45
  when
• 4:45
  setting
• 4:45
  goals
• 4:46
  for
• 4:46
  the
• 4:46
  new
• 4:46
  year.
• 4:46
  The
• 4:47
  second
• 4:47
  one
• 4:47
  is
• 4:47
  critical,
• 4:49
  and
• 4:49
  that
• 4:49
  is
• 4:49
  that
• 4:49
  we
• 4:50
  need
• 4:50
  to
• 4:50
  make
• 4:50
  sure
• 4:50
  we
• 4:50
  are
• 4:51
  not
• 4:51
  chasing
• 4:51
  our
• 4:52
  worth
• 4:52
  through
• 4:53
  our
• 4:53
  goals.
• 4:54
  This
• 4:54
  used
• 4:55
  to
• 4:55
  be
• 4:55
  a
• 4:55
  big
• 4:56
  problem
• 4:56
  for
• 4:56
  me.
• 4:57
  I
• 4:57
  used
• 4:58
  to
• 4:58
  set
• 4:58
  goals
• 4:59
  and
• 4:59
  accomplish
• 4:59
  things
• 4:59
  so
• 5:00
  that
• 5:00
  I
• 5:00
  could
• 5:00
  feel
• 5:00
  better
• 5:00
  about
• 5:00
  who
• 5:01
  I
• 5:01
  was
• 5:02
  and
• 5:02
  that
• 5:03
  is
• 5:04
  poisonous.
• 5:05
  Because
• 5:05
  here's
• 5:05
  what
• 5:05
  happens.
• 5:06
  You're
• 5:06
  not
• 5:07
  always
• 5:07
  gonna
• 5:07
  be
• 5:07
  able
• 5:07
  to
• 5:07
  accomplish
• 5:08
  a
• 5:08
  lot.
• 5:08
  You
• 5:09
  might
• 5:09
  get
• 5:09
  sick,
• 5:10
  you
• 5:10
  might
• 5:10
  get
• 5:10
  injured.
• 5:11
  You
• 5:11
  might
• 5:11
  choose
• 5:11
  to
• 5:12
  focus
• 5:12
  on
• 5:12
  your
• 5:12
  family
• 5:13
  for
• 5:13
  a
• 5:13
  time
• 5:13
  instead
• 5:13
  of
• 5:13
  your
• 5:13
  business.
• 5:14
  You
• 5:14
  might
• 5:15
  choose
• 5:15
  to
• 5:15
  focus
• 5:16
  on
• 5:16
  your
• 5:16
  church
• 5:16
  calling
• 5:16
  for
• 5:17
  a
• 5:17
  while
• 5:17
  instead
• 5:17
  of
• 5:17
  your
• 5:17
  business.
• 5:19
  There
• 5:19
  are
• 5:19
  so
• 5:19
  many
• 5:19
  different
• 5:20
  things
• 5:20
  in
• 5:20
  life
• 5:20
  that
• 5:20
  might
• 5:21
  come
• 5:21
  up
• 5:21
  and
• 5:22
  make
• 5:22
  it
• 5:22
  so
• 5:23
  that
• 5:23
  you
• 5:23
  have
• 5:23
  to
• 5:23
  scale
• 5:24
  back
• 5:24
  on
• 5:24
  your
• 5:24
  accomplishments
• 5:25
  and
• 5:25
  your
• 5:25
  goals.
• 5:26
  That
• 5:26
  means
• 5:27
  nothing
• 5:27
  about
• 5:28
  your
• 5:28
  worth.
• 5:28
  Your
• 5:29
  worth
• 5:29
  is
• 5:29
  unending
• 5:30
  and
• 5:30
  eternal.
• 5:30
  We've
• 5:30
  talked
• 5:31
  about
• 5:31
  this
• 5:31
  before,
• 5:31
  but
• 5:32
  it's
• 5:32
  very
• 5:32
  important
• 5:32
  that
• 5:32
  we
• 5:33
  remember
• 5:33
  this.
• 5:34
  No
• 5:34
  matter
• 5:34
  what
• 5:34
  we
• 5:35
  do
• 5:35
  or
• 5:35
  don't
• 5:35
  do
• 5:35
  in
• 5:35
  this
• 5:36
  life,
• 5:36
  our
• 5:36
  worth
• 5:37
  is
• 5:37
  perfect
• 5:38
  period.
• 5:39
  Now,
• 5:40
  God
• 5:40
  sent
• 5:40
  us
• 5:40
  here
• 5:40
  to
• 5:41
  have
• 5:41
  experiences
• 5:41
  to
• 5:42
  help
• 5:42
  us
• 5:42
  grow,
• 5:42
  which
• 5:43
  is
• 5:43
  so
• 5:43
  great,
• 5:44
  but
• 5:44
  we're
• 5:44
  not
• 5:45
  growing
• 5:45
  our
• 5:45
  worth.
• 5:46
  We
• 5:46
  can't
• 5:46
  touch
• 5:46
  that.
• 5:46
  That's
• 5:47
  not
• 5:47
  ours
• 5:47
  to
• 5:47
  touch.
• 5:48
  Sometimes
• 5:49
  we
• 5:49
  set
• 5:49
  goals,
• 5:50
  hoping
• 5:50
  that
• 5:50
  we're
• 5:50
  gonna
• 5:50
  feel
• 5:50
  enough,
• 5:51
  hoping
• 5:51
  that
• 5:51
  we're
• 5:51
  gonna
• 5:51
  feel
• 5:52
  more
• 5:52
  successful,
• 5:52
  hoping
• 5:53
  that
• 5:53
  we're
• 5:53
  gonna
• 5:53
  feel
• 5:53
  confident
• 5:54
  and
• 5:54
  lovable.
• 5:55
  And
• 5:55
  all
• 5:56
  of
• 5:56
  these
• 5:56
  emotions
• 5:56
  are
• 5:57
  important
• 5:57
  to
• 5:57
  feel,
• 5:58
  but
• 5:58
  we
• 5:58
  actually
• 5:59
  don't
• 5:59
  need
• 5:59
  to
• 5:59
  accomplish
• 6:00
  any
• 6:00
  of
• 6:00
  them
• 6:00
  to
• 6:00
  feel
• 6:00
  them.
• 6:01
  Right.
• 6:01
  We'll
• 6:02
  talk
• 6:02
  more
• 6:02
  about
• 6:02
  that
• 6:02
  in
• 6:02
  a
• 6:02
  minute.
• 6:03
  Have
• 6:03
  you
• 6:03
  guys
• 6:03
  ever
• 6:04
  heard
• 6:04
  the
• 6:05
  phrase
• 6:05
  burn
• 6:05
  the
• 6:05
  ships?
• 6:06
  This
• 6:06
  is
• 6:06
  a
• 6:06
  pretty
• 6:07
  popular
• 6:07
  one
• 6:07
  in
• 6:07
  business
• 6:07
  because
• 6:08
  it
• 6:08
  refers
• 6:08
  to
• 6:09
  the
• 6:09
  old
• 6:09
  Spanish
• 6:09
  conquistadors
• 6:10
  that
• 6:10
  came
• 6:11
  to
• 6:12
  the
• 6:12
  Americas
• 6:12
  to
• 6:12
  conquer.
• 6:13
  And
• 6:15
  Legend
• 6:15
  has
• 6:15
  it
• 6:15
  that
• 6:16
  their
• 6:16
  captain
• 6:16
  told
• 6:17
  them
• 6:17
  to
• 6:17
  burn
• 6:17
  the
• 6:17
  ships
• 6:18
  so
• 6:18
  that
• 6:18
  they
• 6:18
  had
• 6:18
  no
• 6:19
  way
• 6:19
  back.
• 6:19
  Their
• 6:20
  only
• 6:20
  way
• 6:21
  to
• 6:21
  survive
• 6:21
  was
• 6:21
  moving
• 6:22
  forward
• 6:22
  and
• 6:22
  conquering
• 6:23
  that
• 6:23
  land.
• 6:24
  Sometimes
• 6:25
  we
• 6:25
  look
• 6:25
  at
• 6:25
  business
• 6:25
  like
• 6:26
  this,
• 6:26
  like,
• 6:26
  okay,
• 6:26
  go
• 6:26
  all
• 6:27
  in
• 6:27
  on
• 6:27
  the
• 6:27
  goal
• 6:27
  and
• 6:27
  burn
• 6:27
  the
• 6:28
  ships.
• 6:28
  There's
• 6:28
  no
• 6:28
  way
• 6:28
  back.
• 6:29
  But
• 6:29
  that's
• 6:30
  not
• 6:30
  always
• 6:30
  a
• 6:31
  really
• 6:31
  realistic
• 6:32
  way
• 6:32
  of
• 6:32
  looking
• 6:32
  at
• 6:32
  goals,
• 6:33
  because
• 6:33
  the
• 6:33
  fact
• 6:33
  of
• 6:33
  the
• 6:33
  matter
• 6:33
  is
• 6:33
  sometimes
• 6:34
  no
• 6:34
  matter
• 6:34
  how
• 6:35
  hard
• 6:35
  you
• 6:35
  work,
• 6:36
  you
• 6:36
  don't
• 6:37
  reach
• 6:37
  the
• 6:37
  goal.
• 6:38
  And
• 6:38
  if
• 6:38
  there's
• 6:38
  too
• 6:39
  much
• 6:39
  riding
• 6:39
  on
• 6:39
  that
• 6:39
  goal
• 6:40
  and
• 6:40
  you
• 6:40
  don't
• 6:40
  reach
• 6:40
  it,
• 6:40
  you
• 6:41
  run
• 6:41
  the
• 6:41
  risk
• 6:41
  of
• 6:42
  falling
• 6:42
  into
• 6:42
  a
• 6:42
  really
• 6:43
  bad
• 6:43
  place.
• 6:44
  I
• 6:44
  love
• 6:45
  to
• 6:45
  set
• 6:45
  goals,
• 6:46
  but
• 6:46
  I
• 6:46
  love
• 6:46
  to
• 6:46
  do
• 6:46
  them
• 6:46
  for
• 6:47
  fun,
• 6:47
  not
• 6:47
  because
• 6:48
  my
• 6:48
  identity
• 6:48
  is
• 6:49
  tied
• 6:49
  to
• 6:49
  it.
• 6:49
  The
• 6:50
  outcome
• 6:50
  should
• 6:50
  never
• 6:51
  be
• 6:51
  tied
• 6:51
  to
• 6:51
  your
• 6:51
  worth
• 6:51
  or
• 6:51
  your
• 6:52
  identity.
• 6:52
  It
• 6:52
  should
• 6:53
  be
• 6:53
  just
• 6:54
  for
• 6:54
  fun
• 6:54
  and
• 6:54
  just
• 6:55
  for
• 6:55
  growth
• 6:55
  and
• 6:56
  just
• 6:56
  to
• 6:56
  see
• 6:56
  if
• 6:56
  we
• 6:56
  can
• 6:56
  make
• 6:57
  a
• 6:57
  bigger
• 6:57
  impact.
• 6:58
  Now
• 6:58
  this
• 6:58
  is
• 6:58
  a
• 6:58
  fine
• 6:59
  line,
• 6:59
  of
• 6:59
  course,
• 6:59
  because
• 6:59
  if
• 6:59
  we're
• 7:00
  not
• 7:00
  used
• 7:00
  to
• 7:00
  setting
• 7:01
  and
• 7:01
  reaching
• 7:01
  goals,
• 7:02
  we
• 7:02
  may
• 7:02
  see
• 7:02
  this
• 7:03
  as
• 7:03
  a
• 7:03
  cop
• 7:03
  out,
• 7:03
  right?
• 7:04
  Like,
• 7:04
  well,
• 7:04
  I
• 7:04
  didn't,
• 7:04
  I
• 7:05
  didn't
• 7:05
  expect
• 7:05
  to
• 7:05
  meet
• 7:05
  it
• 7:05
  anyway.
• 7:06
  No,
• 7:06
  I
• 7:06
  don't
• 7:06
  want
• 7:06
  you
• 7:07
  to
• 7:07
  do
• 7:07
  that.
• 7:07
  I
• 7:07
  want
• 7:07
  you
• 7:07
  to
• 7:07
  set
• 7:08
  big
• 7:08
  impossible
• 7:08
  goals
• 7:09
  and
• 7:09
  do
• 7:09
  everything
• 7:10
  you
• 7:10
  can
• 7:10
  to
• 7:10
  reach
• 7:10
  them,
• 7:11
  but
• 7:11
  also
• 7:11
  acknowledge
• 7:12
  that
• 7:12
  you're
• 7:12
  not
• 7:12
  gonna
• 7:13
  fall
• 7:13
  apart
• 7:13
  if
• 7:13
  you
• 7:13
  don't,
• 7:14
  that
• 7:14
  it's
• 7:14
  gonna
• 7:14
  be
• 7:15
  okay.
• 7:15
  If
• 7:15
  you
• 7:15
  don't
• 7:15
  reach
• 7:15
  it,
• 7:16
  you'll
• 7:16
  just
• 7:16
  try
• 7:16
  again
• 7:16
  next
• 7:17
  year
• 7:17
  or
• 7:17
  tweak
• 7:17
  it
• 7:17
  a
• 7:17
  little
• 7:18
  bit.
• 7:18
  We
• 7:18
  want
• 7:19
  our
• 7:19
  goals
• 7:19
  to
• 7:19
  express
• 7:20
  who
• 7:20
  we
• 7:20
  are,
• 7:20
  not
• 7:21
  validate
• 7:21
  us
• 7:21
  as
• 7:22
  human
• 7:22
  beings.
• 7:23
  Your
• 7:23
  worth,
• 7:23
  remember,
• 7:24
  is
• 7:24
  non-negotiable.
• 7:26
  Your
• 7:26
  goals.
• 7:26
  Don't
• 7:26
  get
• 7:26
  to
• 7:26
  decide
• 7:27
  what
• 7:27
  it
• 7:27
  is
• 7:28
  Goals
• 7:28
  can
• 7:28
  be
• 7:28
  fun
• 7:29
  to
• 7:29
  chase,
• 7:29
  but
• 7:30
  they're
• 7:30
  not
• 7:30
  something
• 7:30
  that
• 7:30
  we
• 7:31
  should
• 7:31
  need
• 7:31
  to
• 7:31
  chase
• 7:32
  to
• 7:32
  be
• 7:32
  okay
• 7:33
  with
• 7:33
  who
• 7:33
  we
• 7:33
  are.
• 7:34
  Hope
• 7:34
  that
• 7:34
  makes
• 7:34
  sense.
• 7:35
  Alright.
• 7:35
  Third
• 7:36
  thing
• 7:36
  to
• 7:36
  remember
• 7:36
  when
• 7:37
  setting
• 7:37
  these
• 7:37
  New
• 7:37
  Year's
• 7:37
  goals,
• 7:38
  be
• 7:39
  really
• 7:39
  honest
• 7:40
  with
• 7:40
  yourself.
• 7:41
  Now,
• 7:41
  I
• 7:41
  bet
• 7:42
  each
• 7:42
  one
• 7:42
  of
• 7:42
  us
• 7:42
  already
• 7:43
  knows
• 7:43
  whether
• 7:43
  that
• 7:44
  we're
• 7:44
  the
• 7:44
  type
• 7:44
  to
• 7:44
  overcommit
• 7:45
  and
• 7:45
  push
• 7:45
  ourselves
• 7:45
  too
• 7:45
  hard
• 7:46
  or
• 7:46
  to
• 7:47
  under
• 7:47
  commit
• 7:47
  and
• 7:47
  be
• 7:48
  maybe
• 7:48
  a
• 7:48
  little
• 7:48
  bit
• 7:48
  lazy.
• 7:49
  We
• 7:50
  have
• 7:50
  to
• 7:50
  be
• 7:50
  really
• 7:50
  self-aware
• 7:51
  when
• 7:51
  choosing
• 7:52
  these
• 7:52
  goals.
• 7:53
  In
• 7:53
  my
• 7:53
  experience,
• 7:54
  a
• 7:54
  lot
• 7:54
  of
• 7:54
  entrepreneurs
• 7:55
  lean
• 7:55
  toward
• 7:56
  overcommitting,
• 7:57
  but
• 7:57
  not
• 7:57
  all
• 7:57
  of
• 7:57
  them.
• 7:58
  There
• 7:58
  are
• 7:58
  two
• 7:58
  main
• 7:59
  patterns
• 8:00
  over
• 8:01
  pushers,
• 8:01
  right?
• 8:01
  Those
• 8:01
  who
• 8:02
  are
• 8:02
  driven
• 8:02
  maybe
• 8:02
  by
• 8:03
  fear
• 8:03
  or
• 8:03
  urgency
• 8:03
  or
• 8:04
  people
• 8:04
  pleasing
• 8:04
  and
• 8:04
  they
• 8:04
  really
• 8:05
  wanna
• 8:05
  get
• 8:05
  things
• 8:05
  done.
• 8:07
  Or
• 8:07
  the
• 8:07
  under
• 8:07
  pushers
• 8:08
  who
• 8:08
  maybe
• 8:08
  wanna
• 8:09
  avoid
• 8:09
  discomfort
• 8:10
  or
• 8:10
  they
• 8:10
  have
• 8:10
  some
• 8:10
  fear,
• 8:11
  they
• 8:11
  don't
• 8:11
  always
• 8:12
  love
• 8:12
  accountability
• 8:13
  or
• 8:13
  growth.
• 8:13
  So
• 8:14
  ask
• 8:14
  yourself
• 8:14
  and
• 8:14
  be
• 8:14
  truly,
• 8:15
  truly
• 8:15
  honest,
• 8:16
  which
• 8:16
  one
• 8:17
  do
• 8:17
  I
• 8:17
  tend
• 8:17
  to
• 8:17
  be?
• 8:18
  And
• 8:18
  there's
• 8:18
  no
• 8:19
  shame
• 8:19
  around
• 8:19
  this.
• 8:19
  It's
• 8:19
  just
• 8:20
  human
• 8:20
  nature.
• 8:21
  Do
• 8:21
  I
• 8:21
  tend
• 8:21
  to
• 8:21
  overcommit
• 8:22
  or
• 8:22
  do
• 8:23
  I
• 8:23
  tend
• 8:23
  to
• 8:23
  under
• 8:23
  commit?
• 8:24
  And
• 8:25
  if
• 8:25
  you
• 8:25
  need
• 8:25
  help,
• 8:26
  ask
• 8:26
  in
• 8:26
  prayer,
• 8:27
  ask
• 8:27
  God
• 8:27
  to
• 8:27
  show
• 8:27
  you
• 8:27
  which
• 8:28
  one
• 8:28
  you
• 8:28
  tend
• 8:28
  to
• 8:28
  be,
• 8:28
  and
• 8:29
  then
• 8:30
  do
• 8:30
  a
• 8:30
  little
• 8:30
  bit
• 8:31
  of
• 8:31
  recalibrating.
• 8:32
  If
• 8:32
  you
• 8:32
  are
• 8:33
  the
• 8:33
  type
• 8:33
  to
• 8:33
  overcommit,
• 8:34
  I
• 8:34
  want
• 8:34
  you
• 8:34
  to
• 8:34
  set
• 8:34
  your
• 8:34
  goals
• 8:35
  for
• 8:35
  the
• 8:35
  year
• 8:36
  and
• 8:36
  then
• 8:36
  cut
• 8:36
  them
• 8:36
  in
• 8:36
  half.
• 8:37
  This
• 8:37
  is
• 8:38
  what
• 8:38
  I
• 8:38
  have
• 8:38
  to
• 8:38
  do
• 8:38
  every
• 8:38
  year.
• 8:39
  And
• 8:39
  trust
• 8:39
  me,
• 8:40
  there
• 8:40
  is
• 8:40
  nothing
• 8:40
  beautiful
• 8:41
  about
• 8:41
  being
• 8:41
  an
• 8:41
  overcommit.
• 8:42
  It's
• 8:42
  an
• 8:42
  exhausting
• 8:43
  trait.
• 8:44
  It's
• 8:44
  horrible.
• 8:45
  And
• 8:45
  like
• 8:45
  I
• 8:45
  said,
• 8:45
  there
• 8:45
  were
• 8:45
  many
• 8:46
  years
• 8:46
  that
• 8:46
  I
• 8:46
  chased
• 8:46
  my
• 8:46
  worth
• 8:47
  through
• 8:47
  goals.
• 8:47
  So
• 8:47
  instead,
• 8:48
  I
• 8:48
  have
• 8:48
  scaled
• 8:49
  way
• 8:49
  back
• 8:49
  and
• 8:49
  acknowledged
• 8:50
  that
• 8:50
  these
• 8:50
  would
• 8:50
  be
• 8:50
  fun
• 8:51
  to
• 8:51
  reach,
• 8:51
  but
• 8:52
  they're
• 8:52
  not
• 8:52
  necessary.
• 8:53
  If
• 8:53
  you
• 8:53
  tend
• 8:54
  to
• 8:54
  be
• 8:54
  an
• 8:54
  under
• 8:55
  committer,
• 8:55
  I
• 8:55
  want
• 8:55
  you
• 8:55
  to
• 8:56
  raise
• 8:56
  the
• 8:56
  bar
• 8:56
  a
• 8:56
  little
• 8:57
  bit.
• 8:57
  If
• 8:57
  you
• 8:57
  have
• 8:58
  a
• 8:58
  handful
• 8:58
  of
• 8:58
  little
• 8:58
  goals
• 8:59
  but
• 8:59
  you
• 8:59
  know
• 8:59
  you
• 8:59
  could
• 8:59
  push
• 9:00
  yourself
• 9:00
  harder,
• 9:00
  I
• 9:00
  want
• 9:01
  you
• 9:01
  to
• 9:01
  do
• 9:01
  that.
• 9:02
  Challenge
• 9:02
  yourself
• 9:02
  a
• 9:02
  little
• 9:03
  bit,
• 9:03
  make
• 9:03
  it
• 9:03
  a
• 9:03
  little
• 9:04
  bit
• 9:04
  more
• 9:04
  difficult,
• 9:04
  and
• 9:05
  see
• 9:05
  what
• 9:05
  you're
• 9:05
  capable
• 9:05
  of.
• 9:06
  The
• 9:06
  whole
• 9:06
  point
• 9:07
  of
• 9:07
  this
• 9:07
  exercise
• 9:07
  is
• 9:07
  not
• 9:08
  to
• 9:08
  punish
• 9:08
  ourselves,
• 9:09
  but
• 9:09
  it's
• 9:09
  to
• 9:09
  push
• 9:09
  back
• 9:10
  a
• 9:10
  little
• 9:10
  bit
• 9:10
  on
• 9:10
  that
• 9:10
  natural
• 9:11
  man
• 9:11
  that
• 9:11
  we
• 9:11
  all
• 9:12
  know
• 9:12
  we
• 9:12
  have.
• 9:12
  We
• 9:13
  know
• 9:13
  we
• 9:13
  are
• 9:13
  full
• 9:13
  of
• 9:13
  weaknesses,
• 9:14
  so
• 9:15
  how
• 9:15
  can
• 9:15
  we
• 9:15
  be
• 9:15
  better?
• 9:16
  Can
• 9:16
  we
• 9:16
  scale
• 9:16
  back
• 9:16
  a
• 9:16
  little
• 9:17
  bit
• 9:17
  and
• 9:17
  not
• 9:17
  try
• 9:17
  to
• 9:18
  chase
• 9:18
  every
• 9:19
  goal
• 9:19
  in
• 9:19
  our
• 9:19
  imagination?
• 9:20
  Or
• 9:20
  can
• 9:20
  we
• 9:20
  push
• 9:20
  ourselves
• 9:21
  a
• 9:21
  little
• 9:21
  bit
• 9:21
  and
• 9:21
  maybe
• 9:22
  hold
• 9:22
  ourselves
• 9:22
  to
• 9:22
  a
• 9:22
  little
• 9:22
  bit
• 9:23
  higher
• 9:23
  of
• 9:23
  a
• 9:23
  standard?
• 9:24
  Do
• 9:24
  you
• 9:24
  need
• 9:24
  more
• 9:24
  restraint
• 9:25
  or
• 9:25
  maybe
• 9:26
  you
• 9:26
  need
• 9:26
  a
• 9:26
  little
• 9:26
  bit
• 9:27
  more
• 9:27
  courage?
• 9:27
  Ask
• 9:27
  yourself
• 9:28
  and
• 9:28
  be
• 9:28
  truly,
• 9:28
  truly
• 9:28
  honest.
• 9:30
  All
• 9:30
  right.
• 9:30
  The
• 9:31
  fourth
• 9:31
  thing
• 9:31
  we
• 9:31
  need
• 9:32
  to
• 9:32
  remember
• 9:33
  to
• 9:33
  make
• 9:33
  sure
• 9:33
  our
• 9:33
  New
• 9:33
  Year's
• 9:33
  goals
• 9:34
  do
• 9:34
  not
• 9:34
  fail,
• 9:35
  is
• 9:35
  to
• 9:36
  first
• 9:36
  look
• 9:36
  back
• 9:36
  at
• 9:37
  what
• 9:37
  went
• 9:37
  right
• 9:38
  in
• 9:38
  2025.
• 9:39
  Do
• 9:39
  you
• 9:39
  guys
• 9:39
  remember
• 9:40
  the
• 9:40
  book?
• 9:40
  The
• 9:40
  Gap
• 9:40
  in
• 9:40
  the
• 9:40
  Gain
• 9:41
  that
• 9:41
  I
• 9:41
  talk
• 9:41
  about
• 9:41
  all
• 9:41
  the
• 9:41
  time?
• 9:42
  We
• 9:42
  don't
• 9:42
  wanna
• 9:42
  be
• 9:43
  living
• 9:43
  in
• 9:43
  the
• 9:43
  gap
• 9:44
  between
• 9:44
  where
• 9:44
  we
• 9:44
  are
• 9:45
  and
• 9:45
  where
• 9:45
  we
• 9:45
  want
• 9:45
  to
• 9:45
  get
• 9:46
  all
• 9:46
  the
• 9:46
  time.
• 9:46
  We
• 9:46
  want
• 9:47
  to
• 9:47
  look
• 9:47
  back
• 9:48
  and
• 9:48
  live
• 9:48
  in
• 9:48
  the
• 9:48
  gain
• 9:49
  and
• 9:49
  look
• 9:49
  at
• 9:50
  all
• 9:50
  of
• 9:50
  the
• 9:50
  things
• 9:50
  that
• 9:50
  we've
• 9:51
  Already
• 9:51
  accomplished.
• 9:52
  Our
• 9:52
  brain
• 9:53
  is
• 9:53
  naturally
• 9:54
  wired
• 9:54
  to
• 9:54
  scan
• 9:55
  for
• 9:55
  problems
• 9:55
  and
• 9:55
  weaknesses.
• 9:56
  This
• 9:57
  is
• 9:57
  so
• 9:57
  good.
• 9:57
  We
• 9:57
  want
• 9:58
  this,
• 9:59
  but
• 10:00
  in
• 10:00
  our
• 10:00
  business,
• 10:01
  sometimes
• 10:01
  that
• 10:01
  mindset
• 10:02
  can
• 10:02
  lead
• 10:02
  to
• 10:02
  burnout.
• 10:03
  It
• 10:03
  can
• 10:03
  lead
• 10:03
  to
• 10:04
  discouragement
• 10:05
  or
• 10:06
  being
• 10:06
  chronically
• 10:06
  dissatisfied
• 10:07
  with
• 10:07
  how
• 10:08
  far
• 10:08
  you've
• 10:08
  come.
• 10:09
  And
• 10:09
  as
• 10:09
  Christian
• 10:09
  women,
• 10:10
  this
• 10:10
  is
• 10:10
  a
• 10:10
  little
• 10:10
  bit
• 10:10
  harder
• 10:10
  for
• 10:10
  us
• 10:11
  too
• 10:11
  because
• 10:11
  when
• 10:11
  we
• 10:11
  sit
• 10:12
  in
• 10:12
  contentment
• 10:13
  with
• 10:13
  our
• 10:13
  accomplishments,
• 10:14
  we
• 10:14
  think
• 10:14
  that
• 10:14
  feels
• 10:14
  like
• 10:15
  pride.
• 10:16
  Really,
• 10:16
  it
• 10:16
  should
• 10:17
  feel
• 10:17
  like
• 10:17
  gratitude.
• 10:18
  Gratitude
• 10:18
  to
• 10:18
  God,
• 10:19
  gratitude
• 10:20
  to
• 10:20
  ourselves
• 10:20
  and
• 10:21
  our
• 10:21
  families
• 10:21
  and
• 10:21
  everyone
• 10:21
  that
• 10:21
  helped
• 10:22
  us
• 10:22
  get
• 10:22
  to
• 10:22
  where
• 10:22
  we
• 10:22
  are.
• 10:23
  It
• 10:23
  does
• 10:23
  not
• 10:24
  have
• 10:24
  to
• 10:24
  be
• 10:24
  a
• 10:24
  tooting
• 10:24
  your
• 10:25
  own
• 10:25
  horn
• 10:25
  thing.
• 10:26
  It
• 10:26
  can
• 10:26
  just
• 10:26
  be
• 10:27
  feeling
• 10:27
  grateful
• 10:28
  and
• 10:28
  content
• 10:28
  for
• 10:29
  what
• 10:29
  you
• 10:29
  have
• 10:29
  and
• 10:29
  how
• 10:30
  far
• 10:30
  you've
• 10:30
  come.
• 10:31
  So
• 10:31
  we're
• 10:31
  gonna
• 10:31
  live
• 10:31
  in
• 10:32
  that
• 10:32
  gain,
• 10:32
  not
• 10:32
  the
• 10:32
  gap.
• 10:33
  So
• 10:33
  before
• 10:34
  I
• 10:34
  ever
• 10:34
  create
• 10:35
  New
• 10:35
  Year's
• 10:35
  goals,
• 10:36
  I
• 10:37
  always
• 10:37
  look
• 10:37
  back
• 10:37
  at
• 10:37
  the
• 10:37
  year
• 10:38
  before
• 10:38
  and
• 10:38
  I
• 10:38
  do
• 10:38
  kind
• 10:38
  of
• 10:39
  a
• 10:39
  little
• 10:39
  review.
• 10:40
  If
• 10:40
  you
• 10:40
  have
• 10:41
  maybe
• 10:41
  a
• 10:41
  to-do
• 10:42
  list
• 10:42
  app
• 10:42
  or
• 10:43
  a
• 10:43
  project
• 10:43
  management
• 10:43
  app,
• 10:44
  go
• 10:44
  back
• 10:45
  through
• 10:45
  the
• 10:45
  last
• 10:45
  year,
• 10:45
  skim
• 10:46
  through,
• 10:46
  see
• 10:47
  some
• 10:47
  of
• 10:47
  the
• 10:47
  things
• 10:47
  you've
• 10:47
  accomplished.
• 10:48
  I
• 10:48
  bet
• 10:48
  you
• 10:48
  you've
• 10:49
  forgotten
• 10:49
  a
• 10:49
  lot
• 10:49
  of
• 10:49
  them.
• 10:50
  Every
• 10:50
  time
• 10:50
  I
• 10:51
  do
• 10:51
  this
• 10:51
  activity,
• 10:51
  I'm
• 10:51
  blown
• 10:52
  away
• 10:52
  at
• 10:52
  how
• 10:52
  much
• 10:52
  I
• 10:52
  accomplished.
• 10:53
  I
• 10:53
  think,
• 10:53
  wow,
• 10:54
  that
• 10:54
  was
• 10:54
  pretty
• 10:55
  awesome.
• 10:55
  I
• 10:55
  can't
• 10:55
  believe
• 10:56
  I
• 10:56
  did
• 10:56
  all
• 10:56
  those
• 10:56
  things
• 10:57
  and
• 10:57
  I'm
• 10:57
  really,
• 10:57
  really
• 10:58
  proud
• 10:58
  of
• 10:58
  myself
• 10:58
  and
• 10:58
  I'm
• 10:58
  ready
• 10:58
  to
• 10:59
  hit
• 10:59
  the
• 10:59
  ground
• 10:59
  running
• 10:59
  instead
• 11:00
  of
• 11:00
  thinking
• 11:00
  I'm
• 11:01
  perpetually
• 11:01
  behind.
• 11:01
  Here
• 11:02
  goes
• 11:02
  another
• 11:02
  year
• 11:03
  where
• 11:03
  I'm
• 11:03
  not
• 11:03
  gonna
• 11:03
  get
• 11:03
  everything
• 11:04
  done
• 11:04
  that
• 11:04
  I
• 11:04
  want
• 11:04
  to.
• 11:05
  So
• 11:05
  here's
• 11:05
  a
• 11:05
  few
• 11:06
  questions
• 11:06
  you
• 11:06
  can
• 11:06
  ask
• 11:06
  yourself
• 11:06
  as
• 11:07
  you're
• 11:07
  doing
• 11:07
  the
• 11:07
  yearly
• 11:08
  review.
• 11:09
  What
• 11:09
  worked
• 11:09
  in
• 11:09
  2025?
• 11:11
  What
• 11:11
  felt
• 11:11
  aligned
• 11:12
  with
• 11:12
  who
• 11:12
  I
• 11:12
  really
• 11:13
  want
• 11:13
  to
• 11:13
  be?
• 11:14
  So
• 11:14
  maybe
• 11:14
  some
• 11:15
  things
• 11:15
  worked,
• 11:15
  but
• 11:15
  you
• 11:15
  felt
• 11:16
  like
• 11:16
  hussy
• 11:17
  the
• 11:17
  whole
• 11:17
  time
• 11:18
  and
• 11:18
  dissatisfied
• 11:19
  and
• 11:20
  too
• 11:20
  busy
• 11:20
  and
• 11:20
  didn't
• 11:20
  have
• 11:21
  time
• 11:21
  for
• 11:21
  your
• 11:21
  family.
• 11:21
  Maybe
• 11:22
  that's
• 11:22
  not
• 11:22
  something
• 11:22
  that
• 11:23
  strictly
• 11:23
  worked
• 11:23
  because
• 11:24
  it
• 11:24
  wasn't
• 11:24
  in
• 11:24
  alignment
• 11:25
  with
• 11:25
  the
• 11:25
  life
• 11:25
  you
• 11:25
  wanna
• 11:26
  build.
• 11:27
  Also,
• 11:27
  what
• 11:27
  brought
• 11:28
  energy,
• 11:29
  what
• 11:29
  brought
• 11:29
  peace?
• 11:31
  What
• 11:31
  brought
• 11:31
  the
• 11:31
  type
• 11:31
  of
• 11:31
  results
• 11:32
  that
• 11:32
  you
• 11:32
  really
• 11:32
  want
• 11:32
  your
• 11:33
  business
• 11:33
  to
• 11:33
  see?
• 11:34
  Ask
• 11:34
  yourself
• 11:35
  those
• 11:35
  questions.
• 11:35
  Do
• 11:36
  a
• 11:36
  little
• 11:36
  bit
• 11:36
  of
• 11:36
  journaling,
• 11:37
  and
• 11:37
  then
• 11:37
  go
• 11:37
  from
• 11:37
  there.
• 11:38
  Once
• 11:38
  you
• 11:38
  have
• 11:39
  that
• 11:39
  kinda
• 11:39
  locked
• 11:39
  into
• 11:39
  your
• 11:40
  brain,
• 11:40
  it's
• 11:40
  so
• 11:40
  much
• 11:41
  easier
• 11:41
  and
• 11:41
  better
• 11:42
  to
• 11:42
  create
• 11:42
  New
• 11:42
  Year's
• 11:43
  goals,
• 11:43
  and
• 11:43
  you
• 11:43
  create
• 11:43
  them
• 11:43
  from
• 11:44
  this
• 11:44
  place
• 11:44
  of
• 11:44
  satisfaction
• 11:45
  and
• 11:45
  contentment
• 11:46
  instead
• 11:46
  of
• 11:46
  a
• 11:46
  place
• 11:47
  of
• 11:47
  dissatisfaction.
• 11:48
  Remember,
• 11:49
  our
• 11:49
  weaknesses
• 11:50
  will
• 11:50
  always
• 11:50
  exist.
• 11:51
  We
• 11:51
  might
• 11:51
  overcome
• 11:52
  some.
• 11:52
  And
• 11:53
  turn
• 11:53
  them
• 11:53
  into
• 11:53
  strengths
• 11:54
  with
• 11:54
  the
• 11:54
  help
• 11:55
  of
• 11:55
  the
• 11:55
  Lord,
• 11:55
  but
• 11:56
  then
• 11:56
  other
• 11:56
  weaknesses
• 11:57
  will
• 11:57
  come.
• 11:57
  That's
• 11:58
  just
• 11:58
  life.
• 11:59
  But
• 12:00
  we
• 12:00
  can
• 12:00
  find
• 12:00
  more
• 12:01
  joy,
• 12:01
  by
• 12:02
  leaning
• 12:02
  into
• 12:02
  our
• 12:02
  strengths
• 12:03
  and
• 12:03
  the
• 12:03
  things
• 12:03
  that
• 12:03
  we're
• 12:04
  really
• 12:04
  good
• 12:04
  at.
• 12:05
  That's
• 12:05
  also
• 12:06
  side
• 12:06
  note,
• 12:06
  how
• 12:07
  we
• 12:07
  impact
• 12:07
  more
• 12:08
  people's
• 12:08
  lives
• 12:08
  outside
• 12:09
  of
• 12:09
  us,
• 12:09
  is
• 12:09
  by
• 12:09
  leaning
• 12:09
  into
• 12:10
  the
• 12:10
  areas
• 12:10
  where
• 12:10
  God
• 12:10
  has
• 12:10
  made
• 12:11
  us
• 12:11
  strong.
• 12:11
  I.
• 12:12
  So
• 12:12
  this
• 12:12
  time,
• 12:13
  try
• 12:13
  to
• 12:13
  lean
• 12:13
  a
• 12:13
  little
• 12:14
  bit
• 12:14
  less
• 12:14
  into
• 12:14
  what's
• 12:14
  going
• 12:15
  wrong
• 12:15
  and
• 12:15
  a
• 12:15
  little
• 12:15
  bit
• 12:15
  more
• 12:16
  into
• 12:16
  what's
• 12:16
  going
• 12:17
  right.
• 12:17
  Alright.
• 12:18
  The
• 12:18
  fifth
• 12:19
  thing
• 12:19
  to
• 12:19
  remember
• 12:19
  when
• 12:19
  making
• 12:20
  your
• 12:20
  New
• 12:20
  Year's
• 12:20
  goals
• 12:21
  is
• 12:22
  don't
• 12:22
  forget
• 12:22
  to
• 12:22
  make
• 12:22
  this
• 12:23
  the
• 12:23
  year.
• 12:23
  That
• 12:24
  you
• 12:24
  love
• 12:24
  yourself
• 12:24
  and
• 12:25
  everything
• 12:25
  about
• 12:25
  your
• 12:25
  life.
• 12:26
  Did
• 12:26
  you
• 12:26
  know
• 12:26
  that's
• 12:26
  possible?
• 12:27
  You
• 12:27
  can
• 12:27
  love
• 12:28
  everything
• 12:28
  about
• 12:28
  your
• 12:29
  life,
• 12:29
  I
• 12:29
  promise.
• 12:30
  It's
• 12:30
  all
• 12:31
  a
• 12:31
  matter
• 12:31
  of
• 12:31
  mindset.
• 12:32
  If
• 12:32
  you
• 12:32
  don't
• 12:33
  know
• 12:33
  how
• 12:33
  to
• 12:33
  do
• 12:33
  that
• 12:33
  yet,
• 12:34
  stick
• 12:34
  around.
• 12:34
  You
• 12:34
  know,
• 12:34
  that's
• 12:35
  what
• 12:35
  this
• 12:35
  podcast
• 12:35
  is
• 12:35
  about,
• 12:36
  learning
• 12:36
  to
• 12:36
  create
• 12:36
  a
• 12:36
  brain
• 12:37
  that
• 12:37
  looks
• 12:37
  for
• 12:38
  what's
• 12:38
  going
• 12:38
  right,
• 12:38
  that
• 12:39
  looks
• 12:39
  for
• 12:39
  the
• 12:40
  things
• 12:40
  to
• 12:40
  love
• 12:40
  and
• 12:40
  not
• 12:41
  things
• 12:41
  to
• 12:41
  hate.
• 12:42
  So
• 12:43
  like
• 12:43
  I
• 12:43
  mentioned
• 12:43
  before,
• 12:44
  a
• 12:44
  lot
• 12:44
  of
• 12:44
  the
• 12:44
  times
• 12:44
  when
• 12:44
  we
• 12:45
  set
• 12:45
  goals,
• 12:45
  we
• 12:45
  are
• 12:45
  chasing
• 12:46
  emotions.
• 12:46
  I
• 12:46
  wanna
• 12:47
  feel
• 12:47
  successful,
• 12:48
  I
• 12:48
  wanna
• 12:48
  feel
• 12:49
  like
• 12:49
  I'm
• 12:49
  making
• 12:49
  a
• 12:49
  difference.
• 12:50
  I
• 12:50
  wanna
• 12:50
  feel
• 12:50
  X,
• 12:51
  y,
• 12:51
  Z.
• 12:51
  Here's
• 12:52
  the
• 12:52
  kicker,
• 12:53
  which
• 12:53
  we
• 12:53
  know
• 12:53
  through
• 12:53
  thought
• 12:54
  work,
• 12:54
  any
• 12:55
  of
• 12:55
  those
• 12:55
  emotions
• 12:56
  are
• 12:56
  available
• 12:56
  to
• 12:56
  us
• 12:57
  right
• 12:58
  now.
• 12:59
  You
• 12:59
  can
• 12:59
  find
• 13:00
  reasons
• 13:00
  to
• 13:00
  feel
• 13:01
  those
• 13:01
  emotions
• 13:02
  right
• 13:02
  now.
• 13:03
  Now,
• 13:03
  why
• 13:04
  would
• 13:04
  we
• 13:04
  wanna
• 13:04
  do
• 13:04
  that?
• 13:04
  Wouldn't
• 13:05
  that
• 13:05
  just
• 13:05
  make
• 13:05
  us
• 13:05
  wanna
• 13:05
  give
• 13:06
  up
• 13:06
  on
• 13:06
  our
• 13:06
  goals?
• 13:06
  You
• 13:07
  would
• 13:07
  think,
• 13:08
  but
• 13:08
  actually
• 13:09
  it's
• 13:09
  the
• 13:09
  opposite.
• 13:10
  When
• 13:11
  we
• 13:11
  stop
• 13:11
  waiting
• 13:12
  to
• 13:12
  hit
• 13:12
  a
• 13:12
  goal,
• 13:12
  before
• 13:13
  we
• 13:13
  feel
• 13:13
  better,
• 13:14
  we
• 13:14
  chase
• 13:14
  the
• 13:14
  goal
• 13:15
  just
• 13:15
  for
• 13:15
  fun.
• 13:16
  When
• 13:16
  we
• 13:17
  stop
• 13:17
  saying,
• 13:17
  when
• 13:18
  I
• 13:18
  make
• 13:18
  X
• 13:19
  amount
• 13:19
  of
• 13:19
  money,
• 13:19
  I
• 13:19
  will
• 13:20
  feel
• 13:20
  this.
• 13:22
  We
• 13:22
  give
• 13:22
  ourselves
• 13:22
  permission
• 13:23
  to
• 13:23
  do
• 13:23
  it
• 13:23
  just
• 13:24
  because
• 13:24
  it
• 13:24
  could
• 13:24
  be
• 13:24
  exciting.
• 13:26
  All
• 13:27
  emotions
• 13:27
  are
• 13:27
  available
• 13:28
  to
• 13:28
  us
• 13:28
  at
• 13:28
  any
• 13:29
  time.
• 13:29
  They're
• 13:29
  just
• 13:30
  vibrations
• 13:30
  in
• 13:30
  our
• 13:30
  body
• 13:31
  that
• 13:31
  we
• 13:32
  get
• 13:32
  to
• 13:32
  choose.
• 13:33
  It
• 13:33
  does
• 13:33
  require
• 13:33
  practice
• 13:34
  and
• 13:34
  sometimes
• 13:34
  a
• 13:34
  lot
• 13:35
  of
• 13:35
  work.
• 13:36
  Sometimes
• 13:36
  we
• 13:37
  might
• 13:37
  need
• 13:37
  additional
• 13:37
  support,
• 13:38
  maybe
• 13:38
  with
• 13:38
  a
• 13:38
  therapist
• 13:39
  or
• 13:39
  a
• 13:39
  coach.
• 13:40
  Maybe
• 13:41
  we
• 13:41
  might
• 13:41
  need
• 13:41
  to
• 13:41
  do
• 13:41
  a
• 13:41
  little
• 13:42
  spiritual
• 13:42
  digging
• 13:42
  and
• 13:43
  ask.
• 13:43
  Heavenly
• 13:44
  Father,
• 13:44
  why
• 13:44
  it's
• 13:44
  so
• 13:44
  hard
• 13:45
  for
• 13:45
  us
• 13:45
  to
• 13:45
  feel
• 13:45
  successful,
• 13:46
  why
• 13:46
  it's
• 13:46
  so
• 13:47
  hard
• 13:47
  for
• 13:47
  us
• 13:47
  to
• 13:47
  feel
• 13:47
  contented
• 13:48
  or
• 13:48
  grateful
• 13:49
  for
• 13:49
  our
• 13:49
  life
• 13:49
  as
• 13:50
  it
• 13:50
  is
• 13:50
  right
• 13:50
  now.
• 13:51
  But
• 13:51
  you
• 13:51
  can
• 13:51
  get
• 13:52
  there
• 13:52
  and
• 13:52
  like
• 13:53
  I
• 13:53
  said,
• 13:53
  once
• 13:53
  you
• 13:53
  do,
• 13:54
  your
• 13:54
  goals
• 13:55
  come
• 13:55
  so
• 13:56
  much
• 13:56
  easier,
• 13:57
  I
• 13:57
  promise,
• 13:58
  because
• 13:58
  you're
• 13:58
  not
• 13:59
  chasing
• 13:59
  it
• 14:00
  desperately,
• 14:00
  trying
• 14:00
  to
• 14:01
  feel
• 14:01
  better
• 14:01
  about
• 14:01
  yourself.
• 14:03
  Now,
• 14:03
  I
• 14:03
  know
• 14:03
  this
• 14:03
  sounds
• 14:03
  hard.
• 14:04
  I
• 14:04
  work
• 14:04
  on
• 14:04
  this
• 14:04
  a
• 14:04
  lot
• 14:05
  on
• 14:05
  myself,
• 14:05
  and
• 14:06
  it
• 14:06
  is
• 14:06
  never
• 14:06
  easy
• 14:07
  because
• 14:07
  your
• 14:07
  brain
• 14:08
  has
• 14:08
  a
• 14:08
  story.
• 14:08
  It
• 14:08
  is
• 14:08
  locked
• 14:09
  into
• 14:09
  like,
• 14:10
  I
• 14:10
  will
• 14:10
  not
• 14:10
  feel
• 14:10
  successful
• 14:11
  until,
• 14:12
  or
• 14:12
  I
• 14:12
  will
• 14:13
  not
• 14:13
  feel
• 14:13
  like
• 14:13
  I
• 14:13
  am
• 14:14
  a
• 14:14
  good
• 14:14
  mom
• 14:15
  until,
• 14:16
  but
• 14:16
  you
• 14:16
  get
• 14:17
  to
• 14:17
  feel
• 14:17
  it
• 14:17
  now,
• 14:18
  and
• 14:18
  the
• 14:18
  sooner
• 14:19
  you
• 14:19
  feel
• 14:19
  it
• 14:19
  and
• 14:19
  the
• 14:19
  sooner
• 14:20
  you
• 14:20
  feel
• 14:20
  that
• 14:20
  peace
• 14:20
  and
• 14:21
  the
• 14:21
  sooner
• 14:21
  you
• 14:21
  feel
• 14:21
  content
• 14:22
  with
• 14:22
  yourself,
• 14:23
  the
• 14:23
  easier
• 14:24
  and
• 14:24
  sooner
• 14:24
  you
• 14:25
  will
• 14:25
  reach
• 14:25
  the
• 14:25
  goals
• 14:25
  you
• 14:25
  want.
• 14:26
  So
• 14:26
  we
• 14:27
  don't
• 14:27
  become
• 14:27
  worthy
• 14:28
  of
• 14:28
  love
• 14:28
  after
• 14:29
  we
• 14:29
  achieve
• 14:29
  a
• 14:29
  goal.
• 14:29
  That's
• 14:30
  not
• 14:30
  the
• 14:30
  point.
• 14:31
  But
• 14:31
  we
• 14:31
  do
• 14:32
  achieve
• 14:32
  more
• 14:33
  once
• 14:33
  we
• 14:33
  start
• 14:34
  loving
• 14:34
  ourselves
• 14:35
  more.
• 14:35
  Think
• 14:36
  about
• 14:36
  how
• 14:36
  this
• 14:36
  works
• 14:36
  in
• 14:37
  parenting.
• 14:37
  If
• 14:38
  you
• 14:38
  want
• 14:38
  a
• 14:38
  child
• 14:38
  to
• 14:39
  behave
• 14:39
  better,
• 14:39
  do
• 14:39
  you
• 14:40
  berate
• 14:40
  them
• 14:41
  and
• 14:41
  lecture
• 14:41
  them
• 14:41
  and
• 14:42
  talk
• 14:42
  down
• 14:42
  to
• 14:42
  them?
• 14:43
  No
• 14:43
  maybe
• 14:44
  we
• 14:44
  did
• 14:44
  in
• 14:44
  our
• 14:44
  early
• 14:44
  years
• 14:45
  of
• 14:45
  parenting,
• 14:45
  right?
• 14:45
  But
• 14:45
  we've
• 14:45
  learned
• 14:46
  better.
• 14:46
  We
• 14:46
  have
• 14:46
  learned
• 14:47
  over
• 14:47
  the
• 14:47
  years
• 14:48
  that
• 14:48
  when
• 14:48
  we
• 14:48
  uplift
• 14:49
  and
• 14:49
  we
• 14:49
  motivate
• 14:50
  and
• 14:50
  we
• 14:50
  encourage,
• 14:51
  and
• 14:51
  we
• 14:51
  love
• 14:52
  behavior
• 14:53
  changes
• 14:53
  for
• 14:53
  the
• 14:54
  better,
• 14:54
  that
• 14:55
  is
• 14:55
  how
• 14:55
  we
• 14:55
  change
• 14:55
  our
• 14:56
  own
• 14:56
  behavior
• 14:56
  as
• 14:56
  well.
• 14:57
  can
• 14:58
  you
• 14:58
  guys
• 14:58
  see
• 14:58
  a
• 14:58
  theme
• 14:58
  to
• 14:58
  this
• 14:59
  episode?
• 14:59
  It's
• 14:59
  all
• 15:00
  about
• 15:00
  being
• 15:00
  contented
• 15:01
  and
• 15:01
  grateful
• 15:01
  for
• 15:01
  where
• 15:01
  we
• 15:01
  are
• 15:02
  now,
• 15:02
  loving
• 15:03
  ourselves
• 15:03
  now,
• 15:04
  and
• 15:04
  then
• 15:04
  our
• 15:04
  goals
• 15:05
  fall
• 15:05
  into
• 15:05
  place.
• 15:06
  All
• 15:06
  right,
• 15:07
  the
• 15:07
  sixth
• 15:07
  and
• 15:07
  final
• 15:08
  thing
• 15:08
  to
• 15:08
  remember
• 15:09
  when
• 15:09
  setting
• 15:09
  your
• 15:09
  New
• 15:09
  Year's
• 15:09
  goals
• 15:10
  is
• 15:11
  don't
• 15:11
  build
• 15:11
  a
• 15:11
  future
• 15:12
  that
• 15:12
  you
• 15:12
  don't
• 15:12
  wanna
• 15:12
  live
• 15:12
  in.
• 15:13
  I
• 15:13
  see
• 15:13
  this
• 15:13
  happen
• 15:14
  a
• 15:14
  lot.
• 15:14
  We'll
• 15:14
  see
• 15:14
  other
• 15:15
  people's
• 15:15
  goals.
• 15:15
  Like,
• 15:15
  oh,
• 15:15
  so-and-so
• 15:16
  wants
• 15:16
  to
• 15:16
  make
• 15:16
  a
• 15:16
  hundred
• 15:16
  thousand
• 15:17
  dollars,
• 15:17
  so-and-so
• 15:18
  wants
• 15:18
  to
• 15:18
  live
• 15:18
  full-time
• 15:19
  in
• 15:19
  Hawaii.
• 15:20
  So
• 15:20
  that's
• 15:20
  a
• 15:20
  great
• 15:21
  goal.
• 15:21
  I
• 15:21
  want
• 15:21
  that
• 15:21
  goal,
• 15:22
  but
• 15:23
  you
• 15:23
  need
• 15:23
  to
• 15:23
  be,
• 15:24
  again,
• 15:24
  brutally
• 15:25
  honest
• 15:25
  with
• 15:25
  yourself.
• 15:26
  Do
• 15:26
  you
• 15:26
  really?
• 15:27
  Is
• 15:27
  that
• 15:27
  really
• 15:28
  something
• 15:28
  that
• 15:28
  appeals
• 15:28
  to
• 15:28
  you?
• 15:29
  Does
• 15:29
  it
• 15:29
  really
• 15:30
  matter
• 15:30
  to
• 15:30
  you
• 15:31
  whether
• 15:31
  or
• 15:31
  not
• 15:31
  you
• 15:32
  live
• 15:32
  on
• 15:32
  the
• 15:32
  beach
• 15:32
  full
• 15:32
  time
• 15:33
  or
• 15:33
  whether
• 15:33
  you
• 15:34
  make
• 15:34
  that
• 15:34
  amount
• 15:34
  of
• 15:34
  money?
• 15:35
  Is
• 15:35
  that
• 15:36
  in
• 15:36
  keeping
• 15:36
  with
• 15:37
  the
• 15:37
  values
• 15:37
  that
• 15:37
  you
• 15:37
  have
• 15:37
  for
• 15:38
  yourself?
• 15:39
  You
• 15:39
  can
• 15:39
  ask
• 15:39
  yourself,
• 15:40
  what
• 15:40
  is
• 15:40
  this
• 15:40
  goal
• 15:40
  for?
• 15:41
  What
• 15:41
  is
• 15:41
  going
• 15:42
  to
• 15:42
  help
• 15:42
  me
• 15:42
  achieve?
• 15:43
  Is
• 15:43
  it
• 15:43
  freedom?
• 15:45
  Is
• 15:45
  it
• 15:45
  more
• 15:45
  impact,
• 15:46
  what
• 15:46
  is
• 15:46
  the
• 15:46
  purpose
• 15:47
  of
• 15:47
  it?
• 15:48
  And
• 15:48
  then
• 15:48
  examine
• 15:49
  what
• 15:49
  your
• 15:49
  life
• 15:50
  will
• 15:50
  be
• 15:50
  like
• 15:50
  if
• 15:50
  you
• 15:50
  reach
• 15:51
  that
• 15:51
  goal.
• 15:52
  What
• 15:52
  will
• 15:52
  the
• 15:52
  workload
• 15:53
  likely
• 15:53
  be
• 15:53
  on
• 15:54
  you?
• 15:54
  How
• 15:54
  will
• 15:55
  it
• 15:55
  impact
• 15:55
  your
• 15:55
  family?
• 15:56
  How
• 15:57
  will
• 15:57
  it
• 15:57
  impact
• 15:57
  your
• 15:57
  time
• 15:58
  freedom?
• 15:59
  And
• 15:59
  how
• 15:59
  will
• 15:59
  it
• 16:00
  impact
• 16:00
  your
• 16:00
  spiritual
• 16:00
  and
• 16:01
  emotional
• 16:01
  health?
• 16:02
  Let
• 16:02
  me
• 16:02
  give
• 16:02
  you
• 16:02
  an
• 16:02
  example.
• 16:03
  I
• 16:03
  have
• 16:03
  a
• 16:03
  coach
• 16:03
  friend
• 16:04
  who.
• 16:05
  Saw
• 16:05
  a
• 16:05
  lot
• 16:06
  of
• 16:06
  really
• 16:06
  successful
• 16:06
  life
• 16:06
  coaches
• 16:07
  making
• 16:08
  enough
• 16:08
  money
• 16:08
  to
• 16:08
  retire
• 16:08
  their
• 16:08
  husbands,
• 16:09
  and
• 16:09
  she
• 16:09
  thought,
• 16:09
  I
• 16:10
  love
• 16:10
  that
• 16:10
  idea.
• 16:10
  I'd
• 16:10
  love
• 16:10
  to
• 16:10
  have
• 16:11
  my
• 16:11
  husband
• 16:11
  around
• 16:11
  more.
• 16:12
  I
• 16:12
  would
• 16:12
  love
• 16:12
  to
• 16:12
  say
• 16:13
  I
• 16:13
  was
• 16:13
  successful
• 16:13
  enough
• 16:14
  that
• 16:14
  I
• 16:14
  made
• 16:14
  enough
• 16:14
  money
• 16:15
  that
• 16:15
  he
• 16:15
  could
• 16:15
  retire.
• 16:15
  This
• 16:16
  sounds
• 16:16
  fantastic.
• 16:17
  And
• 16:17
  so
• 16:17
  she
• 16:17
  worked
• 16:17
  and
• 16:17
  worked
• 16:18
  and
• 16:18
  worked
• 16:18
  and
• 16:18
  worked
• 16:18
  and
• 16:18
  worked
• 16:18
  with
• 16:19
  this
• 16:19
  goal,
• 16:19
  and
• 16:20
  she
• 16:20
  didn't
• 16:20
  make
• 16:20
  a
• 16:20
  lot
• 16:20
  of
• 16:20
  progress,
• 16:21
  and
• 16:21
  she
• 16:21
  was
• 16:21
  kind
• 16:22
  of
• 16:22
  lamenting
• 16:22
  to
• 16:23
  her
• 16:23
  husband
• 16:23
  about
• 16:23
  it
• 16:23
  and
• 16:23
  feeling
• 16:24
  like
• 16:24
  a
• 16:24
  failure.
• 16:25
  And
• 16:25
  he
• 16:25
  said,
• 16:26
  you
• 16:26
  know
• 16:26
  what?
• 16:27
  I
• 16:27
  actually
• 16:27
  really
• 16:27
  love
• 16:27
  my
• 16:28
  career
• 16:28
  and
• 16:28
  I
• 16:28
  don't
• 16:28
  wanna
• 16:28
  retire
• 16:29
  early.
• 16:30
  And
• 16:30
  she
• 16:30
  said,
• 16:30
  oh,
• 16:31
  you
• 16:31
  don't.
• 16:32
  He
• 16:32
  said,
• 16:32
  no.
• 16:33
  And
• 16:33
  she
• 16:33
  said,
• 16:34
  okay,
• 16:35
  then
• 16:35
  I
• 16:35
  guess
• 16:35
  I
• 16:35
  don't
• 16:35
  need
• 16:35
  that
• 16:35
  goal.
• 16:36
  She
• 16:37
  had
• 16:37
  just
• 16:37
  picked
• 16:37
  up
• 16:38
  along
• 16:38
  the
• 16:38
  way
• 16:38
  the
• 16:39
  idea
• 16:39
  that
• 16:39
  this
• 16:39
  was
• 16:39
  a
• 16:39
  good
• 16:40
  goal
• 16:40
  for
• 16:40
  her
• 16:40
  to
• 16:40
  have,
• 16:41
  and
• 16:41
  when
• 16:41
  she
• 16:41
  really
• 16:42
  examined
• 16:42
  it,
• 16:42
  she
• 16:42
  realized,
• 16:43
  I
• 16:43
  don't
• 16:43
  need
• 16:43
  that.
• 16:44
  And
• 16:44
  they
• 16:44
  were
• 16:44
  fine
• 16:45
  financially
• 16:45
  with
• 16:45
  the
• 16:45
  money
• 16:45
  her
• 16:45
  husband
• 16:46
  had
• 16:46
  been
• 16:46
  making.
• 16:46
  He
• 16:47
  was
• 16:47
  fine
• 16:47
  with
• 16:47
  his
• 16:47
  career
• 16:48
  and
• 16:48
  enjoyed
• 16:48
  it.
• 16:48
  She
• 16:49
  enjoyed
• 16:49
  working
• 16:49
  part-time
• 16:50
  as
• 16:50
  a
• 16:50
  coach,
• 16:50
  and
• 16:50
  everything
• 16:51
  was
• 16:51
  fine,
• 16:51
  just
• 16:52
  the
• 16:52
  way
• 16:52
  it
• 16:52
  was.
• 16:53
  She
• 16:53
  didn't
• 16:53
  need
• 16:53
  to
• 16:53
  go
• 16:53
  chasing
• 16:54
  a
• 16:54
  goal
• 16:55
  that
• 16:55
  wasn't
• 16:55
  truly
• 16:55
  in
• 16:56
  alignment
• 16:56
  with
• 16:56
  the
• 16:56
  life
• 16:56
  she
• 16:56
  wanted
• 16:57
  to
• 16:57
  build.
• 16:57
  So
• 16:58
  this
• 16:58
  is
• 16:58
  one
• 16:59
  reason
• 16:59
  that
• 16:59
  the
• 16:59
  first
• 17:00
  thing
• 17:00
  I
• 17:00
  do
• 17:00
  with
• 17:00
  my
• 17:00
  new
• 17:00
  clients
• 17:01
  as
• 17:01
  we
• 17:01
  look
• 17:01
  at
• 17:01
  the
• 17:02
  five
• 17:02
  year
• 17:02
  dream,
• 17:02
  five
• 17:02
  years
• 17:03
  down
• 17:03
  the
• 17:03
  road,
• 17:03
  what
• 17:03
  do
• 17:03
  you
• 17:03
  want
• 17:04
  your
• 17:04
  life
• 17:04
  and
• 17:05
  business
• 17:05
  to
• 17:05
  look
• 17:05
  like?
• 17:06
  And
• 17:06
  are
• 17:06
  the
• 17:07
  things
• 17:07
  you're
• 17:07
  doing
• 17:07
  today
• 17:08
  leading
• 17:09
  in
• 17:09
  that
• 17:09
  direction?
• 17:09
  Are
• 17:09
  they
• 17:10
  taking
• 17:10
  you
• 17:10
  down
• 17:10
  a
• 17:10
  different
• 17:11
  path?
• 17:12
  Sometimes
• 17:12
  people
• 17:12
  will
• 17:12
  chase
• 17:13
  goals
• 17:13
  and
• 17:14
  slowly
• 17:15
  but
• 17:15
  surely
• 17:15
  build
• 17:16
  a
• 17:16
  life
• 17:16
  that
• 17:16
  is
• 17:16
  completely
• 17:17
  out
• 17:17
  of
• 17:17
  alignment
• 17:18
  with
• 17:18
  their
• 17:18
  values,
• 17:18
  and
• 17:18
  then
• 17:18
  they
• 17:19
  stand
• 17:19
  up
• 17:19
  one
• 17:19
  day
• 17:19
  and
• 17:19
  look
• 17:19
  around
• 17:19
  and
• 17:20
  go,
• 17:20
  oh.
• 17:21
  I
• 17:21
  actually
• 17:21
  didn't
• 17:21
  want
• 17:21
  this.
• 17:23
  We
• 17:23
  don't
• 17:23
  have
• 17:24
  to
• 17:24
  do
• 17:24
  that
• 17:24
  to
• 17:24
  ourselves.
• 17:25
  We
• 17:25
  have
• 17:25
  to
• 17:25
  look
• 17:25
  way
• 17:26
  down
• 17:26
  the
• 17:26
  line
• 17:26
  and
• 17:26
  decide
• 17:27
  what
• 17:27
  do
• 17:27
  I
• 17:27
  want
• 17:27
  that
• 17:27
  to
• 17:27
  look
• 17:28
  down
• 17:28
  there
• 17:28
  and
• 17:28
  how
• 17:28
  do
• 17:29
  I
• 17:29
  get
• 17:29
  there
• 17:29
  from
• 17:29
  here?
• 17:30
  Remember,
• 17:30
  our
• 17:30
  goals
• 17:31
  should
• 17:31
  be
• 17:31
  serving
• 17:32
  our
• 17:32
  greatest
• 17:33
  values.
• 17:33
  They
• 17:33
  should
• 17:33
  be
• 17:33
  in
• 17:34
  alignment
• 17:34
  and
• 17:35
  helping
• 17:35
  us
• 17:35
  live
• 17:36
  our
• 17:36
  greatest
• 17:36
  values,
• 17:36
  not
• 17:37
  competing
• 17:37
  with
• 17:37
  them.
• 17:38
  before
• 17:39
  you
• 17:39
  set
• 17:39
  a
• 17:39
  goal,
• 17:40
  ask
• 17:40
  yourself,
• 17:40
  do
• 17:40
  I
• 17:41
  want
• 17:41
  to
• 17:41
  live
• 17:41
  inside
• 17:42
  the
• 17:42
  life
• 17:42
  that
• 17:42
  this
• 17:42
  goal
• 17:43
  would
• 17:43
  create?
• 17:43
  Does
• 17:43
  that
• 17:44
  seem
• 17:44
  fun
• 17:44
  for
• 17:44
  me?
• 17:44
  Does
• 17:44
  that
• 17:45
  seem
• 17:45
  satisfying?
• 17:45
  Does
• 17:46
  that
• 17:46
  seem
• 17:46
  in
• 17:46
  alignment
• 17:47
  with
• 17:47
  my
• 17:47
  values?
• 17:48
  So
• 17:48
  Remember,
• 17:48
  friends,
• 17:49
  the
• 17:49
  goals
• 17:49
  are
• 17:49
  not
• 17:50
  the
• 17:50
  problem,
• 17:50
  but
• 17:50
  how
• 17:50
  we
• 17:50
  approach
• 17:51
  them
• 17:51
  sometimes
• 17:51
  is
• 17:52
  Take
• 17:53
  these
• 17:53
  first
• 17:53
  few
• 17:53
  weeks
• 17:53
  of
• 17:53
  January
• 17:54
  to
• 17:54
  do
• 17:54
  a
• 17:54
  little
• 17:55
  bit
• 17:55
  of
• 17:55
  slow
• 17:56
  and
• 17:56
  simple
• 17:56
  reflection,
• 17:57
  maybe
• 17:57
  some
• 17:57
  meditating
• 17:58
  and
• 17:58
  some
• 17:58
  prayer.
• 17:59
  Ask
• 17:59
  yourself
• 18:00
  what
• 18:00
  it
• 18:00
  is
• 18:01
  about
• 18:01
  your
• 18:01
  life
• 18:01
  that
• 18:01
  you
• 18:01
  love,
• 18:02
  and
• 18:02
  ask
• 18:02
  yourself
• 18:03
  what
• 18:03
  it
• 18:03
  is
• 18:03
  about
• 18:03
  your
• 18:03
  life
• 18:03
  that
• 18:04
  you'd
• 18:04
  love
• 18:04
  to
• 18:04
  change.
• 18:05
  We
• 18:06
  don't
• 18:06
  need
• 18:06
  to
• 18:06
  put
• 18:07
  undue
• 18:07
  pressure
• 18:07
  on
• 18:07
  ourselves,
• 18:08
  but
• 18:08
  we
• 18:08
  do
• 18:08
  need
• 18:08
  to
• 18:08
  be
• 18:09
  very
• 18:09
  honest
• 18:10
  with
• 18:10
  ourselves.
• 18:11
  And
• 18:11
  remember,
• 18:11
  you
• 18:11
  don't
• 18:11
  have
• 18:12
  to
• 18:12
  change
• 18:12
  everything
• 18:12
  about
• 18:13
  your
• 18:13
  life.
• 18:13
  Just
• 18:13
  a
• 18:13
  few
• 18:14
  Well-placed
• 18:15
  goals
• 18:16
  are
• 18:16
  enough
• 18:17
  to
• 18:17
  bring
• 18:17
  so
• 18:17
  much
• 18:17
  more
• 18:18
  joy
• 18:18
  and
• 18:18
  satisfaction
• 18:19
  into
• 18:19
  your
• 18:19
  life.
• 18:20
  If
• 18:20
  this
• 18:20
  is
• 18:20
  the
• 18:20
  year
• 18:21
  that
• 18:21
  building
• 18:22
  your
• 18:22
  business
• 18:22
  and.
• 18:22
  Making
• 18:23
  sure
• 18:23
  that
• 18:23
  it's
• 18:23
  successful
• 18:24
  is
• 18:24
  one
• 18:24
  of
• 18:25
  those
• 18:25
  goals
• 18:25
  for
• 18:25
  you.
• 18:25
  Then
• 18:26
  I
• 18:26
  invite
• 18:26
  you
• 18:26
  to
• 18:26
  come
• 18:26
  to
• 18:26
  a
• 18:26
  consult
• 18:27
  call
• 18:27
  with
• 18:27
  me.
• 18:27
  I
• 18:28
  would
• 18:28
  love
• 18:28
  to
• 18:28
  give
• 18:28
  you
• 18:28
  a
• 18:28
  free
• 18:28
  business
• 18:29
  audit
• 18:29
  where
• 18:29
  we
• 18:29
  look
• 18:29
  at
• 18:30
  what
• 18:30
  you
• 18:30
  have
• 18:30
  and
• 18:30
  look
• 18:30
  at
• 18:31
  where
• 18:31
  you
• 18:31
  want
• 18:31
  to
• 18:31
  go
• 18:31
  and
• 18:32
  see
• 18:32
  what's
• 18:32
  missing.
• 18:33
  This
• 18:33
  is
• 18:33
  some
• 18:33
  of
• 18:34
  the
• 18:34
  most
• 18:34
  satisfying
• 18:35
  work
• 18:35
  I
• 18:35
  have
• 18:35
  ever
• 18:35
  done
• 18:35
  in
• 18:36
  my
• 18:36
  life.
• 18:36
  I
• 18:36
  love
• 18:36
  it
• 18:36
  so
• 18:37
  much,
• 18:37
  and
• 18:37
  so
• 18:37
  I
• 18:37
  would
• 18:37
  be
• 18:38
  honored
• 18:38
  if
• 18:38
  you
• 18:38
  wanted
• 18:38
  to
• 18:38
  come
• 18:38
  chat
• 18:39
  with
• 18:39
  me.
• 18:39
  I'll
• 18:39
  put
• 18:39
  that
• 18:39
  link
• 18:39
  in
• 18:39
  the
• 18:40
  show
• 18:40
  notes.
• 18:41
  Let's
• 18:41
  make
• 18:41
  sure
• 18:41
  that
• 18:42
  this
• 18:42
  year
• 18:42
  is
• 18:42
  the
• 18:42
  year
• 18:43
  we
• 18:43
  stop
• 18:43
  trying
• 18:43
  to
• 18:43
  become
• 18:44
  someone
• 18:44
  else,
• 18:45
  but
• 18:45
  we
• 18:45
  just
• 18:46
  amplify
• 18:47
  and
• 18:47
  magnify
• 18:48
  the
• 18:48
  person
• 18:48
  we
• 18:48
  already
• 18:49
  are.
• 18:49
  The
• 18:49
  beautiful,
• 18:50
  well-rounded,
• 18:51
  imperfect
• 18:52
  person
• 18:53
  who
• 18:53
  is
• 18:53
  trying
• 18:53
  her
• 18:53
  best.
• 18:54
  All
• 18:54
  right.
• 18:54
  I
• 18:54
  love
• 18:54
  you
• 18:54
  friends.
• 18:55
  Can't
• 18:55
  wait
• 18:55
  to
• 18:55
  see
• 18:55
  what
• 18:55
  you
• 18:56
  build
• 18:56
  this
• 18:56
  year.
• 18:56
  Talk
• 18:56
  to
• 18:57
  you
• 18:57
  next
• 18:57
  week.