1417 || resisting DARVO + how to change minds
Megan Phelp’s 4 rules for productively engaging with people who you disagree with:
Don’t assume bad intent but instead, assume good or neutral intent.
Ask questions: This signals that the person is being heard, and they also feel safer to ask questions in return.
Stay calm: "right" doesn’t justify "rude". Pause, step away, use a digital buffer for social media exchanges, and then come back.
Make the argument: don’t assume the value of your position should be obvious; it isn’t to others. If we want them to change, make the case for it.
DARVO: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim + Offender -…
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