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Note 49: Choosing You Doesn’t Make You Selfish · Notes to Her

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  Hey,
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  girl.
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  Hey.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  no
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  Star
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  or
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  the
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  Daily
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  Pep
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  Talk.
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  I'm
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  Yaya,
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  your
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  confidence
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  and
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  mindset
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  coach,
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  here
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  to
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  help
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  you
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  stop
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  shrinking,
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  stop
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  overthinking,
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  and
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  stop
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  abandoning
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  yourself
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  when
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  things
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  get
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  uncomfortable.
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  Because
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  choosing
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  you,
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  resting,
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  setting
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  boundaries,
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  listening
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  to
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  your
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  needs,
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  that
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  does
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  not
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  make
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  you
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  selfish.
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  And
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  honestly,
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  that
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  might
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  be
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  one
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  of
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  the
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  most
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  important
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  things
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  that
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  I
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  ever
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  say
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  to
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  you.
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  Because
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  so
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  many
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  women
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  are
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  walking
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  around
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  with
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  guilt
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  for
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  simply
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  taking
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  care
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  of
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  themselves.
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  And
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  it's
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  time
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  that
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  we
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  clear
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  that
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  up.
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  So
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  somewhere
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  along
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  the
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  way,
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  we
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  were
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  taught
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  a
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  lie.
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  That
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  choosing
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  yourself
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  is
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  selfish,
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  that
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  prioritizing
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  your
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  needs
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  is
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  narcissistic,
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  that
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  putting
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  yourself
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  first
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  means
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  taking
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  something
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  away
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  from
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  others.
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  And
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  that
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  message
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  didn't
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  come
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  from
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  nowhere.
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  We
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  watched
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  it
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  growing
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  up.
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  We
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  watched
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  our
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  moms
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  and
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  the
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  women
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  before
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  them
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  play
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  that
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  role
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  of
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  superwoman,
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  doing
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  everything
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  for
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  everyone,
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  holding
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  the
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  house
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  together,
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  working,
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  caring,
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  sacrificing.
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  And
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  at
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  the
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  end
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  of
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  the
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  day,
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  she
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  was
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  exhausted,
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  but
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  she
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  kept
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  going.
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  And
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  what
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  we
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  learned
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  from
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  that
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  wasn't
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  just
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  work
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  ethic.
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  We
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  learned
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  that
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  being
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  a
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  good
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  woman
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  meant
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  being
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  depleted.
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  So
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  now,
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  as
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  adults,
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  we
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  wear
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  all
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  hats.
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  Daughter,
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  mother,
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  partner,
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  leader,
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  boss,
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  caregiver,
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  friend.
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  And
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  somewhere
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  in
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  all
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  of
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  that,
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  we
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  have
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  internalized
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  this
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  belief.
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  If
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  everyone
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  else
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  is
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  okay,
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  then
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  I'm
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  allowed
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  to
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  be
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  okay.
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  But
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  the
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  truth
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  is,
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  the
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  person
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  who
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  should
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  be
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  taken
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  care
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  of
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  first
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  is
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  you.
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  Now
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  let's
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  talk
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  about
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  guilt,
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  because
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  I
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  know
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  it's
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  real.
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  Most
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  women
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  weren't
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  praised
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  for
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  having
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  needs,
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  were
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  praised
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  for
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  being
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  helpful,
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  low
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  maintenance,
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  strong,
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  available,
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  selfless.
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  So
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  when
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  you
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  rest,
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  your
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  mind
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  says
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  you
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  should
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  be
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  doing
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  more.
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  When
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  you
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  say
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  no,
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  your
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  body
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  tightens.
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  When
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  you
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  put
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  yourself
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  first,
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  your
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  nervous
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  system
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  panics.
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  That's
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  not
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  intuition,
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  that
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  is
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  conditioning.
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  You're
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  not
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  selfish.
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  You're
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  just
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  doing
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  something
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  unfamiliar.
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  And
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  unfamiliar
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  things
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  often
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  come
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  with
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  guilt.
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  Not
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  because
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  they're
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  wrong,
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  but
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  because
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  they
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  disrupt
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  a
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  pattern
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  that
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  benefited
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  other
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  people.
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  We've
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  said
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  this
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  before
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  and
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  we
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  need
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  to
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  say
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  it
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  again.
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  Guilt
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  is
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  not
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  always
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  a
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  sign
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  that
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  you're
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  doing
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  something
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  wrong.
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  Sometimes
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  it's
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  a
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  sign
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  that
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  you
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  are
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  doing
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  something
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  new.
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  Now
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  let's
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  talk
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  about
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  something
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  that
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  nobody
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  really
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  wants
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  to
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  admit.
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  What
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  actually
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  happens
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  when
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  you
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  don't
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  choose
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  yourself?
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  You
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  don't
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  become
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  more
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  loving.
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  You
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  don't
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  become
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  more
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  patient.
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  Trust
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  me,
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  I
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  know.
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  And
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  you
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  don't
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  become
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  more
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  giving.
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  You
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  end
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  up
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  being
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  resentful.
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  You
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  become
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  short
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  tempered.
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  You
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  feel
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  disconnected
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  from
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  yourself.
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  You
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  start
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  snapping
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  at
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  the
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  people
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  that
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  you
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  love,
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  keeping
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  Trust
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  me
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  again,
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  I
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  know
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  this.
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  And
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  you
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  feel
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  drained
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  before
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  the
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  day
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  even
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  starts.
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  That's
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  what
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  self
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  abandonment
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  looks
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  like.
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  It's
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  ignoring
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  your
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  instincts,
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  justifying
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  your
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  exhaustion,
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  breaking
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  promises
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  to
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  yourself,
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  saying
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  yes
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  when
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  your
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  body
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  is
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  screaming
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  no.
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  And
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  over
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  time,
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  it
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  chips
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  away
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  at
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  your
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  confidence.
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  Because
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  your
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  confidence
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  doesn't
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  disappear
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  overnight.
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  It,
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  it
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  erodes.
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  Every
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  time
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  you
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  override
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  yourself,
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  your
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  body
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  keeps
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  score.
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  That
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  tight
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  chest,
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  that
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  constant
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  anxiety,
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  that
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  mental
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  fog,
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  that's
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  not
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  weakness.
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  That's
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  your
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  nervous
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  system
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  saying,
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  I
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  need
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  to
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  rest,
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  I
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  need
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  care,
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  I
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  need
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  safety.
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  So
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  let's
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  reframe
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  this
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  properly.
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  Self
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  love
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  is
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  not
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  indulgence.
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  It's
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  not
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  selfishness
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  and
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  it's
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  not
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  ego.
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  Self
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  love
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  is
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  protection.
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  It
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  protects
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  your
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  peace,
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  your
• 4:15
  energy,
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  your
• 4:17
  mental
• 4:17
  health,
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  your
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  nervous
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  system.
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  When
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  you
• 4:20
  practice
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  self
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  care,
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  you
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  are
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  regulating
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  yourself.
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  And
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  regulation
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  matters.
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  Because
• 4:26
  a
• 4:26
  dysregulated
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  nervous
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  system
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  cannot
• 4:29
  access
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  confidence,
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  clarity
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  or
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  grounded
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  decision
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  making.
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  When
• 4:34
  you're
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  constantly
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  overwhelmed,
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  you
• 4:36
  overthink
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  everything,
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  you
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  doubt
• 4:39
  yourself,
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  you
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  react
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  instead
• 4:41
  of
• 4:42
  respond.
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  And
• 4:43
  you
• 4:43
  feel
• 4:44
  emotionally
• 4:44
  unsafe
• 4:45
  inside
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  your
• 4:46
  body.
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  Self
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  care
• 4:48
  isn't
• 4:48
  about
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  luxury.
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  It's
• 4:49
  about
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  stability,
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  sleep,
• 4:52
  boundaries,
• 4:53
  hydration,
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  movement,
• 4:56
  quiet.
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  Say
• 4:58
  no.
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  These
• 5:00
  are
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  not
• 5:01
  extras.
• 5:02
  They're
• 5:03
  what
• 5:03
  allow
• 5:03
  you
• 5:04
  to
• 5:04
  show
• 5:04
  up
• 5:04
  as
• 5:04
  your
• 5:05
  best
• 5:05
  self
• 5:06
  in
• 5:06
  every
• 5:07
  role
• 5:07
  that
• 5:07
  you
• 5:07
  care
• 5:07
  about.
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  And
• 5:09
  here's
• 5:09
  the
• 5:09
  part
• 5:10
  that
• 5:10
  changes
• 5:10
  everything.
• 5:12
  The
• 5:12
  more
• 5:12
  that
• 5:13
  you
• 5:13
  pour
• 5:13
  into
• 5:13
  yourself,
• 5:14
  the
• 5:14
  better
• 5:14
  you
• 5:15
  are
• 5:15
  for
• 5:15
  everyone
• 5:16
  else.
• 5:16
  Let
• 5:17
  me
• 5:17
  say
• 5:17
  that
• 5:17
  again.
• 5:18
  The
• 5:18
  more
• 5:18
  that
• 5:18
  you
• 5:19
  pour
• 5:19
  into
• 5:19
  yourself,
• 5:20
  the
• 5:21
  better
• 5:21
  you
• 5:21
  are
• 5:21
  for
• 5:22
  everyone
• 5:22
  else.
• 5:23
  Not
• 5:24
  worse,
• 5:25
  better.
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  Now
• 5:27
  let's
• 5:27
  talk
• 5:27
  about
• 5:28
  the
• 5:28
  pushback.
• 5:28
  Because
• 5:29
  it
• 5:29
  will
• 5:29
  come.
• 5:30
  I
• 5:30
  mentioned
• 5:31
  this.
• 5:31
  Some
• 5:31
  people
• 5:31
  will
• 5:31
  call
• 5:31
  you
• 5:32
  selfish
• 5:32
  when
• 5:32
  you
• 5:32
  change.
• 5:33
  Not
• 5:34
  because
• 5:34
  you're
• 5:34
  wrong,
• 5:35
  but
• 5:35
  because
• 5:35
  the
• 5:35
  boundary
• 5:36
  disrupts
• 5:36
  what
• 5:36
  they're
• 5:37
  used
• 5:37
  to.
• 5:38
  Your
• 5:38
  self
• 5:39
  love
• 5:39
  highlights
• 5:39
  where
• 5:40
  others
• 5:40
  are
• 5:41
  still
• 5:41
  over.
• 5:41
  Giving
• 5:42
  your
• 5:43
  rest
• 5:43
  challenges
• 5:43
  their
• 5:44
  hustle.
• 5:45
  Your
• 5:45
  no
• 5:46
  forces
• 5:46
  them
• 5:46
  to
• 5:46
  sit
• 5:47
  with
• 5:47
  their
• 5:47
  own
• 5:47
  limits.
• 5:48
  And
• 5:49
  that
• 5:49
  discomfort,
• 5:50
  they're
• 5:50
  going
• 5:50
  to
• 5:50
  label
• 5:51
  that
• 5:51
  selfishness.
• 5:53
  Because
• 5:53
  growth
• 5:53
  will
• 5:53
  always
• 5:54
  challenge
• 5:54
  systems
• 5:55
  that
• 5:55
  relied
• 5:55
  on
• 5:55
  your
• 5:55
  silence,
• 5:56
  sacrifice
• 5:57
  or
• 5:57
  self
• 5:57
  abandonment.
• 5:59
  That
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  doesn't
• 6:00
  mean
• 6:00
  you
• 6:00
  stop.
• 6:01
  That
• 6:01
  means
• 6:02
  that
• 6:02
  you're
• 6:02
  evolving.
• 6:04
  And
• 6:04
  let
• 6:04
  me
• 6:04
  say
• 6:05
  this,
• 6:06
  Self
• 6:06
  love
• 6:07
  is
• 6:07
  responsibility.
• 6:08
  It's
• 6:09
  saying,
• 6:10
  I
• 6:10
  take
• 6:11
  responsibility
• 6:11
  for
• 6:12
  my
• 6:12
  emotional
• 6:12
  health.
• 6:13
  I
• 6:13
  take
• 6:14
  responsibility
• 6:14
  for
• 6:15
  my
• 6:15
  energy.
• 6:16
  I
• 6:16
  take
• 6:16
  responsibility
• 6:17
  for
• 6:17
  how
• 6:17
  I
• 6:18
  show
• 6:18
  up.
• 6:19
  Because
• 6:19
  when
• 6:20
  you
• 6:20
  don't,
• 6:21
  you
• 6:21
  leak.
• 6:23
  You
• 6:23
  leak
• 6:23
  frustration,
• 6:24
  you
• 6:24
  leak
• 6:25
  resentment,
• 6:26
  you
• 6:26
  leak
• 6:27
  exhaustion.
• 6:29
  And
• 6:29
  when
• 6:29
  I
• 6:29
  say
• 6:29
  you
• 6:30
  leak,
• 6:30
  here's
• 6:30
  what
• 6:30
  I
• 6:30
  mean.
• 6:32
  When
• 6:32
  you
• 6:32
  don't
• 6:33
  take
• 6:33
  responsibility
• 6:33
  for
• 6:34
  your
• 6:34
  emotional
• 6:34
  health,
• 6:35
  when
• 6:35
  you
• 6:35
  don't
• 6:36
  rest
• 6:36
  and
• 6:36
  when
• 6:36
  you
• 6:37
  don't
• 6:37
  set
• 6:37
  boundaries,
• 6:38
  that
• 6:38
  energy
• 6:39
  just
• 6:39
  doesn't
• 6:40
  disappear.
• 6:41
  It
• 6:41
  shows
• 6:41
  up
• 6:41
  as
• 6:42
  irritation.
• 6:42
  When
• 6:42
  somebody
• 6:43
  asks
• 6:43
  you
• 6:43
  a
• 6:43
  simple
• 6:44
  question,
• 6:46
  it
• 6:46
  shows
• 6:46
  up
• 6:46
  at
• 6:46
  you,
• 6:47
  snapping
• 6:47
  at
• 6:47
  people
• 6:48
  you
• 6:48
  love.
• 6:49
  It's
• 6:49
  passive
• 6:50
  aggressiveness
• 6:50
  instead
• 6:51
  of
• 6:51
  honesty.
• 6:52
  It's
• 6:52
  burnout,
• 6:53
  anxiety,
• 6:54
  brain
• 6:54
  fog
• 6:55
  and
• 6:55
  self
• 6:56
  doubt.
• 6:57
  You
• 6:57
  start
• 6:58
  reacting
• 6:58
  instead
• 6:59
  of
• 6:59
  responding
• 7:00
  and
• 7:00
  you
• 7:00
  feel
• 7:00
  on
• 7:00
  edge
• 7:01
  for
• 7:01
  no
• 7:01
  clear
• 7:01
  reason.
• 7:03
  You
• 7:03
  question
• 7:03
  yourself
• 7:04
  more.
• 7:04
  You
• 7:05
  lose
• 7:05
  patience
• 7:05
  faster.
• 7:07
  Not
• 7:07
  because
• 7:07
  you're
• 7:07
  a
• 7:08
  bad
• 7:08
  person,
• 7:08
  but
• 7:08
  because
• 7:09
  your
• 7:09
  system
• 7:09
  is
• 7:10
  overwhelmed.
• 7:11
  And
• 7:12
  that's
• 7:12
  why
• 7:12
  self
• 7:12
  love
• 7:13
  is
• 7:13
  not
• 7:13
  optional.
• 7:14
  Because
• 7:15
  when
• 7:15
  you
• 7:15
  don't
• 7:16
  take
• 7:16
  care
• 7:16
  of
• 7:16
  yourself
• 7:17
  on
• 7:17
  purpose,
• 7:18
  your
• 7:18
  exhaustion
• 7:19
  shows
• 7:19
  up
• 7:19
  by
• 7:20
  accident
• 7:20
  and
• 7:21
  it
• 7:21
  affects
• 7:21
  everyone
• 7:22
  around
• 7:22
  you.
• 7:23
  Choosing
• 7:23
  you
• 7:24
  doesn't
• 7:24
  mean
• 7:24
  that
• 7:24
  you
• 7:24
  care
• 7:24
  less.
• 7:25
  It
• 7:25
  means
• 7:25
  that
• 7:25
  you
• 7:26
  care
• 7:26
  better.
• 7:29
  So
• 7:29
  I
• 7:29
  want
• 7:29
  you
• 7:29
  to
• 7:29
  hear
• 7:29
  me
• 7:30
  when
• 7:30
  I
• 7:30
  say
• 7:30
  this
• 7:30
  to
• 7:30
  you.
• 7:31
  Because
• 7:31
  I'm
• 7:31
  saying
• 7:31
  this
• 7:32
  out
• 7:32
  of
• 7:32
  love.
• 7:33
  Choosing
• 7:34
  you
• 7:34
  does
• 7:35
  not
• 7:35
  make
• 7:35
  you
• 7:36
  selfish.
• 7:37
  It
• 7:37
  makes
• 7:37
  you
• 7:37
  self
• 7:38
  aware.
• 7:39
  It
• 7:39
  makes
• 7:39
  you
• 7:39
  grounded.
• 7:41
  It
• 7:41
  makes
• 7:41
  you
• 7:41
  emotionally
• 7:42
  responsible.
• 7:44
  And
• 7:45
  if
• 7:45
  you're
• 7:45
  ready
• 7:45
  to
• 7:45
  practice
• 7:46
  choosing
• 7:46
  you
• 7:47
  without
• 7:47
  guilt,
• 7:48
  without
• 7:49
  over
• 7:49
  explaining,
• 7:50
  without
• 7:50
  shrinking.
• 7:51
  I
• 7:52
  want
• 7:52
  to
• 7:52
  invite
• 7:52
  you
• 7:52
  to
• 7:52
  my
• 7:53
  five
• 7:53
  day
• 7:53
  challenge.
• 7:54
  Her
• 7:55
  era
• 7:56
  the
• 7:56
  self
• 7:56
  love
• 7:57
  reset.
• 7:58
  This
• 7:58
  is
• 7:58
  a
• 7:58
  space
• 7:58
  for
• 7:59
  women
• 7:59
  who
• 7:59
  are
• 7:59
  tired
• 8:00
  of
• 8:00
  pouring
• 8:00
  from
• 8:00
  an
• 8:01
  empty
• 8:01
  cup.
• 8:02
  Five
• 8:02
  days
• 8:03
  to
• 8:03
  reconnect
• 8:03
  with
• 8:04
  yourself.
• 8:05
  To
• 8:05
  regulate
• 8:05
  your
• 8:06
  nervous
• 8:06
  system.
• 8:07
  To
• 8:07
  stop
• 8:07
  abandoning
• 8:08
  your
• 8:08
  needs
• 8:09
  to
• 8:09
  choose
• 8:09
  yourself
• 8:10
  on
• 8:10
  purpose.
• 8:12
  Details
• 8:12
  will
• 8:12
  be
• 8:13
  in
• 8:13
  the
• 8:13
  show
• 8:13
  notes
• 8:14
  and
• 8:14
  until
• 8:14
  next
• 8:15
  time,
• 8:15
  remember,
• 8:16
  choosing
• 8:16
  you
• 8:17
  doesn't
• 8:17
  take
• 8:18
  anything
• 8:18
  away
• 8:19
  from
• 8:19
  anyone
• 8:19
  else.
• 8:20
  It
• 8:21
  brings
• 8:21
  you
• 8:21
  back
• 8:21
  to
• 8:21
  yourself.
• 8:22
  And
• 8:23
  that's
• 8:23
  where
• 8:23
  everything
• 8:24
  changes.
• 8:32
  Sam.