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102. Prioritize Consistency · Your Enriched Self

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I'm not gonna let you go there. I'm not gonna let you go to
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the place that you tend to go to when you get to this point,
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and I know that you are probably out there saying that you are too tired
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or too busy, or that you're in a bad mood. There's so many
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different reasons why you're giving yourself an out right now. You're not feeling it
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today, you can't. I'm gonna break that down. If you said those
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things recently, if you said those things in the past, I'll raise my
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hand and say I have, and I know you have, and I'm not
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letting you go out like that. We are midway through the year and it's
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time to stand up and get involved. And the period that I just described
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that you know what this period is is that period of low motivation, low
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vibrational situation going on right here. And if I break it down another level
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and take it to another layer, what's happening to you, what's happened to
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us, because I've been there and I still go there sometimes is that you
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are more focused on the outcome and less about the process, and that can
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put you in a really dangerous spot of repeating the negative cycle, the negative
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words, the energy that you have built around this narrative that you're too busy,
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you can't do it. You are literally carving a very different path that
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is contrary to the path that you intended to be on, to go on,
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to grow on, and today we need to talk about it and get
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you back on the right path. Hello, my friends from all across the
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globe, and welcome to the Your Enridself Podcast. I am your host,
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Mile Noir. I am a mindset coach and your mindset advocate, And what
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that means is I create and curate this space each and every week so that
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you can become more of your in ridge self, because I know, in
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the vast world of experiences and life that you are living, you tend likely
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not to create a space or find a space that you can walk into to
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do the things you must to become more of your and rich self. So
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each week we talk about mindset fusion topics to help you explore self care,
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soul care, and all the things you need to do each and every week
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so that you can become the best version of yourself. Because I know if
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you are listening to this podcast, first of all, you were brought here
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on purpose for a purpose. And if you are new to this podcast,
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I want to welcome you. If you are a repeat listener, I want
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to thank you for the continuous support and being here each and every week.
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Before we get into this week's episode, which is gonna be a good one,
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I want to do what we do each and every week here in the
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podcast. I make a deposit into the bank of you, and I do
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so by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great way to start your day
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and to command your morning. And this week's affirmation is I will keep working
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on consistent actions until I reach my goal. I will keep working on consistent
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actions until I reach my goal. I will keep working on consistent actions until
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I reach my goal. Now, let's get ready for it this week's episode
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of the Your Enriched Self podcast. Right now, you may have a goal
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ahead of you, maybe big, small, in the middle somewhere, and
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you probably got a burst of energy around this thing, crazy adrenaline and the
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motivation to get you going. The fact is, motivation is not a constant
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state. So what tends to happen is it vanishes, It literally evaporates,
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and then you find yourself in this place where you're not as excited or interested
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in the thing that you had planned on or the thing that you were working
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towards, whether it's exercising, eating healthier, saving money, paying off your
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debt, meal prepping, whatever, whatever it is, you get caught up
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in all the more immediate things like staying in my bed a little bit longer,
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relaxing, unwinding, watching a couple of series on Netflix, or whatever
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it is that we find ourselves going into. And like I said before,
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what that tells me is that we are more focused on the outcome and less
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on the process. And we need to get involved in that process. That's
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going to require you to become consistent in order to get into the process.
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And I dare I say fall in love there? I say fall in love
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with the process. You've got to build consistency. And it's a really powerful
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tool that we don't think about. And I know this because I'm a project
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manager, and there are some consistent things you need to do part of the
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process to get to the end goal. And here's the truth. There are
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activities that I need to participate in. There are journeys that I need to
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explore that I'm not that interested in it. I'm not as motivated or interested
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in those little things as I am to getting to the end where I have
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the celebration and the conclusion. But I gotta get in the middle, and
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I have to get I've got to build consistency. And I want to talk
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to you today about what lay Lee has kept me being consistent about some of
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the things that I'm taking on in my personal professional business life. I want
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you to not find yourself in a place where you are still having the same
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negative conversation and self talk about what you can't do and what you're not feeling
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about today and why you're too busy, because I promise you underneath all of
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that is that you haven't tapped into the consistency that you need, which is
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literally like a power tool. I want you to think of consistency as that
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powerful tool. Consider someone that has a handsaw versus someone that has a power
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tool, where you can saw there's a difference in time and how you can
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get the same type of work done but with a different tool. And so
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that's what we want to talk about today, and again I'm going to walk
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you through what I've been doing to walk through this consistency path to really power
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up myself with consistency. The first thing you're going to need to do when
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it comes to keeping consistent is starting with clarity. Keeping consistent means starting with
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clarity. So you'll need to answer the big question why is this important to
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me? And this is why staying in your own lane is a very important
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part of this piece right here, because what tends to happen is that we
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start looking at what clarity looks like for someone else and we start losing track
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of our why. That's why it's important to be inspired and be motivated by
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those around you and things that you see, but get very clear about why
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would you then do that thing, Because if you don't have a why,
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it's going to be very difficult to stay on your path versus looking at what
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other people are doing and thinking maybe I'm going the wrong way. No,
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you're not. You're on your path. And when you are consistent and clear,
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you become confident because now you are unlikely to fall for the Oki doke.
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You're unlikely to look at all the shiny things around you and think that
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what you have is not enough, or what you have won't get you there.
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On the contrary, what you have is enough and it will get you
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there. But it is your path, and you got to be laser like
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with your focus because that's going to help you deem what's important and what's not
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so important, what you can go do, and what you shouldn't be doing.
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When you're clear, it sets you up to prioritize your life and whatever
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situation you're working on in a very meaningful way. Now. Recently, I
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have been working at thirty minutes of walking every day for the month of July.
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It is now almost halfway through the month, and I have to say
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I've kept up with that goal of mine, and I'm starting off with something
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that's small. I mean, I've always done like a twenty minute walk a
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day ish, but I've really challenged myself even when I go to the gym
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to walk for thirty minutes. Walking through this path and using these techniques have
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really helped me to stay consistent. Why do I want to do this because
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it's part of my self care journey. That's why I'm doing this now.
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I know other people may be doing this for other reasons, but this is
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my opportunity to unplug from everything in my home, at my job, etc.
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And be present for me when I'm outdoors, when I'm walking, I'm
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just outdoors with no expectations, and that for me feels good. That allows
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me to breathe. I encourage you, and I've encourage you on this podcast
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to take a breath, and it's important to do that. And sometimes when
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you're in your living space, your working space, it is very difficult,
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challenging for you to achieve that. And so because this is my self care
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journey, it's important for me to be in that space for thirty minutes.
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And I truly see that as a gift to myself. And I'm going to
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encourage you to gift yourself ten twenty thirty minutes. Whatever it's going to take
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for you to get on your self care journey or stay on your self care
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journey. It starts with clarity. The second thing that I started to do
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is really working on enjoying the journey. I know that we talk about the
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journey a lot. I know you've heard people say there's joy on the journey,
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but I really look for joy on the journey. I really find it
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important to get joy on my journey. I'm one of those people. If
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you follow me, on Instagram or any socials. I am constantly taking pictures
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of the sunrise, the sunset, flowers, views on my walk. It
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is part of the journey. I'm not just going to be out there and
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not be present in the moment. I want to be present. I want
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to take in all of the outdoors. Again, this is my gift to
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myself. I wanted to be the best thirty minutes of my day if possible,
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right, and so that means for me, I find joy on the
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journey. I want to enjoy this process of walking for thirty one days,
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whether I'm doing it in the gym or doing it outdoors, wherever I choose.
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I want to make sure that it's going to be enjoyable. And that
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may be sort of selfish, but I know that for me, know what
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your thing is, my thing is. I love beauty. I love to
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be outdoors. So for me, the thirty minutes was more enjoyable to be
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outdoors. I like going to the gym, and I've started doing some additional
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weight trainings and things like that, and I quite miss doing those things.
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But I really like being outside, knowing thyself and understanding that I love beautiful
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things. I love being outdoors. Guess what I started doing on the weekends.
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I am now exploring local parks. There's so much beauty outside of just
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my neighborhood, and I want to start exploring that so much so I now
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have an interest in hiking, getting interested in the hiking experience. So what
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I'm saying is, I'm looking for ways to explore this thirty minute walk.
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Can it be at the gyms? Can it be outdoors walking in my local
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neighborhood. Yes, But I've decided to get more joint on my journey that
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I would start to walk in local parks, and I've started to fall in
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love with that. So find your thing, find your lane, get into
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it, and I promise you you are going to really make maintain the consistency
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that you need. The last thing I'll say, and I actually have a
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bonus for you. But number three would be track your progress. You got
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some wins, you got some winds. As a project manager, sometimes it's
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really hard to see the progress right because there are so many major milestones,
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But then they're all these little mini micro steps that you need to take.
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But those small things tend to add up. Now, For example, I
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mentioned I love running, I love how it makes me feel at the end.
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But I also get to see my progress. When I look at my
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APP, I can see mile by mile how I improved or what my opportunities
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were. We also call that looking at your splits to see how in mile
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one versus mile two versus mile three, how long did it take me to
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get through that mile. I can also look at over the course of time
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where or it's in the month of July or a previous month. I can
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see how I improved from my last run. I can see how I improved
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my running stats from the last week and things of that nature. And I
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could also see how I improved my time with the distance that I ran the
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last time I ran that distance. So there's many ways to track progress.
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I'm going to encourage you to track your progress. Find what works for you.
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I don't know if it's going to be an app or if it's going
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to be writing it down in your journal. However, you need to capture
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this, Capture this, pay attention to the winning streaks, keep a record
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of your accomplishments. At work. One of the things I had a boss
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that was really good about encouraging me to write down all of the many and
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the minor and the major things I had done in the year, because it
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all adds up. But it's difficult to get to the end of year and
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try to recall all the things you've done, especially if you know maybe your
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projects weren't as large that year, or they weren't as strategic, so they
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weren't as big, but there were many little things that you did, and
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if you string those things along, you can see your progress over time.
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And when you see your progress over time you're not waiting until the end of
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year to try and remember what it is you're tracking on that thing. And
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I would say, especially if it's small, you want to track it because
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those are the ones we tend to negate, we tend to forget, we
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tend to leave out, and those are the ones that if you keep up
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with it over time, you'll get the sense of achievement and then you will
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continue working at the consistency. And that's what this is all about. And
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I want you to get out of that mode. I told you, I'm
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not going to leave you there. Now, let me give you a bonus.
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Build in accountability. Build in accountability. Now, let me tell you
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how I did that. When I decided that I was going to walk thirty
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minutes a day for thirty one days the month of July. I decided to
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put it on social media. I decided to make a video about it.
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I decided to post it to TikTok. I decided to put it everywhere that
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I possibly could. Why Because I wanted to build in accountability. Because I
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know if people know this and people will that I'm not showing up the way
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I said I would, then that's on me. That's on me. So
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I have TikTok partners, Facebook partners, Instagram partners. I have partners all
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across the space that I don't know or don't know me, but I'm accountable
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to them. Why Because I put it out there in the atmosphere. Talk
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to your friends, talk to your family. Maybe not all the friends and
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all the family, but there are people in your circle that will encourage you
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to keep going. There are people in your circle that you're going to inspire
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to start something or begin their consistency journey. I'm also going to encourage you
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to look for external organizations or groups if you're not involved in such thing.
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I'm involved in running groups like Black Girls Run. I recently found a Black
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Hikers club here in the city, and so I'm participating i think next weekend
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in a hike at a local park. So these are the things that you
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want to start to think about when you think about accountability. Yes, it's
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going to be you accounting for yourself, but when you build community around you,
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it certainly helps improve your chances of staying system. Because what's going to
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happen and what I hope to happen, because I recall when we brought other
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women into the Black Girls Run community at my local area, is when new
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people would come in, we would give them all the good, the bad,
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and the ugly about the running journey right and sharing our progress and sharing
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challenges. And you know, it's a level of support that you just won't
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be able to get if you just sit behind your computer and do research.
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You want to get out there, get in community, get with people who
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are you know, I would consider myself a beginner. I mean I've hiked
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before, but it's never been a thing that I've really started looking at.
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I mean I'm looking at gear and backpacks and you know, water, you
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know, the different type of ways to hydrate and protein bars and all kinds
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of things that I hadn't looked at that are, you know, really special
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for a hiker. And so I'm hoping as I go on the hiking journeys
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that I will learn more about that from people in that group because they have
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a little bit more experience than I do. So these are the things that
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are going to help you on your journey of consistency. So to wrap things
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up, I'm going to leave you with this quote. Discipline leads to habits.
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Habits lead to consistency. Consistency leads to growth. I hope you enjoyed
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this week's episode of the Your Enriched Self podcast. And the only way I'm
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don't forget to check out the show notes. In the show notes,
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we have the affirmation of the Week, the quote of the week, and
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ways you can reach me again. I am a mindset coach. I would
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love to hear from you. I do fifteen minute consultations, so check out
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the details in the show notes. How you can book some time with me.
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I also have some resources available for you. There are links to the
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Show of Everyday Journal and the Show of Everyday Notebooks, so check that out
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link again in the show notes, I believe those are all the announcements for
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this week. I want you to take what you can from this episode and
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do what you must in the next one hundred and sixty eight hours to become
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more of your enriched self until we meet again.