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Pleasure Pitfalls: Are You Making These Common Mistakes? with Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown · Libido Lounge

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  You get to experience different types of pleasure.
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  The clitoral orgasm feels different than a cervical orgasm.
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  Feels different from a g spot orgasm.
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  Feels different from an anal orgasm.
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  One of the things that's unique about the cervix is it has three of those major nerve
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  pathways that run through it.
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  I think what's really unique about the cervix and other zones internally is it's like the
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  cervix requires so much stillness and slowness.
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  I think probably more so than maybe any other region in the body in order for it to unfurl.
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  And that is such a great actual spiritual concept of like here's this is like where
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  sacred sex really gets its juice, is it forces us to settle into the moment, into presence, to
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  be sensitive, to pay attention, to to measure what's happening in the system, and you can't
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  do that if you're going fast.
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  Or if you have a goal, like I'm trying to get somewhere.
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  One of the principles of tantra is we're going so fast, it's hard to feel the the moment that
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  we're in and, you know, we use that word presence a lot.
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  But what does it even mean to be present?
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  It really means, like, we have these five fabulous senses.
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  Right?
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  So we've got these doorways to the present moment.
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  So which doorway is, like, the one for you?
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  Now back to our show.
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  Hi, Lounge members and listeners.
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  I am so excited for another episode on our podcast.
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  I'm doctor Diane, your board certified sexologist and libido doctor, and I have a
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  treat for you today, everybody.
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  We are talking about all sorts of things.
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  We're talking about cervical orgasms, we're talking about how to master male sexual energy,
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  we're talking about the women's arousal map and how this map can actually expand pleasure,
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  orgasms, and so many more things.
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  And we're gonna get into all sorts of things in part two of the exclusive content as well.
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  We're gonna talk about things such as how to have non ejaculatory orgasms for males, how to
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  use tantra and energy and other forms of ancient traditions to bring your pleasure,
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  heighten your pleasure, heighten your closeness connection, use sex for healing, for connection
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  to God and energy and whatever you call that force, and so much more.
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  So here, to help us with our journey, I have two special guests, and new friends of mine.
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  I have Leah Piper and Doctor.
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  Willow Brown.
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  So welcome to the Libido Lounge, you two.
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  I'm so happy to be here with you.
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  Likewise.
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  Yeah.
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  Such a pleasure, doctor Diane.
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  We're excited.
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  I'm happy
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  to have you.
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  So let's let's jump in.
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  Let's let's start with this cervical orgasm question and component.
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  And I feel like, like in unpacking cervical orgasms, I feel like we have to unpack a few
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  things because I think one thing is, okay, what are cervical orgasms?
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  How do they differentiate between, you know, say other types of orgasms?
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  And then I think this is a very scary thing for a lot of women, especially because I know many
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  women when they've had deeper types of penetration, it can be painful.
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  You know, like the cervix is not touched much other than our gyno exams and childbirth And
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  the Or
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  be vague up against when someone's Yeah.
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  Trading you too deep too soon.
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  Yeah.
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  Exactly.
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  So let's talk, like, high level.
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  Let's start with, like, cervical orgasms.
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  Why should we even care?
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  Leah, do you wanna give us a head start?
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  Well, one of the things that's so powerful about them is they have three nerve pathways
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  that carry three different types of pleasure up to the brain.
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  You have the hypogastric nerve, you have the pelvic nerve, and you have the vagus nerve.
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  Now, these nerves are also found in other erogenous zones.
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  So, what's really cool about female pleasure is that when you stimulate these different areas
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  that are erogenous zones that are connected to different nerve plexuses, you get to experience
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  different types of pleasure.
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  The clitoral orgasm feels different than a cervical orgasm.
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  Feels different from a G Spot orgasm.
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  Feels different from an anal orgasm.
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  So one of the things that's unique about the cervix is it has three of those major nerve
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  pathways that run through it.
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  So it's a very profound type of release.
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  It's often a full body release.
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  And because the Vagus Nerve runs through it, it has an ability to really open your heart.
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  You know, the Vagus Nerve is the wandering nerve and it's the only nerve plexus that runs
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  up the front of the body to the brain.
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  These other nerves run through the spine.
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  And so, when we talk about the vagus nerve and its pleasure potential, people will liken it to
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  the crygasm, or to the heartgasm.
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  So, there's something very unique about the cervical orgasm that opens up these vulnerable
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  centers.
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  So women often are so touched and overwhelmed by the pleasure that arises here that they they
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  cry.
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  They're like melting.
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  There's a feeling of transcendence.
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  And also because it is a very sensitive place that is often felt beat up with too much
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  friction, there's a particular type of touch that's slow, that's more of a thumping, that is
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  required for the cervix to really open up to deeper pleasure.
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  And I would just add that it also requires a higher level of arousal, because when we're at
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  peak levels of arousal, the cervix and the uterus actually contract upward, making more
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  space for deeper penetration.
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  Which is why when we're getting banged too fast, too deep, too early, we're not at a
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  proper arousal level for that to feel good.
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  So there's lots of, like, nuances to achieving this type of climax.
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  Yeah.
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  And one thing I would add is well, I would add some things, but one thing that comes to mind
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  off the top of my head is, like, this is really the the full Harris Gamos union, like, the
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  masculine and feminine coming together.
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  Because if if you're in a heterosexual experience with a cervical orgasm, the the
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  glands, the head of the penis, which is synonymous to the heart center, your the the
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  penis has all this reflexology on it, and so does the vagina, has all this reflexology
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  throughout it according to Taoism.
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  And so when you're when you've got that gland way back in and and connecting either
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  energetically or physically with the cervical os, that's where the heart region is for the
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  female as well.
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  And so you're really that's why also a reason, not the vagus nerve, yes, but also because of
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  this reflexology of these sexual organs.
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  And so when that when that opening starts to happen, it's like you you drop out of the
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  dualistic mindset.
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  You drop into this, state of oneness, and that vagus nerve keeps that oneness, like, rising
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  all the way through the belly, through the gut, through the heart, through the throat, and,
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  really expands the experience, of of what it means to be present in the moment and to be in
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  a
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  state of powerful potent receptivity.
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  Because when we're looking at the physical, aspect of this nerve, the vagus nerve, you
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  know, it's running right through the yin channel, right through that receptive channel
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  in your body.
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  So there's there's all these amazing physical components to the cervical orgasm, and there's
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  all these esoteric and and sort of more metaphysical components to it as well.
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  And, one thing that I've really had to, train myself and and kind of come to with
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  experiencing these types of orgasms is that I I'm the one moving.
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  I'm the one in charge, the the penis owner or the dildo or whatever it is.
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  It needs to just be still and steady, not a lot of movement, maybe some energetic pulsing.
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  But because of the sensitivity of the cervix, I've got to kind of find that that tip and find
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  that meeting point and then just kind of massage my cervical os around it so that it can
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  start to spread and open.
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  And they say in Taoism, you know, wombgasms are the highest form of superior orgasms that we
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  could have, and the cervical orgasm is basically a wombgasm.
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  It's just it's reverberating the you know, the cervix is the nose of your womb, so it's gonna
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  reverberate up through that entire organ, which is very much connected and related to the
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  heart.
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  Again, why we get these deep, emotional, powerful releases when we're able to experience
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  those kinds of orgasms.
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  Yeah.
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  I think it's there's so much to be said about the awe, and then I feel like the awe when I
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  read stories about other people that have had these it's like the most common story I hear is
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  like the awe.
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  And that's certainly my own experience.
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  I remember the first time I had one of these orgasms, it was almost like it was like so out
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  of body, meaning like dissolving into nothingness.
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  That the only other time I've really achieved that is through, like, the depths of meditation
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  around.
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  But it's, like, very different than that, but there's still a similarity of, like, dissolving
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  into that that nothingness and really connecting to something so far beyond our body.
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  So in, like, in beginning to experience, for women that are like, okay, and and their
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  partners that are beginning to experience wanting to work with us, you've I think you've
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  said some good things already, like, we have to go slow.
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  We have to allow for that time, for that vaginal lengthening, like, what you're saying
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  around maybe you being, you know, the female being more in control and, like like,
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  controlling the points of the cervix that's maybe being touched and and, stimulated.
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  Beyond that though, are there any other tips that you have?
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  And especially if, like, people are used to this, like, deeper penetration where it's like,
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  ow, that hurts, and their only other memory of their cervix being touched is through other
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  painful experiences like pap smears and childbirth.
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  If there's this history, like, wow, there's like like like, this does not feel awesome.
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  Do you have advice on, like, where to start and how to actually, say, unwind the cervix or as,
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  you know, as some people say, relax the cervix, or start to deep pattern the cervix, so that it
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  actually can experience this type of pleasure?
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  Yeah, one of the techniques that I often use working with people is, is this a visual
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  podcast or is it only audible?
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  Yeah.
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  Okay.
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  So, if you could see my hand, I'm kind of making a cone shape with my fingers pointing
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  down.
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  And so, you can go inside and with either one finger or two, you gently caress the cervix and
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  you're just feeling and melting the tissue.
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  You're going really really slow, you're noticing the shape.
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  Some women will feel bruising, even like indentations where the cervix is actually a
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  little misshapen.
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  Even if someone's cervix has been removed, you can imagine that you're gently stroking very
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  slowly the shape of the cone.
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  And you go around the front, and you go around the back, and then you come lower, and lower,
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  and lower, until you're massaging the tip.
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  And, you're just letting that person feel, breathe, and experience any emotions that are
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  stuck in the tissue.
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  Because when you've had unconscious touch, or you've had a traumatic experience, like let's
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  say you had a really challenging birth, the cells in the tissue are holding all that memory
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  and we need help unwinding.
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  So this is true of a lot of various erogenous zones vaginally.
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  Just because we have it, doesn't mean that it's immediately awakened.
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  We actually have to bring conscious touch, conscious energy, conscious attention,
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  conscious sensitivity, conscious emotion through our hands to the tissue to allow some
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  unwinding of this woman's journey of having a vagina and like, have a deep breath, have a
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  moment that's just for her, to catch up to everything she's gone through.
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  To have someone, you know, bear witness, even if she's the one that's doing it to herself.
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  Can I just feel myself right now?
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  And can I pay can I be very present to each sensation?
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  And you can find hot spots, burny bits, and owies, and bruises, and and heat, and different
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  temperatures, and I know for me, there's been times too.
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  Yeah.
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  Was just gonna say the broken glass phenomenon, where you feel shards, and you just need to
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  breathe through that, and I always think of it as it's you're unfurling a flower, and so you
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  just peel back one level of discomfort, and you find out, well, what's underneath that, and
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  then you do another layer, and another layer, and eventually, you'll get to your pleasure.
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  Mhmm.
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  Yeah.
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  It's not always orgasmic right off the right off the tip.
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  Rarely.
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  Yeah.
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  Orgasm.
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  With the cervical orgasm.
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  Yeah.
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  Very rarely.
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  It's more I love that, you know, flower analogy that Leah just gave us because it really is
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  like an unfurling and puddle by puddle.
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  And, you know, I think if you are going into a sexual experience with the agenda to have a
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  cervical orgasm, you're probably not gonna have one.
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  Good luck.
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  It can be similar to Amrita where it's like these, you know, certain phenomenons that
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  happen through a female body, they they are they are mysterious in nature, and they come
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  when come.
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  And so it's more just to really, like, dropping into the receptivity and staying present.
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  That was a really key thing that Leah just pointed to is, you know, just like, what what
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  is this this sensation right here, and what does this sensation require of me in order to
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  really be with it?
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  Because this sensation reminds me of the time I was molested by my uncle when I was four years
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  old, and that's not a comfortable place to go to in my body or in my mind.
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  But if I don't unfurl that pedal, I'm not most likely not gonna get to my pleasure.
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  And I would just add, just a quick
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  break to let you know that eighty percent of women do not have orgasms from vaginal
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  intercourse alone.
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  So many people are not having the type of sex that is healing, brings them closer, that
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  brings them more connected, that is full of so much pleasure and passion that it can build
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  bones, reduce stress, help serotonin, bring happiness, lower anxiety, improve sleep, and
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  build a better connection with your partner.
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  That is what hot and modern monogamy is, is modern monogamy that brings in all of that
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  path.
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  I think what's really unique about the cervix, and other zones internally, is it's like the
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  cervix requires so much stillness and slowness.
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  I think probably more so than maybe any other region in the body in order for it to unfurl.
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  And that is such a great actual spiritual concept of like, here's this is like where
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  sacred sex really gets its juice, is it forces us to settle into the moment, into presence, to
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  be sensitive, to pay attention, to measure what's happening in the system, and you can't
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  do that if you're going fast.
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  Or if you have a goal, like, I'm trying to get somewhere.
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  This is really about curiosity and a quieting.
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  So it take it requires a meditative skill set to be able to be that still.
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  Yeah.
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  And another thing I wanna say just from the experience of it for for years now is even
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  after doing it for years, I I still experience discomfort on my way to the pleasure.
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  You know?
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  It's like, I have to find that place inside where I'm like, okay.
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  There we are.
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  We're connected now.
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  We're in we're in union.
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  Now we're gonna be in the chi of that union.
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  But for me, it feels itchy and burny and uncomfortable.
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  And, yeah, there's a place inside of me that wants to go away from it and resist it, but
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  there's another place inside of me that knows the value of going into the sensation and into
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  the feeling.
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  And even, you know, after, like I said, after years of doing the practice, it it doesn't mean
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  I'm going right to it in this, you know, year full of pleasure.
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  Like, I still have to work my way through because, you know, life keeps happening, and
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  and we keep storing stuff, issues on our tissues.
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  And so we have to really continue to unfurl moment by moment.
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  Yeah.
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  One of the thing you guys have said so many things I love.
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  Like, one of the things I really find so much in my work is that what what's happening in our
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  intimate life is a mirror in many ways for, like, the expression outside of our intimate
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  life.
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  And and I think in in life, we're so often, like, just, like, trying to get out of the
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  uncomfortable sensation as fast as possible, whether we feel sad or something or angry about
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  something or, you know, disappointed or whatever the emotion we're feeling.
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  And what tends to happen is, like, those feelings don't go away.
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  We just shove them under the rug and then they come up in some other weird icky way.
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  And, yeah, I think, like, the exploration of the cervix is such a great analogy for, like,
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  practicing You know, we practice a thing out of the bedroom that actually refers us back to the
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  bed bedroom and vice versa.
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  And this ability to sit with like, okay, what is this feeling?
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  What is this discomfort?
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  And just sit there and allow whatever feeling it is to have a space and have a voice and have
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  a feeling is an amazing way to just get it to soften and move on.
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  So I'm curious too, especially with, you know, the work around tantra and breath work, and
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  knowing that we had these connections from our wound space to a heart and even up to our
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  pineal gland and to our crown, have you seen then other things such as any sort of tantra
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  practice, breath work practice, anything else help to suck in the cervix and Oh, for sure.
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  Pressure at all?
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  All of that.
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  Like, sounding and breathing and knowing how to run energy through your yang meridian, your yin
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  meridian, you know, all the white tantra that we have our students practice.
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  It really comes into a red tantra experience where you're potentially with a partner, you
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  know, and playing with how to expand your capacity to feel sensation.
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  Right?
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  If it's often if we're feeling pain, whether it's emotional or physical, we contract and we
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  don't expand.
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  So, you know, I think one of the beautiful things about tantra is that we get to expand
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  into all of it, the good and the bad, the the yummy feelings and the challenging feelings.
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  And that is how we get to, you know, begin to live a tantric life where it's like, okay.
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  Yeah.
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  Here's this challenge.
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  Can I expand into it?
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  You know, here's this beautiful thing.
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  Can I open even wider into it?
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  And so, you know, going slow one of the principles of tantra is is slow down.
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  You know?
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  Because we we in order we're going so fast, it's hard to feel the the moment that we're in.
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  And, you know, we use that word presence a lot, but what does it even mean to be present?
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  It really means, like, accessing the sensations in your body, and we have these five fabulous
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  senses.
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  Right?
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  So we've got these doorways to the present moment.
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  So which doorway is, like, the one for you?
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  For me, it's my ears.
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  You know?
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  Auditory.
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  Like, if I can really just listen to a single chirp of a bird in a moment, I'm not in the
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  past, I'm not in the future, but I'm receiving that sensation.
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  So that's another thing that our senses do is they drop us into receptivity, which is, I like
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  to say, the feminine's greatest superpower.
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  You know?
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  And it's not one that's valued or honored or taught in our society, so we have to cultivate
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  that on our own.
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  So all of the the the Taoist practices, the white Tantra practices, all of that will really
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  come in handy, as we are in that moment with our cervix and the awakening.
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  Yeah.
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  I would say that if I could only teach one Tantric thing to help women become a master
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  lover, it would be having educated pelvic floor muscles.
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  Because when you are aware and connected, and so for some people, kegel kegels will be maybe
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  a more familiar terminology, it's doing so many things to build awareness and to build subtle
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  movement.
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  So when you have muscular knowledge and control over these different muscles in your pelvic
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  floor, meaning, you know how to separate the anal sphincter muscles from the pubic coccygeus
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  muscle from the lower abdominal recti muscles, which, we basically all know how to do that,
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  just someone has to point it out to us.
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  Then you can start to play your vagina or your yoni like a three string instrument, and it
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  builds subtle movement.
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  So it's one of those things that you can do to make shifts in how you feel yourself
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  internally, in juxtaposition of feeling someone else's attention inside of you.
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  And it's also when you when you're squeezing those muscles and you're relaxing them, just
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  like everything else in life, it has an expansion and a contraction, just like our
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  heartbeat.
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  It expands, it contracts.
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  So we are a series of expanding and contracting throughout every sector of our life, including
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  the operation of our system.
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  So when you can play your yoni, and really feel those separation of muscles, in a subtle
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  movement, or even a greater, more dramatic movements, you're bringing fresh, oxygenated
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  blood to the tissue.
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  That's going to give you more sensation.
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  You're bringing awareness, which means you'll start to have, attunement between your mind,
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  having a mind body connection, and what's happening within your vagina.
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  You can shift by contracting, you can pull your cervix up, by hyper relaxing you can allow your
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  cervix to drop down.
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  So, I really love taking people through a meditative process that brings them into a very
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  deep, close relationship with their pelvic floor.
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  And then lastly, to me, it's like a Shakti, juicy pump.
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  And so if people want a more spiritual connection to their body, it's one way that
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  women can really start to harness that these aren't just the dirty bits.
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  This is my superpower.
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  I'm connected to the everything here.
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  And when I flex and relax my pelvic floor, I am juicing up my sexual energy so that I'm more
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  creative, so I have a juicier life, and so that I'm in control of my turn on.
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  And so, as you start to have these educated muscles, you can get so masterful with them,
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  that that's all you need to do to bring yourself to orgasm, is just pulse and release
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  that pelvic floor.
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  And so, you know, basically every courtesan since the beginning of time knew that.
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  It's kind of a parlor trick, but it's so much more than that.
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  Well, another thing I wanted to add with what your you ladies are both saying is, when we're
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  talking about, you know, these five senses, and we're talking about everything to, like, bring
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  yourself someone's body and feel these things, and even when you're talking about the pelvic
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  floor and contracting and control, to me, the other thing that I I've been exploring
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  exploring a lot lately is, like, how much doing all these things actually triggers our bodies
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  to know it's safe.
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  Because when we're in, like, a fight or flight, which I think a lot of people are in, and we
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  have traumas, we have triggers, all these things, we can't be in fight or flight and tune
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  into the subtleties of our body and the contractions at the same time.
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  Right?
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  So I think that that with that that
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  Very true.
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  For, you know, for safety in order to go deep, this is also the path for that.
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  Yeah.
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  It's a way of telling your tissues, it's okay to be in pleasure.
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  It's okay to relax.
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  It's okay to experience joy.
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  Yeah, it's also okay to be afraid.
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  Like, can you stay present in the fear, you know, of being, I don't know, I want you to see
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  this side of me.
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  I'm afraid you're gonna think I'm ugly when these emotions arise, like, you know, you can
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  be there for yourself in the rage that needs to release because you've suppressed it for twenty
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  five years.
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  I mean, sometimes that's something that's blocking your biggest, most outrageous
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  pleasure.
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  Exactly.
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  Which is why it's so good to have a partner holding space for you.
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  Yeah.
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  Because when you are in that fight, flight, or free state, you can have someone bring you
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  back, and say, hey, where'd you go?
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  What's your feeling's okay?
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  Don't go anywhere, stay with me, you don't have to feel it alone.
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  It really takes some of that feeling of isolation out of these fight, flight, or freeze
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  responses, when you've got someone who's holding you through it.
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  Yeah.
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  Exactly.
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  Oh gosh.
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  I could talk to you ladies forever, and I wanna make sure we have time to talk about you guys
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  have a really cool pilgrimage coming up to Greece, as well as an amazing adventure, a sex
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  reimagined adventure to help people really get to their desires and their unspoken questions
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  and all these things.
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  So I wanna talk about that, and we're gonna talk about that in a moment.
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  And, just to remind everybody, we're gonna go even deeper here with doctor Willow and Leah in
• 26:52
  our exclusive content.
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  We're gonna talk a little bit about the women's arousal map.
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  We're gonna talk about non ejaculatory orgasms for men, which I always know is a hot topic.
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  So we're gonna talk about that, so look for that in the exclusive content below.
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  But let's talk before we do that.
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  Tell us a little bit about this pilgrimage you guys have coming up.
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  Oh, we're so excited.
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  Talk about awakening the the divine feminine within.
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  We're taking a a group of women to Crete, which is an island in Greece, and that particular
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  island is really connected to the divine feminine, connected to the goddess.
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  The Minoan culture there is very alive and well and thriving.
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  So ancient culture, very much connected to the the Gaia and the primordial goddess, right,
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  and, like, the original goddess.
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  Of course, we know there's all those great amazing Greek goddesses with their archetypes.
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  So we'll be playing with some of that, but mostly, we'll be there cultivating our own chi.
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  We'll be doing yoni mapping.
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  We'll be doing yoni witnessing.
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  We'll be doing sacred spot release on each other.
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  We'll be really holding each other in sisterhood as as as this deep sexual awakening
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  occurs.
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  And we'll be doing yoga and qigong at the sacred temples and going to the beach and the
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  gorges and really cultivating the chi of that island into our systems and into our bodies.
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  So it's gonna be a great opportunity for women to just unplug from life and reset their
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  nervous systems to a whole new path ahead.
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  I'm really excited.
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  Yeah.
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  Sounds like such an amazing place for, like, growth and learning, but also just for
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  community and balance and healing and recalibrating.
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  So, we'll have all of that information on how to sign up you guys in the show notes.
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  And then tell us about your adventure package.
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  Yeah.
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  So we have a free gift for your audience.
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  If they go to sexreimagined.com/adventure, they can pick one of three free tantra trainings.
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  You can do something around sexual obstacles if you're struggling with, let's say, ejaculatory
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  control, or being able to feel your female orgasms, that's a great training.
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  It's totally free, most of the trainings have about three to five tutorials.
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  We've got another section on sexual healing, and then another one on intimacy and
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  communication.
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  And if you want all three, we won't stop you.
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  You can also get all three.
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  So head over there and, and get started.
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  You can practice tantra tonight.
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  Yes.
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  Yeah.
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  We can start with baby steps.
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  Right?
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  And it's like so many little ways to start making big shifts, and all it takes is just
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  taking that first step and getting started.
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  So I hope everybody will take doctor Willow and Leah Leah up on these amazing offers.
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  I hope you'll also check out our exclusive interview with them in part two found in the
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  content below.
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  And everybody, it's been so great to have you listening to another episode on The Lounge.
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  We'll see you all very soon, and thank you ladies both for being here with me today.
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  Oh, what an honor.
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  Thank you for having us.
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