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Episode 632: No Contact Is EASY (If You Do THIS) · The Art of Love With Lucia

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  Hi, this is Lucia with The Art of Love.
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  I'm a dating and relationship expert specializing in helping
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  you get your ex back or to get over your ex.
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  This week I want to talk about how to make it easier to stay in
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  no contact. If you've heard some of my other
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  videos, you may have heard me say that for me, no contact is
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  super simple. It's a walk in the park.
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  It's a piece of cake, but I know for most people it's not.
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  So I wanted to figure out a way to make it easier for you so
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  that it can also be a piece of cake for you.
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  And I've found it. What is it?
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  Well, stay tuned and you'll find out.
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  But first I want to welcome back my beautiful no contact army.
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  If you haven't already, be sure to download my app Silencio so
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  it will help you to stay in no contact.
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  And if you too would like to join the no contact army, all
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  you have to do is hit subscribe button and the bell notification
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  and you're in. And to read our manual, go to
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  nocontactsecrets.com where you can read two pre chapters before
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  you purchase the book. OK, so I'm going to give you an
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  example that is going to sound like it has nothing to do with
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  no contact, but it's actually how I realized that this is what
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  you need in order to be able to stay in no contact.
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  So years ago, when I would have to put on false lashes, also
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  known as falsies, I would get anxiety and I would break out in
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  a cold sweat and I would get glue on my nose and my hair.
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  It looked like I had a fight with the glue.
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  And it would take me like 20 minutes to get one eyelash on.
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  And I would ask other people about how to put eyelashes on
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  and be like, oh, it's so simple. Oh, it's really easy here, just
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  and that's it. And I'd be like, what?
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  It's like, why can't I do it right?
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  So for them it was super simple, but for me, it was not a walk in
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  the park. It was a walk through hell.
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  So then luckily magnetic lashes appeared on the scene and that
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  changed my life. Magnetic lashes literally
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  changed my life because now all I had to do was get the magnetic
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  liner and put it on the top of my lashes and then get the
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  eyelash which also had magnets in it.
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  And poof, it was on in two seconds and then if it wasn't in
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  the right position I would just move it over and that totally
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  changed the game for me. So I did that for a while and
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  then I decided to go back to the regular lashes, the non
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  magnetic, the ones with the glue.
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  And now it was super simple because I had gotten so used to
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  the placement of the lash and seeing that it really wasn't
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  that difficult that now it was super simple thank God.
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  So I know that if you're in no contact for you, you might be me
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  pre magnetic lashes where you have a lot of anxiety you may
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  have you may be breaking out in a cold sweat.
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  I don't know if you're getting glue all over your face, I hope
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  not. But I understand what you're
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  experiencing. So you need something like the
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  magnetic lashes for me. You need like training wheels,
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  something that will take you to where you need to go.
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  And I found out that that is meditation.
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  Meditation will help you to stop being so impulsive and stop
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  acting out. Whenever your feel fearful,
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  brain pops up and says you better contact them, You're
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  never going to get them back. They're going to move on.
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  They're going to forget you. You better contact them right
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  now. And it will also help you to
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  make more logical decisions because you'll be using your
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  prefrontal cortex more your logical part of the brain rather
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  than the primitive part of the brain that is just worried about
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  survival. And it thinks that, Oh my God,
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  if you don't do something, you're never going to get this
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  person back. Which of course is not true.
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  It's actually in the not doing of something, of doing nothing
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  that will raise your chances of getting someone back.
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  And so the only way that you can control yourself, learn to
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  control yourself, is through meditation.
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  Meditation calms the mind and allows you to think more
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  rationally when you get scared. So you can use an app like COM
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  and start off with just a few short minutes of meditation.
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  You can go on a meditation retreat.
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  One of my clients really recently went on a one day
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  retreat because he was having a lot of anxiety.
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  You can do a three day retreat and you will start to think
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  differently and feel differently about the situation because
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  otherwise you are going to break no contact.
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  And then if you don't get your ex back because you broke no
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  contact, then you're going to have only yourself to blame.
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  So I know most people do not want to meditate.
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  It's both the easiest and the hardest thing to do.
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  But if you're willing to do anything to get your ex back, as
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  most people say, oh I'll do anything to get my ex back,
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  great. Then sit down and meditate and
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  you will raise your chances of staying in no contact and of
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  getting your ex back. And then it will be a piece of
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  cake for you like it is for me. OK, so if you would like my help
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  to get your ex back, you can contact me at theartoflove.net
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  and we will send you the rates. The direct link is below Every
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  And finally, remember that love inspires, empowers, uplifts and
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  enlightens.