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Aspergers Guide To Christmas (5 BEST TIPS!) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  I'm discussing five different tips.
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  My best tips for people to have a successful Christmas whilst
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  being on the Spectrum so that you feel relaxed safe healthy
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  happy and all that jazz. Let's get into it.
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  Okay guys. So the first one here is a
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  no-brainer. I feel like it's a no-brainer.
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  It is super get to hack a lot of people forget about it because
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  like Christmas is a busy time of year people doing everything.
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  They possibly can people like, you know matching up and down
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  the High Street surrounded by the best gift people are going
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  to you know, fly in from all over the world to spend time
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  with their family and it's just crazy hectic.
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  Crazy busy, but also shouldn't be crazy stressful and it
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  shouldn't cause you any more stress than already probably
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  does because that's the nature of Christmas.
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  So I have a hack. I have a simple simple pack if
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  you will one of the ones I think this is like my most favorable
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  on this is like the hack that I think works the best now when
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  this family over in the house or if it's just Christmas in
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  general and you know, there's always family around the
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  Christmas time and a lot of people in and out weaving in and
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  out and oh, yeah grab owing as I do have an Elf on the Shelf at a
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  recent series of the back here. Hey, I'll see.
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  By having lots of people in and out of your house.
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  It becomes a bit distracted and your usual patterns of the
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  things you find safe like the living room the couch that even
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  the backyard the old Things become compromised because of
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  people in the streets people people not only their the
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  routines completely destructed and that destruction can be very
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  daunting especially people on the autism spectrum and can
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  become vulnerable for this type of stress.
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  I'm jingling like Rudolph right now, and I'm sorry if this is
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  annoying to be I do apologize, but I've just committed now so
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  this is what it is. So this is what I Tell you to do
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  if you're in that situation, what you need to do is get a
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  room in your house or an area of that room and create like a you
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  Zone like at your own Zone. We're not allowed to go it stays
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  the same you got snacks. Now, you got drinks.
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  Now, you got maybe a PlayStation the TV or whatever X wherever it
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  is you want in that song. So if everything is getting too
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  stressful out here, you can always Retreat and go into there
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  and then relax and chill and just be you in that space
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  because we all need that relaxation space to get away
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  because some people like coming from another like that busyness
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  and the hustle and bustle of Christmas and all that rubbish
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  that goes on but a lot of people on the Spectrum like to have a
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  bit of quiet down time in a bit kind of more calm if you will
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  and this it my heart was broken when it's going on.
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  I'm going to fix it and I for one shoe we do like that so my
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  office is always like my safe haven.
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  I can always come down to the office and be like, okay nothing
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  crazy in here. It's not overly Christmassy.
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  I've got a few Christmas bit dotted around in the office, but
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  you know, generally the office stays Exactly the same, you
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  know, my stuff is everywhere still as messy as ever.
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  There's still nothing is too old too much too overwhelming, you
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  know, and I quite like that. So this is what I do find a room
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  in your house if you can't afford an entire room do it, but
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  if you can't do an entire room then make a space of another
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  room and claim that as your Zone and if you have any issues like
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  your parents and stuff like you don't want you building a den
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  speaks out about it. I'll show them this video and I
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  say, hey Dan suggested this it's a good one.
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  I think you'll enjoy it. So please check it out.
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  Okay guys, that was my first tip.
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  I'm probably the best tip I have because that's my favorite, too.
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  Okay. The next one here is remembering
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  ear Defenders. How many people forget your
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  demons right? I have two types I have the bows
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  are Defenders. I also have the Apple are
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  Defenders. So these are both really good
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  items. The bosons are probably more
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  expensive. I think these ones like 350
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  pounds or 300 pounds of these ones and their electronic noise
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  cancellation headphones. I can like a Defenders basic
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  noise out there and then these ones are the Apple ones and
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  these are no translation as well.
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  But these are very small and discreet so you put these in
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  here. I would highly recommend
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  checking these ones out. If you want to survive Christmas
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  discreetly and in a way where you feel like Point more in
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  control because I feel like if you've got something that's
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  really bulky on your head you feel out of control because you
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  feel like are people doing looking at you question.
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  Like why is this verse 1 when you've got these in your ears
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  these lovely little tiny ear pods?
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  Yeah. Definitely check them out.
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  I will leave a link for these actions description below and if
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  I mention any items in the ROC leave them below and actually
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  there's a bunch of stuff in the description if you want to know
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  any of the Eric when I use aren't even my top tips and my
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  hats and anyway check out the description as well as the stuff
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  there so ear Defenders pack them because they are going to reward
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  you. I highly recommend checking them
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  out. If you don't have any look at
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  some reviews find out something that you think you can afford
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  and I were the ones that fit you the best and then definitely
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  invest in them. They're so good.
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  You know, when I forgot these I was in and I was in an event I
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  which I'm doing vlogmas like all of the December till, you know
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  vlogging every day until Christmas, but then one of the
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  things that I went to a rally in the University close to me and
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  it was really noisy really busy. And I forgot my ear Defenders
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  and I kind of got overwhelmed and reminded me of the fact that
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  sometimes at Christmas when there's like those people on the
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  table and there's a kitchen in and out and then somebody in the
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  kitchen at home. It gets all crazy and that
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  craziness drives me really overwhelmed.
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  Oh my God, so I highly recommend checking out ear Defenders
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  because these are going to be Lifesaver.
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  Honestly these give me Life Savers ice on to my next tip.
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  Okay. This one's really important.
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  Okay, so people on the Spectrum usually have Have a sensory
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  processing disorder. Also come on Bradley with their
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  condition. I for one have a sensory
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  processing disorder that gives me the heebie-jeebies with
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  through textures and certain foods as well.
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  So I have certain foods. I can't be around like chopped
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  garlic chopped onions or vinegar.
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  So those things are not in the picture for me.
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  I can't have them anywhere near me and a lot of the time
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  Christmas people do more fancy cooking and the turkeys bathing
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  garlic and onion always rub it so I have to make everybody who
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  I live with are you on going to have food with away before it
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  get there of my Two divisions all the things that I don't want
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  to have on my plate other things that I can't be around.
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  So when they are doing those then I can be removed from the
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  situation for an example of this when we went to my girlfriend's
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  parents house for like a summer Gathering or an Easter Gathering
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  a camera. What I think was Easter actually
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  and they would you like a nice term for the kids and they were
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  doing food. So they said hey Dan, we're
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  going to be doing some food very very shortly and we'll be
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  cutting up some onions. So can you step outside the
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  house and I was like, okay, I'll do that and by doing that I
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  actually I was saved. I was safe from the horror
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  torment of gross foods that are going to make me feel really
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  sick and uncomfortable because those things really upset me and
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  it's weird thinking that food upset you but that's how it
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  goes. And that's who we are which is
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  people, you know, we can't we can't just you know, make up who
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  we are. We just are who you are.
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  So I would say speak to everybody that you know that
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  you're going to be eating with and tell him about your food
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  aversions. Maybe they can see you somewhere
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  else going on the end of the table.
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  So you've got like a free access and good clean air coming in
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  rather than being in the middle of those people with Foods.
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  You don't even like the smiles off because that's super
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  Important and of course what's on your plate?
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  You let me go and sell it for like dinner and having your
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  Christmas dinner and then the stuff that you don't even want
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  to eat or you can to eat, you know, it's another thing also,
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  you know, you could be I don't know texture specific as well.
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  So you may not want me to are you may not want like Sprouts or
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  whatever. I don't know whatever it is long
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  before the meal happens that Republicans pauses video right
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  now and write down a list of places you're gonna be eating
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  over Christmas and then write down the contact person next to
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  it. And then when this video is
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  finished go for another person and then sort of all out and
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  then come back and give me a comment.
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  Send down. I saw it on with Christmas
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  dinner plans and all the food in the Regionals festive period
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  awesome. Thank you for that tip and I'll
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  be like dude. You got it.
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  We're bro. Hit me up on Twitter guys better
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  way. I follow everybody back them
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  Twitter so go check me out on Twitter as well.
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  I'd love to be your new friend. Okay, guys, let's do it.
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  Number four. Okay.
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  This is a cool number four is actually planning your day.
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  A lot of people forget to do this, but I've been doing all
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  the sender and planning pretty much all of December out.
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  So I know that in December I'm going to have the ability to go.
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  Okay. I know I'm doing today.
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  There's no kind of like crazy plans are going to jump out of
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  the are people like to do a lot of things in Christmas and
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  especially Christmas day. It can be so busy.
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  I actually have a book. I found a book and it's got a
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  like a like a plan to how to do Christmas and I gotta find Marks
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  and Spencers which is a shop in the United Kingdom and it's
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  about 10 years old now, but the book is fantastic.
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  It runs you through everything you can expect from Christmas.
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  So I kind of plan my Christmas around that like, you know
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  family come over how to make Christmas decorations have to do
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  the table decorations have to do the food to prepare presents how
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  to prepare the for all the food in the fridge and all that kind
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  of jazz. I love it.
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  The book is fantastic. I'm trying to link it below if
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  it still is available, but planning your day helps
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  tremendously because it's not just planning a day at your
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  planning the fact that you know, what's going to happen and that
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  is going to be hopefully risk-free.
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  Obviously, there may be things that will come up but you know,
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  you can't always account for things.
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  I just randomly happening but most of the time, you know, you
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  can you can plan ahead and you can You plan as best as possible
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  and that is going to make you feel one as comfortable as
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  possible and to as secure as possible because we all have be
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  safe secure comfortable and achieving everything that we
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  really want to do and I love that.
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  So remember guys make a plan right now plan your day what you
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  expect interview family members find out what they plan to do.
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  So you don't have any kind of surprises that I can throw you
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  off so you can just enjoy your day because everyone's to enjoy
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  Christmas Day everyone's to have a good time and there's nothing
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  wrong with that. It's awesome.
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  I love this one. It's that's all.
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  not much but I just I just like wearing it.
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  Okay guys so my fifth and final tip, but best if you it's going
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  to be don't take on too much A lot of people want to do loads
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  of things of Christmas and they want to do the recipe for family
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  members, you know, four different houses on Christmas
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  day. They want to also go up to
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  midnight mass on Christmas Eve. We also want to go out on
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  Christmas Eve and have meals and see the friends and go to a
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  party and all the stuff in a box today is another party and then
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  has another buffet and then the day after you got the thing then
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  you got news coming up you got okay just take it a minute to
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  slow down take ourselves back and think about all of this
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  right now. And think okay.
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  There's too much there is a there is a point where it
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  becomes too much and you shouldn't take on too much know
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  your limits. If you know your limit you're
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  not going to be that person who has an amount down because you
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  didn't prepare. Okay put this into your plan
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  using the one I just said no number for planning your day put
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  this into the entire we can plan your week.
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  Make sure you don't take on too much or somebody asks you hey,
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  John come to pass if you're on your own for dinner two hours
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  before the party and you make them like run late don't risk it
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  and say, okay. I'm going to the party you're
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  going to stretch yourself out with not going to go to plan.
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  Man, it's not going to happen. Everybody is more stressed at
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  Christmas time. Everybody's hustle.
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  And bustle is like thousand miles an hour.
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  You don't want to rock the apple cart and you don't want to
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  destroy your day, you know at the end of the day you will have
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  a nice festive period you want to be able to enjoy what you're
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  doing. There's nothing wrong with that.
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  I for one love the Christmas period for just trying to find
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  time to relax like all my videos are going to be uploaded the
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  scheduled this week so that nobody you know, it has to worry
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  about me having to work over the Christmas period because all my
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  videos are dead, but it depends you know who you are and I know
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  how much I can take. How much I can't do so remember
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  always work within your limits don't do too much and try and
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  relax with it. And that's one of my main
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  things. I'm trying to do over the
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  Christmas period And I highly advise you to do is also
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  remember guys Dan says don't take on too much and how do you
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  know when it's too much it? When you question it is only
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  such can you do this and you go hmm that that there no, you
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  can't do it you got oh, no. Actually I can't but if you can
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  do this you go. Yeah, I think I'm kind of free
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  so yeah. Okay cool.
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  That's how you judge if it's too much or just right.
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  So guys with that being said this has been Best five tips for
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  Christmas there a squared is guy to successful Christmas from
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  down the ask me world here, and I wish you guys a very merry
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  Christmas and happy holidays. And without further Ado have fun
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  and I'll see you next time guys, please.
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  Alright guys. Thanks.