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Moon Phases & Feminine Power: Your Weekly Cycle Sync | Full Moon Eclipse | How to Regulate Yourself During Intense Seasons” · Healing Her Story with Riva Jean-Paul

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  SPEAKER_00: Hello and welcome to today's episode of the Healing Her Story Podcast.
• 1:44
  SPEAKER_00: Today we are gathering for another Moon Phases and Feminine Power weekly cycle sync episode.
• 1:53
  SPEAKER_00: If this is your first time here, welcome.
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  SPEAKER_00: I believe that you have found your way to this episode in the perfect right timing and way.
• 2:02
  SPEAKER_00: And for those of you returning, welcome back.
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  SPEAKER_00: It again, truly such an honor that you choose to spend this time with me, that you choose to press play every week, that you really choose to have me literally in your ears.
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  SPEAKER_00: So again, just really appreciating you being here today.
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  SPEAKER_00: This week we are tuning to the full moon.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it isn't just any full moon.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, it is another eclipse.
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  SPEAKER_00: And as we've been saying, the past couple of weeks, eclipses tend to accelerate things.
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  SPEAKER_00: We might be experiencing more endings, more revelations, unexpected shifts.
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  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes it can feel like life is speeding up or kind of moving outside of our comfort zone.
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  SPEAKER_00: And maybe you've been feeling it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know I have been feeling it.
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  SPEAKER_00: There have been several deaths in my family over the past month or so.
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  SPEAKER_00: My part-time work with kiddos during the day has become especially demanding.
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  SPEAKER_00: The school that I work at, the public school that I work at.
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  SPEAKER_00: The teachers may be going on strike if they're not already on strike by the time this episode is airing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And collectively, there's just a lot happening.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a lot moving through the field and can be really, really, really intense time.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we're going to take a moment here, as we always do, as we get started here, to just be present with what is here and to bring awareness into your inner world and to really meet however you are in this moment, whether you're tired or frustrated or maybe energized or excited, wherever you might be, seeing what it would be like to just meet yourself here for a minute.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it might feel nice to take a couple of deep breaths as you do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you want to place a hand on the heart.
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  SPEAKER_00: And as you take this moment, seeing if there might be one to three words that you might use to describe what you're experiencing in your inner world here and now.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we'll take a minute to do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if it was, and even if it wasn't, that's okay too.
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  SPEAKER_00: But maybe just taking a moment here to note anything that may have stood out to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: To give you a little insight as to where I am today.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am recording this week ahead of time because last week I fell a little behind.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so I am on cycle day 13, the same cycle day I was on in last week's episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: Again, because I'm recording this one right after to ensure this that this gets to you at the time that I would like it to get to you.
• 7:18
  SPEAKER_00: And as far as how I'm doing, how I'm feeling, definitely feeling a little low energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if there's just something going on in the air, if something's happened in my birth chart with the transits, or yeah, if it's more a reflection of my hormonal shifts.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not that I've stopped taking it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've run out of an herb, a Chinese herb I've been taking for several months now from my acupuncturist, and part of me wonders if that was helping out a lot more than I than I noticed.
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  SPEAKER_00: So definitely looking forward to getting back on track with that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And yeah, also sometimes that contrast can be so helpful because sometimes when we are trying things and experimenting things, like I always am, I don't always do one thing at once.
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  SPEAKER_00: I get really excited to try a bunch of things, and I will sometimes try a lot of things at one time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so when that happens, I know that it can be really hard to discern what is the one thing that's actually moving the needle.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when I have this period of not taking something, I'm able to see, ah, okay, I'm feeling much different than I normally do around this time.
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  SPEAKER_00: What's changed?
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  SPEAKER_00: Ah, I'm not taking that herb I was taking.
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  SPEAKER_00: So again, that's confirming for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now I know that that herb is something that I will be prioritizing in the coming cycles.
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  SPEAKER_00: Always learning, always learning, and and so much together when we really become aware of our cycles and what's happening in our bodies.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am constantly tracking everything inside and what's going on in my body and and how I'm feeling and how I'm experiencing life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I always get such rich, rich information from that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's dive into where we are in the lunar rhythm this week.
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  SPEAKER_00: As I've mentioned, it's a full moon, it's also a full moon eclipse, and we've already named this intensity that we're potentially sitting in right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the full moon really does offer an antidote for that intensity.
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  SPEAKER_00: The full moon is associated with the season of summer and also with ovulation, with fullness and culmination.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when we're looking through the lens of the archetype, it's also associated with the archetype of the mother.
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  SPEAKER_00: When intensity rises, what sues the nervous system is not control, it's care.
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  SPEAKER_00: And from a psychological perspective, self-compassion practices have been shown to reduce cortisol levels and increase heart rate variability.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is a marker of nervous system flexibility and resilience.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we meet ourselves with warmth instead of criticism, that threat response begins to soften.
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  SPEAKER_00: Kristen Neff's research on self-compassion shows that people who respond to themselves with kindness during stress are actually more motivated and more emotionally resilient, not less.
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  SPEAKER_00: In attachment science, secure attachment builds our ability to regulate ourselves internally.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when that external caregiving was inconsistent or absent, many of us learned to override our own needs.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so when we're talking about mothering ourselves, this isn't an indulgent thing, but rather the potential to be a deeply reparative thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you didn't receive the kind of care you needed as a child, being asked to care for yourself can bring up a lot of grief.
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  SPEAKER_00: It can feel unfair, it can stir anger, resentment.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I really see this all as part of the reparenting journey, even with its discomfort and its complexity.
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  SPEAKER_00: And in my own experience, I have found that at some point I had to stop looking externally for that love and that support that I never received.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I had to begin offering it to myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And perhaps it wasn't perfect in the beginning.
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  SPEAKER_00: What I found to be most helpful was the consistency.
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  SPEAKER_00: And in the sessions that I hold, I see this time and time and time and time and time and time again.
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  SPEAKER_00: When someone truly meets their anxious part, their angry part, their depressed part, not with shame or the need to rush or change, but with this presence, this pure loving awareness and presence.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those parts soften.
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  SPEAKER_00: They loosen their grip every single time.
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  SPEAKER_00: The right tone, the right pace, the right breath, the right internal self-talk can cue the nervous system to move out of the fight or flight survival states and into a place of connection, of rest and repair.
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  SPEAKER_00: And for many women, the shadow of the mother archetype is martyrdom.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's when you're caring for everyone else while neglecting for yourself and somehow seeing that as a badge of honor.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this chronic self-sacrifice, it increases the stress load.
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  SPEAKER_00: And over time it leads to burnout, inflammation, depletion, resentment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because eventually your well begins to run dry.
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  SPEAKER_00: The full moon asks us, or rather, you are invited this week to explore how can you mother yourself?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where can you meet the intensity with softness, with compassion?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where and how can you offer yourself warmth instead of pressure?
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  SPEAKER_00: To support you this week, I've included a donation-based, trauma-informed somatic meditation for you in the show notes.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is a practice to help you access that grounded, compassionate, loving presence inside of yourself.
• 15:48
  SPEAKER_00: This week we will be taking this Friday off.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I encourage you, if you haven't listened to any of our replays for Pisces Season, to take the time to tune into those this week.
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  SPEAKER_00: We'll be back next week with our weekly cycle sync and also with our final replay for Pisces season.
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  SPEAKER_00: Until then.