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Design a Daily Structure That Actually Works | Ep 138 · The Driven Athlete

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  SPEAKER_00: If you're a driven, active person who wants to reach and pursue a higher quality life with some ambition, then guess what?
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  SPEAKER_00: This podcast is for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the Driven Athlete Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: What's up, y'all?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's your man Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Kyle.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to the Driven Athlete Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: Daily structure, I think, has been a game changer for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, by no means am I perfect, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I'm not, I'm an imperfect human and I can always improve on making things more efficient, better reflection.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, but uh having mentors, other people that I want to be like, things that I've um been exposed to that I'm like, I'm gonna implement that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um I'm gonna implement this because I think it was really helpful.
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  SPEAKER_00: And just a little share insights of like what that is, what I've done when I went for me, and maybe um how it uh might pertain to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: But um, I think daily structure, first thing being like, let's take a look.
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  SPEAKER_00: Imagine it's December 31st at the end of the year, and you're there and you spend a whole year.
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  SPEAKER_00: And at the end of the year, you're like, this is amazing.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm living like the best.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, this is exactly what I want to do with my life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, I'm living it, like I'm not missing any pieces that make me feel like I'm not living a fulfilling life that I enjoy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that comes down to like, what do you enjoy?
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  SPEAKER_00: What do you, what do you want?
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  SPEAKER_00: I think the first question is, what do you want?
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  SPEAKER_00: What is it that you want?
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, where uh at the end of the year, it's like this is exactly I've designed my life exactly what I want to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where the other question would be, no, I'm not living the way that I want.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I'm I'm missing some pieces.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, what what is that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, what do you feel like you're missing?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where if you added those things in, then you would be living fully, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I'm fully enjoying now, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, what things do you feel like you're missing?
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  SPEAKER_00: Start with what, I think.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then following, if y'all know Simon Senec, huge fan too.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, start with why.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think why is the second question.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think the first question is, what?
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  SPEAKER_00: What is it that you want?
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  SPEAKER_00: What do you really want?
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  SPEAKER_00: What does your life look like?
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  SPEAKER_00: And for me personally, it looks like, well, I want to have a close, um, authentic relationship with my wife.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to have a close, authentic, meaningful relationship with my kids, all right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Bonding, emotional resonance and bonding.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, I want to uh be fit, like physically, not in pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, that's number one.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't want to be in pain so I can like do fun physical things and not be hampered, but like, oh, I can't go surfing or I can't play with you uh kids in the soccer on the in the front yard because my back hurts or my ankle hurts, my knee, like whatever.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I want to be um not in pain, physically fit, um, lean, muscular, um helps with confidence and physique, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Strong.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, I enjoy exercising.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think it feels good to exercise my body.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to be flexible and limber.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um I want to be um always reflect like learning and growing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um I want to be um having a uh practice that's that's um growing and and successful and and robust and helping people.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, like, um, and then I'll also enjoy like water.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I want to go on the beach.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to paddleboard or surf, swim, some kind of water element.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I start writing a list.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, make a list.
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  SPEAKER_00: What is it that you want in your life that you feel like you're missing that if you added them in, you'd be living fulfilled, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, those those things would be on my list.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, exercise four days a week, go on the beach at least once a week for like for like an hour, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like it's not that hard to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: I enjoy playing golf, but like I can't play 18 holes a week with my kids.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, I'm not a dad, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm a business owner.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I need to be present.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what if I like played nine holes once a week?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or just hit balls?
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  SPEAKER_00: What if I hit balls once a week and every other week I played nine holes?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or it's like hit balls, play nine holes, hit balls, play nine holes.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, that's on my list.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, I want to have meaningful family time.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, that's on my list.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, I want to get eight hours of sleep a night.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's on my list.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, I want to practice the piano uh six days a week, maybe even seven.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, all right, but that's on the list.
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  SPEAKER_00: I need to work, all right?
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  SPEAKER_00: I need to like work significant hours during the week.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not ex a balance, not excessively, but I want to work.
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  SPEAKER_00: I need to work.
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  SPEAKER_00: I like helping people.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, that's another podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like, what's your vocation?
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  SPEAKER_00: What's your purpose?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, I think the work that I do is meaningful and I enjoy it, and I want to exercise my talents, knowledge, and skills and help people and build the practice.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's also that's um it fulfilling and enjoying enjoyment for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I get to build a successful entity that I can bring on team members that fulfills their life too, not only just helping our patients, but also our team members.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, those will be all maybe all the things on the list that I have.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, so those are all the list things.
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  SPEAKER_00: How am I gonna fit those in during the week?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, here's what I did.
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  SPEAKER_00: I got a suggestion.
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  SPEAKER_00: Block scheduling on an Excel spreadsheet.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm a nerd.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, if you're a nerd with me, let's rock.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's what we do.
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  SPEAKER_00: You get an Excel spreadsheet and you break it up columns by seven days a week: Sunday column, Monday column, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday column.
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  SPEAKER_00: So each has an individual column.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then down the rows, broken down to 30-minute intervals.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: What time to fit all these things that you want to get in?
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  SPEAKER_00: You have a work schedule.
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  SPEAKER_00: Outside of work, you also have personal schedule.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's what those personal fulfillment hobbies, activities, um, would life energy giving um activities would be outside of work hours, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and then start building out on Sunday every 30-minute block.
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  SPEAKER_00: What time do you want to wake up?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, what's ideal?
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  SPEAKER_00: This is ideal vision and design.
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  SPEAKER_00: Man, I'm I would love to be a morning person, but I can't.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like you can't.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just you just have to do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just does the pain of um not being the version that you want to be, does that pain outweigh the pain of the change you're trying to make?
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  SPEAKER_00: If the pain that you're trying to make is less than the pain of you staying stuck where you are, then you'll make the change, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like the pain of being where you are uh sucks worse than the pain required to make the change, all right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um so that would be the litmus test.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's like the that's that's ultimately what people, why people change.
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  SPEAKER_00: But anyways, like I said, this is design.
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  SPEAKER_00: What time do you want to wake up?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, it's like, man, I feel great.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is what this would be amazing if I live my life like this.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, I want to wake up at 6 a.m.
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  SPEAKER_00: every day.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: So wake up at 6 a.m.
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  SPEAKER_00: So from 5.59 prior sleep, 6 a.m.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, I'm gonna wake up and I wanna uh do like a meditation or a journal on Sunday morning, all right, for like 30 minutes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then I want to eat breakfast and then make my kids breakfast.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then we go to church, all right?
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  SPEAKER_00: We go to church, and then when we get uh home, we usually have family time, like for the rest of the whole day.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's literally family time from 11:30 a.m.
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  SPEAKER_00: till I go to bed.
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  SPEAKER_00: What time do you want to go to bed though?
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  SPEAKER_00: If you wake up at six, we want to get eight hours and you go to bed at 10, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So from 1001 to 10 o'clock block down to be sleep.
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  SPEAKER_00: Prior to that would be 9:30, 9 p.m., 8:30 p.m., 8 p.m.
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  SPEAKER_00: So like those last waning hours, kids are already asleep.
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  SPEAKER_00: He has some one-on-one time with wife.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and then um that would be like the my piano time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I have to I can't practice the piano with my kids awake because they're just gonna be all over me and the kid, I can't concentrate.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then um, if I spend a little bit of time with my wife and then play the piano.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's like my structure on a Sunday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Monday, same thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wake up at maybe 5:30 if I've if I have a patient at seven, um, and then maybe do a little devotional reading or something like that with breakfast.
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  SPEAKER_00: I wake up at 6 or 5:30, um, eat breakfast, do a devotional little reading, a little reflection time, then drive to work.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'll leave my house at like 6:15, um, or let's say 6:30, just for the sake of the 30-minute block on the Excel spreadsheet.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then I work from um 7 a.m.
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  SPEAKER_00: until maybe three, all right, and then from our four, sorry, and then but I want to work out four days a week.
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  SPEAKER_00: So where do I fit that in?
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, I fit fit that in.
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  SPEAKER_00: I like to do it before lunch because after I eat lunch, then it's like um I need to do afternoon administrative and development stuff for the practice.
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  SPEAKER_00: So um I want to eat, I want to work, work to see patients from 7 to 11, work out from 11 to 12, lunch, 12 o'clock, and then administrative stuff from 12:30 on.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then I have all that's that time from 12:30 to 3:30 to work on stuff and I leave at 3:30 to be home at 4.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then the rest of the whole afternoon is just all family time.
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  SPEAKER_00: From 4 until the kids go to bed at 7:30.
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  SPEAKER_00: At 8, we're cleaning up the house.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I mean, we're just we're just cleaning dishes and sweeping the floor of quinoa and rice and all the crumbs and stuff like that and cleaning up toys.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then from nine until I go to bed at 10, that's when I practice the piano.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and then um Wednesday afternoons, if I leave a little earlier, Friday afternoon, maybe, I leave an hour earlier than I normally would.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then I'd go hit balls at the golf course before I go home.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I can still be home at four o'clock.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just need to leave a little bit earlier to get golf balls in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Saturday morning, um, I mean, Saturdays is basically all family time.
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  SPEAKER_00: The entire day is family structured, family fun time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, well, what if I like, I want to go to the beach?
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  SPEAKER_00: How can I fit that in with a family?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, what if I go first thing in the morning at like 7 a.m.
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  SPEAKER_00: and take one of my kids with me and have some one-on-one bonding time?
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  SPEAKER_00: And maybe I'll alternate weeks with each kid and go for an hour and then be home by nine, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And then have uh another snack, have a snack, mid-morning snack with the kiddos, and then we're chilling, you know, like we're family fun structure stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: If it's soccer games or just go to the playground, um, go to the zoo, the science museum, like whatever, um, swim in our pool, stuff like that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, like everything gave me structured out.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I actually did do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then that has been really helpful, as in like, it's it was enlightening and reflecting, as in like, um, these are the things that I want that I would love to have included in my life to make me feel fulfilled in enjoyment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, just like list them out.
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  SPEAKER_00: What are the life energy-giving activities that give you enjoyment that you're like, I love my life?
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  SPEAKER_00: I like I'm doing a lot of fun things, versus like, I don't do anything, like I'm super frustrated.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it ends up leading to resentment, maybe towards your kids and your wife and your family or whatever.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what I've been told, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: I can see that happening.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, it's it makes sense.
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  SPEAKER_00: But ultimately, quoting Jocko Willink is my I like this, is extreme ownership, as in like you are a collection of all the decisions you've made throughout your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Currently, that is self-responsibility, as in like I am the direct result of all the choices I've made up to this point, um, barring some kind of accident you can't control, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, like that, that happens.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, outside of that, um, with relationships, your setup, with your life structure, your body physique, outside of uncontrollable factors, as in like some kind of health disease or a car accident or something that happened, like an accident of some sort.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, ultimately, we are a collection of all the choices that we've made up to this point.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's a hard pill to swallow because it's directly looking at self-accountability and self-responsibility.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that's the extreme ownership kind of like philosophy that Jocko Willink, if y'all are familiar, that I'm, I mean, I aspire, I like that, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because it ultimately gives me the control of like this is my life.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can do whatever I want.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can hang out with whoever I want.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can structure my schedule however I want.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, I know it's tricky if somebody has like a full-time job.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, just schedule it out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like you have to leave at 7:30 to be there at 8, and you're home at 5:30 after the commute home at 5.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, when are you gonna work out, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe Saturday mornings, Sunday mornings before church, if you go to church or before family time, whatever.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, that's two days right there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe one day after work on a Wednesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you're working out Wednesday after work at 5:30 till 6:30, be home at 6:45.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's one day a week.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and then Saturday, Sunday, that's three days a week of working out.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's pretty good.
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  SPEAKER_00: A three-day workout week.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's pretty solid, you know?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and then other days be, you know, physically active, like joining going on walks with my well, we'll just schedule it out, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's put it on that schedule.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's interesting how it's like, oh, this stuff can fit in.
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  SPEAKER_00: What doesn't fit in?
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  SPEAKER_00: And the things were this is another question, are things that I would be usually like things that I just find would be what I would consider a waste of time on my own schedule.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not for everybody.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you enjoy it, like it's not a waste, you're just enjoying your life, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like if it's the things you'd like to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Another quote with that would be like, nobody's busy.
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  SPEAKER_00: We all just prioritize that we just have priorities where it's like, no, I'm too busy to go work because I want to be able to um exercise and go on family trips.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like, well, you have to work, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Versus the opposite, which, like, no, I'm too busy for family.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm too busy to go on family trips and go on excursions and stuff because I work.
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  SPEAKER_00: That would be the opposite, which happens too, you know, but it's just a matter of like prioritizing.
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  SPEAKER_00: What do you prioritize?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, um, but that's something to reflect upon.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's just a matter of um, what do you want?
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  SPEAKER_00: What do you prioritize?
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  SPEAKER_00: What do you want your life to look like?
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  SPEAKER_00: What gives you life, enjoyment, and fulfillment?
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  SPEAKER_00: The the here's what I said the opposite question of or the opposite statement of that would be like, man, you know what?
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  SPEAKER_00: My life really turned around and turned a corner.
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  SPEAKER_00: When I started scrolling more on social media, I watched an enormous amount of television.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, I my life really turned around when I drank more alcohol and I started snacking more on junk food.
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  SPEAKER_00: Man, I love that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I really turned up my life when I ate more junk food.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, when I wasn't prioritizing my sleep schedule and I was getting less broke and less sleep and broken sleep, so crappier sleep.
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  SPEAKER_00: Man, I felt I'm like my life turned around, you know.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, I dabbled in recreational drugs.
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  SPEAKER_00: My life really turned up, man.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, it's all it's been great, you know.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like this is exactly what I want.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um that's usually not that would be the opposite.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was like, what would it be then?
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  SPEAKER_00: My life really turned around when what?
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  SPEAKER_00: It can be done.
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  SPEAKER_00: It just takes a little bit of purposefulness and planning.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know it's hard, it's it's simple, but it's difficult.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just like working out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like it's simple recipe.
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  SPEAKER_00: We know the answers, but it is difficult.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's not easy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Simple does not mean easy or not difficult.
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  SPEAKER_00: Simple just means the recipe is known.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just uh it's difficult to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: The hardest, one of the hardest things is just changing a lifestyle and doing something unfamiliar that you might not feel comfortable with and familiar with.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's really what it is, um, in my opinion.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then not diving into it from a lack of familiarity, the other component of that because of that, usually leads to fear of failure.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not like I mean, if you've ever tried something by yourself alone to do a new task of some sort and you failed, you're not you're not usually not embarrassed.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, it's usually a fear of shame that other people would witness your failure and then you would carry that with you and then identify yourself as a failure or carry yourself as a shameful person because like you failed and everybody witnessed it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um that's usually what it is, from my understanding, from experts that I've talked with and um personally I talked with about all this stuff, that's usually what it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then if that's the case, if it's a fear of failure issue, um or I it and it's a fear of shame, it's usually it's like I I'd be concerned with what people would think if they saw me try hard and I didn't fulfill or I didn't stick with it consistently of this life change or whatever, like oh, he's on a huge kick, like you know, uh there's another one of these schemes, you know, he's on a huge life kick, a self-help kick, reading a lot of self-help books, you know.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, uh it's if that's the concern, it's usually it's not people, uh like who cares?
• 15:09
  SPEAKER_00: Like people don't like you don't know everybody, but it usually is one to two per people.
• 15:13
  SPEAKER_00: It's like a per one person or two people that you would be thinking about in the back of your head that you'd be concerned of what their opinion was if they noticed you failed.
• 15:20
  SPEAKER_00: So back it all the way down.
• 15:22
  SPEAKER_00: You feel a failure, fear of shame that comes with the failure being noticed by people.
• 15:28
  SPEAKER_00: Who are the people?
• 15:28
  SPEAKER_00: Who is it that you're thinking about that you would be concerned of their opinion if they noticed that you failed or and you're ashamed about that?
• 15:35
  SPEAKER_00: Who are those people?
• 15:36
  SPEAKER_00: Write their names down on a piece of paper.
• 15:38
  SPEAKER_00: This is powerful.
• 15:39
  SPEAKER_00: I did this, it's powerful.
• 15:41
  SPEAKER_00: Then, underneath that, write, I am not going to pursue these goals because I'm concerned with what so and so have would have to say if I failed, which is imaginary because you haven't even tried it, you're not even failed, and you don't even know if they even care or not, right?
• 15:56
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and if and if they say they did call you out, or like, um, my question would be that's not gonna happen, number one.
• 16:04
  SPEAKER_00: And number two, are they really that important of a person?
• 16:08
  SPEAKER_00: If they were to be like, look at you trying hard to improve your life, like what a loser.
• 16:12
  SPEAKER_00: Right, like who would say that?
• 16:13
  SPEAKER_00: Do you know who doesn't say that?
• 16:15
  SPEAKER_00: People um that are really diving into this, kind of like lifestyle change stuff, and have done it, they would be the ones to be like, oh bro, you should totally do it, dude.
• 16:26
  SPEAKER_00: I believe in you.
• 16:27
  SPEAKER_00: Do it, man.
• 16:27
  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna change your life.
• 16:29
  SPEAKER_00: There, they would be encouraging and supportive.
• 16:32
  SPEAKER_00: Let's think about the people that would be, if they did pass judgment or be like, hey, look at this person trying to improve their life, are they don't do that stuff.
• 16:41
  SPEAKER_00: They're projecting their own lack of um agency and their own lack of um pursuit, which is their own fear, their own failure and insecurities that they're projecting onto you.
• 16:54
  SPEAKER_00: Um, that's usually where that comes from.
• 16:55
  SPEAKER_00: If they did, if a person did do that, you don't ever see successful people um knock people who are trying to be successful.
• 17:03
  SPEAKER_00: It's the unsuccessful people that are knocking people to try to be successful because they can't pursue their own dreams.
• 17:08
  SPEAKER_00: That's what it is.
• 17:09
  SPEAKER_00: Like I promise you, at least that's what this is my own lens on life and my own lens on this stuff.
• 17:13
  SPEAKER_00: You have other opinions and stuff, I'm open to I'm all ears, let's chat.
• 17:16
  SPEAKER_00: That's just what I've noticed.
• 17:17
  SPEAKER_00: And from other wiser, more experienced mentors of the than me, that's what they've and I've reflected on that.
• 17:23
  SPEAKER_00: And that's what they said.
• 17:23
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, oh, that makes total sense.
• 17:25
  SPEAKER_00: Oh my gosh, this is amazing, right?
• 17:26
  SPEAKER_00: So then what literally, what's stopping you from doing this?
• 17:29
  SPEAKER_00: Another perfect example.
• 17:30
  SPEAKER_00: Um, there was this very successful person I had been come encountered with in the past.
• 17:34
  SPEAKER_00: They were very wealthy.
• 17:36
  SPEAKER_00: Um, they this these this person was probably like in their early no late, late 50s, early 60s.
• 17:42
  SPEAKER_00: Um, they're very wealthy, all right?
• 17:44
  SPEAKER_00: Um, like extremely wealthy.
• 17:47
  SPEAKER_00: And um, I remember asking them, like, how did you get in this field of business that you're doing?
• 17:50
  SPEAKER_00: And like, um, and they answered that their family had built this business and then it was theirs.
• 17:57
  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, oh, so you walked into that.
• 18:00
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 18:00
  SPEAKER_00: Well, what's like, you know, what have you learned a lot through this field that you've been working in?
• 18:04
  SPEAKER_00: Or another question, what's like your favorite book that you've read that you feel like has helped you a lot?
• 18:09
  SPEAKER_00: And their answer was, I'm not really into self-help books.
• 18:11
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, huh, this makes sense.
• 18:15
  SPEAKER_00: Ah, nah, I'm not really into self-help books.
• 18:17
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, bro, I love self-help books.
• 18:19
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I enjoy that stuff.
• 18:21
  SPEAKER_00: I think it's super interesting and like implement things that make sense that are other wiser, more experienced people have done that they suggest that unto me, like for free in a rent book from the library.
• 18:32
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I'm all ears.
• 18:33
  SPEAKER_00: Let me reflect and and perfect and design and like manufacture a life that I think would be cool and enjoying.
• 18:41
  SPEAKER_00: Ultimately, it comes down to what you enjoy, or like what would be best, like why what makes you fulfilled versus living kind of like in a non-purposeful direction way, um, and then falling into a career or falling into a life that you didn't even realize you're falling into, and then being like, I don't like where I'm at.
• 18:57
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, which happens and makes sense, you know.
• 19:00
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I see the pathway.
• 19:03
  SPEAKER_00: I just don't want to do that.
• 19:04
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I'm I want to be more purposeful.
• 19:06
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not saying that I'm better than anybody else and I'm not and I'm not perfect.
• 19:09
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not better than anybody and I'm not perfect.
• 19:10
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just saying, like, I wanted to have the humility to be able to look into that and then make implement, implement changes.
• 19:17
  SPEAKER_00: I think the implementation is the key.
• 19:19
  SPEAKER_00: You could talk all day about it, but if you actually don't take a course of action and concrete steps, um, which this little like spreadsheet I'm talking about is is a game changer, I think.
• 19:28
  SPEAKER_00: And it really helped me.
• 19:29
  SPEAKER_00: And the other end would be work schedule, where it's like if you own your own business or you're you're you know working a full-time job, that's pretty demanding or whatever.
• 19:34
  SPEAKER_00: Um, you have your personal schedule outside of your work hours.
• 19:37
  SPEAKER_00: So it's like from 7, 6:30 for commute time until four o'clock or 3:30.
• 19:44
  SPEAKER_00: That's blocked off from all my outside hobbies and stuff, besides working out.
• 19:47
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna fill that in my schedule during work time.
• 19:50
  SPEAKER_00: And then I have my work schedule, which all the outside time would be blacked off, but then the work schedule time will be blocked, would be available and color-coded as like what daily activities would move the needle for my practice to help my team members and also have my patients.
• 20:05
  SPEAKER_00: And then I would have those, the same 30-minute block intervals blocked off.
• 20:08
  SPEAKER_00: Like I need to do emails, I need to do administrative stuff, finance, budgeting, profit law, like all that stuff.
• 20:13
  SPEAKER_00: I need to actually see patients, um, social media content development, net local community networking time dedication, um, stuff like that.
• 20:21
  SPEAKER_00: So that's another list of like work-related stuff, but that's a different conversation.
• 20:25
  SPEAKER_00: And then so you have your works uh Excel 30-minute block schedule, and then you have your personal life 30-block schedule.
• 20:31
  SPEAKER_00: And at the end of that, it's like, I'm hitting all the touch points.
• 20:34
  SPEAKER_00: As long as I try to go through these touch points somewhat consistently, then I know that I'm living in a direction that I want, which includes this, this, and this.
• 20:41
  SPEAKER_00: That's the what.
• 20:43
  SPEAKER_00: Um, the next question would be your why?
• 20:45
  SPEAKER_00: Well, like, why do you want to do that?
• 20:46
  SPEAKER_00: Why would it be important?
• 20:47
  SPEAKER_00: Like, man, I really want to go to the beach and do water-based stuff like snorkeling, swimming, paddleboarding, surfing, whatever, but with my kids, um, swimming, like whatever.
• 20:56
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and then I want to I like hitting balls or playing golf, like nine holes is fun.
• 21:01
  SPEAKER_00: I want to exercise.
• 21:03
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I want to have a lot of family time.
• 21:05
  SPEAKER_00: Then it would be like, why?
• 21:06
  SPEAKER_00: Why is it that this is a schedule, the life habits and hobbies that you want to do?
• 21:11
  SPEAKER_00: Why is that?
• 21:12
  SPEAKER_00: That's the Simon Senec.
• 21:13
  SPEAKER_00: If y'all are familiar with Simon Sinek, is an author and a speaker.
• 21:16
  SPEAKER_00: He just started like a uh a book, it was like start with why.
• 21:19
  SPEAKER_00: The reason is because it comes down to like, why do you want that in the first place?
• 21:23
  SPEAKER_00: And you got to get super nitty-gritty and granular, as in like, because I want my kids to look at me with um as a role model of discipline and consistency.
• 21:34
  SPEAKER_00: And I want to spend deep, one-on-one, specific bonding time so that our relationship can be authentic, deep, and share emotional resonance so that we can grow up together.
• 21:46
  SPEAKER_00: When they grow up, we can grow together and have a strong relationship when they become adults.
• 21:50
  SPEAKER_00: Cause like that's the most meaningful.
• 21:52
  SPEAKER_00: And my wife is what like is my wife is included in this too, of course.
• 21:55
  SPEAKER_00: Like, she's the primary.
• 21:56
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so we as my wife and I grow together, we can have a deeper relationship throughout.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_00: Out our life too.
• 22:01
  SPEAKER_00: Um, that would that's the why.
• 22:03
  SPEAKER_00: So that if I'm tired or I'm like, I'm just I don't want to do this anymore, I can go back to and I read the why that I wrote down on a piece of paper, and it helps with what I would call discipline over motivation.
• 22:15
  SPEAKER_00: All right.
• 22:15
  SPEAKER_00: Motivation is like when you um get when I when a person or I speaking personally, when I feel like super amped up and like ready to go and motivated, well, that fades.
• 22:25
  SPEAKER_00: Like when you're tired and you and you're sore and your body's achy and you don't want to work out, motivation's not gonna make you work out.
• 22:31
  SPEAKER_00: It fades.
• 22:32
  SPEAKER_00: The discipline is what actually gets you to do the thing.
• 22:36
  SPEAKER_00: Discipline is built over time when motivation fades.
• 22:38
  SPEAKER_00: And the why I think helps reinforce why you want to be disciplined.
• 22:42
  SPEAKER_00: That's the that's what it comes down to, in my opinion.
• 22:45
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and then um what I found is that helps build momentum, which is easier to stay in momentum, which ultimately builds habits.
• 22:55
  SPEAKER_00: And then the habits through discipline is what keeps a person consistently doing the same thing over and over and over and over again for a long, long time, that then it becomes like part of your identity.
• 23:06
  SPEAKER_00: This is what I do.
• 23:07
  SPEAKER_00: Like it's weird.
• 23:08
  SPEAKER_00: I didn't work out today.
• 23:09
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just gonna work out real quick.
• 23:10
  SPEAKER_00: The barrier to entry is not hard because this is what I do.
• 23:13
  SPEAKER_00: I do that, right?
• 23:14
  SPEAKER_00: That's that's the self-conversation versus like, oh, I gotta work out.
• 23:18
  SPEAKER_00: I gotta like put my shoes on and like I don't even know what I'm I don't even know what I'm gonna do today.
• 23:22
  SPEAKER_00: I haven't worked out in like six weeks, you know.
• 23:24
  SPEAKER_00: Like, what am I gonna do anyway?
• 23:25
  SPEAKER_00: Right, I'm not gonna make any changes.
• 23:27
  SPEAKER_00: I've been there too, totally.
• 23:29
  SPEAKER_00: I battle that often.
• 23:30
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not like you're not alone.
• 23:31
  SPEAKER_00: I battle that often.
• 23:33
  SPEAKER_00: Where it's like I look at my why and I'm like, oh, that's why.
• 23:36
  SPEAKER_00: Um the momentum is easy to lose.
• 23:39
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, it's hard to gain back, but once it's gained, it's easy to maintain.
• 23:44
  SPEAKER_00: So it's I'm like, just don't stop.
• 23:46
  SPEAKER_00: You know, that's what I've heard from a lot of older, wiser, more experienced, more seasoned people than myself that have shared that insight.
• 23:52
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, they're like, just don't stop.
• 23:54
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm like, all right, I'm gonna try to maintain this momentum as best I can.
• 23:57
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm gonna read why I want to do it in the first place.
• 23:59
  SPEAKER_00: And that really helps with all that.
• 24:00
  SPEAKER_00: And then one of the questions was like, why, why?
• 24:02
  SPEAKER_00: Why does it even matter?
• 24:04
  SPEAKER_00: Right?
• 24:04
  SPEAKER_00: Like all this stuff.
• 24:04
  SPEAKER_00: Why does it even matter in the first place?
• 24:06
  SPEAKER_00: Well, that comes down to just perspectives, beliefs, and values.
• 24:10
  SPEAKER_00: What is it that you value that thinks the most important thing in life?
• 24:14
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I think I center around that.
• 24:17
  SPEAKER_00: All right.
• 24:18
  SPEAKER_00: Um then ultimately I think it's it ultimately comes down to um meaningful relationships with the people that mean the most.
• 24:26
  SPEAKER_00: At the end of the day, on the deathbed, that's what I've heard and read.
• 24:31
  SPEAKER_00: As in, like, there's a book by the psychologist who wrote a book on like, um, he was in hospice care and he had conversations with people on their deathbed who were terminally ill.
• 24:39
  SPEAKER_00: And he wrote down all of his experiences.
• 24:41
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, I think it was a chaplain as well.
• 24:43
  SPEAKER_00: Um Yeah, he no, he was he was a like a psychologist chaplain, and um, he had conversations with people on their deathbed.
• 24:50
  SPEAKER_00: As in, like, what did what do they say?
• 24:52
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 24:53
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and it ultimately came down to like consistently the people said the same thing if they were extremely wealthy or if they were not wealthy, if they were lonely, great relationships, whatever.
• 25:05
  SPEAKER_00: They all a lot of very similar things were said across the board of people who didn't know each other, which is super interesting.
• 25:12
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm like, oh, I'm gonna this holds weight, in my opinion, of like what's meaningful then, what is actually gonna be meaningful.
• 25:19
  SPEAKER_00: And a lot of them said they wish they would have told people how they really felt more often, if they really cared about somebody, if they uh feel like they were hurt by something, just like share your feelings and express how you feel towards something or about somebody, towards somebody.
• 25:34
  SPEAKER_00: Um, that they wish they would have spent more meaningful time with their loved ones, like their family, spent less time grinding and working.
• 25:43
  SPEAKER_00: Um, the rat race.
• 25:45
  SPEAKER_00: I think work is important.
• 25:46
  SPEAKER_00: And that's my iky guy, and I'll explain that it's another podcast on Ike Guy.
• 25:50
  SPEAKER_00: It's a Japanese philosophy.
• 25:52
  SPEAKER_00: But um that's like what your purpose is, like what's your sense of belonging and your vocation?
• 25:57
  SPEAKER_00: Where it's, I think it can be important and fulfilling, right?
• 26:00
  SPEAKER_00: What's your contributions to the community?
• 26:01
  SPEAKER_00: I think it's important, but it's a balance.
• 26:03
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not gonna not at the expense of losing what I think is more important, which is meaningful enjoyment and bonding relationships with the people that mean the most.
• 26:12
  SPEAKER_00: Because that's that's the thing that that fades and wanes, where you never know when something's gonna happen, you never know when you're gonna lose somebody.
• 26:19
  SPEAKER_00: And uh, that's what the people on their deathbed would say.
• 26:21
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm like, okay, I believe that.
• 26:23
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I'm gonna hold some weight to this.
• 26:24
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna implement that in my life as a center priority.
• 26:27
  SPEAKER_00: They're like, no, no, no, I can't do family vacations.
• 26:29
  SPEAKER_00: No, I can't hang with my family and go to their soccer game because I gotta I need to work.
• 26:32
  SPEAKER_00: I gotta work.
• 26:33
  SPEAKER_00: I'm too busy.
• 26:34
  SPEAKER_00: I'm too busy to hang with my daughter or my son or my wife or my other son.
• 26:38
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I can't.
• 26:39
  SPEAKER_00: I'm too busy because I need to, I gotta travel for work.
• 26:41
  SPEAKER_00: Work's more important.
• 26:42
  SPEAKER_00: That ultimately is what we're saying.
• 26:44
  SPEAKER_00: That's just my own reflections.
• 26:45
  SPEAKER_00: Work's important, I think.
• 26:47
  SPEAKER_00: I agree with you.
• 26:48
  SPEAKER_00: From my lens, it's just not at the expense of uh why win waning out your mental bandwidth and presence at the expense of losing the relationships and time you have with the people that mean the most.
• 27:01
  SPEAKER_00: I think that's what carries the longest.
• 27:03
  SPEAKER_00: Um, at the end of the day, people in the deathbed weren't like, I wish I would have worked a little bit harder to get that promotion and then saved on my PTO because then I would have had those benefits.
• 27:12
  SPEAKER_00: Dang, that's what I wish I would have done before I die.
• 27:16
  SPEAKER_00: Like said nobody, right?
• 27:18
  SPEAKER_00: Um, anyway, that's just my lens on that.
• 27:20
  SPEAKER_00: I think the Excel spreadsheet um blocks schedule for like what is it that you want to get in through the day?
• 27:27
  SPEAKER_00: Block it out 30-minute intervals, it's Saturday through Saturday, Sunday through Sunday, um, from wake until bed.
• 27:34
  SPEAKER_00: And it's uh it's chewable.
• 27:36
  SPEAKER_00: Like it's they're all chewable, you know, like it makes sense.
• 27:39
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and it can be done.
• 27:40
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, like I said, I'm not perfect.
• 27:42
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm always open to ideas and suggestions, but that's just some of the lens I've had on that.
• 27:46
  SPEAKER_00: And uh, it's been super helpful.
• 27:48
  SPEAKER_00: And then the last, the next question would be why do you want to implement this kind of a thing in your life anyway?
• 27:52
  SPEAKER_00: Why are each specific aspect?
• 27:55
  SPEAKER_00: Why do you want to go to the beach and do water stuff?
• 27:56
  SPEAKER_00: Why do you want to go hit balls and play golf?
• 27:58
  SPEAKER_00: Why do you want to exercise so much?
• 28:00
  SPEAKER_00: Um, like four days a week, right?
• 28:02
  SPEAKER_00: Why do you want to spend so much family time and have like boundaries?
• 28:05
  SPEAKER_00: Like, no, Saturday and Sunday is mandatory, no work to be with my my wife and my kids.
• 28:12
  SPEAKER_00: Um, like, why?
• 28:13
  SPEAKER_00: Why is that important?
• 28:14
  SPEAKER_00: Right, it's different for everybody, but writing it down is super powerful.
• 28:17
  SPEAKER_00: And then also reflecting upon, like, I'm not gonna pursue this because I'm concerned with what these two people in my life might say if I fail.
• 28:25
  unknown: Right?
• 28:26
  SPEAKER_00: They would remember that I don't they're not gonna care, right?
• 28:28
  SPEAKER_00: Like nobody cares as much as we think they actually care about what we're doing.
• 28:32
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and then we're gonna let that person dictate my life.
• 28:35
  SPEAKER_00: Like, no, I'm gonna do my own thing.
• 28:37
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but anyway, so I'm if I'm always open to questions, comments, concerns, conflicting opinions and other ideas.
• 28:42
  SPEAKER_00: And uh and it's so please reach out if you have any questions or any pain that you're battling.
• 28:46
  SPEAKER_00: We can at least talk on the phone about what you have going on and how we might be able to help you from a sports physical therapy standpoint and uh get you on the path to being more functional and less discomfort and pain and back to your lifestyle you love to do.
• 28:58
  SPEAKER_00: And uh, we'll catch you all next time.