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215. Keep the Ball Moving · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and welcome
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  Speaker 1: to the Your Enriched Self Podcast. I am your host,
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  Speaker 1: my Le Noir. I am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach,
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  Speaker 1: and what that means is that each and every week
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  Speaker 1: I've created a safe space for us to elevate your mindset,
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  Speaker 1: to manage your thoughts, because your thoughts become the words
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  Speaker 1: that you speak over your life, and those words then
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  Speaker 1: become the action and the activity that you take. And
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  Speaker 1: I know if you're listening to this podcast, you want
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  Speaker 1: So I want to thank you from the bottom of
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  Speaker 1: my heart. Now, one of the things that I do
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  Speaker 1: each and every week if you know you know is
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  Speaker 1: I make a deposit into the bank of you, and
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  Speaker 1: I do that by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a
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  Speaker 1: great way to start your day and to command your morning.
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  Speaker 1: And this week's affirmation is I choose progress over perfection.
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  Speaker 1: Each step I take, no matter how small, moves me
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  Speaker 1: closer to purpose. I choose progress over perfection. Each step
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  Speaker 1: I take, no matter how small, moves me closer to purpose.
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  Speaker 1: I choose progress over perfection. Each step I take, no
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  Speaker 1: matter how small, moves me closer to purpose. Now let's
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  Speaker 1: get ready for this week's episode of the Your Enriched
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  Speaker 1: Self podcast. Perfection is the bar between where we are
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  Speaker 1: and where we want to be. I don't know what
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  Speaker 1: that means to you, but for me, it means it's
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  Speaker 1: time to tear down the barriers, the walls, the limitations.
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  Speaker 1: We see as perfections. So many of what we do
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  Speaker 1: in this life we strive for making it perfect, the
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  Speaker 1: perfect day, the perfect celebration, the perfect atmosphere. We work
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  Speaker 1: so hard at perfection, but you learn very quickly that
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  Speaker 1: those instances, those scenarios don't have the perfect ending, or
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  Speaker 1: the perfect beginning, or the perfect anything all throughout. You
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  Speaker 1: might have some perfections along the way, but you certainly
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  Speaker 1: will deal with imperfections. A few years ago, I was
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  Speaker 1: the keynote speaker at an event I hosted called a
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  Speaker 1: Sun's Summit, and I recall that it was just a
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  Speaker 1: few moments before I was to step on stage and
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  Speaker 1: I had something spilled all over my dress. As a
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  Speaker 1: matter of fact, it was champagne. And I think I
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  Speaker 1: have an episode that talks about this. And I had
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  Speaker 1: set everything up, I had done everything that I possibly
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  Speaker 1: could to make the event successful. I had planned and prepared,
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  Speaker 1: I mean as much as you could write. Because things
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  Speaker 1: will happen, such as the champagne spilling all over my dress.
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  Speaker 1: One of the things I had prepared for was the imperfections.
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  Speaker 1: I knew that sum some thing or some things may
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  Speaker 1: go wrong, but I knew that the goal was that
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  Speaker 1: I should always focus on what was ahead. Is the
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  Speaker 1: message going to be conveyed throughout the program, throughout the session,
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  Speaker 1: and that was the end goal. And this week I
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  Speaker 1: was reminded by a leader that perfection is not the goal,
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  Speaker 1: right that what he said exactly was let what you
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  Speaker 1: do be imperfect. And it took me back to that
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  Speaker 1: moment and It was actually a moment where it's really
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  Speaker 1: a powerful statement when you think about it, Let what
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  Speaker 1: you do be imperfect. It counter acts and it goes
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  Speaker 1: against everything that we have been taught. And I say
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  Speaker 1: we because we all have been taught to be perfect,
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  Speaker 1: to do perfect, to show up perfect. But he said,
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  Speaker 1: in a room full of leaders in his organization, let
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  Speaker 1: what you do be imperfect. I felt empowered by that
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  Speaker 1: statement so much so I had to write it down
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  Speaker 1: because I was like, I want to make sure I
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  Speaker 1: heard this right, and I captured it right. Let what
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  Speaker 1: you do be imperfect. This is a statement of permission.
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  Speaker 1: It's a permission to move in or out of the business. Listen,
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  Speaker 1: it's permission to create. It's permission to grow without the
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  Speaker 1: paralysis of perfection. And that's what I really want to
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  Speaker 1: get into this week, the meat of that type of conversation.
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  Speaker 1: And so first things first, perfection is a myth, and
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  Speaker 1: so I'm gonna give you permission today to be imperfect.
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  Speaker 1: That means that you are allowing yourself to grow. Remember
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  Speaker 1: when we talked about those barriers, right, the barrier between
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  Speaker 1: where you are and where you want to be is perfection.
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  Speaker 1: Imperfection is what knocks those barriers down. Perfection is really
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  Speaker 1: a moving target. It's not a goal. You cannot have
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  Speaker 1: a smart goal called perfection. It's a moving target because
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  Speaker 1: what is the standard of perfect today maybe different tomorrow,
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  Speaker 1: And so you're always going to be making shifts, and
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  Speaker 1: sometimes it's minor shifts, and you're spending a lot of
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  Speaker 1: time spinning your wheels doing something that really doesn't amount
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  Speaker 1: to you moving forward. It's a moving target, but it's
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  Speaker 1: not a forward moving target. It can go from side
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  Speaker 1: to side and now you're zigzag and you're running from
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  Speaker 1: left to right. You don't know what side you should
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  Speaker 1: be on. It just becomes very very very exhaustive, physically, emotionally, mentally,
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  Speaker 1: all of the things. So I have a question for you,
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  Speaker 1: what could you create or complete today, today, tomorrow, very soon?
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  Speaker 1: What could you create or complete if you stopped waiting
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  Speaker 1: for it to be perfect? Think about that there is
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  Speaker 1: something inside of you. I've said this on the podcast
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  Speaker 1: before and I'll continue to say it. You have purpose,
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  Speaker 1: full stop. You have purpose. That purpose is inside of you,
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  Speaker 1: and you may not know exactly what that is just yet.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe you don't know what it is in this moment.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe you still need some things to be unveiled, to
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  Speaker 1: be unearthed under you to understand your purpose. But there
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  Speaker 1: is something inside of you that is brewing, and it
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  Speaker 1: may be related to your purpose, it may not be.
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  Speaker 1: But what if you went after it and you stop
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  Speaker 1: waiting for the perfect moment. I want you to think
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  Speaker 1: about that, because we often are waiting for perfect conditions,
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  Speaker 1: which again don't exist. When you think about how ridiculous
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  Speaker 1: it sounds to be waiting for perfect conditions, the idea
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  Speaker 1: that you have may simply be sitting on the dust
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  Speaker 1: or sitting on a shelf collecting dust because it was
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  Speaker 1: almost ready. It was almost there. You just had a
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  Speaker 1: few more things to do, but you didn't have all
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  Speaker 1: the things. So you decided to stop. You decided to
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  Speaker 1: wait until everything became perfect. And what exactly happened at
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  Speaker 1: that point is nothing. There is power in consistency. How
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  Speaker 1: you get progress or you gain momentum is through consistency.
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  Speaker 1: The thing about it is perfection does the opposite. It
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  Speaker 1: produces no progress because it goes back to your ideas,
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  Speaker 1: your goals, all of the things just shelved. There is
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  Speaker 1: no progress because nothing is being produced because you're waiting
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  Speaker 1: for the perfect moment. So the key here is to
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  Speaker 1: be consistent. Consistency is what helps you keep things in motion.
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  Speaker 1: I've been talking about my health, wellness fitness journey for
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  Speaker 1: a long time, and when I think about how it started,
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  Speaker 1: it started with me doing small things consistently. I always
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  Speaker 1: talk to people who are wanting to get on a journey,
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  Speaker 1: who are interested, who have seen my story posts or
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  Speaker 1: whatever that asks how I stay with it or how
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  Speaker 1: do I get started? And I always say, start small.
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  Speaker 1: It's not how big you start, It's how consistent you
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  Speaker 1: are in your process. It's not how big you start.
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  Speaker 1: It's not The key isn't to go to the gym
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  Speaker 1: and spend hours at the gym or an hour at
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  Speaker 1: the gym. The key is to get up and get
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  Speaker 1: outside and move for fifteen minutes. A lot of people
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  Speaker 1: think that where they see me at or somebody else,
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  Speaker 1: because I'm not, like you know, the only person out
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  Speaker 1: there is striving for wellness and fitness. And I certainly spend
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  Speaker 1: hours at the gym. I have done it, but it's
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  Speaker 1: not a regular practice for me. But how it started
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  Speaker 1: was me getting my shoes laced, walking out the door,
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  Speaker 1: taking a mile walk and back spent in twenty minutes
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  Speaker 1: doing something that was fulfilling, something that was helpful to
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  Speaker 1: my health and wellness. It was good for my mental
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  Speaker 1: it was good in so many different levels. I was
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  Speaker 1: winning all the way around. I started my day like this,
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  Speaker 1: and I did it consistently. I wasn't spending hours at
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  Speaker 1: the gym, I wasn't pushing weights, I wasn't doing push ups,
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  Speaker 1: sit ups, planks and all of the things squats. I
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  Speaker 1: simply went for a walk. And so what I'm saying
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  Speaker 1: to you is, don't worry about doing the big things.
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  Speaker 1: Start small and be consistent. That's the full stop. That's it.
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  Speaker 1: That's how you get the ball moving forward. So question
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  Speaker 1: for you is what does keeping the ball moving forward
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  Speaker 1: look like in your life right now? What does it
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  Speaker 1: mean for you? What does it look like for you
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  Speaker 1: to keep the ball moving forward in your life? Doesn't
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  Speaker 1: mean you're journaling or you're deciding. You know, I need
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  Speaker 1: to start capturing my thoughts, my goals. I wanna take
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  Speaker 1: those goals from my mind because a lot of times
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  Speaker 1: what I found is I stop myself by having the
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  Speaker 1: idea in my head, but I never put it out
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  Speaker 1: on paper and see what it really looks like how
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  Speaker 1: it feels to allow that to come out of me
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  Speaker 1: and come on a page. And again, like I said,
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  Speaker 1: it's starting small. You might think, well, I got to
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  Speaker 1: take this idea to market. I gotta find a way
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  Speaker 1: to get somebody to help me, you know, edit my
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  Speaker 1: book or whatever. No, you have the ideas, write them down.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I have this great idea for a website
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  Speaker 1: or great idea for a YouTube channel. I need to
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  Speaker 1: find thequipment that I need for No, write it down.
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  Speaker 1: So again, it starts with those small consistent steps. And
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  Speaker 1: every day as you write this down, you're building it.
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  Speaker 1: It might not be built, or you may not have
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  Speaker 1: the framework outlined in terms of the actual product, but
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  Speaker 1: you're creating. You're in that creative space and that's important
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  Speaker 1: as well. Think about when you know football years ago.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I used to watch football, but I didn't
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  Speaker 1: know what I was watching. So my husband is a
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  Speaker 1: big fan of football, and I remember when I really
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  Speaker 1: understood the sport and understood the grid of yard by yard,
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  Speaker 1: possession by possession. That's how you advance the ball. It's
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  Speaker 1: those small consistent steps. Yes, you could go you know,
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  Speaker 1: the entire yardage of the football field, and I think
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  Speaker 1: there was a game last weekend where it was like
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  Speaker 1: ninety nine yards right, one of the teams had a
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  Speaker 1: ninety nine yard touchdown, which is insane, but you know, things,
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  Speaker 1: crazy things have happened, So you'll see those rare moments
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  Speaker 1: where you have something that amazing to happen. And I
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  Speaker 1: think a lot of times people want those big moments,
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  Speaker 1: but the moments that matter, the moments that keep the
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  Speaker 1: momentum right moving forward, is those moment by moment, possession
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  Speaker 1: by possession, yard by yard action and that's what helps
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  Speaker 1: to score, that's what helps to get you in the
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  Speaker 1: red zone right where you could likely score. All of
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  Speaker 1: those things matter, and so that's the key, is those
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  Speaker 1: consistent moments. I kind of go back to how this
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  Speaker 1: all started for me or what brought this forward for me,
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  Speaker 1: and it was a leader that I have a lot
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  Speaker 1: of respect for this individual and when he said this
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  Speaker 1: and just how he spoke to the group of people
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  Speaker 1: who were present in the room, he personified the importance
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  Speaker 1: of leaders being imperfect. I mean there were several times
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  Speaker 1: in the conversation that we had with him, it was
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  Speaker 1: a fireside chat, and he said something like, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I may get this wrong, but so and so is
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  Speaker 1: in the room. They'll keep me honest, or I'm not
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  Speaker 1: really good at this, or this is how I am
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  Speaker 1: interpreting it. I mean, it was such a real conversation.
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  Speaker 1: It showed that he wasn't trying to be perfect. He
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  Speaker 1: wasn't trying to put on for this room of really
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  Speaker 1: his direct reports and everybody else in his organization. He
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  Speaker 1: was putting on the fact that it's leadership in imperfection
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  Speaker 1: is really what it was. And I loved it because
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  Speaker 1: it wasn't a vulnerability that exposed weakness. I found it
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  Speaker 1: as a strong suit that he had where he can
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  Speaker 1: take something that some leaders would either shy away from
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  Speaker 1: it or try to polish it up so nicely that
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  Speaker 1: you wouldn't recognize that they just told you a bunch
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  Speaker 1: of you know what. He kept it real, but he
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  Speaker 1: allowed us to recognize the growth and innovation in the conversation,
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  Speaker 1: the growth and innovation in ourselves through what he was
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  Speaker 1: providing us as an answer or just the conversation that
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  Speaker 1: we had at large. And I just found out to
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  Speaker 1: be refreshing and I respect that. And there are a
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  Speaker 1: lot of leaders in your life. There are people in
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  Speaker 1: your life that you've seen. Keep it real, but not
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  Speaker 1: just keep it real, but allow room safe space for
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  Speaker 1: us to not celebrate imperfections, but realize that imperfections are
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  Speaker 1: not inadequacies. Again, going back to the main point, let
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  Speaker 1: what you do be imperfect, but keep the ball moving forward.
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  Speaker 1: And I think that second piece of it is critical
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  Speaker 1: to ensuring that we stay connected to what's at stake
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  Speaker 1: as an organization. And when you apply that to your life,
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  Speaker 1: you want to stay connected to the mission, right and
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  Speaker 1: the mission may not be a two week mission. It
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  Speaker 1: may be you know, some of the things that we're
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  Speaker 1: going after are in the next five to six years,
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  Speaker 1: and so that means in that fire to six years,
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  Speaker 1: I'm talking about my organization, but think about your own life.
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  Speaker 1: There are some things you're striving for, maybe financial freedom
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  Speaker 1: or building a business, or changing your lifestyle. You know,
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  Speaker 1: whether it be physically, emotionally, spiritually. And you're saying, by
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  Speaker 1: this time, in the next five, four, three whatever years,
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  Speaker 1: I want to be here, and so do you believe
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  Speaker 1: do you understand that in those or in that time period,
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna have stumbles, You're gonna have setbacks, you're gonna
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  Speaker 1: have moments where you're moving forward and then maybe you'll fall,
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  Speaker 1: but guess what, You'll pick yourself back up and you'll
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  Speaker 1: move forward. And that's really the idea that he brought across,
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  Speaker 1: and I thought that was perfect to really start to choose,
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  Speaker 1: because it is a choice to choose progress over perfection.
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  Speaker 1: Those progress steps, those consistent steps, lead to progress, and
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  Speaker 1: that consistent progress leads you closer to your purpose. I
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  Speaker 1: hope you were challenged by this episode and more willing
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  Speaker 1: now to release perfectionism. I'm gonna encourage you to take steps,
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  Speaker 1: and in some instances, bolder steps, and begin to redefine
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  Speaker 1: what success looks like for you. I hope you enjoyed
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