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How To End Arguments Fast with Powerful Statements with Elisha Lee · Libido Lounge

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  Openness and honesty is extremely important.
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  Elijah s Lee is the owner of restoring your Christian counseling, host of Elijah's space
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  podcast, and published author and sought after speaker.
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  With a passion for holistic holistic healing, Elijah's empowers individuals to overcome
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  challenges and cultivate restoration in their lives through counseling, storytelling, and
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  practical tools.
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  Her authentic approach offers hope to navigating life's storms Whether through her
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  writing, counseling sessions, or speaking engagements, she inspires transformation and
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  purpose driven living.
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  Regular check ins, setting aside time to make sure that you're not having miscommunication.
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  I statements, when something happens, I feel, when this experience happens, I feel or I
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  notice instead of the you.
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  The regular check ins are extremely important because that is what keeps you connected to one
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  another.
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  The more you communicate, the more you're nurturing your relationship.
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  Hi, everybody.
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  Welcome back to another episode on the Libido Lounge.
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  I'm so excited to invite to the lounge a very special guest, a fairly recent new friend of
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  mine.
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  And before I invite her up, we're gonna talk so much.
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  As you heard in the intro, we're gonna talk so much about one of the key things in libido and
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  sexual wellness, which is communication.
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  And, of course, communication is not just about sexual intimacy.
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  It's about everything in our relationship, and it's really the foundation I feel for healthy
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  relationships as well as healthy sex lives.
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  Ninety two percent of people that say they have really healthy sex lives talk about it.
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  And in order to do so, we need to get conscious communication, effective communication, kind
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  communication.
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  We need to get the skills and the tools down for doing that, and that's what we're gonna do
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  today.
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  And before I bring Elisha up, we I also wanted to mention that those of us in the sexual
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  wellness and relationship space really need your help.
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  We are finding that even though we are talking about sexual wellness in ways of supporting
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  people and ways of helping people grow this part of the relationship, fall more in love, be
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  closer, approach this with kindness, compassion, with growth, and all these things,
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  that we are being censored on a lot of platforms.
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  This is not just me.
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  This is the hundreds and thousands of other people like me that are doing this work in the
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  world.
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  So the way we are able to reach others that need help is when you subscribe and share.
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  So before we get started, if you could do that and help us get around this shadowban world
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  where when we talk about sex in a conscious way, we're still getting banned on the
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  Internet, we would really appreciate you.
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  And then without further ado, thank you so much, my new friend.
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  Thank you for coming to the show, and welcome to the lounge.
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  Oh, thank you for having me.
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  I'm so excited to be here and to talk to you about this very extremely important topic.
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  It's actually something I'm extremely passionate about passionate about because
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  without communication, things kind of unravel.
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  So let's not let's talk about this so that we're not unraveling anymore.
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  Yeah.
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  You know, it's amazing to me in in looking at my own history of relationships and where I was
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  historically versus now.
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  And anytime I've ended relationships or, you know, they've ended for whatever reason,
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  whether if my doing or or somebody else's doing, always important to go back and reflect.
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  And it's amazing how many times in reflecting, you can look back and be like, well, that's
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  communication gone wrong, and that's communication gone wrong, and that's
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  communication gone wrong.
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  So I just think it happens so so so frequently.
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  So let's start, if you would, by just laying the foundation for us.
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  Like, what are kind of the foundational things that we need to be thinking about in
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  communication across the board in relationships, whether we're talking about sex
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  or whether we're talking about any other thing that we need to communicate about.
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  Where where do we start?
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  What what are some of those foundational strategies?
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  So openness and honesty.
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  Right?
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  Especially in the sexual wellness side of things.
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  Right?
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  So openness and honesty is extremely important.
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  Also do some regular check ins, setting aside time to make sure that you're not having
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  miscommunication in in certain things, being intentional, set setting space aside and saying
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  we're just going to communicate and talk during this period of time.
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  You know?
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  Because we can get so caught up doing tasks or some, in trying to manage things, you can miss
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  out on the meaningful part of communicating.
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  Right?
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  I statements.
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  When something happens, I feel when this experience happens, I feel or I notice instead
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  of the you and then making statements like I I feel hurt when or and rather than saying you
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  always ain't always speaking to the best of your ability on a respectful tone and letting
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  your body language portray that.
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  You know?
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  That's essential.
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  And, also, being, intentional about cultivating empathy within the conversation, trying to kind
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  of see yourself in your partner's shoes, seeing their perspective of things to lay the
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  groundwork for deeper communication?
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  So I was watching a movie recently.
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  It was, an old movie, I think, from, like, 2010, 2012, something like that, called
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  something like it's o life life over 40, something like that.
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  And there was a part of this movie where they were practicing, you know, clear the couple was
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  going to therapy, and they were, you know, practicing I statements and I feel statements.
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  And they were like they did a really good job.
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  The movie was, very cute of doing, like, a really good job of showing where, like, kind of
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  statements can go wrong.
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  So I wanna give this as an example and and then ask how people avoid the example I'm gonna give
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  you, which is in the movie, they were like, well, I feel that you are an asshole.
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  Right?
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  That was, like, what do
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  we say about the movie?
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  So you're using your I.
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  You got your feel word in there.
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  So it's like and I think, you know, like, nonviolent communication for anybody that
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  studied that type of work.
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  It's like, oh, you use your feel statements, and, you know, you have your feeling word list,
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  and and we can divert from that.
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  So how do we from that, how can you, like can you give us a little bit more, like, granular,
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  support there?
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  Because I I it's like we can get this, and it's like if we can see I feel like sometimes
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  there's this this thing that happens with knowledge where, like, if we know part of the
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  story but not, like, the whole story, then sometimes we can use it the wrong way and then
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  get the wrong, results.
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  So can you go into that that part a little bit more?
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  Okay.
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  So it could be said, I feel when this situation happens.
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  Like, I feel when I'm being ignored, when there's a football playing ball game showing or
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  whatever you wanna call it, that you're dismissing me or that you're and it hurts my
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  feelings.
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  So instead of saying, I feel that you're being an asshole, see, there's the you.
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  You are being an asshole.
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  So we have to avoid that you.
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  So being intentional about saying what that scenario looks like, providing the example of
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  what because the first thing somebody wants to do is, deflect or say, I'm not being an asshole
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  to you.
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  You mean, you're being a bitch.
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  You know what I mean?
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  So, you know, it that that's the first person some thing somebody wants to do.
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  But if you're providing an example of what that looks like to you, because it could be
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  misunderstanding of percept of of perception.
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  Right?
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  So when you're breaking that down as to what and providing examples because that person
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  could also be saying, oh, okay.
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  I didn't realize I was doing that.
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  You know?
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  Or I I didn't realize this was happening.
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  Or I realized this happened, but I didn't care.
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  But I don't care because I get that on the couch too.
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  You know?
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  I don't care about how and then that's another situation.
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  That's a situation that should you guys be really be a couple.
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  You know?
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  So those are the kinds of things that you that, are is a way to kinda flesh out the I feel
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  statements.
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  The I feel statements are intended for you to provide a more fleshed out example of what it
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  is you're referring to that's making you feel like your partner is being an asshole.
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  Yeah.
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  I'm gonna give you another that's helpful.
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  I'm gonna give you another example, or another question with an example just to help our
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  audience understand this more.
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  Because I know another thing that that comes up often, especially in hetero relationships be
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  just because of the difference between male brain and and female brain, but of course this
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  can happen in homosexual relationships as well, is that one partner will, like, try to
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  communicate something.
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  Like, for example, a partner will leave take out, like, the trash bag from the trash and
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  leave it by the door, you know, hoping their partner will take it out.
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  And then their partner walks by it, and and then it's like, you know, the partner that left
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  the trash bag there is like, well, what the heck?
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  Like, I left this here.
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  You didn't even grab it.
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  Like, you clearly want me to do all the work, and they formulate all these stories.
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  Mhmm.
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  And then, you know, and partner b is like, well, I didn't ever so focused on getting to
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  work or getting the kids or anything like I didn't even, like, it didn't even register in
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  my brain.
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  It's not that I was trying to ignore you, but it didn't even register in my brain.
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  Mhmm.
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  So what we have and and we can, like, you know, see examples like that all the time where
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  these, like there's this nonverbal communication, And one partner thinks, I I
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  clearly communicate it nonverbally, and the other partner is like, well, I didn't know.
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  So when somebody you know, these kind of things happen, and we have, like, partner, you know,
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  like, this buildup of this kind of animosity and this frustration and all these things, can
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  you just give us another real life example of, like, how we would break that down
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  foundationally to, address that just for, deeper understanding?
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  I found that assumption can be extremely dangerous.
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  Right?
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  So we never want to assume because we don't we're not that person that other person.
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  We are ourselves.
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  Right?
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  So we never want to kinda go in the world of assumption.
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  Even though you might know this person, as well as you think you know, you're still not that
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  person.
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  Right?
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  So it's dangerous to assume that someone else knows what you're thinking or what they're what
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  they're going to do because you don't know.
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  You we don't know.
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  So it's always best to be intentional with, you know, with empathy and be as being as honest as
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  you can.
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  Hey.
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  Do you mind picking up that that trash?
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  Or I left that out for you.
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  What's your schedule like today?
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  Like, not trying to assume that someone has the bandwidth to do something because we don't
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  always know what that other person's doing.
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  You get where I'm coming from?
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  So that's one of the best ways to handle that because it it's kinda like this like, to a
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  degree, it's because then you paint this narrative in your mind.
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  You go through these what if mindsets.
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  You know?
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  And and it's really just a matter of I just didn't see it, and I was trying to run out out
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  the door.
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  You know?
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  And I I had to get put some gas in the car.
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  And before I got to work, and I wanted to make sure I left early enough so that I can pick so
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  that I could do that, you know, those kinds of things.
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  You know?
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  So it's it's extremely dangerous to assume.
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  It's always best to ask open ended questions before getting to that place of drawing a
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  narrative around that.
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  And I'll say this too.
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  In the world of texting, sometimes it's better to go into verbal or or, FaceTime types of
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  conversations or face to face conversations versus a text because that person can't see
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  your body language.
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  That person will just see the text, and the tone of the text from their perception could
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  look like something it's really not.
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  Yeah.
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  I think it's such important advice.
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  It's like, think it's so quick that sometimes we send off and fire off these types of texts,
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  and we're just in a hurry.
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  And so it sounds you know, it's like maybe it maybe it even could be taken a certain way.
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  But all it is is somebody's in a hurry, and they're just, like, typing as fast as they can
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  to respond to something or talking to text as fast as they can.
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  And and, and it's really misconstrued.
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  So then what about, like because I think one of the things that happens and where these
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  conversations get into, like, these vicious cycles, right, is where The circular talk.
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  Yeah.
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  The circular talk and, like, and this, scenario where it's like if the conversation doesn't go
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  well.
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  You know, we already have, like, a pain happening, you know, in, like, whatever the
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  the, whatever the misunderstanding was or some sort of pain that's happening around that and
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  feelings.
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  And then if we take it to communication and the communication doesn't go well, that's like a
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  second arrow into the relationship.
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  And then, you know, and then sometimes it we can get into situations where it's like,
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  goodness.
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  Well, that didn't go well.
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  So now I'm gonna try a different strategy, and maybe I'm not even gonna bring it up and talk
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  at all.
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  And we start shoving things under the rug and, you know, and all of that.
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  So how is there any other, like, advice that you would give us and give our audience here
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  around in the conversations that we're having and, you know, using I feel words and making
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  sure we're staying out of the narrative and making sure we're not texting and we're
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  verbally communicating and all these things you're talking about.
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  Is there anything else that you would give to us to really help prevent that when we are
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  bringing these conversations up and we're we're communicating that we're actually preventing
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  that long term damage to the relationship.
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  That's why those regular check ins are extremely important.
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  That's why being intentional about setting up time just to talk to each other.
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  In the beginning of the relationship, that's how he started.
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  Really, it was talking.
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  Yeah.
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  Yeah.
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  Absolutely.
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  And then, you know, with that, my other, question with that is when it comes to this and
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  the regular the check ins, what does that look like?
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  Like, the what are the frequency of the regular check ins?
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  Is there a format of these regular check ins?
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  How how often do you recommend that, and, like, what do those check ins look like?
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  How can people kinda take that first step to doing this?
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  I think if you're able to, especially as busy as the life is today, try to do it every day,
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  you know, as much as you can.
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  So if you can't do it every day, every other day.
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  Because communication, the way you're talking to each other, that is the lifeblood of your
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  relationship.
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  That is what, helps you to survive.
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  That's what helps your connection.
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  You know?
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  That is what that is the beginning of the intimacy link between the two of you is really
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  being able to communicate.
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  And what that can look like, well, you get to define what that looks like to you.
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  So it can be prescribed as in you're like, what when I typically work with my clientele, I
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  typically talk with them about addressing any triggers that happened within the communication
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  of the day.
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  That's the time to get clarity around the trash bag, right, on that was left on the front step.
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  Or or that's the time to be able to understand, like, what that other person was thinking, when
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  it came to whatever the situation or the center.
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  That's the time to talk about parenting.
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  Maybe you have some contrasting parenting.
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  You don't agree with what what how one person did something and to get clarity about that
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  about those types of things.
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  So the regular check ins are extremely important because that is what keeps you
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  connected to one another.
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  And if that is what saves the that is what will save the relationship too.
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  It'll protect it'll protect it against infidelity.
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  It'll protect you guys from, being strong in your financial decisions.
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  It will help you with being able to notice any red flags of maybe you know, any red flags
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  within, that's outside of your family or couple circle, you know, is through communication.
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  So the regular check ins are extremely important.
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  And within that, not coming back at at that as a way to get that get a get back from that
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  person, But doing it within being conscientious of your body language and speaking with each
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  other in a respectful tone, wanting to get clarity with that mindset of clarity.
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  Let that frequency be.
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  I'm trying to better understand so that we can strengthen our bond.
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  That makes a lot of sense.
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  And I know a lot of our listeners are probably like, wow.
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  Every day, every other day.
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  Like, how do we have time for this?
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  So, you know, can you tell us a little bit more around, like like, okay.
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  How does this look?
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  Is this like something at the end of the day where you're asking a question such as, are you
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  you know, honey, I just wanna do our regular check-in.
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  Are you did anything come up for you that was, you know, you fresh were frustrated by, or how
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  did the day go?
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  How did our relationship is it, like, just kind of a quick, like, let me just ask you
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  questions.
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  Are you holding on to anything?
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  Did I upset you in any way?
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  Is is that what it is?
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  Like, just kinda, like, a quick clear of the air?
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  It's a quick clear of the air, and you get to pick when you wanna do it.
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  So because life is busy.
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  So if it's before you go to bed, if it's during, if it's a quick phone call in the
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  middle of the day, if it's in the morning while you're getting yourselves together, you know,
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  you get to decide how you wanna do it as it is the rhythm of your relationship.
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  Yeah.
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  And it doesn't have to and it doesn't have to be firm.
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  Like, it doesn't have to be it can alternate.
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  Like, you can you can you can alternate.
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  It doesn't have to be firm.
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  The point is just do it.
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  You know?
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  And and it doesn't have to be, like I was saying, like, every day, especially if you're
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  travel.
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  You know, like, you know, there's couples that travel or if it's but it's it's you get to pick
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  how you wanna do it.
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  You know?
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  And you get to pick the frequency of how you wanna do it.
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  I'm just saying the more you communicate, the more you're nurturing your relationship.
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  And the more you nurture your relationship, the stronger and the healthier it'll be.
• 24:19
  Yeah.
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  That's very fair.
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  And I wanna give everybody an action step right now around, like, I would, you know, make a
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  point today because we know we only get results when we take action.
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  So I'd make a point today to talk to your partner around, like, when do we want our
• 24:36
  regular check ins to be?
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  What is our schedule?
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  What does this look like?
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  And schedule it.
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  You know?
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  It's like, you know, like, what you're saying around, like, it could be middle of the day.
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  So whether that's, like, the same time every day or it's a check-in Sunday night once a week
• 24:50
  to be like, what's your work schedule like this this week?
• 24:52
  When can we fit this in?
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  But we need to actually have some sort of, like, operational logistical plan of when we're
• 24:59
  gonna do this because, otherwise, you know, what I've seen, I think so many other people
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  see is, like, if it's not in the schedule, probably not gonna get attended to.
• 25:06
  So so much great stuff today.
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  We are continuing everybody in part two where we're gonna talk with Elijah even more on how
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  to listen better, how to work with communication when our relationships are
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  changing changing.
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  So let's say we have this down and then we have a kid or then somebody has a, you know, some
• 25:28
  sort of travel schedule where they're traveling around the world every week for their job.
• 25:33
  You know, these types of things, we're gonna talk about those in part two as well as how to
• 25:38
  really build upon this and build more tools for that stronger communication.
• 25:43
  So all of that is coming in part two.
• 25:45
  But before we go there, I wanna make sure that we give you the opportunity because I know some
• 25:50
  people are gonna wanna take next steps.
• 25:52
  How do people get ahold of you?
• 25:53
  Tell us a little bit about, like, how people get ahold of you.
• 25:56
  What are the next steps with, you know, working with you, that sort of thing, and, of course,
• 26:00
  everything.
• 26:01
  That is a link we will include in the show notes.
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  Okay.
• 26:04
  Great.
• 26:05
  So I'm at restoringyouchristiancounseling.com, y o u, on at that website.
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  So you can go into that website.
• 26:14
  You can pull it up.
• 26:15
  I usually have, psychoeducation groups for married couples that are usually, like, cohorts
• 26:23
  or things of that nature.
• 26:24
  You can check that out as well.
• 26:27
  So those are the kinds of things if you wanna reach out, or you can give me a call.
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  (443) 860-6870.
• 26:34
  And you can always check out, the podcast to get information on different types of
• 26:40
  relationship advice as well as sexual wellness.
• 26:43
  As a matter of fact, you're on there you're you're on the show too.
• 26:47
  So
• 26:48
  I am.
• 26:48
  Check that out.
• 26:50
  Absolutely.
• 26:51
  Yep.
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  And we will have all of those links in the show notes.
• 26:55
  So thank you again for joining us.
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  And, everybody, I hope you will join us for part two where we're gonna go even deeper on
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  this conversation.
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  We will see you all there.
• 27:07
  Thank you for listening to the Libido Lounge.
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