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123. ReExamine Tradition · Your Enriched Self

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I don't think that if you are working in corporate America, running your own
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business, or running your household, you can afford to say this is how
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we always do it. That statement is so limiting to what you can be
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doing. Everything that you're doing now is not necessarily everything you should be doing.
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I'll repeat that, everything you're doing right now is not necessarily the things
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that you should be doing to live your life, to work your business,
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to manage your funds and your finances, to manage your household, to do
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all of the things that encompass your day to day. In order to get
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into a new space, you're going to have to shed some of the old
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thinking, which leads to your old activity, which leads to the current state.
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Everything you're doing right now is not necessarily what you should still be doing.
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Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and welcome to your
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enrich Cell podcast. I am your host, Milee Noir. I am a
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mindset coach and your mindset advocate. And what that means is I am here
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looking out for you. I want to make sure that you are more of
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your enriched self and you're showing up in the world as the best version of
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yourself, and I know that everything you do, everything you are going to
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accomplish, is going to start in your mind. So I created this podcast
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the things that will help you be more of the person you were brought
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you know, before we get into the weekly podcast topic, I make
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affirmations. Affirmations are a great way to start your day and to command your
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morning, and this week's affirmation is I am innovative, inspired, and imaginative.
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I am innovative, inspired and imaginative. I am innovative, inspired,
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and imaginative. Now, let's get ready for this week's episode of the Your
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Enriched Self podcast. If you're standing at a crosswalk and you see the blaring
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lights of the ambulance, you hear the sounds of this emergency vehicle trying to
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get through traffic, and you happen to be standing there with someone who's wearing
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headphones and just jam into their music, to their beats, whatever, you
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probably likely will stop that person from walking into danger, walking into this tragic
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situation. I want to make this very dramatic because I don't think we think
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of tradition in this way, and so this week, I want you to
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reimagine tradition. And I'm not saying all tradition is harmful and all tradition will
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lead to demise, but I am saying some will. And there are things
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that we are blindly following. They are things that you are blindly following that
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have come up as your beliefs and your customs and your normal practices. Some
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of these things are really cultural norms that we've adopted, that you've adopted as
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part of your lifestyle, and these traditions eventually start to reinforce what you value
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and they become a critical part of your rearing of your children and how you
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see things. Your perspective is tied to these traditions. And while some traditions
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can be worthwhile because they're connecting us with our past, they're connecting us with
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our family and our family treaty and all all the things that help us understand
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more of who we are, there are some dangers to blindly following tradition.
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And I want to challenge you with this this week because we are going into
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a new year, and I think what happens when the clock strikes twelve,
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or the bell rings or whatever indicates your ushering to the new year. That's
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when people start thinking about what it is that this new year is going to
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do and how they're gonna go at it. And I want to start doing
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the re examination internally. I want you to level up inside. It has
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to start with this examination of tradition, and it has to start with you.
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No one else can do this work, but you so don't look to
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anyone else. This is your work. Before we get into how we do
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this and why we need to do this. As we always do on the
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podcast, I want to sh with you the definition of tradition. So tradition
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is just another way of saying I'm handing down information, I'm handing down beliefs,
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customs from one generation to another. There may be things that you did
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in your family that were just part of the tradition of what your parents did
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with their parents, and so on and so forth. So that's one way
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of defining tradition. I pull up some synonyms for tradition. It's your attitude,
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it's belief, it's culture, it's custom And for the most part,
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traditions are annual. They happen once a year. Think about Thanksgiving, which
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we just had a few weeks ago, where we all gathered. However you
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gathered, maybe you go to the same family member's house and the same people
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make the same types of dishes because we know that their dishes are going to
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be great because they do that so well. So there are traditions like that
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that are, you know, good tradition to get with your family. So
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one tradition that me and my family had when the kids were younger and we
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lived back in Indianapolis, is that we would pick out a live tree together.
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We would go to a family business who had a tree farm and pick
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out a tree each and every year. So that was a tradition. There's
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some crazy traditions, and I hate to call it crazy because it's somebody's custom,
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somebody's culture. But anybody familiar with the annual bull Run in Spain where
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they have this big festival and there's millions of people that go out and there's
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music, and there's bulls, and there's running and there's a lot of activity.
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So that's one of those traditions that in some cases people do die in
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that bull run. And so again I want us to start thinking. I
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know that's an extreme case, but some of the things we're doing are extreme
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and they may not be extreme on the outside, but they're giving extreme results,
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and not the ones that impact us in a positive way, but the
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one that leave us with negative marks, negative trauma, negativity in how we
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outlook on life, how our perspectives don't expand because of this thing that we
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hold so tightly because it's just been handed down and we've accepted that this is
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what life is going to be. And I'm telling you right now there's no
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room for that type of limitation and thinking when you go into a new year.
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There's really no room for that in the remainder of this year. But
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I want you to start thinking before you start vision boarding and doing all the
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things that you're going to do. How are you going to do it if
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you are so stuck on, confined to this particular way and this particular thing
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and this particular place that you've always convened to, and you've always chosen that
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thing. But then you expect different results. For example, there are people
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using credit cards left right and center to make holiday purchase that might be a
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traditional behavior, and then we look back in January. You look in January
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and you see that your credit card bills are way out of proportion. How
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do you change that? That can't be the way you keep running this thing.
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But for some this is the way you have in fact been running this
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thing. Change your traditions. Some of these, again, are harmful.
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It's very important to be aware of these harms and traditions. And some of
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these things, again, they're customary, right, You're not thinking about them
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like they're a bad thing. You're just blindly following what you've always done simply
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because it's just part of what you've done. You don't even think about the
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implications. And I want you to think about that before you have to think
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about that, if you know what I mean. So, how do you
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break the harmful cycles of traditions. You're gonna have to be courageous because you
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might have to step to some people your family, your parents, your spouse.
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There may be things in your household that are just not running as efficiently
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and you're going to have to change that so that you can change things,
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change your life, change your experience in this life, because doing it that
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way is not going to help you. You're going to have to confront what
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is considered the status quo of your life. And so the thing about that,
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it's going to be an ongoing process because as you start living and walking
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through you're going to realize that some of the things you're doing are outdated.
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Some of the things that you are doing are outdated. I mean, there
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was a time in our culture it was part of the custom to have an
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arrange marriage and that was pretty normal. And while that's still a custom in
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some cultures, that may not work for you. It's important to understand that
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some traditions are outdated, and I think back to COVID. During COVID,
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we all collectively as a culture, as a people, had to learn,
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but first unlearned some things that were considered the only way we did things.
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For example, think about how we were shopping right now. A lot of
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people were already using Amazon and some of the other apps where you can have
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delivery, but those things became part of people's lives. I'll be the first
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one to say during COVID was the first time I used instacart. Traditionally,
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I had just always went to the grocery store. That's what I had always
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done, and I would, as many of you, would go to the
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grocery store and you get sidetracked and you pick up all these different things that
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you weren't intended to pick up, and your grocery bill was higher and the
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grocery trip was longer, and you didn't think anything of it. It was
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just the way you did things. And then COVID came along and we had
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some reservations about going into the store, and we started getting more creative because
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here it is, I'm working from home, but I need some things at
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the grocery store. How can I work from home and get the things I
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need at the grocery store. Oh wait a minute, instacart lives in the
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world outside. It wasn't born out of COVID, but we started looking at
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it as a different way to do things. And I want you to look
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at your life and see what things that you are doing that are outdated.
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It could be something as simple as instacart. It could be something as simple
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as, you know, having your groceries automatically sent at a certain time of
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day or a certain day of the week each month. I don't know what
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it is for you. It can be as simple as groceries. It can
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be as complex as finances. But some of the things that you are doing
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are outdated. And when you live customary to outdated activity, it is the
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absolute opposite of your innovation and the progress that you will see. Because when
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I started using insta cart, I started realizing that I have more free time
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and I can do things right, almost like having an assistant. I can
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do things that I otherwise would have to get in the car and get to
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drive to the grocery store, park the car, put on my mask,
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go in the grocery store, go through the lines and the checkout, get
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back to the car, load the car, and then drive back to my
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home. That's a lot of steps. When I can simply just add a
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couple things to my Instacart and then have it delivered in a couple of hours.
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That innovation is challenged or hindered when all you do is what you've always
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done. I'm going to encourage you to look into the different components, the
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different pillars of your life. It could be it could be how you exercise
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or if you are active. I'll give you another example. I like to
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walk out. That's how I get my movement, my exercise it. But
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it's dark till about seven thirty in the morning. It gets dark by five
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thirty in the evening. So traditionally I can just walk outside. I can
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put my shoes on. It's a no brainer. Put on my tennis shoes
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and walk outside, easy, breezy. Because things have changed with sunrise and
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sunset, that tradition of walking has in this season become outdated. Now by
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spring, that's going to change. But I'm in a season where I need
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to now start migrating to the gym. And I'll be honest, it's not
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easy to go from putting on my tennis shoes and walking out the door to
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putting on my tennis shoes, getting in the car, driving to the gym,
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and doing all the things right. So that's what I mean about challenging
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what you do and how some of those things can just become outdated sunrise and
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sunset that it's changed. So that means I have to change. And I
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want you to be willing to and able to pivot because you're gonna have to.
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You don't have a choice, right, you can't go into this happy
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new year and I'm going to be this different person, but you're not willing
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to take a look at the things that are outdated so that you can level
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up yourself. And so that's what happens when you don't allow tradition to stifle
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you, because you can get creative, you can start looking outside of what
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would be considered your norm to find some new things and find new ways of
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leveling up and you know, changing how we do the things we do.
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Traditions can be very oppressive. And when you think about oppressive, you know,
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we think about you know, how there's some restrictions and culture for women,
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for children, and things like that. When I think about oppression,
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I think of mental oppression. And Barb Marley says this in his song Emancipate
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Yourself from Mental Slavery. Tradition can keep us mentally enslaved to a certain thinking.
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We get out of this healthy ability to make decisions to just being restricted
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to group thinking. How you start to challenge these types of traditions and begin
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to promote this critical thinking or this willingness to go out on a limb and
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be different. You got to start asking questions why do we do the things
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we do this way? And I've mentioned this here because working in corporate America,
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there are times that we find ourselves with different projects and you would hear
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somebody say, well, we've already done that, and that kind of boxes
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the group's mental capacity to think, Okay, if we've already done that,
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we can't do it again. But we need to ask questions, well,
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why did we do it at that time? Like what problem were we trying
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to solve when we took that approach. That's a better question than to just
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walk away from it, right, What were we trying to solve at that
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time? And what are we trying to solve now? And how did we
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do it? We want to know why we did it that way and how
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we did it, Like what was the process in which we did that thing?
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We might have a completely different process because we now have new technologies,
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We have new so we have new talent on the team. This is not
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the same group of people. This is not the same tools and resources they
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had when they tried this ten years ago or five years ago, maybe even
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two years ago, right, because things change that quickly. So it's important
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to start asking questions, is there a better way to do this? Like
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we tried it this way, but is there a better way to do it?
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What did we learn that? And help us apply things differently. So
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that's where you need to be because when you do that, you start to
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expose people these maybe naysayers or the people who've been there, done that,
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got the T shirt. You're starting to expose them to a new way of
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thinking. You're starting to expose them to a new idea. I want you
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to have new ideas and new ways of thinking. As I've said on this
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podcast, and what this podcast is all about is in order for you to
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live the life that you desire, you gotta do the internal work. You
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got to re examine whatever it is. In this case, we're talking tradition.
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But once you start to do that internal work, and you start to
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reframe how you think about these things, and you start to ask these challenging
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questions, that's going to help you be better suited to go into this new
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year ready for the challenges that are going to come. Because I promise you
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the things you faced in twenty twenty are gonna be very different from the things
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that you face in twenty twenty four. And maybe they're not gonna be very
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different, but they're gonna be different. You're gonna run upon some new people
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and some new process and some new situations and in a new climate, in
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a new world. There's gonna be a lot of newness to this new year.
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We say happy New Year. That's the foundation of new year. New
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things are on their way, but you've got to be equipped to deal with
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those new things. Listen, this is not easy. It's not easy to
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it's not easy to challenge traditions or challenge the customs, but it is necessary.
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It is necessary to evaluate this critically because we can no longer afford to
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blindly follow what we've been following. I'm not saying you should dismiss the past,
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because there are some healthy traditions, some tradition that promote growth, and
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they help us understand more about who we are by understanding our past and our
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history. But what I'm saying is I want you to help pave your way,
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pave the way to your future, pave the way with innovation, innovative
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thinking, because that's a necessary part for your growth and your transformation. I
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