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Feeling stuck, unfulfilled and DEAD inside? 😢 DONT WORRY - this episode is for YOU 🙌🏻 - Here’s a Perspective Shift For You! · She Rises with Ashy & Tijana

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Speaker 1: Apogee Production. Welcome to the Sheep Risers Podcast. I'm Ashy
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Speaker 1: and I'm Tiana. This podcast is about female empowerment.
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Speaker 2: And encouraging you to be your biggest, boldest, and most
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Speaker 2: authentic version of yourself.
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Speaker 1: We help you shed the shame, grow to a new level.
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Speaker 1: We're gonna laugh, cry, and talk about the topics everyone
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Speaker 1: else is too afraid to talk about.
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Speaker 2: Get ready for your next level of self.
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Speaker 1: Welcome to another episode guys todaybe are we talking about
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Speaker 1: feeling stuck the thing unfulfilled, Like you're not making progress
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Speaker 1: and you're just in a bit of a rut, which
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Speaker 1: we have all being through before. So we want to
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Speaker 1: talk about what that feels like, the things to look
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Speaker 1: out for and how to kind of crawl you away
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Speaker 1: out of that.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, we want to give you some tools, some mindset tools,
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Speaker 2: some little things that you can implement to really help
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Speaker 2: you come out of that place and to just feel
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Speaker 2: like your fine, not playful, light self again. Like sometimes
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Speaker 2: life gets a little bit heavy. We want to help
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Speaker 2: you bring more lightness, more play back into everyday life.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, so let's start from the beginning. If you feel stuck,
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Speaker 1: I know for me it's when I feel dead inside
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Speaker 1: and I'm not making progress. When I wake up and
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Speaker 1: I'm like, fuck, I don't want to get up, I
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Speaker 1: can't bothered, I don't know what I'm doing. I procrastinate,
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Speaker 1: I feel like my to do list is massive, I
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Speaker 1: feel overwhelmed, I don't know where to start, and I
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Speaker 1: just feel like I'm in a funk. The first thing
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Speaker 1: I need to do is physically move my body. That
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Speaker 1: just gets me in such a good state where I
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Speaker 1: can actually think about what's important, what steps I'm going
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Speaker 1: to take, and how I'm going to move through it.
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Speaker 1: That's the first thing I do whenever I start to
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Speaker 1: feel like I'm in that funky energy, it's movement. And
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Speaker 1: that's why it's so just important for me to move
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Speaker 1: every single day, even if it's a ten minute walk
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Speaker 1: down the road with taco. Just moving my body helps
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Speaker 1: me get in that good state. How do you feel
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Speaker 1: when you're in a funk.
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Speaker 2: When I'm in a funk, I feel when you said
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Speaker 2: I don't want to get out of bed in the morning.
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Speaker 2: That's how it feels for me. It's almost like you
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Speaker 2: wake up in the morning and you feel defeated almost.
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Speaker 2: It's like this overwhelming feeling of like defeat. I don't
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Speaker 2: want to get out of bed today. I feel lost.
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Speaker 2: I don't which direction to go in. I feel like
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Speaker 2: my options are scarce. It feels like actually there are
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Speaker 2: no options, and it's just like, oh, today is just
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Speaker 2: another day.
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Speaker 1: It feels such a lack of mindset.
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Speaker 2: Isn't it a bit like groundhog Day? Oh?
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Speaker 1: I guess how do I get out of this?
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Speaker 2: And I think, at least in my own experience, when
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Speaker 2: I've had moments like this, it's because I've felt unfulfilled
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Speaker 2: in my current life. The things that I'm doing day
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Speaker 2: to day don't fulfill me. Maybe my work doesn't fulfill me,
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Speaker 2: or maybe I'm just feeling lonely and uninspired and I'm
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Speaker 2: not truly working towards things that like genuinely light me
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Speaker 2: up inside. And I think feeling stuck and feeling stagnant
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Speaker 2: is this energy of like a lack of movement in life,
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Speaker 2: you know, a lack of movement forward, a lack of
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Speaker 2: movement towards working towards a goal, a desire, a passion project,
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Speaker 2: or you know, having things that you can do and
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Speaker 2: experience with people that you love. When we lack all
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Speaker 2: of those things, what is life filled.
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Speaker 1: With one percent. I think we have to be really
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Speaker 1: careful of the stories that we tell us. When you
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Speaker 1: were talking then, it just reminded me of last year
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Speaker 1: when IN felt like ground whole day with Baseline and
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Speaker 1: I really wasn't enjoying it anymore. But I would tell
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Speaker 1: myself a story. You know, you're just having a rough week,
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Speaker 1: or this is what owning a business is like, You've
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Speaker 1: got to do this, You've got a team to support,
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Speaker 1: this is how you make money. You'd be an idiot
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Speaker 1: to give up the financial gains that you get for
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Speaker 1: having a business. I had all these stories, but I
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Speaker 1: was waking up each day just not wanting to go
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Speaker 1: to work. And I would try and get their energy
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Speaker 1: and like move my body and do all the things
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Speaker 1: I knew how to do, but it just at the
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Speaker 1: end of the day it wasn't aligned anymore. And it
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Speaker 1: took me having a brain aneurism and the universe being
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Speaker 1: able to make me fully stop, to actually take your breath,
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Speaker 1: to go, fuck, what are you doing? But I remember
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Speaker 1: that feeling so heavy, and once I had the space
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Speaker 1: at the hospital to think of everything, I was like, Wow,
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Speaker 1: you've really been telling yourself a ton of bullshit stories
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Speaker 1: and you have to just continue doing this because that's
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Speaker 1: just what you're meant to do. And other people would
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Speaker 1: dream of this opportunity. Other people would love to have
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Speaker 1: the job you have. You're so lucky. But it didn't
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Speaker 1: feel good, so I had to make change. But the
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Speaker 1: stories we tell ourselves can really be like a big,
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Speaker 1: heavy chain holding us back.
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Speaker 2: That was such a pivotal moment for you, that transition
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Speaker 2: from baseline to where you are now, Like I just
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Speaker 2: remember it being such a pivotal thing. After brain aneurysm,
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Speaker 2: you just immediately having this like epiphany, like holy shit,
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Speaker 2: I'm not doing what I need to be doing, Like
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Speaker 2: this isn't what I want to be doing in life.
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Speaker 2: I want to live my life.
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Speaker 1: I think you're one of the first people I told
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Speaker 1: that I wasn't enjoying baseline. I wanted to close it down.
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Speaker 1: And this is before my brain aneurysm. We hadn't been
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Speaker 1: friends for that long, but a friendship from the moment
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Speaker 1: we met, it was just open everything up. It almost
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Speaker 1: felt safer and just nicer because we weren't in each
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Speaker 1: other's circles. Yeah, I remember telling you, and I remember
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Speaker 1: afterwards getting in the car and I was like, what
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Speaker 1: did I just tell her? I did, and I just
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Speaker 1: said something out loud that's obviously been sitting true for me,
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Speaker 1: but that made it so much more real, and I panicked.
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Speaker 1: I remember saying to you, Oh, everything we spoke about
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Speaker 1: this morning, can you not tell anyone? I love actively?
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Speaker 1: I love my business. And I started to tell the
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Speaker 1: stories of like you're so lucky, and I was like,
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Speaker 1: didn't want to face that. It wasn't feeling good. Having
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Speaker 1: clarity and being in alignment is so important and I
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Speaker 1: didn't realize that until I went through that whole process.
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Speaker 1: And I remember an opportunity came up within the podcasting space,
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Speaker 1: not for the podcast I was doing. It was an
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Speaker 1: oportunity to travel to Tasmania with Jay and be a
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Speaker 1: host for this big podcast. And I remember just going
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Speaker 1: home to Steve and I was like, I just fucking
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Speaker 1: love podcasting so much. If I could just do that
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Speaker 1: as a job, I'd be the happiest person ever. He
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Speaker 1: was like, really, that's interesting, Like you wouldn't do actively
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Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, I would. I think. I
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Speaker 1: remember just feeling so confused because I thought I had
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Speaker 1: to keep doing what I was doing because of those
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Speaker 1: stories I was telling, But these little moments kept happening
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Speaker 1: that made me realize, oh, this just isn't in alignment.
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Speaker 1: So then when I had the brain diagnosis and I
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Speaker 1: had that forty eight hours in hospital, and I realized
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Speaker 1: how stressed I was and how much this disalignment was
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Speaker 1: causing me stress and make me not enjoy my day
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Speaker 1: to day. It was a very easy decision. Yeah, okay,
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Speaker 1: and then once I free from that, I was like, oh,
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Speaker 1: I've got space to think about what I want to do.
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Speaker 1: And it was just podcast, podcup podcast. All I wanted
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Speaker 1: to do was sit in the podcast for even just
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Speaker 1: talk and yeah, all day I just knew this is
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Speaker 1: what I wanted to do, and I missed events and
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Speaker 1: I thought there were so many different avenues I could
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Speaker 1: go down with podcasting. It excited me so much and
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Speaker 1: I finally felt free that I could be like, Oh,
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Speaker 1: I don't just have to be the fitness girl. I
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Speaker 1: was put into this box for so long and people
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Speaker 1: loved me for that, and that's how grow my followings.
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Speaker 1: There was a lot of fear that came up, Yeah,
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Speaker 1: if I change and go down this direction and give
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Speaker 1: up this Am I still going to be loved? Am
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Speaker 1: I still going to be accepted? What are they going
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Speaker 1: to think of me? That was a whole thing to
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Speaker 1: work through. But once I decided that, I all of
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Speaker 1: a sudden felt unstuck and I felt free and I
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Speaker 1: had clarity, and I started to make progress, moving forward
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Speaker 1: doing something that really lit something up inside me. And
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Speaker 1: I could still make impacts a huge high value of mine.
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Speaker 1: I could still make impact, I could still contribute, I
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Speaker 1: could still have so much connection with my audience. It
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Speaker 1: just looks really different. But I had to get unstuck
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Speaker 1: and make massive, massive change to be able to move forward.
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Speaker 2: And do you think there was like a huge contrast
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Speaker 2: between like getting up in the morning to get ready
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Speaker 2: to go to baseline and then getting ready now, And.
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Speaker 1: It's so different. It feels like I sometimes I have
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Speaker 1: to pinch myself. I'm like, I feel like I'm a
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Speaker 1: kid playing because it doesn't feel like work. And I've
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Speaker 1: always thought work had to feel hard, blood, sweat and tears,
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Speaker 1: really long hours, a lot of like brain power to
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Speaker 1: be a successful business owner. That's what I've always thought.
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Speaker 1: And they're always smart people, and that's just not me.
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Speaker 1: This is still a business, but it feels so different different,
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Speaker 1: and yeah, we're still in the early stages of making this,
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Speaker 1: you know, a big income or whatever, but we're making progress. Ye,
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Speaker 1: every month the numbers are higher. There's more money, there's
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Speaker 1: more opportunity, there's more freedom, there's more debt, there's more connection,
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Speaker 1: there's more impact, there's more people were meeting, like, there's
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Speaker 1: so much growth in it. Yeah, it just looks really
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Speaker 1: different to owning an active web business. It's cool. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: it's really cool.
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Speaker 2: It's like not mad either of the stages of your
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Speaker 2: life wrong th recognizing like how heavy that feeling of
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Speaker 2: feeling stuck and feel and how much also fear it
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Speaker 2: comes around that feeling of feeling much stuff. It's like
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Speaker 2: fear of making a decision that might completely change the
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Speaker 2: trajectory of your life, which is often why we feel stuck,
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Speaker 2: because it's the fear surrounding those experiences that we go,
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Speaker 2: holy shit, if I change, things are going to change,
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Speaker 2: and sometimes whether the change is good for us are
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Speaker 2: bad for us. It is terrifying.
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Speaker 1: It was really terrifying. And you know what I learned
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Speaker 1: being in hospital too, and being obviously forced to stay
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Speaker 1: there for forty eight hours with all my testing is.
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Speaker 1: I didn't give myself any time to actually sit with
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Speaker 1: how I was feeling. As soon as that uncomfortable feeling
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Speaker 1: came up, since I told you, I was like, I
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Speaker 1: don't know if I want to do this anymore. Shut
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Speaker 1: it down, get back to work, shut it down, go home,
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Speaker 1: beer mum. I just kept myself busy because it was
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Speaker 1: so uncomfortable sitting in hospital. I'm like, there's only so
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Speaker 1: much scrolling you can do before you you know, I
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Speaker 1: had to really face myself and ask all those really
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Speaker 1: uncomfortable questions and I just allowed it. I was like, ooh,
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Speaker 1: this is the time. You don't get to do this
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Speaker 1: at home because it is kids running around. You do
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Speaker 1: have a business to run, You got your mum had on. Yes,
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Speaker 1: That'd be the biggest piece of advice I would give
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Speaker 1: for anyone feeling really stuck right now, is just to
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Speaker 1: actually carve out some time where you can sit with yourself,
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Speaker 1: whether it's in the sunshine at the beach, sitting in nature, journaling,
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Speaker 1: and just sit with and be really fucking honest with
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Speaker 1: where you're at and how you're feeling. Are you happy
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Speaker 1: being a stay at home mum or would you like
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Speaker 1: to go back to work? Are you happy running this
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Speaker 1: corporate job with no freedom but you're in big money,
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Speaker 1: or would you like something a little bit more free flowing.
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Speaker 1: Are you really happy in your relationship? Would you feel
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Speaker 1: like it's at point where there's no more growth than that?
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Speaker 1: Do you feel yeah? Do you feel like you're stagnant
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Speaker 1: in that? Really be honest with yourself and let those
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Speaker 1: feelings come up, and then you can have clarity around
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Speaker 1: what you do with that. It's always a choice.
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Speaker 2: It's like being okay with what you might find.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, don't just scary, I get it.
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Speaker 2: No, but don't fear what comes up. It's like, use it,
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Speaker 2: leverage curiosity, just get curious and like it doesn't match
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Speaker 2: what you explore or you know what option you might
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Speaker 2: want to go in, whether it's your career or your relationship.
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Speaker 2: Be okay to explore both options, whether you want to stay,
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Speaker 2: whether you want to go. Pros and cons, Like what
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Speaker 2: would it look like for both sides? What do you
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Speaker 2: really want? Like, that's how you get to know what
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Speaker 2: you really want out of life. And it's really important
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Speaker 2: that we allow ourselves to get clarity but also not
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Speaker 2: put pressure on yourself for clarity.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, explore it, have fun with your time.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, give yourself time.
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Speaker 1: And you know what too, Staying where I was was
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Speaker 1: going to be hard, taking a risk and changing my
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Speaker 1: whole life hard. Yeah, it's in that moment, it's like, Okay, well,
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Speaker 1: which heart am I going to choose? What's going to
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Speaker 1: benefit my future the most? Both are uncomfortable, Both are
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Speaker 1: going to rattle me. But I'm going to choose the
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Speaker 1: hard that feels more aligned and then I know that
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Speaker 1: will benefit And it's meeting me where I'm at right now,
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Speaker 1: not where I was two years ago.
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Speaker 2: Permission to grow, Permission to evolve. You're a new person
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Speaker 2: every single time that you change and grow, and like
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Speaker 2: being willing to choose yourself over what other people might
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Speaker 2: have to say around that change in growth.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, as you're congruent.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's congruent with what you want or your heart
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Speaker 2: desires and needs. And it's okay that that changes. If
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Speaker 2: we hate the discomfort that we're feeling right now, Okay,
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Speaker 2: what's going to be the action that I can take
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Speaker 2: to get me out of this place of discomfort? Well,
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Speaker 2: it's doing the hard thing so that I can create ease,
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Speaker 2: so it's instead of it being the problem.
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Speaker 1: What if that was the solution. Oh my god, Mike,
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Speaker 1: drop game changer.
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Speaker 2: Right, And then, like what we were talking about earlier,
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Speaker 2: you can change, like give yourself permission to change. Just
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Speaker 2: because you advocated for one thing ten years ago, five
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Speaker 2: years ago, two years ago, fucking three days ago, it
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Speaker 2: doesn't matter. You can choose to change in this very
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Speaker 2: moment simply because in your brain you decided you were
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Speaker 2: different now exactly, simply because in your mind you decided,
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Speaker 2: I actually don't resonate with that anymore. I actually I
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Speaker 2: changed my mind. I actually don't believe in that. Wow,
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Speaker 2: I changed my mind. Everything that happened from here in
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Speaker 2: the past actually is irrelevant. Yeah, none of it matters.
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Speaker 2: But we hold onto it, don't we We hold on
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Speaker 2: to it because we think I've been this way for
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Speaker 2: so long that now that's right. Now I need to
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Speaker 2: continue being this way. But that's what keeps us stagnant
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Speaker 2: a lot of the times. Fearing what other people think
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Speaker 2: about us will keep us more stagnant than actually us
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Speaker 2: not changing.
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Speaker 1: Isn't that fucked up too? We're so worried about what
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Speaker 1: other people think of us. We will continue to choose
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Speaker 1: pain and suffering and discomfort because of what old made
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Speaker 1: at work might say, or Sally Underscore eighty eight says
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Speaker 1: on the line, or what fucking mum or Grandma things
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Speaker 1: of us, or choose to stay in that pain.
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Speaker 2: Or our friend that we drink with on the weekend
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Speaker 2: and we're scared of their judgment because we're changing and
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Speaker 2: becoming a different version that they don't resonate with. Like,
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Speaker 2: all that matters is what you choose from right in
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Speaker 2: this moment, actually not even in the future. The only
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Speaker 2: thing that matters is what you choose in the next
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Speaker 2: twenty four hours. Definitely imagine how much less pressure you
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Speaker 2: would feel to just show up and do the things
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Speaker 2: that you want to do that make you fucking happy
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Speaker 2: in the next twenty four hours.
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Speaker 1: And who are you living for? Like us having this conversation,
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Speaker 1: it's just like, I hope this lands for everyone listening.
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Speaker 1: Who actually living for? Are you choosing your life decisions
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Speaker 1: based on what everyone else thinks of you? If I
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Speaker 1: was to do that, I wouldn't be here today. If
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Speaker 1: I was to listen to everyone online that told me
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Speaker 1: not to do this, not to do that, that shit
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Speaker 1: that's wrong, whatever. Oh my god, I would live in
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Speaker 1: so much regret, so much regret. Even this is like,
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Speaker 1: I've done a couple of different podcasts and the amount
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Speaker 1: of shit I copped when we started this new podcast.
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Speaker 1: Here she goes again. Oh man, I'm not listening to
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Speaker 1: you look at my past as a failure. All of
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Speaker 1: that has led me to be able to Bean's position
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Speaker 1: to do a fucking good job of this podcast because
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Speaker 1: I had the practice runs, you know, and you can
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Speaker 1: apply that to all areas of your life.
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Speaker 2: So cool, but irrelevant people are just haten being for
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Speaker 2: the sake of it's irrelevant. People's words don't matter. They
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Speaker 2: really don't, not unless you give them weight.
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Speaker 1: But you stop living your life for other people? What
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Speaker 1: do you actually want? If you're feeling stuck, probably is
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Speaker 1: because you're so concerned what everyone else is thinking, or
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Speaker 1: because you think you have to stay or remain the
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Speaker 1: same that who you were a year ago or five
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Speaker 1: years ago. Because you said you're gonna do something or
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Speaker 1: commit to something, go to you. You need to do
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Speaker 1: this job, fulfill this jobs, commit to the marriage because
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Speaker 1: you said your vows. Yeah, if you fucking change your mind,
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Speaker 1: you've changed your mind.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, or even what is it called I can't
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Speaker 2: remember this saying it's where you invest time, and then
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Speaker 2: you're like, because I've invested all this time, I have
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Speaker 2: to see it through. But oftentimes that's not always the case.
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Speaker 2: It really is dependent on the situation, you know, like say,
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Speaker 2: for example, something, oh share, I want to share two
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Speaker 2: things with you guys, actually and one the second one
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Speaker 2: I haven't actually voiced out loud other than to Ashy
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Speaker 2: so super vulnerable. But when I was in my relationship,
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Speaker 2: like over a year ago, and I was getting to
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Speaker 2: the point of wanting to leave, I felt really stuck
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Speaker 2: in that relationship, like I was like a shell of
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Speaker 2: a version of myself. Hey, Ashi, like I had lost myself.
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Speaker 2: You even said to me many times, like you've lost
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Speaker 2: your spark, Tiana, Like that's sparking you, that lights up
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Speaker 2: in your eye when you're excited for life. Like I
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Speaker 2: don't feel like that's there anymore. I felt really stuck
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Speaker 2: in that relationship. And then afterwards, I remember going through
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Speaker 2: the breakup and feeling really stuck on the outside of
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Speaker 2: that breakup as well, because it was like that groundhog
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Speaker 2: day that we were talking about in the beginning of
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Speaker 2: feeling like every day feels the same. I'm struggling to
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Speaker 2: get out of bed, like I don't want to do
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Speaker 2: life like this. It was just so heavy, and I
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Speaker 2: just remember thinking, even in those moments, I've got to
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Speaker 2: show up for myself, regardless of how hard it feels.
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Speaker 2: And I just remember being like forcing myself out of bed.
15:21
Speaker 2: And I don't even think I was honest with you
15:23
Speaker 2: guys around how much I was struggling at the time,
15:26
Speaker 2: until after when you said to me HEITJ, like, are
15:29
Speaker 2: you okay, Like you haven't really grieved this relationship, you
15:32
Speaker 2: haven't really come to me crying, and you seem too strong,
15:35
Speaker 2: you seem too good, You seem too good, And I
15:37
Speaker 2: was not. I was crumbling, But I just knew that
15:40
Speaker 2: if I had let myself go in that moment, I
15:43
Speaker 2: would have crumbled.
15:44
Speaker 1: You scared you were going to melt, and just yeah,
15:46
Speaker 1: I wasn't going to.
15:47
Speaker 2: Be able to get back up, yes, because I was
15:48
Speaker 2: so in love that I was like, I don't think
15:50
Speaker 2: I'm going to be able to get back up. But
15:52
Speaker 2: I just kept that movement going that you were talking
15:54
Speaker 2: about in the beginning. Keep the movement going, keep the
15:56
Speaker 2: movement going, and like you eventually see the light at
15:59
Speaker 2: the end of the tunnel when you feel stuck. So
16:02
Speaker 2: I just wanted to say that because it doesn't matter
16:04
Speaker 2: what you're experiencing, where it's relationships, work, whatever stress that
16:08
Speaker 2: you might have in your life, as long as you
16:10
Speaker 2: keep that ball rolling and continue to take action, it
16:14
Speaker 2: will be the very thing that helps you get out
16:16
Speaker 2: of that feeling of being stuck.
16:17
Speaker 1: Yeah, and action can also mean slow, Like we said before,
16:21
Speaker 1: that's taking action, taking time to actually get clear of
16:24
Speaker 1: where you want to go and what you want to
16:25
Speaker 1: change where you're at. That is still action. It's just
16:28
Speaker 1: looks a bit different. We think action is like fast
16:30
Speaker 1: paced and goals and da da da dad. Yeah, but
16:32
Speaker 1: actually action for me was stopping fuck, not feeling good.
16:37
Speaker 1: I'm I gonna do with this, been sitting with myself. Yes, yeah, yeah.
16:41
Speaker 2: And you know it's funny when you said, Steve, oh
16:43
Speaker 2: my god, I would love to do podcasting as a
16:45
Speaker 2: full time gig. I've actually had a similar experience. I
16:47
Speaker 2: would love to be able to do this as a
16:49
Speaker 2: full time gig. I'm like, that would be an actual
16:51
Speaker 2: fucking dream to be able to be like, let's come
16:54
Speaker 2: in here every single day and.
16:55
Speaker 1: Like do what we do, uploading seven days a week.
16:58
Speaker 2: And you know what also I resonate with which I
17:00
Speaker 2: haven't shared with really anyone other than you, is that
17:03
Speaker 2: a part of me feels that every now and again,
17:06
Speaker 2: I get this little niggle where I feel how you
17:08
Speaker 2: felt with Baseline with my coaching. Yeah, and I love
17:12
Speaker 2: my coaching.
17:12
Speaker 1: I know you do, and I love that I get it.
17:15
Speaker 2: I thrive when I'm coaching. I've been doing this for
17:17
Speaker 2: like three and a half gone on four years now,
17:19
Speaker 2: and I love being able to see the way that
17:22
Speaker 2: it impacts women and seeing women, you know, get their
17:25
Speaker 2: sparkle back, you know, love themselves again, get their sparkle back.
17:29
Speaker 2: And you know, there's this part of me and niggle.
17:31
Speaker 2: Every couple of months it pops up, like, but I
17:32
Speaker 2: want to do podcasting, but what if that was my
17:35
Speaker 2: full time gig. Yeah, you know, And it's just I've
17:38
Speaker 2: been able to see the contrast and not that there's
17:40
Speaker 2: anything wrong with my business.
17:41
Speaker 1: I love my business.
17:42
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've noticed again the contrast of me doing coaching
17:46
Speaker 2: versus me doing podcasting, and it's like that thing that
17:49
Speaker 2: like fucking lights you up, that like gets you excited
17:52
Speaker 2: to get up in the morning. I'm like, I get
17:53
Speaker 2: that here.
17:54
Speaker 1: Yeah, we do hate We always talk about it literally
17:56
Speaker 1: ticks every single box, it does, and so much can
17:58
Speaker 1: change in a year too, Like literally so much can
18:01
Speaker 1: change what we're doing now and even our little events
18:04
Speaker 1: and the thing we've got plans for the year. I
18:06
Speaker 1: see in five years time that probably will be a
18:08
Speaker 1: full time thing that we're doing. Yeah, you know, and
18:10
Speaker 1: it will be so much easier and flowy, and it
18:13
Speaker 1: just is. But there's a building phase and some go through.
18:16
Speaker 1: But it's cool that you have those niggles. You listen
18:18
Speaker 1: to it, and as I observe you go through that,
18:21
Speaker 1: you were just to where you're feeling, and you pull
18:23
Speaker 1: back a little bit and you reassess. You're like, oh right,
18:25
Speaker 1: if I just change this and you trial the different
18:28
Speaker 1: things and you figure it out along the way. Yeah,
18:30
Speaker 1: you know.
18:30
Speaker 2: Well, it's also knowing that, like I can feel those niggles,
18:33
Speaker 2: but then also know that, like right now in this season,
18:35
Speaker 2: I'm like, but I love my coaching. Yes, it's not
18:37
Speaker 2: something that I'm like, oh I want to get rid
18:39
Speaker 2: of because I don't. I love my coaching. So it's
18:41
Speaker 2: knowing that, like I can have those niggles too, but
18:43
Speaker 2: then know, Okay, this is the direction I need to
18:45
Speaker 2: go in right now, because when I love it, I
18:47
Speaker 2: want to continue doing I want to continue growing it.
18:50
Speaker 2: And then also wherever the podcast evolves into which we
18:53
Speaker 2: have big plans and visions for the podcast, and we
18:56
Speaker 2: are seeing that vision like come to life at the
18:58
Speaker 2: moment now, and it's only going to get bigger in
19:00
Speaker 2: the next five ten years.
19:01
Speaker 1: You know, it's really cool.
19:03
Speaker 2: Yeah, So I just want to be really vulnerable and
19:04
Speaker 2: share that.
19:05
Speaker 1: One of the other things which we say in a
19:07
Speaker 1: lot of episodes, but if you are feeling stuck, like
19:09
Speaker 1: reach out for help. You don't have to do this alone,
19:11
Speaker 1: whether it's a coach, a family, a friend, the internet, whatever,
19:15
Speaker 1: ask for help because sometimes feeling stuck, you don't even
19:18
Speaker 1: know all the options to explore. Like we've gone to
19:20
Speaker 1: each other many times and to Steve forever and it's like, well,
19:22
Speaker 1: why don't you do this him know that was an option? Yeah,
19:25
Speaker 1: oh thanks. Reaching out for help is just it's one
19:28
Speaker 1: of my most powerful tools to help me grow and expand. Yea,
19:32
Speaker 1: And I just will never stop talking about it because
19:35
Speaker 1: it is just so important.
19:36
Speaker 2: It's not weak. Hey, you know how people think like
19:37
Speaker 2: it's weak to ask for help, But actually it's the
19:40
Speaker 2: most courageous thing that you can do. It really is,
19:42
Speaker 2: because also, imagine having help from somebody who has knowledge
19:46
Speaker 2: and awareness that you maybe don't have just yet. They're
19:49
Speaker 2: going to give you the leg up.
19:50
Speaker 1: That's going to help you.
19:51
Speaker 2: What would have taken you six months, yeh, take you
19:53
Speaker 2: six weeks literally because you choose to be courageous. You
19:56
Speaker 2: chose to ask for help. And anyone who says that
19:59
Speaker 2: they do this journey alone is like lying.
20:01
Speaker 1: It's about ourselves, right.
20:03
Speaker 2: We lean on so many of our people, friends, family,
20:06
Speaker 2: that one coworker or whatever it is to ask for support.
20:10
Speaker 2: Why not be able to like condense that time even
20:12
Speaker 2: quicker and be able to like ask for support.
20:14
Speaker 1: If they've been through what you've been through. Obviously it's
20:16
Speaker 1: going to look different. But if someone's been through closing
20:18
Speaker 1: a business or changing careers, or going through a divorce
20:21
Speaker 1: or whatever it is, they've got all that experience and
20:24
Speaker 1: knowledge and wisdom that you can get from them. You
20:27
Speaker 1: literally fast track your growth. It can get you out
20:30
Speaker 1: of feeling so stuck for so long movement. Honestly, you're
20:33
Speaker 1: feeling stuck right now, physically, energetically, all of it.
20:36
Speaker 2: Yeah, just take action. You don't need to know where
20:38
Speaker 2: you're going. Just take action. Take a step because clarity
20:41
Speaker 2: comes after action does.
20:44
Speaker 1: Don't look at the whole staircase too, Just take one
20:46
Speaker 1: step when usually reach stage, Just one step, one step closer.
20:49
Speaker 2: I read this chorde the other day and it went,
20:51
Speaker 2: when you walk the path, the path appears. Oh wow,
20:54
Speaker 2: that's cool, and I thought that was really cool. It's
20:56
Speaker 2: just a beautiful way to show you that. Also when
20:59
Speaker 2: you take action, you become more aware of what's coming next.
21:04
Speaker 2: You only need to know that next one step. You
21:05
Speaker 2: don't need to know the next one hundred because it
21:07
Speaker 2: will come as you go.
21:09
Speaker 1: That's really cool. I love that. I hope you guys
21:12
Speaker 1: enjoyed this episode. I hope it gave you a little
21:14
Speaker 1: spring a step, and just some little tools in things
21:17
Speaker 1: that you can do to get unstuck because it's not
21:19
Speaker 1: a nice feeling. But also just know through breakdowns, there
21:22
Speaker 1: is breakthroughs. And every time I feel when you're about
21:25
Speaker 1: to level up and go into a new season or
21:29
Speaker 1: a new version of yourself, there is this icky, uncomfortable,
21:33
Speaker 1: turbulent phase because you have to shed the layers. You
21:36
Speaker 1: have to go that little bit deeper to get through
21:38
Speaker 1: to the other side and to grow and to step
21:40
Speaker 1: up into the new version.
21:41
Speaker 2: So true, it does feel like when you're working towards
21:44
Speaker 2: something new and you're trying to evolve, everything feels like
21:47
Speaker 2: it crumbles.
21:48
Speaker 1: It does. It has to.
21:49
Speaker 2: It crumbles, it has to fall apart because you need
21:51
Speaker 2: to have that slingshot moment. It key's coming back every
21:54
Speaker 2: single time, and I'll say it till the cows come
21:55
Speaker 2: home every single time that something is not working in
21:58
Speaker 2: your life, you are having an absolute slingshot moment where
22:01
Speaker 2: your life is about to completely change. Yes, you've just
22:04
Speaker 2: got to be able to weather the storm in the meantime.
22:06
Speaker 1: You have to. And when you have that way of
22:08
Speaker 1: living and trusting, it stops you falling into victims. Yeah,
22:12
Speaker 1: and it stops you getting as stuck as what you
22:14
Speaker 1: might have previously because I'm not stuck. Yeah, this is
22:17
Speaker 1: just a little turbulent moment because I'm about to level up.
22:19
Speaker 1: Things are about to change all the better. I've manifested this,
22:22
Speaker 1: I've created this, and I want this. If you trust that,
22:24
Speaker 1: have that believe in yourself, life Will we sum much easier?
22:26
Speaker 1: Oh so good. Thanks for joining us guys. We'll see
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Speaker 1: you on Friday. From Friggi Friday, Bye bye,