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You’re Not Scared. You’re Grieving Who You Were | EP 296 · Confident and Empowered Women

• 0:05
  You've
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  been
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  telling
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  yourself
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  it's
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  fear.
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  Fear
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  of
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  failing,
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  fear
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  of
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  starting
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  over,
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  fear
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  of
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  what
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  people
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  will
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  think,
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  fear
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  of
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  choosing
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  yourself.
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  And
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  it
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  not
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  working
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  out.
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  Spoiler
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  alert,
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  it's
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  not
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  fear,
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  it
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  is
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  grief.
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  You
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  are
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  grieving
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  a
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  version
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  of
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  yourself
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  that
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  you
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  loved,
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  a
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  version
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  that
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  people
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  knew,
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  a
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  version
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  that
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  felt
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  safe
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  and
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  familiar,
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  even
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  when
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  she
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  was
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  quietly
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  costing
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  you
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  everything.
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  And
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  here's
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  the
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  thing
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  about
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  grief,
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  we
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  don't
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  rush
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  it.
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  We
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  honor
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  it,
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  we
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  sit
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  with
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  it,
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  we
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  make
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  space
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  for
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  it.
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  But
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  at
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  some
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  point
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  we
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  also
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  have
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  to
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  be
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  honest
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  about
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  what
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  staying
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  in
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  that
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  grief
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  is
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  actually
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  doing
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  to
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  us.
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  So
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  let's
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  get
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  into
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  it.
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  Hey
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  friend,
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  real
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  quick,
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  if
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  you
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  are
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  not
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  subscribed
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  to
• 1:01
  the
• 1:01
  Confident
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  and
• 1:02
  Empowered
• 1:03
  Women
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  Podcast
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  yet,
• 1:04
  what
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  are
• 1:05
  we
• 1:05
  even
• 1:05
  doing
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  ok.
• 1:09
  We
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  are
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  here
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  every
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  single
• 1:11
  Tuesday
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  and
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  Thursday,
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  and
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  this
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  is
• 1:13
  not
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  just
• 1:14
  a
• 1:14
  podcast.
• 1:15
  This
• 1:15
  is
• 1:15
  a
• 1:15
  community
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  of
• 1:16
  women
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  who
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  are
• 1:17
  done
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  shrinking,
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  settling,
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  done,
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  people
• 1:20
  pleasing,
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  performing,
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  and
• 1:22
  putting
• 1:22
  herself
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  last.
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  And
• 1:24
  this
• 1:24
  is
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  where
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  we
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  come
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  to
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  remember
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  who
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  we
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  actually
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  are
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  and
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  build
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  a
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  life
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  that
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  reflects
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  her.
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  We
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  are
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  becoming
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  together
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  friend,
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  and
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  if
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  you
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  are
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  not
• 1:35
  subscribed
• 1:36
  yet
• 1:36
  today.
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  Is
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  the
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  day.
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  Hey,
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  hey,
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  hey,
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  friend.
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  I
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  wanna
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  start
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  by
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  saying
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  we
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  are
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  holding
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  tender
• 1:45
  space
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  for
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  grief
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  as
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  we
• 1:47
  have
• 1:47
  this
• 1:47
  conversation.
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  If
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  you've
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  been
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  feeling
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  all
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  the
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  feels
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  of
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  grief
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  all
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  at
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  once
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  lately.
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  My
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  heart
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  is
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  with
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  you.
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  Usually
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  when
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  we're
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  talking
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  about
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  grief,
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  it's
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  centered
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  around
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  the
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  loss
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  of
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  a
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  loved
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  one,
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  but
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  grief
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  expands
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  beyond
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  someone
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  no
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  longer
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  physically
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  being
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  here
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  and
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  making
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  their
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  transition
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  to
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  heaven.
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  We
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  experience
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  grief
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  when
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  things
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  come
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  to
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  an
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  end
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  or
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  change
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  in
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  a
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  way
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  that's
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  no
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  longer
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  manageable.
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  We
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  see
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  it
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  in
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  relationships,
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  whether
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  romantic
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  family
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  or
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  even
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  friendships.
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  The
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  loss
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  of
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  a
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  job
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  or
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  career,
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  even
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  the
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  loss
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  of
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  a
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  home
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  or
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  having
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  to
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  relocate.
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  It
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  can
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  be
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  any
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  significant
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  loss,
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  and
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  the
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  one
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  that
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  doesn't
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  usually
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  enter
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  the
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  group
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  chat.
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  Is
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  grieving
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  a
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  version
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  of
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  yourself?
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  There
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  is
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  a
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  version
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  of
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  you
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  that
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  exists
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  because
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  of
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  that
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  relationship,
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  career,
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  or
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  even
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  where
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  you
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  live.
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  And
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  because
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  of
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  it,
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  you
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  are
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  the
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  one
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  who
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  prioritizes
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  the
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  other
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  in
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  the
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  relationship.
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  So
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  your
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  needs
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  or
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  wants
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  are
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  secondary.
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  You
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  are
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  the
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  one
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  with
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  the
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  job
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  that's
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  massively
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  impressive
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  and
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  you've
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  reached
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  the
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  height
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  of
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  your
• 3:07
  game,
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  but
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  now
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  it's
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  no
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  longer.
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  And
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  you
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  have
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  to
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  figure
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  out
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  who
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  you
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  are
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  Now
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  without
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  the
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  title
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  or
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  even
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  the
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  connections.
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  Or
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  maybe
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  you
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  are
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  the
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  one
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  who
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  stayed
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  in
• 3:19
  the
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  same
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  town,
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  but
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  now
• 3:21
  circumstances
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  have
• 3:22
  changed
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  and
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  you
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  have
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  to
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  move
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  and
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  start
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  all
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  over
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  again.
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  So
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  that
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  means
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  getting
• 3:28
  familiar
• 3:28
  with
• 3:29
  where
• 3:29
  everything
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  is,
• 3:30
  building
• 3:31
  new
• 3:31
  relationships
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  and
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  a
• 3:32
  support
• 3:33
  system,
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  and
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  all
• 3:34
  of
• 3:34
  that
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  is
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  so
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  big
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  and
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  so
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  unknown.
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  We
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  put
• 3:40
  so
• 3:40
  much
• 3:40
  of
• 3:41
  ourselves
• 3:41
  into
• 3:42
  the
• 3:42
  roles
• 3:42
  we
• 3:43
  play
• 3:43
  and
• 3:43
  the
• 3:43
  titles
• 3:44
  we
• 3:44
  hold,
• 3:45
  it
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  easily
• 3:46
  becomes
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  our
• 3:47
  identity.
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  And
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  it
• 3:48
  gets
• 3:48
  hard
• 3:49
  to
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  separate
• 3:49
  the
• 3:49
  two
• 3:50
  when
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  there
• 3:51
  is
• 3:51
  a
• 3:51
  shift
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  in
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  your
• 3:52
  identity
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  or
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  a
• 3:54
  major
• 3:54
  change
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  in
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  your
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  life,
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  and
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  suddenly
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  who
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  you've
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  been,
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  she
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  was
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  real,
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  and
• 4:02
  now
• 4:02
  she
• 4:02
  gone.
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  And
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  that
• 4:06
  version
• 4:06
  of
• 4:06
  you
• 4:06
  that
• 4:07
  you're
• 4:07
  grieving,
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  she
• 4:08
  wasn't
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  wrong
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  or
• 4:09
  weak,
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  and
• 4:10
  she
• 4:11
  was
• 4:11
  certainly
• 4:12
  not
• 4:12
  a
• 4:12
  mistake.
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  She
• 4:13
  was
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  exactly
• 4:14
  who
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  you
• 4:15
  needed
• 4:15
  her
• 4:15
  to
• 4:15
  be
• 4:16
  at
• 4:16
  the
• 4:16
  time.
• 4:17
  She
• 4:17
  protected
• 4:18
  you.
• 4:18
  She
• 4:19
  performed
• 4:19
  when
• 4:20
  she
• 4:20
  had
• 4:20
  to.
• 4:21
  She
• 4:21
  kept
• 4:21
  things
• 4:22
  together
• 4:23
  when
• 4:23
  everything
• 4:23
  felt
• 4:24
  like
• 4:24
  it
• 4:24
  was
• 4:24
  falling
• 4:25
  apart.
• 4:26
  She
• 4:26
  showed
• 4:26
  up
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  and
• 4:27
  she
• 4:27
  showed
• 4:28
  out
• 4:28
  even
• 4:28
  when
• 4:29
  she
• 4:29
  was
• 4:29
  running
• 4:29
  on
• 4:29
  empty.
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  And
• 4:31
  listen,
• 4:31
  she
• 4:32
  deserves
• 4:32
  your
• 4:33
  gratitude,
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  not
• 4:34
  your
• 4:34
  shame.
• 4:35
  But
• 4:35
  here's
• 4:36
  what
• 4:36
  I
• 4:36
  also
• 4:37
  need
• 4:37
  you
• 4:37
  to
• 4:38
  hear
• 4:39
  with
• 4:39
  your
• 4:39
  whole
• 4:40
  heart
• 4:40
  when
• 4:40
  I
• 4:40
  say
• 4:41
  this.
• 4:42
  She
• 4:43
  has
• 4:43
  finished
• 4:43
  her
• 4:43
  assignment.
• 4:45
  Think
• 4:45
  about
• 4:45
  it
• 4:45
  like
• 4:46
  this.
• 4:46
  You
• 4:47
  know
• 4:47
  how
• 4:47
  when
• 4:47
  a
• 4:47
  season
• 4:48
  ends
• 4:49
  of
• 4:49
  your
• 4:49
  favorite
• 4:50
  show
• 4:50
  and
• 4:51
  the
• 4:51
  writers
• 4:51
  have
• 4:52
  to
• 4:52
  let
• 4:52
  go
• 4:52
  of
• 4:52
  a
• 4:52
  character,
• 4:53
  not
• 4:54
  because
• 4:54
  the
• 4:54
  character
• 4:55
  was
• 4:55
  bad,
• 4:56
  but
• 4:56
  because
• 4:56
  the
• 4:57
  story
• 4:58
  has
• 4:58
  outgrown
• 4:59
  them,
• 5:00
  the
• 5:00
  show
• 5:00
  has
• 5:01
  to
• 5:01
  move
• 5:01
  forward.
• 5:02
  The
• 5:02
  plot
• 5:02
  has
• 5:03
  evolved,
• 5:04
  and
• 5:04
  keeping
• 5:04
  that
• 5:05
  character
• 5:05
  would
• 5:06
  actually
• 5:06
  hold
• 5:07
  the
• 5:07
  whole
• 5:07
  story
• 5:08
  back
• 5:08
  and
• 5:09
  friend
• 5:09
  right
• 5:09
  now.
• 5:10
  That's
• 5:10
  you.
• 5:14
  That
• 5:15
  old
• 5:15
  version
• 5:16
  of
• 5:16
  you
• 5:17
  was
• 5:17
  not
• 5:17
  the
• 5:18
  villain
• 5:18
  of
• 5:18
  your
• 5:18
  story.
• 5:19
  She
• 5:19
  was
• 5:20
  a
• 5:20
  character
• 5:20
  in
• 5:21
  an
• 5:21
  earlier
• 5:22
  season
• 5:22
  and
• 5:23
  the
• 5:23
  show
• 5:24
  I.
• 5:25
  AKA,
• 5:26
  your
• 5:26
  show
• 5:27
  has
• 5:27
  moved
• 5:28
  forward.
• 5:29
  The
• 5:29
  problem
• 5:29
  is
• 5:30
  not
• 5:30
  that
• 5:30
  she
• 5:30
  existed.
• 5:31
  The
• 5:32
  problem
• 5:32
  is
• 5:33
  that
• 5:33
  you
• 5:33
  are
• 5:33
  still
• 5:34
  trying
• 5:34
  to
• 5:34
  write
• 5:35
  her
• 5:35
  into
• 5:36
  scenes.
• 5:37
  She
• 5:37
  no
• 5:37
  longer
• 5:38
  belongs
• 5:39
  in.
• 5:39
  You
• 5:39
  are
• 5:40
  auditioning
• 5:40
  for
• 5:41
  a
• 5:41
  role
• 5:41
  that
• 5:41
  has
• 5:42
  already
• 5:42
  been
• 5:42
  cast
• 5:43
  and
• 5:43
  the
• 5:43
  woman
• 5:44
  who
• 5:44
  got
• 5:44
  cast
• 5:45
  is
• 5:45
  you,
• 5:46
  the
• 5:46
  new
• 5:47
  you,
• 5:48
  the
• 5:48
  one
• 5:48
  you
• 5:48
  keep
• 5:49
  delaying
• 5:49
  because
• 5:50
  letting
• 5:50
  go
• 5:50
  of
• 5:50
  the
• 5:51
  old
• 5:51
  one
• 5:52
  it
• 5:52
  feels
• 5:52
  too
• 5:53
  much
• 5:53
  like
• 5:54
  a
• 5:54
  loss.
• 5:55
  Grief
• 5:56
  is
• 5:56
  real,
• 5:57
  but
• 5:57
  friend,
• 5:59
  you
• 5:59
  cannot
• 6:00
  stay
• 6:00
  a
• 6:00
  caterpillar
• 6:01
  while
• 6:02
  you
• 6:02
  are
• 6:02
  standing
• 6:03
  here
• 6:04
  with
• 6:04
  your
• 6:04
  butterfly
• 6:05
  wings.
• 6:06
  And
• 6:06
  let
• 6:06
  me
• 6:06
  tell
• 6:06
  you
• 6:07
  what
• 6:07
  staying
• 6:08
  actually
• 6:08
  looks
• 6:09
  like
• 6:09
  because
• 6:10
  we
• 6:10
  have
• 6:10
  got
• 6:11
  to
• 6:11
  call
• 6:11
  this
• 6:12
  front
• 6:12
  and
• 6:13
  center.
• 6:13
  Staying
• 6:14
  looks
• 6:15
  like
• 6:15
  saying
• 6:15
  yes
• 6:16
  every
• 6:16
  time
• 6:17
  somebody
• 6:17
  asks
• 6:17
  you
• 6:18
  to
• 6:18
  do
• 6:18
  them
• 6:18
  a
• 6:18
  favor.
• 6:19
  When
• 6:19
  everything
• 6:20
  in
• 6:20
  you
• 6:21
  is
• 6:21
  screaming,
• 6:22
  no,
• 6:23
  because
• 6:23
  the
• 6:23
  old
• 6:24
  you
• 6:24
  was
• 6:24
  the
• 6:25
  one
• 6:25
  who
• 6:25
  always
• 6:25
  said
• 6:26
  yes,
• 6:27
  and
• 6:27
  if
• 6:27
  you
• 6:27
  stop
• 6:28
  saying
• 6:28
  yes,
• 6:29
  who
• 6:29
  even
• 6:30
  are
• 6:30
  you?
• 6:32
  Staying
• 6:33
  looks
• 6:34
  like
• 6:34
  shrinking
• 6:35
  in
• 6:35
  rooms
• 6:36
  where
• 6:36
  you
• 6:36
  should
• 6:36
  be
• 6:37
  leading
• 6:37
  because
• 6:38
  the
• 6:38
  old
• 6:38
  you
• 6:39
  was
• 6:39
  quiet,
• 6:40
  agreeable,
• 6:41
  easy
• 6:41
  to
• 6:41
  be
• 6:41
  around
• 6:42
  and
• 6:42
  stepping
• 6:43
  into
• 6:43
  your
• 6:43
  power
• 6:44
  feels
• 6:44
  like
• 6:44
  a
• 6:44
  betrayal
• 6:46
  of
• 6:46
  who
• 6:46
  people
• 6:47
  thought
• 6:47
  they
• 6:48
  knew.
• 6:49
  Staying
• 6:49
  looks
• 6:50
  like
• 6:50
  going
• 6:51
  back
• 6:52
  to
• 6:52
  that
• 6:52
  same
• 6:53
  old,
• 6:53
  tired,
• 6:54
  dried
• 6:55
  up
• 6:55
  situationship.
• 6:56
  Or
• 6:57
  to
• 6:57
  the
• 6:57
  dead
• 6:57
  end
• 6:57
  job,
• 6:58
  or
• 6:58
  that
• 6:59
  friendship
• 6:59
  that
• 6:59
  drains
• 7:00
  you
• 7:01
  and
• 7:01
  even
• 7:01
  to
• 7:01
  the
• 7:01
  version
• 7:02
  of
• 7:02
  yourself
• 7:03
  that
• 7:03
  was
• 7:03
  smaller
• 7:04
  and
• 7:04
  safer
• 7:05
  and
• 7:05
  somehow
• 7:06
  just
• 7:06
  easier
• 7:07
  to
• 7:07
  love
• 7:08
  because
• 7:08
  at
• 7:08
  least
• 7:09
  that
• 7:10
  version
• 7:10
  was
• 7:10
  familiar.
• 7:11
  And
• 7:11
  listen.
• 7:12
  Remember,
• 7:12
  this
• 7:12
  is
• 7:13
  a
• 7:13
  no
• 7:13
  shade,
• 7:13
  no
• 7:14
  shame,
• 7:14
  and
• 7:14
  no
• 7:15
  judgment
• 7:15
  zone
• 7:16
  friend,
• 7:16
  because
• 7:16
  I
• 7:17
  have
• 7:17
  been
• 7:18
  there.
• 7:18
  I
• 7:19
  spent
• 7:19
  a
• 7:19
  decade
• 7:20
  ish
• 7:21
  dating
• 7:22
  and
• 7:22
  going
• 7:22
  in
• 7:22
  circles,
• 7:23
  okay?
• 7:23
  And
• 7:24
  when
• 7:24
  I
• 7:24
  finally
• 7:25
  got
• 7:25
  honest
• 7:26
  with
• 7:26
  myself,
• 7:28
  I
• 7:28
  realized
• 7:29
  I
• 7:29
  had
• 7:30
  kept
• 7:30
  going
• 7:30
  back.
• 7:31
  Not
• 7:31
  because
• 7:32
  the
• 7:32
  situationship
• 7:33
  was
• 7:34
  right
• 7:34
  for
• 7:34
  me.
• 7:35
  I
• 7:35
  kept
• 7:36
  going
• 7:36
  back
• 7:36
  because
• 7:37
  the
• 7:37
  woman.
• 7:38
  That
• 7:38
  situation
• 7:40
  was
• 7:40
  a
• 7:40
  version
• 7:41
  of
• 7:41
  me
• 7:42
  I
• 7:42
  already
• 7:42
  knew
• 7:43
  how
• 7:43
  to
• 7:44
  be.
• 7:44
  She
• 7:45
  was
• 7:45
  comfortable
• 7:46
  even
• 7:47
  when
• 7:47
  she
• 7:48
  was
• 7:48
  miserable
• 7:49
  and
• 7:49
  leaving
• 7:50
  her
• 7:50
  behind
• 7:51
  felt
• 7:51
  like
• 7:52
  abandoning
• 7:53
  someone
• 7:53
  I
• 7:54
  loved,
• 7:55
  but.
• 7:55
  Here
• 7:56
  is
• 7:56
  what
• 7:57
  changed
• 7:58
  so
• 7:59
  much
• 7:59
  for
• 7:59
  me.
• 8:00
  You
• 8:00
  are
• 8:01
  not
• 8:01
  abandoning
• 8:02
  her.
• 8:03
  You're
• 8:03
  graduating
• 8:04
  and
• 8:05
  graduation
• 8:06
  it's
• 8:06
  supposed
• 8:06
  to
• 8:06
  feel
• 8:07
  like
• 8:07
  a
• 8:07
  loss
• 8:08
  and
• 8:08
  a
• 8:08
  celebration
• 8:09
  all
• 8:10
  at
• 8:10
  the
• 8:10
  same
• 8:10
  time.
• 8:11
  The
• 8:11
  tassel
• 8:12
  has
• 8:12
  to
• 8:12
  move
• 8:13
  from
• 8:13
  one
• 8:13
  side
• 8:14
  to
• 8:14
  the
• 8:14
  other.
• 8:15
  That's
• 8:15
  how
• 8:15
  this
• 8:15
  works.
• 8:16
  You
• 8:16
  cannot
• 8:17
  stay
• 8:17
  in
• 8:17
  the
• 8:18
  cap
• 8:18
  and
• 8:18
  gown
• 8:19
  forever,
• 8:19
  friend.
• 8:20
  Okay?
• 8:22
  At
• 8:23
  some
• 8:23
  point
• 8:24
  you
• 8:24
  have
• 8:24
  to
• 8:25
  walk
• 8:25
  off
• 8:26
  that
• 8:26
  stage
• 8:27
  and
• 8:27
  into
• 8:28
  what's
• 8:28
  next
• 8:29
  for
• 8:29
  you.
• 8:30
  And
• 8:30
  one
• 8:30
  thing
• 8:30
  I
• 8:30
  really
• 8:31
  had
• 8:31
  to
• 8:31
  work
• 8:32
  on
• 8:32
  was
• 8:33
  how
• 8:33
  I
• 8:34
  interpreted
• 8:34
  things,
• 8:35
  because
• 8:36
  when
• 8:36
  something
• 8:36
  happened,
• 8:37
  I
• 8:37
  would
• 8:37
  automatically
• 8:38
  go
• 8:38
  to
• 8:38
  the
• 8:39
  full
• 8:39
  worst
• 8:39
  case
• 8:39
  scenario.
• 8:40
  And
• 8:41
  even
• 8:41
  without
• 8:42
  realizing
• 8:42
  it,
• 8:43
  That
• 8:43
  became
• 8:44
  the
• 8:44
  lens
• 8:44
  I
• 8:45
  used
• 8:45
  to
• 8:45
  see
• 8:45
  everything
• 8:46
  through,
• 8:47
  and
• 8:47
  grief
• 8:48
  was
• 8:48
  no
• 8:48
  different.
• 8:49
  The
• 8:49
  grief
• 8:50
  you
• 8:50
  feel
• 8:50
  when
• 8:50
  you
• 8:50
  think
• 8:51
  about
• 8:51
  changing,
• 8:52
  it's
• 8:52
  not
• 8:53
  a
• 8:53
  warning.
• 8:54
  It's
• 8:54
  not
• 8:54
  your
• 8:55
  intuition
• 8:55
  telling
• 8:56
  you
• 8:56
  to
• 8:56
  stop,
• 8:57
  and
• 8:57
  it's
• 8:57
  certainly
• 8:58
  is
• 8:58
  not
• 8:58
  God
• 8:59
  source
• 8:59
  or
• 8:59
  universe.
• 9:00
  S
• 9:01
  saying,
• 9:01
  turn
• 9:02
  around.
• 9:04
  It
• 9:04
  is
• 9:04
  a
• 9:04
  signpost.
• 9:06
  It's
• 9:06
  confirmation
• 9:07
  that
• 9:07
  what
• 9:08
  you
• 9:08
  are
• 9:08
  leaving
• 9:09
  behind
• 9:10
  actually
• 9:11
  mattered.
• 9:12
  You
• 9:12
  can't
• 9:12
  grieve
• 9:13
  something
• 9:14
  that
• 9:14
  didn't
• 9:14
  mean
• 9:15
  anything
• 9:15
  to
• 9:15
  you.
• 9:16
  That
• 9:17
  grief
• 9:17
  is
• 9:18
  proof
• 9:19
  that
• 9:20
  she
• 9:20
  was
• 9:20
  real,
• 9:21
  that
• 9:21
  the
• 9:22
  life
• 9:22
  you
• 9:22
  built
• 9:23
  around
• 9:23
  her
• 9:24
  was
• 9:24
  real.
• 9:25
  That
• 9:25
  the
• 9:25
  people,
• 9:26
  places,
• 9:27
  and
• 9:27
  patterns
• 9:28
  that
• 9:28
  came
• 9:28
  with
• 9:28
  her,
• 9:29
  they
• 9:29
  were
• 9:30
  all
• 9:30
  real.
• 9:31
  And
• 9:32
  now
• 9:32
  you're
• 9:32
  being
• 9:32
  asked
• 9:33
  to
• 9:34
  trust
• 9:34
  that
• 9:34
  something
• 9:35
  even
• 9:35
  more
• 9:36
  real
• 9:37
  is
• 9:37
  on
• 9:37
  the
• 9:37
  other
• 9:37
  side.
• 9:39
  Think
• 9:39
  about
• 9:39
  it
• 9:39
  like
• 9:40
  a
• 9:40
  song
• 9:40
  you
• 9:41
  loved
• 9:41
  in
• 9:41
  a
• 9:41
  completely
• 9:42
  different
• 9:42
  season
• 9:42
  of
• 9:42
  your
• 9:42
  life.
• 9:44
  maybe
• 9:44
  it
• 9:44
  was
• 9:45
  your
• 9:45
  jam,
• 9:46
  your
• 9:46
  anthem
• 9:47
  when
• 9:47
  you
• 9:47
  were
• 9:48
  going
• 9:48
  through
• 9:48
  something
• 9:49
  hard.
• 9:49
  Maybe
• 9:50
  it
• 9:50
  reminds
• 9:50
  you
• 9:50
  of
• 9:51
  a
• 9:51
  person
• 9:51
  or
• 9:52
  a
• 9:52
  time
• 9:53
  or
• 9:53
  a
• 9:53
  feeling
• 9:54
  that
• 9:55
  is
• 9:55
  long
• 9:56
  gone
• 9:56
  and
• 9:57
  when
• 9:57
  that
• 9:57
  song
• 9:57
  comes
• 9:58
  on,
• 9:58
  you
• 9:58
  feel
• 9:59
  something
• 10:00
  that
• 10:00
  nostalgia,
• 10:02
  that
• 10:02
  ache,
• 10:03
  a
• 10:03
  kind
• 10:04
  of
• 10:04
  bittersweetness
• 10:05
  that
• 10:06
  it's
• 10:06
  hard
• 10:06
  to
• 10:06
  put
• 10:06
  into
• 10:07
  words
• 10:08
  And
• 10:08
  listen,
• 10:08
  I
• 10:09
  was
• 10:09
  feeling
• 10:09
  that
• 10:09
  way.
• 10:09
  Once
• 10:10
  smack
• 10:11
  dab
• 10:11
  in
• 10:11
  the
• 10:12
  middle
• 10:12
  of
• 10:12
  a
• 10:12
  Keisha
• 10:13
  Cole
• 10:13
  concert,
• 10:17
  my
• 10:17
  husband
• 10:17
  and
• 10:17
  I
• 10:18
  went
• 10:18
  and
• 10:18
  listen
• 10:19
  those
• 10:19
  songs
• 10:20
  took
• 10:20
  me
• 10:20
  right
• 10:21
  on
• 10:21
  back,
• 10:22
  back
• 10:23
  into
• 10:23
  time.
• 10:26
  A
• 10:26
  time
• 10:27
  when
• 10:27
  I
• 10:27
  should
• 10:27
  have
• 10:27
  let
• 10:28
  you
• 10:28
  go
• 10:28
  was
• 10:28
  my
• 10:29
  anthem.
• 10:32
  And
• 10:32
  there
• 10:32
  I
• 10:32
  was.
• 10:33
  And
• 10:33
  listen,
• 10:34
  Keisha
• 10:34
  Cole
• 10:35
  was
• 10:35
  sounding
• 10:36
  phenomenal.
• 10:37
  Okay?
• 10:38
  I
• 10:38
  cannot
• 10:39
  skip
• 10:39
  out
• 10:39
  on
• 10:39
  that
• 10:40
  because
• 10:40
  she
• 10:41
  can
• 10:42
  sang
• 10:42
  sang,
• 10:43
  okay?
• 10:46
  And
• 10:46
  every
• 10:46
  song
• 10:47
  I
• 10:47
  sang
• 10:47
  right
• 10:48
  along
• 10:48
  with
• 10:48
  her.
• 10:49
  But
• 10:49
  it
• 10:49
  didn't
• 10:50
  have
• 10:50
  the
• 10:50
  same
• 10:51
  pain
• 10:51
  it
• 10:52
  once
• 10:52
  had
• 10:53
  because
• 10:54
  I
• 10:54
  was
• 10:54
  standing
• 10:54
  there
• 10:55
  feeling
• 10:55
  whole
• 10:56
  and
• 10:56
  complete
• 10:57
  and
• 10:58
  with
• 10:58
  the
• 10:58
  love
• 10:59
  of
• 10:59
  my
• 10:59
  life
• 11:00
  holding
• 11:00
  me.
• 11:01
  But
• 11:02
  you
• 11:02
  do
• 11:02
  not
• 11:03
  put
• 11:03
  your
• 11:03
  whole
• 11:03
  life
• 11:04
  on
• 11:04
  pause
• 11:05
  and
• 11:05
  move
• 11:06
  back
• 11:06
  into
• 11:07
  that
• 11:07
  season
• 11:08
  just
• 11:08
  because
• 11:08
  the
• 11:09
  song
• 11:09
  hits
• 11:09
  different.
• 11:10
  You
• 11:11
  let
• 11:11
  it
• 11:11
  move
• 11:11
  through
• 11:12
  you.
• 11:13
  You
• 11:13
  honor
• 11:13
  what
• 11:14
  it
• 11:14
  meant,
• 11:15
  and
• 11:15
  you
• 11:15
  keep
• 11:15
  going.
• 11:16
  And
• 11:16
  that
• 11:17
  is
• 11:17
  what
• 11:17
  I'm
• 11:17
  inviting
• 11:18
  you
• 11:18
  to
• 11:18
  do
• 11:19
  with
• 11:19
  this
• 11:19
  version
• 11:20
  of
• 11:20
  yourself.
• 11:21
  And
• 11:21
  let
• 11:21
  her
• 11:22
  move
• 11:22
  through.
• 11:23
  You
• 11:24
  say
• 11:24
  thank
• 11:24
  you,
• 11:25
  honor
• 11:25
  everything
• 11:26
  that
• 11:26
  she
• 11:26
  carried,
• 11:27
  and
• 11:27
  then
• 11:27
  friend,
• 11:28
  keep
• 11:28
  going.
• 11:29
  Because
• 11:30
  the
• 11:30
  woman
• 11:30
  you
• 11:30
  are
• 11:31
  becoming,
• 11:32
  she
• 11:32
  has
• 11:32
  been
• 11:32
  waiting
• 11:33
  and
• 11:34
  she
• 11:34
  is
• 11:34
  not
• 11:34
  asking
• 11:35
  you
• 11:35
  to
• 11:35
  forget
• 11:36
  where
• 11:36
  you
• 11:36
  came
• 11:36
  from.
• 11:37
  She's
• 11:38
  asking
• 11:38
  you
• 11:39
  to
• 11:39
  trust
• 11:40
  where
• 11:40
  you're
• 11:40
  going.
• 11:43
  Okay.
• 11:44
  When
• 11:44
  was
• 11:44
  the
• 11:44
  last
• 11:45
  time
• 11:45
  you
• 11:45
  sat
• 11:46
  down
• 11:46
  and
• 11:46
  really
• 11:47
  asked
• 11:47
  yourself,
• 11:48
  what
• 11:49
  do
• 11:49
  I
• 11:49
  need?
• 11:51
  Not
• 11:51
  what
• 11:51
  everybody
• 11:52
  else
• 11:52
  needs,
• 11:53
  not
• 11:53
  what's
• 11:53
  on
• 11:53
  the
• 11:53
  to-do
• 11:54
  list,
• 11:54
  what
• 11:55
  you
• 11:56
  need,
• 11:57
  what
• 11:57
  you
• 11:58
  want,
• 11:59
  what
• 11:59
  you
• 12:00
  actually
• 12:01
  believe
• 12:02
  about
• 12:02
  yourself
• 12:02
  right
• 12:03
  now,
• 12:03
  because
• 12:04
  here's
• 12:04
  what
• 12:04
  I
• 12:04
  know,
• 12:05
  clarity
• 12:06
  does
• 12:06
  not
• 12:06
  come
• 12:06
  from
• 12:07
  thinking
• 12:07
  harder.
• 12:08
  It
• 12:08
  comes
• 12:09
  from
• 12:09
  asking
• 12:10
  better
• 12:11
  questions,
• 12:12
  and
• 12:12
  the
• 12:12
  moments
• 12:13
  I
• 12:13
  feel
• 12:13
  stuck
• 12:14
  are
• 12:14
  really
• 12:14
  just
• 12:15
  moments
• 12:15
  when
• 12:15
  I
• 12:15
  have
• 12:16
  been
• 12:16
  asking
• 12:16
  myself
• 12:17
  the
• 12:17
  wrong
• 12:17
  questions
• 12:18
  on
• 12:18
  repeat.
• 12:19
  The
• 12:19
  Main
• 12:20
  Character
• 12:20
  Energy
• 12:21
  Journal
• 12:21
  Prompts
• 12:22
  creates
• 12:22
  that
• 12:23
  space
• 12:23
  and
• 12:24
  leads
• 12:24
  you
• 12:24
  in
• 12:24
  a
• 12:25
  positive
• 12:25
  direction.
• 12:26
  They
• 12:26
  help
• 12:27
  you
• 12:27
  get
• 12:27
  quiet
• 12:27
  enough
• 12:28
  to
• 12:28
  hear
• 12:28
  yourself
• 12:29
  and
• 12:29
  ask
• 12:29
  the
• 12:29
  kind
• 12:30
  of
• 12:30
  questions
• 12:31
  that
• 12:31
  actually
• 12:32
  move
• 12:32
  you
• 12:32
  forward,
• 12:33
  connecting
• 12:34
  back
• 12:34
  to
• 12:34
  yourself
• 12:35
  and
• 12:35
  reminding
• 12:36
  you
• 12:37
  who
• 12:37
  you
• 12:37
  really
• 12:37
  are,
• 12:38
  not
• 12:39
  who
• 12:39
  you've
• 12:39
  been
• 12:39
  performing.
• 12:41
  So
• 12:41
  friend,
• 12:42
  the
• 12:42
  link
• 12:42
  is
• 12:42
  in
• 12:43
  the
• 12:43
  show
• 12:43
  notes
• 12:43
  and
• 12:44
  I
• 12:45
  think
• 12:45
  you're
• 12:45
  ready.
• 12:48
  Okay,
• 12:48
  friend,
• 12:49
  it's
• 12:49
  time
• 12:49
  for
• 12:49
  our
• 12:50
  favorite
• 12:50
  self-Love
• 12:51
  two
• 12:51
  step.
• 12:52
  And
• 12:53
  this
• 12:53
  week
• 12:53
  we
• 12:54
  are
• 12:54
  doing
• 12:55
  the
• 12:55
  Let
• 12:55
  Her
• 12:55
  Go-to
• 12:56
  Step
• 12:56
  because
• 12:57
  awareness
• 12:58
  without
• 12:58
  action
• 12:59
  just
• 12:59
  keeps
• 13:00
  us
• 13:00
  circling
• 13:01
  and
• 13:01
  we
• 13:01
  don't
• 13:01
  do
• 13:01
  that
• 13:02
  around
• 13:02
  here.
• 13:02
  so
• 13:03
  here's
• 13:03
  what
• 13:03
  we
• 13:04
  are
• 13:04
  doing
• 13:05
  this
• 13:05
  week.
• 13:05
  Step
• 13:06
  one,
• 13:07
  write
• 13:07
  her
• 13:07
  a
• 13:08
  letter.
• 13:08
  I
• 13:08
  want
• 13:09
  you
• 13:09
  to
• 13:09
  get
• 13:09
  out
• 13:10
  your
• 13:10
  journal,
• 13:10
  a
• 13:11
  notepad
• 13:11
  or
• 13:12
  notes
• 13:12
  app,
• 13:12
  and
• 13:13
  I
• 13:13
  want
• 13:13
  you
• 13:13
  to
• 13:13
  write
• 13:14
  a
• 13:14
  letter
• 13:14
  to
• 13:15
  the
• 13:15
  version
• 13:15
  of
• 13:15
  yourself.
• 13:16
  You've
• 13:17
  been
• 13:17
  holding
• 13:17
  onto
• 13:18
  not
• 13:19
  a
• 13:19
  goodbye
• 13:19
  letter
• 13:19
  full
• 13:20
  of
• 13:20
  shame.
• 13:20
  Okay?
• 13:23
  This
• 13:23
  is
• 13:24
  a
• 13:24
  thank
• 13:24
  you
• 13:24
  letter.
• 13:25
  Tell
• 13:25
  her
• 13:26
  what
• 13:26
  she
• 13:26
  did,
• 13:27
  right!
• 13:28
  Tell
• 13:28
  her
• 13:29
  what
• 13:29
  she
• 13:30
  protected
• 13:30
  you
• 13:30
  from.
• 13:31
  Tell
• 13:31
  her
• 13:32
  what
• 13:32
  you're
• 13:32
  grateful
• 13:33
  for,
• 13:34
  And
• 13:34
  then
• 13:35
  gently,
• 13:36
  lovingly
• 13:37
  tell
• 13:38
  her
• 13:38
  that
• 13:39
  her
• 13:39
  assignment
• 13:39
  is
• 13:40
  complete,
• 13:41
  that
• 13:41
  you
• 13:42
  are
• 13:42
  safe.
• 13:42
  Now
• 13:43
  that
• 13:43
  you've
• 13:44
  got
• 13:44
  it
• 13:44
  from
• 13:44
  here,
• 13:45
  give
• 13:46
  her
• 13:46
  the
• 13:46
  honor
• 13:46
  she
• 13:47
  deserves
• 13:48
  and
• 13:48
  then
• 13:49
  set
• 13:49
  her
• 13:49
  free.
• 13:50
  And
• 13:51
  step
• 13:51
  two,
• 13:52
  name
• 13:52
  the
• 13:52
  grief
• 13:53
  so
• 13:54
  it
• 13:54
  stops
• 13:54
  naming
• 13:55
  you.
• 13:57
  Pick
• 13:57
  one
• 13:58
  specific
• 13:58
  thing
• 13:59
  you've
• 13:59
  been
• 13:59
  calling
• 14:00
  fear,
• 14:01
  and
• 14:01
  I
• 14:01
  want
• 14:01
  you
• 14:01
  to
• 14:01
  rename
• 14:02
  it
• 14:02
  as
• 14:02
  grief.
• 14:03
  Maybe
• 14:04
  it's
• 14:04
  the
• 14:05
  grief
• 14:05
  of
• 14:06
  leaving
• 14:06
  a
• 14:06
  relationship
• 14:07
  that
• 14:07
  was
• 14:08
  familiar
• 14:09
  even
• 14:09
  though
• 14:10
  it
• 14:10
  wasn't
• 14:10
  right
• 14:10
  for
• 14:11
  you
• 14:11
  anymore.
• 14:12
  Maybe
• 14:12
  it's
• 14:13
  the
• 14:13
  grief
• 14:13
  of
• 14:13
  a
• 14:13
  career
• 14:14
  identity
• 14:15
  that
• 14:15
  just
• 14:15
  no
• 14:15
  longer
• 14:16
  fit.
• 14:17
  Maybe
• 14:17
  it's
• 14:17
  the
• 14:17
  grief
• 14:18
  of
• 14:18
  a
• 14:18
  woman
• 14:19
  who
• 14:19
  put
• 14:20
  everyone
• 14:20
  else
• 14:21
  first
• 14:22
  and
• 14:23
  doesn't
• 14:23
  know
• 14:23
  who
• 14:23
  she
• 14:24
  is
• 14:25
  without
• 14:25
  that
• 14:26
  role,
• 14:26
  whatever
• 14:27
  it
• 14:27
  is,
• 14:28
  name
• 14:28
  it
• 14:28
  out
• 14:29
  loud.
• 14:30
  Say
• 14:31
  This
• 14:31
  is
• 14:31
  not
• 14:31
  fear,
• 14:32
  this
• 14:33
  is
• 14:33
  grief,
• 14:34
  and
• 14:34
  I
• 14:34
  am
• 14:35
  allowed
• 14:35
  to
• 14:35
  feel
• 14:36
  it,
• 14:37
  and
• 14:37
  I'm
• 14:37
  also
• 14:38
  allowed
• 14:38
  to
• 14:39
  keep
• 14:39
  going.
• 14:40
  Naming
• 14:41
  it
• 14:41
  takes
• 14:41
  its
• 14:42
  power
• 14:42
  away
• 14:43
  friend
• 14:43
  and
• 14:44
  grants
• 14:44
  that
• 14:45
  power
• 14:45
  back
• 14:46
  to
• 14:46
  you.
• 14:47
  And
• 14:47
  giving
• 14:47
  yourself
• 14:48
  permission
• 14:48
  to
• 14:49
  grieve
• 14:49
  without
• 14:50
  judgment.
• 14:51
  It's
• 14:51
  one
• 14:52
  of
• 14:52
  the
• 14:52
  most
• 14:52
  courageous
• 14:53
  things
• 14:54
  you
• 14:54
  will
• 14:54
  ever
• 14:55
  do.
• 14:56
  And
• 14:56
  step
• 14:57
  three.
• 14:57
  Ooh,
• 14:58
  yes.
• 14:58
  This
• 14:59
  is
• 14:59
  the
• 14:59
  you
• 14:59
  step.
• 15:00
  You
• 15:01
  get
• 15:01
  still,
• 15:02
  you
• 15:02
  get
• 15:02
  quiet
• 15:03
  and
• 15:03
  you
• 15:04
  ask
• 15:04
  yourself,
• 15:05
  what
• 15:05
  is
• 15:06
  my
• 15:06
  heart
• 15:07
  telling
• 15:07
  me
• 15:08
  to
• 15:08
  do
• 15:08
  next?
• 15:09
  Because
• 15:09
  whatever
• 15:10
  comes
• 15:10
  up,
• 15:11
  that
• 15:11
  is
• 15:12
  your
• 15:12
  next
• 15:13
  right
• 15:13
  aligned
• 15:14
  step.
• 15:15
  Not
• 15:15
  the
• 15:15
  whole
• 15:15
  plan,
• 15:16
  just
• 15:17
  the
• 15:17
  next
• 15:17
  move
• 15:18
  and
• 15:19
  trust
• 15:19
  her
• 15:19
  friend.
• 15:20
  She
• 15:20
  already
• 15:21
  knows.
• 15:23
  Now
• 15:23
  lemme
• 15:24
  pour
• 15:24
  into
• 15:24
  you
• 15:25
  real
• 15:25
  quick.
• 15:27
  I
• 15:27
  see
• 15:27
  you
• 15:27
  friend.
• 15:28
  I
• 15:29
  see
• 15:29
  the
• 15:29
  woman
• 15:29
  who's
• 15:30
  been
• 15:30
  so
• 15:30
  good
• 15:31
  at
• 15:31
  holding
• 15:31
  it
• 15:31
  all
• 15:32
  together
• 15:32
  that
• 15:33
  she
• 15:33
  don't
• 15:33
  even
• 15:34
  know
• 15:34
  what
• 15:35
  letting
• 15:35
  go
• 15:35
  looks
• 15:35
  like
• 15:36
  anymore.
• 15:38
  I
• 15:38
  see
• 15:38
  the
• 15:39
  woman
• 15:39
  who
• 15:39
  built
• 15:40
  her
• 15:40
  whole
• 15:40
  identity
• 15:42
  around
• 15:43
  who
• 15:43
  she
• 15:43
  was
• 15:44
  for
• 15:44
  other
• 15:45
  people,
• 15:45
  and
• 15:46
  now
• 15:46
  that
• 15:46
  she's
• 15:47
  finally
• 15:47
  choosing
• 15:48
  herself,
• 15:49
  it
• 15:49
  feels
• 15:50
  a
• 15:50
  little
• 15:50
  less
• 15:51
  like
• 15:51
  freedom,
• 15:52
  but
• 15:52
  a
• 15:52
  lot
• 15:53
  more.
• 15:53
  Like
• 15:54
  loss.
• 15:55
  I
• 15:55
  see
• 15:56
  you
• 15:56
  sitting
• 15:56
  with
• 15:57
  this
• 15:57
  quiet
• 15:57
  grief
• 15:59
  that
• 15:59
  you
• 15:59
  can't
• 15:59
  quite
• 16:00
  explain
• 16:01
  to
• 16:01
  other
• 16:01
  people
• 16:01
  around
• 16:02
  you.
• 16:02
  How
• 16:03
  do
• 16:03
  you
• 16:03
  say
• 16:03
  I'm
• 16:04
  grieving
• 16:04
  a
• 16:04
  version
• 16:05
  of
• 16:05
  myself?
• 16:05
  Like
• 16:05
  how
• 16:06
  do
• 16:06
  you
• 16:06
  even
• 16:06
  explain
• 16:07
  it
• 16:07
  to
• 16:07
  someone
• 16:08
  who
• 16:08
  just
• 16:08
  wants
• 16:09
  you
• 16:09
  to
• 16:10
  be
• 16:10
  okay?
• 16:11
  You
• 16:11
  don't
• 16:11
  have
• 16:11
  to
• 16:11
  explain
• 16:12
  it.
• 16:12
  You
• 16:13
  just
• 16:13
  have
• 16:13
  to
• 16:13
  honor
• 16:14
  it.
• 16:14
  She
• 16:15
  was
• 16:15
  real.
• 16:16
  Everything
• 16:16
  you
• 16:17
  built
• 16:17
  with
• 16:17
  her
• 16:18
  was
• 16:18
  real,
• 16:19
  and
• 16:19
  you're
• 16:19
  allowed
• 16:20
  to
• 16:20
  feel
• 16:21
  the
• 16:21
  weight
• 16:21
  of
• 16:21
  putting
• 16:22
  her
• 16:22
  down.
• 16:23
  She
• 16:23
  was
• 16:23
  real.
• 16:24
  Everything
• 16:25
  you
• 16:25
  built
• 16:26
  with
• 16:26
  her
• 16:26
  was
• 16:27
  real,
• 16:27
  and
• 16:28
  you're
• 16:28
  allowed
• 16:28
  to
• 16:29
  feel
• 16:29
  the
• 16:29
  weight.
• 16:30
  Of
• 16:30
  putting
• 16:30
  her
• 16:31
  down.
• 16:32
  But
• 16:32
  friend,
• 16:33
  I
• 16:33
  really
• 16:33
  need
• 16:34
  you
• 16:34
  to
• 16:34
  hear
• 16:34
  this,
• 16:35
  that
• 16:35
  weight
• 16:36
  that
• 16:36
  you
• 16:36
  feel
• 16:36
  right
• 16:37
  now,
• 16:37
  that
• 16:38
  is
• 16:38
  not
• 16:38
  the
• 16:38
  weight
• 16:39
  of
• 16:39
  a
• 16:39
  wrong
• 16:39
  decision.
• 16:41
  That
• 16:41
  is
• 16:41
  the
• 16:41
  weight
• 16:42
  of
• 16:42
  a
• 16:42
  woman
• 16:43
  who
• 16:43
  loved
• 16:43
  deeply,
• 16:45
  who
• 16:45
  lived
• 16:46
  fully
• 16:47
  and
• 16:47
  is
• 16:47
  brave
• 16:48
  enough
• 16:48
  to
• 16:48
  keep
• 16:49
  becoming.
• 16:50
  That's
• 16:51
  you.
• 16:51
  That
• 16:52
  has
• 16:52
  always
• 16:53
  been
• 16:53
  you.
• 16:54
  And
• 16:54
  she,
• 16:55
  the
• 16:55
  new
• 16:55
  her,
• 16:56
  she's
• 16:57
  proud
• 16:57
  of
• 16:57
  you
• 16:57
  for
• 16:57
  not
• 16:58
  looking
• 16:58
  away.
• 16:59
  In
• 16:59
  this
• 16:59
  life,
• 17:00
  we
• 17:00
  will
• 17:00
  go
• 17:01
  through
• 17:01
  many
• 17:02
  of
• 17:02
  transitions
• 17:03
  and
• 17:03
  pivots.
• 17:04
  Sometimes
• 17:05
  it's
• 17:05
  your
• 17:05
  choice
• 17:06
  and
• 17:07
  sometimes
• 17:07
  it
• 17:07
  seems
• 17:08
  as
• 17:08
  if
• 17:08
  life
• 17:09
  has
• 17:09
  chosen
• 17:10
  it
• 17:10
  for
• 17:10
  you.
• 17:11
  And
• 17:11
  it's
• 17:11
  normal.
• 17:12
  It's
• 17:12
  a
• 17:12
  natural
• 17:13
  part
• 17:13
  of
• 17:13
  life,
• 17:14
  and
• 17:14
  you're
• 17:15
  allowed
• 17:15
  to
• 17:15
  take
• 17:16
  all
• 17:16
  of
• 17:16
  the
• 17:16
  pieces
• 17:17
  and
• 17:17
  parts
• 17:18
  with
• 17:18
  you.
• 17:19
  You're
• 17:19
  allowed
• 17:20
  to
• 17:20
  change,
• 17:20
  to
• 17:20
  grow,
• 17:21
  to
• 17:21
  evolve.
• 17:22
  You're
• 17:22
  allowed
• 17:23
  to
• 17:23
  become
• 17:24
  someone
• 17:25
  new
• 17:25
  who
• 17:25
  fits
• 17:26
  you
• 17:26
  and
• 17:27
  feels
• 17:27
  more
• 17:27
  comfortable
• 17:28
  in
• 17:28
  this
• 17:29
  season
• 17:29
  of
• 17:29
  life.
• 17:30
  New
• 17:31
  Seasons
• 17:31
  will
• 17:32
  often
• 17:32
  require
• 17:33
  a
• 17:33
  new
• 17:34
  level
• 17:34
  of
• 17:34
  you,
• 17:35
  a
• 17:35
  new
• 17:36
  layer
• 17:36
  to
• 17:37
  come
• 17:37
  to
• 17:37
  the
• 17:37
  surface.
• 17:38
  This
• 17:39
  is
• 17:39
  really
• 17:39
  just
• 17:40
  an
• 17:40
  invitation
• 17:41
  to
• 17:41
  be
• 17:42
  more
• 17:42
  of
• 17:43
  yourself
• 17:44
  at
• 17:44
  this
• 17:44
  stage
• 17:45
  of
• 17:45
  your
• 17:45
  life,
• 17:46
  to
• 17:46
  be
• 17:46
  an
• 17:46
  even
• 17:47
  more
• 17:47
  authentic
• 17:48
  expression
• 17:49
  of
• 17:49
  who
• 17:49
  you
• 17:50
  really
• 17:50
  are.
• 17:51
  It's
• 17:51
  a
• 17:51
  beautiful
• 17:52
  invite
• 17:53
  to
• 17:53
  get
• 17:53
  to
• 17:54
  know
• 17:54
  yourself
• 17:55
  in
• 17:55
  a
• 17:55
  new
• 17:55
  way
• 17:56
  during
• 17:57
  a
• 17:57
  new
• 17:57
  season
• 17:58
  of
• 17:58
  parenthood
• 17:59
  in
• 18:00
  your
• 18:00
  career
• 18:00
  or
• 18:01
  relationships,
• 18:02
  or
• 18:02
  even
• 18:02
  along
• 18:02
  your
• 18:02
  health
• 18:03
  journey.
• 18:03
  So
• 18:04
  many
• 18:04
  invitations
• 18:05
  to
• 18:05
  be
• 18:06
  the
• 18:07
  best
• 18:07
  of
• 18:07
  who
• 18:08
  you
• 18:08
  are.
• 18:08
  Now
• 18:10
  You
• 18:10
  get
• 18:10
  to
• 18:10
  carry
• 18:10
  who
• 18:11
  you've
• 18:11
  been
• 18:11
  with
• 18:12
  you.
• 18:12
  The
• 18:13
  old
• 18:13
  you
• 18:13
  is
• 18:14
  just
• 18:14
  no
• 18:14
  longer
• 18:15
  driving.
• 18:16
  It's
• 18:16
  your
• 18:17
  turn
• 18:17
  to
• 18:17
  take
• 18:17
  over
• 18:18
  this
• 18:18
  leg
• 18:19
  of
• 18:19
  the
• 18:19
  trip.
• 18:19
  She's
• 18:20
  still
• 18:20
  in
• 18:20
  there
• 18:21
  and
• 18:21
  the
• 18:21
  beauty
• 18:22
  is
• 18:22
  you
• 18:23
  can
• 18:23
  connect
• 18:23
  to
• 18:24
  her
• 18:24
  whenever
• 18:25
  you
• 18:25
  need
• 18:25
  her.
• 18:26
  It's
• 18:26
  okay
• 18:27
  to
• 18:27
  grieve
• 18:28
  who
• 18:28
  you've
• 18:28
  been
• 18:29
  as
• 18:30
  you
• 18:30
  welcome
• 18:30
  in,
• 18:31
  who
• 18:31
  you
• 18:31
  were
• 18:32
  always
• 18:32
  meant
• 18:33
  to
• 18:33
  become.
• 18:36
  Ooh,
• 18:37
  friend.
• 18:37
  Yes,
• 18:39
  this
• 18:39
  was
• 18:40
  pure
• 18:40
  fire.
• 18:42
  Let's
• 18:42
  continue
• 18:43
  the
• 18:43
  conversation
• 18:44
  right
• 18:44
  over
• 18:44
  on
• 18:45
  my
• 18:45
  YouTube
• 18:45
  channel.
• 18:46
  I'm
• 18:46
  posting
• 18:47
  videos
• 18:47
  every
• 18:48
  day,
• 18:48
  and
• 18:49
  this
• 18:49
  topic
• 18:51
  definitely
• 18:51
  deserves
• 18:51
  some
• 18:52
  more
• 18:52
  airtime,
• 18:53
  so
• 18:53
  join
• 18:53
  me
• 18:54
  there.
• 18:54
  The
• 18:54
  link
• 18:55
  is
• 18:55
  in
• 18:55
  the
• 18:55
  show
• 18:55
  notes.
• 18:56
  And
• 18:56
  friend,
• 18:57
  I'm
• 18:57
  so
• 18:58
  proud
• 18:58
  of
• 18:58
  you
• 18:59
  today.
• 18:59
  You
• 19:00
  could
• 19:00
  have
• 19:00
  done
• 19:01
  anything
• 19:01
  and
• 19:02
  you
• 19:02
  chose
• 19:03
  to
• 19:03
  spend
• 19:03
  this
• 19:03
  time
• 19:03
  with
• 19:04
  me,
• 19:04
  and
• 19:05
  I'm
• 19:05
  forever
• 19:06
  grateful.
• 19:07
  I'm
• 19:07
  just
• 19:07
  so
• 19:08
  proud
• 19:08
  that
• 19:08
  you
• 19:09
  chose
• 19:09
  to
• 19:09
  invest
• 19:10
  in
• 19:10
  you
• 19:11
  today
• 19:11
  to
• 19:12
  put
• 19:12
  something
• 19:12
  positive
• 19:13
  in
• 19:13
  your
• 19:14
  ears
• 19:14
  and
• 19:14
  light
• 19:15
  up
• 19:15
  your
• 19:15
  heart.
• 19:16
  So
• 19:17
  take
• 19:17
  this
• 19:17
  energy
• 19:18
  with
• 19:19
  you.
• 19:19
  Out
• 19:20
  into
• 19:20
  the
• 19:20
  world
• 19:21
  and
• 19:21
  let's
• 19:22
  light
• 19:22
  it
• 19:22
  up.
• 19:23
  Okay.
• 19:24
  And
• 19:25
  remember,
• 19:26
  you
• 19:26
  are
• 19:26
  not
• 19:27
  an
• 19:27
  extra
• 19:28
  in
• 19:28
  somebody
• 19:28
  else's
• 19:29
  story.
• 19:30
  You
• 19:30
  are
• 19:30
  the
• 19:30
  main
• 19:30
  character
• 19:31
  of
• 19:31
  your
• 19:32
  own
• 19:32
  story,
• 19:33
  so
• 19:34
  go
• 19:34
  be
• 19:35
  her,
• 19:35
  the
• 19:36
  one
• 19:36
  you've
• 19:36
  been
• 19:37
  becoming.
• 19:37
  She's
• 19:38
  been
• 19:38
  waiting
• 19:38
  on
• 19:39
  you
• 19:39
  to
• 19:39
  live
• 19:40
  out
• 19:40
  loud.
• 19:41
  I'm
• 19:41
  cheering
• 19:42
  for
• 19:42
  you
• 19:42
  loud
• 19:43
  and
• 19:43
  obnoxiously.
• 19:44
  Always,
• 19:46
  and
• 19:46
  no
• 19:47
  matter
• 19:47
  what
• 19:47
  comes
• 19:48
  our
• 19:48
  way
• 19:48
  together,
• 19:49
  we
• 19:49
  can
• 19:50
  encourage
• 19:50
  over
• 19:51
  everything
• 19:52
  and
• 19:52
  I'll
• 19:52
  see
• 19:53
  you
• 19:53
  in
• 19:54
  the
• 19:54
  next
• 19:54
  episode.