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My SOUL, SISTA · Sistas IN Sync

• 0:33
  SPEAKER_00: What's up, you guys?
• 0:35
  SPEAKER_00: What's up, what's up, what's up?
• 0:37
  SPEAKER_00: You are tuning into another episode of Sisters in Sync.
• 0:39
  SPEAKER_00: I'm your girl Ashley.
• 0:41
  SPEAKER_00: Hey y'all, this is Diamond.
• 0:43
  SPEAKER_00: And we back for episode 31.
• 0:47
  SPEAKER_00: Y'all.
• 0:48
  SPEAKER_00: Hey.
• 0:49
  SPEAKER_00: Life be life, and my sister's a boss over here.
• 0:53
  SPEAKER_00: She's getting her doctorate, so you have to be patient with us, okay?
• 0:57
  SPEAKER_00: We keep saying, oh, we've asked me.
• 1:00
  SPEAKER_00: Listen, my sister is a f she has a full-time job and she's getting her doctor's degree.
• 1:06
  SPEAKER_00: So you gotta be patient with us, okay?
• 1:09
  SPEAKER_00: Um yeah, but I mean shit.
• 1:13
  SPEAKER_00: How you feeling, sis, what's going on in Diamonds World?
• 1:16
  SPEAKER_01: I feel great, you guys.
• 1:18
  SPEAKER_01: I am on fall break, living my best, yes, living my best life um at home, doing what I want to do, no schedule, no meetings.
• 1:30
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, so I'm having a great time right now, just like trying to soak in as much downtime from this week as I possibly can.
• 1:39
  SPEAKER_01: Um, I actually was gonna hold myself to working out each morning.
• 1:46
  SPEAKER_01: But the other morning, my alarm went off at 5:30.
• 1:51
  SPEAKER_01: And I was like, I know you fucking lying.
• 1:54
  SPEAKER_01: I rolled over and cut that bitch off.
• 1:56
  SPEAKER_01: I was like, no, I'm not doing it.
• 1:57
  SPEAKER_01: Like, I'm going to enjoy sleeping in.
• 2:01
  SPEAKER_01: Um, and then once I get up, if I do have the time to go walk in, or if I do have the time to get on my bike, I'll do that in the house.
• 2:10
  SPEAKER_01: But I'm not holding myself to that this week because I really do want to sleep in.
• 2:16
  SPEAKER_01: I want to relax.
• 2:17
  SPEAKER_01: I don't want to be on a um demanding schedule of me having to go somewhere or do something.
• 2:26
  SPEAKER_01: So um I decided against that.
• 2:29
  SPEAKER_01: So I am not holding myself to those expectations this week and just gonna do that when the um next week.
• 2:37
  SPEAKER_01: So I'll just after work, I'll just go to the gym or you know, work out here at home.
• 2:44
  SPEAKER_01: But I'm just not trying to hold myself to that shit this week at all.
• 2:47
  SPEAKER_01: But other than that, yeah, just been enjoying time at home with the kids, doing things that I want to do and just moving slow, moving real slow, and I like that.
• 2:58
  SPEAKER_03: Absolutely.
• 2:58
  SPEAKER_01: Um, the bestie came in town, so my best friend came in town, Simone.
• 3:04
  SPEAKER_01: She was here over the weekend.
• 3:06
  SPEAKER_01: Hey girl.
• 3:08
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, she came in town and we hung out.
• 3:11
  SPEAKER_01: She got a chance to spend time with her god kids, so that was cool.
• 3:16
  SPEAKER_01: Um, we went downtown because she hadn't got to experience like the Broadway scene with like the boobs and you know, all that bar hopping.
• 3:27
  SPEAKER_01: We've gone down there before, like years ago.
• 3:29
  SPEAKER_01: I took her down there, but this was kind of different.
• 3:32
  SPEAKER_01: So we kind of did like the touristy stuff um Saturday night and then Sunday we went to brunch at Bungalow 10.
• 3:39
  SPEAKER_01: Shout out to Bungalow 10.
• 3:41
  SPEAKER_01: It's always a vibe in there, so we had good food, mimosas, hookah, um, and just spent time with each other.
• 3:49
  SPEAKER_01: So it was great to just catch up with her.
• 3:51
  SPEAKER_01: Um, and we really needed that time to like re what's the word I'm looking for, like recalibrate our sisterhood.
• 4:01
  SPEAKER_01: I love this.
• 4:03
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it was like very, very needed.
• 4:05
  SPEAKER_01: Like us just like one-on-one time.
• 4:08
  SPEAKER_01: Um one of the things that she said to me that was like really it stuck with me was she was like, you know, we've been friends for a very, very long time.
• 4:22
  SPEAKER_01: We've been friends since the seventh grade.
• 4:24
  SPEAKER_01: And so we're now in a, I feel like another stage of life in our 30s.
• 4:31
  SPEAKER_01: Um, she's in a committed relationship now.
• 4:34
  SPEAKER_01: Of course, I've married, been married, I have kids.
• 4:36
  SPEAKER_01: She doesn't have any kids yet, but she's wanting to have kids, and she was just saying, we're changing, you know, we're changing, and she wants to make sure that we stay rooted in our friendship.
• 4:51
  SPEAKER_01: Um, and so as we change, we have to learn each other again and be mindful of those changes and really cultivate our sisterhood.
• 5:03
  SPEAKER_01: So it's just good to um talk to her about those things and just get back acquainted with my best friend.
• 5:11
  SPEAKER_01: I think we take for granted those relationships that have always been around, and so it's a blessing to have someone in your life who's weathered the storm of 20 years.
• 5:24
  SPEAKER_01: Like a lot can happen in that time.
• 5:27
  SPEAKER_01: And so just to have somebody that's still with you through all of that is just very important.
• 5:32
  SPEAKER_01: So that was amazing.
• 5:35
  SPEAKER_01: Um, but yeah, I'm doing, I'm doing really good.
• 5:38
  SPEAKER_01: I need to sign up for therapy.
• 5:40
  SPEAKER_01: I do need to reach out to my therapist.
• 5:42
  SPEAKER_01: I need a therapy session, but you know, all in all, I'm doing doing really good.
• 5:47
  SPEAKER_01: Everybody's happy, healthy, here at home.
• 5:51
  SPEAKER_01: But yeah, sis, how are you doing?
• 5:54
  SPEAKER_00: Ugh, that's powerful.
• 5:55
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I just had when I went in August and spent some time with one of my bestest, longest, bestest friends.
• 6:03
  SPEAKER_00: Um, we've been friends since we were 14 and we are now 32, 33.
• 6:09
  SPEAKER_00: So um, let me do the math in my head.
• 6:13
  SPEAKER_00: God damn it.
• 6:14
  unknown: 16.
• 6:16
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, we've been friends now for like 18, 17, 18 years.
• 6:21
  SPEAKER_00: So when I spent time with her, that's when we've seen each other three times this year.
• 6:27
  SPEAKER_00: So we try to at least give one time to each other.
• 6:31
  SPEAKER_00: But even when I think about my two best friends from college, we're completely different people.
• 6:38
  SPEAKER_00: We were we were 18 to now in our 30s.
• 6:40
  SPEAKER_00: And recalibrating and coming together, relearning, and just putting forth that intentional time is very important as women because I feel like a lot of the times we get cornered into our role.
• 6:54
  SPEAKER_00: So, you know, I'm a mother, I'm a wife, I have to cook, I gotta clean, I got this, I got that, I'm this at work.
• 7:01
  SPEAKER_00: So to be intentional with that, because you know, life be life in.
• 7:06
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so I I love that, and I love the fact that, and I will sing his praises until I can't.
• 7:13
  SPEAKER_00: Like, no man is perfect, but K-Ron is an amazing husband because he offers you that time.
• 7:20
  SPEAKER_00: That's one of the things I've always said, whenever, because you know, I've never been in a relationship, never had that person, but I'm in a stage in my life where, you know, I do want a husband.
• 7:33
  SPEAKER_00: I'm particularly maybe want a kid or two.
• 7:36
  SPEAKER_00: So that's the quality.
• 7:37
  SPEAKER_00: You you have to be like K Ron when it comes to that.
• 7:40
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I'm not finna give up who Ashley is because that's the one thing I'm terrified of is I've been on the hall my whole life.
• 7:48
  SPEAKER_00: I've never had to change or wherever I want to go, I go.
• 7:52
  SPEAKER_00: I don't have to think about child, I gotta think about man.
• 7:54
  SPEAKER_00: I I just go.
• 7:56
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I just think about myself and my schedule.
• 7:58
  SPEAKER_00: But I love the fact that not only do you allow yourself to have that space, you have a husband.
• 8:02
  SPEAKER_00: Because he don't let you do anything, but he supports you in that.
• 8:06
  SPEAKER_00: Mm-hmm.
• 8:06
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 8:07
  SPEAKER_00: So I love you, your own woman in your union.
• 8:10
  SPEAKER_00: And that's something I find, and we've talked about this on previous episodes about kind of just how like men are just kind of different.
• 8:18
  SPEAKER_00: They're so red-peeled now.
• 8:19
  SPEAKER_00: So so you can't take a girl's trip.
• 8:21
  SPEAKER_00: You gotta be no.
• 8:24
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I was like this before you met me, and you had to cultivate that.
• 8:28
  SPEAKER_00: So I love that.
• 8:29
  SPEAKER_00: Um shit, what did you ask me?
• 8:33
  SPEAKER_00: How you doing?
• 8:34
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, girl, girl, that was that was powerful.
• 8:37
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I think, and then you know, I think a lot of times too as women, we just you grow with so many areas.
• 8:43
  SPEAKER_00: Why would you grow in your friendships?
• 8:44
  SPEAKER_00: Or you with that that was powerful.
• 8:48
  SPEAKER_00: I love the fact that Samal said that.
• 8:50
  SPEAKER_00: Shout out to her.
• 8:51
  SPEAKER_02: Um I love that.
• 8:53
  SPEAKER_00: I definitely feel like from the outside looking in and seeing y'all's pictures, y'all just pick up right where y'all live.
• 8:59
  SPEAKER_00: But y'all talk often.
• 9:00
  SPEAKER_00: So all the time, yeah.
• 9:02
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, to see y'all in pictures together and to genuinely look happy and then y'all support each other at y'all's biggest moments.
• 9:08
  SPEAKER_00: Chef's kiss, I love y'all's sisterhood.
• 9:11
  SPEAKER_00: Um, girl, one step at a time.
• 9:16
  SPEAKER_00: Last week was terrible for me.
• 9:18
  SPEAKER_00: I just got in my head again.
• 9:20
  SPEAKER_00: This is I have officially passed a threshold.
• 9:23
  SPEAKER_00: This is the longest I've never had a job.
• 9:26
  SPEAKER_00: I've been out of work.
• 9:27
  SPEAKER_00: I've tried all I can.
• 9:29
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I guess I'll share the story.
• 9:32
  SPEAKER_00: I had an interview with a company$43 an hour.
• 9:37
  SPEAKER_00: I put on my best foot forward.
• 9:40
  SPEAKER_00: My mom heard my interview.
• 9:42
  SPEAKER_00: It went great.
• 9:43
  SPEAKER_00: I had a this interview was so big.
• 9:46
  SPEAKER_00: I had a prep, I had two prep sessions for this interview.
• 9:50
  SPEAKER_00: Pre-interview interviews.
• 9:52
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I'm talking, I pull out my suit, you know, I I do all my tricks and I just knew.
• 10:00
  SPEAKER_00: I said, I got this shit in the bag.
• 10:02
  SPEAKER_00: I was supposed to hear something about a certain date, but I ended up having to reach out on Tuesday.
• 10:08
  SPEAKER_00: The lady who was my um, who was a talent recruiter, she says, I'm gonna call you from another number.
• 10:14
  SPEAKER_00: Pick up, okay?
• 10:15
  SPEAKER_00: She called me from her purse, she was like, I gotta tell you this.
• 10:18
  SPEAKER_00: And she wasn't black, she was a woman of color.
• 10:21
  SPEAKER_00: And out of respect for her, I'm not gonna give away her ethnicity or what company it was for or what the job was, but she called me.
• 10:28
  SPEAKER_00: She was a brown woman because she said, The only reason why you didn't get that job is because you're black.
• 10:34
  SPEAKER_00: They gave the job to a young white man who just graduated college.
• 10:40
  SPEAKER_00: Oh Lord help me, Jesus.
• 10:42
  SPEAKER_00: The only she told me she said the only experience this boy had was an internship and he worked at McDonald's when he was a teenager for maybe a few months.
• 10:58
  SPEAKER_00: She was like, I just she said you I had she was like, I knew you had that in the back.
• 11:03
  SPEAKER_00: She said that she said, I have no negative feedback to give you, nothing that you could have done to make your interview better.
• 11:09
  SPEAKER_00: She said, You made a great impression on everybody.
• 11:13
  SPEAKER_00: Even your stats and your resume was she was like, I knew you had this in the bat.
• 11:19
  SPEAKER_00: And she was just like, you know, I'm so sorry.
• 11:21
  SPEAKER_00: She's like, if I come across something that I think you'll qualify for, I will send it your way.
• 11:26
  SPEAKER_00: And I haven't heard from her since because, you know, I probably there's nothing right now, but I'm just at my wit's end.
• 11:32
  SPEAKER_00: I've applied for all that I can apply for.
• 11:36
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just feel real defeated to not just have ten dollars in my account because I gotta wait on the next week for unemployment, which that's basically spent as soon as I got it, because it's just$300 behind on everything.
• 11:49
  SPEAKER_00: I know I have shit I gotta catch up on.
• 11:53
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just stressed out.
• 11:55
  SPEAKER_00: Um you know, but what can I do?
• 11:59
  SPEAKER_00: I just feel like I'm just here.
• 12:04
  SPEAKER_00: There's I can't, I'm like a cub.
• 12:08
  SPEAKER_00: I can't be, I can't move how I want, I can't do unless I'm controlled.
• 12:13
  SPEAKER_00: There is no I have no control over nothing.
• 12:16
  SPEAKER_00: I met the total application count.
• 12:19
  SPEAKER_00: I counted it maybe last Thursday.
• 12:23
  SPEAKER_00: I count every week I add.
• 12:26
  SPEAKER_00: I'm at 618 applications within the last Jesus Christ.
• 12:31
  SPEAKER_00: Last 18 months, 618 applications.
• 12:35
  SPEAKER_00: I've had maybe three interviews, no offers.
• 12:40
  SPEAKER_00: I had one offer, but it was a I ended up taking it, but it was it was a didn't know it was a sales job, and they're and it's like, yeah, you know, you cannot make money the first two months.
• 12:52
  SPEAKER_00: Bitch, I need money, so I'm not gonna work for free.
• 12:55
  SPEAKER_00: I'm good.
• 12:56
  SPEAKER_00: No.
• 12:57
  SPEAKER_00: So, and I had to pay money to start that job just for me not to do it.
• 13:01
  SPEAKER_00: I had to take basically I put down my mom helped me, thank God for her, but I had to put down a total of uh um$230 for this coursework and quiz stuff that I didn't even do.
• 13:13
  SPEAKER_00: Because I'm just like, what do you mean I won't make money in the first few months?
• 13:16
  SPEAKER_00: I didn't know that.
• 13:19
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm just and then you know it's hard because again, everybody around me is going here, going there.
• 13:30
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I have a few friends of mine who are now in solid relationships who are doing well.
• 13:36
  SPEAKER_00: I have two friends that have two new job offers.
• 13:41
  SPEAKER_00: Um I just feel like my life is passing me by and I'm just at home.
• 13:47
  SPEAKER_00: Poor out of my fucking mind.
• 13:49
  SPEAKER_00: Mentally, I know I'm not the best because my room is a fucking mess.
• 13:54
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna clean it tomorrow because I'm now I'm tired of looking at it.
• 13:58
  SPEAKER_00: I've just gotten tired of looking at it, but I'm just I'm just kind of at my wit's end.
• 14:06
  SPEAKER_00: And it's taking, and I'm just gonna be so vulnerable right now.
• 14:10
  SPEAKER_00: It's taking everything in me not to hate white people because it was a white person that put me in a predicament, a team of them that put me in a predicament that I'm fucking in.
• 14:19
  SPEAKER_00: And if you know, you know.
• 14:20
  SPEAKER_00: Diamond knows the bastard of everything that happened to me.
• 14:24
  SPEAKER_00: Basically, I was canned as a top performer based off of some shit that had nothing to do with work.
• 14:35
  SPEAKER_00: Never said what I've done for work, where I work, who I work with, who I work for, who my client, nothing.
• 14:42
  SPEAKER_00: A political opinion that was discovered, which I don't know how because I'm very careful.
• 14:48
  SPEAKER_00: As a black woman who works in corporate, who works, period, you I don't be friends really white people on my social media.
• 14:54
  SPEAKER_00: If I have white people on my social media, it's people I went to school with, or it was after the fact.
• 15:00
  SPEAKER_00: Now a few of them, yeah, like okay, we worked at retail, cool, but I don't really be for white people on social media.
• 15:07
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm for the life of me, I couldn't figure it out.
• 15:11
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like it was something they look for to fire me.
• 15:13
  SPEAKER_00: And it's at the end of the day, on one of my busiest days of the month.
• 15:20
  SPEAKER_00: So I don't know.
• 15:25
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just and I guess it just don't help that it's just the way of the world.
• 15:32
  SPEAKER_00: And then, you know, just being chronically lonely, I feel like the older I'm getting the whole thing about the biological time clock, that is the truth.
• 15:42
  SPEAKER_00: Like some days I'm like, damn, I want a kid.
• 15:45
  SPEAKER_00: And some days I'm just like, I don't want to bring a child into this.
• 15:48
  SPEAKER_00: Hell, if I was to get pregnant right now, I know I couldn't fucking afford it, and I wouldn't put that burden on my parents.
• 15:53
  SPEAKER_00: They're already doing enough for me and for my brother.
• 15:57
  SPEAKER_00: You know what I'm saying?
• 15:58
  SPEAKER_00: But it's like the one thing I do know, I do want to, I'm so tired of being by myself.
• 16:06
  SPEAKER_00: I've been by myself my whole life, as far as in the romance portion.
• 16:10
  SPEAKER_00: So being touch deprived is one thing, but to just not to feel like you just can't meet nobody fucking normal is and I think for me it rained and it poured at the same time.
• 16:23
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah.
• 16:24
  SPEAKER_00: So last week was a sh I didn't do like it was two days, and I just didn't even get up off the couch.
• 16:33
  SPEAKER_00: I didn't brush my teeth, I didn't pull no clothes, I just sat there.
• 16:41
  SPEAKER_00: I'm at my wood's in.
• 16:44
  SPEAKER_00: Your breakthrough is coming, your breakthrough is coming.
• 16:46
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just like when like I don't have nothing.
• 16:51
  SPEAKER_00: So uh this is the first time I'm like crying on the pod between this one and Blackberry.
• 16:57
  SPEAKER_00: I'm but I'm just and then it's No, you need to let it out.
• 17:01
  SPEAKER_00: It's okay to cry.
• 17:03
  SPEAKER_00: I'm so I I don't I don't have insurance.
• 17:06
  SPEAKER_00: I can't even book a therapy session because that shit costs an arm and a leg without insurance.
• 17:11
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm just I'm I'm at my wit's end.
• 17:17
  SPEAKER_00: I've never been the person to be suicidal because that's I'm not gonna take myself out of here.
• 17:21
  SPEAKER_00: I will hurt a lot of people.
• 17:23
  SPEAKER_00: But I can understand just wanting to be gone.
• 17:26
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 17:26
  SPEAKER_00: This is not the life I want to live.
• 17:29
  SPEAKER_00: Only some days, the only thing that keeps me gone is like, okay, I do know I want to see my nephew grow up.
• 17:36
  SPEAKER_00: That's why I keep him as my background to look at him every single day.
• 17:41
  SPEAKER_00: But it be some days I'm just like, bruh, what's the fucking point of being here?
• 17:47
  SPEAKER_00: I'm I'm not serving nobody's purpose right now.
• 17:52
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah.
• 17:59
  SPEAKER_01: I'm not gonna tell you, I'm not gonna be that one to tell you it's gonna, cause I know you're tired of hearing that shit.
• 18:05
  SPEAKER_01: So I'm not even gonna add to that, you know, that whole spiel, but um just know that I love you, I'm here for you, and you can always call me.
• 18:18
  SPEAKER_01: You can call me whenever you want to talk, cry, laugh.
• 18:22
  SPEAKER_01: You can hell, you can.
• 18:24
  SPEAKER_01: I know coming to Nashville's far, but if you ever need to get away like this week, I'm home all week.
• 18:31
  SPEAKER_01: So if you want to come out here and just chill with me, like just come out here.
• 18:36
  SPEAKER_01: We can just chill, like at the house, won't have to go nowhere.
• 18:39
  SPEAKER_01: Um, just to get your mind off things, or I come out there, like whatever.
• 18:44
  SPEAKER_01: Just let me know.
• 18:45
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I'm talking for it.
• 18:47
  SPEAKER_00: She's she's been there for me this whole time.
• 18:50
  SPEAKER_00: Real friend, um, real good sister.
• 18:52
  SPEAKER_00: Love her and her family down.
• 18:53
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, I'll I just coming out here.
• 18:56
  SPEAKER_00: You know, mom be happy to see you.
• 18:58
  SPEAKER_00: Listen, mom be on my ass every time I come by.
• 19:01
  SPEAKER_00: Every damn time.
• 19:03
  SPEAKER_00: Look, I don't know.
• 19:07
  SPEAKER_01: Girl, mom don't be playing with my ass.
• 19:09
  SPEAKER_01: Look, I give a disclaimer to anybody that wants to come by.
• 19:12
  SPEAKER_01: My house is loud as fuck.
• 19:14
  SPEAKER_01: I will tell you that now.
• 19:15
  SPEAKER_01: You come around this motherfucker, you are gonna have people in your face.
• 19:20
  SPEAKER_01: KJ is gonna want to be up in your face, Joy gonna be staring at you, you're gonna hear loud talking.
• 19:27
  SPEAKER_01: Manny might bark several times.
• 19:29
  SPEAKER_01: It's gonna be loud.
• 19:31
  SPEAKER_01: So if you're looking for a place that's quiet, maybe not the place for you.
• 19:36
  SPEAKER_01: But if you want love and, you know, short.
• 19:41
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, just to get out of the house or whatever, you know, you always got a place here anytime.
• 19:47
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know, sis, and I appreciate it.
• 19:49
  SPEAKER_01: Anytime, anytime.
• 19:51
  SPEAKER_00: I feel better now I've gotten that out.
• 19:53
  SPEAKER_00: But yeah, last week, yeah, I didn't really speak to nobody on the phone.
• 19:58
  SPEAKER_00: I know I spoke to my one friend, shout out to Candace, because it's her her birthday, her and my friend Keanu's birthday are the 18th.
• 20:07
  SPEAKER_00: So they wanted to go out last week, but Okay.
• 20:11
  SPEAKER_00: We went out to one of the old folks clubs right here and just kind of kicked it.
• 20:15
  SPEAKER_00: But girl, when I tell you, I didn't talk on the phone for four days to nobody.
• 20:19
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 20:19
  SPEAKER_00: If you wasn't my my brother would call, but it was like four days.
• 20:24
  SPEAKER_00: I basically had my phone on do not disturb.
• 20:27
  SPEAKER_00: I just couldn't, I didn't want to face the world.
• 20:31
  SPEAKER_00: Mm-hmm.
• 20:32
  SPEAKER_00: And I don't know.
• 20:34
  SPEAKER_00: But I'm just, I don't really, it's the thing of not knowing.
• 20:38
  SPEAKER_00: I don't, I I'm just tired of just sitting in this fucking house.
• 20:43
  SPEAKER_00: And not having That's what I'm saying.
• 20:45
  SPEAKER_01: If you need to just get like have somewhere to go, like to get out, I know it's far, it's a long ride, but just to get away.
• 20:53
  SPEAKER_00: It's just, you know, I have to, and that's another thing.
• 20:56
  SPEAKER_00: I'm used to moving how I want.
• 20:58
  SPEAKER_00: So now it's like, damn, I do gotta be considering my gas because I'm Yeah, gas inside.
• 21:04
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 21:05
  SPEAKER_00: Her and motherfucker.
• 21:06
  SPEAKER_00: So it's just like That's true.
• 21:09
  SPEAKER_00: I just I hate feeling this trapped and stagnant and just I don't even feel like I was this restricted when I was a teenager.
• 21:19
  SPEAKER_00: I was working.
• 21:20
  SPEAKER_00: Like I co and gumma come and go as I please.
• 21:23
  SPEAKER_00: I can go shopping when I want.
• 21:24
  SPEAKER_00: And it's not about it's just you, I I don't have no independent I hate, oh I hate this.
• 21:32
  SPEAKER_00: I'm I've always been an independent girl outside of, you know, having the family I have.
• 21:39
  SPEAKER_00: But I think I when I was in my apartment in Nashville, like, girl, even when I lived at home, I've never had to ask for money.
• 21:46
  SPEAKER_00: I've never I've always been able to move how I want to move.
• 21:50
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 21:50
  SPEAKER_00: And I just, this is, but yeah, I'm just very um, I'll pray to God some shit shake soon because I'm coming up on the end.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_00: Of my um unemployment and I I'll really be fucked.
• 22:05
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm just there's an end to it.
• 22:08
  SPEAKER_00: Like I thought as long as you haven't like gotten a job, like no, Tennessee only give they gave they give you like 12 weeks at a time, if that.
• 22:16
  SPEAKER_00: And if you don't, if I didn't know that.
• 22:20
  SPEAKER_00: They use to determine if you can get more or not.
• 22:22
  SPEAKER_00: If I don't mean then I'm not getting it, and I'm just gonna be assed out.
• 22:25
  SPEAKER_01: Cause you know I was out of work for fucking six months that time when I got laid off and I was getting unemployment.
• 22:32
  SPEAKER_01: Now they they only gave me 12 weeks.
• 22:35
  SPEAKER_01: That's crazy.
• 22:37
  SPEAKER_01: I did not know that shit.
• 22:39
  SPEAKER_00: What the fuck?
• 22:40
  SPEAKER_00: Tennessee is a trash ass state.
• 22:42
  SPEAKER_00: It really is.
• 22:46
  SPEAKER_00: But yeah.
• 22:49
  SPEAKER_00: What the fuck?
• 22:51
  SPEAKER_00: I've never had control over my life, but I've I've always been able to, okay, go with this trajectory, go with that.
• 22:57
  SPEAKER_00: When I tell you I have no idea, and people are like, oh, are you applying?
• 23:01
  SPEAKER_00: I got denied from two gas stations.
• 23:04
  SPEAKER_00: One of the interviews out of the three that I got was with a fucking gas station.
• 23:08
  SPEAKER_00: But you're unclear qualified, you're gonna leave us anyway.
• 23:10
  SPEAKER_00: It's just not for you to decide.
• 23:12
  SPEAKER_00: I just need to, I show, I just need to make I was willing to put my pride to the side to work at a local gas station around here.
• 23:19
  SPEAKER_00: Just because I'm like, I need to make money.
• 23:21
  SPEAKER_00: Something.
• 23:22
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 23:23
  SPEAKER_00: Girl.
• 23:25
  SPEAKER_00: And to hear the person that got the job over me was a white dude who just grabbed 22 years old.
• 23:29
  SPEAKER_00: You don't have no experience.
• 23:31
  SPEAKER_00: None.
• 23:31
  SPEAKER_00: What the fuck?
• 23:32
  SPEAKER_01: That's the you know, that's the story of my life with CMCSS.
• 23:36
  SPEAKER_01: Girl, okay.
• 23:37
  SPEAKER_01: Story of my fucking life.
• 23:39
  SPEAKER_00: Like the biggest slap in the face.
• 23:41
  SPEAKER_00: It makes you feel so inadequate.
• 23:43
  SPEAKER_00: Even though you know you possess the skill set, it's like, damn, they don't see my value either.
• 23:47
  SPEAKER_00: Like, yeah.
• 23:48
  SPEAKER_00: What the fuck?
• 23:50
  SPEAKER_01: Yep.
• 23:50
  SPEAKER_01: That time when I was in there doing the fucking interview, and I could have sworn, like, the chick that came in there.
• 23:59
  SPEAKER_01: I swear to God, she was in there taking her fucking picture for the position that I was interviewing for.
• 24:05
  SPEAKER_01: Like taking her little headshot picture.
• 24:07
  SPEAKER_01: That's insane.
• 24:08
  SPEAKER_01: Like, I'm I'm like, I know this bitch is probably like, cause they were just moving really weird.
• 24:14
  SPEAKER_01: Like they weren't like talking loud and like they would be talking and then kind of like, I don't know, they were just moving really strange.
• 24:24
  SPEAKER_01: Like she came out from the back and then went to her car and then came back, and she was like, I'm ready, you know, I can take my picture now or whatever.
• 24:33
  SPEAKER_01: It was just, it was weird.
• 24:35
  SPEAKER_01: And I swear she got hired on the spot, and they were like, Okay, you can go ahead and take your picture.
• 24:44
  SPEAKER_00: Because you were still living here, didn't they announce that shit like that?
• 24:47
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that was one, yep, that was another time.
• 24:49
  SPEAKER_01: That was another time.
• 24:53
  SPEAKER_01: Yep, I had left the interview and they fucking like did the announcement of the new APs.
• 24:59
  SPEAKER_01: And I was like, wait, what?
• 25:04
  SPEAKER_01: Like, so that's I was literally, I always felt like I was just a person that they asked for interview to come in to make sure that they had a diversified like group of individuals that they because they could just to say that they uh uh we did interview people exactly.
• 25:26
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, even that one time that I interviewed and it was all white older women, and I remember a couple of them who were like not paying attention to me what I was saying, they were like checking their watch, like just going through the motions, like it is the biggest, I just feel like it's just embarrassing, like the way that you are treated as just like a person that just had to be checked off the box, and like you are doing this very serious, you're like you said, prepping and getting ready and like all of this stuff.
• 26:00
  SPEAKER_00: And since when I and you know what this is, I'm literally in my fucking house, in my work heels, in my suit, or my loafers, because I want to feel like okay, yeah.
• 26:11
  SPEAKER_00: I knew I had it.
• 26:12
  SPEAKER_00: And even with the whole thing, a few weeks ago, I put in for a VA position.
• 26:18
  SPEAKER_00: I got picked just for them to say, Oh, we got out, we selected all of our people, so we're gonna keep you on ice for 90 days.
• 26:26
  SPEAKER_00: Because how they wrote the email, thank you for applying.
• 26:29
  SPEAKER_00: You made it.
• 26:29
  SPEAKER_00: You, and I was just like, fuck yeah, I had a job with the VA just for, but you know, we selected all our people.
• 26:36
  SPEAKER_00: But you know, if any if we change our mind or if anybody quit, we'll choose you in 90 days.
• 26:40
  SPEAKER_00: I think I should be on day maybe it's been 20 days.
• 26:47
  SPEAKER_00: I didn't get every I got selected, so I was like, oh, I can get this any.
• 26:51
  SPEAKER_00: I can get and here's the thing: I know several people who are for the VA who are being forced into mandatory overtime because they've either fired a lot of people or a lot of people have retired.
• 27:03
  SPEAKER_00: So they need people.
• 27:06
  SPEAKER_00: But I didn't hard as hell to get a GS job anyway.
• 27:12
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm just like, and then I applied for a job on there.
• 27:18
  SPEAKER_00: It was like um, for inventory analysts, what I fucking did for three, well, technically four, if you want to count my national experience.
• 27:27
  SPEAKER_00: I was an inventory analyst once for three years for property, a year for tech.
• 27:32
  SPEAKER_00: I can do this shit.
• 27:33
  SPEAKER_00: I've even wrote SLPs and gotten awards at my military contract.
• 27:38
  SPEAKER_00: I wrote a general SLP, standard operating procedure, as a fucking contractor and got an award for it, sis.
• 27:45
  SPEAKER_00: Just for them to tell me, oh, you can't apply for this job.
• 27:48
  SPEAKER_00: This is internal, you have to already be in the GS position.
• 27:54
  SPEAKER_00: I literally worked for one of the I work for one of the big four in Oddity.
• 27:59
  SPEAKER_00: And if you know, you know there's four of the biggest firms.
• 28:04
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just like, this shit is um, but it's all these that's why I said AI has ruined the fucking job market.
• 28:10
  SPEAKER_00: And little social experiment, a job that I've been applying for for months.
• 28:14
  SPEAKER_00: I see that same job pop up every time for like this job is higher.
• 28:19
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, I applied for this job a month ago.
• 28:21
  SPEAKER_00: I applied for that job off my dad's computer and I told him I was white, so it was a different IP address, and I told him I was white.
• 28:28
  SPEAKER_00: They called me for a fucking interview and I blocked them because I'm not fucking white.
• 28:34
  SPEAKER_02: I would have showed up.
• 28:42
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm just like, why people would have showed up so far-fetched for oh well it's a the pe a first of all, AI is that's why they data farm us so much, that's why they surveill us so much to learn our habits.
• 28:55
  SPEAKER_00: You don't think the people making this shit, the bias is not implicated in the technology?
• 29:01
  SPEAKER_00: There was even a documentary about the shit called Cold Bias on Netflix, where that's why when black people or darker people go in bathrooms to use soap dispensers, that's why it don't work for us.
• 29:13
  SPEAKER_00: Because they don't even test our hands for the shit.
• 29:16
  SPEAKER_00: Wow.
• 29:16
  SPEAKER_00: And you know, that was talked about in the and I thought about that shit.
• 29:19
  SPEAKER_00: You know how many times I've had to, that's why I carry my own little bottom of hand soap in my purse.
• 29:24
  SPEAKER_00: And I have a anybody that knows me knows I'm like Madea.
• 29:28
  SPEAKER_00: I got everything in my purse.
• 29:29
  SPEAKER_00: So when I'm out clubbing or when I'm going out to an event, I carry my cute little purse.
• 29:33
  SPEAKER_00: But my everyday bag, I have a bag within the bag.
• 29:35
  SPEAKER_00: I have feminine products, I have a lighter, I got different medicines, I carry wipes, I carry bobby pens and cute, but I also carry a small bottle of hand soap.
• 29:46
  SPEAKER_00: You know how many times I've not been able to get hand soaps out of a dispenser?
• 29:50
  SPEAKER_00: That's crazy.
• 29:51
  SPEAKER_00: Right after a white girl comes in there and put her hand, she can get soap.
• 29:54
  SPEAKER_00: So you're not finna fucking sit up here and tell me these.
• 29:57
  SPEAKER_00: And that's why I was like, why do you want to know what race I am?
• 30:00
  SPEAKER_00: So bad.
• 30:01
  SPEAKER_00: I hate filling that shit out.
• 30:02
  SPEAKER_00: I do it, but I'm just like, because I've also experimented and not filled it out and been told my application wasn't complete because I didn't fill out the voluntary.
• 30:15
  SPEAKER_00: When I tell you my ass would have showed up, that shit would have had them looking fucking crazy.
• 30:22
  SPEAKER_00: But I was just disgusted.
• 30:23
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just like, I don't want to work with y'all's asses.
• 30:25
  SPEAKER_00: No way.
• 30:25
  SPEAKER_00: Y'all probably read bug anyway.
• 30:27
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, because that's terrible.
• 30:29
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 30:30
  unknown: Wow.
• 30:31
  SPEAKER_00: The same job that I've applied for.
• 30:32
  SPEAKER_00: I applied for that job.
• 30:33
  SPEAKER_00: I had to look for, and that's nothing.
• 30:35
  SPEAKER_00: I be keeping when I apply, I keep like all the email receipts from this shit.
• 30:39
  SPEAKER_00: That's how I'm able to keep track.
• 30:42
  SPEAKER_00: I applied for that job back in March and I was still working, but I was like, why is this job still coming up on LinkedIn job boards?
• 30:50
  SPEAKER_00: It was on LinkedIn, came across an under, and I looked on the website for the particular company that job had been listed for damn near a fucking year.
• 30:57
  SPEAKER_00: So y'all really aren't hiring people.
• 30:59
  SPEAKER_00: Y'all are making it look like y'all are.
• 31:01
  SPEAKER_00: Yep.
• 31:03
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, 618 applications the last 18 months.
• 31:07
  SPEAKER_00: Damn.
• 31:09
  SPEAKER_00: Three interviews.
• 31:13
  SPEAKER_00: One of them interviews for the gas set was for a gas station.
• 31:16
  SPEAKER_00: One of those interviews I got, I lied to I was fucking white.
• 31:20
  SPEAKER_00: Everything else I either made it or didn't make it to the second line or was a call back, or just more I would say the number was oh no, I wrote it down.
• 31:31
  SPEAKER_00: My denial is a 92%.
• 31:38
  SPEAKER_00: I've literally sent in applications since five minutes later.
• 31:42
  SPEAKER_00: We're not we're we're not gonna go for it.
• 31:44
  SPEAKER_00: Did you even look?
• 31:46
  SPEAKER_00: You couldn't.
• 31:48
  SPEAKER_00: About 40 applications, as soon as I sent that bitch out within 10 minutes.
• 31:53
  SPEAKER_01: And this is in multiple states, right?
• 31:56
  SPEAKER_01: Multiple states.
• 31:58
  SPEAKER_00: I've been applying in Tennessee, Kentucky, Georgia, North Carolina.
• 32:05
  SPEAKER_00: I've applied for one job in Virginia, I've applied to a lot of jobs in Alabama.
• 32:14
  SPEAKER_00: And I applied to two jobs in Texas.
• 32:17
  SPEAKER_00: But much the bulk the bulk of everything has been Tennessee, because I live here, and I've applied for a lot of jobs in Atlanta, because my best friend was like, you can move with me until you get settled, whatever, cool.
• 32:29
  SPEAKER_00: But I would say 80% of the jobs I've applied for is Nashville, Clarksville, Fort Campbell.
• 32:37
  SPEAKER_00: What the fuck?
• 32:39
  SPEAKER_00: So and another thing I just have regret and I'm just like, I'm not I should have studied something else.
• 32:48
  SPEAKER_00: I followed my heart with a fucking passion and look where that's got me.
• 32:52
  SPEAKER_00: I used to have that too.
• 32:53
  SPEAKER_00: Like, why the fuck did I go to school for education?
• 32:57
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, I'm just and then I hate the fact that my mood is some days I be so optimistic.
• 33:02
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 33:03
  SPEAKER_00: I got fired and it's the best thing to have to me, but then it's like I'm I'm I I don't I don't I I want the money.
• 33:12
  SPEAKER_00: I I I'm I have nothing.
• 33:14
  SPEAKER_00: So it's like my I hate the fact that my mood is so up and down.
• 33:18
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 33:19
  SPEAKER_00: Some weeks I feel great.
• 33:21
  SPEAKER_00: Some well, some days I feel great.
• 33:24
  SPEAKER_00: And then I might have a not so great day.
• 33:27
  SPEAKER_00: But the the entirety of last week I just was in a shitty ass mood.
• 33:36
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 33:37
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm sorry.
• 33:39
  SPEAKER_00: It's okay.
• 33:40
  SPEAKER_00: It is okay.
• 33:42
  SPEAKER_00: I just needed to get that out.
• 33:47
  SPEAKER_00: Well, on to another train wreck.
• 33:50
  SPEAKER_00: Um girl, Krishan and Blueface.
• 33:57
  SPEAKER_01: Bitch, take me out the group.
• 33:59
  SPEAKER_01: I'm dead.
• 34:00
  SPEAKER_00: Everything I've learned about them has been against me.
• 34:03
  SPEAKER_00: I have them both blocked and I still hear about I have them both blocked on TikTok and Instagram and I have their names blocked in Facebook and I still hear about these bitches.
• 34:14
  SPEAKER_00: Still.
• 34:15
  SPEAKER_00: Still, still.
• 34:17
  SPEAKER_01: Um the fucking videos, the goddamn pictures, the because it's not just because it's other fucking like media sites who constantly post them, like the shade room and fucking all of that shit.
• 34:31
  SPEAKER_01: And so we are constantly getting updated.
• 34:34
  SPEAKER_01: Um, or it's bloggers or fucking uh social media, yeah, that's just like constantly telling us shit about them that we or the people that's reenacting shit about them.
• 34:47
  SPEAKER_01: Like it was a couple like online comedians that have reenacted the damn um engagement shit from the club.
• 34:55
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm just like, and if I and I oh, one thing that eats me up, woo, woo, ooh, I'd be ready to pierce my eardrums, like shut your ass up.
• 35:10
  SPEAKER_00: Like, oh my god.
• 35:12
  SPEAKER_00: And I just here's the thing.
• 35:15
  SPEAKER_00: First of all, I'm let me choose my words carefully.
• 35:24
  SPEAKER_00: I think there needs to be a conversation in our community within black people.
• 35:34
  SPEAKER_00: People take a especially I've seen it more so with with men on women.
• 35:40
  SPEAKER_00: Krishan has been fucking off and slow.
• 35:44
  SPEAKER_00: Like, why were you fucking her?
• 35:45
  SPEAKER_00: And you brought you had a kid with this girl.
• 35:48
  SPEAKER_00: Well, allegedly, allegedly, allegedly it's not blue faces, it's Ronnie's.
• 35:53
  SPEAKER_00: And Chris allegedly, Krishan has something to do with Ronnie's death.
• 35:57
  SPEAKER_00: Allegedly.
• 35:58
  SPEAKER_00: So whoever the baby is, but it's just like you was two donuts short of a fucking dozen as it is.
• 36:05
  SPEAKER_00: And you had all this family trauma, all this shit going on with you, and y'all fucking on this girl.
• 36:13
  SPEAKER_00: I I even like when I like you think about people in your family, I can name you about 10 people in my family.
• 36:19
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, they was fucking slow.
• 36:20
  SPEAKER_00: Why were they fucking with anybody?
• 36:22
  SPEAKER_00: And then all their kids be slow.
• 36:25
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm just like or you dealing with somebody who's that's why I saw I it'd be important for me.
• 36:34
  SPEAKER_00: Like, let me this I told Diamond this story.
• 36:38
  SPEAKER_00: I stopped talking to this guy because of one thing, but like his fucking parents are weird.
• 36:43
  SPEAKER_00: And I was just like, I want no parts in that family.
• 36:47
  SPEAKER_00: And you think I'm finna have a child with you?
• 36:49
  SPEAKER_00: Y'all, when I tell y'all his parents were so strange, I was so turned, I was just like, I see where you get it from.
• 36:58
  SPEAKER_00: So it's just like we have this like I just feel like ethically and morally is fucking wrong.
• 37:07
  SPEAKER_00: Um I think and I don't people love giving Krishan grace.
• 37:15
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know what the fuck that's about.
• 37:16
  SPEAKER_00: She's a shit fire fucking mom.
• 37:20
  SPEAKER_00: For Junior to be three, he can't stand, he can't walk.
• 37:26
  SPEAKER_00: I've never seen that.
• 37:28
  SPEAKER_00: So there's an update.
• 37:29
  SPEAKER_01: What's the update that I saw online that he is finally in therapy?
• 37:34
  SPEAKER_01: Is it because there was a video, I doubt it.
• 37:37
  SPEAKER_01: There was a video where um the therapist is there and like helping him.
• 37:43
  SPEAKER_01: Um, that one video where blue was there.
• 37:47
  SPEAKER_00: Was blue there too?
• 37:48
  SPEAKER_00: I think you so the here's the thing about that.
• 37:52
  SPEAKER_00: A lot of people who do therapy with children, like Junior, was saying that she didn't even look like she was doing.
• 37:57
  SPEAKER_00: They think that they paid her as a prop to act like she was a therapist because it was like, what the hell is she doing with that child?
• 38:04
  SPEAKER_00: Because in the therapy session, it's the white lady with the burgundy, the burgundies.
• 38:07
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, allegedly blue was there, and that was the only reason why she went.
• 38:11
  SPEAKER_00: And supposedly, it's like people that are for real deal into I don't know what Junior's diagnosis is.
• 38:17
  SPEAKER_00: That's not my job to diagnose somebody's child.
• 38:19
  SPEAKER_00: But people were saying this ain't real.
• 38:23
  SPEAKER_00: It looks like they probably paid her and set this shit up because of all the heat.
• 38:27
  SPEAKER_00: And then you remember, um CPS came to the house right at so it's just like, Lord help us.
• 38:38
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm sorry.
• 38:40
  SPEAKER_00: She smoked, she drank when she was.
• 38:43
  SPEAKER_00: She is the reason why Junior is the way he is.
• 38:46
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, she did not go to the doctor and confirm with a doctor until she was on that, on that video, until she was almost six months.
• 38:57
  SPEAKER_01: So there was no prenatal, prenatals taken.
• 39:01
  SPEAKER_01: She was still smoking, still drinking.
• 39:04
  SPEAKER_01: And we all know that the prenatal pill is women who begin taking that when they are trying to conceive because it's just so important um to have those vitamins and all of that in your system to develop the baby's brain.
• 39:24
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, that's just like I forgot the uh the major one uh fuck in a prenatal pill.
• 39:32
  SPEAKER_01: I can't think of it right now.
• 39:33
  SPEAKER_01: It's the major, yeah, the folic acid.
• 39:36
  SPEAKER_01: Like that's like the major vitamin to have for a baby's brain development.
• 39:44
  SPEAKER_01: Have to have it.
• 39:45
  SPEAKER_01: Very important.
• 39:47
  SPEAKER_01: And so to not even go to the doctor and confirm until you were close to six months and then had the audacity, like we talked about in the last episode.
• 39:56
  SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna abort it.
• 39:57
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, she asked the fucking doctor, like, uh, is it too late in the fucking the poor fucking ultrasound tech?
• 40:06
  SPEAKER_01: That couldn't have been me.
• 40:08
  SPEAKER_01: Because I would have been like, I probably would have got fired because I would have lost all my professionalism and I would have cussed her the fuck out.
• 40:17
  SPEAKER_01: Like you still I probably would have said, bitch, are you for real?
• 40:21
  SPEAKER_01: You are literally laying here and you see this big ass baby on the screen, and you're gonna say some dumb shit to me.
• 40:27
  SPEAKER_01: Is it too late?
• 40:28
  SPEAKER_01: This is a whole fucking grown ass baby in your stomach, you fucking idiot.
• 40:34
  SPEAKER_01: And I would have got fired.
• 40:36
  SPEAKER_01: Because she then probably would have tried to beat my ass and we would be in there fighting, and then yeah, I would have been fired as an ultrasound test.
• 40:41
  SPEAKER_00: I couldn't have fought that cocaine bear with an IEP.
• 40:44
  SPEAKER_00: I would have had to shoot her down.
• 40:46
  SPEAKER_00: Cause how dare you ask me to swing over another bitch's shoulder and dip ranch on her and choke her from the back?
• 40:52
  SPEAKER_00: She's somebody that you can't fight.
• 40:54
  SPEAKER_00: You have to shoot her down.
• 40:55
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that was that was disgusting.
• 40:57
  SPEAKER_00: That's that video was disgusting.
• 40:59
  SPEAKER_00: Did you see her eating them Dorito nachos with her fingers with sour cream all over her mouth?
• 41:03
  SPEAKER_00: Like, sh I she eats like a fucking babble.
• 41:07
  SPEAKER_00: I I just she disgusts me.
• 41:08
  SPEAKER_00: Then the fact that she got another tattoo of blue face.
• 41:11
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, with with the extra tattoos on his face in the tattoo.
• 41:16
  SPEAKER_01: Bitch, it's just like, I swear, that's why I reposted what I posted on my story where the man was like holding the sign.
• 41:22
  SPEAKER_01: How do I get Blueface, Krishan, and the baby off out of my algorithm off my timeline?
• 41:28
  SPEAKER_01: How do I get them away from me?
• 41:30
  SPEAKER_00: And did you know she called him?
• 41:32
  SPEAKER_00: There was a clip that I seen again, Against My Will, but I watched it because it's like a train wreck.
• 41:38
  SPEAKER_00: You can't turn away from.
• 41:42
  SPEAKER_00: She called this man, she told this man he was like God.
• 41:46
  SPEAKER_00: If he breaks up with her this time, or he kicks her in baby crochet.
• 41:54
  SPEAKER_00: I've personally feel like it's gonna get fatal.
• 41:58
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 41:58
  SPEAKER_00: How she's moving this time, like she is just so obsessed with.
• 42:03
  SPEAKER_00: And I've always said one thing I've never liked about this girl.
• 42:06
  SPEAKER_00: Even before Junior was here, Lord bless his little soul.
• 42:10
  SPEAKER_00: To me, she's never had life behind her eyes.
• 42:13
  SPEAKER_00: She's always gave dead eyes to me.
• 42:16
  SPEAKER_00: And fucking just, she's a vigilante.
• 42:18
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I just her soul and her energy is just dark.
• 42:21
  SPEAKER_00: I don't like how she uses God to justify.
• 42:23
  SPEAKER_00: So now you're not, you know, this man is like God, but you would just, you use God as a prop.
• 42:29
  SPEAKER_00: You use Lil Junior as a prop.
• 42:32
  SPEAKER_00: You've made Junior what he, and all of the people in your life are yes, man, and they need jail time too.
• 42:37
  SPEAKER_00: From the pastor to your fucking family.
• 42:40
  SPEAKER_00: All them whores need jail time.
• 42:43
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but I truly feel like she's gonna try to kill Blueface.
• 42:49
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I believe it.
• 42:51
  SPEAKER_00: Now she's moving like I don't, and I really don't know how to put in words what I feel or why I feel the way I feel, but I don't, it's it's a sinister feeling to have.
• 43:04
  SPEAKER_00: Just and and how blue's moving is weird to me too.
• 43:08
  SPEAKER_00: I feel I'm like, are you trying to set her up?
• 43:12
  SPEAKER_00: I don't, it just doesn't make sense.
• 43:14
  SPEAKER_00: It just makes sense.
• 43:16
  SPEAKER_01: And you know, several years ago when they had that big fallout at his house, you know, she cut herself on the glass or the mirror and uh wrote uh I love you or some shit in her blood on his mirror in the house after they got the fighting and shit.
• 43:32
  SPEAKER_01: And so yeah, I mean, I feel like the next step is gonna be some really, really, you know, God forbid it, but I do feel like it's gonna be some real fucked up shit.
• 43:40
  SPEAKER_01: And hell, the cameras may be rolling when it when it all goes down.
• 43:44
  SPEAKER_01: Cause they, you know, are doing all this streaming shit.
• 43:47
  SPEAKER_00: And they're making all this money on kick.
• 43:49
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 43:50
  SPEAKER_00: Y'all, but see, this is the issue that I have as a black American person.
• 43:55
  SPEAKER_00: And we're part of the blame.
• 43:57
  SPEAKER_00: That's why I fucking hate baddies, and now that's I hate all that shit.
• 44:01
  SPEAKER_00: We platform degeneracy.
• 44:04
  SPEAKER_00: Why is Kick Pan allegedly?
• 44:06
  SPEAKER_00: And you know, I I can't even say that because in some live streams, Blue has shown how much he's that motherfucker made$580,000 in one month doing what he's doing.
• 44:15
  SPEAKER_00: Being a fucking degenerate.
• 44:18
  SPEAKER_00: He's a borderline pimp.
• 44:20
  SPEAKER_00: He disrespects women.
• 44:22
  SPEAKER_00: And you know what?
• 44:23
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I'm not a Jaden Alexis fan.
• 44:25
  SPEAKER_00: That bitch is racist and she's colorist and she hates black women.
• 44:28
  SPEAKER_00: But the one thing I agree with her on when she finds out Christian's in the house, I'm finna go get my fucking cake.
• 44:34
  SPEAKER_00: What the hell was that?
• 44:36
  SPEAKER_00: What is it?
• 44:37
  SPEAKER_00: It was a big flash.
• 44:39
  SPEAKER_00: I saw I'm scared.
• 44:43
  SPEAKER_02: Hold on.
• 44:46
  SPEAKER_02: Is it thundering outside?
• 44:48
  SPEAKER_01: Oh yeah.
• 44:51
  SPEAKER_00: Girl scared.
• 44:52
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, I feel like somebody took a picture.
• 44:56
  SPEAKER_00: But um yeah, I wouldn't let that cocaine bear around my kids either.
• 45:01
  SPEAKER_00: She's nasty.
• 45:02
  SPEAKER_00: Like, you not finna do some low down shit to my kids.
• 45:05
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I just, I just get no.
• 45:06
  SPEAKER_00: I do not like her.
• 45:07
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, I'll give her a great fuck, Krishna.
• 45:10
  SPEAKER_00: That bitch is disgusting.
• 45:12
  SPEAKER_00: She's trifling.
• 45:14
  SPEAKER_00: She has issues.
• 45:16
  SPEAKER_00: And I just think she is a dark souled person.
• 45:18
  SPEAKER_00: I don't think she has a soul, to be quite frank.
• 45:20
  SPEAKER_00: Um and what she did to Junior, like, I just and and shit, it's even rumors that, and I've seen like different videos of Junior.
• 45:29
  SPEAKER_00: You could be right in that baby's face and he won't move.
• 45:32
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, can't he find?
• 45:33
  SPEAKER_00: Can he see?
• 45:34
  SPEAKER_00: Like, yeah.
• 45:35
  SPEAKER_00: It's bad.
• 45:37
  SPEAKER_00: And then supposedly the rumor is, I guess, because you know, she always be on the fucking move, like and I asked my friend who does social work here, and she's she's not lying.
• 45:50
  SPEAKER_00: She said, Now she's like, you know why they haven't taken Junior from her?
• 45:53
  SPEAKER_00: I said, Why?
• 45:54
  SPEAKER_00: She's like, Cause he has a whole bunch of health problems.
• 45:56
  SPEAKER_00: They don't want to spend that money on him.
• 45:57
  SPEAKER_00: So they want him be with her.
• 46:01
  SPEAKER_02: Jesus Christ.
• 46:02
  SPEAKER_00: Cause I did I was like, What?
• 46:03
  SPEAKER_00: She said, when you're in, I guess, the foster care system or like special needs or like whatever, they're not as quick to get those kids to take them to the state.
• 46:14
  SPEAKER_00: Because they don't they know they're gonna have to pay a family a lot more to care for those children.
• 46:20
  SPEAKER_00: They can't speak or talk for themselves and they're going to be expensive.
• 46:23
  SPEAKER_01: I was like, what?
• 46:25
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, all those therapies that they're gonna have to, yep, they're gonna have to pay for.
• 46:30
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, you're kidding.
• 46:32
  SPEAKER_00: That makes sense.
• 46:32
  SPEAKER_00: And I never thought about it.
• 46:34
  SPEAKER_00: She said, think about it.
• 46:35
  SPEAKER_00: She said, you might have kids that might have learning disabilities or you know, that might have some delays.
• 46:42
  SPEAKER_00: But she said, you don't see severely special needs autism kids in the system.
• 46:47
  SPEAKER_00: And I had to think about it.
• 46:48
  SPEAKER_00: Very true.
• 46:49
  SPEAKER_00: That's very true.
• 46:51
  SPEAKER_00: She said, unless they were given up as a baby to the system, you're not gonna find out.
• 46:57
  SPEAKER_00: I said, What?
• 47:01
  SPEAKER_01: I didn't know that.
• 47:02
  SPEAKER_01: That makes sense.
• 47:03
  SPEAKER_01: Or or if they parents, like, yeah, their parents got like locked up or some shit.
• 47:10
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 47:11
  SPEAKER_00: But I'm a damn shame.
• 47:13
  SPEAKER_00: I just I just feel like this situation is gonna end up fatal.
• 47:17
  SPEAKER_00: And again, like you said, the cameras might be rolling, and we have years worth of foot.
• 47:23
  SPEAKER_00: Like, and the fact, and then you know how much of a crazy bitch you gotta be to have the money and you still choose to walk around with one of your front teeth missing.
• 47:31
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, you did that right there in itself is psycho.
• 47:34
  SPEAKER_00: You're insane.
• 47:35
  SPEAKER_00: Yep, you're insane.
• 47:36
  SPEAKER_00: You're legitly fucking psycho.
• 47:44
  SPEAKER_00: Sorrows, sorrows, prayers.
• 47:46
  SPEAKER_00: Um okay, I'm gonna let you talk about this because you could you brought it up.
• 47:54
  SPEAKER_00: The deaths.
• 47:55
  SPEAKER_00: Tell us what's going on.
• 47:58
  SPEAKER_01: Ooh, y'all.
• 47:59
  SPEAKER_01: So um I choose to not watch the news because it is so very, very depressing.
• 48:06
  SPEAKER_01: And, you know, of course, I'll check like CNN and things like that that come across my feed.
• 48:11
  SPEAKER_01: Well, not my feed, but things that come across my phone, and I get like email alerts for like breaking news stories and things like that.
• 48:18
  SPEAKER_01: So I'm not like completely removed from what is going on.
• 48:22
  SPEAKER_01: Um, however, you know, of course, I'm on social media, so there's FB, IG, TikTok, X, all the things.
• 48:33
  SPEAKER_01: And so I would say in the last 48 to 72 hours, there have been about five breaking news stories about um fatalities in the black community that are extremely, I feel like they could have, they could have been prevented.
• 48:58
  SPEAKER_01: They were just downright gruesome.
• 49:05
  SPEAKER_01: Uh-huh.
• 49:06
  SPEAKER_01: Um that have like really, really disturbed me.
• 49:11
  SPEAKER_01: Um, the first one I know a lot of people have seen, and the family has finally, you know, spoken up and said that they want images removed and taken down from social media um related to this death.
• 49:30
  SPEAKER_01: And it is the black man, and I want to get his name correct, so I am going to bring him up on my phone because I reposted something um from his principal because he was a teacher um in Atlanta, Georgia.
• 49:48
  SPEAKER_01: Um, his name is Kareem.
• 49:54
  SPEAKER_01: It is Hassan Jihad Kareem.
• 50:00
  SPEAKER_01: Um and she goes in, his his principal.
• 50:04
  SPEAKER_01: I reposted the the thing on her page, from her page, and she was just talking about how great of a you know teacher he was.
• 50:12
  SPEAKER_01: So he passed away um at Six Flags Over Georgia riding the Goliath roller coaster.
• 50:21
  SPEAKER_01: Um he was ejected from the ride.
• 50:27
  SPEAKER_01: Um over the people who were pregnant.
• 50:31
  SPEAKER_00: Say it again.
• 50:32
  SPEAKER_00: Over the funnel cake standing, like people got blood on them.
• 50:35
  SPEAKER_01: Yes.
• 50:36
  SPEAKER_01: So the way that it happened was his seat, the bar came unlatched.
• 50:43
  SPEAKER_01: Um, he was thrown from his seat towards the front of the ride and landed um on some of the riders in their car section.
• 50:55
  SPEAKER_01: Um, he was then bounced again.
• 50:58
  SPEAKER_01: Um was the eyewitnesses from the cart said he was flung around three times on the cart and then tossed um from the actual ride onto the top of a um haunted house building that was right um near the ride.
• 51:18
  SPEAKER_01: Oh my god, yes.
• 51:20
  SPEAKER_01: So very gruesome, very disturbing.
• 51:23
  SPEAKER_01: He was riding.
• 51:24
  SPEAKER_01: People keep saying it was his son.
• 51:26
  SPEAKER_01: That was not his son.
• 51:27
  SPEAKER_01: He didn't have a uh son.
• 51:30
  SPEAKER_01: That was his niece that was riding with him on the ride, and um his um stepdaughter and wife were waiting for him at the bottom of the ride.
• 51:43
  SPEAKER_01: Um so yeah, very traumatizing, very disturbing.
• 51:49
  SPEAKER_01: Um, of course, authorities are looking into what took place with the ride, the faultiness of the seat, and all of those things.
• 51:56
  SPEAKER_00: And supposedly, they don't have any seat belts on.
• 51:59
  SPEAKER_01: I'm like, wow.
• 52:00
  SPEAKER_01: No, I saw that and I was like, who in the fuck would get on that anyway?
• 52:04
  SPEAKER_01: It's a fucking plastic ass bar, a steel pole, and a plastic thing.
• 52:10
  SPEAKER_00: Oh like like up and around.
• 52:12
  SPEAKER_00: And then, you know, it's been so many people over the years that have worked at Six Flags over Atlanta and have said the horror stories of how unsafe that park is.
• 52:21
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just, but see, I'm not, I've never been a roller coaster girl.
• 52:24
  SPEAKER_00: I I saw something about me neither.
• 52:27
  SPEAKER_00: That neither would never have been where you go all the way to the top and you flung down ever since like people have like got ejected, or like I was in Germany, living in Germany.
• 52:38
  SPEAKER_00: Suppose it was a free incident accident, and then the music park of Germany, and the entirety of everybody in the red ride lost their legs because it came down too far.
• 52:47
  SPEAKER_00: I remember that.
• 52:48
  SPEAKER_00: I was like seven or eight at the time.
• 52:51
  SPEAKER_00: I've never gotten on the free fall.
• 52:53
  SPEAKER_01: What the fuck?
• 52:54
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I just don't do it.
• 52:56
  SPEAKER_01: I don't do, I just don't do the rides no more.
• 52:58
  SPEAKER_01: I know there was a circulating video too of a um not a carousel.
• 53:03
  SPEAKER_01: It was the uh what you call?
• 53:05
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, the Ferris wheel, where the people, all the people had to like run and grab the bottom portion to hold it because it was like tilting over as it was going around.
• 53:15
  SPEAKER_01: And that was at a fucking amusement park.
• 53:18
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, not amusement park at a carnival.
• 53:20
  SPEAKER_01: And so I'm just not getting on.
• 53:22
  SPEAKER_00: How do these carnival rides be ran by damn teenagers?
• 53:24
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm just like, but my mom, you know, my mom's never been a rider, and she told me the story when I was a kid, and I never got I've gotten on it once, and then I didn't like the feeling it gave me.
• 53:35
  SPEAKER_00: You know, the ride where the boat swings.
• 53:38
  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
• 53:39
  SPEAKER_01: That used to be the one that I would get on.
• 53:41
  SPEAKER_01: Huh?
• 53:42
  SPEAKER_01: That used to be one of the rides I would get on back in the day that I will only get on.
• 53:46
  SPEAKER_00: My mom got stuck on that step.
• 53:48
  SPEAKER_00: She's 14 and it went all, it was almost Oh no.
• 53:52
  SPEAKER_00: So she said she was stuck up there for like six hours and they had to climb down.
• 53:57
  SPEAKER_00: And my mom has a road to wire a road to ride since.
• 54:00
  SPEAKER_00: And my mom's like closer to 16.
• 54:05
  SPEAKER_00: I said, excuse me.
• 54:06
  SPEAKER_00: Now I love a bumper car.
• 54:08
  SPEAKER_00: I like the ride that like you go, it's the rock and roll where they play the music, you go fast one way and then go back.
• 54:13
  SPEAKER_00: I like that one.
• 54:14
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I did mostly I go to carnivals and festivals for the food.
• 54:19
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 54:21
  SPEAKER_00: But I've the older I used to love, I I will, last time I got on the ferry school, I had a good time.
• 54:29
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I'll get on the carousel with like my, you know, if I'm with the kids who like my nephew, my godchildren, like my friend's kids, if I have to carousel them, I will.
• 54:38
  SPEAKER_00: But like, it's just every year you hear about that, and I feel like that shit just became so prominent within the last five years.
• 54:46
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like people aren't dying on a recent park rides like that.
• 54:49
  SPEAKER_01: No, like this is fucking crazy.
• 54:51
  SPEAKER_01: And so I think another thing that is most alarming about this is that this man beat lung cancer.
• 54:58
  SPEAKER_01: Man, I saw that he also recently was in like a horrible car crash and made it out.
• 55:07
  SPEAKER_01: And so I don't know, it just feels very like, ugh, like it is just very troubling.
• 55:16
  SPEAKER_01: And so I think this the next thing that really is like disturbing is that the photographs that are being passed around on the internet, not just of him, yeah, not just of him laying on top of the building with the tarp over him, not even that.
• 55:32
  SPEAKER_01: It's the ones where you know the rides take the images of you on the ride.
• 55:38
  SPEAKER_01: And so there are shots of him upside down when he was like flung back into the car.
• 55:46
  SPEAKER_01: And so that are making their way around the internet.
• 55:48
  SPEAKER_01: And the amount of reposts that are just like all over my news feed is fucking crazy.
• 55:53
  SPEAKER_01: And like I've been like, um, like uh, what is it when you flag them for them to read, yeah, report in them?
• 56:02
  SPEAKER_01: Um, because yeah, the family made a statement saying, like, please stop.
• 56:05
  SPEAKER_01: Like, this is fucking horrible.
• 56:07
  SPEAKER_01: Like, please stop doing this.
• 56:09
  SPEAKER_00: Even young lady that got killed from now that's TV, like, yeah, I didn't see the man's, but I was scrolling and I on Facebook, I seen her bleeding out from and half her head gone.
• 56:22
  SPEAKER_00: And it scared me so, but I couldn't sleep that night.
• 56:25
  SPEAKER_01: Like, see, I didn't see that one.
• 56:28
  SPEAKER_01: I just saw the video of Yeah, I just saw the video of it happening that was like somebody was in a car who was recording, so it's kind of far away.
• 56:36
  SPEAKER_01: But that, I mean, it's just like, what the fuck, man?
• 56:39
  SPEAKER_00: Like, y'all won't and again, I know the one that happened to flags is a different incident, but it's just like the fact that we have gotten so desensitized, desensitized as a society, you think to pull out your fucking camera.
• 56:53
  SPEAKER_00: Because even with those girls, said and then majority of the men that were recording that were around them were fucking men.
• 56:59
  SPEAKER_00: Y'all didn't didn't think to de-escalate the situation, but y'all took out y'all and record when it's record, literally taking her last breath.
• 57:08
  SPEAKER_00: Yep.
• 57:09
  SPEAKER_00: And I wanna I wanna talk to the young crowd, younger crowd.
• 57:13
  SPEAKER_00: Listen, life is not baddies, bro.
• 57:18
  SPEAKER_00: That shit is getting a lot of y'all killed and fucked up in the real world, even with Ayla, young lady who got her ass beat over the trash can because you and your sister and your family was trying to bully and be fucking tough, and you got showed up on.
• 57:31
  SPEAKER_00: So the like this is why I hate like I blame, because now Natalie None done quit.
• 57:38
  SPEAKER_00: It's a lot of shit going on behind the scenes and that shit too.
• 57:41
  SPEAKER_00: But I blame her.
• 57:43
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I blame because literally people don't understand.
• 57:46
  SPEAKER_00: Well, y'all don't watch the original.
• 57:47
  SPEAKER_00: The original point of the original Bath Girls Club was reform.
• 57:51
  SPEAKER_00: They had therapists on that show.
• 57:52
  SPEAKER_00: They had challenges, they used to get kicked off for fighting.
• 57:57
  SPEAKER_00: You could like there, there's no purpose of baddies.
• 58:01
  SPEAKER_00: Y'all don't even like even with I don't even watch the show, I watch the clips.
• 58:05
  SPEAKER_00: Rolly even said, hey, we don't even get to the bag no more.
• 58:07
  SPEAKER_00: All y'all, then y'all just trying to fight the person.
• 58:10
  SPEAKER_00: Then one of the girls at the back at uh baddies audition, you done shot and killed a fucking security guard.
• 58:15
  SPEAKER_00: You left his kids without a father.
• 58:18
  SPEAKER_00: Because you bitches think life is just a show.
• 58:20
  SPEAKER_00: All baddies, but that shit is gonna get y'all killed or locked up for a long time.
• 58:24
  SPEAKER_00: It's not fucking cute.
• 58:26
  SPEAKER_00: And it again, it just promotes black degeneracy that, you know, no other, not that I'm comparing, because I don't give a fuck about the other race one, but it's just like, why do we as black people have to show our worst?
• 58:38
  SPEAKER_00: I hate it like baddies, the not as TVs, the blue phrase Christian, the the um, I hate pop the bloom for the most like I just feel like it just shows black degeneracy.
• 58:50
  SPEAKER_00: It does.
• 58:50
  SPEAKER_00: Even like with this last clip I saw on um Pop the Bloom, instead of the man just saying, like, yeah, I pop the balloon on her because, you know, me and her, we don't believe the same religion, or you know, she's not my preferences.
• 59:04
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I can tell she got weaving it.
• 59:05
  SPEAKER_00: Nigga, first of all, you look like a damn spud potato.
• 59:09
  SPEAKER_00: What the fuck are you talking about?
• 59:11
  SPEAKER_00: Everything is just content for y'all.
• 59:13
  SPEAKER_00: Even this whole thing with the streamers, like for years, because I'm 32, streaming is not for me.
• 59:19
  SPEAKER_00: I thought these young boys were playing video games and talking about it.
• 59:23
  SPEAKER_00: Y'all, all this borderline, gay, inappropriate, sexual shit that y'all are doing, all this shit with Reggie, Rakai, Kai Sanat, Ty Lilil, um, all this shit that I've been seeing, because if y'all want to watch a good breakdown of it, Lovely T has been doing an amazing job, but just all the clips.
• 59:40
  SPEAKER_00: I am in utter shock.
• 59:41
  SPEAKER_00: I never watched any of these young men.
• 59:44
  SPEAKER_00: Because again, I wasn't the target audience, but it's just like a lot of the youth watch streaming all day and the inappropriateness.
• 59:50
  SPEAKER_00: Y'all are, because Rakai is seven at the time, a lot of them clips, he's 15, 16, 17 years old.
• 59:56
  SPEAKER_00: He's still 17, but it's just like y'all humping him, making sexual subjective comments and Ray J, bitch.
• 1:00:03
  SPEAKER_00: You need to be in federal fucking prison.
• 1:00:05
  SPEAKER_00: You need to be buried somewhere because you're always at the scene of the crime and fuck shit.
• 1:00:08
  SPEAKER_00: It alludes to different little boys getting raped on this show.
• 1:00:11
  SPEAKER_00: It's so much bullshit, allegedly, allegedly, allegedly, but it's like the clips are there.
• 1:00:16
  SPEAKER_00: So it's just like, we're exposing our kids to.
• 1:00:19
  SPEAKER_00: If my nephew, like if my nephew was on, he wouldn't fucking watch no Kai Cynette or he wouldn't watch none of them little niggas.
• 1:00:26
  SPEAKER_00: None of them.
• 1:00:27
  SPEAKER_00: Because it's degeneracy.
• 1:00:29
  SPEAKER_00: All of it's fucking degeneracy.
• 1:00:33
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 1:00:34
  SPEAKER_01: It's just uh, I'm just and I think too, since I'm like on fall break and I'm home, I think that's another reason why I'm so consumed because I'm not at work.
• 1:00:46
  SPEAKER_01: Like I've I'm not on the internet normally throughout my day because I'm in and out of meetings, I'm in and out of classrooms, I'm working on paperwork at my desk.
• 1:00:58
  SPEAKER_01: So a lot of times I'm not, I don't sit, you know, and just be scrolling and shit.
• 1:01:03
  SPEAKER_01: And I'm just like, what the fuck is going on between these senseless murders, the just dumb fucking streaming bullshit?
• 1:01:14
  SPEAKER_01: Just like, it is this is like whoa.
• 1:01:17
  SPEAKER_01: So for I guess peeling back the layers for individuals who are home a lot, or kids and teenagers who are succumbed by social media, like you need some, but I feel like that's why I say another, I need to go talk to my therapist after this week on fall break because I mean it is just, it's too much.
• 1:01:44
  SPEAKER_01: It's too much.
• 1:01:45
  SPEAKER_01: It's too fucking much.
• 1:01:49
  SPEAKER_00: Like, you know, I just one of the highlights, and I guess we can flip this.
• 1:01:55
  SPEAKER_00: The highlight of social media for me has been Luce Cannon, the man that's acting like Michael Jackson.
• 1:02:00
  SPEAKER_00: I be in my bed on my side in stitches.
• 1:02:05
  SPEAKER_00: You know, people like, oh, it's so stupid.
• 1:02:07
  SPEAKER_00: It's just funny because again, ain't shit funny right now.
• 1:02:10
  SPEAKER_00: Outside of, you know, the stream of shit, all these sisters deaths.
• 1:02:16
  SPEAKER_00: We literally have an administration that's trying to actively do everything they can to not let us vote for the midterm.
• 1:02:22
  SPEAKER_00: You got this old decrepit ass bitch, Marcia Blackburn.
• 1:02:26
  SPEAKER_00: You don't want to debate nobody, but you can make AI videos of yourself dancing to Dave Not They're Not Like Us by Kendra.
• 1:02:33
  SPEAKER_00: What the fuck was that?
• 1:02:35
  SPEAKER_00: I was so disgusting.
• 1:02:36
  SPEAKER_00: And then you're the your old fucking bitch ass.
• 1:02:39
  SPEAKER_00: You sat there and tried to protest this man's Super Bowl show.
• 1:02:43
  SPEAKER_00: And then it's just like, again, y'all bite out black American culture to get y'all point across, and it falls so fucking flat and disrespectful.
• 1:02:50
  SPEAKER_00: Bitch, you're the day we're not talking about.
• 1:02:52
  SPEAKER_00: You old bitch.
• 1:02:54
  SPEAKER_00: How about you go pass out some fortune cookies at your fucking debate, but you're not gonna do that.
• 1:02:59
  SPEAKER_00: You're disgusting.
• 1:03:01
  SPEAKER_00: And I don't, and then it's just like, you know, living in Clarksville, Trump was just Oh my god.
• 1:03:08
  SPEAKER_00: I blocked three people.
• 1:03:09
  SPEAKER_00: One of the girls that I blocked, I used to work with her.
• 1:03:13
  SPEAKER_00: Super cool, like Mexican, and you said on occasions that your husband was undocumented, and y'all was at a fucking Trump rally.
• 1:03:21
  SPEAKER_00: My dad just got called a dumb nigga by a group of little Mexican teenagers.
• 1:03:25
  SPEAKER_00: We were at a venue.
• 1:03:26
  SPEAKER_00: We was at one side of the venue, then we're on the other side of the party.
• 1:03:29
  SPEAKER_00: My uncle and my dad were putting stuff away in the car, and one of the little kids ran up and he got dared to call my dad and some dumb niggas.
• 1:03:36
  SPEAKER_00: And my dad almost blew his fucking brains out.
• 1:03:38
  SPEAKER_00: He said the only thing that had me have some restraints for y'all is I can tell y'all the dumb ass kids.
• 1:03:44
  SPEAKER_00: It's just too much going on.
• 1:03:47
  SPEAKER_00: What?
• 1:03:49
  SPEAKER_00: That yeah.
• 1:03:54
  SPEAKER_00: So it's just like not that not that I want to encourage people to find escapes, but it's just like you gotta in this day and age, and then it's like everything is so expensive.
• 1:04:05
  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
• 1:04:06
  SPEAKER_00: Like, girl, they're not I went to McDonald's.
• 1:04:11
  SPEAKER_00: I spent and I was like in my butt see, I I was like, okay, it's Saturday, I don't feel like cooking, my parents are gone.
• 1:04:19
  SPEAKER_00: Like, you know, I'm just like, I'll just get a little burger and a little fry.
• 1:04:23
  SPEAKER_00: I spent$7.89 on a medium fry and a double cheeseburger.
• 1:04:29
  SPEAKER_00: No drink, no dessert.
• 1:04:31
  SPEAKER_00: What happened to the value menus?
• 1:04:33
  SPEAKER_00: Mm-mm.
• 1:04:34
  SPEAKER_00: They don't exist.
• 1:04:35
  SPEAKER_01: Ain't no value me.
• 1:04:36
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, I should have added five more dollars and went to Chipotle.
• 1:04:41
  SPEAKER_00: Or wouldn't have got an actual, I'm just like, everything is so I was like, and that's a that's the other thing I wrestled with.
• 1:04:47
  SPEAKER_00: This is some shit.
• 1:04:48
  SPEAKER_00: I know I couldn't afford a kid right now.
• 1:04:50
  SPEAKER_00: Like, you got it's some people paying more in daycare than there are their rent and their mortgage.
• 1:04:55
  SPEAKER_00: And I think that's girl.
• 1:04:56
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm just like, y'all, but then the other part of that problem is people are paying this much for for daycare, but all of these daycare workers aren't making money.
• 1:05:06
  SPEAKER_00: And not to mention, as the days go by, we're losing more daycare workers and we're losing teachers.
• 1:05:12
  SPEAKER_00: Because the more money and the money.
• 1:05:15
  SPEAKER_01: We went to go see, yeah, we went to go see, we went to go tour two daycares out here because I did want KJ to get around some kids because we obviously don't need daycare because mom and TC are home and holding it down.
• 1:05:29
  SPEAKER_01: But I wanted him to be around kids who are not neurodivergent like typical children, because his sister, of course, has autism.
• 1:05:37
  SPEAKER_01: She can't speak to him or whatever.
• 1:05:39
  SPEAKER_01: And then he's always with his grandparents or us.
• 1:05:42
  SPEAKER_01: And so I wanted him to get around other kids.
• 1:05:46
  SPEAKER_01: The first place, Kinder Care, you know, Kinder Care is a big name or whatever.
• 1:05:51
  SPEAKER_01: Beautiful facility out here, the one closest to our house, beautiful facility.
• 1:05:57
  SPEAKER_01: He had a great tour of the place.
• 1:06:00
  SPEAKER_01: Girl,$320 a week.
• 1:06:03
  SPEAKER_01: That's cheap.
• 1:06:05
  SPEAKER_00: That's cheap.
• 1:06:08
  SPEAKER_00: I almost painted.
• 1:06:10
  SPEAKER_00: My friend pays$2,000 a month for her three, and one of her kids are only aftercare.
• 1:06:21
  SPEAKER_01: Went to a place today.
• 1:06:23
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, they were cheaper,$265, but the facility was awful.
• 1:06:30
  SPEAKER_01: The facility looked like shit.
• 1:06:32
  SPEAKER_01: The damn people, you know, in the room where I felt unprofessional because we walked in and the lady that gave us a tour, yeah, she was nice, and the center director was nice.
• 1:06:44
  SPEAKER_01: But when we went into the actual pre-K classroom, girl, the main teacher never spoke.
• 1:06:49
  SPEAKER_01: Oh no.
• 1:06:50
  SPEAKER_00: She never said, like, hey, how are y'all doing?
• 1:06:53
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome in.
• 1:06:54
  SPEAKER_00: If you brought anything to me as a parent, that means you wouldn't speak my child if you don't like my child.
• 1:06:58
  SPEAKER_00: Girl by gonna.
• 1:07:00
  SPEAKER_00: That's crazy.
• 1:07:01
  SPEAKER_01: So she walking around there with her blonde wig on.
• 1:07:05
  SPEAKER_01: Lace front wig.
• 1:07:07
  SPEAKER_01: Talk to blonde lacy.
• 1:07:09
  SPEAKER_01: Crusty looking ass, fucking look her hoodie and shit on.
• 1:07:12
  SPEAKER_01: So no type of like um smock or fucking scrubs, none of that.
• 1:07:21
  SPEAKER_01: She walk around there sliding around like she goddamn at the house.
• 1:07:25
  SPEAKER_01: No, hey, how you doing?
• 1:07:27
  SPEAKER_01: Just nothing.
• 1:07:28
  SPEAKER_01: Face balled up, like she ain't want to be there.
• 1:07:34
  SPEAKER_01: So that's a no.
• 1:07:36
  SPEAKER_01: So yeah, I'm just like, I'm just like, you know, he'll be, he'll be at the house until pre-K, until I could get him into like a pre-K3 elementary school.
• 1:07:47
  SPEAKER_00: Uh-huh.
• 1:07:49
  SPEAKER_00: But again, I don't blame you have, and then think, but again, you have the option to have him home.
• 1:07:54
  SPEAKER_00: Think about how many people don't have.
• 1:07:57
  SPEAKER_00: That's and that's that's what crossed my mind.
• 1:08:00
  SPEAKER_00: And you like, bitch, you're paying for all this?
• 1:08:03
  SPEAKER_00: Plus living?
• 1:08:04
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, don't.
• 1:08:06
  SPEAKER_00: Uh-uh.
• 1:08:07
  SPEAKER_01: Hell.
• 1:08:07
  SPEAKER_01: That immediately crossed my mind.
• 1:08:09
  SPEAKER_01: I was like, how are parents who have to have this service, how are they making it?
• 1:08:15
  SPEAKER_01: Like, how are they doing this?
• 1:08:17
  SPEAKER_01: Because when Joy, before mom and TC moved out here, Joy was going to a daycare, but of course she's 10 years old.
• 1:08:23
  SPEAKER_01: So we're talking about like eight years ago when she was at daycare, that shit was 150 a week.
• 1:08:30
  SPEAKER_01: And so to know that that shit is fucking$300 a week.
• 1:08:42
  SPEAKER_01: A week is not bi-weekly, a fucking week.
• 1:08:45
  SPEAKER_01: I could not, I could not believe it.
• 1:08:53
  SPEAKER_00: And then it's just you know, people finding that dilemma, okay.
• 1:08:58
  SPEAKER_00: I need to work, but it's just like if I work to pay daycare, I'm gonna have so I might as well just but see, that's why it's just like uh-uh, like I I'm gonna just leave that alone because uh if I say that I might piss somebody off, but my biggest thing, oh fuck it, I'ma say it.
• 1:09:17
  SPEAKER_00: You struggling with one or two, and you don't have a partner.
• 1:09:21
  SPEAKER_00: Why the fuck are am I seeing for whatever reason?
• 1:09:24
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know why it's coming across my timeline.
• 1:09:26
  SPEAKER_00: Because I don't like kids and I really don't watch mommy content.
• 1:09:29
  SPEAKER_00: That's not my theft, it's not me.
• 1:09:31
  SPEAKER_00: If I had a child, I would have it's so many fucking weirdos, and you got states like fucking Arkansas and Alabama and the next thing that's gonna legalize AI child porn.
• 1:09:39
  SPEAKER_00: I don't even post pictures of my nephew.
• 1:09:41
  SPEAKER_00: Every once in a while, but I stopped doing that.
• 1:09:43
  SPEAKER_00: I don't, I don't post people like if if I had joy and canted with me, I would, I would take a picture and have it in my phone, but it would never see the light of that.
• 1:09:50
  SPEAKER_00: It would never get posted.
• 1:09:51
  SPEAKER_00: Because people are fucking weird, right?
• 1:09:54
  SPEAKER_00: Because even on my Snapchat, somebody that I didn't know and I didn't know I put it on Snap Public, two people screenshoting my Snapchat picture, and it was just a cute picture of me.
• 1:10:03
  SPEAKER_00: Didn't know these fucking people that were not my followers.
• 1:10:06
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm just like, people are fucking strange, right?
• 1:10:08
  SPEAKER_02: What the fuck?
• 1:10:09
  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
• 1:10:10
  SPEAKER_00: So and I couldn't see who it was because they weren't my followers.
• 1:10:14
  SPEAKER_00: So I it's this girl, she's 25 years old with seven kids.
• 1:10:22
  SPEAKER_00: Seven kids.
• 1:10:24
  SPEAKER_00: I think it was to remember that, but it don't matter.
• 1:10:26
  SPEAKER_00: I don't give a damn damn how to say daddy.
• 1:10:29
  SPEAKER_00: You have nothing.
• 1:10:34
  SPEAKER_00: You're struggling, you barely and be and and the thing that kills me, you be on fucking live begging, e-begging all day.
• 1:10:45
  SPEAKER_00: Why did you choose?
• 1:10:49
  SPEAKER_00: This it's a it's a girl named Mama Beanie.
• 1:10:52
  SPEAKER_00: She's famous, she got six kids and like 23, 24.
• 1:10:55
  SPEAKER_00: 23, 24, bitch.
• 1:10:57
  SPEAKER_00: I what?
• 1:10:58
  SPEAKER_00: I was at the motherfucking club.
• 1:11:02
  SPEAKER_00: I was I couldn't imagine having that many kids.
• 1:11:06
  SPEAKER_01: Hell no.
• 1:11:07
  SPEAKER_01: I'm fucking 35, married, and hell no, I don't want fucking six, seven kids.
• 1:11:13
  SPEAKER_01: And I'm I'm in an established career and married, and I don't want I don't want another kid right now.
• 1:11:20
  SPEAKER_01: Shit, you and your kids.
• 1:11:21
  SPEAKER_01: I don't even want another kid.
• 1:11:24
  SPEAKER_00: I said I was like, and then this it's even though it was a white girl, she had a black husband, they live in a one bedroom hotel, and she be cooking her and the husband's steak every night.
• 1:11:40
  SPEAKER_00: He got a PS2, but the mother, the bastard won't work.
• 1:11:43
  SPEAKER_00: And you got all your kids living in one fucking room.
• 1:11:49
  SPEAKER_00: I'm I I just need black people or people with black partners to just we gotta cut that shit out.
• 1:11:56
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 1:11:56
  SPEAKER_00: Like it's it's not, and then it's just like, you know, y'all be on fools, say that Trump is talking about cutting all that shit.
• 1:12:04
  SPEAKER_00: He's cut back on a lot of it, to be honest.
• 1:12:06
  SPEAKER_00: But it's just like I even me, and I live at home, but like I told you, I'm not working, so I wouldn't dare, because I'm not putting my parents and did their job.
• 1:12:16
  SPEAKER_00: Hell, they doing more for me now.
• 1:12:17
  SPEAKER_00: So it's just like I wouldn't dare put a child on them.
• 1:12:20
  SPEAKER_00: Fuck no.
• 1:12:21
  SPEAKER_00: When I saw Can of Formula$65, I was held.
• 1:12:25
  SPEAKER_01: Girl, yes, I saw that.
• 1:12:27
  SPEAKER_01: Yep.
• 1:12:28
  SPEAKER_01: Even since KJ is only two, and even since from what two, three years ago, that shit has like doubled in price.
• 1:12:36
  SPEAKER_00: That was another thing I told Caron, like, and you know, my brother just having like little Nakai.
• 1:12:42
  SPEAKER_00: I think, yeah, Nikai's potty trained.
• 1:12:44
  SPEAKER_00: I think Jay just kind of put him on a pull-up every now and again, but teach me your ways, because KJ don't want to use the bot the potty.
• 1:12:51
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I need to talk to him.
• 1:12:53
  SPEAKER_01: I need to talk to him.
• 1:12:54
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, talk to Jay.
• 1:12:55
  SPEAKER_00: Nikai's like fully potty trained.
• 1:12:56
  SPEAKER_00: I think he puts at night.
• 1:12:59
  SPEAKER_00: Um I said, oh bitch.
• 1:13:05
  SPEAKER_00: I said, oh no.
• 1:13:08
  SPEAKER_00: Uh-uh.
• 1:13:09
  SPEAKER_00: It's it's too expensive.
• 1:13:11
  SPEAKER_00: I I just oh and and y'all wonder, like, oh, women are not having babies.
• 1:13:18
  SPEAKER_00: Who can afford it?
• 1:13:20
  SPEAKER_00: And you know, I hate when people say, oh, you know, well, if you don't spend money or don't get coffee or you don't buy avocado.
• 1:13:28
  SPEAKER_00: It's fucking hard.
• 1:13:29
  SPEAKER_00: And I it's so many different recession indicators.
• 1:13:33
  SPEAKER_00: If you just look up TikTok and look up recession indicators, you'll see them.
• 1:13:36
  SPEAKER_00: I have one for myself.
• 1:13:38
  SPEAKER_00: I was at the gas station last week.
• 1:13:40
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna have to get gas tomorrow or whenever I go up next to leave the house.
• 1:13:45
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm gonna probably just put$10,$20 in my tank.
• 1:13:47
  SPEAKER_00: But I was at the gas pump, sis, I swear, somebody put$2.13 in a pump.
• 1:13:57
  SPEAKER_00: I said, oh, it's bad.
• 1:13:59
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I have a homegirl of mine who's um she's worked herself up in a certain department store and she's a supervisor now.
• 1:14:07
  SPEAKER_00: But when she first started, she was kind of over, you know, people who have like merchandise control, like in Rostin, not stealing.
• 1:14:14
  SPEAKER_00: She's like in a big department store, but she was just telling me how like now people are not stealing.
• 1:14:18
  SPEAKER_00: They're like trying to clothes and shoes, the people still in deodorant, brand, toothpaste.
• 1:14:24
  SPEAKER_00: So in a lot of like stores, like your Walmart, your Kroger's your people are locking up, like Dollar General, you can't even buy$3 soft soap body wash without it being locked up behind the counter or locked up, and you have to give somebody come and get it for you.
• 1:14:38
  SPEAKER_00: You know, another recession indicator, like people are kind of just shopping for the week.
• 1:14:43
  SPEAKER_00: Like, all right, I got$52.
• 1:14:45
  SPEAKER_00: How can I make this stretch?
• 1:14:46
  SPEAKER_00: Because just the set, like, even with me, I went to Walmart a little while ago.
• 1:14:52
  SPEAKER_00: I had to get like mouthwash, I had to get some more toothpaste.
• 1:14:58
  SPEAKER_00: I got a few food items for the house.
• 1:15:02
  SPEAKER_00: And I think I had to purchase me um a pack of t-shirts.
• 1:15:06
  SPEAKER_00: Just knit knack patty wax and I needed.
• 1:15:09
  SPEAKER_00: It wasn't, I didn't buy any cosmetics, I didn't buy any skincare, I didn't buy a movie or a CD, I didn't even buy junk food.
• 1:15:17
  SPEAKER_00: It was all stuff on a list that I had, necessities that I needed.
• 1:15:21
  SPEAKER_00: I think I picked up eight items and I spent$82.
• 1:15:24
  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, what the fuck did I buy?
• 1:15:26
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 1:15:29
  SPEAKER_00: Pack of Q-tips.
• 1:15:30
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I was just like, I didn't even deviate from my own.
• 1:15:34
  SPEAKER_00: And you remember back in the day at Walmart, you spent$82.
• 1:15:38
  SPEAKER_00: You're coming out with four or five bags of shit.
• 1:15:40
  SPEAKER_00: Like, it's bad.
• 1:15:43
  SPEAKER_00: It's it's really bad.
• 1:15:45
  SPEAKER_00: I it is bad.
• 1:15:48
  SPEAKER_00: You know, like me and Diamond, we talked, we talk about it all the time, but we're both our own nail techs now because we can't afford to get our nails done.
• 1:15:58
  SPEAKER_00: You know, back it's it that's gotten expensive.
• 1:16:01
  SPEAKER_00: Um, my mom, thank God she knows how to do something.
• 1:16:04
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna get my hair redone in the next few weeks, but thank God she knows how to do something because I'm not working, so I can't afford to even get my hair done.
• 1:16:12
  SPEAKER_00: I go, I can't even afford to get my eyebrows done like I used to.
• 1:16:15
  SPEAKER_00: I go to a cheaper lady now, but I use I can't do my everything is so expensive.
• 1:16:21
  SPEAKER_00: Like maintenance is so high as a woman.
• 1:16:24
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I girl, I can't wait to.
• 1:16:27
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I'm pushing, like I'm pushing it as far as I can go, like as far as I can go with my hair.
• 1:16:33
  SPEAKER_01: So like I get styles that I know I can get two styles out of one.
• 1:16:37
  SPEAKER_01: So like when I get my knots, I know that's gonna be in for like a month and some change.
• 1:16:43
  SPEAKER_01: And when I take it out, that that's curls.
• 1:16:45
  SPEAKER_01: So there you go.
• 1:16:46
  SPEAKER_01: Now I'm wearing a curly situation with my locks.
• 1:16:50
  SPEAKER_01: Like right now, I have a bob, two-strand twists.
• 1:16:53
  SPEAKER_01: When this gets old and I can't gel my shit down no more and make it look good and tied up, that comes down, and now the two-strand twists and everything is curly, so that's more curls.
• 1:17:03
  SPEAKER_01: We'll do that, and so I'm going like at least three months until time for another style.
• 1:17:09
  SPEAKER_01: And then thank God, but like I had to learn, like, I had to learn how to do, you know, locks.
• 1:17:16
  SPEAKER_01: And so I do Joy's hair.
• 1:17:18
  SPEAKER_01: I do Joy's hair myself.
• 1:17:20
  SPEAKER_01: Um, so she gets a wash, a retwist, and style.
• 1:17:24
  SPEAKER_01: And I'm not the best at styles, but she's 10 and she don't give a fuck.
• 1:17:29
  SPEAKER_01: Long as it looks neat and it lasts, we're good to go.
• 1:17:32
  SPEAKER_01: And then KJ, like KJ was getting his hair braided, but his braiders were charging him$50 and$55.
• 1:17:40
  SPEAKER_01: And he's like, every time he messed, he's a two-year-old.
• 1:17:44
  SPEAKER_00: Here's the thing, though.
• 1:17:44
  SPEAKER_00: You remember back done with that shit.
• 1:17:46
  SPEAKER_00: You remember back in the day, like my mom, I've been getting my hair professionally done.
• 1:17:50
  SPEAKER_00: My mom stopped doing my hair when I was in ninth grade.
• 1:17:53
  SPEAKER_00: So every two weeks I was in the shop for four for$50.
• 1:17:57
  SPEAKER_00: And that was included with the tip.
• 1:17:58
  SPEAKER_00: I was getting a wash, condition, and a silk press.
• 1:18:02
  SPEAKER_00: And you mean to tell me they're charging you$55 to and probably be expecting a tip too to break two-year-old's fucking head?
• 1:18:10
  SPEAKER_01: Yep.
• 1:18:10
  SPEAKER_01: So I stopped that.
• 1:18:12
  SPEAKER_01: That's yeah, and you're only pregnant.
• 1:18:15
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, because you because you only put in fucking four, maybe five cornrows in his hair.
• 1:18:20
  SPEAKER_01: And so, like, what the fuck am I paying$50-55 for every time?
• 1:18:25
  SPEAKER_01: And then KJ, KJ don't like to tie his hair up, and so them braids wouldn't last.
• 1:18:30
  SPEAKER_01: And so, yeah, I made the decision.
• 1:18:32
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, we're going ahead and lock it.
• 1:18:35
  SPEAKER_01: So I locked his hair.
• 1:18:37
  SPEAKER_01: So when he gets a wash and retwist, mom knows how to corn roll.
• 1:18:42
  SPEAKER_01: And so until his locks get longer, where I can give him other styles, she takes him, she comes behind me, and she corn rolls down the locks.
• 1:18:50
  SPEAKER_01: And there you go.
• 1:18:52
  SPEAKER_01: And when they start looking crazy, we take that out and we do it all over again.
• 1:18:57
  SPEAKER_01: Because so that's money right there.
• 1:19:00
  SPEAKER_01: Because Joy's hair is so long now, she would be getting charged about what I what I pay.
• 1:19:06
  SPEAKER_01: So she would be getting charged$120, about$125.
• 1:19:11
  SPEAKER_01: And then KJ for starter locks, that shit probably would have been anywhere from, yeah, that shit probably would have been about$50.
• 1:19:19
  SPEAKER_01: And so, yeah, so I'm saving close to$200 by just doing their hair myself.
• 1:19:24
  SPEAKER_01: Is it a big to-do?
• 1:19:26
  SPEAKER_01: Yes.
• 1:19:27
  SPEAKER_01: When I do both of their hair, that's an all-day to to two-day process.
• 1:19:32
  SPEAKER_01: You know?
• 1:19:33
  SPEAKER_01: Um, I purposely did their hair last week so that I wouldn't have to fuck with it over fall break because I wanted to relax.
• 1:19:40
  SPEAKER_01: And so, but it took two days.
• 1:19:42
  SPEAKER_01: That was a two-day exhausting ass fucking process.
• 1:19:47
  SPEAKER_01: But I'm saving money because I I just couldn't, I couldn't afford it anymore.
• 1:19:52
  SPEAKER_01: Because I'm already, we already paying$125 for me and then$125 for K-Ron.
• 1:20:00
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 1:20:01
  SPEAKER_00: And it's just like, you know, part of it you want to blame, because, you know, we can, we've we've had the talk about how stylist just kind of trash nowadays anyway.
• 1:20:12
  SPEAKER_00: But it's like you can't blame them either because they're affected by the cost of living too.
• 1:20:16
  SPEAKER_00: And then, you know, with Trump pissing off Iran with a straight of her mute, straight at her muse, like it's harder for shit to come in the states like it than it used to be.
• 1:20:25
  SPEAKER_00: It's more expensive because you'd have pissed everybody the fuck off and all these tariffs and all this other shit.
• 1:20:31
  SPEAKER_00: And then you, the great eviction of Atlanta.
• 1:20:34
  SPEAKER_00: Uh so 142,000 people got evicted in Metro Atlanta, which goes across five counties.
• 1:20:42
  SPEAKER_00: That's about 27.2% of the entire population of Atlanta, which is 550,000 people.
• 1:20:48
  SPEAKER_00: So you literally over one in every four people in Atlanta got evicted.
• 1:20:53
  SPEAKER_00: They have homeless fired in LA and New York City per capita.
• 1:20:58
  SPEAKER_00: So my whole thing is this people are all that's terrible.
• 1:21:01
  SPEAKER_00: It's extra fucking terrible because I won't be surprised if that should start happening in other states.
• 1:21:06
  SPEAKER_00: So the and then the fact that these evictions got filed, do you know how long it takes to follow an eviction?
• 1:21:12
  SPEAKER_01: I thought it was, what, is it 30 days?
• 1:21:16
  SPEAKER_01: Is it not 30 days?
• 1:21:17
  SPEAKER_00: It depends on my state, but it's just like some states take longer to process those court claims because a lot of the courts is backed up.
• 1:21:23
  SPEAKER_00: So 30 to I think in the state of Tennessee, because I work as a case manager for an organization, that sometimes landlords have to file evictions 30 to nine 30 to 60 days.
• 1:21:35
  SPEAKER_00: But then it's just like those landlords or whoever have to pay to get those evictions filed and pay for court.
• 1:21:42
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm just like, that's sickening.
• 1:21:45
  SPEAKER_00: Like, for instance, when I lived in, and me and my best friend Maya, one of my best friends from undergrad, our very first apartment, my very first apartment, we had a two-bed, one bath.
• 1:21:56
  SPEAKER_00: We lived 10 minutes, shit, no, we didn't.
• 1:22:01
  SPEAKER_00: We lived eight minutes from the mall.
• 1:22:04
  SPEAKER_00: I'm talking prime location.
• 1:22:06
  SPEAKER_00: We had two full bedrooms with full closets and one nice bathroom.
• 1:22:11
  SPEAKER_00: I hogged up the bathroom most of the time, but we didn't get the bathroom.
• 1:22:15
  SPEAKER_00: But we had a her I'm Maya's brother, shout out to Ryan.
• 1:22:19
  SPEAKER_00: He brought us a washer and a dryer.
• 1:22:21
  SPEAKER_00: And our, you know, between her family and my family, they stocked us up, got us started real good.
• 1:22:27
  SPEAKER_00: For$385, that included our, that included our rent.
• 1:22:33
  SPEAKER_00: I would say that, okay, so no.
• 1:22:35
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I'm gonna I'm gonna do everything with all the bills.
• 1:22:37
  SPEAKER_00: So it was$410.
• 1:22:39
  SPEAKER_00: That was our our portion of the rent.
• 1:22:41
  SPEAKER_00: Our portion of the internet, because we don't lived there a year, portion of the rent, portion of the internet, our water and gas was included, and our electric bill never, even in the winter months, our electric bill never went on 70.
• 1:22:51
  SPEAKER_00: So we always paid no more than$410 a month.
• 1:22:55
  SPEAKER_00: Damn.
• 1:22:56
  SPEAKER_00: That was in 2016 and 27.
• 1:22:58
  SPEAKER_00: We lived there May of 2016 to May of 2017.
• 1:23:01
  SPEAKER_00: We had two jobs apiece.
• 1:23:03
  SPEAKER_00: I was working as a production assistant for a news station, and I worked at Sears part-time.
• 1:23:10
  SPEAKER_00: Maya was at Hibbit and at the hospital.
• 1:23:13
  SPEAKER_00: We made that shit shake.
• 1:23:14
  SPEAKER_00: I was still getting my nails done, my hair done.
• 1:23:17
  SPEAKER_00: I was going to the club.
• 1:23:18
  SPEAKER_00: I was actually grocery shopping and cooking and traveling and shit with a minimum wage, two minimum wage jobs.
• 1:23:27
  SPEAKER_00: Now, fast forward.
• 1:23:30
  SPEAKER_00: I moved to Nashville in June, no, July 20, July 2020.
• 1:23:35
  SPEAKER_00: We had two bedroom, two bathroom in brookeries.
• 1:23:38
  SPEAKER_00: I'm off of exit 56 off of Harding Place.
• 1:23:41
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm kind of in the center.
• 1:23:42
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not far from, I can get to downtown in like 10, 15 minutes.
• 1:23:45
  SPEAKER_00: I can get to Brentwood in like 10 minutes.
• 1:23:47
  SPEAKER_00: I can get to Franklin in 25.
• 1:23:50
  SPEAKER_00: I can get to Opera Mills Mall in about 20 minutes.
• 1:23:53
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm kind of like dead set in the center of Nashville.
• 1:23:57
  SPEAKER_00: Too bad, too bad.
• 1:23:58
  SPEAKER_00: We're not like in the project because it was a nice department complex, but we weren't like in Brentwood or Franklin.
• 1:24:04
  SPEAKER_00: So when we first went there, our portion, because our, was our water and gas included?
• 1:24:10
  SPEAKER_00: I think it was.
• 1:24:11
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, water and gas is included.
• 1:24:13
  SPEAKER_00: But so just water, gas, and rent, our portion was$643 a person.
• 1:24:19
  SPEAKER_00: The second year, our portion went from$643 to$750.
• 1:24:25
  SPEAKER_00: Cool.
• 1:24:27
  SPEAKER_00: That third year, we went from paying, if I'm not mistaken, we were from paying$700 apiece to about$990.
• 1:24:37
  SPEAKER_00: So my God.
• 1:24:39
  SPEAKER_00: Shout out to BB.
• 1:24:40
  SPEAKER_00: We had stopped living together at that time.
• 1:24:43
  SPEAKER_00: And I just wanted to price them, okay, if I want to stay in Nashville, let me see how much it'll cost for one bed in the same apartment complex that we had there for three years.
• 1:24:51
  SPEAKER_00: No issue, never was laid under in none of our rent or our bills.
• 1:24:55
  SPEAKER_00: I priced out one bed, one bath.
• 1:24:57
  SPEAKER_00: And this is in the year 2023 because our lease was up July of 2023, because we moved there July of 2020.
• 1:25:03
  SPEAKER_00: Bitch, a one bed, one bath in that apartment complex,$1,800.
• 1:25:10
  SPEAKER_00: And snow, it was seven, it was seven, it was$1690 or$17.50.
• 1:25:15
  SPEAKER_00: That is crazy.
• 1:25:17
  SPEAKER_00: Either way, that's fucking crazy.
• 1:25:19
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm just like, even though I love living in Nashville, but I mean, I was working, I had a full-time job as in IT.
• 1:25:30
  SPEAKER_00: Then I worked full-time as an inventory analyst, but I also worked part-time at Apple.
• 1:25:36
  SPEAKER_00: And I used to pull one shift a week at Ulta.
• 1:25:38
  SPEAKER_00: So at one for like four years straight, sis, I worked two jobs seven days a week.
• 1:25:45
  SPEAKER_00: I made that shit shake though, but I'm just like, my I'm home.
• 1:25:50
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 1:25:51
  SPEAKER_00: So what was$643 by the time we left, we ended up paying like$900 a pop.
• 1:25:58
  SPEAKER_01: I'm just I remember back in 2011 when we first got to Clarksville.
• 1:26:04
  SPEAKER_01: I remember when one bedrooms were$550,$575.
• 1:26:09
  SPEAKER_00: Girl.
• 1:26:10
  SPEAKER_01: That is unheard of now.
• 1:26:13
  SPEAKER_01: That's fucking like crazy.
• 1:26:14
  SPEAKER_00: Like I was making, okay, so when I lived in Evansville, Indiana, minus like, you know, like car notes and groceries and shit, but just basic living expenses was$4.10.
• 1:26:31
  SPEAKER_00: I was making$10 an hour at um Sears, which was right above the minimum wage.
• 1:26:41
  SPEAKER_00: I was working in the electronics department, and I used to push credit cards.
• 1:26:45
  SPEAKER_00: And then at the I think in my full-time, well, my main job technically, they used to keep me at 37.5 hours a week, so I wouldn't be full-time.
• 1:26:56
  SPEAKER_00: And they have to offer me insurance.
• 1:26:59
  SPEAKER_00: So I think I was making like$13,$12 an hour there.
• 1:27:04
  SPEAKER_00: So I probably was bringing in maybe$2,000 or$2,100 a month.
• 1:27:12
  SPEAKER_00: And it was tight, but I mean, we may do, but again, outside of paying my little bills and paying my$350 card note, I was getting my nails done every two weeks.
• 1:27:21
  SPEAKER_00: I was still in the hair salon.
• 1:27:23
  SPEAKER_00: Like I said, I was traveling, I was going to the club, but I was, I was able to live.
• 1:27:28
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 1:27:31
  SPEAKER_00: But it's just, I like I said, you know, they said everything must go up before it comes down.
• 1:27:39
  SPEAKER_00: But once this damn housing market comes down, it's it's got to, because literally, this is the first time in history where they're saying that like I know in Clarksville, somebody, I don't know how they ran the numbers or kind of assessed it, but I read on one of our Clarksville pages that they said like one in every three, so 33 to 35% of apartments.
• 1:28:00
  SPEAKER_00: are just walking dust and then they're steady putting up apartments but like thirty five to forty percent of apartments are empty around here.
• 1:28:08
  SPEAKER_01: I believe it.
• 1:28:08
  SPEAKER_01: Cause like what the fuck?
• 1:28:10
  SPEAKER_01: Who's affording this shit?
• 1:28:12
  SPEAKER_00: Even like we had a new set of townhouses, they're not being marketed as apartments.
• 1:28:16
  SPEAKER_00: You have to purchase them.
• 1:28:17
  SPEAKER_00: And they were charging three thousand a month in Clarksville for condominiums with the garage.
• 1:28:23
  SPEAKER_00: I said there's no fucking way.
• 1:28:24
  SPEAKER_00: I wouldn't pay that shit not in Clarksville Hell no.
• 1:28:31
  SPEAKER_01: Hell our 3,000 square foot home is 28 a month.
• 1:28:36
  SPEAKER_01: But I mean again you both of y'all are establishing y'all yeah and then also you know mom and TT they like retirement and shit like that.
• 1:28:46
  SPEAKER_00: So they help um yeah at one point me and Sabrina was paying more money for our apartment when we lived in Nashville than my parents were for their mortgage so all right you want to talk about Da Vinci I feel like we kind of laid on that the black community kind of already whacked him but like nigga fuck you.
• 1:29:14
  SPEAKER_00: You're all American your biggest role is playing Terry who was a black American um mafia member so then nigga I didn't even know you were fucking Haitian and then your name is Abraham like sorry go to hell I'm gonna tell you I didn't even watch the um entire interview with him on uh what's the name show?
• 1:29:36
  SPEAKER_01: Uh what's the name?
• 1:29:37
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah Cam Newton's uh show I didn't even watch it I just caught the clips of course I heard about um what he said through the Breakfast Club one morning when I was driving to work.
• 1:29:47
  SPEAKER_01: I know you all talked about it too on the Black Paradigm.
• 1:29:50
  SPEAKER_01: So but to go and like actually give it another view I just was totally not interested um and glad that when it first came up on YouTube before I heard what he was talking about I was so glad um that I didn't click on it and give it another view.
• 1:30:06
  SPEAKER_01: I think the biggest thing like you were saying Ashley that pisses me off is that how dare you get on someone's another black American well not another a black you know American man's podcast or show and completely like try to downgrade or downplay the black American community saying that we are not like hard workers or we don't put in the effort when you actually I mean of course yeah they were drug dealers drug kingpins but you actually portrayed a black family who were grinding trying to make their you know way out of no way even though they were doing what they were doing illegally but I mean you actually like got your start by portraying a a black family um and so I I don't know it and then I'm like your your main supporters or main viewers are black American people like you were saying Ashley you didn't even know I didn't even know that he was Haitian.
• 1:31:20
  SPEAKER_01: So I mean for him to just get on a you know major show major podcast and totally throw black Americans under the bus is just so like I don't have shit for him.
• 1:31:35
  SPEAKER_01: Like I don't want to watch nothing else that he's in I don't want to hear from him um none of that shit like that's just so fucking crazy to me that that's the stand you took and then like put all of us in a box you know such a negative box um like I said to say that we don't work hard or that we don't get it out the mud or that we have no grit um like basically like everything that we have comes easy to us or we kind of let time pass us by.
• 1:32:06
  SPEAKER_00: We're like a a a go with the flow don't really try type of group of people I'm just like what I was like first of all nigga go back to hang then I haven't seen you first of all let's let's let's let's keep it funky I haven't seen one Haitian movie that you acted in y'all talk about how old y'all's country is this y'all's country is that go back to it cricket and nigga you was in the show called all American the jokes write themselves yeah you grown this too which was a a show about you were a black American athlete on that show too nigga nobody even knew your ass was fucking Haitian and where the fuck did Da Vinci come from nigga you was biblical when you changed your name to a white artist that says a lot about you.
• 1:32:51
  SPEAKER_00: Fuck you like he's just so like out of touch and so confused like you he's not you're not like anything that you've ever asked in I've never said oh like oh and you was in Mary J.
• 1:33:03
  SPEAKER_00: Blige's all of her movies so I've never just been like oh girl let me watch this for the Michigan nigga never not for you you never gave him anything Oscar worthy or Michael B.
• 1:33:13
  SPEAKER_00: Jordan or Idris uh uh what's my full name Dancing Idris worthy you're not Alice Hart like sir you're not even not even close not even close you're not Kofi Cerebold you're none of them niggas like sir not even close I feel like the black the black male actors who are on the shy um from the youngest ones to the oldest ones have done better than he has you know nigga you're one dimensional as fuck you've never just gave me like the oh the black actor on P Valley both of them the two uh me black for and uh J Alfonso Nicholson he's amazing like nigga the better at best you were eye candy like go fuck off yeah so he's um what the old folks say he didn't tell he didn't tell uh his drawers with me he ain't got to worry about it yeah that was crazy listen this is like you yeah that's that's a rap it's like a dame profile X X next no I'm gonna let you get this one boo let's talk about Diara from Detroit what you want to say about my girl Diara from Detroit oh my god I love her um Diara Kilpatrick is a black uh American actress and comedian um and so she definitely gives me like Issa Rae vibes she's like this awkward funny black girl um I love her so much so Diara from Detroit is a show where she is portraying a like vigil what is it vigilante how you say it vigilante um and so she's like trying to figure out like a it's like a modern day Sherlock Holmes type shit um and she's trying to like um figure out these different scenarios um and trying to get to the bottom of it but she's she doesn't work she's not a detective but she's doing all this shit on her own you know she's actually she's in the show she's portrayed as a teacher you know so she's a full-time teacher um and so she goes on these like breaks like summer break or Christmas break um and she gets into these scenarios where she's trying to figure shit out um and it's always rooted in you know the first season I don't want to give it away but that was rooted in like a relationship um that she had started with the guy and he disappears um and she's trying to figure out where he is and so then the second season she gets into like some real crazy shit where there's like this treasure that she's trying to find because there was a black um a black guy from like the early 40s or 50s who owned he was like into running like a bootlegger's house and so he was real big and he was murdered and there was like a a treasure that he you know supposedly left hidden somewhere that she's trying to find um all in all but it's just like it's shit in there that's just funny as hell it's shit in there that's real um I actually sent you a quote from one of the episodes now I can't find it in our damn fucking text thread but she was talking to one of the young girls um in the in the show and she was like giving her some advice and I can't remember word for word but in so many words she was basically telling her that as black women you know we're always told that you know you're being too fast or like you being grown or you know slow down and all of this stuff and she was just like you know it's okay to like live how you want to live live free you know um have experiences um and shit like that so I don't know it's just an all-around good show um it's on Amazon Prime so if you guys haven't checked it out please check her out um she's just she's amazing it's a really really good ass show and so second season yes the second season is out now um first season was amazing but second season is even better so it's one of those things where I feel like she's getting better and growing as the actress as she goes on she was just on the Breakfast Club and she was just speaking about how she wants to make sure that the roles that she takes on are true to her um and so she just wants to maintain that integrity as the actor and comedian um but yeah so Diara from Detroit um is named the show is named after her but her name is Diara Kilpatrick so I love Dart I'm gonna be tuning in because Lord knows I miss Insecure so much but I love Abbott.
• 1:38:09
  SPEAKER_00: We and Diamond we talked about different world um we'll have to talk about that next week um we'll talk about that and forever I think the renaissance of black shows are slowly starting to come back even with green um but that's not like really like an all black show but like I think ensemble shows are starting to come back.
• 1:38:27
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah I definitely want to support and watch Diara uh from Detroit.
• 1:38:33
  SPEAKER_01: But yeah but any about say how anything else you got going on and looking forward to in the future oh I I will echo that I think that we are headed into like a really good space for like black television um black media I think we're just like in a really good space like you said the the black renaissance you guys um on the black paradigm y'all were talking about that um and how the Renaissance was birthed out of like the Great Depression and shit like that.
• 1:39:05
  SPEAKER_00: And so you know at a time like how we were just talking about prices and shit being in like a recession um but here we are at like the precipice of like really good black media black mass media black um sitcoms um even black music like a lot of yeah because we can oh shit I almost forgot Drewski Drew oh my god first of all we're gonna talk about that skit but Drewski is the first digital creator in history he will be hosting SNL on November the 7th I don't watch SNL i don't I don't the humor is not it's not funny but I will be watching it that night I've I watched it when Kiki was on it I watched it with Megan the stallion same same so when it be prominent black people that be on their hosts I watch anything else don't give it a damn about but I will be supporting Drewski first of all that fucking skit I when he did the Jojo C Well dance I screamed when he uh the the actress he played the actress he hired to play Raven Simone's wife and when he did that last skit he did was flawless vic I won't be surprised I told TJ in the next 10 to 15 years five to I'll say five to fifteen years he come out say he's an anthropologist because he nails he hits the nail on the head every time and it's so damn funny.
• 1:40:34
  SPEAKER_01: Mm-hmm yeah he is doing he is definitely doing his thing um the amount of things that Drewski has his hands in right now from yep doing his getting this SNL um spot he did of course the BET awards um his skits never miss um and then the sit down that he just had where he kind of like bared you know his soul and really talked about his childhood and everything um that interview was really good I forgot the guy the name of the person who he did the interview with but it went it went like the numbers went crazy that was really good learning about his family dynamic and his background his childhood um this the movie that he just did with um uh what is it streaming from hell or something like that and Kevin Hart yeah that was crazy and so he's just I mean he is really working shows the could have been and the uh history what it's like he makes fun of pop culture it's just it's so damn funny yes so shout out to Drewski like you are really holding it down and I didn't know that he was uh 30 I think he's 32 or something yeah me and Drewski are the same age that's crazy I had no idea that he was in our um he's in our right there in our age I had yeah so I'm so excited for him um and just hearing that he's like yeah I'm always working because I'm not I'm nowhere near where I want to be like hearing him say that I was like I know that's fucking right you better like so I think we are looking at like our generations like uh Eddie Murphy or um Martin Lawrence yeah yep the the the Wams definitely yep definitely yep yep so I'm excited I'm so excited to see where to see where his career goes but yeah other than that sis that's all I got I know this week I'm gonna make some time to go see the other I want to see the other mommy it's a psychological thriller and I watch I saw that the Street Fighter oh can't wait to see that either so yeah but other than that that's it for me I thank you guys for tuning in and thank you Diamond per usual for being on this journey with me no matter where we go and for allowing me almost gives me space to bear my soul this was the most horrible I feel like I've gotten since the very first show first or second show like this was this was a tough show at the beginning so but it was needed I feel good so I thank you my sister for allowing me that opportunity to do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course of course well y'all this is episode thirty two and thank y'all for tuning in this is your girl Ashley and this is Diamond and we will catch y'all hopefully next week