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Ep 10: Who am I?! · She Resets: Mindset, Fitness, Confidence

• 0:57
  SPEAKER_00: Hello and welcome to episode 10.
• 1:00
  SPEAKER_00: Wow, double digits.
• 1:02
  SPEAKER_00: Can you believe it?
• 1:03
  SPEAKER_00: And thank you to everybody that has listened to my little podcast so far.
• 1:09
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you to everyone that's given me feedback and comments.
• 1:13
  SPEAKER_00: I really appreciate it.
• 1:15
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm always after more, I'm always after more um constructive feedback, criticism.
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_00: I'd love to know what you want to hear about so that I can build future episodes around topics that are going to help you.
• 1:29
  SPEAKER_00: And yeah, I thought we might celebrate episode 10 with a little introduction to me because I've got listeners in the United States of America, in Singapore, in Brazil, Mexico, France, Norway, and Spain, um, which is incredible.
• 1:52
  SPEAKER_00: And I don't think you guys will know me from Larry.
• 1:56
  SPEAKER_00: Is that the right saying?
• 1:58
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 1:59
  SPEAKER_00: Sounds right.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, so I thought I would tell you all who I am.
• 2:05
  SPEAKER_00: So not a long one today, just a little brief introduction.
• 2:09
  SPEAKER_00: So I am Emma and I am 45, 45-year-old.
• 2:18
  SPEAKER_00: They are twins, they are 14, going on 21, um, but they are wonderful.
• 2:24
  SPEAKER_00: I've got the most incredible husband.
• 2:26
  SPEAKER_00: I am very, very lucky.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, we have been together for 20 years, married for 14.
• 2:33
  SPEAKER_00: I have my mom.
• 2:36
  SPEAKER_00: My mom has Alzheimer's, so she is a challenge, she's 83, she's had two new hips and two new shoulders, so she's not very mobile either.
• 2:47
  SPEAKER_00: So um I do a lot for her, and I work for my fabulous friend in her coffee shop.
• 2:57
  SPEAKER_00: I absolutely love it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I do two days a week there and um a fair bit outside as well.
• 3:03
  SPEAKER_00: But I am so invested and it's my um it's my happy place.
• 3:07
  SPEAKER_00: I enjoy it.
• 3:09
  SPEAKER_00: And I have my business.
• 3:11
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so if you don't know, I work in mindset coaching and fitness coaching for women.
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  SPEAKER_00: I will work with anybody of any age, but what I'm really targeting is women that are kind of 40 plus who are just wanting to but work on their fitness, their strength, um, and their confidence.
• 3:33
  SPEAKER_00: Confidence is massive, and that's what I want you all to be confident and comfortable in your skin, whether that means working on what's going on in your head or working on your body.
• 3:46
  SPEAKER_00: And I have a I have some four-legged um creatures in my life as well.
• 3:52
  SPEAKER_00: I have our two cats at home, um, the blackjack, the one-eyed pirate cat, and his sister Jade.
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  SPEAKER_00: They are both rescues, and um our big boy Billy.
• 4:05
  SPEAKER_00: Billy is our horse and he doesn't live with us, he lives down the road.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, but again, a full-time commitment.
• 4:13
  SPEAKER_00: So that's me personally, professionally.
• 4:17
  SPEAKER_00: Um, let me tell you how I got here.
• 4:19
  SPEAKER_00: So I had a proper job one day.
• 4:23
  SPEAKER_00: Once upon a time, I had a proper job.
• 4:26
  SPEAKER_00: I used to work in PR, I I enjoyed it, I loved it, I loved working in public sector PR.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um they were the happiest days of my life.
• 4:34
  SPEAKER_00: I worked at a local college and I I had the best team there and it was brilliant.
• 4:41
  SPEAKER_00: And then I moved into private sector PR, and that wasn't the same.
• 4:46
  SPEAKER_00: It was it was deeply miserable for me.
• 4:50
  SPEAKER_00: I've never been a work to live kind of gal.
• 4:54
  SPEAKER_00: No, work to live, live to work, live to work.
• 4:57
  SPEAKER_00: I've never been a live to work kind of gal.
• 4:59
  SPEAKER_00: I worked to live.
• 5:01
  SPEAKER_00: So let's get that straight.
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  SPEAKER_00: And at the public sector PR office, it was one of those where if you weren't sat at your desk at seven in the morning tapping away and you weren't still there at six and you didn't get your laptop home, then you weren't working hard enough.
• 5:15
  SPEAKER_00: And it was product-based as well.
• 5:17
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm not a product person, I'm a people person, and you can't interview a jar of source like you kind of person, so it just wasn't for me.
• 5:25
  SPEAKER_00: So I left there, I went back into public sector PR, but I was working with a manager who was very young.
• 5:37
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I don't think he particularly liked me.
• 5:40
  SPEAKER_00: I felt a little bit bullied, and it got to the stage where I was driving to work one day and I remember it vividly.
• 5:47
  SPEAKER_00: I remember it like yesterday, and it was December, and it was snowing, and I was driving along the M55 from Blackpool heading towards the M6, and I actually thought to myself it would be preferable to drive through the hard shoulder and into a ditch than actually get to work that day, and that was when I realised that I needed to leave for my own mental health um and my own sanity and my own health and well-being.
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  SPEAKER_00: So at the time I was a member of a swimming world group.
• 6:24
  SPEAKER_00: So I joined Slimming World when I finished university when I was 21.
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  SPEAKER_00: I always thought I was overweight, even when I was 15, 16, and I wasn't.
• 6:36
  SPEAKER_00: And I bet many of you can look back now and relate to this.
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  SPEAKER_00: You look back on those days when you're 15, 16, 17, thinking, Oh god, I need to lose weight.
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  SPEAKER_00: And actually, now you think you were perfect, there was nothing wrong with you at all.
• 6:51
  SPEAKER_00: But I was I was that person, and I always thought I had a problem, always felt overweight compared to my friends, but I wasn't.
• 7:01
  SPEAKER_00: And then I went away to university, and I am a homebird.
• 7:05
  SPEAKER_00: I love being at home, I love my home comforts, I love my family, and I left home to go to university and I was homesick, and I was one of those that was hogging the phone line every night, phoning my mum and dad, um, it to the point where they actually said to me, like, you've got to stop phoning home every night.
• 7:28
  SPEAKER_00: You need to go and and do what students do.
• 7:32
  SPEAKER_00: And so from that, I went to eating on my own from the fast food place every night.
• 7:41
  SPEAKER_00: And I I was in cater towards the residence, which is probably the worst thing for me.
• 7:46
  SPEAKER_00: And there was a restaurant that served lovely food, but I didn't want to go there because I didn't I didn't know anybody and I wasn't brave enough or confident enough to make any friends.
• 7:57
  SPEAKER_00: So I would just go and get a burger or a pizza or a portion of chips every night and take it back to my hall of residence, take it back to my room and eat it on my own.
• 8:05
  SPEAKER_00: Sounds really sad, doesn't it?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and that's where I ballooned.
• 8:08
  SPEAKER_00: And I put on probably about three stone in my first year at university.
• 8:13
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, wow, then I did have a problem.
• 8:16
  SPEAKER_00: And and I knew it, but also I didn't know how to do anything about it.
• 8:21
  SPEAKER_00: So my second and third years at university, they got a lot better.
• 8:26
  SPEAKER_00: I made friends, I moved into house shares, and but because that all got better, the social life got better as well.
• 8:33
  SPEAKER_00: So weight loss wasn't happening.
• 8:35
  SPEAKER_00: But when I finished university and I came home and I thought, oh my goodness, like I'm never gonna get a job, I'm never gonna get a boyfriend, I'm never gonna meet anybody while I look like this.
• 8:48
  SPEAKER_00: So I do in a similar world joined with my mum.
• 8:50
  SPEAKER_00: And I remember walking through the door the first time, and I wouldn't have gone if my mum hadn't gone with me.
• 8:56
  SPEAKER_00: I know I wouldn't, because it's daunting walking through those doors for the first time on your own.
• 9:02
  SPEAKER_00: So we went together and I lost four stone, lost four stone with Simon Road, and I kept that weight off for 22 years, but I'll come back to that shortly.
• 9:16
  SPEAKER_00: So back to the job in the um public sector PR office that made me deeply unhappy.
• 9:22
  SPEAKER_00: While I was there, I was a member at Simon Road, and a lady came into my group one night and said, We're looking for new consultants.
• 9:31
  SPEAKER_00: And I thought, oh, I could do that.
• 9:34
  SPEAKER_00: So I started working as a Cinnamon World consultant, and it wasn't quite gonna make as much money as as my day job.
• 9:44
  SPEAKER_00: But uh my lovely friend at the stables where I kept my horse, she said to me, if you could make enough from Slim in World and maybe working at Stables a couple of days a week, do you think you could leave your job?
• 9:56
  SPEAKER_00: And so I spoke to my my then boyfriend about it, and we weren't married, and he said, Yeah, go for it.
• 10:03
  SPEAKER_00: Let's just go for it.
• 10:05
  SPEAKER_00: You're not happy, just just leave.
• 10:07
  SPEAKER_00: So I did, and I spent a few really happy years working at the stables, working at Seminworld, and then had my girls, and so working at the stables wasn't really possible with with twin babies and a husband working away every two weeks for two weeks.
• 10:23
  SPEAKER_00: So, but by that time I built up my seminar world business enough to go full-time there.
• 10:29
  SPEAKER_00: So I lost my weight, became a semi-world consultant, left my day job, everything's great.
• 10:38
  SPEAKER_00: And then I was a semi-world consultant for 15 years and really successfully.
• 10:46
  SPEAKER_00: So I built my groups, built my groups, built my groups, I worked really hard, and uh before I left, I had the biggest groups in the northwest of England.
• 10:56
  SPEAKER_00: I was winning multiple awards every month for my groups, I was shortlisted for group of the year, um, top five out of over 8,000 groups.
• 11:07
  SPEAKER_00: Um, it was brilliant, like living the dream, earning full-time wages for not even part-time hours.
• 11:14
  SPEAKER_00: And everyone was saying, Oh god, you're so successful.
• 11:17
  SPEAKER_00: I wasn't.
• 11:18
  SPEAKER_00: I wasn't successful at all, which was what brings me to where I am now.
• 11:24
  SPEAKER_00: So being a successful swimming role consultant means that your members are losing weight.
• 11:29
  SPEAKER_00: My members weren't losing weight.
• 11:31
  SPEAKER_00: Don't get me wrong, some of them were, but a lot of them just came because I'd created a really lovely place to be.
• 11:41
  SPEAKER_00: I'd created a lovely place where on a Thursday morning people could come, they could have a coffee, they could have some social time, get out of the house, meet people, have a laugh, and get a bit of help if they needed it.
• 11:56
  SPEAKER_00: And we laughed.
• 11:58
  SPEAKER_00: We did.
• 11:58
  SPEAKER_00: My groups were fun, but they all I wanted them to be motivating, I wanted them to be inspiring, I wanted people to be losing weight and a lot of words.
• 12:09
  SPEAKER_00: And that didn't make me happy because I went into Slimming World as a consultant to help people lose weight.
• 12:16
  SPEAKER_00: So, what to do, what to do.
• 12:18
  SPEAKER_00: I was getting really disillusioned.
• 12:20
  SPEAKER_00: So I thought, maybe, maybe I've reached the end of the road, maybe I need to go try something new.
• 12:26
  SPEAKER_00: But what could I do?
• 12:28
  SPEAKER_00: I'm a complete technophobe, but I hate computers.
• 12:31
  SPEAKER_00: I, oh goodness, was thinking I can't go back into an office job.
• 12:36
  SPEAKER_00: I just I don't even want to.
• 12:37
  SPEAKER_00: Don't want to go back to working 9 to 05 and having to go into meetings and get dressed up every day, and I don't know how to use Word or XL or do PowerPoints or anything like that, and thinking, what can I do?
• 12:54
  SPEAKER_00: But my heart within transformation, I still want to help people transform.
• 12:59
  SPEAKER_00: Women transform.
• 13:01
  SPEAKER_00: I want to help women find themselves, I want to help women become happier and more confident.
• 13:08
  SPEAKER_00: So I found a lady called Sarah Fletcher, and she went a long way to changing my life.
• 13:15
  SPEAKER_00: And I hope to have her on one of these podcasts in the future as a guest, and she runs NLP training.
• 13:22
  SPEAKER_00: So NLP it stands for neurolinguistic programming.
• 13:26
  SPEAKER_00: So neuro, the brain, how we take on what we see in the world, linguistics, the language, how we voice it, programming, our behaviour, how we deliver it.
• 13:37
  SPEAKER_00: So I thought, ooh, that could be quite interesting.
• 13:41
  SPEAKER_00: So I signed up to do a diploma, learned a lot about myself, and thought, wow, I could use some of this to help my members lose weight.
• 13:49
  SPEAKER_00: So I then jumped the next weekend into the NLP.
• 13:56
  SPEAKER_00: Um, what came next?
• 13:57
  SPEAKER_00: There was the diploma, there was the I did something else.
• 14:04
  SPEAKER_00: What did I do?
• 14:06
  SPEAKER_00: I did the practitioner.
• 14:09
  SPEAKER_00: I'm getting confused now.
• 14:10
  SPEAKER_00: I did the practitioners, which was over six months, so it was quite a big chunky course.
• 14:16
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but there I learned about language, I learned about the unconscious mind, I learned about reprogramming habits and behaviors and strategies, I learned about limiting beliefs, about resourceful behaviour, I learned about living life proactively and positively versus being a bit woe is me.
• 14:40
  SPEAKER_00: Oh gosh, I learned so much.
• 14:42
  SPEAKER_00: And I started putting that into my work in Swimming World, just subtle changes of language, getting members thinking a little bit differently.
• 14:51
  SPEAKER_00: And my goodness, it worked.
• 14:53
  SPEAKER_00: Members started losing weight again.
• 14:55
  SPEAKER_00: I felt successful again.
• 14:57
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, oh my god, this is brilliant.
• 15:00
  SPEAKER_00: Like, let me keep doing this, it's having an impact, it's working.
• 15:05
  SPEAKER_00: So I was really happy.
• 15:08
  SPEAKER_00: I refound my love for Slimming World for my groups.
• 15:13
  SPEAKER_00: I was still doing it the Slimming World way, don't get me wrong, I hadn't gone completely rogue, but I was putting a different slant on things and it was working.
• 15:22
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but I was also doing some outside coaching, some one-to-one coaching, and using my skills that way because some women don't want to go and sit in a group full of 50 people and bear their souls, they want a bit more specialist, targeted one-to-one support.
• 15:39
  SPEAKER_00: So I was offering that as well, and that's when Simmon Ward got wind and said, Oh no, no, no, you can't do both.
• 15:46
  SPEAKER_00: And I genuinely, maybe naively, I didn't see a conflict.
• 15:51
  SPEAKER_00: I thought that the I was helping two completely different kinds of women, those that wanted to go and sit in a group and pay$5.95 a week, and those that didn't.
• 16:01
  SPEAKER_00: And my groups were growing.
• 16:03
  SPEAKER_00: Like when I finished with Slimming World, my groups were the biggest they'd ever been.
• 16:08
  SPEAKER_00: So my service wasn't suffering, it had actually got better.
• 16:11
  SPEAKER_00: My groups had grown, they were making Slimming World more money, but still they said, no, no, no, you have to choose.
• 16:16
  SPEAKER_00: You can either do your own thing or you can stay with Slimming World.
• 16:20
  SPEAKER_00: So I decided to leave, um, which was scary and still is, but I don't regret it for a second.
• 16:28
  SPEAKER_00: So I left Slimming World and I started working one-to-one with more ladies.
• 16:34
  SPEAKER_00: I created my own group membership for women that wanted to lose weight from the inside out, not focus on food and eating, and focus more on mindset and what they could change within themselves.
• 16:49
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and that was all going really well, but I wanted to help people more, so that's why I then did an MVIT diploma.
• 16:58
  SPEAKER_00: So that is multiple integration and multiple brain integration techniques, which is is amazing.
• 17:05
  SPEAKER_00: I can tell you all about that in a future episode.
• 17:07
  SPEAKER_00: And then I went into fitness.
• 17:09
  SPEAKER_00: I did my level two fitness instructor qualification, my level three personal trainer qualification, and that brings me to where I am now.
• 17:17
  SPEAKER_00: So I now help women with what whatever you want, and we can do it in person, we can do it online.
• 17:24
  SPEAKER_00: I am by the time this airs, I will have opened my own studio just down the road from my house in Poulton.
• 17:32
  SPEAKER_00: So I've now got a purpose-built facility for both mindset work and fitness coaching.
• 17:37
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I've got a little gym, I've got comfy chairs, I've got it's it's amazing.
• 17:43
  SPEAKER_00: It's amazing.
• 17:44
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so check out my socials if you want to have a nosy at it.
• 17:48
  SPEAKER_00: So, yeah, by the time you're listening to this, I'll be up and running.
• 17:51
  SPEAKER_00: But like I say, we can do work together online.
• 17:55
  SPEAKER_00: If you are in America and you want to work with me, then you're not going to be able to just pop down to the studio.
• 18:01
  SPEAKER_00: So reach out if you if you do want to do something and we can make that happen.
• 18:08
  SPEAKER_00: So, yeah, that's where I am now.
• 18:10
  SPEAKER_00: But something I realised about Slimming World when I left is actually how many bad habits it gave me.
• 18:21
  SPEAKER_00: Never used to binge eat before Slimming World.
• 18:23
  SPEAKER_00: I knew I was overweight, but I never binge ate.
• 18:26
  SPEAKER_00: And that started because on weigh-in night it was treat night, it was time to go mad, all of all that stuff you couldn't have in the week because you're trying to lose weight, and then spend the next four days burning it off before you get any sort of weight loss the next week.
• 18:42
  SPEAKER_00: My portion sizes were never as big as at Summon World.
• 18:46
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, these foods are unlimited, eat as much of it as you want.
• 18:50
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so I did.
• 18:52
  SPEAKER_00: But any food you don't need is calories that you're taking on board, then you've got to burn to lose weight.
• 18:58
  SPEAKER_00: So, yeah, my portion sizes are now back to normal, but it's taken two years.
• 19:03
  SPEAKER_00: Um I've spoken to a lot of ladies who have come to me and said, I've I never did this before Simming World, and I never did that, and you know, I need to program differently, I need to, I need to go from a different angle, I need to lose weight sustainably.
• 19:22
  SPEAKER_00: Because yeah, I lost four stone on Simmons World, I kept it off for 22 years, but I was on that diet for 22 years, and I don't want to be on a diet for the next 22 years of my life, so I am going about it a different way, fixing myself from the inside out, and I have fixed all my habits, I have one my bad habits, fixed all my bad strategies, my bad behaviours, um, and I feel better than ever.
• 19:49
  SPEAKER_00: So that's what I want for everybody.
• 19:51
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm not slate in swimming world, I please don't think I am.
• 19:55
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, it gave me a career, it gave me my initial weight loss, it gave me some of my bestest friends in the world.
• 20:03
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and and you know, there's obviously a place for it.
• 20:07
  SPEAKER_00: But if you have been to swimming world for the best part of 20 years, 30 years, and you're still not where you want to be, then maybe it's time to try something different.
• 20:18
  SPEAKER_00: So just a little thought to put in your head.
• 20:21
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but yeah, I think that's me.
• 20:24
  SPEAKER_00: I think it explains why I'm here and doing what I'm doing.
• 20:28
  SPEAKER_00: I hope it does.
• 20:29
  SPEAKER_00: But if not, feel free to ping me some messages and ask for some clarification.
• 20:34
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I hope I've not bored you too much.
• 20:38
  SPEAKER_00: So that is the end of this episode.
• 20:40
  SPEAKER_00: I think I've probably banged on for a little bit longer than I planned to.
• 20:44
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but I hope you've enjoyed learning a little bit about me and we'll be back to normal next week.
• 20:50
  SPEAKER_00: So have an awesome week and thank you for listening.
• 20:53
  SPEAKER_00: Bye bye.