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133. Do YOU Trust YOU? · Your Enriched Self

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  One of the many roles I had was a retail sales consultant, and in
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  that role, I helped customers get placed into the device that was right for
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  them. Well, I remember when we launched the iPhone. It was the
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  first smartphone, and as you know, even today, it has changed the
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  landscape of how we communicate and how we connect with each other at work or
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  at play. The fun thing about this, or maybe not so fun,
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  is watching consumers change or approach change from the typical layout and design of an
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  analog phone or a basic phone to more of a smartphone. And one of
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  the things that iPhone did a really good job at is they created what we
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  called at the time a home button. As you know, the landscape of
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  a smartphone, especially for someone like my mother, an elderly person, or
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  even someone that is new to technology or not as savvy as they thought they
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  were, because that's what we found to be the truth. Mostly when you
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  have that type of design and you have all these apps, and that was
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  a new world for us. It was new to have all these different apps
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  spread out across your phone, and then you started to figure out, well,
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  how do I get back to home? And so Apple was genius in
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  creating a home button. It was the great escape. We would always tell
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  customers who were larry or perhaps confused when we were trying to demo it with
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  them, you can always press the home button. And I could see customers
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  go from confuse and frustrated to having a safe space to go to. This
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  week, I want you to think about a safe place you can go to,
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  a home button if you will. It reminds me of a verse in
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  the Book of Isaiah. Isaiah twenty six, Verse three says you will keep
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  him in perfect peace whose mind is placed on you. And that's just saying
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  if you want to achieve perfect peace in your life, fix your eyes on
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  God. This week, I want to remind you to make God your home
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  button as you go out in the world, just like the iPhone, with
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  the design of all the apps, all the places you can go, all
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  the spaces you can occupy. Sometimes it gets overwhelming, sometimes it feels like
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  you are lost out there. I want you to fix your focus, your
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  eyes, your thoughts, your heart on God. And that's what Isaiah twenty
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  six and three tells us. Come back home. You've been looking at and
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  going after and seeking for all the things, and you don't have the fulfillment.
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  You're still dry in places that you need to be saturated. You still
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  crave the nutrients and you're not getting what you need to be healthy mind,
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  body, and spirit. So come back to home. So whenever you feel
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  that way, whenever you're thinking that way, because a lot of times we
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  get carried away in our thoughts. We don't even have to go out in
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  the world. We start creating worlds and going into worlds in our own minds.
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  Wherever you travel in this space, this spiritual place, the physical places
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  of your life, the mental spaces, all of the things. I want
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  you to go back to home. Look at God as that home button.
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  That's safe space curated for you to achieve perfect peace. Hello, my friends
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  from all of the globe and welcome to the Your in rid Cell Podcast.
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  I am your Hostmi Lee Noir. I am a mindset coach and your mindset
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  advocate. And I know it is busy, it is buzzing. There's so
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  much happening. So early in the year, we are celebrating Black History Month,
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  and we are creating history each and every day with the things that we
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  do. And so because I know you're busy because I know that you probably
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  likely are looking for or need a space so that you can become more of
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  your in rid self. I've created this environment, and so if you stumbled
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  upon this podcast, I happen to believe that you were brought here on purpose
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  for a purpose. But if you are a return listener, I want to
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  thank you because each and every week you've shown up so that you can become
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  more of your in rid self. And what we do here on this podcast
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  is we talk about mindset fusion topics. I want you to be whole in
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  your soul, in yourself, and that's that's the kind of care that we
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  do on this podcast, self care, soul care and the intentional thinking,
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  because I know that the thoughts you have will inspire your words, and the
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  words you speak then go into action, and that's how you show up in
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  the world. The activity that is produced all starts from the initial thought,
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  and so we need to make sure our thoughts are good and they are intentional
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  so that we can achieve the goals that you all have set out to achieve
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  in this year and beyond. Before we get into this week's episode, if
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  you know you know, I make sure that each and every week, before
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  we get started, I make a deposit into the bank of you, and
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  I do so by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great way to start
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  your day and to command your mourning. And this week's affirmation is I release
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  doubt and welcome faith. I release doubt and welcome faith. I release doubt
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  and welcome faith. Now let's get ready for this week's episode of the Your
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  Enriched Self podcast. I have a question for you. Who do you confide
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  in? Now? For me, I confide in God, right, I
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  look to God to inspire me with my faith. I look to him and
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  I trust in him. But outside of that higher power, who in your
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  life do you confide in? That's question to you this week, and that's
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  what I want to talk about. It's so very important that if you didn't
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  say you, I need you to change that you need to begin to confide
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  in yourself. I was scrolling through social and I saw this conversation about confidence,
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  and it first starts off with what is the root word of confidence?
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  The root word is to confide, and confide means to have trust about something
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  about someone. Confide means having a feeling of assurance. It is self assurance
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  of one's own abilities. And if you could not or did not answer you,
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  there's nothing wrong with you. We've been told, we've been sold a
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  bill of goods, that we need to look outside of ourselves to get our
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  confidence. But as I've said before, and I'm sure you've heard this before,
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  confidence is an inside job and it starts with that root of trust,
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  self trust, self assurance. But how do you achieve that, especially if
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  you've never achieved it before or it has been hard. Here's the one thing
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  I will tell you that everybody has in common. I do not care who
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  they are in the world. I don't care if they're a world figure.
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  I don't care if there are they are somebody you look up to, maybe
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  a parent, a loved one, a teacher, a boss. I don't
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  care if it's a public figure, an athlete, someone in sports, someone
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  in media, someone in entertainment. I don't care who they are. You
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  know where we are all equal. The work of confidence is consistent. We
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  don't just win wake up confident. Now. People will convince you that they
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  woke up like this, but I promise you behind that woke up like this
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  was some work. And so yeah, you can wake up confident. Don't
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  get me wrong, but you don't keep it. You maintain it. And
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  the way you maintain it is that you keep showing up. You keep showing
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  up for yourself, and you keep building trust with yourself. Think about a
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  relationship of yours that has failed. I don't care if it's a romantic relationship,
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  an educational relationship, a friendship, a relationship with a parent, significant
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  other, it doesn't matter. The one place that most relationships break is when
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  the trust is gone, and the trust starts with can I now? Can
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  I still? Should I still confide in that person? And when you answer
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  no to that question, or however you asked that question, you know that
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  the relationship is broken. And some of you have broken relationships with yourselves.
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  You don't trust yourself, You don't trust what you're saying, and it shows.
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  It shows in how you show up. It shows in the fact that
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  you don't show up. It shows and how you execute. It shows in
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  the fact that you don't execute. But you don't have confidence in yourself.
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  So you've got to go back to the root, which is trust. And
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  so the big question is how do you trust yourself? How do you become
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  more consistent in showing up for yourself. I always say start small. Everybody
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  wants to go from zero to one hundred, and some people can do that.
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  But the key here is consistency. Remember I said confidence works when you
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  are consistent building up from the inside out. You're not gonna get it from
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  looking the part. You're gonna get it from being the part from the inside
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  out. You have to be who you say you will be for the people
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  you will be, but mainly for you. You must confide in you.
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  Why I love to dig down deeply into definitions is that the definition that really
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  got me is self assurance in one's own ability. Well, how do you
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  achieve that self assurance? Again? You got to keep going deeper. We
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  started with confidence, we landed on confide. We got deeper with self assurance
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  into one's own ability. And how do you get that? You've got to
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  be consistent. You have to keep showing up. This morning, I had
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  the pleasure of participating in a boot camp. I've been looking for something like
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  this and I found my home. I found my space. I'm excited,
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  I'm ready and I will share the journey with you. I'm starting in March.
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  I went into that class. I have no expectations, no limitations,
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  but I do know where I have weaknesses. And I believe that confidence is
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  built when you have knowledge of where you are right now, because you will
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  go into a situation with a better outlook on what you can achieve. I'm
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  not going into that when any expectations that are unrealistic or out of reach.
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  Now, don't confuse this with goals, because goals are supposed to be something
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  you reach for. I'm just saying expectations like I'm gonna crush this class.
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  No, I did not go in with that expectation. I went in knowing
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  I have weakness in my upper body. I've always had strength in my legs.
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  I'm a runner. I love to walk. That's where my strength lies.
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  But my opportunity to improve the weak part of me, if you will,
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  is my upper body. So one of the first workouts we did in
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  that class today was an upper body workout, and when we did that,
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  it allowed me to recognize, Okay, if I can work on this in
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  the boot camp for the next six weeks, I will be changed. That's
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  gonna require me to show up for that class. Those classes every day for
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  six weeks, five days a week for six weeks. Now, I'm already
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  doing a gym workout every day, but this type of workout is intense.
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  I am going to go into high intense training for a six week period.
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  But let me tell you what. I am not mad about the calorie burn
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  because it was giving. It gave all that it was supposed to give.
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  But I know at the end of that class, those classes, the experience
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  I will forever be changed. I'm looking for change. I'm looking for transformation,
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  and I know it's not gonna happen the first day. Now. Mentally
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  I already feel the switch. But the change I'm looking for, I'm not
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  gonna lie. It's physical change. I want my body to transform, so
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  that means I'm gonna do things differently, and then I can walk away in
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  six weeks confident, not what necessarily what I look like, but what I
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  did, how consistent I was, how I intentionally showed up for myself.
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  So now when I get ready to do the next task, that may be
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  a boot camp, that may be a new job opportunity, that may be
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  a speaking engagement, that may be a course that I'm training, whatever it
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  may be, I'm gonna have confidence to know I can start a thing,
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  go through all the trenches, go through the valleys, go up on top
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  of the hill, and come on out on the other side, completed,
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  successful, transformed, reformed, all because I made a decision and I followed
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  through with it day in and day out. I know there are gonna be
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  days I don't want to get up at five am. I know there are
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  gonna be days that she's gonna kick my butt in that boot camp. I
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  know there are gonna be days that my body hurts. All those things are
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  gonna come with the process, with the journey. But I know if I
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  stay with it, I know if I keep showing up, I know if
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  I do it with all that I have, some days I'll be able to
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  give one hundred and twenty percent. I would say today I gave one hundred
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  percent. I definitely showed up to perform, not for the world, not
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  for her, but for myself. I pushed myself, and when I couldn't
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  push myself, I'll let myself go. I laid down on that map,
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  no shame, but I got a lot of gains out of it because I
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  was able to get up from that map and keep grinding and keep going forward
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  and give myself the best opportunity to build that root of confidence, to begin
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  to trust myself, to strengthen how I confide in me by showing up for
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  me, by building the self assurance that I'm going to need to take me
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  through the next exercise. And I want that for you. But we have
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  to start with ourselves. It's so easy to point fingers outside and show and
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  say how many people let us down and how many people did not do and
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  show up for us? But are you doing it for you? Are you
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  confident? Who do you confide in? I want you to take this next
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  week and pick a thing that you've been working at, that you've been thinking
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  about. Maybe you want to read for ten minutes a day. I don't
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  know what it is that you would like to do, but I'm gonna encourage
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  you to show up for yourself if it's ten, fifteen, thirty minutes and
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  at the end of the week. By the time we get back to this
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  next week, I promise you the trust you will have for yourself for completing
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  the most smallest of tasks. I promise you start small. I know a
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  lot of you want to go out and conquer the world. You're probably excited
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  about what I said about my boot camp. Take a breath and start small.
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  I promise you, by the end of this week you will grow your
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  confidence. I don't care if it's a percent more. That one percent more
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  will give you what you need to step into a room to give you what
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  you need, to sit at that table, to give you what you need
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  to use the voice that God gave you to speak up for yourself, to
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  stand up for yourself, and to show up for yourself. Now, wouldn't
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  that be a jolly day? It all starts but asking a simple question and
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  then taking the action. Who do you trust? I hope you enjoyed this
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