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Identity Is the Habit That Changes Everything (Why Discipline Fails Without It) | EP 268 · Confident and Empowered Women

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  If
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  you
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  keep
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  starting
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  strong
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  and
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  falling
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  off,
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  this
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  is
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  not
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  because
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  you
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  lack
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  discipline.
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  It's
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  because
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  you're
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  still
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  negotiating
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  with
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  an
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  identity
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  you
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  haven't
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  claimed
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  yet.
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  And
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  once
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  you
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  hear
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  this,
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  you
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  won't
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  be
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  able
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  to
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  unhear
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  it
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  because
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  disciplined
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  women
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  don't
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  wake
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  up
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  asking
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  how
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  to
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  motivate
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  themselves.
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  Confident
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  women
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  don't.
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  Ask
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  permission
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  for
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  their
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  moods
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  and
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  self-led
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  women
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  do
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  not
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  keep
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  renegotiating
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  the
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  same
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  promises
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  every
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  Monday
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  morning.
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  They
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  don't
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  try
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  harder,
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  they
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  decide
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  deeper.
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  And
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  if
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  you've
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  been
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  stuck
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  in
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  the
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  loop
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  of
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  starting,
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  stopping,
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  resetting,
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  restarting,
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  this
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  episode
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  is
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  going
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  to
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  shift
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  how
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  you
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  move
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  immediately,
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  not
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  by
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  giving
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  you
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  more
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  to
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  do,
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  but
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  by
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  showing
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  you
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  who
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  you
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  already
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  are
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  and
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  how
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  to
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  live
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  like
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  it.
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  Hey
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  friend,
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  quick
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  pause
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  before
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  we
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  get
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  started.
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  If
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  this
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  is
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  the
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  kind
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  of
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  conversation
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  you've
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  been
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  craving,
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  subscribe.
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  This
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  podcast
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  is
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  for
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  women
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  who
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  take
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  themselves
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  seriously.
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  Not
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  in
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  rigid
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  way,
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  but
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  intentionally.
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  And
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  the
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  woman
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  who
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  stays
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  here
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  and
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  the
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  women
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  who
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  stay
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  here
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  are
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  the
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  ones
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  who
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  actually
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  apply
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  what
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  they
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  hear.
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  So
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  subscribe
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  and
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  let's
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  get
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  into
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  it.
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  Welcome
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  back.
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  Lovely.
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  Take
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  a
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  breath
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  with
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  me.
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  In
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  through
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  the
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  nose,
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  out
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  through
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  the
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  mouth.
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  Not
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  because
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  you're
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  overwhelmed,
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  but
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  because
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  you
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  are
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  stepping
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  into
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  clarity.
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  This
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  is
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  not
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  a
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  space
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  where
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  we
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  coddle
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  in
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  consistency
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  or
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  romanticize
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  burnout.
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  We
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  are
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  done
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  with
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  that.
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  This
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  is
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  a
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  space
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  where
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  women
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  learn
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  how
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  to
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  lead
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  themselves
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  without
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  force,
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  without
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  hype.
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  And
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  without
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  self
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  betrayal.
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  So
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  if
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  you
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  are
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  here
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  because
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  you
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  are
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  tired
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  of
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  starting
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  over,
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  but
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  feeling
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  like
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  you
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  never
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  really
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  get
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  far,
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  if
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  you're
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  done
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  with
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  the
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  motivational
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  highs
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  that
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  don't
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  last,
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  if
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  you
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  know
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  there's
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  a
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  steadier
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  more
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  powerful
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  way
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  to
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  move,
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  friend,
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  you
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  are
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  home.
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  Today
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  we're
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  talking
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  about
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  the
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  one
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  habit
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  that
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  makes
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  all
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  the
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  others
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  inevitable.
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  That
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  is
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  identity.
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  Here's
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  the
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  truth
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  I
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  wanna
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  set
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  free
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  in
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  your
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  body.
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  Trying
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  is
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  not
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  a
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  stepping
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  stone.
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  It's
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  a
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  strain.
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  Its
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  effort
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  with
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  tension,
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  movement,
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  with
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  doubt
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  still
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  attached
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  action
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  that
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  keeps
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  checking
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  over
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  its
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  shoulder.
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  You
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  know,
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  the
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  kind
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  and
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  listen,
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  that
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  doesn't
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  mean
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  you're
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  failing.
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  It
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  means
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  you're
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  powerful
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  and
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  moving
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  without
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  letting
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  yourself
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  fully
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  land.
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  Trying
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  is
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  not
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  growth
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  or
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  commitment.
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  Trying
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  is
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  what
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  happens
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  when
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  the
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  decision
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  is
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  still
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  pending,
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  and
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  this
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  shows
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  up
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  everywhere
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  at
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  work.
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  It
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  looks
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  like
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  being
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  brilliant
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  when
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  the
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  pressure
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  is
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  on,
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  then
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  stalling
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  when
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  no
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  one's
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  watching.
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  Overthinking
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  emails
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  instead
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  of
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  trusting
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  your
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  own
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  knowledge
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  and
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  authority.
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  Waiting
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  to
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  feel
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  confident
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  before
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  speaking,
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  and
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  let's
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  not
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  forget
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  it's
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  in
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  love
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  and
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  relationships
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  to
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  Saying
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  you
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  want
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  consistency,
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  but
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  then
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  responding
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  to
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  inconsistency
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  anyway,
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  you
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  know
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  them
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  late
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  night,
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  Hey,
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  big
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  head
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  text.
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  No
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  sir,
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  absolutely
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  not.
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  It's
• 3:34
  explaining
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  your
• 3:35
  boundaries
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  instead
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  of
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  living
• 3:37
  them.
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  Staying
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  in
• 3:38
  situation
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  ships
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  longer
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  than
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  your
• 3:41
  standards
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  allow.
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  In
• 3:43
  your
• 3:43
  daily
• 3:44
  life,
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  it's
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  hitting
• 3:45
  snooze,
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  even
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  though
• 3:46
  you
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  promised
• 3:47
  yourself
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  you
• 3:47
  wouldn't.
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  It's
• 3:49
  restarting
• 3:49
  routines
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  every
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  Monday.
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  It's
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  negotiating
• 3:52
  with
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  yourself
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  instead
• 3:54
  of
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  leading.
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  Yourself
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  because
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  when
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  you
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  say,
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  I'm
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  trying
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  to
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  be
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  disciplined,
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  I'm
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  trying
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  to
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  be
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  consistent,
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  I'm
• 4:02
  trying
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  to
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  become
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  her,
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  what
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  you're
• 4:05
  really
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  communicating
• 4:07
  energetically
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  is
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  I'm
• 4:09
  still
• 4:10
  gripping
• 4:10
  this.
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  I've
• 4:11
  still
• 4:12
  got
• 4:12
  the
• 4:12
  Vulcan
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  net
• 4:13
  grip
• 4:13
  on
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  this,
• 4:14
  honey.
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  I'm
• 4:16
  still
• 4:16
  pushing.
• 4:17
  I'm
• 4:17
  still
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  efforting
• 4:18
  my
• 4:18
  way
• 4:19
  into
• 4:20
  alignment,
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  and
• 4:21
  you
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  can
• 4:22
  manifest
• 4:23
  from
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  that
• 4:23
  place.
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  But
• 4:25
  is
• 4:25
  that
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  how
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  you
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  really
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  wanna
• 4:26
  live?
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  Do
• 4:27
  you
• 4:27
  want
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  your
• 4:28
  life
• 4:28
  built
• 4:29
  on
• 4:29
  force
• 4:30
  or
• 4:31
  do
• 4:31
  you
• 4:31
  want
• 4:32
  it
• 4:32
  built
• 4:32
  on
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  flow,
• 4:33
  surprise,
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  and
• 4:35
  delight.
• 4:36
  Now
• 4:36
  here's
• 4:36
  the
• 4:36
  upgrade.
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  You
• 4:37
  are
• 4:38
  not
• 4:38
  trying,
• 4:39
  you
• 4:39
  are
• 4:40
  doing,
• 4:41
  you
• 4:41
  are
• 4:41
  choosing.
• 4:42
  You're
• 4:42
  showing
• 4:43
  up,
• 4:43
  you
• 4:44
  are
• 4:44
  becoming
• 4:44
  predictable
• 4:45
  to
• 4:46
  yourself.
• 4:47
  And
• 4:47
  when
• 4:47
  the
• 4:47
  energy
• 4:48
  shifts.
• 4:49
  From
• 4:49
  trying
• 4:50
  to
• 4:50
  deciding
• 4:51
  manifestation
• 4:52
  stops
• 4:53
  feeling
• 4:53
  like
• 4:53
  work
• 4:54
  and
• 4:54
  starts
• 4:55
  feeling
• 4:55
  like
• 4:55
  confirmation.
• 4:57
  That's
• 4:57
  when
• 4:58
  discipline
• 4:58
  gets
• 4:59
  lighter.
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  That's
• 5:00
  when
• 5:00
  consistency
• 5:01
  gets
• 5:02
  calm.
• 5:03
  That's
• 5:03
  when
• 5:03
  your
• 5:03
  life
• 5:04
  starts
• 5:04
  catching
• 5:05
  up
• 5:05
  to
• 5:05
  the
• 5:06
  woman
• 5:06
  you
• 5:06
  already
• 5:07
  are.
• 5:08
  Here's
• 5:08
  the
• 5:08
  part
• 5:09
  that
• 5:09
  should
• 5:09
  relieve
• 5:10
  you.
• 5:10
  You
• 5:11
  are
• 5:11
  not
• 5:11
  failing
• 5:12
  because
• 5:12
  you
• 5:12
  lack
• 5:13
  willpower.
• 5:14
  You
• 5:14
  are
• 5:14
  exhausted
• 5:15
  because
• 5:15
  you've
• 5:16
  been
• 5:16
  using
• 5:16
  willpower
• 5:17
  to
• 5:17
  compensate
• 5:18
  for
• 5:18
  unclear
• 5:19
  identity.
• 5:20
  Willpower
• 5:21
  is
• 5:21
  short
• 5:22
  term.
• 5:22
  Identity
• 5:23
  is
• 5:24
  structural.
• 5:25
  When
• 5:25
  identity
• 5:26
  is
• 5:26
  vague,
• 5:27
  you
• 5:27
  need
• 5:27
  motivation
• 5:28
  to
• 5:28
  begin,
• 5:29
  emotion
• 5:29
  to
• 5:29
  continue,
• 5:30
  and
• 5:30
  guilt
• 5:31
  to
• 5:31
  restart.
• 5:32
  But
• 5:33
  when
• 5:33
  identity
• 5:33
  is
• 5:34
  clear,
• 5:34
  something
• 5:35
  shifts.
• 5:36
  You
• 5:36
  stop
• 5:37
  asking,
• 5:37
  do
• 5:38
  I
• 5:38
  feel.
• 5:39
  Like
• 5:39
  this
• 5:39
  today,
• 5:40
  and
• 5:40
  you
• 5:41
  start
• 5:41
  asking,
• 5:42
  what
• 5:42
  does
• 5:42
  a
• 5:42
  woman
• 5:43
  like
• 5:43
  me
• 5:43
  do
• 5:44
  here?
• 5:44
  That
• 5:45
  question,
• 5:45
  it's
• 5:46
  calm,
• 5:46
  grounded.
• 5:48
  It
• 5:48
  removes
• 5:49
  the
• 5:49
  drama.
• 5:50
  A
• 5:50
  woman
• 5:50
  who
• 5:50
  sees
• 5:51
  herself
• 5:51
  as
• 5:51
  discipline
• 5:52
  doesn't
• 5:53
  need
• 5:53
  a
• 5:53
  pep
• 5:53
  talk
• 5:54
  to
• 5:54
  follow
• 5:54
  through.
• 5:55
  A
• 5:55
  woman
• 5:56
  who
• 5:56
  knows
• 5:57
  she
• 5:57
  self-led
• 5:58
  doesn't
• 5:58
  ask
• 5:59
  her
• 5:59
  mood
• 5:59
  for
• 6:00
  permission.
• 6:01
  That's
• 6:01
  not
• 6:01
  pressure,
• 6:02
  that's
• 6:02
  peace.
• 6:03
  So
• 6:04
  as
• 6:04
  you
• 6:04
  listen
• 6:04
  today,
• 6:05
  notice
• 6:06
  where
• 6:06
  you're
• 6:06
  understanding
• 6:07
  the
• 6:07
  pattern
• 6:08
  or
• 6:08
  realizing
• 6:09
  you're
• 6:09
  ready
• 6:10
  to
• 6:10
  move
• 6:10
  beyond
• 6:11
  it.
• 6:11
  If
• 6:12
  that
• 6:12
  moment
• 6:12
  hits,
• 6:13
  I'll
• 6:13
  tell
• 6:14
  you
• 6:14
  exactly
• 6:15
  where
• 6:15
  to
• 6:15
  go
• 6:16
  when
• 6:16
  we
• 6:16
  get
• 6:16
  there.
• 6:17
  Now
• 6:17
  this
• 6:17
  one
• 6:18
  is
• 6:18
  subtle,
• 6:19
  so
• 6:19
  stay
• 6:19
  with
• 6:20
  me.
• 6:20
  Many
• 6:21
  women
• 6:21
  don't
• 6:21
  realize
• 6:22
  they've
• 6:23
  handed
• 6:23
  their
• 6:23
  identity
• 6:24
  over
• 6:25
  to
• 6:25
  all
• 6:26
  of
• 6:26
  the
• 6:26
  roles
• 6:27
  that
• 6:27
  they
• 6:27
  play
• 6:28
  We
• 6:28
  see
• 6:29
  this
• 6:29
  in
• 6:29
  how
• 6:30
  we
• 6:30
  describe
• 6:30
  ourselves
• 6:31
  when
• 6:31
  we
• 6:31
  first
• 6:32
  meet
• 6:32
  someone.
• 6:33
  When
• 6:33
  we
• 6:33
  introduce
• 6:34
  ourselves
• 6:34
  to
• 6:34
  someone,
• 6:35
  it
• 6:35
  is
• 6:35
  like
• 6:35
  we're
• 6:35
  giving
• 6:36
  our
• 6:36
  Instagram
• 6:37
  bio.
• 6:39
  I'm
• 6:39
  a
• 6:39
  wife
• 6:39
  mom,
• 6:40
  and
• 6:40
  this
• 6:40
  is
• 6:40
  what
• 6:40
  I
• 6:40
  do
• 6:40
  for
• 6:41
  work.
• 6:43
  Identity
• 6:44
  could
• 6:44
  be
• 6:45
  handed
• 6:45
  over
• 6:45
  to
• 6:45
  achievements,
• 6:46
  productivity,
• 6:47
  relationships,
• 6:48
  praise,
• 6:49
  and
• 6:49
  even
• 6:50
  survival
• 6:50
  roles.
• 6:51
  So
• 6:52
  when
• 6:52
  the
• 6:52
  goal
• 6:52
  shifts.
• 6:53
  When
• 6:54
  the
• 6:54
  season
• 6:54
  changes,
• 6:55
  when
• 6:55
  the
• 6:55
  validation
• 6:56
  gets
• 6:56
  quiet,
• 6:57
  they
• 6:58
  feel
• 6:58
  untethered.
• 7:00
  But
• 7:00
  identity
• 7:01
  that's
• 7:01
  borrowed
• 7:02
  will
• 7:02
  always
• 7:02
  feel
• 7:03
  unstable.
• 7:04
  Identity
• 7:05
  that's
• 7:05
  chosen
• 7:06
  becomes
• 7:07
  home.
• 7:08
  This
• 7:08
  is
• 7:09
  why
• 7:09
  habits
• 7:09
  collapse
• 7:10
  in
• 7:10
  quiet
• 7:11
  seasons
• 7:12
  because
• 7:12
  without
• 7:13
  urgency,
• 7:13
  without
• 7:14
  chaos,
• 7:14
  without
• 7:15
  external
• 7:15
  pressure,
• 7:16
  all
• 7:17
  of
• 7:17
  the
• 7:17
  things
• 7:17
  we've
• 7:17
  learned
• 7:18
  how
• 7:18
  to
• 7:18
  operate
• 7:19
  phenomenally
• 7:20
  in.
• 7:20
  By
• 7:20
  the
• 7:20
  way,
• 7:22
  you're
• 7:22
  then
• 7:23
  left
• 7:23
  with
• 7:23
  the
• 7:23
  truth.
• 7:24
  Who
• 7:25
  am
• 7:25
  I
• 7:26
  when
• 7:26
  no
• 7:27
  one
• 7:27
  is
• 7:27
  watching?
• 7:28
  That
• 7:28
  is
• 7:29
  the
• 7:29
  woman
• 7:29
  who's
• 7:30
  already
• 7:30
  running
• 7:31
  your
• 7:31
  life.
• 7:32
  As
• 7:32
  wonderful
• 7:33
  as
• 7:34
  the
• 7:34
  roles
• 7:34
  are
• 7:35
  that
• 7:35
  you
• 7:35
  play
• 7:36
  in
• 7:36
  your
• 7:36
  life.
• 7:37
  You
• 7:37
  are
• 7:38
  a
• 7:38
  person.
• 7:39
  You
• 7:39
  are
• 7:39
  a
• 7:39
  human.
• 7:40
  You
• 7:41
  are
• 7:41
  so
• 7:41
  much
• 7:41
  more
• 7:42
  than
• 7:43
  just
• 7:43
  the
• 7:43
  titles
• 7:44
  of
• 7:44
  the
• 7:44
  roles
• 7:45
  you
• 7:45
  serve
• 7:46
  in.
• 7:47
  You're
• 7:47
  highly
• 7:48
  intelligent,
• 7:49
  you're
• 7:49
  sweet,
• 7:50
  funny.
• 7:51
  You
• 7:52
  have
• 7:52
  amazing
• 7:53
  energy
• 7:53
  and
• 7:53
  great
• 7:54
  to
• 7:54
  be
• 7:54
  around.
• 7:55
  what
• 7:55
  other
• 7:56
  words
• 7:56
  would
• 7:56
  you
• 7:56
  really
• 7:57
  use
• 7:57
  to
• 7:57
  describe
• 7:58
  the
• 7:58
  woman
• 7:58
  that
• 7:59
  you
• 7:59
  are?
• 8:00
  Because
• 8:00
  identity
• 8:01
  is
• 8:01
  about
• 8:02
  more
• 8:02
  than
• 8:02
  just
• 8:03
  titles
• 8:03
  and.
• 8:04
  All
• 8:04
  of
• 8:04
  the
• 8:04
  flashing
• 8:05
  lights
• 8:06
  that
• 8:06
  come
• 8:06
  with
• 8:06
  achievements.
• 8:07
  Identity
• 8:08
  is
• 8:08
  who
• 8:09
  you
• 8:09
  are,
• 8:09
  friend,
• 8:10
  and
• 8:10
  that's
• 8:10
  just
• 8:11
  as
• 8:11
  beautiful
• 8:12
  as
• 8:12
  all
• 8:12
  of
• 8:13
  the
• 8:13
  ways
• 8:13
  that
• 8:13
  you
• 8:13
  show
• 8:14
  up
• 8:14
  in
• 8:14
  your
• 8:14
  life.
• 8:15
  Main
• 8:16
  Character.
• 8:16
  Energy
• 8:17
  lives
• 8:17
  here
• 8:19
  because
• 8:19
  identity
• 8:20
  is
• 8:20
  not
• 8:20
  a
• 8:20
  vibe.
• 8:21
  It's
• 8:21
  not
• 8:21
  a
• 8:21
  cute
• 8:21
  vision
• 8:22
  board.
• 8:22
  It's
• 8:23
  not
• 8:23
  something
• 8:23
  you're
• 8:24
  manifesting.
• 8:25
  Identity
• 8:26
  is
• 8:26
  a
• 8:26
  private
• 8:27
  standard.
• 8:28
  This
• 8:28
  is
• 8:29
  who
• 8:29
  I
• 8:29
  am
• 8:29
  and
• 8:30
  this
• 8:30
  is
• 8:30
  how
• 8:30
  I
• 8:31
  move.
• 8:31
  Scripture
• 8:32
  says,
• 8:33
  as
• 8:33
  a
• 8:33
  man
• 8:34
  thinks
• 8:34
  in
• 8:34
  his
• 8:34
  heart,
• 8:35
  so
• 8:35
  is
• 8:36
  he
• 8:37
  not
• 8:37
  as
• 8:37
  he
• 8:37
  hopes,
• 8:38
  not
• 8:38
  as
• 8:38
  he
• 8:38
  plans
• 8:39
  as
• 8:40
  he
• 8:40
  is.
• 8:41
  When
• 8:42
  your
• 8:42
  actions
• 8:43
  line
• 8:43
  up
• 8:43
  with
• 8:44
  that
• 8:44
  internal
• 8:45
  knowing,
• 8:46
  confidence
• 8:46
  gets
• 8:47
  quiet
• 8:48
  because
• 8:48
  your
• 8:48
  power
• 8:49
  gets
• 8:50
  calmer
• 8:51
  And
• 8:51
  life
• 8:51
  starts
• 8:52
  responding
• 8:53
  differently,
• 8:54
  not
• 8:54
  because
• 8:54
  you're
• 8:55
  forcing
• 8:55
  it,
• 8:56
  but
• 8:56
  because
• 8:56
  you're
• 8:56
  finally
• 8:57
  congruent
• 8:58
  in
• 8:59
  alignment
• 8:59
  with
• 9:00
  who
• 9:00
  you
• 9:00
  truly
• 9:01
  are.
• 9:04
  Ooh,
• 9:04
  friend.
• 9:04
  If
• 9:05
  you
• 9:05
  are
• 9:05
  listening
• 9:06
  to
• 9:06
  this
• 9:06
  and
• 9:06
  realizing
• 9:07
  you
• 9:07
  understand
• 9:08
  your
• 9:08
  patterns,
• 9:09
  but
• 9:09
  you're
• 9:10
  still
• 9:10
  not
• 9:10
  moving
• 9:10
  forward,
• 9:11
  that
• 9:12
  tells
• 9:12
  me
• 9:12
  something
• 9:13
  important.
• 9:14
  You
• 9:14
  are
• 9:14
  past
• 9:15
  awareness
• 9:16
  at
• 9:16
  this
• 9:17
  stage.
• 9:17
  More
• 9:18
  insight
• 9:18
  won't
• 9:19
  create
• 9:19
  change.
• 9:20
  Momentum
• 9:21
  will
• 9:21
  the
• 9:22
  Main
• 9:22
  Character
• 9:22
  Momentum
• 9:23
  Builder
• 9:24
  exists
• 9:25
  for
• 9:25
  this
• 9:25
  exact
• 9:26
  moment.
• 9:27
  For
• 9:27
  women
• 9:27
  who
• 9:27
  are
• 9:28
  done,
• 9:28
  circling
• 9:29
  and
• 9:29
  ready
• 9:30
  to
• 9:30
  move
• 9:30
  forward
• 9:31
  with
• 9:31
  self-trust,
• 9:32
  not
• 9:32
  force.
• 9:33
  You'll
• 9:33
  find
• 9:34
  it
• 9:34
  linked
• 9:34
  in
• 9:34
  the
• 9:34
  show
• 9:35
  notes.
• 9:38
  Now
• 9:38
  this
• 9:39
  is
• 9:39
  where
• 9:39
  we
• 9:40
  stop
• 9:40
  talking
• 9:40
  about
• 9:41
  it
• 9:41
  and
• 9:41
  start
• 9:42
  living
• 9:42
  from
• 9:43
  it
• 9:43
  because
• 9:43
  awareness
• 9:44
  without
• 9:45
  action
• 9:45
  keeps
• 9:46
  you
• 9:46
  circling
• 9:48
  and
• 9:48
  you
• 9:48
  are
• 9:49
  not
• 9:49
  here
• 9:49
  to
• 9:50
  circle.
• 9:50
  Okay.
• 9:51
  So
• 9:52
  I
• 9:52
  want
• 9:52
  to
• 9:52
  give
• 9:52
  you
• 9:52
  something
• 9:53
  simple,
• 9:53
  grounded
• 9:54
  and
• 9:54
  powerful.
• 9:55
  Not
• 9:56
  another
• 9:56
  concept.
• 9:57
  Not
• 9:57
  another
• 9:57
  theory,
• 9:58
  but
• 9:58
  a
• 9:59
  way
• 9:59
  to
• 9:59
  move
• 10:00
  that
• 10:01
  reinforces
• 10:02
  who
• 10:02
  you
• 10:02
  already
• 10:03
  are.
• 10:04
  You
• 10:04
  know
• 10:04
  it.
• 10:05
  We
• 10:05
  love
• 10:05
  it.
• 10:06
  The
• 10:06
  self
• 10:06
  love
• 10:07
  two
• 10:07
  step.
• 10:08
  This
• 10:08
  one
• 10:08
  is
• 10:09
  the
• 10:09
  self
• 10:10
  standard
• 10:11
  shift
• 10:11
  because
• 10:12
  this
• 10:12
  is
• 10:12
  not
• 10:12
  about
• 10:13
  proving
• 10:13
  worth.
• 10:14
  This
• 10:15
  is
• 10:15
  about
• 10:15
  reinforcing
• 10:16
  truth.
• 10:17
  Step
• 10:18
  one,
• 10:18
  claim
• 10:19
  the
• 10:19
  identity.
• 10:20
  Before
• 10:21
  you
• 10:21
  do
• 10:22
  anything,
• 10:23
  ask
• 10:24
  yourself,
• 10:24
  who
• 10:25
  am
• 10:25
  I
• 10:25
  no
• 10:26
  longer
• 10:27
  negotiating
• 10:27
  with,
• 10:28
  and
• 10:28
  choose
• 10:28
  one.
• 10:30
  It
• 10:30
  could
• 10:30
  be.
• 10:30
  I
• 10:31
  am
• 10:31
  a
• 10:31
  woman
• 10:31
  who
• 10:31
  follows
• 10:32
  through.
• 10:33
  I
• 10:33
  am
• 10:33
  disciplined
• 10:34
  with
• 10:34
  my
• 10:34
  energy.
• 10:35
  I
• 10:35
  respect
• 10:36
  my
• 10:36
  time
• 10:37
  and
• 10:37
  my
• 10:38
  word.
• 10:38
  No
• 10:39
  performance,
• 10:40
  no
• 10:40
  hype,
• 10:41
  just
• 10:41
  a
• 10:41
  clean
• 10:42
  internal
• 10:43
  decision.
• 10:44
  And
• 10:44
  step
• 10:44
  two,
• 10:45
  collect
• 10:45
  the
• 10:45
  evidence
• 10:46
  within
• 10:47
  the
• 10:47
  next
• 10:47
  24
• 10:48
  hours,
• 10:48
  take
• 10:49
  one
• 10:50
  aligned
• 10:50
  action
• 10:51
  from
• 10:52
  that
• 10:52
  identity.
• 10:53
  Not
• 10:54
  to
• 10:54
  prove
• 10:54
  anything,
• 10:55
  not
• 10:55
  to
• 10:56
  convince
• 10:56
  yourself,
• 10:57
  but
• 10:58
  to
• 10:58
  give
• 10:58
  your
• 10:58
  nervous
• 10:59
  system
• 10:59
  evidence
• 11:00
  that
• 11:01
  this
• 11:01
  is
• 11:01
  already
• 11:02
  who
• 11:03
  you
• 11:03
  are.
• 11:04
  evidence
• 11:05
  builds
• 11:05
  trust.
• 11:06
  Trust
• 11:07
  stabilizes
• 11:08
  identity
• 11:09
  and
• 11:09
  identity
• 11:10
  removes.
• 11:11
  The
• 11:12
  friction.
• 11:13
  This
• 11:13
  is
• 11:13
  how
• 11:14
  change
• 11:15
  becomes
• 11:16
  permanent.
• 11:16
  Now,
• 11:17
  let
• 11:17
  me
• 11:17
  pour
• 11:17
  into
• 11:18
  you
• 11:18
  real
• 11:18
  quick.
• 11:19
  A
• 11:19
  listen
• 11:19
  closely
• 11:20
  friend,
• 11:21
  you
• 11:21
  are
• 11:21
  not
• 11:22
  inconsistent.
• 11:23
  You
• 11:23
  are
• 11:23
  done
• 11:24
  negotiating.
• 11:25
  You
• 11:25
  are
• 11:26
  not
• 11:26
  undisciplined.
• 11:27
  You
• 11:28
  are
• 11:28
  done
• 11:29
  outsourcing
• 11:30
  authority.
• 11:31
  You
• 11:31
  are
• 11:31
  not
• 11:31
  behind.
• 11:32
  You
• 11:33
  are
• 11:33
  deciding
• 11:34
  now.
• 11:35
  Once
• 11:35
  you
• 11:35
  stop
• 11:36
  asking
• 11:36
  for
• 11:37
  permission
• 11:37
  from
• 11:38
  your
• 11:38
  moods,
• 11:39
  the
• 11:39
  moment
• 11:40
  you
• 11:40
  stop
• 11:40
  debating
• 11:41
  with
• 11:41
  yourself.
• 11:42
  Your
• 11:42
  life
• 11:43
  will
• 11:43
  respond
• 11:44
  quietly,
• 11:45
  steadily,
• 11:46
  undeniably.
• 11:48
  You
• 11:48
  are
• 11:48
  a
• 11:48
  powerful
• 11:49
  woman.
• 11:50
  You
• 11:50
  were
• 11:50
  just
• 11:51
  never
• 11:51
  taught
• 11:51
  to
• 11:52
  lead
• 11:52
  yourself
• 11:53
  from
• 11:54
  identity
• 11:55
  instead
• 11:55
  of
• 11:55
  emotion.
• 11:57
  You
• 11:57
  don't
• 11:57
  need
• 11:57
  more
• 11:58
  healing
• 11:58
  or
• 11:58
  motivation.
• 12:00
  You
• 12:00
  need
• 12:00
  decision
• 12:01
  and
• 12:02
  you
• 12:02
  are
• 12:03
  ready.
• 12:03
  Remember,
• 12:04
  trying
• 12:05
  keeps
• 12:06
  the
• 12:06
  door
• 12:06
  cracked
• 12:07
  open.
• 12:08
  It
• 12:08
  gives
• 12:08
  you
• 12:08
  an
• 12:09
  easy
• 12:09
  out,
• 12:10
  but
• 12:10
  identity
• 12:11
  closes
• 12:12
  it
• 12:12
  not
• 12:12
  aggressively
• 12:13
  or
• 12:13
  dramatically
• 12:14
  just
• 12:15
  decisively.
• 12:17
  You
• 12:17
  don't
• 12:17
  force
• 12:18
  change.
• 12:18
  You
• 12:19
  reinforce
• 12:20
  truth.
• 12:21
  She
• 12:21
  doesn't
• 12:21
  chase
• 12:22
  consistency.
• 12:23
  She
• 12:23
  lives
• 12:24
  from
• 12:24
  who
• 12:25
  she
• 12:25
  is.
• 12:26
  Main
• 12:27
  characters
• 12:27
  don't
• 12:28
  wait
• 12:28
  to
• 12:28
  become,
• 12:29
  they
• 12:29
  decide.
• 12:30
  And
• 12:31
  then
• 12:31
  move.
• 12:32
  So
• 12:32
  decide
• 12:32
  first,
• 12:33
  move
• 12:34
  second,
• 12:34
  and
• 12:35
  let
• 12:35
  life
• 12:36
  catch
• 12:36
  up.
• 12:37
  Identity
• 12:38
  first
• 12:39
  and
• 12:39
  everything
• 12:40
  else
• 12:40
  flows.
• 12:42
  Alignment
• 12:42
  isn't
• 12:43
  effort.
• 12:44
  It's
• 12:44
  agreement
• 12:45
  with
• 12:45
  who
• 12:45
  you
• 12:46
  already
• 12:47
  are.
• 12:47
  So
• 12:48
  before
• 12:48
  you
• 12:48
  move
• 12:48
  on
• 12:49
  with
• 12:49
  your
• 12:49
  day,
• 12:49
  I
• 12:49
  want
• 12:50
  you
• 12:50
  to
• 12:50
  do
• 12:50
  one
• 12:50
  thing.
• 12:51
  Choose
• 12:52
  the
• 12:52
  identity
• 12:53
  you
• 12:53
  are
• 12:53
  no
• 12:54
  longer
• 12:54
  negotiating
• 12:55
  with,
• 12:56
  and
• 12:56
  then
• 12:56
  take
• 12:57
  aligned
• 12:57
  action
• 12:58
  within
• 12:59
  the
• 12:59
  next
• 12:59
  24
• 12:59
  hours.
• 13:00
  Not
• 13:01
  to
• 13:01
  prove
• 13:01
  anything,
• 13:02
  just
• 13:02
  to
• 13:02
  reinforce
• 13:03
  what's
• 13:04
  already
• 13:04
  true.
• 13:05
  And
• 13:06
  when
• 13:06
  you
• 13:06
  feel
• 13:07
  that
• 13:07
  quick,
• 13:07
  click
• 13:08
  inside
• 13:09
  that
• 13:09
  moment
• 13:10
  when
• 13:10
  you
• 13:10
  move
• 13:10
  differently.
• 13:12
  Let
• 13:12
  this
• 13:12
  episode
• 13:13
  be
• 13:13
  the
• 13:13
  one
• 13:13
  that
• 13:13
  you
• 13:14
  remember,
• 13:14
  because
• 13:15
  that's
• 13:15
  how
• 13:16
  change
• 13:16
  actually
• 13:17
  sticks.
• 13:18
  Ooh,
• 13:19
  friend.
• 13:20
  If
• 13:20
  this
• 13:20
  podcast
• 13:21
  has
• 13:21
  become
• 13:22
  part
• 13:22
  of
• 13:22
  how
• 13:23
  you
• 13:23
  lead
• 13:23
  yourself,
• 13:24
  I'd
• 13:24
  love
• 13:25
  for
• 13:26
  you
• 13:26
  to
• 13:26
  leave
• 13:26
  a
• 13:26
  five
• 13:27
  star
• 13:27
  review,
• 13:28
  not
• 13:28
  as
• 13:28
  a
• 13:28
  favor,
• 13:29
  but
• 13:29
  as
• 13:29
  a
• 13:29
  signal.
• 13:30
  Reviews
• 13:31
  help
• 13:31
  this
• 13:32
  message.
• 13:32
  Reach
• 13:33
  women
• 13:33
  who
• 13:33
  are
• 13:34
  ready.
• 13:34
  For
• 13:35
  this
• 13:35
  level
• 13:35
  of
• 13:35
  conversation,
• 13:36
  and
• 13:37
  if
• 13:37
  you
• 13:37
  are
• 13:37
  here,
• 13:38
  you
• 13:38
  already
• 13:38
  know
• 13:39
  how
• 13:39
  powerful
• 13:40
  it
• 13:40
  is
• 13:40
  when
• 13:41
  the
• 13:41
  right
• 13:41
  words
• 13:42
  find
• 13:42
  you
• 13:43
  at
• 13:43
  the
• 13:43
  right
• 13:44
  time.
• 13:45
  Until
• 13:45
  next
• 13:45
  time,
• 13:46
  remember,
• 13:47
  you
• 13:47
  don't
• 13:47
  rise
• 13:48
  to
• 13:48
  your
• 13:48
  goals.
• 13:49
  You
• 13:49
  rise
• 13:50
  to
• 13:50
  yourself
• 13:51
  standard
• 13:52
  and
• 13:52
  you
• 13:52
  already
• 13:53
  know
• 13:53
  who
• 13:53
  you
• 13:53
  are
• 13:54
  around
• 13:54
  here,
• 13:55
  we
• 13:55
  don't
• 13:55
  settle.
• 13:56
  We
• 13:56
  shine.
• 13:57
  All
• 13:57
  because
• 13:58
  together
• 13:58
  we
• 13:59
  can
• 13:59
  encourage
• 14:00
  over
• 14:01
  everything.