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258. Learn to Wait Well · Your Enriched Self

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Speaker 1: Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and welcome
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Speaker 1: to Your Enriched Self Podcast. I am your host, Milee Noir.
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Speaker 1: I am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach and what
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Speaker 1: one of the things I do each and every week
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Speaker 1: is I make a deposit into the bank of you,
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Speaker 1: and I do that by way of affirmations. Affirmations are
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Speaker 1: a great way to start your day and to command
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Speaker 1: your mourning. And this week's affirmation is I will not
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Speaker 1: waste my waiting season while I wait. I will grow, prepare, learn,
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Speaker 1: and remain present. I will not waste my waiting season
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Speaker 1: while I wait. I will grow, prepare, learn, and remain present.
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Speaker 1: I will not waste my waiting season while I wait.
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Speaker 1: I will grow, prepare, learn, and remain present. Now, let's
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Speaker 1: get ready for this week's episode of the Your Enriched
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Speaker 1: Self podcast. So I have a question to ask you,
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Speaker 1: and I can actually ask it in two different ways.
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Speaker 1: One is what are you waiting for? So there might
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Speaker 1: be a thing that you are waiting on or waiting for,
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Speaker 1: And then what are you waiting for? Like why have
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Speaker 1: you hesitated? At moving forward with what it is that
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Speaker 1: you are destined to go do or what you want
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Speaker 1: to pursue. And so as I think about this week
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Speaker 1: and this topic, I think about the fact that every
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Speaker 1: single one of us, no matter where you are in
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Speaker 1: your life, your situation, whatever, you are going to be
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Speaker 1: in a season of wait. And it's not a if
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Speaker 1: it happens to you. You will one day be in
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Speaker 1: when it happens to you. And what I want for
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Speaker 1: this episode to help you do is be prepared for
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Speaker 1: when it happens, because again it's if it's going to happen.
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Speaker 1: It is absolutely that you will find yourself in a
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Speaker 1: situation where you must wait. And how do you wait?
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Speaker 1: What really got this stirred up in my spirit is
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Speaker 1: my waiting. And I will tell you this, I am
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Speaker 1: working so hard at leaning into my faith. And so
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Speaker 1: when I get frustrated, because I know that if you're
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Speaker 1: listening to this, and if this episode is already stirring
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Speaker 1: up in you that level of frustration, you may in
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Speaker 1: fact be in a season of wait. I promise you
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Speaker 1: that's where I was, and that's why I want you
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Speaker 1: to be equipped to do and to be and to
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Speaker 1: not be in a state of frustration because what I found,
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Speaker 1: what happened for me is that when I was waiting
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Speaker 1: right for an answer, for the next step or whatever
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Speaker 1: it is, I just found myself constantly frustrated, constantly on
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Speaker 1: the edge, and I recognize that I can't do this alone.
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Speaker 1: I need my fate source. And so for me, I'm
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Speaker 1: gonna pull my devotional out, I'm gonna pull my Bible out.
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna find something that anchors me so I don't
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Speaker 1: lose my way. I don't wanna lose my way right.
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Speaker 1: And it could be that you're waiting for an opportunity.
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Speaker 1: You might be waiting for an answer. You might be
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Speaker 1: waiting for a relationship, you may be waiting for a
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Speaker 1: breakthrough or clarity. There's so many things that you may
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Speaker 1: be waiting on, or you have been in a season
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Speaker 1: of waiting on. Here's the thing about waiting that really
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Speaker 1: frustrates me. I don't know about you, but I'm talking
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Speaker 1: about me. I don't know how long I have to wait.
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Speaker 1: I don't know how long it's going to take. And
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Speaker 1: we've all been there where your weight can literally last
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Speaker 1: a full season. Like I'm not just saying it in
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Speaker 1: the sense of a season is a week or a month.
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Speaker 1: I mean it can go for months, it can go
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Speaker 1: for multiple seasons. And that's why waiting is so difficult,
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Speaker 1: because that's the frustration, that's the discomfort, that's where you
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Speaker 1: you don't know what the timing looks like. And because
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Speaker 1: you don't have a timing to exit the weight, your
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Speaker 1: your belief system is challenged and it gets daunting. Right,
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Speaker 1: you want that breakthrough, You want that clarity. You want
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Speaker 1: to know what should my next step be. You're waiting
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Speaker 1: for the answer, You're waiting for the clarity, and it's
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Speaker 1: just not coming in. So this episode is to really
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Speaker 1: dissect waiting. And I want you to first get this.
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Speaker 1: It is not an interruption of your life. Waiting is
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Speaker 1: not an interruption of your life. Waiting, in fact, is
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Speaker 1: a part of your life, and it is inevitable because
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Speaker 1: like I said, it's not if you'll be in a
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Speaker 1: season of weight, it's when you'll be in a season
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Speaker 1: of weight. And what I want you to think about,
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Speaker 1: what I want you to get out of this is
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Speaker 1: not how do I get out of the season, because
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Speaker 1: that's where the frustration comes in. It's how do I
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Speaker 1: make this season count? I know we want to get out.
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Speaker 1: I know we want exit strategy out of the waiting season.
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Speaker 1: But the real question that you should ask yourself, the
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Speaker 1: question that will empower you, because that's what I want
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Speaker 1: you to have, is how do I make this season count?
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Speaker 1: As I mentioned, waiting is inevitable. It's not an if,
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Speaker 1: but it's a when. I don't want you to get
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Speaker 1: caught off guard when you enter a waiting season. I
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Speaker 1: want you to be ready. I want you to recognize
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Speaker 1: that weigh is a normal part of your story. Waiting
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Speaker 1: is a normal part of your growth. Waiting is a
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Speaker 1: normal part of your becoming. What you typically have been doing.
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Speaker 1: And I say you because you know who you are,
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Speaker 1: is that you treat waiting like something has gone wrong,
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Speaker 1: and you think, once this happens, you've got to find
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Speaker 1: your way to move forward and get out of the
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Speaker 1: wrong and get back into the right, which is movement,
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Speaker 1: activity and all the things. What I'm saying to you
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Speaker 1: is think about it like this. What if the waiting
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Speaker 1: itself is part of your story, part of the becoming,
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Speaker 1: part of the moving forward that you haven't considered yet
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Speaker 1: Because the reality is there will always be something to
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Speaker 1: be waiting for. And if you spend every eason of
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Speaker 1: weight in frustration, you're gonna miss the things that are
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Speaker 1: happening now, You're gonna miss the things that are important.
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Speaker 1: You're gonna miss what is supposed to come about from
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Speaker 1: the waiting. And I know a lot of you look
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Speaker 1: at waiting like it's a do nothing time. It's a
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Speaker 1: lazy time, it's a nothing's happening time. It's a low
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Speaker 1: energy time. Switch that mentality. That's the next piece I
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Speaker 1: want you to think about. Waiting and doing nothing are
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Speaker 1: not the same thing. So let's get clear on that.
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Speaker 1: I really want us to get clear on some things,
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Speaker 1: because you may not be able to control when something happens,
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Speaker 1: but you can control what you are doing while you
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Speaker 1: are waiting. I'm gonna say it again. You may be
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Speaker 1: able to control when you get that exit out of
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Speaker 1: the weight. You might not control that timeline, but you
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Speaker 1: can control what you're doing while you're standing in that timeline.
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Speaker 1: Perhaps you can find yourself preparing. Okay, you might be
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Speaker 1: in a season of instead of doing, and you're in waiting.
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Speaker 1: You're in fact learning something, observing something, strengthening your skills
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Speaker 1: on something, taking care of self. You know, the self love,
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Speaker 1: self care. Yeah, those types of things could be what
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Speaker 1: needs to be happening in that season. It could be
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Speaker 1: getting your situation or your ducks in a row, like
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Speaker 1: your financial story might need to be getting in a row,
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Speaker 1: getting together. You might need to get your house in order,
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Speaker 1: meaning just organization and knowing where things are and getting
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Speaker 1: things processed and moved. It may be time to regulate
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Speaker 1: that mindset, yeah, because you hear it all the time.
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Speaker 1: People say you might have a plan to do something,
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Speaker 1: but if the mind isn't right, you may find yourself
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Speaker 1: repeating the same cycle again. This is one of my
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Speaker 1: favorite things to do in a season of Wait Rest Rest, Rest. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: you can be resting in this season. And I know
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Speaker 1: a lot of people do not value rest because rest
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Speaker 1: in culture. Yeah. I like to say the culture piece
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Speaker 1: because a lot of us have bought in a lot
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Speaker 1: of you have bought in to what culture says. And
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Speaker 1: for many people, resting means you're lazy. You're not generating
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Speaker 1: any activity, you're not doing anything, You're not a contributor.
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Speaker 1: And resting, in fact, is you are contributing to yourself.
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Speaker 1: You are taking care of yourself, you are putting yourself first.
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Speaker 1: You're giving your body what is it needs. You're probably
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Speaker 1: listening more to yourself. That's why you're starting to prioritize rest.
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Speaker 1: And I've said it before and I'll say it again.
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Speaker 1: Rest is medicine. It may not be something you got
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Speaker 1: to purchase over the counter. It may not be something
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Speaker 1: that is prescribed to you by a doctor. Well, some
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Speaker 1: doctors do prescribe that we rest. But this is one
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Speaker 1: of those things that don't need details on how to
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Speaker 1: do it and a signature. This just needs your commitment.
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Speaker 1: So as you can tell, I'm very passionate about rest.
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Speaker 1: I understand the value of it. It actually brings me
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Speaker 1: peace too in seasons of weight. And I know that
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Speaker 1: sounds kind of oxymoron because there's some frustration there, but
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Speaker 1: I often think there's something bigger than me that's happening
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Speaker 1: in this time, and I can pause for a little bit,
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Speaker 1: and in that pause, I can find some peace. Okay,
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Speaker 1: it's a little bit, but I can find it. This
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Speaker 1: might be a season to pray. Yeah, waiting might be
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Speaker 1: an opportunity for you to connect higher, better, more consistently
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Speaker 1: in prayer than you have in the past. Right, you
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Speaker 1: don't want to scurry to prayer. You want to just
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Speaker 1: naturally go to it, and perhaps you weren't making any time.
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Speaker 1: Perhaps this is a good time to regulate. It's also
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Speaker 1: a season to build and for goodness sake, this is
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Speaker 1: your movement forward, even though it doesn't feel like movement,
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Speaker 1: but this is part of you becoming. I think sometimes
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Speaker 1: we get so focused on what we're waiting for that
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Speaker 1: we forget that we can prepare for what we've been
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Speaker 1: asking for. You might have asked for something, but this
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Speaker 1: is your season to prepare. So when you get out
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Speaker 1: of it, the weight is over and you are not
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Speaker 1: just there, but you're there prepared. So I want you
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Speaker 1: to ask yourself, because it's all about empowering you in
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Speaker 1: this process. What can I work on while I wait?
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Speaker 1: This is a big question because this is not what
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Speaker 1: we typically ask ourselves, and that's why I'm equipping you
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Speaker 1: with what to ask and what to do when you
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Speaker 1: get in the season of weight, Because the deal is
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Speaker 1: the door is going to open, it's gonna unlock. You're
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Speaker 1: gonna get from where you are now to where you
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Speaker 1: want to go. And if you spend that entire season
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Speaker 1: waiting and standing outside, there's a book called in business.
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Speaker 1: Years ago, when I first started my career in corporate America,
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Speaker 1: there was a book called Who Moved My Cheese? And
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Speaker 1: the premise of the book is about people who do
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Speaker 1: things the same way all the time, and when something
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Speaker 1: different happen, they don't look for a different approach. They
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Speaker 1: go back to what they've always done. And Who Moved
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Speaker 1: My Cheese is a story about just that happening, right,
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Speaker 1: spending that season, instead of going to find another way,
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Speaker 1: finding another avenue, doing some troubleshooting, exploring, getting innovative, they
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Speaker 1: spent the time complaining about where the cheese was when
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Speaker 1: they could have easily found another set of cheese. They
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Speaker 1: could have easily found another way to the cheese, They
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Speaker 1: could have found more cheese, right, but they were so
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Speaker 1: focused on what they had before, and so they spent
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Speaker 1: more time complaining than trying to advance. And I want
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Speaker 1: you to be ready to advance when that door opens,
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Speaker 1: when it's unlocked, I want you to be ready to
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Speaker 1: walk through it and not spending your time complaining, but
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Speaker 1: spending your time preparing and finally make the weight count.
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Speaker 1: Similar to what we just talked about, right, one of
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Speaker 1: the greatest challenges of waiting is the unknown, Oh my goodness.
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Speaker 1: I want you to learn to wait with joyful anticipation.
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Speaker 1: And I know that sounds absolutely insane, because we want
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Speaker 1: a date, we want a timeline, we want the confirmation,
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Speaker 1: we want to know how much longer I gotta wait?
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Speaker 1: The truth is you're not getting the answers. That's why
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Speaker 1: it's frustrating. And that's where learning to wait becomes a practice.
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Speaker 1: So instead of asking yourself, oh my gosh, what is
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Speaker 1: this gonna happen? I want you to ask yourself again,
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Speaker 1: being empowered, what is this season teaching me? And what
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Speaker 1: can I do today that makes this time, this season meaningful?
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Speaker 1: Because your life is still happening. Everything is still happening
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Speaker 1: while you're waiting. Everything is still going on. You're not
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Speaker 1: postponing your life to get an answer. Right, as I mentioned, wait,
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Speaker 1: learn to wait with joyful anticipation. Learn to wait. And
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Speaker 1: I know people say there's joy on the journey. Look
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Speaker 1: for the joy. Look for the beautiful things. Look for
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Speaker 1: the sunrise and the sunsets, and the beautiful flowers and
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Speaker 1: the beautiful rainfall. Look for the things. Whatever you look for.
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Speaker 1: If you're looking for joy on the journey, you'll find it.
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Speaker 1: If you're looking for drama, you'll find it. There's still
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Speaker 1: things to do, there's still work in your life to do.
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Speaker 1: There's still people to embrace and to love. There's still
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Speaker 1: lessons to learn, there's still moments to appreciate. There's still
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Speaker 1: a version of you that's elevating, that's becoming more enriched.
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Speaker 1: All of these things are happening while you wait. All
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Speaker 1: of these things can be happening while you wait if
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Speaker 1: you spend time making the weight count. This is my
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Speaker 1: challenge to you because I used to do this right.
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Speaker 1: I just want to close out with this. I used
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Speaker 1: to pray for patients. I'm going to challenge you to
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Speaker 1: pray for presents. Change your prayer of patience to a
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Speaker 1: prayer of presence, because I think we need to learn
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Speaker 1: to get better in the sea of weight. Because again,
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Speaker 1: it's not if, it's when. So you may need to
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Speaker 1: learn how to sit in the unknown, sit in the
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Speaker 1: unknown without allowing the unknown to steal the joy, to
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Speaker 1: steal the the ability for you to find a joy.
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Speaker 1: Because the goal of the waiting season is not just
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Speaker 1: for you to survive it. This is not a survivor.
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Speaker 1: This is a season to steward it well, Steward whatever
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Speaker 1: it is you're waiting for. Now, I want you to
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Speaker 1: ask yourself, what can I do today to make this
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Speaker 1: season of waiting count again? You may not be able
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Speaker 1: to control the timing, but it's how you show up
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Speaker 1: in that season of weight that you've been given. You've
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Speaker 1: been given the time gift at the time. The good
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Speaker 1: news is at some point that season will end, and
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Speaker 1: I want you to be able to look back and say,
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Speaker 1: did I just wait or did I grow while I waited?
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