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S3E36 - The Anger Iceberg: What Your Child Is Really Feeling
In this episode, I explain the concept of the anger iceberg and how it completely changes the way we understand our children's behavior. What we see on the surface—yelling, hitting, defiance, aggression—is often just a small piece of what's actually going on. Underneath that anger is something much bigger: hurt, disappointment, fear, frustration, or overwhelm. Kids don't choose anger because it's accurate—they choose it because it feels powerful and helps them avoid vulnerability.
When we only react to the anger, we miss what our child is really trying to communicate. But when we pause and…
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