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Too soft? Try me! From Tense Meetings To Clear Conversations · Work Stress Anxiety | Burnout Prevention & Work Anxiety Help

• 0:27
  SPEAKER_00: This is ABGW.
• 0:30
  SPEAKER_00: Amazing, brilliant, gorgeous, wonderful.
• 0:33
  SPEAKER_00: Five minutes to reset work stress with me, Cheryl Paris.
• 0:38
  SPEAKER_00: We keep it human, practical, and a little wiry, but take what helps and leave the rest.
• 0:52
  SPEAKER_00: If you ever thought, lovely idea, Cheryl, but this all seems a bit fluffy.
• 0:59
  SPEAKER_00: Well, you're not wrong to want proof.
• 1:01
  SPEAKER_00: You're busy, right?
• 1:03
  SPEAKER_00: You need something that works under the fluorescent lights.
• 1:12
  SPEAKER_00: So picture this.
• 1:14
  SPEAKER_00: It's Tuesday morning, a performance review morning, email dread, stomach feels like someone's punched it.
• 1:24
  SPEAKER_00: I used to walk in braced, smiling too hard, hoping that the other person would set the tone, and they didn't.
• 1:34
  SPEAKER_00: I learned the hard way that waiting is still a decision.
• 1:41
  SPEAKER_00: It's a decision.
• 1:42
  SPEAKER_00: So I tested one lever only state.
• 1:48
  SPEAKER_00: No speeches, just physiology.
• 1:52
  SPEAKER_00: I arrived, feet planted, breathing longer on the out.
• 2:01
  SPEAKER_00: I softened my jaw, I rolled back my shoulders, chose one word clear, and opened with.
• 2:19
  SPEAKER_00: Small move, big, big ripples.
• 2:24
  SPEAKER_00: You see, the thing is, us humans, we mirror.
• 2:28
  SPEAKER_00: We think pace, we think tone, we think posture.
• 2:35
  SPEAKER_00: And that's not soft, that's actually biologically what we're designed to do.
• 2:41
  SPEAKER_00: You know it yourself.
• 2:43
  SPEAKER_00: Your state leaks out before your words arrive.
• 2:49
  SPEAKER_00: Which is why rooms brace when you brace and loosen when you loosen.
• 2:55
  SPEAKER_00: Want tangible, clearer meetings, cleaner meetings, fewer misunderstandings, less back channel theater.
• 3:06
  SPEAKER_00: And the thing is, and one of the things I really enjoy is that you might not even notice applause, but you will notice less reworking.
• 3:16
  SPEAKER_00: Your calendar becomes lighter because conversations land cleaner when you have cleaner language in what you say and how you present yourself.
• 3:30
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so let's choose state as a single leverage today, and if this helps, I'd like you to try this 60 second door-to-desk reset.
• 3:44
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, notice both the feet.
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  SPEAKER_00: Inhale quietly, exhale twice as long, and repeat that three times.
• 3:58
  SPEAKER_00: Inhale quietly, exhale twice as long.
• 4:04
  SPEAKER_00: Sense shoulders dropping, jaw softening, eyes widening a fraction, so you take in more of your peripheral vision.
• 4:17
  SPEAKER_00: Choose one word for this meeting.
• 4:21
  SPEAKER_00: Curious, clear, warm, steady, playful, open with one real line.
• 4:33
  SPEAKER_00: What would make this useful?
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  SPEAKER_00: You can turn the intensity down first if you want to, and then you can always turn it back up later.
• 4:43
  SPEAKER_00: The thing is, it's your choice.
• 4:47
  SPEAKER_00: Script to prove control today.
• 4:50
  SPEAKER_00: I've got 20 minutes.
• 4:52
  SPEAKER_00: What outcome would be genuinely useful for you?
• 4:56
  SPEAKER_00: Put it on, put it in that one meeting and notice what changes.
• 5:02
  SPEAKER_00: Notice.
• 5:04
  SPEAKER_00: Not making judgments, just being aware.
• 5:08
  SPEAKER_00: Tomorrow, I won't remember this.
• 5:13
  SPEAKER_00: There's no time.
• 5:15
  SPEAKER_00: You've heard that saying.
• 5:17
  SPEAKER_00: We'll build the habit inside that chaos.
• 5:25
  SPEAKER_00: Now, if you feel unsafe or overwhelmed, please don't white knuckle it.
• 5:31
  SPEAKER_00: Speak to your GP or your organization support or a qualified professional like myself.
• 5:38
  SPEAKER_00: Because every step you take, no matter how small, is a step towards a brighter, more balanced future.
• 5:47
  SPEAKER_00: Trust in your journey and remember progress is progress no matter the pace.
• 5:54
  SPEAKER_00: Bye for now.