EP 674: The Person I Needed Was the Person I Feared: Disorganized Diaries Part Two

Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice · Aug 5, 2026 · 28m

If the person you were supposed to run to for safety was also the person who scared you, your nervous system learned a lesson that's still running your relationships today.

Girl, this one goes deep. In part two of the Disorganized Diaries series, I'm taking you back to the origin, where disorganized attachment actually comes from, and why it's the attachment style I lived in for almost three decades. We're talking about the caregivers who were sometimes safe and sometimes not, the difference between blatant abuse and the quieter, sneakier wound of emotional neglect, and why so many of you…