When Trauma Destroys Everything

Dad Starting Over · Mar 20, 2026 · 13m

How does someone hold their life together at a high level for years — career, marriage, kids — and then suddenly blow it all up?

I read a message from a follower whose wife unraveled after the death of her father. What followed was extreme weight loss, heavy drinking, multiple affairs, disappearing for days at a time, and eventually abandoning her family.

I don’t interrupt the story. I read it straight through — then I explain what’s actually going on beneath the surface.

We talk about unresolved childhood trauma, avoidant attachment, high-achievers who outrun their pain, and why some people…