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261. Evolution looks good on you · Your Enriched Self

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Speaker 1: Hello, my friends from all across the globe and welcome
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Speaker 1: to the Your Enriched Self podcast. I am your host,
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Speaker 1: Mylene Noir. I am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach.
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Speaker 1: My work, my job, my responsibility, my joy each and
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Speaker 1: every week is to help you become more of your
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Speaker 1: enriched self. And it's not going to happen in a bubble.
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Speaker 1: It's not going to happen solo. Like you can go
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Speaker 1: where you need to go on this journey of life
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Speaker 1: on your own by yourself, but you go further and
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Speaker 1: farther with the people that you surround yourself with, with
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Speaker 1: the conversations you're willing to have, which with the tough
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Speaker 1: love and the transformation that we do here each and
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Speaker 1: You're going to do it your way, but I want
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Speaker 1: were brought here on purpose, for a purpose. And if
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Speaker 1: you're a repeat listener, listen, I know you understand the
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Speaker 1: evolution of becoming more of your enriched self. It's going
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Speaker 1: to take every stepping stone, every rod on that ladder,
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Speaker 1: every piece of you that you have implanted into this world.
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Speaker 1: All of those experiences, help you become more enriched, including
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Speaker 1: the journey of being on this podcast, sharing this podcast
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Speaker 1: and intentionally joining these conversations. So I want to thank
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Speaker 1: for as many years as we've done this, there would
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Speaker 1: be no podcast. So thank you from the bottom of
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Speaker 1: my heart. Now, if you know, you know, there's one
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Speaker 1: I do each and every week because I want to
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Speaker 1: make a deposit into the bank of you. Because I
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Speaker 1: don't want you going out here bankrupt. So I make
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Speaker 1: a deposit by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great
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Speaker 1: way to start your day and to command your morning.
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Speaker 1: And this week's affirmation is... I give myself permission to evolve.
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Speaker 1: I give myself permission to evolve. I give myself permission
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Speaker 1: to evolve. Now, let's get ready for this week's episode,
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Speaker 1: the Your Enriched Self podcast. I love unconventional accessories. For example,
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Speaker 1: I believe that confidence is an accessory. I think it's
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Speaker 1: something that every person has to be intentional about putting
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Speaker 1: on even before you put on your outfit. Like confidence
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Speaker 1: has to come from within. And that's what this whole
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Speaker 1: becoming enriched is all about. It's that internal becoming. right?
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Speaker 1: Everybody gets to see what you look like in the end,
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Speaker 1: quote unquote, right? But really, it's all the things that
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Speaker 1: are happening behind the scenes that have reshaped you from
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Speaker 1: the inside and what people then see on the outside.
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Speaker 1: And so, believe it or not, this episode was inspired
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Speaker 1: by Dove chocolate. And I am not being sponsored by
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Speaker 1: Dove by any means, but I don't know if you
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Speaker 1: indulge in Dove. I like dark chocolate. And if you
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Speaker 1: open the packaging for the dark chocolate or the chocolate,
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Speaker 1: I would imagine the milk chocolate too. There is a message.
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Speaker 1: And the message was evolution looks good on you. And
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Speaker 1: I want to really spend some time today helping you
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Speaker 1: make a conscious effort to wear this unconventional accessory, which
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Speaker 1: is evolution. I think this fits beautifully with the message
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Speaker 1: of becoming more of your enriched self. Because here's the thing.
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Speaker 1: It looks good on you even when it may be
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Speaker 1: unfamiliar to everyone else. See, the thing about it is
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Speaker 1: when we accessorize ourselves We do that with the things
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Speaker 1: that express who we are. Like I said, confidence being
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Speaker 1: one of those things, courage, your boundaries, your self-respect. I
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Speaker 1: believe evolution is now part of that beautiful collective collection,
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Speaker 1: which is the accessories. Because listen, it's really important, especially
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Speaker 1: as a woman, right? That when you show up, You
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Speaker 1: show up as your authentic self. You bring your very best.
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Speaker 1: And part of that very best is this version of
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Speaker 1: you that is the evolution of you, right? It is
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Speaker 1: not just the woman you are now, but it's the
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Speaker 1: woman you're becoming five years from now. And here's the thing.
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Speaker 1: You've lived a life. You've learned some things. You've experienced
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Speaker 1: some things. My goodness, you've healed some areas of your life,
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Speaker 1: of your experience, your journey. You've discovered some things about yourself,
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Speaker 1: the world around you, the people, the places. What evolution
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Speaker 1: is essentially saying about you and what you are saying
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Speaker 1: about you when you step into that space, into that
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Speaker 1: room Is that you've been paying attention to your life.
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Speaker 1: You are aware of the ticks. You are aware of
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Speaker 1: the things that make you go, hmm. The things that
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Speaker 1: make you stop in your tracks. The things that make
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Speaker 1: you start to embrace yourself a little bit more. And
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Speaker 1: just like that. Just like an accessory. Evolution. Evolution. your evolution,
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Speaker 1: your story, your journey, it doesn't have to match anybody else, right?
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Speaker 1: Like you might go into a store and you might
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Speaker 1: pick up a certain type of handbag or a certain color.
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Speaker 1: And when you go home and you look in your closet,
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Speaker 1: you now see that there's something that goes exactly with
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Speaker 1: that particular accessory. There's an outfit, there's a pair of shoes,
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Speaker 1: there's Some other accessory, maybe there's an earring or a
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Speaker 1: necklace or some statement piece ring. And all of a
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Speaker 1: sudden your style has evolved and evolution does the same
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Speaker 1: thing when you put it on. There's something about that story,
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Speaker 1: that history, that personality, that lessons learned moment, right? That
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Speaker 1: has now transformed you. And that will not match what
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Speaker 1: anybody else has out there. Here's the other thing about evolution.
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Speaker 1: I think a lot of times, especially in culture, and
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Speaker 1: you know me, I like to challenge culture. But oftentimes,
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Speaker 1: the culture around you, right? Especially the ones that have
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Speaker 1: known you. The ones that you started the journey with, perhaps.
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Speaker 1: Or the ones that you started life with. Or a
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Speaker 1: part of your life with. They start to try to, try, try,
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Speaker 1: to shame you for becoming. For evolving. And I think
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Speaker 1: this is where the conversation about evolution looking good on
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Speaker 1: you gets real. And it gets really good. Because the
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Speaker 1: thing about it is, face it. And if you haven't
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Speaker 1: faced it, I want you to face it the next
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Speaker 1: time you walk into that room with the people that
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Speaker 1: have known you for maybe the longest, right? It might
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Speaker 1: even be the person you live with. Your family members,
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Speaker 1: your partner, boyfriend, husband, wife, whatever. The thing about it is,
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Speaker 1: what tends to happen in life is that the people
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Speaker 1: around you, again, this often happens with the people who
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Speaker 1: have known you the longest, right? Because they have expectations
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Speaker 1: around who you are, what you are, what you're doing,
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Speaker 1: when you're doing it. They've known your story. But that evolution,
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Speaker 1: that finding more about yourself, that learning more about yourself,
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Speaker 1: that paying attention to your life has taken you to
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Speaker 1: a new space. And people are often uncomfortable with that
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Speaker 1: new space. They are more comfortable with the version of
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Speaker 1: you that they know. And this is where you hear
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Speaker 1: people say, oh, so you think you better than everybody else.
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Speaker 1: When you start hearing that type of language, when you
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Speaker 1: start hearing those aggressions, micro, macro, intro, outro aggressions, you
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Speaker 1: know that someone is trying to shame you for becoming
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Speaker 1: the next version of you. And this is what I
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Speaker 1: want you to do when that starts to happen. I
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Speaker 1: want you to A, stop participating in those types of
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Speaker 1: conversations and conversations that spin that type of narrative. For example,
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Speaker 1: You're around a group of people that now sees someone,
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Speaker 1: not you, but somebody else, maybe someone from a group
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Speaker 1: that you know or somebody from a group that you
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Speaker 1: don't know. And now you hear that language, that macro, micro, intro, outro,
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Speaker 1: aggression coming forward. Don't participate in that conversation. I want
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Speaker 1: you to also be aware and be okay with the
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Speaker 1: fact that in your life, in this lifetime, your priorities
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Speaker 1: change as they should. Your priorities absolutely will change depending
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Speaker 1: on what type of life you're living. If you are
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Speaker 1: a parent to a fur baby, or if you are
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Speaker 1: a parent to a little person, You have different priorities.
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Speaker 1: That's just the way it is, right? If you have
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Speaker 1: a certain type of job or you have to drive
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Speaker 1: a certain distance to get to your job, there's certain
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Speaker 1: things in your life that becomes prioritized differently, right? And
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Speaker 1: it's okay. I want you to know that it's okay
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Speaker 1: when you go through a season And it's a new month, right?
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Speaker 1: And so you might be going through a new season
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Speaker 1: simply because it's a new month or a new quarter
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Speaker 1: or a new year or whatever new thing that's happening,
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Speaker 1: a new week. It's okay for your priorities to change.
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Speaker 1: This is another one. This is a big one. Listen,
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Speaker 1: I want you to hear this one. Clearly, I'm not
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Speaker 1: trying to break any happy homes up here. but I'm
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Speaker 1: here to tell you it is okay for your circle
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Speaker 1: to change. I'm not saying throw the circle, the whole
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Speaker 1: circle away. Now, some of you might need to throw
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Speaker 1: the whole doggone circle away, but it is in fact
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Speaker 1: okay for your circle to change. I can't remember. It
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Speaker 1: was Nipsey Hussle, and I'm going to get this quote wrong.
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Speaker 1: I'm going to put it in the show notes, but
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Speaker 1: it's Something about sometimes you're not in a circle, you're
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Speaker 1: in a cage. And again, I might be misquoting Nipsey,
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Speaker 1: the great late great Nipsey Hussle. OK, and his proverbs.
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Speaker 1: But I promise you, sometimes you're not in a circle.
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Speaker 1: You are in a cage and the people around you,
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Speaker 1: they won't allow you to grow beyond that cage. It's
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Speaker 1: like my daughter, she does planting and she does it
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Speaker 1: really well. Like this girl has a green thumb, my
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Speaker 1: oldest daughter, and she get it from her grandmama because
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Speaker 1: she does not get it from her mama. And she
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Speaker 1: would often say to me as we would go out shopping,
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Speaker 1: she'd say, mom, I need to get a larger pot
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Speaker 1: of my plants because if I keep them in this
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Speaker 1: particular pot they're not gonna grow beyond the pot and
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Speaker 1: some of you are in small pots and you're a
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Speaker 1: big person a big personality you have more room to
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Speaker 1: grow you have more evolution to go but you're limited
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Speaker 1: by this circle you're limited by this pot you're not
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Speaker 1: going beyond the ceiling that these people You are around
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Speaker 1: that you keep around like a pet. You have kept
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Speaker 1: them around so much. You are starting to stay within
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Speaker 1: this cage, live within this ceiling that you now call
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Speaker 1: the highest part of where you can reach. I say
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Speaker 1: challenge that and I say challenge that immediately. Okay. Your
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Speaker 1: standards are going to change. Listen, Your relationship with yourself
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Speaker 1: should change, must change, has to change. You cannot have
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Speaker 1: the same relationship with yourself when you are wearing evolution,
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Speaker 1: when you are evolution, when you're aspiring for evolution. Okay.
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Speaker 1: And I promise you, you are going to hear the things.
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Speaker 1: You've changed. You're different now. You think you're better than everybody.
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Speaker 1: You know what? You used to blah, blah, blah. Listen,
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Speaker 1: be ready for it. Get ready, get ready, get ready
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Speaker 1: for it because it's coming. The question I want you
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Speaker 1: to ask yourself when that happens is what if different
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Speaker 1: is exactly the point? That's the point. That's the point
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Speaker 1: of life. Becoming requires discomfort. I'm going to repeat. Becoming
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Speaker 1: requires discomfort. And I don't want you to allow someone
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Speaker 1: else's discomfort with your evolution to become your shame about
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Speaker 1: your growth. Yeah. Here's the thing. Finally, evolution, your evolution,
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Speaker 1: your evolution. Yes, your evolution doesn't require a group vote.
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Speaker 1: So that same caged group of friends that keep you
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Speaker 1: in a ceiling, keep you in the boundaries of what
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Speaker 1: they believe you can be and what they believe you
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Speaker 1: can do and how they've always thought you would be.
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Speaker 1: It doesn't require their vote for you to evolve. You
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Speaker 1: can do that independent of anybody. It is about that relationship.
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Speaker 1: that you have with yourself. Not everybody's going to understand
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Speaker 1: who you are becoming, this new version of you. You
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Speaker 1: know why? Because they were not present for all the
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Speaker 1: versions of everything that you have endured. Listen, many of
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Speaker 1: you are Dealing with your situation, whatever your situation is,
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Speaker 1: you're dealing with it behind closed doors. I know I
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Speaker 1: go to prayer. That is where I go. I go
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Speaker 1: to God. I love the relationship I continue to build
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Speaker 1: with God because it's an ongoing thing. It's like any
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Speaker 1: other relationship. You've got to put time into it. You've
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Speaker 1: got to be a good listener. A good communicator requires
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Speaker 1: not just exchanging the words but being a person willing
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Speaker 1: to listen to and absorb the words and so that's
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Speaker 1: what I want you to consider as you are evolving
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Speaker 1: Not everybody's present for those prayer moments, those quiet moments,
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Speaker 1: those holy moments. Those moments when you are left alone.
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Speaker 1: Those moments when you choose to be alone, which is
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Speaker 1: two different moments, okay? In both cases, you're in your
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Speaker 1: own space. But one, you are left alone. And sometimes
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Speaker 1: that's a good thing. And sometimes you're choosing to be alone.
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Speaker 1: There's a lot that's happening in those quiet moments. Listen,
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Speaker 1: I've had run dates with friends where I'm choosing to
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Speaker 1: be in a group or up with one other person.
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Speaker 1: And then I've had run dates alone. And both I
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Speaker 1: realize are required for my run journey to be sustained,
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Speaker 1: to have roots in it. Because I tell you what,
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Speaker 1: there's something about doing it on your own and being
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Speaker 1: your own accountability partner and trying to figure out the
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Speaker 1: routes and figure out how far you can push yourself.
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Speaker 1: Knowing that no one is there to push you. Knowing
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Speaker 1: no one is there to account for what you will
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Speaker 1: or won't do. And you just have to be integral
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Speaker 1: for you. Those things matter. It also matters to be
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Speaker 1: in a group and show up for the people that
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Speaker 1: show up for you. And push them as much as
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Speaker 1: they're going to push you. Listen, that's what we must
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Speaker 1: do as community of people, as friends. If we're going
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Speaker 1: to evolve, it's going to take a village. The village
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Speaker 1: within you, the inner coach, the outer coach, the life coach.
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Speaker 1: All that is you. So yes, people may only see
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Speaker 1: the change that you have now before they understand the journey.
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Speaker 1: And that is okay. Your evolution is personal. You don't
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Speaker 1: owe everyone, anyone, someone, that one, this one, an explanation
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Speaker 1: for becoming. Just wear your new piece of jewelry slash
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Speaker 1: accessory evolution wear it proudly right because it's going to
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Speaker 1: look good on you the confidence looks good on you
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Speaker 1: the boundaries you know i have a friend that recently
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Speaker 1: went through a major life change and when i tell
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Speaker 1: you this woman has the most beautiful piece of Yes,
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Speaker 1: it's a piece of her now collection. It's this beautiful
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Speaker 1: piece on her. For some people, it's that self-respect that
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Speaker 1: looks good on. It might even look good on you.
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Speaker 1: And evolution. I love how that looks on you. I
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Speaker 1: want you to look in the mirror and recognize that.
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Speaker 1: That you don't have to take it off because someone
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Speaker 1: else doesn't like the style. They don't appreciate the style.
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Speaker 1: That's okay. I want you to continue to be you
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Speaker 1: because evolution looks good on you. And I never want
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Speaker 1: you to psych yourself out. To take it off. Because
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Speaker 1: someone else preferred a version of you that they want,
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Speaker 1: not just for them to tolerate, but for you to
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