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222. Keep Score · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and welcome
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  Speaker 1: to your Enriched Self podcast. I am your host, Mylene Noir.
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  Speaker 1: I am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach and what
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  Speaker 1: that means is that I am here for you. I
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  Speaker 1: know that life is busy and you don't make time
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  Speaker 1: to think to manage your thoughts, and so that's what
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  Speaker 1: have been podcasting for over four years and now two
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  Speaker 1: hundred and twenty episodes, and it is all because of you.
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  Speaker 1: It is all because you have been tuned in, tapped in,
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  Speaker 1: and you turn us on each and every week, and
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  Speaker 1: I just want to thank you from the bottom of
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  Speaker 1: my heart. Now, if you know, you know, one of
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  Speaker 1: the things I do before we kick off the podcast
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  Speaker 1: is I make a deposit into the bank of you,
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  Speaker 1: and I do that by way of affirmations. Affirmations are
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  Speaker 1: a great way to start your day and to command
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  Speaker 1: your morning. And this week's affirmation is my mind is focused,
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  Speaker 1: my thoughts are elevated, my life reflects the good I
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  Speaker 1: choose to see. My mind is focused, my thoughts are elevated,
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  Speaker 1: and my life reflects the good I choose to see.
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  Speaker 1: My mind is focused, my thoughts are elevated, and my
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  Speaker 1: life reflects the good I choose to see. Now, let's
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  Speaker 1: get ready for this week's episode of the Your Enriched
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  Speaker 1: Self podcast. I have always been and will forever be
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  Speaker 1: a fan of gratitude. It is the greatest life hack ever.
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  Speaker 1: If you're ever feeling out of alignment and you're feeling
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  Speaker 1: less than anything that does not allow you to feel
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  Speaker 1: like and be standing in the best version of yourself,
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  Speaker 1: I promise you gratitude is your remedy. It is the fastest,
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  Speaker 1: quickest way to change the picture because a lot of
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  Speaker 1: what we see is oftentimes what we feel. And to
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  Speaker 1: change the picture, an attitude of gratitude will get you
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  Speaker 1: there every single time. And today, because I am always
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  Speaker 1: so fascinated, always so grateful, and excited to talk about gratitude,
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to flip the script a little bit and
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  Speaker 1: change up the narrative around it, and I want to
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  Speaker 1: talk about keeping score and I think a lot of
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  Speaker 1: us we keep score. Well, let me ask you this,
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  Speaker 1: when are you keeping score of things in your life?
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  Speaker 1: You know most of us are used to keeping score.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe you're keeping score up of somebody that's done you wrong,
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  Speaker 1: or the haters or whatever it is. It's easy to
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  Speaker 1: track those things mentally, right, the setbacks, the bad breaks,
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  Speaker 1: the burdens, the tough losses, the barriers that you face,
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  Speaker 1: those are things that are easy to fit into where
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  Speaker 1: and what you keep score of. It's interesting because when
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  Speaker 1: you look at people's story, just think about social media
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  Speaker 1: and how people are communicating. People can recall perfect details
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  Speaker 1: around something that went wrong two years ago, or five
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  Speaker 1: years ago or even last week. But are you keeping
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  Speaker 1: score of when things go right? Are you documenting your breakthroughs?
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  Speaker 1: Are you documenting your blessings? Are you recording and reminding
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  Speaker 1: yourself of your brilliance? And that's what I want you
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  Speaker 1: to do so that you don't forget. Get you don't forget.
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  Speaker 1: It's not about wearing those rose colored glasses and not
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  Speaker 1: having a realistic view of life, but it's about being
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  Speaker 1: intentional with your thoughts because if you continue to think
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  Speaker 1: about those things, we know that thoughts become things. And
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  Speaker 1: if you're constantly playing and replaying that narrative of what
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  Speaker 1: hasn't worked, you're gonna continue to manifest what's not working,
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  Speaker 1: which is more of the same. And so elevating your life,
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  Speaker 1: as I say here all the time, it starts with
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  Speaker 1: elevating your mind and elevating what you choose to measure.
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  Speaker 1: I'm challenging you this week, just this week alone, to
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  Speaker 1: keep score of the things that are lifting you up,
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  Speaker 1: the things that are carrying you, not the things that
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  Speaker 1: are breaking you, not the things that are keeping you
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  Speaker 1: from being the best version of you. If you think
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  Speaker 1: about it, we are naturally wired to remember bad than
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  Speaker 1: to remember good. The setbacks that you have in your life,
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  Speaker 1: they often come with a lot of drama, that's the
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  Speaker 1: thing about setbacks, So they tend to stick to your
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  Speaker 1: mind faster than the successful things. And here's the thing.
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  Speaker 1: Success leaves clues. But we are so wired to remember
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  Speaker 1: those difficulties. So I want you to create a new
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  Speaker 1: default setting to start keeping record of your winds. I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to repeat that, start keeping record of your winds,
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  Speaker 1: even the small winds. And I think that's why a
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  Speaker 1: lot of people get into vision boarding and visioneering and
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  Speaker 1: all these activities. They aspire for something, but are you
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  Speaker 1: keeping track when you accomplish the thing? And I remember
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  Speaker 1: a few years ago. I'm not a big vision boarder
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  Speaker 1: like I used to be some time ago, but man,
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  Speaker 1: I went back to my vision board and there were
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  Speaker 1: things on that vision board that I had accomplished. I
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  Speaker 1: didn't record them, I lived them. And that's what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 1: We just live the experiences of the things that are good.
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  Speaker 1: But man, can we record and retell and tell ourselves
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  Speaker 1: over and over again those bad things? I want you
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  Speaker 1: to retrain your brain to recognize your progress instead of
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  Speaker 1: your pain. Okay, I'm gonna say it again. Retrain your
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  Speaker 1: brain to recognize progress instead of your pain. So your
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  Speaker 1: thoughts become things. It's truly your thoughts directing your future outcomes.
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  Speaker 1: So if you constantly focus on burdens and bad breakups
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  Speaker 1: and barriers, you're gonna create a mindset hear this, that
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  Speaker 1: expects failure. That's what happens. You activate this thing on repeat,
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  Speaker 1: and your mind starts to regulate that. Not because your mind,
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  Speaker 1: not because you want to fail, not because your brain
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  Speaker 1: wants you to fail, But it's just repetitious, and it
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  Speaker 1: starts to become part of your belief system. So to
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  Speaker 1: combat this, to change the narrative or the picture in
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  Speaker 1: your life, I implore you to document your blessings, your breakthroughs,
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  Speaker 1: anything that's going to shift your energy towards a mindset
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  Speaker 1: of solutions, opportunities and growth. I'll give you an example.
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  Speaker 1: So recently, I've been working on a project and I'll
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  Speaker 1: just say it was a project that was being managed
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  Speaker 1: by a different project manager for over a year, and
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  Speaker 1: there were a lot of obstacles and a lot of
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  Speaker 1: barriers to why this project wasn't taken off right. Financial,
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  Speaker 1: you know, fundation and all the different things that could
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  Speaker 1: potentially be in the mix of preventing this from happening.
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  Speaker 1: And so we find ourselves now in a position where
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  Speaker 1: this thing has to happen, and so I jump in.
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  Speaker 1: I've been asked to jump in, and I'm working on it,
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  Speaker 1: and I keep saying to my supervisor we're almost there.
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  Speaker 1: Every time we end the call, I say, you know what,
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  Speaker 1: We're almost there, because we are actually almost there. But
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  Speaker 1: that's been the dream for almost a year. And at
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  Speaker 1: one point she said, you know what, I love your
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  Speaker 1: mindset and your words of affirmation, and I said, I
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  Speaker 1: truly believe we're almost there. We're tweaking the outcomes again.
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  Speaker 1: This is how you change future outcomes. It just starts
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  Speaker 1: with documenting the breakthroughs, like when we finally get compliance
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  Speaker 1: or some other partner to say yes or to give
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  Speaker 1: us a green light on the things that are happening.
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  Speaker 1: I say to her, we're almost there, and now we're
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  Speaker 1: documenting our wins. We're celebrating our wins. We're recording those wins,
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  Speaker 1: and it's shifting the energy towards a solution based environment
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  Speaker 1: as opposed to challenges and issues. The final thing I'll
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  Speaker 1: say about keeping score, it's all about balance, not blindness. Again,
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  Speaker 1: I don't want you walking around not being aware of
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  Speaker 1: the real that's going on right that you are going
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  Speaker 1: to deal with life things. As people say, life be lifing.
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  Speaker 1: It isn't toxic positivity. Okay. I don't want us to
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  Speaker 1: flip the script on that. It's about accurate accounting. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: I want you to account for the accuracy of things
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  Speaker 1: that are happening in your life. The thing about life
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  Speaker 1: is you must pay attention to realize that your life
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  Speaker 1: is full of evidence that you can overcome things that
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  Speaker 1: you can overcome, that you can break through the walls,
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  Speaker 1: that you can climb over the mountain. But you must
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  Speaker 1: start to collect the evidence. Think about a courtroom when
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  Speaker 1: the lawyer wants to prove his or her case, depending
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  Speaker 1: on whichever party they're representing, they don't and shouldn't walk
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  Speaker 1: into a courtroom without evidence. You have to collect the evidence.
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  Speaker 1: So keep in track of what went well, What were
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  Speaker 1: the strengths, What made you confident that time, What showed
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  Speaker 1: your resilience in that situation. What clarity did you get
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  Speaker 1: for your future decision making. That's what keeping score is
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  Speaker 1: all about. It's all about accounting, accurate accounting, collecting the evidence,
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  Speaker 1: and being in a position so that you can win. Listen,
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  Speaker 1: you have greatness within you. You may not know that,
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  Speaker 1: you may not have heard that, but I'm here to
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  Speaker 1: say that to you now. And if you're gonna shine
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  Speaker 1: and shine bright, you gotta start keeping score, get that
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  Speaker 1: accurate accounting, and count your blessings. It's time for you
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  Speaker 1: to make a choice to measure your wins, to start
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  Speaker 1: elevating your life and your mindset. I hope you enjoyed
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