911 || the responsibility of trauma

Make Your Damn Bed · Aug 31, 2023 · 5m

UNIVERSAL TRUTH: Just because it ain’t your fault, doesn’t mean it’s not your responsibility to deal with it.

I think taking responsibility for your trauma gets lost in translation a bit. We often say, “everything happens for a reason” or “there’s a lesson in everything”; and while those may be helpful reframes for a select few, most people won’t benefit from those generalities, especially at a time of need.

So yes, dealing with your trauma is your responsibility,

in the immediate sense: when you have a negative experience (even if it’s in no way, shape, or form your fault) you have no choice…