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243: Jumpstart Challenge Day 5 - Act with Interest · JOY LOVING HOME - SAHM, Productivity, Home Organization, Declutter, ADHD Mom, ADHD SAHM, ADHD Brain

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  Welcome back to day five of our Jumpstart Challenge.
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  Each day I have been suggesting just a quick 15-minute exercise to just get
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  you moving, get you started, and we all know starting is literally often the hardest part.
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  So if you have missed any of these and you're interested in hearing about any
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  more of this challenge, each day stands alone and can be done at any time that
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  you just need a little boost.
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  So as a quick recap on day one, which was episode 239, I described what it's like to do a spit clean.
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  In episode 240, it was our before and after time lapse challenge.
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  Episode 241 was trying the roll with it gamification challenge.
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  Episode 242 was the micro task challenge of quick wins.
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  And today we're going to talk about the act with interest challenge.
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  It'll be right after this.
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  A wise person once said, Everybody is a genius, but if you judge a fish by its
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  ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it's stupid.
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  Well, Fish, quit trying to climb trees while getting advice from well-intentioned monkeys.
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  It's time to jump in the water and learn how to swim with the current of your life.
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  I'm Joy, a professional organizer, mom of four, and fellow Fishbrain.
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  If you're looking for a place to get understanding, encouragement,
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  and ideas for your home that actually fit how your brain thinks,
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  then I'm glad you're here.
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  Let's ditch the type A advice and embrace what makes our brains and our homes unique.
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  Together, we could have a joy-loving home.
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  As I have shared before, none of these ideas are new.
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  They're just me compiling them and putting them in a row and some quick descriptions
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  so that you can get up, get moving, get going, find a place to start.
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  That's the whole point of this, because if we can get ourselves into motion,
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  the motion is what leads to the motivation. So I am hopeful that that's what
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  this little series is leading to.
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  Okay, so for our last day, we are going to do what I'm calling the Act with
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  Interest Challenge, but in a prior podcast, I called this Senseless Organizing.
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  So if you stumble across that podcast and you're like, eh, that sounds familiar,
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  same thing, just giving it a new title because why not?
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  So what I'm wanting you to do today is instead of sitting here thinking about
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  what we should be working on,
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  which is probably our kitchen or an entryway or the living room we're sitting
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  in that just looks like chaos.
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  We need to lean into that urge we have to go do something that actually interests us.
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  And who knows what that interest could be? Sometimes they're just wild and we
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  fight them and I'd like you to just lean into it.
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  Sometimes it's about straightening up the cabinet under the laundry room sink
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  that is in a closed door that nobody sees but you.
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  It doesn't have to make sense. Sometimes
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  it's you glance into the chaotic playroom and there's a little table that is
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  covered with yuck and for some reason you just have this strange desire to sweep
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  everything off of it and dig through everything and find a little tea set and
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  set it up like it's a tea set.
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  Because then every time you walk by that later in the day, you're just going
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  to smile because it's one space that's actually set up that you know your kid's
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  going to get so excited to see when you pick them up from school later.
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  It can be your nightstand because you saw some little picture on Pinterest and
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  you hadn't thought about adding that little flower next to the clock next to
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  the open book with a pair of reading glasses on it,
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  which is so staged and ridiculous, but you just want to see what it looks like.
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  Again, I could have kept calling this the senseless challenge,
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  but I'm just wanting you to take action wherever your interest lies,
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  which is what the act with interest is about.
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  We will keep ourselves from this because we feel like it's not the responsible
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  thing to do, or we can't do what we want to do until we do what we have to do.
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  How many times have you heard that refrain in your head?
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  It's not okay to go do something I want to do. I feel guilty doing something
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  I want to do because look at all this stuff I have to get done,
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  all this stuff I have to be working on and I really just want to go do this instead.
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  I would love for us to erase that from our minds because two things are happening
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  when we tell ourselves that kind of message.
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  One is that we keep ourselves paralyzed because when we cannot get our bodies
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  to move towards what we have to do, then we don't do anything at all,
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  which is more damaging than going off and doing something you want to do.
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  Because like I said, action is the antidote to being stuck, right?
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  We just need to get our bodies into motion in some capacity.
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  And if that means you go do something you want to do, go do something you want to do. It's okay.
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  But the probably more damaging thing it does when we tell ourselves that story
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  is we are creating this belief that just the natural act of caring for our homes
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  is a chore or it's punishment.
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  And that until we do what we have to do, we can't take action on the things
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  that make us happy in our life.
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  And that's really sad.
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  It reminds me a little bit of what kind of happened to vegetables.
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  I know this is a weird segue, but for years and years, we told kids,
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  unless you eat all your vegetables, you can't have dessert.
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  And it wasn't the vegetables' fault, but we put vegetables in the light as if they were punishment.
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  We put them in the light as if they were just this horrible thing that you have
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  to get through to get to the good stuff.
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  And then we elevated dessert like it was some end-all be-all,
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  but that we had to keep ourselves from it.
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  If we just treated all food neutrally, then vegetables might not seem so unappealing.
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  And to continue with this analogy, if we're doing that in our homes and we allow
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  ourselves to just go into the motion of whatever our brain is telling us to go act on,
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  we might turn around and find ourselves in the kitchen doing some dishes.
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  And we don't even know how we got there, but it didn't seem like a chore.
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  It didn't seem like something we were punishing ourselves for so that we could get to the good part.
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  And so I want us to take that off the table.
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  Let's get rid of that. Just like we've tried to create a healthier relationship
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  with kids and food these days.
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  Let's create a healthier relationship with you and what it means to keep your
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  house, to care for it, to just love it because you've been blessed with it.
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  It's a lovely thing to want to care for something that you feel special about.
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  Think about anything else that you've ever gotten that you're really proud.
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  It was a lovely gift from a loved one, or it was something you worked really
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  hard and saved up for and got.
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  And I don't know why we don't see our houses, our homes, as something that is
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  so special that we have, that we could start saying, it isn't a chore to take
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  care of you. It's a privilege to take care of you.
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  It's a gift to take care of you. It's a gift that I have it at all.
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  And so with that in mind, my ask for this morning is go ahead and set the 15-minute timer.
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  Literally look around and whatever is calling your name, go head over to that.
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  Do it. Do it for at least 15 minutes with abandon, without guilt,
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  without worry that there's something else that you should be doing.
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  And just do the thing you want to do. Do the thing that you feel that you could
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  take action on and then just see where the day leads.
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  Let me know. I'd be very curious to have you share.
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  If you have enjoyed this series, I hope that you'll stick around.
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  It is always my aim to post one a week.
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  It's also my aim that it would be on a Tuesday.
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  It doesn't happen that way.
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  They will tell you to be successful in this business. you have to consistently,
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  consistently publish a podcast on the exact same day.
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  Oh, well, if you are my sincere audience, you get this.
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  You get why I consider consistency to be a bit of an ugly word.
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  I'm just going to keep putting them out. I'm going to keep putting podcasts
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  out as ideas jump into my brain and I can't wait to sit down and hit the record
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  button and then hit the publish button and send them out to you.
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  And if that's something you're enjoying and you like the loose,
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  free existence of this, then please follow
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  subscribe whatever you do on your podcast listening
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  app so that you're around when I do drop and if
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  you are enjoying it and think somebody else you know
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  could really use some kind loving words about
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  how to not feel bad about their homes then please rate and review it would mean
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  so much to me if you would take 30 seconds to do that and if you want to connect
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  with me there are so many ways I will put links in the show notes but you can
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  do an email at joy at joylovinghome.com.
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  You can reach out to me on DMs and Instagram.
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  You'll notice I don't post much there, but I do get the DMs.
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  I have a free community that you get to by going to bit.ly at joylovinghomecommunity,
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  and I have a paid membership that is $10 a month.
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  You join and cancel anytime, but we do accountability sessions in there with
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  like-minded women who just want to work together on something,
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  and it gives us the little extra boost that we have some accountability to do it.
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  I send out monthly themes, kind of like what I did with the challenge here.
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  Where there's just something new we're allowing our brains to focus on that
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  helps keep us moving, and we change it every month because even finding something
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  that works doesn't mean it will be something that sticks.
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  So thank you for joining me for this challenge, and until next time, continue to choose joy.