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Get in Loser, We're Redoing Our Vision Boards · Blush

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In honor of the Lunar New Year, I think the time has come for us
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to redo our vision boards. And if you didn't make a vision
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board, then it's time for us to make a vision board.
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But we're not going to do it. The cheesy, the annoying, the
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way that doesn't work. We're going to do it in a way
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that's actually going to be effective.
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OK, so step one for redoing our vision boards is we're going to
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pull out our New Year's resolutions.
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So pull out whatever your goals were.
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Now, I did mine a little bit different.
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So the way that I did mine, and I'm actually going to take out
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my phone because I have it all written down.
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So I'm going to go through this exercise kind of in real time.
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Let's see, where the fuck did I write this?
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OK, So what I did was I wrote like I did this whole journaling
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exercise. You know what?
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I'll actually read you all of it.
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It's based on Sif Hider's podcast, the Dream Bigger
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podcast. I think Sif Hyder is the founder
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of Array, which makes the best bloat capsule ever.
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And they actually came out with an anositol powder that I'm also
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obsessed with. Anyway, so she did this podcast
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episode that I listened to and I kind of like wrote down all of
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the questions in it. So this really is like almost
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verbatim what was in her podcast, but this is the actual
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New Year's Eve journaling exercise that I did.
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So question number one, list all of the things in your life that
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are currently bringing you joy. Get specific.
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It could be as simple as my evening walks or listening to
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your favorite band or whatever #2 if you could wave a magic
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wand and change anything in your life, what would it be?
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Get really specific and granular #3 from the list and #2 pick
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three that you want to change and list Y #4.
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It's December 31st, 2026 now you can pick whatever date you can
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pick like a day, a month from now, a year for whatever.
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Just pick a date. List all you have accomplished.
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Feel free to dream as big as you can.
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You don't need to be realistic #5 rank each area in your life
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from 1:00 to 10:00. List what went well and what has
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not gone well in each of these areas.
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So the areas are career, health, physical space, which is like
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your home, the city you live in, whatever romantic relationships,
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friendships, family, money, personal development, fun.
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And the last category is connection to self slash higher
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power. Question number six, pick three
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of those areas that you want to improve upon.
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Question #7 For each of these three areas, write out what your
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ideal slash dream scenario would be.
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Question #8 Condense that down to three big goals for 20261 for
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each of those areas. Question #9 Set goals for each
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quarter in 2026. And then for Q1 I wrote out
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monthly goals. So January, February, and March,
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I wrote out goals for each of those.
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And then I figured after Q1 I'll revisit and write out goal
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monthly goals for Q2 and so on. And then for January, I wrote
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out specific daily and weekly habits.
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I also wrote out a full day schedule with time stamps so
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that I actually schedule in my habits.
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And I figured at the end of January I would reevaluate and
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write out daily and weekly goals for February yadda yadda yadda.
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And then based on all that I made a vision board.
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Now let me backtrack a little bit because this is really
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important. So I didn't re evaluate at the
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end of January because I was just like busy.
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I think Sam was sick. So I figured I would just hold
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off to the Lunar New Year. So basically what I'm doing now
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is I'm looking at my overall, my 3 big goals that I wrote out for
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20/26, and I'm also looking at what I wrote down for January,
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which, oh, you know what? I do have it on my phone.
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OK, so the three main goals that I wrote for this year are a
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specific follower number, which is pretty ambitious.
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And I don't know that I'll necessarily hit it, but I
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figured like, I'd hit, I'd aim high #2 is just to like, really
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heal my relationship with food and body image.
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And #3 I just wrote Quiet Luxury.
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But by that, what I really mean is I really want to declutter.
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I really want to have like, a very organized, refined,
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beautiful home. Like I want to have more
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elevated pieces in my closet, but fewer things.
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And I've actually done quite a bit on moving towards the
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school. But let's look at my January
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breakdown. So I wrote out this like full
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daily schedule, right? And I also wrote out habits
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which I have not even looked at once.
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So the habits I wrote were act on inspiration within two hours,
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two more refine and define blah, blah, blah.
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OK, a few things I've actually, OK, I've actually hit some of
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these. And then I made a vision board
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also. So I made a little folder on my
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phone where I put my vision board.
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I put my habits in a very like aesthetically pleasing way and I
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put my like time block day schedule, which I've not abided
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by at all. I put those three in a folder
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and then I had it be so that my vision board is the background
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on my phone. And then I had like a photos
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widget on the top of my phone where I, I have that folder sync
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to it. So one of those three pops up.
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Now, I never looked at those habits as we just established
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because I've, I, I haven't done any of them, quite frankly.
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But basically Step 1 of this process is you want to look at
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your goals for the year or goals for the month.
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Or like for me, I'm going to look both at the goals for the
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year and also the habits that I said I would implement in
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January and be like, OK, like what have I made movement
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towards? Like what like January goals
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have I hit? What have I not hit?
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Like why if I haven't hit something, like why have I not
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hit it? Like if I haven't like made any
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progress towards the goals for the year, which I actually can
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say I've made a tremendous amount of progress towards all
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three of my goals. The latter 2 especially.
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But like a lot of my January habits, like one thing is like I
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wanted to do a 12 hour phone fast every single day.
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I don't, I mostly have not done that.
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I don't think I've done that once.
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And so then you want to reassess.
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This is actually a good example to you.
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So if there's something like a habit, a goal that like either
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you've made no progress towards or you just haven't hit at all,
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it's a really good time to take inventory and be like, OK, why?
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And part of this question is, is that goal actually aligned?
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Like, is that actually something you should strive for or not?
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And I'll give a really good example.
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So for years and years and years, like through my late
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teens and all of my 20s, every single year I'd set a New Year's
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resolution of running, of starting to run.
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And a few years I'd like, maybe would like go running once and
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then stop. And finally, I think when I
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turned 30, I was like, enough, like, clearly I'm just not doing
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this. Why is this a goal that I set
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every single year? And I never actually make any
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movement towards it? And I really sat and I unpacked
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it and I was like, OK, what I really want is like a runner's
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body, right? Like runners have, like, runners
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have the best fucking bodies. Like, they are so snatched and
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so athletic. And I also love the idea of
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having something where like if you're stressed or if you're in
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like, I love with the way runners talk about running and
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like their experience with running and how it clears their
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mind and stuff. And I also love the
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accessibility of running. Like I love that like you, all
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you need a sneaker is really like, you don't need any
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equipment. You can do it anywhere, anytime
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you're outside. Like you're seeing things like
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that's amazing, right? All of those things are so
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appealing. But when I turned 30, I was
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like, OK, I'm like getting older and like my knees are only
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getting weaker. Like I haven't started doing
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this yet. Like how realistic is it that
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I'm actually going to do this? And is there something else I
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can do to like meet like fitness and aesthetic goals, but also
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like have that like mental release thing, right?
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And I found that I could accomplish that through other
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ways versus the phone fast. Like why did I want to do the 12
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hour phone fast? Well, I talked about it in the
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first episode of this year. I talked about like that concept
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of space and creating more space in my life.
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And I think not being on my phone as much will allow me to
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have a lot more space to think about things, to have ideas come
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through. I think it would help with like
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anxiety reducing blue light. Another thing I've noticed is
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when I'm the more I'm on my phone, the slower I do
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everything right, especially if I'm on TikTok.
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Like sometimes I'm like, oh, let me just like scroll TikTok while
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I brush my teeth. Like it takes longer.
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Like everything I do just become slower.
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And if I'm trying to accomplish a lot, then like being on my
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phone all the time really is not conducive to getting that done.
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So even though I haven't actually started this 12 hour
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phone fast at all, like I haven't done it once this year,
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I don't think. I don't think that this is a
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goal that I should abandoned. I actually do think it's really
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aligned with the things I want to do chew more.
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It's kind of vague, but like, yeah, I probably should be
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chewing more. I just like honestly fucking
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like forgot. But then some of the things like
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when I look at like my daily schedule, it's like filming
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every time I prep dinner, filming every time I eat, like
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feel like all these things. It's like, I don't know that I
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need to be doing that. Like, that just seems like a
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good recipe for burnout. And I think that there are ways
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that I could be like really consistent with posting in order
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to accomplish a lot of my goals without having to film like
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every single time I make something or every single time I
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eat. Like this actually daily
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schedule I made for myself has like completely gone out the
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window. I have changed the time that I
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go to solid course that I could get more sleep.
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Best decision of my life. I am actually currently not
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doing morning pages anymore. So like that's out the window.
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I don't even take Sam outside to pee anymore.
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Like all these things have changed.
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These circumstances have changed.
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So a lot of these things don't quite align anymore.
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So again, you want to really go back and look at like what were
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your overall goals for the year? And if you never did overall
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goals for the year, I really do think that journaling exercise
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that I had is a really good way to figure out what your goals
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should be. And maybe they don't even have
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to be for the year. Maybe they could just be for the
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next month, because spoiler alert, I think we're going to
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revisit a lot of the stuff next month leading up for the spring
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equinox, which is also Persian New Year.
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So we're starting now with the Lunar New Year slash Chinese New
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Year, and then we're going to revisit this with Persian New
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Year. We're just going to do a little
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like United Nations of New Year's here, OK?
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And that brings us to the actual vision for it.
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So here's what I recommend doing.
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Go through your screenshots, go through social media, go through
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Pinterest, go through all these places and save things and
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Asterix, 'cause we're going to come back to the things that you
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save. And then I went to Canva and I
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made a 9 by 16 vision board that I then made my iPhone background
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so that I could look at it over and over and over again.
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So that every time I reach my phone, which as we've
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established is happening more often and then it should be, I'm
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reminded of my vision board. But I really think it's
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important to redo this exercise every month or so because like
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the first few times that you see it, it's going to be so
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exciting, but then it's going to lose its luster and you're not
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even going to really notice it anymore.
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So I think freshening it up constantly is actually really
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important so that your brain actually notices it and
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registers it. But now let's go to what kind of
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things should be on your vision board.
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So I think it's like a one thing that's really good to put on
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your vision board are things that have already happened that
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you want more of. So I screenshotted certain like
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DMS that I've gotten from people that are like, Oh my God, like
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this episode really changed my life.
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Or like, you know, this thing like this recipe of yours was so
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good or just like watching your stories makes me so happy.
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Stuff like that. Like that's exact, like all I
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really truly want is for people to feel seen.
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Like that really is the goal of the content that I put out.
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Even like the recipes, it's like I just like, I want you to feel
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like we're hanging out, you know, like I want you to feel
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like we're having fun. So like when I got DMS like
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that, it's like that's exactly what I want more of.
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Or the other day, I got an e-mail with the largest
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paycheck. I say paycheck.
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I mean, it's not a track. It's a direct deposit that I've
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gotten from the podcast so far. And that's still like way less
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than I wish it was. It's way less than Sam's medical
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pills, you know, but it's the biggest one I've gotten so far.
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So I screenshot it. That's why I'm probably going to
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add that to my vision board. I'm going to do the vision board
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tonight, by the way. Like as soon as I'm done here,
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I'm actually as soon as I'm done here, I'm going to edit this and
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upload it because I'm doing it like the night before.
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I actually love doing the blush dish episodes as close to air
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date as possible because I feel like we got to have like a real
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nice chat together, you know? Anyway, so like stuff that's
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already happened that you want more of like let's say if you're
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in school and you're aiming for like straight A's or something,
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maybe like you screenshot like a really good report card that you
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got or whatever it may be, right?
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Things that have happened that you want more of.
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And then I think that what's far more effective like usually we
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put these like things on our vision board that we want,
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right? Like it's like a house in Malibu
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or like, I don't know, like a BMW or whatever it may be or
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this like really hunky partner or something.
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I think that's well and good. And I think you can do a little
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bit of that for sure, like no problem at all.
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But what I think you should focus on far more is having
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pictures that represent the things that you need to do in
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order to get the things that you want.
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For example, if let's say you want a six pack, let's just say
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because this is like an easy example to use.
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Rather than putting a photo of someone with a six pack on your
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vision board. I think it would be far more
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useful to have photos of of like really like healthy foods and
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photos of exercise and things like that to remind you of the
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things that you need to be doing in order to get the thing.
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Because I think you could sit and look at a six pack all day
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long, but your brains going to be like, OK, like, yeah, like
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lots of the, yeah, give me the six pack.
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You know? Whereas if you look at photos of
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like doing the things that you need to do in order to get
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there, I think that's going to be far more useful.
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And I'm going to focus on that far more in redoing my vision
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more tonight. And another thing that I think
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is really, really useful is actually like using photos that
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like either are of you in certain scenarios or could be
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you. So for example, let's say like
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it's me, right? And I have dark hair and stuff,
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right? And let's say, let's say, let's
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go back to the six pack example. And I'm like, OK, so like I need
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to start exercising more, let's say.
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By the way, these are not goals of mine.
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I just, I just think it's a really easy example to use.
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So rather than having a photo of like a hot blonde at the gym,
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which like very clearly isn't me, I think it would be far more
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conducive to either have a photo of me at the gym or have a photo
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where like maybe there's no face and it looks like it could be
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me, like something that's believably me or even have AI
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render something that is me. So like you actually see
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yourself in it. I think that that could be a
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really useful touch on the vision board.
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Also, another thing that I did for my original vision board
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that I really recommend is I made a whole mood board for the
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year on Pinterest. Which by the way, I've been
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loving Pinterest. Like, I don't think people talk
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enough about how fucking good Pinterest is.
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Anyway, I made a whole mood board for the year and then I
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picked a few of my favorite photos and I downloaded them and
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I brought them into Canva for my vision board.
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Also, if you want my vision board template on on Canva, I'm
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happy to send it to you. I think that that's a really
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useful way to do it too, because like a lot of the things on
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Pinterest, like they're not really, it's hard to explain,
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but it's like like, for example, I like some of the things on my
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mood board are just like swatches of like shades of
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brown. Like that's not a particularly
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useful thing to put on my vision board, but I know why it's in my
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mood board. Like I know the like the vibe
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I'm trying to evoke. It's that very like quiet luxury
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chic thing that I was going for. Does that make sense?
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OK, I think that that's everything.
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Let me just like check my notes and make sure I'm not missing
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anything. I actually cannot wait to redo
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this. I'm literally about to go do it
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like right this second. Oh, that's so funny.
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Like my notes made no sense because it had some of the stuff
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from last month. So yeah, basically like what you
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really want to do is revisit your intentions, set monthly
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goals or set goals for like this next month 'cause we're going to
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kind of redo this exercise, but slightly different.
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I'm going to incorporate like, listen, Lunar New Year is not my
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holiday. Like, it's not like I can't like
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speak on it. And even if I did research, it's
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like kind of like like culturally insensitive for me as
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a non Asian person to be like, oh, let me make all this content
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on Lunar New Year versus Persian New Year.
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That is my wheelhouse. So we're going to pull in some
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like mysticism and rituals and stuff from Persian culture when
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we redo all this next month. So it is going to be a little
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bit different, but nevertheless, I think the aim for right now
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like yeah, you can set goals for the whole year, but really
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breakdown your goals into tangible things that you can
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accomplish. And like, for example, my chew
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more, that's not very tangible, you know, I need to come up with
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like a more tangible version of this because that's why it
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didn't get done. Like what is chew more?
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Like, I guess I could set a specific number, but also I'm
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not going to like sit around and count how many times I'm chewing
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all the time. Like that's not really a good
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use of my time and like a great way to for me to live my life,
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you know? But I'm going to really revisit
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these goals and come up with like more tangible ways, more
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concrete, specific things that I want to hit, like specific
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content goals. I loved like that idea of like
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act on inspiration within two hours.
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Obviously I completely forgot about it.
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But like, like, I love that idea.
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I don't know how realistic it is.
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For example, I had a recipe idea last night when I was in bed.
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I wasn't going to like whip out of bed and do it in the middle
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of the night. And also I had something else
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scheduled to film today. So like I, I have to play with
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all these things, you know what I mean?
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Nevertheless, I do think that this is a great time to revisit
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our goals and come up with some really concrete goals for the
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next month and then create aesthetically pleasing things
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that we can look at constantly and just constantly remind our
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brains of what we should be doing.
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Because last thing, regardless of what your views are on
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manifestation, I can tell you something right now, there is no
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amount of visualizing getting something that's going to make
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you get it. Like, I really genuinely believe
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that. I don't think that things just
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come to us. I think we have to take the
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right actions towards them. And so focusing on the actions
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that you need to take, focusing on the habits that you need to
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incorporate is where it's at. So use your vision board as a
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primer, as a reminder of the actions that you need to take to
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get there. OK, I think that's it.
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feel better in your body or whatever it may be, I highly
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love it. Definitely go check it out.
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OK, Love you. We'll try next week.