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The Armour of Fear: Finding Emotional Nudity in Your Relationship · Doing Marriage Well

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  Doing Marriage Well for April 9th, 2026 The Armor of Fear Finding Emotional
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  Nudity in Your Relationship Today's No-Closed-Doors Challenge is to open up
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  your deep emotional places.
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  I realize what I've already discussed this week has a lot of emotions attached
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  to it, but today I want to get more raw.
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  Aside from your past and any wounds, how emotionally vulnerable can you be with your spouse?
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  To reiterate what I said on the first day, safety is a valid issue here.
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  If your spouse can't be trusted with your naked emotions, you must protect yourself
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  If you're not sure they can be trusted,
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  go slow That said, some folks armor up not because of their spouse,
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  but because of their own fear or past injury When you choose not to close any emotional doors,
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  you don't hide your feelings What's more, you make an effort to share your feelings,
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  even when it's difficult Handling emotions takes care
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  It's fair to say emotions are never wrong But that
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  doesn't mean what emotions drive is correct Emotions are
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  indicators of our heart condition Even when they aren't based
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  on objective truth Feeling jealous is a valid emotion Getting angry at your
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  spouse for no reason apart from your feeling is unacceptable Getting defensive
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  or hurt because your spouse admits to jealousy is also unacceptable If you have
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  done nothing to justify jealousy That is a reflection of their internal struggle
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  rather than any actions you have taken.
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  You can accept your spouse's emotions without taking responsibility for them.
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  You can express compassion for painful emotions without feeling guilt.
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  You may be able to help lessen the emotion, not because it's your responsibility,
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  but because you love your spouse.
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  Imagine being able to share or hear your spouse express feelings like jealousy
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  without ending up in a big fight.
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  Imagine how healing it would be to discuss the issue calmly.
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  Imagine reassuring your spouse without anger or defensiveness,
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  and then praying together that they will get over it and that you won't inadvertently
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  do anything to make it worse.
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  Imagine dealing with the whole thing as an us thing with mutual grace and understanding.
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  Yes, opening all the doors to your emotions can be terrifying,
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  but if you and your spouse can both do it and handle it well,
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  the result is extraordinary.
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  Fear and shame melt away, and you feel heard and loved in the ways you never thought possible.
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  If this sounds like something you might like to do, have a long talk,
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  or several talks, about it before
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  you start. This is Paul, and emotional nudity is doing marriage well.