S3E25 - "That's Mine!" Understanding Possessive Behavior in Kids

Play Therapy Parenting: Real Parenting Questions Answered by a Child Therapist · Jan 7, 2026 · 8m · transcript

In this episode, I answer a question from Melissa about children who are possessive of their things and struggle with sharing. I explain why phrases like "that's mine" are often tied to power and control, and why this behavior is also developmentally appropriate, especially for younger children. Kids only have control over a few areas of their lives, so when they feel powerless, they grab control wherever they can — including toys and people. Understanding this helps parents respond without frustration or shame.

I walk through how to use reflection of feeling, choice giving, and clear limits…