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Loving Yourself After Trauma: What ‘Self-Love’ Really Means · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: Hey there friend. Let's talk about something important. Loving yourself
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  Speaker 1: after experiencing trauma. It's a tough subject, but one that
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  Speaker 1: many of us can relate to on some level. Trauma
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  Speaker 1: can shake us to our core, leaving us feeling broken
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  Speaker 1: and lost. And in the aftermath, loving ourselves can seem
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  Speaker 1: like an impossible task. But why is that? Understanding trauma.
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  Speaker 1: First off, it's essential to recognize that trauma affects everyone differently.
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  Speaker 1: What might be traumatic for one person might not be
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  Speaker 1: for another. Trauma can vary widely and may include experiences
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  Speaker 1: such as physical or psychological abuse, intimidation, emotional neglect, or
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  Speaker 1: witnessing violence. Other examples of trauma can include bullying, being
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  Speaker 1: in a toxic relationship, or the sudden loss of a
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  Speaker 1: loved one. No matter the cause, trauma can leave lasting
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  Speaker 1: scars on our minds and hearts. The vagueness of self-love.
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  Speaker 1: The term self-love is often misunderstood as indulging in self-care
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  Speaker 1: activities like bubble baths and burning candles. However, it goes
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  Speaker 1: deeper than that. It's about nurturing a genuine connection with
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  Speaker 1: yourself and understanding your own needs. After trauma, this connection
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  Speaker 1: can feel strained or even lost. Distorted self-perception. Another reason
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  Speaker 1: why loving ourselves after trauma is tough is because trauma
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  Speaker 1: messes with our sense of self-worth. When something awful happens,
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  Speaker 1: it can make us feel like we're not good enough,
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  Speaker 1: or that we somehow deserve what happened to us. These
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  Speaker 1: negative thoughts can start to take over, making it hard
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  Speaker 1: to believe that we're deserving of love, even from ourselves.
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  Speaker 1: Loss of safety and security. When something traumatic happens, it
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  Speaker 1: can shake us to our very core, and we lose
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  Speaker 1: the inherent sense of safety and security we once had
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  Speaker 1: in ourselves and the world. It's like the ground beneath
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  Speaker 1: our feet suddenly disappears, leaving us vulnerable and exposed. When
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  Speaker 1: we don't feel safe, it's hard to focus on loving ourselves.
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  Speaker 1: We're too busy trying to survive, too afraid to let
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  Speaker 1: our guard down. Detachment as a coping mechanism. It's common
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  Speaker 1: to develop coping mechanisms to deal with the pain of trauma.
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  Speaker 1: You might find yourself blaming yourself or shutting down your
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  Speaker 1: emotions as a shield from more hurt. But while those
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  Speaker 1: coping mechanisms might offer temporary protection, They also keep us
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  Speaker 1: stuck in a lonely and unhappy place, unable to move forward.
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  Speaker 1: Building a wall around your heart might keep the hurt out,
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  Speaker 1: but it also prevents you from opening up to the
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  Speaker 1: possibility of healing, growth and self-love. Remember, you are not
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  Speaker 1: defined by your trauma. Yes, it has left its mark
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  Speaker 1: on you, but it doesn't have the power to dictate
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  Speaker 1: your worth or your future. You are resilient and capable
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  Speaker 1: of healing, even if it doesn't feel like it right now.
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  Speaker 1: So when you're ready, here are some steps you can
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  Speaker 1: take towards learning to love yourself after trauma. Steps towards self-love.
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  Speaker 1: Number one, acknowledge the impact of the trauma on your life.
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  Speaker 1: This means allowing yourself to feel all the messy emotions
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  Speaker 1: that come with it. The anger, the sadness, the fear.
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  Speaker 1: It's okay not to be okay. Give yourself permission to
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  Speaker 1: grieve and process what happened. Number two, next, try to
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  Speaker 1: challenge those negative thoughts and beliefs that the trauma has
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  Speaker 1: planted in your mind. replace them with more balanced and
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  Speaker 1: compassionate ones. For example, instead of telling yourself that you're unlovable,
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  Speaker 1: remind yourself of your strengths and accomplishments. Practice self-affirmations and
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  Speaker 1: remind yourself that you are worthy of love and kindness.
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  Speaker 1: Number three, reach out for support when you need it.
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  Speaker 1: Whether it's from friends, family, or a therapist, having someone
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  Speaker 1: to talk to can make a world of difference. You
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  Speaker 1: don't have to go through this journey alone. Number four,
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  Speaker 1: Self-care is another vital aspect of learning to love yourself
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  Speaker 1: after trauma. This means taking care of your physical, emotional
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  Speaker 1: and mental well-being. Making time for activities that bring you
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  Speaker 1: joy and relaxation. Whether it's going for a walk in nature,
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  Speaker 1: practicing mindfulness or indulging in a hobby you love. Number five. Lastly,
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  Speaker 1: be patient and kind with yourself. Healing from trauma is
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  Speaker 1: a process and it's okay to take things one step
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  Speaker 1: at a time. Celebrate your progress, no matter how small,
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  Speaker 1: and remember that it's okay to have setbacks along the way.
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  Speaker 1: What matters is that you're making an effort to love
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  Speaker 1: and care for yourself. So, dear friend, if you're struggling
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  Speaker 1: to love yourself after trauma, know that you're not alone.
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  Speaker 1: It's a journey that many of us are on. Remember
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  Speaker 1: to be gentle with yourself, practice self-compassion, and believe that
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  Speaker 1: healing is possible. You are worthy of love and happiness,
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  Speaker 1: no matter what you've been through. Did this video resonate
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  Speaker 1: with you? Share your thoughts in the comments below. And
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  Speaker 1: if you found this video helpful, don't forget to like,
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  Speaker 1: share and subscribe for more content on healing and self-discovery.
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  Speaker 1: You can start with these videos on six signs your
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  Speaker 1: trauma is making you lonely and five signs of self-love
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  Speaker 1: not being selfish. Thanks for watching and until next time,
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  Speaker 1: take care of yourself.