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202. Dancing with Discomfort · Your Enriched Self

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Speaker 1: Hey, everybody is check in account and check in accountability time.
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Speaker 1: five and I know last week we started to talk about,
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Speaker 1: you know, reflecting and looking at those goals that you
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Speaker 1: to continue to expound upon that just a little bit
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Speaker 1: this week. And the reason why is because I want
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Speaker 1: to challenge you. I want this week's episode to be
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Speaker 1: a challenge that it would be something you would leave
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Speaker 1: this episode and go execute on almost immediately, because again,
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Speaker 1: a lot of what this podcast is about is not
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Speaker 1: just to inspire you, but it's also to give you
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Speaker 1: the tools and the confidence that you need to take
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Speaker 1: steps forward. And that's really how we get from point
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Speaker 1: A to point B or whatever your destination is is
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Speaker 1: you got to take steps. And I know sometimes again
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Speaker 1: thinking about where you are right now and those micro
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Speaker 1: steps that you might not have taken because you were
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Speaker 1: looking at taking those big leaps. And it's important to
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Speaker 1: take those micro steps because they help you gain the
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Speaker 1: momentum you need. But I know that's all said and
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Speaker 1: done and that all sounds great, The reality is a
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Speaker 1: lot of people are fearful, A lot of you are
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Speaker 1: fearful about what that next step is going to take
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Speaker 1: and what it's going to require. And even though it
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Speaker 1: sounds like it's just that micro step, which is what
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Speaker 1: we talked about last week, it requires you to get
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Speaker 1: into the game mentally. It requires you to take that
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Speaker 1: first mental step. It requires you to face the fear
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Speaker 1: to lunge into it right what I'd like to call,
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Speaker 1: you know, going into the place of discomfort or this week,
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Speaker 1: dancing with discomfort. And I was inspired. I mentioned on
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Speaker 1: this podcast a multitude of times that last year I
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Speaker 1: joined a gym and it really changed my life. It
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Speaker 1: changed my morning routine, It changed how I show up
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Speaker 1: for myself. It changed the conversations that I have with friends,
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Speaker 1: It changed even people in my household who are inspired
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Speaker 1: to get on their own fitness journey. And so what
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Speaker 1: started off as what I like to do typically as
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Speaker 1: a fitness person is do a challenge. I like to
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Speaker 1: you know, climb the highest peak or do you know
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Speaker 1: whatever the current challenge was a few years ago, it
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Speaker 1: was the push up challenge for I think it was Soldiers,
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Speaker 1: and then there was an als challenge. There's always a challenge,
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Speaker 1: and I'm always there for a challenge. And so when
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Speaker 1: I joined this gym. It was for a boot camp,
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Speaker 1: so it was a challenge. It was a six week
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Speaker 1: boot camp. You know, can you will you for six
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Speaker 1: week position yourself in such a way that you will
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Speaker 1: show up every day. And so when I did the
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Speaker 1: first boot camp, man, I was fully there, mind, body
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Speaker 1: and spirit, and I was so much there. I had
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Speaker 1: perfect attendance for six weeks, right, And I continued, and
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Speaker 1: you know, six boot camps into twenty twenty three or
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Speaker 1: twenty twenty four. I decided to come back and do
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Speaker 1: it in twenty twenty five. And so we are, I think,
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Speaker 1: in boot camp number four. And it always amazes me,
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Speaker 1: it always, and I think it will amaze you what
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Speaker 1: you are capable of doing when you decide to dance
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Speaker 1: with this comfort. So many of us shy away from
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Speaker 1: that dance. We shy away from the things, and even me,
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Speaker 1: myself and I who loves a challenge, it's so hard
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Speaker 1: to get out of our own way. And so last
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Speaker 1: week when I told you to take those micro steps,
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Speaker 1: I know it sounded like, oh, that's such a small task,
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Speaker 1: a small thing to do, but in reality, it's such
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Speaker 1: a big mental gymnastics to get past the fact that
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Speaker 1: where do I even start? What do I even do?
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Speaker 1: Am I going to be enough when I get there?
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Speaker 1: There's all these questions and all these challenges that come
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Speaker 1: up in your mind, and then what happens is it
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Speaker 1: puts you in a place of procrastination or not getting
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Speaker 1: it done, and then you're back to where you are
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Speaker 1: one hundred and eighty three days down the road, which
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Speaker 1: is the end of the year, and you're standing in
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Speaker 1: regret and you're stifling in your lack of performance. And
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Speaker 1: so it's time to dance with this comfort. And so
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Speaker 1: when I went to my boot camp this week, the
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Speaker 1: thing that happened was my trainer, the gym owner. She
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Speaker 1: had been doing a workout, and the workout requires it's
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Speaker 1: going to sound crazy, but it requires the person. So
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Speaker 1: in this case, she started planking and she had one
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Speaker 1: of the other trainers at the gym place on her
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Speaker 1: a forty five pound plate. So if you work out,
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Speaker 1: you know, those plays are what you put on for
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Speaker 1: the barbells, right, And then she had that person put
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Speaker 1: on a second forty five pound plate, and so now
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Speaker 1: she has ninety pounds on her back. And then she
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Speaker 1: challenged the room of However, many of us are in
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Speaker 1: this five a m boot camp to do the same.
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Speaker 1: And so I partnered up with one of the guys,
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Speaker 1: and you know, I put the first plate on his
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Speaker 1: back forty five pounds, and then I, you know, get
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Speaker 1: him ready for putting on the second plate on his back,
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Speaker 1: and he, you know, does it. So when it was
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Speaker 1: my turn, I said, you know what, I'm not her,
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Speaker 1: meaning my trainer, So just put one plate on my back.
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Speaker 1: When I did the one plate, it felt like I
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Speaker 1: could handle another. And so the next forty five pound
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Speaker 1: plate was placed on my back, and the trainer happened
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Speaker 1: to be right there at the time, and she said,
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Speaker 1: you know, I'm so glad you got out of your
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Speaker 1: own way. You said that you're not me, but look
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Speaker 1: at what you're capable of doing. And I think so
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Speaker 1: many of us are me in that scenario. We ride
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Speaker 1: ourselves off of what we are capable of doing. We
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Speaker 1: ride ourselves out of the story of our own life
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Speaker 1: because we refuse to take a look at ourselves, We
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Speaker 1: refuse to put ourselves in that discomfort. Because yes, it
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Speaker 1: was uncomfortable for a while, But what I gained from that,
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Speaker 1: you know, I don't know. Ten fifteen I don't know
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Speaker 1: how I kept it on. I kept it on for
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Speaker 1: a little bit. They said, man, you're making it look easy.
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Speaker 1: So I went from not wanting to do it, not
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Speaker 1: wanting to challenge myself to do what I ended up doing,
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Speaker 1: to doing it in such a way that it looked
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Speaker 1: easy to someone else. Imagine what would happen if you
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Speaker 1: decided to take that step, the step that you think
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Speaker 1: is so hard, the step that you think you cannot do,
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Speaker 1: that you don't have what it takes to sustain and
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Speaker 1: maintain it. And you do it, and you inspire someone else,
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Speaker 1: You allow someone else to see you do it, and
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Speaker 1: before you know it, everybody started doing it. And it
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Speaker 1: wasn't because of me. It was because in the room
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Speaker 1: she allowed for us to be uncomfortable. She gave us
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Speaker 1: permission to go forward with this activity and dance with
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Speaker 1: the discomfort. So what you're going to be uncomfortable, Okay,
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Speaker 1: If it's ten seconds of discomfort, and you take the
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Speaker 1: first play, the second plate off, you know that you
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Speaker 1: can do it, and now you can practice. Now you
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Speaker 1: can get into a season of mentally, you don't have
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Speaker 1: to do those gymnastics. The next time the challenge comes
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Speaker 1: your way. The next time the obstacle is in front
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Speaker 1: of you, the next time you have to climb the wall,
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Speaker 1: you're gonna say, well, I know how to scale the wall.
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Speaker 1: I scaled the wall the last time this happened. But
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Speaker 1: if you never scale the wall because it's too tall,
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Speaker 1: because it's too wide, because the texture of it, won't
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Speaker 1: you know, help me stay up? I don't have on
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Speaker 1: the right shoes. I mean, we can find and make
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Speaker 1: an argument for not doing anything, and you will win
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Speaker 1: that argument. You can. And some of you fight for
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Speaker 1: your limitations. And I was close to fighting for my
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Speaker 1: limitations because I had already proclaimed that is not me,
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Speaker 1: that is her, that is what she does. I don't
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Speaker 1: do that. And had I allowed myself to stay in
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Speaker 1: that space, had my trainer allowed me to own that
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Speaker 1: self talk, or at this point it wasn't self talk,
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Speaker 1: I would have limited myself to what I thought I
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Speaker 1: could do, and not what I can do or what
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Speaker 1: I could do, or what the potential I have in me.
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Speaker 1: And a lot of you are stifling your potential because
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Speaker 1: you're not willing to take a step. You're not willing
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Speaker 1: to dance with this comfort. That's really what I want
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Speaker 1: you to do this go round in these next one
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Speaker 1: hundred and sixty eight hours before we come back to
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Speaker 1: this podcast platform. I want you to find something that
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Speaker 1: you have been sitting down and not going to the
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Speaker 1: dance with, something that you have put off because it
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Speaker 1: just seems too hard, it seems too new, It seems
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Speaker 1: like a bigger challenge than you are really capable of
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Speaker 1: participating in. It seems like a bigger than life challenge
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Speaker 1: when an actuality is probably not as big as you've
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Speaker 1: made it in your mind. And that's what we do.
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Speaker 1: We create these worlds in our mind. We create these
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Speaker 1: stories in our mind even before we can go execute.
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Speaker 1: I want you to erase the story. I want you
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Speaker 1: to be vulnerable, I want you to be open, and
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Speaker 1: I want you to pick one activity. I'm not asking
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Speaker 1: you to go do ten things in the next week.
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Speaker 1: I'm asking you to do one thing, one thing that
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Speaker 1: you've put off, one thing you dare not do because
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Speaker 1: you don't feel you're ready, you don't feel equipped, and
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Speaker 1: all of the don'ts. And I want you to do it.
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Speaker 1: Do it with a partner. If you need an accountability partner,
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Speaker 1: you got me. I'm sure there's somebody in your life,
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Speaker 1: that wants to see you win, that wants to see
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Speaker 1: you thrive, that wants to see you feel good about yourself,
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Speaker 1: which is what this made me feel. It made me
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Speaker 1: feel good about myself, and I want you to have
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Speaker 1: that feeling. But in order to have the feel good
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Speaker 1: feeling on the end, you gotta go through that discomfort.
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Speaker 1: You must be willing to dance with discomfort. And I
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Speaker 1: know that's not language we're used to hearing. And that's
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Speaker 1: why I love having these conversations because I want to
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Speaker 1: buck the trends. I want to challenge the norms, and
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Speaker 1: I want you to go against the grain. When you
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Speaker 1: go against the grain, you're gonna look foolish because you're
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Speaker 1: gonna be the only one doing it. You're gonna be
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Speaker 1: going in the quote unquote wrong direction because everybody's going
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Speaker 1: up the hill or down the hill, and you're deciding
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Speaker 1: I want to climb up the hill. Because that's where
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Speaker 1: my challenge is. You are going to look like you're
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Speaker 1: being extra and there's gonna there be a multitude of
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Speaker 1: names that people are going to come up about you
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Speaker 1: for you, but the reality is you need to make
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Speaker 1: the decision for yourself. I've said it before and I
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Speaker 1: will say it again. The common denominator between where you
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Speaker 1: are and where you want to be is you. Yes,
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Speaker 1: there might be somebody to blame for some part of
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Speaker 1: your life that has done you wrong, that has not
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Speaker 1: been on your side. There's so many different ways we
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Speaker 1: can go with that. People weren't there for you. People
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Speaker 1: ghosted you, they abandoned you, they left you for dead.
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Speaker 1: You are the common denominator. Forget them. This is your life.
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Speaker 1: You are in the driver's seat. This is not driver's
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Speaker 1: head where someone else is in the driver seat and
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Speaker 1: you're getting that secondary opportunity. You are the primary driver
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Speaker 1: I want you to go into this week and take
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Speaker 1: the challenge head on. Now. I want you to be safe,
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Speaker 1: right if you're gonna put ninety pounds plates on your back,
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Speaker 1: But in all seriousness, I want you to be vulnerable
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Speaker 1: and open and willing to do the thing that you
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Speaker 1: haven't been willing to do for whatever reason. I just
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Speaker 1: want you to be willing to dance with your discomfort
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Speaker 1: so you can realize your potential on the other side.
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