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Baylee's Birth Story · Mocktail Minutes

• 0:21
  Hello, everyone.
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  Welcome to this week's bonus episode.
• 0:24
  This is Bailey and this has been a requested topic again.
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  Some of you wanted to hear my birth story.
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  So first of all, I just want to say thank you for every single one of you who have checked in with me, asked how I am doing as to how baby is doing.
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  Gannon is absolutely amazing.
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  He he's the best little boy ever.
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  And.
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  I'll say I'm doing better.
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  Postpartum has been a little different than what I expected, which we'll get into, but just know I appreciate every single one of you.
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  Checking in.
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  I.
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  Fully recognize how great my.
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  The village of support is my community.
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  Not only with my family that is here in person.
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  I'm extremely lucky to have such a great family that has helped with Gannon that has helped bring us dinner.
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  Helping with cleaning the house.
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  And I have a very supportive fiance as well.
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  So we've been doing, we're figuring it all out.
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  We're been good at tag teaming things.
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  So it's been interesting and fun trying to find our new normal, but this episode, like I said, I'm going to talk about my birth story a little bit since, since this was requested.
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  I know a lot of you are curious.
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  But it is fun to hear that you guys.
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  Are interested in kind of more of our personal life and just these little fun updates.
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  So as always let us know if there is topics like this that you want us to talk about.
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  Let's stay then.
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  So I was due on July 3rd.
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  That was my original due date.
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  And since the beginning Baby had been measuring big, probably two to three weeks ahead of time.
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  Especially his head, his belly and his legs.
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  And.
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  So we kinda knew he was probably going to be a bigger baby, but I was also measuring right on track the entire time, like my belly personally.
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  So they weren't totally convinced that he was going to be as big as ultrasound was predicting, but.
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  I'm for reference I'm five, three.
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  I'm pretty small.
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  And petite and dad, he is six, three.
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  And so.
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  There was still, he still had some genes that could make him a taller person.
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  And.
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  So as we progressed, he continued to measure big and it was actually kind of looking back.
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  It was a really good pregnancy the whole time I really worked to stay active.
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  I'm so glad I did.
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  I did stop strength training, probably like the last.
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  Two months.
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  And I mainly just focused on walking because I.
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  Ended up being like in a lot of pain.
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  I was having some leg pains going on, not too sure what that was about.
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  They think that maybe he was just sitting so low and hitting a nerve.
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  I always explained it like Barbie doll legs.
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  Like, if you were to take a Barbie doll and just split their legs in half.
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  That's what I felt like my legs were doing.
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  So I stopped during training.
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  I really just focused on my walking.
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  And I'm so glad I did, because I think it really just helped me have a good pregnancy physically, but also mentally.
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  Fun fact, I actually went and walked a mile.
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  The day I was in labor.
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  So.
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  With that on June 5th, I had my doctor's appointment at this point.
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  I was going once a week.
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  And it was the first time I was being checked to see if I was dilated.
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  I was actually dilated to four centimeters.
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  And doctor is very surprised, especially with me being a first time mom being so progressed and I was 36 weeks.
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  I believe.
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  So.
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  It's still a little early 37 weeks is what they would like.
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  It's more considered kind of full term.
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  So.
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  She did say she's like, honestly, if you go, it won't be the worst thing because he's measuring bigger.
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  So not too concerned there, but it could be any time now, like go home, pack your hospital bags.
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  I was like, oh, Okay.
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  Like this could be happening.
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  And I work with a bunch of chiropractors and some nurses and such therapists.
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  So lots of healthcare professionals.
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  And I came back to work in the, like, you're going to have a baby by like this week.
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  I was like, oh, Okay.
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  So I was like, kind of preparing myself, we prepared.
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  Everything else.
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  Got the car seat in.
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  Well that at any time now turned out to be a lot longer than expected.
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  I was four centimeters dilated for a little over two weeks.
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  So on June 19th, they did the membrane sweep, which if you have not had that done yet.
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  Whew.
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  It it's definitely not fun.
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  And you feel terrible afterwards.
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  It was a long day at work, following that.
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  And on June 21st, it was a Friday and I started having some more contractions.
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  I hadn't been having Braxton Hicks for probably about a month at this point.
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  And.
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  On June 21st.
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  I started getting more consistent contractions.
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  I had already gone to the hospital twice for like false alarm type things.
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  And the last time I had gone was the weekend before.
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  And I think I was a little bit more cautious because I knew I was already at four centimeters.
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  So I didn't.
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  One to like wait too long.
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  And I also didn't know what to expect.
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  So.
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  I would try and time some contractions, but they weren't ever ones that were super painful or just like, oh, this is kind of uncomfortable.
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  The last time you went.
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  I had a very bad experience with a doctor on call.
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  And to the point where she, she just kind of made me feel like an idiot, honestly.
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  And she's like, I don't really know why you came.
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  It was.
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  I don't know.
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  I thought I was having closer contractions.
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  Apparently, I think they were just more kind of Braxton Hicks.
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  And she's like, well, I mean, you can stay here and see what happens or just go home.
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  I don't see any reason to keep you.
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  Lots of other things were said, and it just really rubbed me the wrong way.
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  And basically she was like, really you're going to know, because you're not going to be able to breathe.
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  So of course me, I get in the car and tell Josh, I'm like, all right, we're not going back to the hospital until I am passed out.
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  Not breathing.
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  So on the 21st I did, I was having more consistent contractions there about five to seven minutes apart throughout the day.
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  And if it's base, I'll be like more like seven minutes more often.
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  I went on a walk.
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  I finished out four of my clients with like, I just want to finish them.
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  Like, I'm good.
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  Like.
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  What else am I going to do?
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  Sit here.
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  So had contractions throughout the day, towards the end of the night, they were more consistently like five minutes.
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  They got to, some of them are about three minutes.
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  So we were kind of like, Okay, let's start to get ready.
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  And, but it was still to the point where I was like, well, I can still breathe.
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  Then.
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  As the night progressed, they did get more intense.
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  And by like 10 o'clock that night, I had a few that did kind of put me into tears.
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  And so I knew, I was like, okay, we're probably getting close 10 o'clock comes.
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  And then they spaced out again to like 10 minutes apart.
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  I was like, what in the world?
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  Guess we're not going anywhere.
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  So Josh was like, well, let's go lay down.
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  Let's get some sleep in case like it is almost time.
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  So he falls asleep.
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  I'm laying in bed.
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  I have a few more contractions again.
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  10 minutes apart.
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  These ones are super painful though.
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  So by the third one, I remember laying there and I was contemplating.
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  Should I just wake Josh up?
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  I know they're farther apart, but they're super painful.
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  Not even 30 seconds later, my water broke.
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  And.
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  It was the weirdest feeling ever.
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  It was like a volcano of war.
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  I was like, what, what, what, what, like, what is happening?
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  Wait Josh up.
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  I'm like, ah, I think my waters broke.
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  And just interest kept coming out and he said he heard it pop.
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  I don't really.
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  I remember it popping.
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  I just remember feeling like a relief of pressure.
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  And I was like, oh, this kind of feels nice.
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  So I get up, I take a shower.
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  I'm like, oh, now I feel gross.
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  And so I'm just hanging out and he's like, we need to go, like, what are you doing?
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  Like I'm taking shower.
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  Well then.
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  It, we got a little bit more painful.
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  If we say the show is like, oh God, we got to go.
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  So I get out.
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  My I'm still like leaking fluids.
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  I changed clothes.
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  Get in the car with packed house and everything.
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  I leaked.
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  I don't the fluids.
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  Until we got to the hospital all through the hospital to go up to her room.
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  I was like, I'm leaving a snail.
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  True.
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  Basically.
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  And on the way to the hospital, I, for a second thought I was going to have the baby in the car having lots of pressure.
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  And then we came up, there was a huge wreck.
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  I, so I was like, all right, well, we're going to be stuck in traffic and I'm gonna have a baby in the car.
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  And I would be traumatized for my first.
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  Child.
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  But we actually did not get stuck in any traffic.
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  We made it to the hospital.
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  It was about 1130.
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  Once I got there at six and a half centimeters dilated.
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  I was nine centimeters.
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  By like 3:00 AM.
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  So we started doing practice pushes.
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  I was able to get my epidural and everything.
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  When I got there, I did do the epidural.
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  I got my practice pushes in.
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  We did a couple, and then all of a sudden the nurse who was actually Josh's stepsister.
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  So she got to deliver her nephew.
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  So that was really cool, but it was nice to have someone I was familiar with kind of hanging out with, with us and lead me through what I was doing.
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  I did not take any birthing classes.
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  We just, it was a lot going on at the time.
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  I didn't take him and we just went in and everything turned out fine.
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  Do my practice pushes.
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  And she was like, oh, okay, let's stop pushing because he is coming out.
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  So they had already called the doctor.
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  He was moving a little slower, cause I was a first time mom.
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  And so he didn't expect me to progress quickly.
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  I don't think.
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  So we had to wait for the doctor.
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  And Josh and my mom are in the room with me and they could see Gannon's hedge, just kind of sitting there, sat there for about 40 minutes.
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  Waiting for the doctor and the whole time I was like, just watching the clock.
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  It's like another 10 minutes past.
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  I'm like, I'm just going to push, like, what are they going to do?
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  Yell at me for putting out my baby.
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  So I was watching the clock, just waiting for this doctor.
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  He comes in.
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  We're talking and he's like, so I hear this might be an eight pound baby.
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  I was like, well, that's what they're estimating.
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  But looking at you, I think six, maybe seven pounds.
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  I don't think you're going to be pushing out eight pound or like okay, great.
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  So then.
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  They.
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  We're like, if you were still feeling pressure, I was like how the pressure has not gone away.
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  If you're still feeling pressure, go ahead and push.
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  So I started pushing for pushes and he was out by the time his shoulder and heads were head, was out the doctor like, oh, wow.
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  This is an eight pound baby.
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  And I actually got to, once he was halfway out, I was able to pull them out the rest of the way, which is really cool.
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  Josh thought it was crazy, but it was really neat to be able to do.
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  And apparently this doctor likes to have moms do that.
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  And I feel like I don't know what his reasoning is.
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  Maybe it's just because it's something neat to experience.
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  But I think it really helped me just to be distracted while I was getting like, stitched up, like everything else was happening.
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  Cause then I just got to enjoy my brand new baby.
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  So he was born at five 19.
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  Yeah, and it pretty quickly were, especially for my first one, after that we had been up for 41 hours straight because I mean, we had woke up for work that Friday.
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  Had the baby at five 19.
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  And then it was a whole day of, we had visitors just in all with the baby.
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  And so it was a very long.
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  In continuous day.
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  We did have him go sit with the nurses for a little bit, which was some advice that I was given.
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  I did feel a little guilty at first.
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  I'm like, I just had you and I'm just going to send you away.
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  But.
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  I was exhausted and I was like, I just need like two hours of sleep.
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  So he did go with the nurses and he did just fine.
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  He's been such a good baby.
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  He's very snugly.
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  And loves to be wrapped up.
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  He actually loves being outside too.
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  Like.
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  It's like a light switch.
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  If he's upset, we can just go outside and he's like, oh, I'm fine.
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  Now.
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  So it loves me outside, I guess.
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  It's good that he's a summer baby.
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  And I learned that he's been really good growing boy.
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  He.
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  It's definitely a good eater.
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  Which is great as a dietician mom.
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  And then I would say for myself, because I have had a lot of people check in, I'm doing better.
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  Like I said at the beginning, postpartum was not what I expected.
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  I feel like mentally, I struggled a little bit during pregnancy and right after birth, because.
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  During pregnancy, they had some concerns with this kidney.
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  So we had to do a couple check-ins on that.
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  And then.
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  They also had concerns with him being so big.
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  Like, was he going to get stuck?
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  Was he at risk for diabetes that I have gestational diabetes.
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  So there was a couple of things going on through there throughout the pregnancy.
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  And then once he was born, they found a slight heart murmur that they were watching.
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  Because he was so big, they were concerned about blood sugars and then he's had some weird breathing.
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  And then, because he came out so quickly, he also swallowed some fluids.
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  So just a couple of things you were watching there.
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  And it just, it felt like everything just kept adding up.
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  So it was.
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  Really hard on me mentally, especially as being a first time mom, and just like not knowing what to expect.
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  And I just felt like it was one thing after the other.
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  And then as far as me, like, I really, I really wanted to breastfeed.
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  As a dietician and just a human in this world.
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  It's been engraved in my head that breastfeeding is best.
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  Like this is the best thing you can do for your kid.
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  So I really wanted to do this.
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  However at the hospital.
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  I, I started trying breastfeeding.
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  And at first with his blood sugar checks, it was really challenging because we had to time everything really right.
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  So I was struggling there and we ended up doing some formula.
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  Why we're there?
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  And then I was also struggling to kind of have them latch.
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  Like I just didn't know what I was doing.
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  And I did have some help, so I felt a little bit better, but.
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  By like day three.
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  I just, I absolutely hated breastfeeding.
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  It was, I don't know how to explain it.
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  But.
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  I just hated the feeling.
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  Make me sick to my stomach.
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  I would get a headache.
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  I would just cry the whole time.
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  I did not like it at all.
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  So we did.
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  Formula for the rest of that night.
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  And the next morning before we went to his first pediatrician visit.
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  While there, I kind of asked about thoughts on breastfeeding formula, like what she recommends and.
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  I had another bad experience with this doctor.
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  And she was basically like, well, whoever told you breastfeeding was easy.
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  Like they're lying to you.
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  I'm like, I'm not saying I just want to quit because it's too hard for me.
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  I didn't expect to, just to be in a walk-on park.
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  So then I had some guilt there.
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  Like was I not doing enough for my kiddo?
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  So I was like, okay, well, I'm just going to pump.
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  So I started pumping.
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  And so at this point, pumping and then bottle feeding.
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  And it was a lot, it was super draining.
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  I exhausted.
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  Especially like night times with we were getting up, he was getting changed.
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  She was getting fed.
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  I had to pump like, it was a whole thing and I was pumping every two hours.
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  And.
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  It was a lot, like I said, and especially mentally.
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  Oh, my.
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  I, it was just too much.
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  So I decided to start weening and introducing formula for him.
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  And then I actually had mastitis.
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  So I had mastitis on my left side.
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  A week ago.
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  Cured from that.
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  I was on antibiotics.
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  Got that all taken care of felt really good for four days.
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  And now I have on my right side.
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  So just.
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  Like I said, I've been struggling mentally.
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  With feeling like it's been one thing after the other, but I'm hopeful that we're on the.
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  Uphill slope, downhill slope, whatever it is that we're getting better.
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  I'm feeling much better today.
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  I'm on another round of antibiotics.
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  But I think.
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  Where, some of you may relate to this as well is with breastfeeding.
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  Like I, like I said, it's been great.
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  That it's the best thing to do.
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  But sometimes.
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  It's okay.
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  To make decisions that are going to be more beneficial in the long run.
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  Pumping.
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  It was not working for me.
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  And that's okay.
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  We don't have to do every single thing.
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  The like a plus way.
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  Sometimes we can just be a people.
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  And at the end of the day, my baby's getting fed.
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  He's happy.
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  He's been transitioning very well to formula, which I'm very grateful for.
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  And.
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  I know everything's going to be okay.
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  Right now.
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  It could be a struggle at some points.
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  I've had a few breakdowns and.
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  I'm ready to enjoy my time with my baby.
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  And these next few weeks that I have off work.
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  So that is my birth story.
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  I hope you enjoyed this episode.
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  And.
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  I appreciate it.
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  Like I said, I appreciate every single one of you who have reached out who have checked on me.
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  And.
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  It's kind of funny, you guys like to hear about our personal lives and we get to share with our little mocktail minutes community.
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  Don't forget to check out our episode with Katie this week as well.
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  We cover postpartum, but also just mom life in general.
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  So even if you just, if you didn't just have a baby, it's still going to be beneficial to you.
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  Have a great rest of your day and we'll talk soon.
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  Bye.